Eeek unfortunately this would be a deal breaker for me. I don’t want to be intimate with a man who doesn’t wash… does he clean his teeth?
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Those are the signs we see earlier on then ignore thinking it will get better. It won’t. He is lazy in his hygiene and unless you become his maid, wash his clothes, shoes, bathe him and such like stuff, he is never going to change.
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you’re not his mother, you don’t need to teach him about personal hygiene, the fact he wears the same clothes & doesn’t shower often or even use anything should be a sign for you to leave !
Yuk, he’s lazy and had no self pride. Either confront him or ditch him for someone that washes daily.
Leave and let him figure it out himself
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I only have one question. How could anyone possibly see a future with this man. You would have to be out of your freaking mind. He won’t change !!
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Just go. That’s a full time job. If he doesn’t care now, he won’t care later.
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Does he have ADHD? Some times the idea of showering is very overwhelming to ADHD people. I know it seems crazy but I have to force myself to shower sometimes, but then once I get in I stay in I don’t want to get out🤷♀️
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Tell him no BJ’s or sex till you shower, then hop in shower with him and wash him right 
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Is this a joke? I feel like some of these questions are made up…
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Take one with him everyday. Make it a fun couple thing I guess
leave that stinking man that’s just nasty brrrrt
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My question is: do you have sex with him?
I think that the one who must be a Psychiatrist is you to establish a relationship with someone like that, he is very happy, when I thought I had seen everything and I come to read this.
This has got to be made up. You said he act like this has a teenage son?!? He ain’t neva changing !!! RUN GIRL RUN
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Eww! He is a bartender? Yuck
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omg i could never. You’ve been putting up with it for so long, he probably thinks your okay with his ways. I highly doubt that he would change but hurry and bring it up.
Poor hygiene is a deal breaker…if he can’t/won’t take care of something this basic, he won’t take care of anything else.
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Be straight up with him or else it will drive you crazy and cause more conflict for yous.
Ma’am you need to be a little bit more direct to him. You see a future with him? If so, please speak up. Let him know his hair smells like musty dirty locker room and armpits and he needs to wash his hair daily. Purchase some shampoo and tell him that it’s good to clean the oil out every other day. This is just crazy to me what man does this??? I’ve been with several crazies but nothing to this level
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Been there I tried I just couldn’t tell him I felt embarrassed an almost 40 year old man who is also very arrogant I said goodbye to that smelly situation
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Makes me wonder if he brushes his teeth 
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Ask him if he possibly has depression. He could have anxiety as well. When my anxiety gets really bad it’s hard for me to do anything. I wouldn’t just up and leave… I’d first see if there’s something else going on. People fight battles in their heads that no one else knows about…
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Sounds like a mental health issue 
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Nope he can’t even look after himself. Bad hygiene is just straight nope 
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Sounds like he needs counseling. Something happened to him or he needs help dealing with something.
“Hey ___ it seems you don’t have the best hygiene. I love so many things about you but I think you may need help with this. Would you be willing to open up to a professional about this and work with them?” (Something like this maybe 
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If the answer is no then it’s up to you. I wouldn’t get involved because that’s just the symptom of a much bigger problem that he really needs help with.
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It’s been 6mos. Just tell him
He is faking a shower!?!!
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Do you really want to be with a man who you have to tell to shower?
Personally I’d say no…. But it’s on you lol
Ohhhh hell to the nah!! Run 
sis!!
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Ummm he wouldn’t be putting his stanky ass ding a ling near my kitty kat if it ain’t clean 
Tell him he stinks and wash!
Drop him like a “HOT ROCK!
This guy has some serious issues.
You often dont see people’s true colors until u marry. It can only get worse do not recommend u stay with
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If he can’t take care of himself, you can’t expect him to take care of in time of need, either. He can either grow up and bathe like he should or remain stinky and be single.
Ewwwww…and you sleep with him? Gross
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I feel like we all now need a antibiotics, cranberry juice, and AZO just from reading this!!! My poor girl, this is a terrible situation and really what can you do? I think it will be wrong any way you go on this issue. It sounds like you’re coming from a place of love and compassion and you are definitely trying hard to fix a serious issue that has probably existed a long time for this man. It sounds like he works really hard and perhaps has neglected himself being busy taking care of life’s responsibilities. I bet you are a breath of fresh air in his life, and if you’re committed to seeing this through definitely keep trying until you find what works to get him out of this funk he’s in (literally), just don’t get trapped into this situation because it can turn from you being a positive light in his life to you being a crutch he uses not to grow. I really hope this goes well for you and I hope he breaks this cycle of behavior.
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Run, girl, run! If he can’t even take care of himself by doing something as simple as showering…. he will not take care of anything else
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If I man can’t take care of himself he can’t take care of anything. Clearly he doesn’t wanna clean himself or take the time to love himself and clearly he isn’t going to enjoy you throwing shampoo at him and stuff hinting he stinks it only will make things worse as time goes on. Say something now or forever hold your peace and move on before it’s too late
I just wanna know why he still your boyfriend? During week 1 when you noticed he doesn’t bathe 
so u just lay next to Linus every night 
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Take a shower with him. Wash his body and his hair for him.
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Tell him he stinks. This should have been resolved during his teenage years.
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Wait a minute now, are you fking someone that doesn’t like to wash his a? 
WTF is wrong with you?
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Good luck changing his ways.
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You lost me at musty attic smell 
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This is someone you ghost. Eww.
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He needs to see a therapist or he just too tired to shower
Invite him in with you…
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If you see a future with this man, then offer to take a shower with him,or just tell him he had to improve on his hygiene
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Sometimes my man will not shower after work& I have to tell him to go shower before getting into bed with me. Grant it I don’t shower every single day, but I’m also a stay at home mom. If I’m not sweating super bad I’ll wait a couple days in between showers. But where he works he needs to shower before bed& before going to work because his body heat will make him sweat at night time when he sleeps. Grant it when it sweats he doesn’t smell half bad, I’m weird& I actually don’t mind the smell of his sweat after he wakes up. But that’s just me.
But I would invite him to shower with you, most men won’t pass up a chance to see their woman naked& soapy! Our shower isn’t big enough for both of us as I’m 8 months pregnant, but if he could he would shower with me every chance he got!
Tell him or dumb his ass! Point blank period!
It also sounds like you are being passive aggressive and “hints” aren’t good communication skills. Buck up and speak plainly.
It also sounds like he could have depression or something else going on where it’s common to have poor hygiene. Therapy could be helpful.
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Ask his mum, has he always been like this? Some men are so lazy.
Before, my bf would shower like every two days. It’s been now two years we’ve lived together. And he’s cought up to my routine were he showers every day. And not just cuz he works. But ever since he’s gotten use to me. He’s liked it that way. And we even showered together.
You should play this song lol
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This sounds more like a mental health problem. We can use depression as an example. People it’s depression have a hard time with everyday normal tasks. Struggles manifest themselves differently from person to person, I would check his mental health first
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Yall getting all grossed out that he isnt showering but did any of u take the time to consider he could be going through depression? Or something deeper? Like wtf would yall do if that was someone u personally knew? What ur gonna tell them how gross they fucking are and how nasty any person would have to be to sleep with them??? Fuck no u wouldn’t and if u would ur a pos.
Talk to this man stop with the hinting and just be straight forward. Ask him whats going on in his life figure out if anything traumatic just recently happened to him. Suggest taking showers together and washing each other suggest yall taking a bath together and just relaxing
Like do you have sex with him??!
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he’s went nose blind… febreeze him 
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Just get to the point u stink like gas or a**go shower plz n take him shopping for new clothes he buys lol
Lure him into the shower for sex and wash his body and hair. It’s more fun that way anyway.
Ask him to shower with you?
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Lmfao never heard anyone of smelling like a “musty attic” before hf 
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Girl just tell him… Look i love u but u gotta start showering and caring about yourself and how your take csre of your body… But girl if he aint showering id hope ur not fuckn him or giving him head cuz he can cause your vajayjay to get bacteria vaginosis plus who wants nastiness in their mouth or other places… He just needs to be told get in the damn shower and use the soap shampoo and a clean damn wash cloth. Treat him like a kid when it comes to it if u have to until he does it on his own regularly… Tell him as soon as u get home straight to the shower u go… Do not stop in the kitchen bedroom or anywhere else… Directly to the shower and have clothes in the bathroom when hes in the shower grab his nasty clothes so he cant put them back on… Once hes in the shower jump in w him… Wash his hair amd body urself maybe after hes clean yall can have fun too but clean him up 1st… Good luck girl… Ima be praying for ya… Plus maybe tell him how u love when a man walks by and u can smell his cologne and tell him that axe body wash is ur favorite and it turns u on so could he use that next time instead of the invisible soap he uses already.
Sounds like my brother. If he’s anything like him, he probaly won’t change. I went on vacation with my brother, his friend and my husband. We had to keep on him every day about showering. I would just be honest with him about it. He may change or you leave him or live with it. I wouldn’t live with it after being with my husband such a clean freak.
Girl tell him straight up that it’s not attractive for him to be musty n that he needs to shower because he be stinking. When you love someone you honest w them.
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Shower with him???
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Sounds like he is exhausted from life 
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If he has a teenage son, he is a grown arse man and I very much doubt he is gonna change now.
He obviously works hard but that is more reason to stay fresh.
If you are in a relationship with him and you want to build on that relationship I would just be honest with him (and his son as it doesn’t sound like he is washing either)
It honestly sounds like depression to me. The issue is bigger than not showering, here.
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Get him to take a shower with you. Show him how it’s done.
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Sounds like a yeast infection
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He’s a grown man & you’re not his mom. I wouldn’t deal with it. 
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This is the first sign of mental instability, he seriously needs help. Honestly I couldn’t be intimate with someone that doesn’t shower. You can do better than this I’m sure.
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Shower together? Try to spice things up! Just add showering lol
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So if you see a future with him then you should be able to put it all out there, you should be able to be like, " yo, let’s talk about your showering," also do his laundry and give that hint, maybe drop in I’m trying to be your lady not your Mama. So it also sounds like he’s probably exhausted and depressed and may appreciate the fact that his lady took initiative and did his laundry including that rag and scrubbed out the shower and don’t do it with him bc that’s not good for your pH. I’d straight up ask if he showerd up and washed his hands if he wants to dip his quill in the ink well. 
Just saying. He ain’t worth having your pH off frfr. Just put it out there, you can do it in a loving way.
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To me is sounds like exhaustion, from life, and maybe a result of a mental health issue. I have anxiety and depression and I get in “funks” that can last months where the act of showering, brushing my hair, brushing my teeth, etc, become difficult. To someone without mental health issues, it sounds crazy, but trust me, it’s something we struggle with
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After writing my initial response I remembered when I was really struggling with depression, I also struggled with my personal hygiene (as I felt, there was no point).
As suicide is the biggest killer of men under 45 you may want to check on his mental health/wellbeing before making a decision on how you should react 
I wish you both all the very best
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My ex didn’t ever want to bathe due to depression. But he never went as far as to pretend he took one, that’s weird AF.
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Tell him it’s called hygiene, if he can’t grow up and be a man he’s not a child and shouldn’t need to be mothered, if he can’t do that you need to find someone else who knows how to be a responsible adult
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Sounds like he’s struggling mentally to me. I would just talk to him and ask him if he’s okay, and why you suspect something isn’t.
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Make him a care package, with nice shampoo, and body soap, and loofa. XD IDK
get rid. I couldn’t be intimate with someone with bad personal hygiene
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Yuck
The lack of effort is disturbing
And 6 year olds sit in the toilet with the water running and their over indulgent mama’s peep under the door
Red flags all round
Sorry
Only recignise it cos I’ve fallen into the trap myself before.
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I had an ex like that. I used to force him into the shower or I would not go near him whenever I went to go see him at his place! He never remembered when he showered last when I asked, it was horrible! I used to make him brush his teeth, as well. I have zero idea what his mother taught him about having proper hygiene (she was a mostly-single mom). He was a sweetheart, but I will absolutely positively will never again go through that ever again (if I get married and something happened to where I have to take care of him, that’s different).
That’s just one thing you came across. If you stay with him you will lose all happiness. Walk away.
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Ask him to have a shower with you and give him a good scrub my hubby loves it when I scrub his back in the shower with body wash.
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Does he wipe his own botbot?
Or is the mustard stain not really mustard?
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I would call his mom and tell her about it. She probably had the same struggle
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This is a man she really likes stop being rude and saying get rid of him . He’s probably going through alot . Maybe he has a mental illness that need to be worked on . She asked for advice not for rude comments about her man
I take my hat off to you, that you are still attracted to him. A huge turn off for me. I love the way my husband smells, especially his hair. At this point, you have nothing to lose by speaking gently with him about it. Is he also unclean in his house (his bathroom sounds like it)? You need to consider what it would be like living with him.
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If you know that he doesn’t bathe do you still have sex with him…bc that might say something about you too and your hygiene…bc why would anyone have sex with a person who they KNOW does not bathe???
Talk to him he could be depressed looking for someone to notice. Always more to the story. Good luck
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It’s gross but I think depression
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He could also be on the spectrum
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Girl no what about 
there’s no way I could even touch, feel, enjoy ANY of that with the issue your having.
Anyway… maybe he has depression? Maybe there’s more to his life than you know? Or maybe he’s just plain n simple a stinky dude. Who knows. Maybe talk to him first.
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Ummm just tell him he needs to clean himself before you touch his you know what
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Get in the shower with him. Ask him why he hasn’t used the body wash you gave him. It does sound like he might be depressed.
Unable to bathe is one thing, unwilling to bathe is another!!
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Buy a gas mask an run
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Try putting a line of Reeses Pieces on the floor that leads to the shower! Like E.T
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