a swat on the back side and put in the bedroom with no toys for awhile will eventially work. you cannot pamper them when they act like this it will only get worse. no one ever died from one swat well placed
I love all of these wonderful, caring suggestions.
So go on continue to spare that rod and spoil that child.
Iâll be watching the idiot box one evening and your story will be in Investigative Reports, Snapped, or Dateline outlining how your child killed you or you killed your child.
Itâs called a belt. Applied each time she gets groggy will change her attitude in less than a week! Guaranteed!
Therapy if you donât do the hard talk and the old fashion spank and not give in to things she wants . Shit shit her ass in a corner and scream her lungs out .
Sounds like âOppositional Defiant Disorderâ to me. Get her tested.
You started too late. Her training should have started when you were holding her in your arms.
This thread scares me with the number of people that think itâs OK to physically abuse their children using hitting, bitting, kicking, not spanking.
I have to ask if you were angry and losing control would you want someone to do those things to you in order to â learnâ
This is your child not a bar fight
I went through MATC for my daughter I dont know if your from Canada but itâs in winnipeg itâs been so helpful for both me and my daughter. If you can try to reach out to occupational therapist in your region I highly suggest it they have a lot of good coping mechanisms to deal with an over-stimulated child. a thing thatâs really working for me what might not work for everybody but when my daughter is in a tantrum and a very aggressive State of Mind I get her to tell me out loud 5 things she can smell, five things you can touch, and 5 things she can hear the point of it is to redirect their brain to distract them from the bad habits theyâre doing I really hope this helps best of luck to you hun. I know how hard it is dealing with a child who is very angry my heart is with you
Make here stand face forward house corner guarantee after a couple of times their quick to change their tune
Is she getting enough physical activity , do you guys take her outside to do things ,I know with the pandemic it can be harder but I noticed in my children if they donât get enough regular exercise and we in the house to much they act up way more , as far as the physical abuse she dishes out itâs her way of expressing her feeling because she doesnât know how any other way , you guys need to help her express her feelings another way
Look up a lady called karin purvis. She has strategies that work.
And when she goes to school telling them you are bitingâŚkicking her .School will call CPS on you
A spanking doesnât hurt any child misbehaving time out on a chair
If shes 4yrs old with this violent behavior, evidentally they dont have any parenting skills .
Check her diet - too much sugar?
Is there a younger child in the house?
Try defuseing clary sage oils or have dried leaves in a bowl around the house. Try anointing her temples with clary sage oil See if any changes in a few days. Japanese use this
Buy a 2" wide leather belt and spank her ass
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First of all itâs not being mean to discipline your child unless youâre calling her names and putting her down. thatâs your job and I question if sheâs mean for what have you not been doing that created this child to treat you that way
Rule out any physical or social things that are happening is she hungry is she tired? Thereâs a lot of context to the scenario that we are not getting
Are use TBRI Karen purvie I teach parent education.
Sheâs getting out of control because sheâs trying to regain and keep the power that she already has over you sheâs training you youâre not in control of her and itâs gonna take a lot of work in order to get your power back.
You could utilize time out 4 minutes sitting in a chair standing at a corner youâre sitting in a chair next to her and keeping her from getting up youâre standing in the corner with her. As soon as she gets up to get out of the chair her four minutes starts over you never ever add time that it becomes a punishment not a consequence punishments are about power and control over other people that leads to abuse sheâs not on your level but she needs to know that you are the boss but she has choices.
You could ask her is that being nice or kind when you hit mommy sheâs going to say no and then you can respond would you like a do over would you like to try that again being nice and kind?
When you speak to her you need to make sure that you are at her eye level either contact and make it known that is not OK to hit or kick you or anyone.
Instead of always saying no give her choices so that keeps her in control say do you want oatmeal for breakfast or do you want Siri and only give two choices
Keep it very short very to the point youâre not talking your four-year-old to death they donât understand that
You could say do you want to lay in bed for four minutes or you can sit in the chair for four minutes you tell me do you want chicken nuggets or macaroni and cheese when she screams at you you can say Iâm sorry that didnât sound like a kind or nice voice would you like to try that again being nice and then give them time to respond
I always tell my parents that I am teaching you never ever want to give a child a consequence that you yourself would not want done to you you never ever use a belt, A spoon or any object on a child you use your open hand. The object becomes a weapon and that becomes abuse I had a four-year-old client that died from bleeding internally because they were whipped with a belt.
After you provide the consequence and she has complied then you need to hug her and tell her why itâs not OK to do those things and tell her that you love her.
Also kids that young do not manage transitions very well so you need to provide them with a heads up an every day at home needs to be exactly the same that helps provide the child feel more secure and safe
She could also be responding to your heightened emotions kids that young have a sixth sense they feed off of your energy are you anxious about something are you feeling scared are you feeling sad they can feel that energy from you thatâs why babies cry a lot with new mothers
Is she spending time with someone or not getting to see someone thatâs causing this reaction?
the Bible warns that not giving a child HARD boundaries is sinful. Apply the board of education to the seat of knowledge.
Lay the board of education to the seat of knowledge. The Bible says, Spare the rod and spoil the child.
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Find the source of her anger. Could she have been traumatized?
Time to Take her to the pediatrician doctor for evaluation. It sounds like it could be something more than a behavior issue.
Have her evaluated with a pediatrician she may be on the spectrum
Help a mama outâŚjust learn your child and be consistent in disciplining
Seriously,have her evaluated for autism.
you have a big problem- get therapeutic help-it does give you help in dealing with the problems- consult a child psychiatrist or psychoanalyst
Have her check out by her doctor she may have a behavior disorder.
I think that maybe you need some help from a doctor.
She sounds very angry. Iâd look at a child therapist for her
Send her to me. After 1 month you will get a cooky of a girl. Well disciplined
Pray first and seek professional help for her.
Take her to the therapist Dr. Belt, la faja will straighten her up.
I got old fashioned spanking did the trick for me.
Easter Seals is a great place to start
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When I pulled my moms hair when I was little, my mom pulled my hair harder lmfao 
and I never did it again 
Therapy for the 2 of you not the kid.
I honestly canât follow this page anymore⌠it clearly is asking for shit ⌠cheers 
IMO you need to be a parent and NOT her FRIEND, sometimes you HAVE to be mean, a LITTLE mean anyway, just to get your point across
give her a good spanking every time she does it
You are her mother not a friend make her listen
I would try a gluten free and lactose free diet. It may help
Spank bottem end. After I bit my kid back he never bit me again
Have her checked out there may an underlying problem.
Quit âredirectingâ. Discipline the little shit.
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have you tired whipping her?
Get her a check up.
Sounds abnormal
I swear everyone wants a therapist to parent their kids. She needs boundaries and a spanking there is a whole lazy entitled generation bc thier parents didnât want to be mean. Big difference between a butt whooping and abuse.
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Strong follow-thru on your end (be on same page as your spouse) times outs/consequences.
I got a spanking or soap. I lived!
Professional family counseling�
Do unto others !!! See how she likes it.
What is wrong with a spanking.
spanking gets their attention and sends a clear signal.
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Set up a time out areaâŚ. Chair by a table perhapsâŚ. NO absolutely Nothing to play withâŚ. Set up a timer and depending on the action decide the minutesâŚ. Keep calm, lower your voice, be firm and consistent âŚ. You can work through this in a positive wayâŚ. You are setting boundaries and respectâŚ.
Consequences, teach her, every action has an equal (positive or negative) reaction. Good actions have good consequences and bad actions have bad consequences.
I also always tell my daughter your amazing but this isnât a nice thing your doing! That was important to me to reinforce that I loved her and she can do the right thing but what she was doing at the time wasnât it.
I tried everything with biting. Then I bit her back (after being bit for a while) she stopped biting.
If my kid threw something it went in the garbage, if it wasnât hers she threw I took something of hers she would consider of equal status and threw it out or took it away.
Popping that ass cleans out their ears!!
If they learn mean thatâs what they will be. You live what you learn
Two ways you can handle it IMO either do whatever act she did back to her to show her itâs not nice out whip out ole trusty and give her a few swats. Best way to mend any childâs behavior 
Take her to a behavioral specialist and have her assessed
Iâve always been a Love and Logic parent and itâs worked for me.
Redirection doesnât seem to help. Put her in her rom, shut the door and let her throw her tantrum all by herself in her room. She cannot come out until the tantrum is over. Then speak to her about her actions snd make her clean up the mess she made while having her tantrum. Or sometimes a big spanking may help. U canât teach compassion or empathy , it comes from the heart.
Bust her butt with a paddle! A few smacks will get her attention and let her know tantrums will not get what she wants!
Just whisper, " please dont do that" problem solved.
Stop being so nice. The kid doesnt need therapy or âredirectionâ She needs a damn good yelling and a pop or 2 on the ASS! Come on now! Is everyone afraid to upset their damn kid?!
Stop being a friend to her and be a parent. Apare the rod, spoil the child
Call the department of social services, they may refer you to a parenting class.
Children are a reflection of there parents. Just saying.
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Maybe a little swat on the butt to wake up her sensesâŚobviously discussing and redirecting arenât workingâŚThe 4 yr old has your number and dials it out all the time
You need to discipline her when she acts up. Kids will push you as far as you let them. Itâs not always a medical issue a doctor can fix. Itâs what you allow her to get away with and not get away with
Could she be autistic.
Ignore herâŚlet throw a fitâŚjust donât react to itâŚwhen she sees she isnât getting any where with itâŚother wise bust her butt
I literally do time out and she screams bloody murder for 20 mins until she calms down
Four years old should have started being a Parent when she started hitting biting and kicking WOW not being mean just telling the Truth WOW
Teach her the fear of the sound of a leather belt clearing a set of belt loops. It straightened me out quick.
Have another baby to take your mind off it.
You are two years late in starting
Enforcing rules and discipline is not being mean, itâs called parenting. Not doing it results in the kid running around and being mean.
Jerk a knot in her behind, sheâll get the picture. Spare the rod spoil the child.
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Read the book: How To Have A New Kid By Friday
Get control now it will only get worse
I would spank her cute litte butt!
Take her to see a nutritionists may just a change in her diet may possibly help. Seeing therapist wonât hurt! God Bless and good luck.
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Therapist. These behavioral issues point to something else. Children donât act like this for no reason.
Alittle tapping wonât hurt
Look into her mental conditions. May be something she canât control. If find out all is well then need to face the fact you have created this monster by allowing her to get away with it with no retaliation or disciple. She needs some tough love. Talking nice to her wonât work now. She has gotten away with her bad behavior too long for gentle persuasion. Needs disciple and stick to it. Donât cave and let her win or you just lose again. Iâm sure you love her so show it by showing her she will not get away with bad behavior and who is boss in your house. Know some will have a fit for my saying this, but spankings truly do work.
Over your knee, 2 or 3 pats on the behind just might help.
You paddle that butt
I agree if she bites, bite her back kick, kick her back and so on! A swat on the butt wonât hurt her either.
Same way I did mineâŚtwo warningsâŚand thirdâŚa butt smack
Used switch few times to.
You ever heard of a spanking
" Kicking her daddy between the leg" ⌠that really got me.
Poor daddy. 
It is called spank that ass
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Get her into sports with a lot of kicking and jumping âŚ
An old fashioned ass whooping.
Pop her ass she will listen.someone didnât make her listen to no no.hope the kid does goodâ:pray:
Wow⌠Just kick her and bite her back. Sorry but that is abuse. You donât kick and bite a 4 year old child and just because you did it and they never did it again doesnât make it right. Some of the advice on here is shocking. Put the fear of God into her because thatâs what my mum did and it worked⌠Imagine your 4 years old and have a giant adult yelling and screaming at you! Some of you need to rethink your parenting techniques. Children at that age have very little concept or understanding of emotions and its not their fault theyâre tiny brains are still developing and learning how to process emotions. Hitting, biting or yelling at a child is abuse. Shes 4 she doesnât need corporal punishment!!
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Discipline, it is hard and you donât have to be cruel. But it sounds like itâs a requirement. Nobody wants to be mean to their child. I cried more the first time I had to give my kid a swat. But here is the thing. Take a look at the lack of morals in society. How do you want you girl to behave when she gets older?
Always explain why she may have to have a time out. Or whatever is required.
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You folks are crazyâŚmy grandfather could look at us and we would instantly straighten upâŚknow why? SIMPLE he didnât play that, we knew itâŚhe was the adult we were the kidsâŚyou all want to be friends instead of set the rulesâŚever see Leave it to Beaver? 1950s showâŚtiny little kid you said yes sir no mameâŚYou donât teach respectâŚ
Yep. I completely agree. Both my daughters are well rounded well behaved kids who wouldnât dream of lashing out at anyone. But i have bitten them when theyâve bitten me, every action has a reaction. And they learn very quickly that if you donât want something to hurt you, then dont do it to others. Because if you go round in the real world doing that, someone is going to punch you in the nose