Some people Just don’t Get it.
Leave him. He’s a gamer
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get into the shower and invite him in…would work for most guys
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Oh honey…if you can’t straight up talk to him about his hygiene, that’s a problem. Forgot the future. When you gave him the axe body wash, if it is this big of a concern, forgot the “hints”……you just need to be direct and honest. There is a nice way to approach it. But that really would have been a good moment to talk to him about his hygiene. But you just need to be direct at this point. However, if you’re already questioning something simple as his hygiene and you can’t just talk to him about it, this just isn’t where you need to be right now, especially if there are kids involved. He’s got 2 jobs, so he’s obviously struggling. He may be depressed. Just talk to him but if he doesn’t want help, then again…this isn’t where you need to be. It’s not your job to save him. He is a grown man.
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Tell him let’s take a shower together js
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He needs a momma.not a gf
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Run he won’t change. He doesn’t think he smells. Believe me my ex husband was just like that.
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Oh no the boy got issues
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Soo I’d be worried about him not washing down there and then doing things to me with it… Ehh at that point its your hygiene too. (Sorry that was the nicest way I could think of to say this)
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Yea I’d go buy him some clothes $ cologne & soap women are known to have more sensitivity to smells
Lol some of these are wild. Like hard to believe lmao
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This is not up for negotiating!! You should just be straight up with him! just to tell him to get the f*** in the shower because he smells! If he respects you he will totally understand this and just do it! I mean I’m sure if the shoe was on the other foot I would think that he would tell you! 
Just be honest with him and upfront hope it works out for you! 
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Maybe he doesn’t know anything about personal hygiene & was never taught by his parents how to wash his body & hair ect. Or maybe he is that lazy he can’t be bothered showering. Disgusting either way. I wouldn’t let him near me in the bedroom. You need to be straight up with him & tell him he needs to upkeep his hygiene. Offer to show him how. Shower together maybe & make it fun rather than a chore.
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It sounds like he may be depressed.
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If
He can’t take
Bath run girl fast as you
Can
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Is this legit??? 
“tiny football pants” 
I’m confused lol
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Get rid of the loser!
I’m sorry but I could not be with someone who doesn’t care about personal hygiene.
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Tell him he better drag a rag through it or you better get use to it there is no in between. Or maybe be like the lady that gave Clint Eastwood a bath and do it for him 
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My girlfriend that passed away a couple years ago always iron my shirt and said even if it is a t-shirt you still represent me in public
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Lmfaooooooooooooooooooooooo What
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That must be one salty pickle 
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Uhhh, no! No, no, no. Can’t stand stinky! Ugh
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Time to say goodbye. 
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Sounds like he might have been that way all of his life. He’s not going ever to change that but if you care about him that much then maybe you’ll just have to start showering together. Maybe then he’ll be more interested in rubbing soap on his body 
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Nasty!! You run girl! This is just nasty!
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This made me queasy and uneasy
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Tell him that if he wants any then he will start cleaning himself. 
Cross those legs till he cleans up and i hope u dont do any daniel blow your horn yuk
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How does he have a gf in the first place 
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This man’s going to give you a yeast infection. No thanks.
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He could be suffering from depression, a lack of personal hygiene is a massive flag. Working two jobs, having kid(s) would not be easy. Sit down and have a serious conversation with him. Good luck
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Talk to him first. Run his shower or a bath. Tell him this is what he has to do to be with you or anyone.
I would’ve told him he stinks ages ago !
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Just tell him the truth. This isn’t rocket science. You smell, take a shower.
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Please get checked for an sti and leave him lol
Just… eeewwww… I seriously hope you haven’t been in bed with him, that is just disgusting 
I mean shower with him. Otherwise boy bye.
Sometimes brutal honesty is the only answer
Buy some cologne, pamper him lol… Just lift his spirits mmm and do his washing haha idk goodluck.
Be sexy and romantic a d ask to take a shower together and tell him you will wash his back🤷♀️
If all that is an issue which wld be 4 me idk why you are really thinking about it. I mean i know we are in desperate times but you got 2 set some standards…
Ok if he is doing this now, this is only going to get worse. As the years go by, you will start to become his mother telling him to take a bath. Not only that , but your attraction to him will dwindle and that’s a recipe for disaster. He needs to fix this NOW or you need to 
for the hills!!
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Bad hygiene could mean he’s depressed… try talking to him about it and seeing if he’s okay. Maybe he’s going through something. And only wanted you to think he was showering to make you happy but he knows a shower won’t make him happy. Idk just a thought
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Oh man… If the guy doesn’t even have basic hygiene. He is a lost cause. Don’t settle for a man that can’t even take care of his own self/appearance. That just shows how he will take care of you. Half assed. Don’t fall for it. He sounds nasty.
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Ew. No thanks. Be absolutely transparent and tell him how you feel. He should be embarrassed. He’s a grown ass man.
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He maybe is suffering from severe depression. I would talk to him about it and be open and honest
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Let’s just be kind and say the man (note MAN, not boy) has issues. And you are not his mama. GTHO and fast or you’ll be wiping his butt next
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My son got to where he wasn’t bathing and didn’t want to go to Emerald Pointe like he did. Turned out he had sensory issues. Hes in OT and its really helped. He will be 16 soon and use to love the water. Maybe talk to him…
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Wow! All these negative comments and judgements! Alot of victims of sexual abuse refuse to shower and wear clean clothes as a kind of protection. They dont want to look desirable. Obviously I have no way of knowing if this is the issue. But someone with hygiene issues is almost always experiencing some sort of mental issue.
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Show him this post,ask him to read it all the way through,then tell him you wrote it. If you have a real conversation after ,work it out,if not let him go.
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If he doesn’t take care of his needs, there’s no way this man is going to take care of you in the long run. This man is going to give you infections after infections. Ewww just run girl.
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Open conversation/therapy. It feels like there’s a deeper problem here than just laziness.
It kinda sounds like he maybe scared of the water. Did anything happen to him when he was growing up? I know guys who are scared of water. Maybe see about getting him in the tub. There is other things to do or use to get him to smell better. Just have to go to the store and find other solutions. it may work.
I can’t see this getting any better. He is a grown man, if it isn’t important to him now, it never will be.
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Think hard about if you want to deal with that after many years. He is who he is. If he hasn’t learned it by now. I doubt he will.
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Maybe get in the shower with him? Does he have other clothes?
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I had this exact same situation. I was also getting UTI’s all the time. I didn’t realize he wasn’t showering until we went on vacation and the soap and shampoo in the bathroom he was using to shower was never used. He literally was turning the water on, so I think he showered. I fell for him, stayed with him, thought I could make him change. That was 20 years ago. We haven’t been together for 15 years and guess what…he still does not shower. It’s not going to get better… he covered up his smell by cologne and body spray but there was always a lingering smell I couldn’t identify.
Ask him to take a shower with you. Then you can scrub him up yourself and make sure he is clean.
If a grown man doesn’t know how to properly care for himself than there will be other red flags as well. If he doesn’t think he needs to take better care of himself he won’t. He’s an adult and pretty much stuck in his ways now. Honestly, it’s only 6 months, I would say to cut your loses before things get serious as he won’t change his habits.
Don’t hint, people aren’t good at hints. Be direct. And if he’s not willing to make an effort or understand it’s gross, then time to rethink! It’s a big issue!
That is just plain and simple nasty. If he isn’t taking your hints he won’t change. I hope you aren’t sleeping on his sheets. Who knows whats living on them, honestly.
He’s trying to low key get rid of you girl, all seriousness. Pretending to shower, acting offended. He’s done and you should be too.
All jokes aside…maybe a little motivation in the form of showering together?
Could be his towels, wash cloth, clothing. Bets he’s not into doing laundry all too often.
Literally just tell him “dude, you need to shower. Is there a reason why you dont like to? Is it anxiety?”
I can’t believe this is a thing. I’d peace out, not just because he’s a dirt-ball, but because he’s shady and pretending to do something he isn’t-which essentially is him lying to you. Going to cause a lot of problems later.
Kinda immature but people have issues I guess. Ask him to take a shower with you 
I’m pretty sure you are talking about my ex husband
Hell never change
Try suggesting you shower or bathe together, you wash me, Ill wash you, then scrub the shit out of him, if he refuses let him go eeekk
Make a rule…no sex unless he showers @ shampoos.
Are u serious this has to be a joke
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Hmmmm tough one, but you got to get to the bottom of it
Sure he doesn’t drive a cab lol
Do him like I used to do my son when he wouldn’t shower…walk past him and smear a handful of shampoo in his hair…no choice but to wash it out lol
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All red flags 
I would move on
When we were in the army and we had non washer… was easy to cure. We held him down, sunlight powder, cold water from the tap and a hard bristle floor broom… once decent scrub and wash, with the threat it will happen again if he didn’t keep proper hygiene. I can promise you that in the two years basic and military camps afterwards, those individuals had excellent hygiene standards.
If he sat on toilet and ran the water pretending then is when you should have opened the bathroom door and questioned him as to why…“what is your problem with being clean” and then you should have decided to walk out…do you really need the advice of all these comments to realize you need to speak your mind or/and move on to cleaner pastures!!!
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No shower no me. Not sleeping much less having play time with someone who isn’t clean.
My husband can’t smell so sometimes he doesn’t know he smells but my husband is also a very hairy man and sweats a lot he has a funk my almost 2 year old is the same way he gets his funk from daddy but I just straight tell my man dude you stink go get in the shower I will get you clean clothes. I do the same to our son I say man son you got a stinky butt and he will say bubbles and head to the bath as fast as he can.
Maybe he can’t smell himself, does he have mental illness like depression or anxiety he may not shower because of these things maybe sit and talk to him and if he has a musty smell it could also be the soap he uses stop using stuff like aux that can actually cause you to smell buy him some bar soap that’s has essential oils.
I for one can’t stand smelly men my boys all know that my son is getting ready to have a brother and will tell me bubba stinks just so he can get a bath.
Gross. Walk away now. Can you imagine how you’d feel giving a stinky smelly unkept man a baby to hold. You’d want to wash the baby after he’s touched or it not let him at all. Your doing all the right things by hinting , gift giving the right product but putting on the shower and pretending too is a whole other level of deception. If he can do that regarding showering he can do that for anything. His clothes will stink and that’s just awful for you. If he’s not trying to impress you at the beginning of the relationship it’s only going to get worse NOT better!!
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This is so frightening and absurd lol how old are we talking here??? 30, 40 50 years old?? This is ridiculous
He sounds depressed… 
Shower Sex Soap and All 
Play the sex card til he washes
Why are you with him?? There’s plenty of folks out there that actually bathe and care for their hygiene lmao millions out there
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His hygiene could make you ill down there. I wouldn’t be sleeping with him and I’d be telling him that also.
You don’t tell him. His mama should’ve. Now it’s between him and God
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Some things just shouldn’t be a battle. Hygiene is one of them. Move on.
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If you have to look under the bathroom door to check out the hygiene habits, there is a big problem. Keeping clean is basic. He’s not for you. A guy interested in a relationship puts in effort and if this is it from the beginning, imagine a few years down the track.
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At the risk of getting ugly comments here is my take. Ive struggled with severe depression and anxiety for years and there are 2 things I have trouble with, keeping a clean house and showering. It literally takes everything I have in me to do them. My husband is very supportive and understanding but does tend to get frustrated with me too which in turns makes me spiral down. It’s a never ending vicious cycle that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. I think you need to get to the root of the problem. He may be depressed and not realize it. Be considerate and try to be understanding.
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Why again do you see a future with this guy? Goodness we women really need to learn to set the bar higher, it’s so low you could trip over it in hell.
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My son is on the autism spectrum. If I dont make him shower he wont. Perhaps a serious talk is in order about hygiene and what you expect from a partner. If he is unwilling to try then it’s time to reevaluate the relationship. If you cannot have a candid conversation about things so important then your relationship is already over
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You do not say how old you guys are. First, I would make that wash cloth disappear and replace it with a scrunge shower sponge.
Sometimes people don’t give doing laundry importance, but maybe you can show him how to do it correctly and add Unstoppables to help it smell nice. Sometimes people take it out of the dryer when it’s still damp or forget to take it out of the washer and then it smells musty. We taught our boys the proper way to do laundry.
As far as the hygiene, be straightforward and ask him questions to find out what he’s feeling or why… good luck to you both. 
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Trust me, you will not change him. You cannot shame, bribe or force him. Find a new BFF or prepare for a life of dirty sheets, filthy chairs and an unwashed man at every meal. I know I married one like this.
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If you have to ask advice because your boyfriend of 6 MONTHS hadn’t bathed. You have much bigger issues. …
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Severe hygiene issues are from a couple of different things but can mostly be tracked back to poor mental health. Either no one taught him or he thinks he doesnt deserve it. Could be depressed could be trauma
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Does he have underlying issues such as adhd and/or autism? These can both cause difficulties in performing care tasks. A therapist can help with this regardless of the reason.
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Just flat out ask him why he doesn’t bathe and that unless he wears clean clothes and bathes and shampoos, you’re gone!
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If he isn’t making any effort when Ur just dating, it won’t get any better if you get serious. Run now before you get in any further!
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