You need to do what you would tell your daughter or best friend to do!! If you decide to stay remember time stands still for no man/woman and it will cost you, are you willing to pay the price!??
He starts crying? Umā¦ Why is he 
ng if he isnāt doing anything wrong? That is not normal.
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Would he like it if you did that?
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I think he needs counseling.
He is lying. Leave while its still early. Otherwise u will feel stuck and be will continue
Do you really have to ask that question?
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If you keep forgiving him and letting sh** go, heās gonna keep doing it
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You need to say goodbye and go! A child will not fix anything and his crying is 100% manipulation! You deserve better hun, go have that baby in a peaceful state of mind without his crap. It hurts but itās much better than the same cycle continuing to be his doormat and letting your health and your lives on the line sleeping around.
just leave stop putting yourself through this pain.
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Documented all take pictures get a printout from your phone company of numbers heās used take him to court and use his actions to have supervised visit with kid donāt marry him. Take videos when he cryās and says sorry get him a role on daytime soaps
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I am sorry you are in this unenviable position I donāt have any answers but I can say One thing No matter how much love the two of you have ----- when trust is gone Everything else starts to go too 
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If He has not done it yet he will
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Leave, file for child support!! Or stay and be miserable
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It seems that the trust is gone and he has no respect for you if itās continuing to be an issue you have talked to him about it more than once what he us doing is gaslighting you and thatās not good blaming a co worker for a phone call on his phone? Yeah no I call bull shit you need to do what is best for you and your child and sorry but he doesnāt seem to be it
Heās only crying to get out of it heās def up to no good and you def deserve better
RUN. Sounds like a manipulator.
Why would he be interested in escorts if he wasnāt willing to do anything with them
Literally No1 keeps ālooking them upā just because. If he was curious it would be onceā¦ More than once isnāt curiousity its more than that. Also blaming a coworker ask him who?! Tell him you wanna know which coworker it was so u can cofront him. Bet he will change his chune very quickly or make up another lame excuse.
He is a liar.
He is disrespecting you and your child.
But also, what you allow will continue. Only you know him unfortunately and only you can make the decision to put an end to it or to keep putting up with this. Good luck
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get rid of him pronto #NoOffense
Whoa. What liar. 
Leave nowā¦ itās not going to change or talk to the co worker. Then leave.
Leave him so
Many red flags
This relationship is DONE, he will never stop and is cheating.
Boy-o-Boyā¦.he sure cryās a lotā¦.RUN 
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Hes doing it because you are allowing him to do it! He cries and you stay with him. Leave him! Respect yourself and your child enough to walk away from someone that clearly doesnāt care about your feelings.
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So I went through a similar situation. Just leave now. He will continue his patern and destroy you in the process
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Trust me youāll be questioning everything he does itās not worth it. Once the trust has been broken itās really hard to get it back. Good luck
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He is a twat. That is all.
Seriously though, he sounds like a massive bellend who is playing you with the fake ātearsā because heās been caught, a bit like a child when you tell them off and they cry.
Iād personally leave his sorry arse to his escorts he has to pay to want to spend time with him 
.
Heās a loser and will never change.
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Leave him if you done caught him that many times!
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Time to go. Try to stay cordial for the babyās sakeā¦ so you can parent together in the best interest of the baby. But if you canāt you canāt. If heās that curious, he doesnāt love you. Time to leave and heal up from this before getting involved again. You have a baby now. Protect him at all costs.
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I donāt understand why you decided to reproduce with him on the first place
You caught him BEFORE you even got pregnant and stayed 
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Be clearly isnt going to stop so the decision to leave or stay is yours
Leave, itās not going to get Better 
trust me when I say he will never stop, you could forgive him and he could stop for a bit but 2 years down the road itāll come out
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Run for the damn hills
To me, it sounds like he may be a sex addict. If you donāt leave, I fear it would only bring you more heartbreak.
Reread your post! Itās happened how many times now? You know the answer you donāt need all these people telling you what to do
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Apparently, you are not tired of his BS
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Leave quit wasting your time he sounds like a narcissistā¦ You know you need to leave
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He knows all he has to do is cry and youāll forgive him. He wonāt stop until HE wants to stop.
Heās a lying sack of 
, ruuuun
Better leave now. Than get your heart broken even more 
Girl he is using that crying front to appeal to the sympathetic side of us being female. Dump his ass and move on.
Girllll leave !!! Crying every freaking time ?? He fooled you twice this third one should be the icing on the cake !!! Leave and be happy with yourself and baby.
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He isnāt going to change. The majority of cheaters usually donāt. You deserve better than that.
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Iām reading an entry to my diary. This hurts. Just move on the pain will never go away.
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Real simple,tell him to take his lying crying ass down the road!!!
Pick up your dignity and walk away. Itās called self worth!!
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Your stupid, if he did it once he probably going to do it again. Does it twice he not going to stop. So you better get a life
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Just stop searching up his phone!
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It sounds like you donāt trust him if you are searching his phone ? Why stay in a relationship if you canāt trust the other person? You shouldnāt stay in a relationship where you are not even getting basic human rights. The question you need to ask yourself is if you would do this to another person? If the answer is no then why are you swallowing it from him? I have always loved the saying that actions speak louder then words. People can lie actions however will always show you what they are. Take away what he has told you and look at what he has done. Best of luck to you
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Obviously he is a liarā¦ pretty sure u already know u need to be done.
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If you arenāt going anywhere, and believe in his blatant lies, and crocodile tears, then just go ahead and let that man cheat in peace.
You both know you arenāt going anywhere, so why put all this extra agitation out there? Stop going through his phone, if you arenāt going to do anything with the information that you get.
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Wake up if heās looking he is not fully interested into u anymore
Heās an idiot and you need to leave him.
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Youāve given him wayyy too many chances to change and be the man heās supposed to be. It seems pretty obvious heās not going to change. He cries and plays to your feelings bc he knows youāll forgive him but itās all an act. If you continue the relationship youāll eventually grow to resent him and eventually heāll disgust you. Not to mention if thereās no trust youāll wake up every day worried about what he may be doing and thatās no way to live. Sounds to me that the choice is obvious and you know that in your heart. Sometimes love is not all you need in a relationship. You can love him all you can but it has to go both ways. You already know what to do. Stop fighting it and trust yourself.
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Get out, it will only get worse and you will only stay hurt and now there is a child in this. If you get out and move on then you can finally breath without having to play FBI and your child wonāt grow up in a non trusting home.
He is steadily lying and covering it with fake tears because he was caught. You KNOW he isnāt going to change. It is up to you to make your choiceā¦BUT personally, I would leave and NEVER look back. Too many lies and too much nonsenseā¦
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Get an education. Leave the guy you simply cannot trust (heās not trustworthy). Live on your own. Find someone you can trust. (Make him pay child support.)
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LEAVE. He is a lying POS. And, he is gaslighting you. Crying? Curious? CLASSIC NARCISSISTIC BEHAVIOR
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There isnāt a co worker using his phone, period. Obviously heās not going to stop, I just hope in the future he doesnāt bring you home a STD.
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When people have kids to āsaveā relationships
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His tears seem to come from being sorry he was caught, not sorry that heās hurt you again. Thereās an old saying: 'Screw me once, shame on you; screw me twice, shame on me." I donāt think heās gonna change, sweetie. I do, however, think you deserve better. Good luck to you.
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If you donāt see the pattern by now, itās because you donāt want to. Walk away and make him take responsibility for his actions and grow up. If you keep feeding the bad behavior, it will never change.
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Are. You serious
Be self caring
He wonāt change
What about std as well
Your a mother now. You need to make more mature decisions for your kid. Life is no longer about you or him or the games. You need to grow up and start action your position. You chose to be a mother. Your kid did not chose to have your problems in his/her life. Do you chose to subject your kid to these rediculous wasteful problems that doesnāt concern him or her. You need to start asking the right questions. You already know the guys is a loser. He will never change and thatās period. Now the next step is your kid safety. You need to ask what I need to provide food, shelter and better life for my kid so he or she doesnt grow up to be like the bio dad. Ive been a single mom since the first day my kid was born. Iāve completed college during the past 10 years, and started my own company. I know its possible when you put your kid first
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You already know the answer. Leave.
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Get out before he brings you home something you cant get rid of girl!
Hes lying & blaming a co-worker no heās doing it not good at hiding it or he wants you to find it & leave. I canāt tell you what to do but I would leave him, cause heās going to keep doing it. I would not keep forgiving & let him know Iām leaving
Thatās a STUPID question.
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leave. heās only crying to guilt you into stayingā¦ trying to make you feel bad for him when heās the one lying. been there and it never got any better, eventually he ended up physically cheating on me. if I knew then what I know now, I never would have stuck around for it to escalate passed all of the sobbing guilt trips. heās not sorry that he did it, heās only sorry that he got caught. had he been genuinely sorry and felt guilty about it, he wouldnāt have done it 2+ more times.
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You should leave his sorry ass
Leave while the baby doesnāt know him.
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LEAVE hes lying at this point if you stay he will continue to cheat.
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Leave. A friend of mine went through the same. He was living a double life. Your best bet is to walk away and co parent.
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Are they escort agencies he is looking up , a $$ per min phone chat sex line or a porn site like porn hub ?
A lot of guys and gals use a sex hotline and sex hub
But that doesnāt always mean they are cheating on their spouses
You got two choices keep believing his crying lying butt or leave his crying lying butt ā¦by keep forgiving him is telling him itās ok because thereās no consequences for his actions he cryās and says heās sorry ,blames others people and you forgive him every time ā¦the next step is he is going to cheat ,cry lie, blame you and than you will forgive him because after all heās your "baby daddy "
Leave him!! He wonāt quit. Since you keep taking him back he now thinks that all he has to do is cry, say sorry, and that he was just curious and youāll stay. One of these days heāll actually go through with it if he hasnāt already. He could get an std and give it to you. Iād leave asap!
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Wow! Guy needs to admit he has a problem, and you need to leave.
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Take your baby and leave.
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Leave. You communicated your feelings and he continues to disrespect you and your feelings.
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He would cheat on you in heartbeat sorry just being honest
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He might have a sex addiction. Just like thereās Alcoholics Anonymous for alcohol and other addicts, thereās Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) for sex addicts. Encourage him to attend meetings virtually or in person. For you, thereās S-Anon (for family and friends of sexaholics). He really also needs therapy with someone who specializes in sex addiction.
Note that heās also welcome at AA and youāre welcome at Al-Anon. They have meetings all the time. Best wishes.
Get rid of him he will never change
Believe what heās telling you mate. Walk the hell away and find a way to love YOU again. Your baby will give you all of the love you could ever search for. Make the decision for him. You canāt compromise on things like that doll youāve already told him it upsets you. Heās telling you he doesnāt see a problem. Crying doesnāt mean shit if he keeps doing it. Itās just a manipulation tactic. If the shoe was on the other foot would he be happy? Make it very clear what you want from him moving forward. Iād already be out the door myself
You already have a baby to take care ofā¦ Do you really want 2? Heās acting like a child and wonāt own up to it. Itās not your job to help him be a better person and partner to you. He needs to sort out his priorities.
Next he will be accusing you of cheating!!
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If you have to keep checking his accounts, then there is no trust. Why do you stayā¦
Doing the same thing and expecting a different result will just keep you in this cycle of you not trusting him, investigating, finding lies and cheating, remorse and crying (more lies) and you forgiving him.
You need to love yourself and your child more. Stop accepting this. Leave and try to be happy, find a man that wants to be in a real whole relationship.
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Heās straight up gaslighting you and has shown that his tears and apologies man absolutely nothing. And the āwonāt let me leaveā partā¦ are you safe hun? He doesnāt get to decide if you leave or stay, that is purely your decision. Just know that his behavior will not change so itās up to you to decide if this is something youāre willing to deal with or not because it will continue.
no coworker is going to borrow a phone to call an escort service. Once was bad enough, but over and over again proves he doesnāt respect you. It doesnāt appear he will change so you should probably just move on. He knows all he has to do is cry and say heās sorry and it will all be okay, so he can continue doing it. Leave!
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This is why marriage should come before kids. I dont know why women have kids with guys just datingā¦and just started dating at that. Wait at least 4 years living with someone to make a commitment like kids. Being a single parent isnt easy and kids deserve both a mom and a dad in their lives.Move out or move him out and use birth control with condoms next time date. Alsoā¦dont introduce every guy you date to your kid. Wait until find one that stays around without cheating or crazy behavior like this to deal with and who wants to commit to you and your child. This guy will never be honest or faithful. Move on.
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He is doing what he wants and manipulating you with crying bc it worked the first time ā¦donāt believe that shit girlā¦he sounds so toxic and do u really want to end up with an std? Especially pregnant.
If heās a good guy in every other aspect of your relationship then do yourself a favor and stop checking his phone.
Leave. If you feel like you need to go through his phone, the relationship is already over.
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Girl wth is wrong with him donāt believe his liesā¦ you gonna wait til he actually physically cheats on you to leave? I know that sounds harsh, but he did all that while you were pregnantā¦. If heās so curious, he can be curiousā¦ SINGLE.
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Run Donāt look back!!!
Donāt let his tears fool you!!
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For him to cry and shit every time heās caught but then to continue doing it heās manipulating the shit out of you.
He WILL changeā¦he will get WORSE !
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I dont know any man that cries that often. Girl, heās not sorry, heās sorry he got caught. Stop letting him manipulate you.
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No man would use FAKE TEARS to manipulate anyone into feeling sorry for them. You and the baby need to LEAVE!!!
Leave, he wonāt stop for you and you will only keep getting hurt. He cries cause he doesnāt want to let you go, yeah, but this isnāt what someone does when they love you.
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