How to escape abuse?

Get the heck out before your son hurts someone! He’s needing counseling

Hurry and leave there are people and places that will help you. Your and your children’s lives are more important than a car. Cars can be replaced not your children or you

Don’t make up stories about how the holes got there.
Call relatives to help you or a women’s shelter.

Start making plans on how and where you can go. It’s not an option…plan that way. Start looking at full time job opportunities.

Get out now before someone is hurt or killed! Call the crisis line!

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I had to call shelters every day for a few months and even called a few out of state (you have to say you live there though) as soon as one was available I packed my kids up and left. Drove 4 hours to get there.

Pack your bags, no medals for living with abuse. Think of the children they come before any man.

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Leave. There are resources out there to help you. It will only get worse

Sending you :pray::pray::pray::pray: to make the decision best for you and your kids. You should go to therapy so you have documentation and how you want to make your life better

Seriously? Is this article even real? She doesn’t know what to do? RUN

Its tìme to leave before someone get hurt.

Please find a way to get out of this relationship. Do you have family that could help? It will only get worse. I was able to get out of a bad marriage and I was so much happier. I also had 3 children. God be with you.

Leave him. It’s not about you, it’s about your children. And don’t say you can’t. I didn’t have a job at all & did it w 2 small children

What can I do to help you?just name it and I will try.I grew up in abusive home it does leave scars

Go to a shelter with your kids!! By staying there you are subjecting them to the same abuse. Don’t know it’s only going to get worse?

I would leave immediately and find a place you and your kids can stay (temporarily at least) until you’re able to find another job. You might have to work 2 part time jobs but it will be worth it for the safety of you and your kids. Then you can find something more permanent once you’re able to find either a full time job or a place that fits your budget. I would go now before school starts so at least the kids can get some stability. Maybe look for a place in walking distance of your job or their school or near a train station or bus stop since you know transportation is an issue but right now the most important thing is to keep your family safe. Do you have any close friends or relatives that could help you? Also do not tell him where you are going or when you’re leaving for safety reasons. Best of luck to you!

You simply have to quit making excuses of why you can’t leave.

Find a women’s shelter. They will help you get on your feet.

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You are right to worry, children are like sponges, they absorb everything.

You know the answer why get on this sight.

You are the only one who can stop the abuse - get out -

Call an abuse hotline. Get yourself in order meaning clothes packed, if there is any money you can hussle up. Call an abuse hotline and tell them about your situation. Don’t worry about a car payment or things like that yet. Just get to safety. You may or may not have family or friends you are able to go to, but they may be able to give you money or other things. Just get you and your children to safety. I am going to tell you straight up. You left once before and went back. People who helped you once might not want to go on that ride again. If you go this time----STAY GONE. People will get tired of your merry-go-round and you cannot blame them.

Leave there’s alimony and chid support it’s not only about you it’s your children

No such thing as SEMI- abusive
He either is abusive or not

Please please get out I know its easy said then done but my daughter had to leave Christmas day has he started Christmas eve just leave him huni and don’t ever look back x

You are allowing your children to grow up like this shame on you

No semi abusive about it. That’s outright abuse. I wish you all the best on your escape.

pack what u need and ur kids clothes and leave and go out of state so he wont find u and if he calls dont answer ur phone

Leave while you still have time to turn your son around

Leave before you end up going out feet first

Get away as soon as possible, find someone at your local church they will help find you something get out now please…

Leave now. There is help out there so don’t be afraid to ask. Always have a frying pan by you if he hits you, hit him back. Go as fast as you can. Your son is still young enough to hopefully forget his father’s habits. Staying around until he is older will only show hitting is right so for the children’s sake GO GO as fast as you can. Best of luck and end up living a safe and happy life.

Leave now find a shelder there is help out there i know its hard but you can do this i did

In astoria there is a council ing center on 31st and host ave.

You will make it , just keep your head up and go ! Been there

Forget most of all the people who want to give you advice most of them have never been in this kind of situation , I just want you to know you are not alone and
You will need to find the strength and courage to leave , I pray you do for yours and your childrens sanity, it will be a struggle well worth , some abusers do change most do not , there are many people and organizations that can help you : woman’s domestic violence shelter
The police can give you some info
The Department of Human Services
Salvation Army
To name a few
I wish you the best of luck

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Why are you still in that relationship? I lived thru mine barely. Take your kids and get out!

Do you have parents?If so can you move in with them for a bit??

Everything these ladies are saying is true. 1. Make a plan. Gather important papers.ie: birth certs. Tax info.(His ss#) medical records. Take pictures of walls. Bruises, scrapes etc. Pack clothes, meds etc…It isn’t easy, but it’s doable…I’ve done it. Save money…call Battered woman’s shelters…Your 7yo is already modeling his behavior…You can do this, for you and the children…

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Call your closest women’s shelter ask them for direction and advise.

Don’t normally comment on this page…But leave now your children deserve better.

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Run! As fast as you can!

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You need to leave regardless find a way

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Reach out to one of the shelters in your area. They can help you to plan your exit. Please don’t give up. Love yourself to leave​:heart::heart::heart:

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Go to a womens shelter. They can help you start over. You nor your children deserve what he is doing to you Good luck and God Bless you.

I’ll be praying for you and your children. You can do this. Check out shelters and affordable housing. They will guide you from there.
Until then, stay safe. :pray:t3::two_hearts::pray:t3:

A man like that doesn’t care about anyone including himself. Please leave NOW

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Please get to a shelter with your children. You can do it! They will help you get on your feet!!

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Take your kids and get outta there right away.

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Please seek a domestic violence shelter in your area they have many resources available to help in your situation

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Get your family out of this abusive household!

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Just get up and leave you owe it to your self and children

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Get out now .women’s aid will help .get a court order to protect u and your children .get some legal advice .

Like to hear feedback on this woman see if she made it ok

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Define semi abusive?

Please go now! Save your kids and yourself, there are agencies to help you!
Call family services!!! They will guide you.

If you call the cops, press charges etc. There is a NATIONAL VICTIM ASSISTANCE program. They will help you 1. Get a place to live. 2. Pay all necessary utility deposits. 3. Pay most of the rent for 3 months. 4. You will recieve food stamps and child support.
Please don’t let financial fear keep you there! And when he is taken to jail, smile and wave goodbye !

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Youv been together for 9years you have 3 children and youv been contemplating leaving him for several years :thinking: why did you keep breeding with him ffs​:woman_facepalming::woman_facepalming::woman_shrugging::woman_shrugging:

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You know what you need to do. The court can make him take care of you. You have the kids

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Please get out . There is alot of help out there. You don’t deserve that… and he needs to go to jail…ahole

I have been through this. Divorce him now and you will have a lot of help to go on. Get a good lawyer and make him pay. DO IT NOW

Run don’t walk away from that situation. There are places to help you find a place to live and get on your feet. God bless and good luck.

Get out go to DSS you can get all kinds of help!!

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Find a Women’s shelter. NOW
They will help you find work,a place to live and transportation.

Run ! Fast he will have to pay child support. You can get assistance and rebuild your life. Prayers.

Just get out of there
There are many people who can help you
I know what you are going through I and other women have gone through it :cherry_blossom::cherry_blossom:

OMG woman just pack and don’t look back. Go to another town a week a womens refuge. They will help you

Get kids and get out!! Go to shelter or family …get a lawyer …you will be fine …or kick him out

Oh my god what the hell are you still with him there is help out there girl do it now or someone is going to get hurt or try to get him help and if that doesnt work leave hi. Asap

I pray you find a way to physically remove yourself and your kids.

Run don’t walk, everything will work out!!

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You are not just destroying your life but your children as well

Go to a shelter before he really hurts you. I’ve been where you are😰

You have to leave him for your kids and your self god’s will help you just ask him let your family know you need help

Please get to a women shelter. Those children don’t need to see any more.

Call the law and get his ass out…then check on additional help for you and the kids

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I have a feeling she will not follow any of the good advise we are giving. Pray for those poor children :heart:

You need to leave that situation…contact women’s aid for support.

Don’t be a volunteer for abuse

Enough talk, pack your shit and git! :scream:

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Just go take ur kids an make a life for u an them

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Call police to take you to shelter/ your kids will pick up those habits…:pray::pray:

Do you really have to ask abuse is abuse.Semi

Pack your stuff and get out of there.Its not fair on u or your kids.Hes a bully.:hot_face::hot_face::hot_face::hot_face:

U deserve better leave things will not get better God will lead u down the right road do it 4 u and UR childen

Get out before you become a death statistic. You will find support and you will manage to make it.

Go to a woman’s shelter. They will help you get on your feet.

Plan your escape from the marriage . If you can get him out .

Honey please, please leave him now. Don’t wait. Everyday you wait you saying to him it’s all right for him to act like that. And honey you and your sweet children are living on top of a volcano and you don’t know when he will explode and how much danger you are in until it might to late. Call someone, from any church or even the state. It will work out. If you can’t stay in the house go to a crisis center, call a cris center. There are people out there who want to help you. Don’t be afraid of leaving BE AFRAID of staying. Don’t think about it just do it. You will so much better off and so will your children. Please do it for them, if you can’t for yourself. Don’t condemn them to that nightmare and danger anymore. God bless you honey. There are tons of people out there who will be there for you.
There is so much wise advise on FB. Take it to heart. These women been through the same thing. Just get out before something worse happens. Don’t tell him you are leaving g. That is a dangerous time for you so you need to talk to someone from a crisis center on what is the best way to it. You are so strong. Start making plans tomorrow, not after the time. This is your time. Now​:bangbang: Please​:bangbang: God bless you and keep you safe. :pray::pray::pray::pray::pray::heart::heart::heart:

Get out for yourself and your children. That’s not love.

Run as fast as you can. People will help you

OMG GET OUT!
Seek womens shelter help. Please save yourself. You are better then this.

You need to get out NOW you need to make Police report do it for you and your kids. There are organizations that will help you. Get Out

Make a plan to get out safe. Website When Georgia Smiles is a good site to give help and direction. https://www.whengeorgiasmiled.org/
Best to you to get to a safe life.

Pack your bags and leave ,its ot good for your kids. And get ur kids counselling, yiu can do this xx

It’s time for you to leave ,if not for you for your children,

Run for ur life and ur children. Ur safety is the priority.

Get out. Go to a women’s safe house. You will find help there.

Get out n go to a woman’s shelter! They’ll assist u in what to do next!

Please stop the cycle now before your son becomes an abuser