Yuk! And you keep seeing him?!?!
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You’ve been with him 6 months. If you can’t openly talk to him about this there is an issue. I understand if his embarrassed by it but pretending to shower and not actually showering is gross. Especially if you guys are sexually active nobody wants an unwashed penis you don’t know what bacteria his sharing with you.
Try being gentle in the approach ask him to shower with you and scrub him down from head to toe. Pop a load of washing on (all of his clothing towels and bedding) and just start there.
Openly speak with him about your personal boundaries and hygiene and tell flat out what your limits are when it comes to that. His a fully grown man he knows better.
Don’t. Just dump him. Jfc stop trying to fix these grown up children! Women are not rehabilitation centres for men
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Have a shower with him it might help him 
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Oh hell no!! 
run!
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Yuck and you lay with him !!
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ypu will never thange him be blunt and see if that h elps
I’m sorry but hygiene is a deal breaker for me… If it’s bad… I’m gone!
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You make no sense lol
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Sit down and have a talk with him, see if there’s any reason why he isn’t looking after himself and his hygiene, there could be something wrong, encourage him to seek help with your support
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This is a joke right!!
Okay so grab the man and toss him in the shower and start scrubbing….
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Seriously a future?? And he can’t have a shower 
what’s in this future?
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Something wrong with this whole picture.
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How about a bath instead? Ask his family/friends if he was always this way. Did something happen to him as a child or adult to make him this way? What about taking care of himself does he hate? Does he have sensitive skin? How does he feel about other people’s hygiene? Maybe buy him really soft tagless clothes so they already feel “lived in.” Or super soft towels and washcloths (or he can just use his hands), suggest a water softener if he has sensory issues. Or maybe he’s too exhausted and stressed to think straight. Can you help him be more organized?
Ultimately though he is who he is, and you either take it or leave it.
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If the case you save a lot of money from power to toileteries… For me i talk to him nicely… Tell him some flowery words. Like have a shower you look more jandzome or atractive . Maybe mom did not teach him about hygiene. How important it is.
Tell him straight…bro you sink, you need a shower…or just throw a bucket of warm soap water at him…js
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Stop ignoring red flags because you see potential!!! If u see there’s things you don’t like now, and he’s unwilling to change, that’s your answer. Don’t compromise on your standards for anyone.
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Why are you even with him
How can you even lay beside him
You’re as gross as he is
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Yuk! Please run as fast as you can🏃♀️
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You should not see a future with a man who can’t shower on his own
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Just find someone else I learned the hard way.
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Just tell him straight he stinks and to get a bath 
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That’s a real TURN OFF. Sorry, but there’s no way I would be w someone like that. 
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Is this all this page is gud for…Posting Stupid women’s dumb shit. 
Every time dumb dumb dumb… time to 
this dumb page.
Is the shower over the bath ? Can he actually get himself into the bath to use it ?..had to get my bath taken out so hubby could use the shower …does he have other clothes ? Is he depressed ? . Does he have proper laundry facilities? Is it him who smells musty or his clothes taking too long to dry ? Is the house clean ?
If all that is ok…im at a loss .
Surprised his job as a bartender keeps him on if he stinks . Usually they expect good hygiene
Short of being brutal and telling him plainly he stinks and needs to wash at least daily to keep you im not sure what to advice tbh…theres not a lot you can do for a man who kids on hes showering 
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Filthy,run like mad & don’t look back
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Make it interesting yall take shower together …
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No clean man no sex.no no…no realy make it interesting yall take shower together …just tell him …some people cant smell them selves or they got so use to it they dont notice…if it hurts his feelings then good he needs to b told u dont like it…would he want a stinky women…I mean realy…
Sounds like he’s lazy. He works, yes but he can’t take a shower? 
3 months with the same wash rag? No thanks
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YOU ARE NOT HIS MOTHER!!! … if this grown assed man can’t take care of his own basic hygiene , I shudder to imagine how you even navigate the intimate aspects of a relationship with him.
Time to put your walking boots on and walk away!!
Find yourself a nice clean sweet smelling fella who takes pride in himself and wants to impress you 
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Yeah I don’t think I could continue a relationship with someone like this, I’d be seeing less and less of a future with him.
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Everyone saying to this girl to run, maybe try being sexy and get him into the shower with you and have a shower together, or you should have a deep conversation with him and just ask him as tbh he could have a childhood problem that something bad happened to him in the bath or shower, talk first dont just run because he smells, help him, get him help
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Not been funny but if he can’t take care of himself… I wouldn’t be seeing a future with anyone who cant do the basic necessities of life.
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Clare Coleman thank you for making me take a moment to think.
Take a shower with him & soap him all up urself then if that doesnt work you need to just tell him that he stinks
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Sounds like his depressed encourage him to speak to a professional to seek help
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Girl… I would tell him no shower no nookie. You could get infections and stuff from bad hygiene. Bad hygiene are a no go for me personally 
… not to mention are you really going to have a happy future mothering your spouse?
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Imagine what his willy wonker must look and smell like
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Tell him straight up! You really need to wash yo a$$😂
He sounds depressed 
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Pretending to shower? That’s just weird!! Girl u need to run far away , as fast as u can…… he will never change! Maybe say something to him in a txt msg when ur not with him. & see how the convo goes but he does need a reality check. Tell him if he can’t keep himself clean then u don’t want him . Simple as that!
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Lady do you hear yourself? Why waste your time .that’s a no go for me
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Really like him !?
Reality check time,Sis,Sorry…
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Sounds like he’s disgusting:face_vomiting:
Ain’t no way I’d EVER talk to a man who doesn’t have good hygiene. Thankfully my husband doesn’t like to stink
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Sorry, I don’t mean to sound rude but how the hell were you attracted to him in the first place??
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throw the whole man away tf
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Mental health issues
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He sounds very depressed
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I dated a dude a while back that showered often but refused to wear deodorant; and I was honest about the smell. If you’re honest and he doesn’t change then it’s time to move on
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I had to dump someone because they had such horrible hygiene. Every time he could come over he stank and I would ask him to shower but when he got out it smelled like he didn’t even use anything and smelt the same. I started getting ring worm and that was the last straw. I knew it was from him because I’d only get it when he was over and later found out he had it and never got it treated (highly contagious and you get it from being dirty). I even gave him chance after chance and told him this a make or break thing. I felt horrible for doing it but when we would go out people could smell him and would say stuff. It was embarrassing.
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Sounds like a possible mental health issue 
No P in the V unless that shit get clean 
Have you tried putting it in rice??
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Run run and run. He is old enough to know better and entrenched in his ways. U won’t change him. He will get worse as he gets older. Crusty comes to mind.
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take him to the bath with you. scrub him to death:joy:
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I love how everyone is so quick to tell her to run away from him when not a single person knows what kinda struggles he may be having emotionally or mentally… Girl it sounds to me like depression could play a huge factor in this… I am 38 and just recently diagnosed with MS and let me tell you… I wish I could go back to when I thought I was battling depression as opposed to facing it head on like I am now… My suggestion to you would have be to have a serious heart to heart with him… Guys don’t accept depression… They look at it as a sign of weakness… Just please proceed with caution going into the conversation bc things like this can trigger it and you never know where people minds drift off to… Hope everything works out and you guys have a wonderful relationship… My prayers are with ya 
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Sign to leave! Grown man who cant shower… But my first love\boyfriend never showered or showered properly! What i did i made it a bonding time where we showered together! But thats your choice!
I wouldn’t bother there’s no future if he’s lying about personal hygiene what else will he lie over?
Alternatively he could be depressed? Prefer eco goods or doing some frugal thing to extreme
Maybe he’s no other clothes? And all his wages are going on rent and bills
Buy him new stuff get in the shower with him wash him down what ever comes out of it.
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And a few days ago some mum’s came at me ,saying “kids don’t need to bath everyday,it strips them on natural oils” now guess what your oily man child can’t keep a partner… to those mum’s, i just want you to know these are the consequences the rest of the world suffers when mum’s like u, let kids go to sleep dirty and sweaty:hot_face:
now the rest of the world has to parent your man child… And teach him basic hygiene.
Honey tell him openly if you can’t shower it’s over. I understand you get tired but you need to clean up more.
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When I was younger I didn’t take showers when I should have and call me disgusting or whatever you want, but it was because I was EXTREMELY depressed. It takes SOOOO much energy to shower when you don’t even wanna live anymore. And not saying I was suicidal, because I wasn’t, but I did not want to leave my bed. I wanted to wallow in it. Didn’t go to school for half of my sophomore and junior year of highschool. Showering is like the last thing on your mind. And my family really really didn’t help the situation. Try talking to him about his mental health first.
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He is a grown up stop walking on eggshells and tell him he smells.and you need him to actually take a bath… Wait so y’all are having musty sex:hot_face:
how do u smell after .lord her pH balance probably all over. Sibongile Mulenga
Sit him down and be honest and suggest that maybe you go clothes shopping
Have you trie inviting him in with you?
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“throw the whole man away” doesn’t seem to be the solution to every problem lol. She mentioned she can see a future with him means he clearly have many good qualities too. Depression might be the cause for it she just needs ideas to approach him with the topic without offending him too much. Y’all don’t care but she clearly cares and wants advice. 
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Just tell him or buy him some and tell him you like this smell so he will use it
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Seriously? What’s to like?
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If you see a future with him, how is IT possible that you dont feel confident enough to talk to him about this? What other upseting things you Will keep shut in the future? Life is hard girl, you have to be able to freely address any issue with a partner. And this is a pretty basic one.
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I think sitting down and having a heart to heart would help! Maybe shower there and invite him in with you to do the “dirty” and get clean after I wish i had more advice but sometimes when I shower it helps me feel better and feels like im washing my worries away. Sometimes i dont want to but ik as soon as I get in, I’ll feel better so maybe if you can coach him in, it’ll help him let loose and relax to! Being you really like this guy otherwise, I really hope it all works out! Good luck honey 
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He’s probs a hippy at heart. Into natural body smells etc. Nothing not natural. I would get him into the shower with you if your that far along in the relationship otherwise you might need to really think about it.
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Get yourself a man and not a child
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No offense but if you need to sit down and explain why u did it. That’s not a surprise sweetheart that’s kind of being hurtful and again maybe no ones really bothered caring about it either. I tell my guy he smells and he knows he does but unless ur honest with him just doing it out of spite is hurtful and that’s not caring.
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yeah, thats a flag… and you dont want to get a UTI or something… he needs to be clean…fo sure!
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I don’t know, maybe try and shower with him? Maybe that will help
Offer to shower with him 
lol
I think he’s biggest fear is water probably.
Yoh.to sit on the toilet en let water run…darling go in the bathroom with him an push him in.or pout out a full bucket of water unto him
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Tell him he stinks and he has to shower… or else
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Sounds like you inherited another son to raise.
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I say, RUN!! cause bad hygiene extends to other areas as well… and if it’s going to make you crazy it’s not worth it. You can’t change anyone ….
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Girl. Leave. I dated a guy like that nearly 3 years. He was over 300 pounds n worked in a factory. We fought constantly about him showering. If I wanted him to wear clean clothes I had to launder them myself n set out the clean clothes for him to put on. It reached a point I did things to get rid of his funk that no woman should’ve had to do. He’s NOT going to change.
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Girl why u with him?
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I bet he doesn’t even brush his teeth…. Lookin’ like he chews on yellow crayons
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How do you get him to shower more? Well when you are at his place, tell him
“I’m bored… let’s go wash your hair”
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I’m shocked, I’ve never heard of someone not showering and then pretending too…. Very very odd!! Definitely talk to him as that’s not normal behaviour, surely something Is going on.
Prehaps buy him a new bottle of the shampoo and shower gel that he already has then some new boxers Socks and a tshirt wrap it as a gift and tell him you want to have a bath or shower with him… take a bottle of wine and light some candles, he’s not going to turn down a shower if sex Is on the cards. Good luck
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Maybe try to get him to get into the shower with you when you shower
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Tell him to take a bath sis. You gotta be able to talk to your boyfriend. If you guys are good like that it should be fine.
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Oh gross. There is nothing you can do. He is set in his ways. How can he pretend to shower
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Girl my husband doesn’t want to take a shower but every 4 days. I tell him no and I make him get in there or I don’t go around him and it kills him to not be around me. I also hate when he takes a shower and then put the same damn clothes back on. I change them for him if he won’t. He gets mad but I really don’t care. I don’t like to be around people that stinks or don’t wash their clothes
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No offense but if he isn’t even taking them and just pretending thats kid shit … id have a water balloon fight with him or something put soad in the balloons as well and throw them at him lmao naw just kidding idk I would be up front and be like look I need you to shower maybe ask him if there is a reason he doesn’t like taking one ? I mean if he wants to act like a child and not wash himself them treat him like one and make him …
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Literally ask his friends to do it… he will actually do it… from us it’s just an insult- from the friends it’s going to be truthful…
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Maybe he’s not the one with the issue you may want to actually get to know this man so you can understand him then you can decide what the future holds . I think simply based on the context of the story/question and the abundance of comments there after it’s pretty CLEAR why he’s not forthcoming with sharing
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I can’t get over the concept that you can see a future with someone that exhibits this type of behavior. Hygiene is a deal breaker.
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I really hope you’re not intimate with him anymore lol I mean if he smellin a touch musty I can only begin to imagine his lower regions…
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Omg…really. i would let him choose, the shower and clean clothes or you. No discussion about this.
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Tell him there’s a smell off him
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I am dying 
you peeked under the door to see if your man showered !?!?
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Communication is key in a relationship. Speak the words out loud. He needs to hear them and he needs to know its important to you moving forward not to smell like a dirty foot.
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I have told a guy in the past that there is nothing sexier than a fresh clean smelling man… See if he will shower with you. If not, .then straight out ask why he doesnt clean his funk. Massive turn off. Have the discussion.
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