You don’t! Mind your business
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This thread has the maturity level of 6th graders
You don’t. Its none of your concern. Keep your mouth shut.
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Tell her! Hell I found out. My bf at the time who we just had a baby not even 1 month old. She msg me asking for his s.s # ?! I was like um why? she was like for c.s im about to have his baby. I said what are you talking about im his gf of over a yr and we just had a baby in late oct! She said yeah im due Dec… Sure enough it end up being his… I wish I knew sooner I would of kicked his ass to the curved. This explain why we were almost attacked by these 2 guys coming out of one of my drs appt one day … It was her brothers.
I mind my own business.
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Send an anonymous tyyped letter
Mind ya own biz ness!
You mind your business.
Damn, I would want to know
As much as I would want to tell someone I wouldn’t. And I didn’t. One I did not see the mans penis entering the “other woman” with my own eyes. And unless I saw it first hand I wouldn’t say a thing. Two, people are stupid and some make up rumors about others because they dislike them. What if it’s a rumor? Third, your own job…you could be out of a job because of your involvement. And lastly no one knows what goes on in any relationship, only the people involved do. I believe your heart is most definitely in the right place, but leave it alone, because it can be turned on you in a second. Maybe he will even say you made a pass at him and he could say he rejected you that’s why your saying this. Most women know. We may not want to admit it, but there’s usually some kind of red flag. She will find out. And when she does what if she forgives him? Then as they say you’re up shits creek without a paddle. Stay employed by staying out of it.
Mind your own business
I’m going to tell you a secret… you listening(reading) MIND YO MUH-FUCKIN BIDNESS SIS
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The hell it’s not ur business. I want to know and so does she, and pussy footing with it’s none of ur business is what’s wrong w the world as it is, just say. As gentle and straight forward knowing she may not react well, but forgive her, cuz her world just fell apart, but tell the TRUTH
I mind my own damn business 
Nobody knows what the situation is at home. Maybe they are swingers and she don’t care if he has something on the side maybe she does to and you don’t know the situation because you don’t know her. People need to mind their business. Go to work make your money and go home. If you get yourself involved you don’t know what that man is capable of and if you tell his wife he is cheating you never know what that man could come back and do to you. Safest thing to do is mind your own business. If they aren’t feeding, financing or fuc#@&! you then you shouldn’t be worried about what they got going on!
You mind your business.
I was in a relationship with a man who told me he was very much single. I found out that he was very, very married. It was told to his wife and she got really defensive… Told me to be the bigger person and grow up. That I was nothing but a whore. At least she was told… at least my conscience is clear… It tore me up so bad… I been in her shoes too many times…I know how it feels… It just…done something to me… I have a hard time forgiving myself… Even today…
Message her and tell her what’s up. Fuck that “it’s not your business” shit.
Keep your mouth shut.
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See highly messy situation my end but I’m the one sleeping with my ex I don’t care his wife knows nor does he as he is having a vasectomy behind her back so she can never have kids with him and she’s not even aware he’s intending on dumping her in the next few weeks and coming back to me and his kids but I’m being honest I hate the bitch and neither of us have hidden it
Mind ur business. Trust me.
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Girl you need to mind your damn business
She might already know
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Tell her. She deserves to know!
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Secret letter addressed to her.
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Personally I would want to know, I can do my own ground work for details
The amount of ppl saying don’t tell is beyond gross af!! What if it was your husband. Bet you’d wanna know 
… I’d definitely would wanna know. Tell her… she needs to know…
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I would tell her she has a right to know some said break up her home he did that when he cheated but you said 2 for past 2 years why haven’t you already told her
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Would you want to know? I would. But you don’t know how people would react. Be prepared to have some hard proof to go along with serious accusations
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Mail her a letter. But nice to see an honest woman!!! More of us need to stick up for one another!!!
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If I was getting cheated on and someone knew and didn’t tell me, I’m punching someone in the throat. Sorry 
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Tell him to add the fuck up and what’s up.
You gotta be careful how you do this. From experience, she doesn’t know you and he’s going to make it sound like you’re crazy.
I had to tell a close friend this one time.
Gosh I would want to know! None of y’all would want to know??
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You better have proof to back up that claim. Is all I know. I’d want some hard evidence before even taking it seriously. So, if you don’t, don’t say shit!!
For all she know’s your just trying to cause drama, and like you said she doesn’t know you from a hole in the wall.
And if reaching out via Facebook (private messaging) is the only option you got then so be it:duck:
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I assumed my ex was messing around on me. He had all the excuses in the world! Of course none of them were cheating and he tried to turn it around on me. Once that didn’t work, he expected me to let her move in our home with her 2 kids. Nope that ain’t happening. I stood my ground and ended up getting a call from HER husband that they were sleeping together! That was 6 years into our relationship and 2 years into marriage. We ended up working it out and we’re married for 21 years before we divorced!
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Tell her anyway you can. I wish some one told me sooner.
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If you’re going to tell her, you better come with proof. Have pictures, videos, texts and if you have other witnesses to back you up, that would help.
If you don’t have proof, its going to be too easy for him to deny, her to make excuses, and for both of them to blame you for being a liar, crazy, a shit starter or any combination of the 3.
Come with absolute, undeniable proof, of it will be a disaster and you will be blamed.
Tell her. Anyone would want to know that their partner has been cheating on them. No one deserves that heartache, but also no one deserves for it to be on going with someone knowing the truth and never speaking a word about it. I’d want to know. My best suggestion on telling her would be a fb message, tell her you work with her husband and have seen the cheating, twice and felt she should know of his deceitfulness. She may be angry or not believe you, but all you can do is tell her what you know and let her take it from there.
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Tell her so she can get tested for STDs.
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Well the facts years have went by makes me wanna says don’t say anything at all
Just don’t smh trying to ruin a woman’s life today WHY??
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Tell me, I’ll tell her.
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Be sure to have proof. Because without the proof she might not believe you because he will manipulate her into thinking your just crazy and lieing!
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Sadly it’s been my experience that females are stupidly naive about this and telling them doesn’t do any good. I’ve tried to protect a few females hearts, got attacked each time. Won’t make that mistake again. Willful ignorance is as close to insanity as it gets.
They can be swingers for all you know maybe keep your nose on your face …
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Just know, there is a really good chance she us going to “kill the messenger”
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Has my hubby would say not my problem
But tell her with proof in hand
Any proof
I will never tell anyone about a deceitful spouse. I will tell the cheater that I will inform the spouse about the cheating.
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Mind your own business!!! Ppl like you are known to be homewreckers…If she really felt her husband is/was cheating I’m sure she would take care of herself!!!
They are obviously happy in their relationship bc if not I’m sure he or she would have left a long time ago…
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I feel you should stay out of it maybe she does know 
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Mind your business she probably already knows. They could be working on it already.About to ruin everyone’s life in that house. Or are you the side piece and want to tell her??
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Do it anonymously…Let her figure it out on her own…
MYOB. He’ll get sloppy and tell on himself. Snitches get stitches.
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If this is something you feel you to do, HAVE PROOF BEFORE you tell her. She more than likely will not believe you unless you show her definite proof. Alot of women don’t like hearing that their spouse is cheating on them, and will lash out.
My thing is if you were wanting to tell the wife of the husband why didn’t you tell he lr before? Hope you aren’t the one the husband is boinking.
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I’d want to know but if another woman comes to me with claims that my husband is cheating, I expect her to give me names of all involved. Dates, events, etc. Don’t just tell me he’s cheating, give me information I can work with and find the rest out with. I would tell her but if you don’t, these things usually come out one way or another anyway.
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Stay out of ppl marriage
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If I was the wife, I’d want to know.
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Don’t. It’s not your business
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Don’t think it’s ur place 2 tell her. Maybe she already knows.
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All I can say is I’m glad I’m not friends with just about 3/4s of you all this stay out of it mind your business blah blah blah you definitely ain’t women’s women that’s for sure. I’d want to know as the wife and I wouldn’t be able to live with those kinds of secrets
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If I knew the wife personally I’d tell her and have proof when doing so. If she’s just a coworker’s wife and not someone I know outside of that I’d leave it be.
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Don’t listen to these people. How stupid can other women be? Oh my freaking god. There’s a part of you that says it’s wrong and makes you want to inform her? YESS, that’s the fucking girl code. You see a women being done wrong, you do what you can to FIX IT! If we saw another one getting abused and called names, I know which one of you guys would be walking past and who would be stopping to help or call the police 
you guys need to do better for yourself, for your kids, for your fucking family. Don’t be the nasty manipulative fuck hiding it from her. If she knows, then guess what? SHE ALREADY FUCKING KNEW, NO HARM, NO FOUL. But if she doesn’t? You’re just gonna let her sit there and continue to get her heart broken for years? Yeah, to those women saying “leave it be” I sincerely hope y’all get cheated on and your marriage / relationships are ruined. Because guess what, if you were in that position you’d want another B* to tell you also. Not keep it to herself. Because guess what honey, this is 2021. It’s not 2013, we don’t hide shit from people and stab them in the back. As I said, LEARN TO DO BETTER
Don’t mind your business tell her …once you tell her then she knows but she has a right to know what if he’s doing more than even you know. What if she has suspicion but nothing to go on. You might be helping her get out of a bad situation. She might be completely clueless and he could catch an std at anytime and God forbid it’s something incurable. Deff tell her. Helps to have proof but once you tell her balls in her court.
Oh hell no stay in ur lane by the looks of it you don’t even know her that well to say something u need to mind your own business take care of ur own
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Don’t be surprised if she gets mad at you. In my experience I have always been the one to catch my friends so cheating. It never fails why me. I actually was walking out a restaurant and someone held the door I turn around and it’s my mom’s so w another person on a date. I also caught my friends bf at a stop sign w another girl in his truck he was taking home he was my neighbor. Everytime I told them they would get mad . I would have pics but never showed them. They even acted like I was lying. Like why tho. I wouldn’t do it on fb. U Might want to be discreet and include it in a letter or email that doesn’t attach ur name to it. If she find out u knew and didn’t say a word that’s going to cause trouble too.
I told once. It backfired on me. I’ll never get involved in other peoples problems again
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Its not your place. Stay out of ppl business. If your wrong the fight between them is your falut
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I would definitely want to know.
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If you don’t have proof she probably won’t believe you. Get proof then get a different email or phone number and send anon.
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I would want to know. I feel like reaching out via Facebook is fine. Tell her, then move on.
Ignore the ladies saying MYOB.
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Some of yall are ridiculous. I have been that other spouse. I had no clue woke up to messages screenshots from the girls spouse even with all that and the other husband having her admit it over voice messages my ex tried to deny it. I didnt shoot the messager but he gave me 110% proof. My ex use to do anything amd everything for me I would have never known maybe later on down the road but definitely not anytime soon around when we happened! Just make sure you have 100% proof before you do say anything
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Soo many on here saying don’t say anything… Why! Why can’t we speak up when we see this? As long as it’s true and you can prove it. We need to make speaking up a thing.
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Say something 
she deserves to know. She probably might have an idea already just no solid proof. You the proof tell her!
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Get proof & then send it to her. She may get mad/not believe you but that’s a normal reaction from anyone. We don’t want to believe our SO would do that - that’s just natural. But if I was that woman I’d want to be told - then after that it’s up to her.
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I would want to know tell her!
If it doesn’t concern you. Mind your business
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Make sure you’re 100% right, you do not want to cause trouble. Get proof before you do anything.
Once you can prove it? If messanger is the only way, then go for it.
Don’t let someone suffer for years in blind ignorance. They’re going to be more hurt down the road than they would be now, with less time having passed.
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I would want to know…
Have the proof first since y’all don’t know each other.
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Stay quiet, and pray for both of them. She will eventually find out. Just be a friend when the shoe drops.
I’ve been an wished someone would’ve told me
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First off how do you know he is cheating? Is he cheating with you? I say tell her but get solid proof. A simple picture of him out to eat with a female is not enough. This could be a friend or coworker that the wife knows about and he could’ve told her they’re at a local diner grabbing a bite to eat. Yeah men can be slick like that and half ass tell stuff. If you see them heading into a motel get video. If you see them tonguing each other down and feeling all over each other video it. Get as much evidence as you can. If there’s anything specific on a body part only his doctor and wife should know such as a tattoo or mole or piercing near the genitals and that is known point that out. Yes you should definitely tell his wife, but like I said have proof. Don’t go telling the wife “your husband is spending a lot of times with this woman” or “he flirts”.
Not your place. Stay in your lane.
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that’s a hard one, depends on if you have proof. I told a wife when I was asked point blank by her, but I told what I knew. the husband was running and into drugs. he needed help. he was mad and confronted me, I don’t regret I would hope the same.
I wouldn’t say anything unless you have proof or it will cause a lot of drama at work and home, but maybe try to reach out to her see if she needs a friend she may already think somethings not right
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Okay, I now have to question all of these “yes queen, help hold the other lady’s crown up”… “yes, we ladies have to stick together and have each other’s back” because I’m surely NOT seeing that here. I’m that one who my friends openly know, DO NOT CHEAT, or I’m going to let your SO know. I’ve been there so many times and that shit hurts especially when all of your friends know and don’t tell you. If you know and have the evidence in hand, she needs to know. This going behind other’s backs, is why the HIV rate is so high. This going behind other’s backs is why society is beyond screwed up now - that and social media! I would want to know if my SO was cheating so I can let that man go. I am too busy doing adult shit to have to worry about a toxic, and yes toxic, because diseases are rampant these days because of THIS EXACT REASON, ass man who can’t keep his junk zipped. Most of the time it’s the best friends doing that nastiness. I would want to know if it was me
These people saying it’s not your place please tell her she deserves to know. I would want to know x
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Get lots of proof then talk.
I would get proof then tell her. Some of these women telling you to mind your business are wrong. I would want to know. We as women are supposed to build each other up and support each other.
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Why do you " want her to know", are you the first he HAD an affair with ? How does this affect you ?
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If I was being cheated on I would want to know, the problem is a lot of women get pissed off, think your lying, or they don’t care. They will get madder at you than at their man!
Never understood that mentality.
But I’m telling anyway because I’m gonna get off my conscience.
If It’s a friend I loose for being honest about her shitty partner than I truly wasn’t her friend to begin with so it’s not a big loss.
Even if i don’t know her, she has the right to know.
Honestly don’t think I could live with my conscience if I didn’t say something.
All these people who are saying “it’s not your place” are def the ones cheating/would cheat on their spouse given the chance. I’ve been on the other side of a cheating significant other. I was blissfully unaware and looked STUPID because I thought our relationship was perfect. I WISH someone would’ve told me and I wouldn’t have wasted months with a dude who was screwing around while I was imagining our future. Ew.
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Just tell her, I would want to know. The father of my 3 girls cheated while I was pregnant with our second daughter. It woulda been nice to know before I went and had a third child by him.
This is hard because as female id like to know but also hes going to gaslight and tell her you’re lying blah blah blah because she don’t know you and it may cause you issues unless you have solid proof
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My kids dad cheated on his wife. Someone downloaded a fake text app and texted her. she Still dont know who it was today. .I hope someone would do it for me also
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Just tell her. If you have proof definitely show her. If you don’t I would tell her to look into it. I would definitely want people to tell me If my husband has been cheating on me.
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As someone who was once that woman - TELL HER. I was so thankful to the woman who finally had enough balls to do it. Even if you don’t have proof, it will put it on her radar to be looking out for - even if she says there is no way he would do that. Now she has a seed in the back of her head and she will be on the lookout. Of course, if you have actual proof that would be best. Personally I would make an anonymous FaceBook account and message her if you still work with him. If you message her directly and she knows who you are, and you still work with him that could create loads of problems.
Never ends well for the one who tells. I know for a fact. They forgive and you are the one they blame for causeing them problems
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