How should I handle this morning bus issue we have?

Bus stops (long post)) :: so my daughter has been taking the bus since September. The street the bus comes on is technically a private road into a gated community. There are signs that say private road , no parking , no stopping . There is a resident who’s walked her dog passed my car at least 2x a week staring at me and my daughter and hadn’t said anything in 6 MONTHS. Last Thursday she decided to stop me as I’m turning on the road to do a 3 point turn and stop with space for cars to get around and get to stop sign with my hazards on. She stopped me and said you can’t park here this a private rd , there’s signs , asking me if I live across street and telling me there is a bus stop closer yo me (there isn’t one closer) & telling me where & that her neighbor goes to that one, or tells me I need to strap my child in and take her to school. First off she doesn’t even know what school my child goes to, to be telling me bus stops. She tried to drive away after I said then why is it a bus stop then? This was last Thursday. Friday I had promised my daughter I’d take her to school as they were selling donuts in car line. This morning she wasn’t there and mind ylu she was in her car last week waiting by the gate and as soon as I pulled in she comes out and stops me. Like stalker much. Anyways my next thing is could she call the cops on me for parking there for 5 min or less? Mind you I’ve had a cop who lives where she lives pass me going In And out of there and have never said anything. Bus comes between 650-655 like clock work. 0-1 car pass me a morning with no issues. Why wait 6 months ? So Thursday we come to find out she’s the mother of a little girl in my daughter class and the little girl brought it up to my child. My question is Would i get a warning from an officer or a ticket ? Should she call school transportation if it’s a problem? Anyone with law back ground please answer. My next thing is if she tries to come to me again I’ll be recording the whole thing as well. As I do have a karate background and will defend myself and daughter if need be but would like it recorded becasue I wouldn’t do anything unless she started it . Any advice is welcome !

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. How should I handle this morning bus issue we have?

I would call the transportation department at the school.

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Nope, keep doing your thing. If it’s an issue let her call the police and all they can do is ask you to move if your wrong.

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Call transportation department of the bus 1st ask what they would advise to do, if they aren’t any help reach out to the police non emergency line ask them the same question.

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Why do you bring her to the bus stop in your car? Can’t you walk her to the bus?

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Keep doing what you are doing. I highly doubt a cop would say anything about you sitting at a bus stop. I’d also report the child saying something to your daughter to the school administrators. It sounds like this person has nothing better to do with her time.

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You arent parked if you are in the car and its running. Ignore her.

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Are you inside the gated community? If not you are okay no worries, and if you are they let you in so again no worries, I live in one, the approach is public right up to the gate and if the guard lets you in well you are golden inside too.

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Tell her politely to eat a bag of male genitalia, and continue your morning routine. She can call the school, the transport company and whoever tf she wants. Not your problem that a bus stop is there lol.

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It’s not illegal to park at the bus stop. Honestly if a cop did say something and you explained you were there to take your kid to the bus they won’t say anything. Your child is on that bus everyday, they legally have to go to school. And as I said before, it’s not illegal to be parked there.

I’d tell her to mind her own damn business

Forget about Karen. Just keep doing your morning routine. If she don’t like it and attacks u, defend yourself. Keep your window up and ignore her. That will really fry someone like her.

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I would call the school and see if they have any advice.

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Why is she involving her daughter? Yikes, that woman sounds problem

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Let her call the cops then she will look like the ass when they do nothing about it.

Shes a Karen, do not engage.

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Maybe I’m the odd ball but there is a no parking or stopping and it’s a private road. I’m confused as to why you feel entitled to park on a private road with a no parking or stopping sign?! You said yourself you PARK for 5 min. I get where you’re coming from but why don’t you have to follow the signs? What example is that teaching your child?

I’d call transportation and find out how to resolve it.

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I’d tell her to mind her damn business.

I would just tell her to call the police on you and for her to call the bus transportation yard and record everything if it continues call the police for harassment your doing what your afost to be doing it’s up to transportation to move the bus stop not you if the transportation tells you that where your bus stop is then that where it is you can’t do anything about it truly you can also call the police department and if they have extra police men available at that time they can have them drive by or watch for that person to harassing you to do tell her it’s your issues so call the police

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I would tell her mind her business and if she calls, then she calls :woman_shrugging:t4:. They will tell you if you need to move. Do what you do and let her miserable self be miserable.

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If thats where the bus stop is for your daughter than u have every right to be there. Walking ,driving doesn’t matter you seem like u wait in a spot thats not effecting anyone so why should she care does she think your staking out houses lololol

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You need to ask locally. This is very specific. Laws are different everywhere and some places are more stringent than others. Is the woman being extreme? For sure. But if you want a good legal answer you need to ask your HOA, call and ask your local police, or at least post in a local FB group.

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The New adventures of Old Christine. On Facebook :joy: Don’t worry about the nosy neighbor that’s trying to cause problems. Do what you’ve been doing for the last six months without issues. If you’re sitting in the car the most an officer would do is tell you to move if you shouldn’t be there. Let’s hope those karate lessons don’t need to pay off.

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Find out if it’s a legit private road. If it is then you are needing to move where you park and wait. I find it weird she’s waited this long but these days approaching people can get you killed. I’d of sat there and ignored her :woman_shrugging:t2:

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If you feel threatened call the police. Also, call the school in reference to the bus stop.

I’m assuming the bus is school transport and it probably has permission to stop there for child safety reasons. I doubt you’re allowed to be there in your car though if its a private road. Police would be the best folk to ask .

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If there is a no parking no stopping sign I would bring up the issue with transportation…I’m sure they can find another stop to pick up your daughter…

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This lady needs a new morning routine that doesn’t involve minding other people’s business. That being said, this might be an Unpopular opinion but if the street is private and has no parking or stopping signs you should probably find a different place to park because if she does call the cops that’s a traffic violation and you don’t wanna pay a ticket because some lady has a stick up her A**.

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Do what you gotta do if she starts her shit tell her to suck your left big toe

If it was me, I’d tell “karen” to f*ck off and then proceed to throw an empty bud light can at her.

Ignore the old hag. Tell her if she has problem to call whoever she wants to but to stay out of your face and out of your business.

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id would personally go tell her to eat a dick :woman_shrugging:t3:

I had a similar issue where the bus stop was at a spot that we were having to park on the side of the road in front of someone’s house. The people harassed us (me and other parents) and called the cops. The cops told them that the schools handle bus stop locations and that as a parent we had no control. The cop told the owners to pick an area for us to park and we could only park in that area. I then took an incident report to the school board and they moved the bus stop. It took a couple weeks to have the stop moved but in the end our kids weren’t scared the mean old man wasn’t going to come out and start screaming like a lunatic again

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I wouldn’t stress the Karen. Simply ignore her.

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So if it’s private road, gated street why is it a bus stop if they DONT want people on it? If it’s the bus stop that daughter is to ride or if accommodations were made for her to ride that bus in that area TELL THE LADY TO CALL THE TRANSPORTATION DEPARTMENT OF SCHOOL and they can tell her if she has no kids it’s none of her business and that if it wasn’t a stop THEY WPULD NOT BE PICKING UP STUDENTS! GET A JOB LADY AND THEN YOU WOULDNT KNOW WHATS GOING ON! HATE THESE KIDS OF PEOPLE! They are the “PERFECT” ONES.

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This was about 20 yrs ago as my kids are grown now but in the county we lived in quite a ways from town, one lady without kids threw a big enough fit to make the bus stop on the highway rather than come down our dirt road to keep the kids safe!
There were private road signs BUT my father in law owned the road and gave his permission to the school for the bus to use it! In the end though she got her way and our kids were put in danger as the bus had to stop on the highway to load and unload kids.

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She’s a Karen apparently. If the bus comes to the stop and takes your child no one police will bother you

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This is something you should check on locally. A simple call to the police department will clear this all up. After doing that, if she addresses the issue with you, simply tell her you’ve already gotten clarification as to if you can stop there while waiting on the bus.

In my opinion, it would be one thing if you were parking your car there all day long every day, but for 10 minutes while waiting on your daughters bus… she needs to pull the stick out of her ass.

Alternatively, you can contact the department of transportation and check to see if there is another stop near you, where the neighbors might be less Karen-like.

If you’re genuinely worried, just call the non emergency number for your local police department. They will probably be able to help you better than anyone else. I would also film any interactions with her. Best of luck😊

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I wonder how pathetic and lonely these peoples lives are to worry and take up their time over someone waiting with their child at a bus stop.

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Call the transportation office and tell them your problem, and they should fix the problem, in my state I pay school taxes.

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Gosh, first world problems huh?

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If its private property than you have no right to be there, she can get a restaring order on you. I would get ahold of the bus company asap and let them know, good luck to you

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Tell her to call the cops .it’s a bus stop! And the fact that she is involving her child is a disgrace!

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Well technically your car isn’t parked if you’re in it while car is still running, hazard lights on. If the sign reads; No stoping, standing, or parking an officer could give you a warning or a ticket. But if the sign just reads no parking you aren’t violating the law.
I’d call the school superintendent to discuss your child and her designated bus stop and the difficulties you’re experiencing and maybe they can help you with alternatives. In addition I would write down the woman’s license plate and then report her for harassment to the police. However, this will only be viewed in your favor so long as you do not get physical or abusive in anyway.

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First find out if it is a private road, if it isn’t, tell that Karen that you have the right to use that bus stop and if she continues you will make a report for harassment

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That Karen needs a hobby and a life

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Tell her to go sit her ass down somewhere, I live in a gated community ( private roads ) she don’t own the road & can’t tell you where to park. All damn cars have to stop for the bus anyway.

It’s the karate part for me :rofl: I hope you post the video :rofl:

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I am a Great Grandma and I have a bus stop in front of my house. Love hearing the kids laughing and waiting in the mornings. I also watch when parents aren’t present to make sure they are safe. What kind of an adult is this pitiful woman?

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The street I live in and community I live in has a bus stop just like this. My take is… those kids are our community kids and I watch out for them too. Often time cars are parked near my home as I’m closest to the bus stop. I have seen many cars trun around, speed etc… however never once thought negative about parents doing best for kids. I would bring up to scholl cause it’s not something the kid should if confronted about. Bullying. Private road or not, it’s a public bus stop.

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You have legal business to be there. It doesn’t matter if it’s private. She doesn’t own the road. You can be in private areas with legal business (like amazon delivering a package, water company checking fountains and even dropping kits off at bus stops.) private streets and communities just mean you can’t be there for no reason, you HAVE TO have legitimate legal business.

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Just tell her to mind her own business just ignore her tell her it’s a free country and go ahead and call the police

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Call and ask the police via non emergency about if it is an issue. If it isn’t you can ask non emergency also if they could accompany you to the bus stop as there is an issue with harassment. Also speak to the scho and let them know of the issues and to have her daughter moved away from yours if she keeps involving her kid.

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Well if that’s where the bus stop is, she needs to take it up with the transportation department at the school not you. You have no control over that. If she calls the cops qnd they actually come you can tell them you are waiting on your child to get off of the bus. Heck, go to transportation yourself and have them print off that route and show it to both her and the cop. The cop will tell her to chill and go take it up with transportation. And I’m a stay at home mom and take my kids, but that wasn’t always the case and I had to deal with this and I even lived on the road. Some people just having nothing better to do. Now I let my neighbors park in my driveway so their kids don’t have to cross the road. And I have no problem with it. I rather them park in my drive way or yard even so their kids are safe and don’t have to cross the road.

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Just be preemptive. Walk into the local police station and tell them what’s going on. IF she owns the road, like it’s her front yard and you are trespassing then yeah it’s rude of you. I’ll play devils advocate and say yeah you don’t belong there and are taking advantage of someone’s private property. I’m willing to bet there’s another less convenient bus stop your daughter can get on the bus. How would you feel if someone came and parked in your driveway everyday. Just saying.

School bus driver here.

Tell your Karen here to call the bus company if she has a problem. Usually these stops are planned out with the city and with safety in mind.

I, driving the bus have had people come out to tell me to “change the stop” and I say no can do , call the bus yard…

I was turning around on a road that goes into a neighborhood but not going into the neighborhood and the people living up there called the cops on me several times. For turning around a SCHOOL BUS. they lost that battle.
I have also had people come out and yell at me for kids waiting at the corner of the street to where their house happened to be. Said he doesn’t want them waiting there. I said “call the bus yard, gave him the number.” He was pissed like dude trying to do my job here…on a schedule. Write it in your diary. Tell your therapist. I have to go peace.

The things the general public complain about are INSANE. no the police won’t do anything about that. If it is a genuine breaking of any law/rule they will take it up with the company who set the stops. Not you.

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I would say,
“This is where I’ve been told by the school to drop off and pick up my child. I didn’t choose this stopping area. If you think something is amiss, take it up with the transportation department at the school.”

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Ignore that Karen an laugh an continue to do what u feel is rite the school or bus driver doesn’t have a problem wit your parking

Tell her to call the Bus transportation office if she has a problem. Until they say otherwise you’ll be at the stop EVERYDAY.

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So call the non emergency police number and tell them the situation and ask them. Get a name so you can say I talked to so and so of such and such police. They told me this. Please leave me alone, just getting my child on the bus where the school told me to. Call the police if she keeps harassing you .

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School bus driver here, tell her to take it up with transportation department. Even if she calls the cops, they won’t do anything. You’re dropping your child off at your designated bus stop. Guarunteed, cops are already aware of you sitting there for the bus. People are ridiculous sometimes.

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I just want to know who’s going to be recording while you’re doing your karate? :joy::joy:

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Karate background though :rofl::rofl::rofl:

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They can’t do anything if that’s the bus stop you have to take your daughter to. If it’s a problem then they need to change the bus stop. I don’t think the cops would do anything since it’s not technically parked since your sitting in the car.

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I wouldn’t pay any attention to the Karen. my problem would be her child saying something to my child at school. I’d have to confront her mom and threaten to report HER for harassment if her or her daughter approach either of you in any type of negative way.

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Ready to throw some ty-kawn-doooo hands! If karen gets in my face one more time, I’m dropping that mother! Lol

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Anybody can call the police for anything. They do it all the time. But no cop is going to do anything about a car parked there for 5 minutes waiting on the school bus. If that’s where your daughters bus stop is, there’s nothing you can do about it.

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Just tell her the jersey way. While giving her the middle tell her to fuck off

:joy: what does karate have anything to do with this. Are you saying your going to fight this woman? Or karate chop an officer? :rofl: how old is your kid and how far from your house is the stop that you have to drive to the stop with her instead of walking if you know there’s no parking signs?

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If you’re that worried about it call your local PD non emergency number and ask! God, this isn’t a matter fornfacebook.

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Tell her to go mind her own damn business & if it’s that big a problem go tell the police & school about it. Daily. (She will be in trouble for wasting resources I promise.)

& Don’t forget the “Have a nice day, now toodles” with a wink & a wave :rofl:

Also gather any school paperwork stating that’s your child’s bus stop & leave it in your car, just to show any officer that may stop due to the calls.

I guess your hands are rated “E” for everybody :woman_shrugging:t3: just continue doing what you’re doing. If LEO’s have passed you previously and haven’t said anything, then I don’t think you have anything to worry about. Also, please make sure you have your phone set up with a good view because I absolutely MUST see these sweet karate moves.

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She needs to call the schools transportation department if she has a problem with it. Or you call and tell them that your daughter’s stop is on a private road and that you’re being harassed by residents because of it.

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First of all, if any LEO gives a citation for waiting at an identified bus stop, they need to find something better to do. I’d call law enforcement if that lady keeps harassing you. She has zero right to keep approaching you.

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I’m always in the fire lane and by the stop sign parked…idk if it’s my sour look at 730 in the morning but nobody gives me dirty looks anymore. I mean they did when we first moved here but even the constable that lives behind me a few streets back just waves and goes about his merry day lol

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The key point here is that you’re on private property you don’t have permission to be on. Legally you’re in the wrong. The cop goes past you because the owner of that property doesn’t complain. But if they do that same cop will ticket you for trespassing. The school transportation is at fault here. You need to talk to them. You should’ve brought this to their attention in September. A lot of companies use GPS systems to set routes without actually driving them. Sometimes those programs will send you onto private property or the wrong way down a 1 way. The driver & you both saw the signs. Neither if you brought this to the transportation office. Asking why it took her 6 mos to say anything is the same as her wondering why you haven’t taken steps to change this in 6 mos. She shouldn’t be bringing the children into it though. This is an adult matter. Contact the teacher as well as the transportation Dept. Inform her that this child is bullying your child at her mother’s command.

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First, I’d call the school superintendent, and find out where the bus stop for your address actually is it stop.
If that is where they say to have her(your daughter), then she(nosey neighbor) has no leg to stand on. If they tell you she (you daughter) has access to one at a different cross street, take her to that one.
If this woman has issues enough, to have her kid address your kid in school, then I would find the best way to avoid conflict. If they are classmates now, unless you plan on moving I assume they will be classmates for several more years to come, and that will be a lot of crap for your daughter to deal with.

First world problems

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Lol lol, the karate part though

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You sound exausting to be honest.

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Are you inside the gate?

The private road does not start until the gate. Otherwise the gate would be where you park. Call your city council member have them check. Pretty sure your ok. They wouldn’t send the bus there without prior approval.

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LOVE THE KARATE PART!!!:joy::joy::joy:! STICK TO YOUR GUNS!!! By the way having her daughter mention it to your daughter is HARRASSMENT!!! She had no right to do that…tell her you will report her if her daughter does it again!

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I’m stuck on the part where she tells you that you need to strap your kid in. Is your kid not wearing a seat belt? Does her school not assign a bus stop to her?

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Are there other kids at the stop? Other cars? I could see if there were multiple cars maybe being a problem but of it only you then everything everyone else has said.

You grow a set and you tell her to mind her fkn business and to stop getting children involved in her petty bs. Tell her if she doesn’t like where your parked see can suck a bag of dks and move on with her life.

It’s the “karate background” for me :sweat_smile::joy::joy::joy::joy::joy::joy::joy:

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Tell her to mind her own damn business. Sometimes people who stick their nose where it doesn’t belong get more than they bargained for.

So you can take your child to school when they’re selling donuts but can’t drop her off on the other days? ?:thinking::face_with_raised_eyebrow:avoid unnecessary drama or stress

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Well before you go karate choppin people, tell her to call the bus company if she has such a big problem with where the designated bus stop is. Otherwise, back the fck off and stop stalking you.

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If there is a sign that says the bus stop and street are private then you’ll likely get a ticket.

So the actual bus stop is inside the private road? Is it because kids from that road go in the bus cause it shouldn’t be there as just a normal bus stop. Idk she can call the police I guess but I think the only thing they would do is give you a warning saying you can be in there. If that’s the case then you could contact the school or whoever to tell them about this bus stop. Idk why people like to act this way. Like where I live some people don’t want you parking in front of their house but it’s a public road. You can park wherever you want.

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Call school transportation to report to he issue. Call me he of lice to report the issue and ask suggestions. Talk to the principal. Rill up your window and don’t reply. Do photo and tape conversations. Don’t try to drown her out with the radio. You’re teaching your daughter integritiy

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Most schools have assigned stops. If you were given this corner for your child then its assigned to her. Leave your windows up and ignore her.

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I have no idea how odd? I would contact that police officer and ask why is there some problem all of a sudden?

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Another Karen at the bus stop :rofl: I love that you know karate :joy: that’s the best part

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Let her call the cops if she does. Most likely they won’t do anything for bus drop off/pick up. If you do record her make sure she’s aware that you are because in some states it’s illegal to record someone without their knowledge. Also, I doubt she’s going to physically attack you over this, she’s just being a Karen

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I drove a school bus up until last October. Everywhere is going to be different as to how to handle this, so do please realize that as you read these responses. Literally no two school districts/corporations handle or do things the same. With that said, if one of my parents told me this was going on I would advise them to call the Director of Transportation and talk to him/her about what happened. We have our own security (that are typically retired or previous police officers) that are always immediately on-call when buses are running. In our county they would more than likely have this security sit with you for a few days to see if this lady did this again, or so she could see the security and hopefully put two-and-two together and realize you’ve spoken to people and they know what is going on and she will leave you alone. It is your daughter’s right to ride that bus. Don’t let this woman bully you into keeping her from riding. Here is another important thing to note too - if that bus is coming down a private road then trabsportation has gotten permission from the owner(s) to be able to do that. At least here where I am at we have to have permission to go onto private property. We can’t just do it.

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Oh some people !!! :woman_facepalming:
Wasn’t an issue six months ago so why now LOL ! Contact someone , school , bus company , police and get answers .

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