Time to move on sounds like
Take care of you first
I am sorry My ex His mother moved in as soon as we got back from our honey moon friends would come over and just stay I would get up for work then next day they would still be there sleeping all over the house ,I put my foot down through everyone out and set limits . over the years he became abusive verbally that I cheated with his friends I was sneaking out have affair with co workers I divorced when the insults became physical . I have 3 children . You should not have to take any abuse weather it is from him or his family . your #1 priority is you !
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Typically if one is accusing of cheating it means they are guilty themselves 
Getting called lazy and worthless is reason enough to leave.
Ok first I’m so sorry for what this person has done to your self worth and let me tell you you are worth so much more than that! I agree he’s a narcissist and you should run not walk! His family apparently is just as bad and is not going to help his behavior. I understand ypur care for your daughter but I can tell you children would rather be from a broken home than in one. The longer your kids watch you being treated like that the more likely they are to accept that treatment later in life. Life is too short to sit around being treated like less than u deserve. Good luck be strong the road of divorce is rough at first but its best for you and your kids.
Get the hell out NOW…and wait did I read “YOUR NOT ALOUD”? ALOUD??? is he your daddy? Even children today have no discipline why are you being disciplined? it’s clear he NEEDS his mommy but girl your being emotionally abused. Don’t teach your kids boy/or girl that its ok…
Sorry this is happening to you. I cant give much advice as to try couples therapy first. I have been through this before with my husband. However we did manage to get down to the root of the problem. He had low self esteem issues and was also depressed and was lashing out at me because he was miserable making me miserable. He now has a change of job and we are currently moving to a new place and talking more. I understand that when he says those things to stay calm and not engage and realise he is venting his frustrations at me. Next morning he will apolgise and feel bad. He is working on communication with me so he doesnt get to that point anymore. Therapy can help as long as the people involved is willing to work at it.
Sounds like you are on the bottom of his list
I beleive its Past time for you to walk away
Run. It will only get worse
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In my opinion, if he accuses you of cheating, he most likely is the one cheating. Also, he sounds abusive (mentally and emotionally), it’s time to leave. You have to teach your daughter you do not have to take this from a man. Also, you dont want your boys thinking this is an ok way to treat a woman. Cut your losses and take care of yourself.
LEAVE. This situation sounds terrible.
What are you even waiting for?? You don’t get more time in life…
Idk how you dealt with it this long I would have took the kids and got my stuff and already walked away the minute it started getting worse instead of better thats my honest opinion I never been married but I been in a relationship somewhat similar to this one once before.
Tell your hubby to advise the mother to apply for a council flat or something otherwise you will end the relationship. Put him in the corner.!
2 words for you…BYE-BYE
Run now
You’re taking care of the kids in a toxic environment. You want your daughter to have her dad but that’s not the role model you want for her.
To me this is gaslighting! A form of domestic violence that he has invited his family in for you to care for so that he can watch you constantly and make sure it cuts you off to all your outside activities and family.
It is domestic violence! Take your kids and RUN!!
If your asking you know it’s time to go.
You should’ve left his ass a long time ago.
Leave now if there’s any way possible. My mom stayed with my dad who was the same for way too long because of us kids. He was a verbally abusive narcissist with a drinking and later drug problem. We would have been better off in a broken home than with him.
Two sides to every story
So so many red flags here!
I’d say it’s time to go
Way past time to move on!! No one needs to be treated this way!
Perhaps counseling, if not bye bye.
Why are you still there
Leave his ass life is to short to be unhappy and never let no one take you from you
When you ask that question.
Get out now.it will only get worse.
Oh honey, you need to leave.
Leave ASAP. This is mental and verbal abuse.
You all ready know what to do…Run like Hell !!!
Get out now they are treating you like garbage
Snapchat? By now all your problems have probably been resolved.
Sounders like you already made up your mind. Get your kids and get out now.
Love isn’t enough kids aren’t enough. I would leave honestly. Dude isn’t worth it.
Leave now! It won’t change.
You gone yet you should be!!!
You never once mentioned that you loved him. Love yourself. Pack you and your kids up and leave. Now.
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I’d kick everyone out. Don’t lose your home to outsiders hun
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Its beyond time hun. You don’t deserve that stress and aggravation
Thats abuse just leave or you’ll just keep being unhappy.
Sound like its time to get out the comfort zone .
Go to church and talk to someone.
If u want to die keep it up …if not leave.
Do not walk RUN, RUN as soon as you can. He is mentally ill.
Run & he’s the 1 cheating
Kick his mother to the curb. If she won’t go, you should!
If I was you I would pack mine and the kids stuff and leave. He can have his horrible disrespectful family. RUN RUN RUN , AS FAR AS YOU CAN…
Get UNMARRIED! SAVE yourself!
Run! Get out of his mess. He’s an abuser.
Get a job and move. Verbal abuse and being servant to all these people is wrong.
Let him have his mom. ( who says she does all the work anyway) He deserves her.
I stayed in a miserable marriage like your for fourteen years because I wanted my son to have a father. I denied him the motherboard deserved because I was so miserable and depressed. I spent every single day struggling to not kill myself. That’s not an exaggeration. I was grumpy, and sad all the time. Exhausted all the time. He made me feel like the world would be better without me. His mother ganged up on me. I got myself into counseling and after two years of counseling I finally found it in myself to leave him. My son was 16 at the time. I was on three depression meds and two anxiety meds, and still struggling to not kill myself. I had been trying to hold out until he graduated high school. I’m glad u didn’t. I’d have been dead within the next 6 months if I hadn’t left him when I did.
Don’t stay with him just so your kid can have a Dad. It’s not fair to you and it’s not fair to your kids. Your misery will prevent you from being the Mom you want to be. It will take it’s toll. You won’t realize it until your out and looking back. Within 6 months of leaving Jim, I was off all meds. It’s been three years and I haven’t been back on them. And I’m happy. I no longer struggle with suicidal thoughts.
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It was time a long time ago. You need to leave. It will never get better. He’s a narcissist and they DONT CHANGE!! If he chooses to not be in your daughter’s life, that’s on him. But if you choose to not have him involved, that’s ok too. Do you want her to grow up learning that’s how a woman is treated? She’s watching this happen. She will think its normal. Leave!!
Take kids and be gone. He is clearly selfish and a jerk. Its not your job to cure and fix everyone else and I’m sure your kids don’t want to see u unhappy because if u see yourself this way they see it too and it’s not good for them.
Family meeting. Lay out ground rules. It’s your home not theirs. Set boundaries. First let him know you are calling this family meeting and go from there. If he can’t back you up then I say roll out. Life is too short to me miserable
I think the fact you’ve written this answers your own question. If you were looking for vindication and validation you found it. He’s a dick and his family are dicks. If you want to leave then you should no one would blame you
If you have to even ask, it’s time to go!!! Your daughter will be better for it!! She won’t learn that being disrespected is ok!! She will learn that she’s worth more and that it is ok to walk away not feel like they have to stay for any reason and take the abuse no matter what kind!! No one of any race or gender deserves to be treated like that!!! I thought it would get better and ultimately wasted 20.5 years waiting for something that will never change!!!
He needs to have a shoe up aside his head to knock some sense into that brain of his. You have been highly tolerant of the immigration of HIS family into your home. Take your kids and leave. The way it sounds, he probably won’t even notice that you’ve gone.
Sounds like he is living at home with his mommy and your just being used and abused. That is not a healthy relationship. Time to go or put your foot down and insist his family go.
All these people say leave him and take the kids, well you know what not everyone can just up and leave if they have no where to go and no family or friends to help and have no money to no job. It takes money to leave. If she has the money and can do it then that’s fine.
Take a stand. Speak up for yourself to him directly in private. Let him have it with both barrels. If you dont express how you feel about the way things are, you will never get past it. And if he just shrugs it off or makes you feel like it’s all you’re fault, walk out and let him know that you arent kidding. I am sorry you are going through this, but grow a set and be brave. Your spirit will thank you.
You married him not his mother. Leave and let them deal with niece and nephew, not ur obligation. Make urself happy, first and foremost . It’s not going to change
99% of the time when they start accusing you of cheating, it’s because they are themselves cheating. I would leave.
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Who gives a flying fuk what he wants. Girl. Get a job, start going out with your friends. And only take care of your kids
Now!! He has no business treating you like this. He and his mother are mean and selfish.
I would of left yesterday never stay in a controlling relationship.
Let him live with his mother get out dump them both
Leave him to his mommy, no way would I put up with this.
, You deserve to be happy!!
I’d be leaving his ass.
I’d be long gone…
I would have already been gone
Time to take care of you
Start a new happy life
Exit this relationship . Now .
He doesn’t deserve you.
You cannot live in a house with 2 mothers. It’s too much. If she doesn’t leave I don’t know how yall will figure it out. If he’s not willing to work on shit and figure it out then it’s time to go
Everyone is telling her to leave, but it’s hard to leave if there is still love there. I think it’s time for one final ditch effort. Grow a couple, and be a bitch!
1st put the MIL in her place! Tell her that if she’s going to stay in YOUR home she’s going to stop with the drama! It doesn’t hurt her to help out when she can, she does live there, and she doesn’t need rewarded if she folds some clothes! Tell her if she doesn’t like it , you will gladly help her move to an assisted living center!
Tell your husband that with your MIL butting in to your business constantly, you certainly don’t have the privacy to cheat, your lucky that you can take a pee without an audience! Your taking care of 5 children, and HIS mother! If he doesn’t like the way your doing it, you will get a job and he can hire a nanny!
If you want to stay, then your going to have to stand up for yourself! If you can’t lay down the law with the other adult in the home… then you need to leave, because nothing is going to change until you stand up fir yourself! People treat you the way you ALLOW them to treat you… stop allowing it!
Well said DeeJai McHone!!!
Go!! Let him marry his mother…
I sayfirst step is get rid mother’s in and other kids. If he doesn’t agree see from ur point girl get out. If not worth all the crap he pick them over u and treat u like shit.
Leave, you don’t deserve that
Go home to your family.
If you can tell it to FB tell it to him…social media won’t help just make shit worse…sit him down and talk to him…I don’t understand why communication is so hard but people are quick to put everything on social media
Do yourself a favor a pack a bag and leave that shit is never gonna get better.
I want to be your friend. Send me a friend request.
I’m sorry but sounds like you are dating my ex husband.
I am gonna give you my advice.
Get out of there before things get worse!!
Trust me they will get worse. My ex tried to kill me close to the end of our relationship, in fact told me how he was going to do it.
But I was shit out of luck. He purposely moved us (me,my son) to a city where he knew literally everyone and I knew no one but his family and friends.
Even the cops were on his side!! That’s how bad it was for me.
So if I tried to run/leave/report him, I was screwed.
I understand you don’t want your daughter to be without him but I’m going to tell you right now, it’s better that way!!
My ex eventually tried to kill my son too all cuz I tried to leave.
Narcissistic behavior GET OUT
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Now. Now is the perfect time. But get yourself together. Find a job first, figure out a budget, make sure you’re financially stable.
Kick everyone the f*ck out, including him. Then, post that cute picture on Snap Chat!
You need to leave NOW!!!
This is a VERY toxic family, and you shouldn’t have to put up with them one day longer. As others have said, if you’re in the position to do so, pack up your kids and yourself and go. If not, save up and make moves to escape that hellhole as soon as humanly possible.
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Leave girl. If he is obsessed with the idea of you cheating, he’s probably doing it. Your daughter is watching you and every move you make. If she’s seeing this toxic behavior from him and his mom she will think it’s okay and that’s how relationships are. Don’t let her think that’s how she should be treated.
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Enough. There is nothing like peace. His mother is putting stuff in his head. Let him deal with her. Your daughter does need this.
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He’s cheating on you. If he’s constantly accusing you of cheating, he’s always checking to make sure you’re not, looking through your phone, suspicious of your actions… this is all guilty conscience behavior. He’s cheating on you, hun. He’s cheating on you and blaming it on you. I’d check his phone, hire a PI, confide in a friend you trust to watch him for a day… something because he is, most definitely, cheating on you.
Then when you catch him (cause you will) I’d leave his sorry ass and take him to court for half of everything he’s got if he wants to be a little shit.
Infidelity entitles you to half of his assets if you can prove it. I’m vindictive, tho. I’ll hit him where it hurts. Financially.
You can call it vindictive or evil, but he put stress and anguish on you. He put you through hell and back, the least you could do for yourself is get something out of it. Make sure you can prove you’re of sound mind and take full custody of the kids. supervised visits.
Then say to him
Being a cheating piece of shit sucks, don’t it?
And do better in your life without him.
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He won’t change you want 7 more years of the same. It up to you to find the life you want. You don’t need a man … if you find a good one great if not be on your own. You are giving your daughters a bad example. It is your choice. Enjoy your current life or make a better one.
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I have a relative who was in a similar situation. She said it was hard to start over, but it saved her life. You can either stay & be miserable the rest of your life. Or take the risk & start over, it will be hard at first but it’s worth it. I’ve seen someone gain their independence again & it’s the best thing you can do for yourself. Seeing 2 parents who are both unhappy, is not healthy for any family.
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Girl, it sounds like you should have checked out after the first year of your marriage. Remember your children are seeing this and will think this is okay. Get out now before you lose your sanity and the rest of your identity.
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