My grandma took showers but she was terrified of drowning due to a childhood accident. She couldn’t have the water even touch her face. Talk to your guy and find out if he’s depressed or had a trauma of some sort that caused a phobia of water.
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Get in the bath or shower with him
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I know my baby daddy was abused and in foster care and was never taught. It took 9 years but he’s gotten so much better, please, keep up with him, be honest and help him. He’s even petrified of swimming. 
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Sweetie I you are having sex with him, that could open you up to a world of infections. You need to explain to him that any bacteria that he has on his body is being transferred to you, and that it is putting your life in danger. Serious infection in your vagina could KILL you! Please talk with him and make sure he understands that you are looking out for both of you, not just yourself.
Showers are played out.
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Smile and say “You need to wash your a$$”
For someone to pretend to have a shower but not, suggests there may be a mental ‘block’ possibly a childhood issue? If it’s a regressive childhood act of belligerence…is beyond your scope to deal with. There’s no nice way to tell someone their personal hygiene is a turn off. I’ve always been ‘bull in a China shop’ which hasn’t always had positive results lol but the longer you leave it to bother you and fester, the bigger and issue its going to become. Tell him, straight up 
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I would say
I’m not going anywhere with you until you shower and change clothes
I wouldn’t want him touching me !!
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Straight up tell him he needs to shower. He’s an adult he can handle being told the truth. Tell him you can’t stay if he doesn’t clean himself or shower regularly.
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Get in the shower with him !!!
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There’s no future with someone who acts like a child. I dated a guy who never brushed his teeth and it was disgusting. He’s someone else’s problem now.
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Girl tell him he’s smelling and he needs to be showering more. If he isn’t showering much and y’all have sex you can be getting infections which u don’t want
I would say Bye Bye stinky
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Get I’m there with him & wash him
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That’s a no go for me, peace out 
you’re an adult. Shower, hygiene hygiene hygiene
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Tell him the truth that’s so gross 
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Wow some of the comments saying you’re nasty if you stay are heartbreaking. Mine also struggles with good hygiene, and it’s a struggle. It’s been really difficult, hes always stinky. But I encourage deodorant and showers and teeth brushing and no I havent left him because hes stinky. But i will refuse to have sex with him because I’m prone to infections as is, and when he is unclean I’m basically guaranteed to get an infection. Also wont kiss him if he hasn’t brushed his teeth. I try to be nice about it, while also making him aware that his personal hygiene effects me and my health. He also has severe depression. Maybe try bathing or showering together.
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Unless you like goat cheese tell that mofo to practice good hygiene
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Offer to shower with him 
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idk how u lasted 6 months. i wouldn’t have stuck around 6 days. That’s lazy and nasty! Just imagine what the rest of your life would be like w him. HARD PASS.
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Hope you’re not intimate with him 
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If you’re being intimate and he’s not washing his boy bits
If he’s not showering due to mental health issues, then he should not be dating. Not being cruel, just thinking of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
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I personally, wouldn’t be able to be with someone who stinks.
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And don’t expect to change him either, it won’t work in the long run.
That’s a chronic UTI situation waiting to happen 
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I personally have severe depression and childhood trauma so it makes it very hard for me to shower, regardless i still do but its a process that i have to mentally prepare for and sometimes i cant muster up the energy to deal with the negative effects that a shower brings me…just another perspective
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Uhhhh…and you still call him boyfriend?? Ick
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I wouldn’t have lasted more than a day or two. Ugh.
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Jumping the shower with him lather him up… also his body could be changing which can cause imbalances
His old habits may change at 1st but if he despises a clean body he’ll convert back.
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you need to flat out tell him he is offending others with his odor, you know he doesn’t shower, and makes you sick to your stomach to be around the smell. I would personally 
far far away, but he still needs to know.
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Is his house clean? Either he’s just that lazy and doesn’t care or he’s got some mental health issues. Try and get him to open up to you. Start by telling him you really care for him and love being with him, but you’re worried for his well being. He may also just be exhausted. Sounds like he works a lot of hours and also has children. I’m a bartender as well and it can be a physically and mentally demanding job that comes with long hours and no breaks. Ask if you can help him out, take some stuff of his plate. I’m not saying do everything for him but maybe do some laundry for him or something. Offer to pick up some toiletries. Ask what kind of soap he prefers (a lot of guys hate axe from my experience and if he has sensitive skin it’ll dry it out at the very least). It’s also concerning that he doesn’t have good hygiene and I’m assuming you guys are intimate. This could lead to ph issues and even infections for you. I’d even use that as a point when you talk to him! I do believe people can change if you approach the issue in the right manner
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2 litres of water and add something that’s sticky and add a little bit of lemon juice.
Two jobs so he’s not lazy, does he have any ambitions for a career or education. He probably wouldn’t go for the spa treatment but maybe drop him off at a full service truck stop with a bar of soap. If that doesn’t work offer to shower with him.
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The question is do you want to date this man child or do want someone that actually takes care of themselves? We shouldn’t be telling people to wash their damn body.
Just ask him to take a shower with you…make him think it’s sexual 
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A man won’t change because you want him to. He’ll change because HE wants to.
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There is probably more going on…definitely some mental health issues such as depression or anxiety…I would watch careful for other signs…they r there…u might be ignoring them subconsciously because it is a new relationship…does he have friends? Does he hang around with them? What about family? Changing into his son’s pants that r too small also raises a flag for me…u might want to rethink this relationship…just saying…wish u best of luck…but stay safe…
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My husband is the same way. The only way he showers is if I shower with him. He will bathe occasionally on his own, but sitting in dirty water isn’t really getting a person clean. A friend of his told me once he was scared of showers but wasn’t sure why. There could definitely be some kind of trauma or mental health issue linked to it. It’s more common than people think. The best thing to do is sit down and talk to him about it. Let him know the lack of hygiene is a major concern. See if there’s some kind of compromise that can be reached, or maybe he’s willing to go to therapy. If it’s not something you can deal with, it’s okay to walk away from it. It can be a touchy subject for a lot of people, and there’s definitely guarantee that he’ll start showering more.
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How does one see a future with someone who doesn’t care to have decent hygiene
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With gloves and a clothespin on your nose 
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Ain’t going to change the stripes of the leopard. Time to get real
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If he can hold down two jobs, he can get in the damn shower 
you’re gonna have to have a talk with him but pick your moment… You should know him well enough to know when he might possibly be receptive to it, but be prepared for him getting defensive! Sounds like he needs to start making time for his hygiene and get into a proper routine with it, which he may have lost due to previous mental health issues etc. There’s probably a good reason… Maybe he doesn’t realise how often he should be washing too. Best way is to try and be tactful about it and talk to him 
good luck! Maybe start with positive statements like how much you want to be with him and lead on from there…
Eeuww girl your about to get an infection so your having sex and he doesn’t shower wtf 
im super grossed out right now. I just hope u don’t give him oral:face_vomiting:…that would be a goodbye for me. Just tell him to fucken shower in a serious way or your leaving his musty ass
Take him swimming everyday
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You can always take a shower with him. Men are usually compliant when presented with the right reward. Lol! If he doesn’t do it on his own after that, or if you tell him you aren’t gonna lie in bed or do anything else with his musty ass, dump him.
Ok how are you intimate with him like that tho?
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You see a future with a man who doesn’t bathe? This is no longer about HIM.
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It sounds to me like he’s very depressed at the least and that there’s something else going on. Hang on and try to talk to him about the underlying situation. Good luck.
I had the same issue, I bought mine a body spray and soap set I told him that I love the smell of it and went in and on about how it sexy the smell is and maybe try showering with him
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Gross, leave the guy.
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Does he brush his teeth??
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Eew! Get out quickly!
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Im speechless, just mive on.
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Idk I couldn’t deal with that, it would just gross me out. How do you not want to smell good and be clean? Constantly having a musty smell like mildew as you said would make me want to vomit. I’d be straight up and tell him to shower or you’re done. I’m sorry btw if I offended you at all btw. 
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You need therapy. Why would you see a future with someone who pretends to shower??
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Ask him to take a shower with you its ask him if he wants you to wash his back or whatever make it like you want sexy tume in the shower or something…best of luck if that dont work …bye bye stinky…
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Then let me ask you a question why are you dating him?
Doesn’t sound like a suitable boyfriend for you…
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Bad hygiene!!! Oh no get out now !!!
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Oh man…that’s a deal breaker😩
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Ok… So sit him down and have a discussion with him. Just be upfront and honest. Tell him in no way are you trying to embarrass him. But he’s a grown ass man. Basic personal hygiene is a MUST.
Also depression or mental health issues could be a factor. But either way a serious conversation needs to happen
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Yuk I’d already have left.He’s disgusting not sure how you sleep in the same bed 
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Good luck or get in w/him
Be. Truthful tell. Him
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Idk how to deal with it, because most people will tell u to let them know. But when you do let them know they need a shower then your the bad guy. So idk
Either he has emotional issues like depression or it’s not something he views as necessary . You either need to sit him down and ask him what the problem is or walk away . Personal hygiene is very important both to health and self - esteem . Sounds like he’s not concerned about either and that’s not good .
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Wtf. Maybe you should take a shower with him,this way you can wash him.
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Well if you like this person…honest is the best policy…and the truth…
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Offer to shower with him
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Me personally I don’t have time for that. Like them now sure, wait till you’re married and this behavior gets worse or continues. I’d be honest with him and if he changes cool, if not run far far away cause youll end up caring for him like he’s a child.
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How did you fall for the smelly guy in the first place? 
I’m sorry but if he doesn’t take care of himself at the beginning of the relationship (6 months is still early) imagine later 
I wouldn’t try to change habits of a grownup. I would just run, but that’s me. I’m sorry I’m not being helpful 
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Tell him you like shower s3x and scrub him down sisssss 
duces up see ya later
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Maybe offer to take a shower with him/sexy time
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Girl take a shower with him…EVERYDAY
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I would definitely talk to him about it. Open his eyes to it. If it doesn’t change I would leave.
Tell him to grow up and take a fucking shower
I’d have to lose him fast
He has mental issues. Run!
“Accidentally” spill something stinky or sticky on him. He’ll either start catching on or you’ll become extremely clumsy😂Or just say take a shower you fucking stink
I don’t understand everyone saying just leave him! If you love him It’s a great opportunity to have fun and get clean together. But also…having a conversation (albeit slightly uncomfortable) about why proper hygiene is so important for your overall health.
Truth is … He probably Wasn’t taught or shown any different growing up. And while this isn’t an excuse since he is grown now, it likely became his way of life.
Life is about growing and in a relationship it’s all about growing together. Not just throwing your man to the curb for something that isn’t healthy or that you don’t like.
Also…the issue could possibly be depression related? Maybe an anxiety of getting clean?? These are REAL and honest issues that can be resolved and overcome with therapy. No one is perfect and EVERYONE can benefit from therapy! 
I hope this advice helps mama.
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Don’t shower for like 3 weeks and have him smell that queef muffin! That’ll change his mind. Worked on my late ex husband
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You’re supposed to be his girlfriend, not his mother.
Throw the whole man away and start over
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He will not change, do not take on that project, you will not succeed.
Shower with him. Make it Romantic? Idk I’d never be with someone who’s smelly.
Perhaps try showering together so he doesn’t feel attacked.
I doubt he is going to change. Personally I wouldn’t be able to be with someone who doesn’t or 
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Yuck I say goodbye to him
Hes not ever going to change. I’ve known several men and women like this. Girl sorry to say but you need to move on
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Nope. Hes a pig. He’s comfortable being dirty. Some people just are.
Be up front with Him. If He care for You ,He will change .If He dont get to Steping This is one of a Red Flag.
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Sound like he may not be washing his hair all the way through.
I had to teach a grown man how to was his hair before because he was basically running shampoo over it really quickly and rinsing; and it just doesn’t get everything if you don’t massage the scalp throughly, ya know?
And rewearing and reusing clothes and wash clothes that haven’t been washed can also contribute to that.
Be honest with him that what he’s doing is leaving a musty smell.
Run away as fast as you can. You can’t change a man to fit your ideas. He is who he is. Take him as he is or leave him.
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Turn the water hose on him !!
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Straight up tell him he stinks. Tyler Neal right? Lol
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Be honest with him. Rule of thumb is; how they are today is how they are going to be in 5 years. If you see a future with him then you need to really think long and hard about his current habits because chances are, they aren’t going to change.
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No disrespect but do you realize how this makes you look bad. Knowing this and still calling him your boyfriend.