Honey leave asap. He is not going to change.
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Call 211 they should place you n kids somewhere safe. Don’t let kids see him flip. They will be doing the same thing:pensive:
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I’m going through this now. 
I had to leave everything behind and left when he was at work. I moved to a different state and starting over. It’s not easy at all. I have 3 daughters 8,3 and 2. It’s hard especially with no friends and family around me but I am doing my best for them and myself. We left everything behind furniture, clothes, toys and all. But at the end of the day I know they no longer have to deal with a physical, verbally abusive father. It’s going to be a rollercoaster it’s not easy especially with the oldest always complaining how she has no clothes, toys and left everything behind. I try to explain to her and she tries to understand but I know one day we will be back on our feet and without fear. I got a protective order against my husband and soon filing for divorce. I don’t drive as well but I did the one thing I never thought I would I got state assistance. They are helping with food , medical, vision and dental. Helping with not much cash but enough to get by. I have so much fear and anxiety that I get scared being in public. But slowly it’s going away especially since the judge approved the protective order (restraining order) my goal is to try and let go so I can try and get a job and get my daughters the things they need. Just gooooo even if you have to plan it. Go and never ever look back. Don’t let the threats get to you. Protect those babies and yourself. That’s the best thing you can do as a parent protect them! I was with my husband (one day ex I hope soon) for 9 years too and we have 3 daughters. I was a stay at home mom as well and it’s hard but I’m trying.
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Pack the kids and run. Starting over is hard but living with the guilt of the trauma those kids are going through will be way worse. I lost everything, home, car, job, credit. I was homeless and carless for half a year. Here I am four years later. Job, car, house, an AMAZING fiance, and an even MORE amazing son who will know how to treat women. It’s worth it. 
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Semi abusive? NO he’s very abusive and your son is showing actions that he is learning from his father and you are showing him that this is ok by staying in the situation. it can and will just get worse, and one day he may hurt one of the children if he doesn’t like something they do or say please get out now before someone gets badly hurt Please get out now, check if there is a woman shelter in your area that can help you
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U can leave him and get help! I left my kids daddy without a dime n my pocket. No place 2 go no job no car. YOU Can Do It!! Trust GOD And just leave. Trust God 2 take care of the rest!
Leave honey while you can. There are places to help you.first thing is to leave that town
Your job is to teach! What the child learns is a progressive thing. It can be awkward when little ones speak out not realizing what the word means. I feel moms need to tell them that some words are explained when they are older in more detail.
Perhaps when the dog has puppies. Your husband is overreacting to life. He needs to have some cookies & milk.
Advice needs to come from a trained professional. Please contact me through Miracle Mums Movement to be referred. It is dangerous to be giving advice without having all of the information.
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Get out of that relationship the kids will suffer for years from that
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Start with a place for battered women/families You have so much to lose including your life and that of your kids.
Let me them guide you on how to escape and what to take. God’s blessings
Then get a PPO and file for full custody
Leave him don’t think about it do it hun tell him he ever touches you again he’ll regret it that’ll allow him to see as well you are not taking it anymore
Just get out you’ll find your way it’s hard life to short
Please leave know seek help
Don’t make up stories, tell our like it is maybe he’ll get the hint
I’ve been where you are. Go on and leave him. Call the police if you need to they have resources for you and can help direct you to a safe house for abused women and children. People at the safe house will be able to help direct type to people who can help you file restraining orders and help you get on your feet. I was lucky I was able to take my children and move back in with my parents until I was able to get on my feet. The first thing you will need to do after you leave is contact a lawyer and start divorce proceedings because that is how who will keep custody of the kids. Most states favor the kids staying with the mother but, just to be sure talk to your lawyer. Ultimately you would want full legal and physical custody, but they will probably still get visitation with him. In my case I got 50/50 legal custody and primary physical custody. But if you leave while the kids are young they have a better chance to heal. My kids were 13, 12, 7, and 4. My two teenagers hold a lot of anger at their father for things he did to me and to them. They want nothing to do with him. Just get yourself and your children out safely.
No such thing as “semi” abuse. Abuse is abuse and only gets worse. Get out… if not for you, for those kids.
I am so sorry i am in the same situcation
Grab yours and your kids dirty clothes hampers and leave. Call the cops before you do. They can pick you up or get a ride to the police station. They’ll guide you to a battered woman’s shelter usually. Starting over from scratch with kids is TERRIFYING. It’s not going to be easy. For a long time. But it’ll be worth it and you’ll be so much better off. Do not sit and think or you’ll be stuck longer. Just go. Grab what you can and go.
Get out now, you and your kids can get the help and counseling that is needed. If your son is already beginning to copy then you need to get him treatment now to break the cycle. The longer you wait the worst it will get
Go to a women’s shelter asap.
I am so sorry for what you are going through. But if counseling helped in the past, may be he will be corrected for good if you continue? Please seek a professional counselor and you and your family can be safe and happy. Prayers
So you must have a phone hope your taking Vito’s or recording it when he goes off the wall so you can play it for the cops or legal people to get you out of you situation. You need not be there any longer its only going to get worst.take pictures of the damage hes taking out on the walls and such but dont let the kids stay in that environment any longer
Get out as soon as u can
I haven’t read through all the comments so I’m not sure if this has been mentioned previously or not and I say this to inform and not to condemn you. By staying in this relationship and allowing your children to witness this behavior you yourself could be substantiated on for child neglect and children’s services could become involved. I’m a former child protection worker and have seen children removed from homes where the victim “failed to protect” their children from domestic violence. Even though they’re little your children could have life altering trauma from living in that type of environment. By being exposed to this abuse your son is learning that it’s okay to treat women this way and your daughters are learning that this is what love is. By getting out you will teach them that this is not okay and that you can do hard things. Hang in there momma, you’ve got this. Safety first, the rest will fall into place.
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You have to leave, for the sake and safety of yourself and your children. A lot of cities have homes for situations like this, where women get help adjusting to different circumstances. Hopefully eventually he will pay child support
A shelter may not be your first choice but it’s better then death or jail your kids safety and mental health needs to come first . I know it’s way easier said then done . But I promise it’s so much better then the alternative. Please get your kids and you out before you no longer have the option. You may think you have things under control but it’s just our mind playing tricks I myself am a surviver of abuse I still have scars all over my body. But I was able to get on my feet and be independent there is always help trust me and it may take a while but you will get through it . Then once your safe get professional help for you and your kids cause trauma has a way of repeating itself if not treated. I pray you are able to get out before it’s too late . Trust me this is a life or death thing.
Most Domestic Abuse shelters will help you make an exit plan which will help allay your concerns about how you can possibly do this. Once you are out, he will try to convince you to come back with a pack of lies and false promises. Stay strong and know this will happen. Get counseling for you and all your children. Your son is learning to treat women like his father does and your daughters will look for men that treat them badly, because they grew up seeing that as normal. Leave very soon!
Honey… Leave NOW! For your kids sake as well as your own. Let your children witness your strength and not his anger.
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Look for a Marisol House.
It’s bridge housing. They will keep you and your children safe while you traverse this difficult task
A safe exit plan is essential.
Please seek the assistance of a local agency either in your area or an area where you might have family/support. Do it quickly before he kills you …then your poor children won’t have anyone to protect them. The first few months will be scary and difficult. After the struggle you can then build the most wonderful life safely you can enjoy those beautiful children.
Best wishes for your success.
An explosive man is dangerous. Find yourself a safe shelter for you and your children. You need a car donated to you. This is a long process to get on your own. I pray this will work out quickly for you.
Leave now! There is no such thing as semi-abusive and alcohol can create a dangerous situation. My ex was an alcoholic and tried to murder me 1 night when he drank so much he snapped and he had never laid a hand on me before, just verbally abusive prior to that night. Leave now! Please call a Local battered women’s agency …they will help!!!
Go to a woman’s shelter as fast as you can. I took it for 23 years. A big mistake. But I got there with one of my children. My son has walked the abusive trail and is lost to me. Both men have refused to get help. My daughter and I got the help we needed to stand on our own feet and have never looked back. No one should ever feel they have to stay in that crap. No money but it does get better. Lift up your head and run.
IAM so sorry about your situation ,but only you have the solution,I know is hard , cause I been there before,but eventually I took my decision for the sake of my kids ,so you need to have a plan ,little by little save some money,pack some clothing and leave it in a friend house ,take your important papers ,and have a friend somewhere out there far away that you could travel and stay for a few days until you find more help and a place to live apply for all the government help cause you definitely qualify,I know is hard and scary but you need to get out that relation ,is no good for u and the kids specially if one of the kids is acting violent already that’s no good ,plz plz do everything in a humble but daring way ,you need to survive ,I wish you the best ,god bless ,u can do it!!
Please dear pack and leave it’s not worth it to risk your children and yourself you deserve better you and your kids don’t worry about money there’s alot of help for women and children escaping from domestic violence and abuse just find a shelter for abused women and they will help you and won’t share your location at all
Please follow the suggestions to call a Women’s Shelter. Otherwise you can end up dead, your girls growing up to expect abuse from men, and your son is already modeling his abuse. If not for your sake, get out for theirs. Many shelters have legal help, and help for getting back on your feet. I hope you let us know how you do down the road.
Run!!! Better to live in room and in the peace and safety. The children will be happier after a while. Order of protection a must. Stay strong, God bless.
Get out for your children’s sake asap if nothing else. RCMP told me staying in a abusive relationship is a form if child abuse even if they don’t touch the kids. They hear and see everything!! They will grow up thinking that is normal.
It will NOT get better, do whatever possible to take your Kids & LEAVE HIM AS SOON AS YOU ARE ABLE TO. I came from an extremely Abusive Relationship, I left him 8 months ago.
It was CHALLENGING & HARD, as of today, it was literally the BEST & MOST IMPORTANT decision I ever made. And I wouldn’t be surprised if your Abusive Husband is Cyber STALKING you as well, be careful! PLEASE, Work on self betterment for you & your Kids. P.S. I lived in an Abusive environment as a kid & you do NOT want your kids to continue the pattern. Stop, think & LEAVE!
Well like the old saying goes you lead a horse to water but ya can’t make them drink. You and your children need to leave. Find a good shelter for abused women and children and they will lead you down the right path
You should make your own decisions
But you should get
Out of the marriage
But need a plan first
That is not good for
The children it took
Me 58 years to get
Out of abusive marriage I am very happy so I hope you
Do it maybe you have relatives please help yourself
And your children
I had my daughters
Suppor
Paper trail have friends take picture and call the police the states picked it up now but It is very hard and scary with 2 children but I did it after 15 years with a very abusive person plan it before you jump and leave make it a day he is at work pack all your stuff and find someone with a trailer that can take it all in one load find a place before leaving please it works if you stay it gets worse get restraining order as well if he gets visitation he will grill them on where you live is anyone coming over staying with mommy so you have to keep them away from him for a while so they can get used to being away from the abuser it will pan our once you are away from him you can start being happy again, you will be scared for a little bit cause you think you are all alone but the good thing is you are not alone at all and you are not the only one that is going through this or gone through this bee careful and plan it in your head it’s hard but think others have done this I can too
I know from personal experience that it can be horribly frightening to take that huge step to leave. And it is a huge step! It will be hard, but after a while you will start to feel that peace that come from being safe from harm. Join online abuse victim groups (be sure to erase all your browsing history as well as any phone calls you might have to make!). These types of groups can help you find your strengths because they have been through it. I found the biggest roadblock to my leaving was the words used to convince me I couldn’t make it without him and that I was a horrible person, he used to call me a waste of air. They absolutely do a number on your head. BUT you can do it! The scariest part is the actual leaving with your kids and necessities in your bag. BUT that is a process that will take only a couple hours. You have been through hell so I know you have the strength to be brave for a couple hours. Then take it one day, one hour, one minute at a time. If i did it any one can.
My dear all you need do is take your kids and leave, i know is not gonna be easy but you will pull through, is better to be alive with your kids than dead, you will be fine , sending you hug from Nigeria
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Take pictures of the damage, go to the courthouse and get a PFA, find a local organization to help you get out. do Not stay in the house because you won’t be safe there. Take that advice from someone who has personal experience with that.
Honey, Years ago that’s how my relationship started, but after the years went on, the abuse got worse. And after 13 LONG years I finally got up the nerve to get out. It’s not easy, but help from a women’s shelter and great friends I got through.
My prayers are with you and your children.
Please don’t stay. My daughter was abused physically and verbally She let him stay and they all endured abuse. Finally the 13-year old called the cops and they took him away to jail. But an investigation came in and took the kids out of the home and they founded my daughter for neglect for allowing him to be there and her not removing herself and the kids from the situation. The State of IL has her 5 kids as Wards of the state, 3 in Foster care 2 now living with their father in New York he was her first husband that now has custody of them 2. The other 3 is the abusive father kids and my daughters. They have been in Foster Care now since April 2020 and doesn’t look like she will get them back because the family is looking to adopt and this organization that is involved with DCFS is very shady and does not work with mothers for reunification. They keep finding more stuff against my daughter that was domestically abused and now being abused by the system here and can’t find any help to fight the state of Illinois . So leave rather you have a car or not, rather you don’t make enough money. The sanity of your children is more important and for them and you to go to a safe house and get counseling and get a emergency Order of Protection against him. NOW DO IT
Leave as it will never change but get worse. I surprised you’ve waited this long actually. Do smart and legal.
Get the hell out of there go to a safe house and you will get all the help and support from there from victims support but please get out of that hell of situation you are not alone remember that.
In secret sign up for housing make an email for those people to contact you in and ask human services for help there are programs on every state just for women like you reach out any way you can!
Find a friend who will take you and your kids in or contact a crisis hotline and they will place you in a safe house. Do it NOW, IN JESUS NAME!
Take your children and get out of there unless you want to be a grandmother to children who live the same lives your children are living!
You can’t afford to leave or for him to leave,nor do you want your kids drug through court & you don’t want to live in a shelter, that’s temporary & so you could also lose your kids through worldly ways & court system & you don’ t have enough money to fight sooo,. I would Pray for his salvation & you & the family. Through Jesus Christ, he can become a changed man. It takes the Holy Spirit to change a man & his heart & that is what he really needs & Sooo, it is your only option.!!!
Christ is a life changer.
I would suggest u consult a lawyer the house if u own it he/ she can explain your options. If u have kids he will most likely have to pay support
Use some of the time to think about a long term career.
Run with your kids to the nearest woman’s shelter. 1st create and coordinate a plan for escape! Otherwise your son will be his father on 10 yrs.
Get out now things will not change it will get worse save your life and your children’s life I’ve been there done that leave now
praying for your safety but it won’t get better until you leave find a women shelter near you and let them help. You need to get your son away from that before he kills one of his sisters and then get him help to break the cycle. The women’s shelter should be able to help with that
Leave asap. It may get worse. Please protect yourself and your kids while you can. My mom stayed too long. I stayed too long. Dont be like us.
Leave him take your children and you will get help, you and your children are more important, you need not to be afraid and be happy , good luck
Your son hasn’t got a good role model and looks like he’s modelling himself on your hubby. Get out as soon as you can let him have his nasty temper to himself. There’s women’s shelters that can help. Take the step for your kids future
He’s not going to change, I know from experience. And get your son into therapy.
Record it, get a TPO. I’m not sure of your location, but I’m pretty sure most states don’t let you evict a spouse. You just need a recording of the verbal/physical abuse and take it to a judge to get a temporary restraining order, that you can eventually turn into a permanent one. Once he’s out of the house for so long, it will no longer be his home and you won’t have to handle an eviction process. Save up your money and get a good divorce lawyer, no matter how long it takes, because you’ll have time now that he’s out of the house. & counseling for you and the kiddos.
Semi abusive? .ur in an abusive relationship already… the hard part of families abroad from us asians u seem not much family support wherein in u must separate …work…feed urself and entrust children 2 other relatives… pls seek help how 2 be free…ur son is not just imitating his father…hes upset theres inner turmoil so wd the rest. Pls pray 4 a way out…
Leave him. Everyone has such good advice. Listen.
Your children will be scarred for life and you have the keys.
My son’s are messed up. I thought he would change. We have been split up and he still talks shit about us. Get rid of him.
Run, it is the best thing you can do for you and your kids.
Leave and never look back he will cry tell you he will never do it again it’s a lie I lived it as a kid
GET OUT ASAP… Go to a Women’s Shelter… they’ll help you from there…
Run, do not walk. Your children are suffering, no car is nothing. You will not look back in 10 years and say “I wished I’d stayed because we’ve had to go without a car.” You’ll look back and see that you saved yourself and your children from a miserable life. They deserve better and so do you!
You need to pack up and go with your children before you become another statistic
There are lawyers who work for free (pro Bono) and specialize in this. Contact your Local Social Services.
Time to go better to be broke than beaten not only for your sake but especially for your kids!!!
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To many woman are dead behind an abusive man. If your dead what about the children.
Sweetheart you can do this…picture you and your children in a better life…you can do whatever you put your mind to…it might not be East but it will be better…save you and you kids…make a better life for you…
Get out now to somewhere safe. Don’t tell him. Grab your important papers, meds and the kids and go.
Please leave and take the children, gather what papers you will need. It isnot worth losing your life over.
Get out no matter the hardship! It is never going to get better! There are people who can help u if u need it!
But you had 2 more children with this abusive man?
Leave NOW. There are shelters that can help you. Call 800.799.SAFE.
Get those kids and you out before something worse happens
There’s only one way and its Out…
Do not have your kids in this anymore…
You are entitled to payments from him LEAVE
You must get out ASAP!
Maybe your family can help!
You are endangering your kids. They need counseling!
Yeap pack up get out help your kids and yourself with therapy and get to a shelter. Change you lives prayers are going out .
Children learn what they live…leave…NOW!
Leave him now. Explain abuse to your kids and why it’s wrong. Go now!!
Please leave while you still can. Care for your kids away from him.
Get out only gets worse never better
Get out get help from some woman shelter and get some therapy for your son.
Get out go a shelter
Leave now for your kids" sake.
Leave or your kids will suffer !
Get out while you can i have been there
Sounds like bi-polar …got your hands full…
There is no semi abusive.
I am worried about you kids and you to be honest. I think you should live this typ of man.coz he is not changing.and as you no out report your husband.coz he abusing you is wrong.
Would you tell your daughter to stay in that kinda relationship? If not get out now
Get the hell gone. What are you waiting for???
So sad wake up and get the hell out while you still can so sorry for you
Get out is the first step!
Don’t be too obvious. Take photos of what the house looks like and what he does. Share it with your families there is someone willing to help in some way or another.