Getting involved in someone else’s marriage is not a good plan. That can backfire on you, big time. Unless you’re just a big ol’ drama queen, stay out of it.
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Mind your own business. Karma can be a real bitch.
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I think you should stay out of it. I could see if it was your sister the guy was cheating on but you don’t even know this woman. Mind our own business
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Just don’t!
Don’t involve yourself!
Don’t tell someone else to pass on the message.
Don’t make their issues your own.
A the end of the day, they will make you to be the guilty party!
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How do you know it was cheating if you don’t know her? they could have a Poly relationship or some agreement between them to occasionally see other people.
Get evidence. Ask the guy if his wife knows. If he obviously is in a monogamous marriage and going behind her back then yeah contact her. It’s not drama. She needs to know.
“Hey sis, your husband aint shit. Here’s the proof.”
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My mind is blown by the number of women that wouldn’t speak up. If you are worried about blowback send it anonymously but either way she deserves to know.
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Yeap … Facebook message her with proof … Or if u are scared of getting in cross fire message her from a different account like create a new one … either way definitely tel her u have no idea what she goes through on a regular basis
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For those that say don’t tell her - what is wrong with you???
I worked in a lab for years. Do you understand the devastation of getting an STD while you thought you were happily married and monogamous 
OP - for the love of mankind TELL the woman!!!
Send an anonymous letter, send something of Facebook, do whatever you want but TELL her!!!
I have personally seen the devastation caused by cheating spouses and I wouldn’t wish that nightmare on anyone. The sooner she knows the better!!!
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Wow. Some of y’all would have definitely lied to me if I reached out about y’all being with my ex (it happened once-she straight up lied about them sleeping together then said it ain’t on her to be truthful)
I say, please fucking tell me. Everyone deserves to know if their partner is a cheating pos, then guess what? It’s on that partner on if they’ll forgive and try to mend the relationship or walk away.
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My first question is, if you don’t know his wife, how do you know he is cheating? How do you know it wasn’t a “hall pass” of sorts where people in a monogamous marriage agree their spouse can have a relationship or one night stand with another person. Or maybe they have an open marriage.
If you know 100% without a doubt he is cheating, then yes tell her. BUT you better have proof of the cheating. Personally if someone I didn’t know told me my spouse is cheating, I probably wouldn’t look very hard into it. I’m not going to ruin the relationship I have with my husband, the father of my children, my best friend… because some random person told me he was cheating. I would need to see proof. And not just a photo of him with another woman. He is seen in public with his Marines frequently… so that to me wouldn’t signify cheating. It would have to be photos/video of him holding hands, making out, having sex for me to even consider he is cheating. 
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I would want someone to tell me!
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the wife has to know so she can get checked for stds and HIV.
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I would say absolutely tell her! Nothing is more embarrassing then being with someone running around. But have proof of it. Otherwise she will just think your starting drama. I wish someone would have told me instead of hiding it to find for myself.
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Make a fake number through an app and tell her. That way he won’t know it was you and there won’t be any drama at work for you.
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If you have concrete evidence please tell as it is.
M Y O B! She may already know & you would only embarrass her to know others know!
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Id want someone to tell me. Juss saying.
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Everyone deserves the truth.
Reach out on social media and explain why you’ve reached out. If she chooses not to believe you, then I’m sure she’ll still be on the lookout for signs of cheating and eventually catch him herself.
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She won’t believe you with out proof …or she knows already she not gonna believe a stranger over her husband if u want to help …come with proof
Maybe watch Netflix instead or find a Hobbie
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Woman to woman, I would want someone to tell me. And if I feel it’s something to look into, especially with proof then I will.
And as far as possibly having an open marriage, the woman could take the info you gave her, say thanks and move on with her life🤷♀️
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I was told through facebook about my husband cheating…i would much prefer to be told personally…
Tell her in any manner you have. Phone call. Text. FB. Email. Any possible way… just TELL her ASAP!
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Do it anonymously by taking pics and printing them or type up a letter. Put it in her mailbox. Wash your hands of this and stay the hell out of it.
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If you say something, it could put you out of a job. If he’s been there longer, he could claim a hostile workplace is occurring. Not a male female thing here… seniority. That would make it difficult to decide to tell or not. I’d have to admit, with things the way they are right now, I’d try to not make it my business. Unemployment doesn’t pay the bills.
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As a woman who was cheated on, please tell her. Have solid proof.
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I was told by the girl herself it took a lot of guts when I think of it now thank God she did tell me or I would of been in the dark and I made her send me all the conversations they had so I confronted him with evidence… Do the right thing hun make sure you have proof tho…
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My first question is this. “Did he cheat with you?” So now there’s this urgency for the wife to know ???
What if you tell her. She confronts husband. He denies it. She believes him??? Now what???
I would stay in my lane and mind and handle my own personal business.
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Yes tell her message her privately on Facebook if she’s on there I wish someone had told me at the time when my husband was playing away
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Tell her! I felt betrayed by everyone that knew and didn’t tell me.
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You can tell her for sure. But I’d do it anonymously if you can. You’ll be in the firing line. Also believe me when I say you can tell a woman how ‘badly behaved’ their partner is but the chances are she’ll be In denial and most likely already knows. Also remember if they have kids or things joined it’s gonna be messy and she may not be at a point in her life when she can just get rid of said waste of space.
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I would most definitely tell her but be very very careful. Since you work with him that could potentially get you fired or create a very bad work environment if he found out who it is. So do it anonymous if you can. But beware you may lose your job over it. But I would most definitely tell her an show her the proof as well if you have any.
Say not a word. Nowadays they turn on the messenger and side with the husband. You get all worked up and she’s only mad at you. No thanks
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Its important to check our own reasons for doing something like this. Is it for her that you want to tell or for yourself? Some things are not our business and are not always the best thing to do. If you are questioning yourself then you have your answer.
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Omg I’m so shocked at how many people wouldn’t want to know or would want to find out for themselves. Some men can be really convincing and avid manipulators. Would you really not want to know? I would! I would personally send her a message through FB and let her know that you are a coworker and you are in no way involved with her husband but you have witnessed it and your only telling her because if it were you you’d want to know. Why would you want to be blindly loving someone who’s unfaithful to you
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Man don’t. People react bad and blame the messenger. Even if you have pictures they’re gonna work it out and you’re the bad guy somehow
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If it were my husband. I would like to find out on my own. It never ends well when someone tells.
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I wish someone had told me when my husband was cheating. I’d suggest having some type of proof. Each woman will react differently.
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Unless you have video of him in the act,as proof,stay out of it. You have to work with him, and she will just get mad at you. He’ll lie to her about you. It really is not your business.
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Women women! Why do you want to destroy a home! All that is non of your business …let her find out herself … They say what you don’t know doesn’t hurt you "there is no one who is perfect! Maybe at home he is a good husband and we all know how men are ! …so now you want to create an enemy at work
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Your not her family .or friend ! So keep it too yourself! And if your the person he’s played hide the sausage with twice ! Don’t think by telling her ! She will throw him out to be with you ! Or even of she did that he be with you ! … and of you did end up with him …you couldn’t trust him ! How you get q man is how he leaved you !!
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Unless you have proof I’d stay out of it. It’s only going to cause you drama at work if it’s just your word against his. And then if she forgives him/doesn’t believe you, work environment will turn hostile. So yeah I wouldn’t.
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I would tell her, she deserves to know. I’d want someone to tell me if something like this happened. The truth is always best♥️
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None of your business. You do t know what kind of relationship they have. I know a guy who preferred his chick go out and do these things. Then, they’d talk about it. Then, they’d have sex… lots of times w/o her washing up in between. It was a thrill for him—and, their business. I’m not for that sort of stuff—at all. But, weren’t noneuhmahbizniss.
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Know why you want to do this because to do so could possibly end your job. Yes it is wrong that he cheats on her and you most likely do not like him and are judging him for doing so, all of that said what does it have to do with you. If she were to find out really she needs to see it with her own eyes. Frankly she most likely already know because affairs are actually hard to hide even if the person does not see them when there is and affair there is a emotional change that occurs to. she may have not figured everything out but knows something is going on. But I would be careful if I were you because as much as you think your helping her you could be hurting yourself. Do not play with fire you may get burned in doing so. You do not know if this man is crazy or not.
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I have been in this situation. It was not easy but I told her face to face. She is my best friend and her husband is my husbands best friend. He was cheating on his wife with a girl I knew and who his wife knew as well( local coffee shop girl). The coffee shop girl told me about it and I told my friend. We both cried. They split up for a while but that was 5 years ago and now they are stronger than ever. They did marriage counseling and worked everthing out. I’m glad I told her and her husband was glad I told her too. It has brought us all closer as friends/family.
If you are not close to them then you need to stay out of it. I will only say something if I have concrete proof and if it’s my best friend’s. Other than that it’s none of my business.
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If she’s not a close friend just let it go. Today’s world they could have arrangements within the marriage. Or she could be one of those needy ladies that really already knows.
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LOL yeah just like people don’t stop when someone’s being beaten up physically - it’s not our business. People don’t have morals anymore they want lies and unfaithfulness instead of truth and self love.
if this was me, I would want to be loved enough by a stranger to be told my husbands unfaithful of course it’s going to hurt and 50/50 end a relationship but it was already ruined when he went dipping elsewhere. Dang I’m shocked at some of the advice lol
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Definitely tell her! Have witnessed this and its worth it, good luck xx
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I would message her and just let her know that you want her to know what’s going on woman to woman cause you would want someone to tell you if it were the other way around
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I have done twice and each time they thanked me and told me they wish they were more women supporting each other.
1 even knocked on my door, i had never met her and she hugged me, cried, thanked me.
Do what you feel is right but if you work w the guy, protect your identity. Thank you for looking out for other women! If this was my marriage i would want to know because i wouldn’t want to be in a marriage like that!!
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You don’t. It’s not any of your business. Believe me when I tell you she suspects or knows. Do you want your job? Take care of your own relationship and pray you’re not being cheated on.
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I would want to know for sure … but maybe not from a complete stranger …very hard situation …
Tell her. I would want to know. I had to find out myself in a previous relationship even though everyone knew. No one told me. She deserves to know her husband isn’t faithful.
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Stay out of others personal lives. She either knows and is unfortunately putting up with it or she’s totally clueless and it will destroy her.
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Everyone saying MYOB , even if she doesn’t know her or him very well or at all it’s still something she needs to know ( the wife ) . He could bring home a STD or even get the woman pregnant , he’s probably very abusive too and she’s scared to leave but really needs a reason . I would want someone to tell me.
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I was so it under a diff name so it doesn’t mess up your job are anything I would want to know as well. Just don’t let it cost you your family and your job cause if he does find out it can cause a lot of issues be careful
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For those concerned that “it’s not going to end well” —no sh-t. He’s cheating, it’s not meant to end well.
Someone is going to be mad and that’s ok. The cheating spouse chose that. What the betrayed spouse does with that info is up to her.
Cheating never ends well!! She deserves to know.
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If its not effecting your family I’d leave well alone 
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The only reason I could imagine you know this and want to tell her is because you’re the one he cheated with.
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That’s a no go! You don’t know the details and if she doesn’t leave you’re going to be the cause of a lot of hard times ahead. Don’t insert yourself. If you can’t help yourself then make it anonymous.
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I would want to know. But sometimes people get mad at you for telling them something they already know or they would rather see for themselves. I had A Cousin that boyfriend cheated on her on the regular. I saw him often with other females and I know he would take females to her home while she was at work. Although we weren’t close I wanted to tell her so bad. But my MoM told me to just mind my business and leave it alone. So that’s just what I did.
Why do you want to tell her?
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I would tell her how understanding she is that she lets her husband go to dinner with other people… like it was innocent… maybe it was… let her take it from there… let her know how you would not be so understanding like she is. They must have a strong marriage… bla bla bla… then you said nothing wrong… how did you catch the man cheating??
Its none of your business to go out of your way to ruin her marriage. How do you even know he cheated for sure? How do you know the parameters of their marriage? It seems like you just want to stir someones pot.
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Stay out of it. Mind your business. You hardly know the woman so you hardly know the woman’s or the marriages situation.
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Not your husband or marriage, not your business…just stay out of it
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Are y’all out of your fing minds? Don’t tell her?!?!? OP please RUN to tell this woman! My ex cheated. THANK GOD I did not get his incurable STD! Think of what you might be saving her from. Most people who have a cheating spouse suspect beforehand but can’t prove it. Help her.
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Unless the woman is a best friend, stay out of it
Idk about y’all but I would want someone to tell me of course with the proof but if I didn’t find out on my own it’d be appreciative if someone stepped up with proof of it
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I definitely would want someone to tell me if I’m being cheated on.
So I can kick him to the curb!
should tell her.
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How do you know they aren’t in an open relationship? Mind your business
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Mind your business. You don’t know their arrangement. They could be poly or have an open marriage.
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She won’t believe you and unless you know her really well you better do that anonymously or not at all she probably already suspects it.
I would like to know and I would appreciate evidence. If you’re worried about the kick back with a coworker then I’d create a fake profile and send a super detailed message. Include dates, times, names, phone numbers, pics— EVERYTHING. Include it all and invite her to ask questions.
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Not your monkey’s, not your circus.
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If you have proof maybe tell her. If not then don’t.
I would want someone to tel me!!! Mail her proof w no way to track it back to u.
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Just tell her. I would want to know!
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Are you one of the people he cheated with? That won’t win him. Besides he is a cheater, you would lose anyway
You don’t say a word because it’s not your place.
Stay out of it and don’t get involved. He’ll say they were just good friends! #oncebitten
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You should just keep your nose to yourself and not worry about it
What world do we live in.
…why wouldn’t you want to know even if someone else told you. Either way this person finds out her husband cheated on her is gona hurt
…not every person who tells someone has a hidden agenda some people feel the other person should know they don’t deserve that kind of betrayal and disrespect it’s awful.
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Unless you have proof, don’t. Most woman will not believe a stranger unless there is proof. And without proof, he could easily tell his wife you are just saying that because you are jealous 
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I wound message her, I wound want to know too
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All I know is that if someone was cheating on me, I would like to know!
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Id want to know. Send her a letter anonymously
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Don’t waste your time. Most women will trust their husband over a stranger. You’ll be made out the bad guy. It likely isn’t his first or last time. She’ll find out eventually if she doesn’t already know.
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To all of you saying you would want to know…
Imagine a stranger walking up and claiming that your husband has cheated a couple times in the past couple years.
Are you really going to believe this random stranger over your husband’s word? Especially if you trust your husband and there’s been no warning signs?
If you are not close friends with this woman then stay out of it. Eventually a cheating man will get caught up.
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Anyway tell her anyway you want it’s never going to feel right but tell her !
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Simple mind your own business. Maybe she allowed it. Never get involved
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It’s not your place to inform her… stay out of it
Stay out of it. It’s not your business.
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Stay out of it. It’s none of your business.
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Nothing good can come of your involvement. Trust me YOU will end up being vilified for efforts
Telling someone you do not know a personal detail is not your place anytime.