Gotta leave. I know its not easy but this guy is a peace of shit. I grew up with 5 sisters no one puts there hands on them. Yes we all have issues but abusers dont stop
I was where your at. Only had 1 child but it is very hard. I stayed 13 years. You must get out. It will only get worse and your kids will suffer. If you have no one to help you go to a women’s shelter. They will help you. Staying is not the answer. Plan an escape and go. Your are worth more. Good luck!
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All I’ll say is that this is familiar to me and that it worsens with time with time. I hope you have someone you can stay with. If not, as others have said, I suggest you reach out to community places. It’s difficult to leave, but many years down the road I can say I’m so so glad I did.
Quit making up stories…if someone asks what happened look at him and say “you want to tell them or should I??” If your children are starting to act out it’s time for the husband to leave. You can apply for public assistance and they will go after him for the money. Go to court and get custody of the kids and then go after child support!!!
Get out asap. There are shelters in every town just please call someone. I was in the same type relationship till my son was 10 when he told me to kill his father if he touched me I knew it was time to go he had seen to much. He is 35 now and I hate to say it but he is his father’s son…Please find help.
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You and your kids need to get out of there asap. Don’t worry about not having a car you can catch the bus or Uber. Find some social services that can help you. They can place you and your children somewhere safe. 
Get out you are stronger than you think.
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Get.The.F.Out.While.YOu.Can
Just so you know, no one believes your cover up stories. They are just as afraid for you but are hepless unless you ask for help. There is support out there just walk away and never look back. If you were on the other side of the fear where your family and friends fear for you and spend their lives waiting for the call… you would never want to put them through it. When the call came in, he had killed himself instead of her and the kids. But it was a roll of the dice. With a friend of mine when the call came in he had killed them both. Are you willing to take that chance with your children?
Call IDAS they’ll give you all the information you need. X
Put your children first before car or money. Woman. Main some women really make me sick. Whatever your salary is make it work. Put your kid first even if it mean living off of a pack of rice and sandine for days. Wat no kill faten. Leave him
Why is this even a question? LEAVE lady !!!
Take the car. You can work out payments later. when he’s at work. Pack yall up and go.
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send him to jail and keep the house and car.
Get out now he will hit you eventually and destroy you save your children
If you have no family to turn to…when he is out start packing up some of your stuff…
May take couple days…make sure your kids don’t know incase they say something…
Get to a woman’s shelter…check them out so you know where and when you are to go…
Don’t tell anyone…
On date and time…run…and don’t look back…
Not sure where your located…so don’t know what resources are available to you…again…check this out before you go…get as much cash as you can together…good luck.
- There is no semiabusive. Verbal abuse is abuse. And thw holes in walls is one step from physical abuse. It will eventually escalate. 2. Reach out. If you are in the states the # is 1800799SAFE 3. Thw car is irrelevant. Use uber lyft or bus systems
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Find a womens shelter with resources that help with the process of getting your own place with you and your children and councilling. Those small humans are going to think his behavior is normal.
You must leave asap. Your children will think it’s ok to be abusive, like there father. I did it, in 74 with no job. He was abusive to eldest 2, girl and boy, but not 8 year old youngest girl. I left a 3 Bed rm. home to a 2 Br. apt, stayed with a friend in 1 br. apt for 2 months. I was devoriced in 7 months. It was rough, but I was never sorry. I wanted my children to live and so did I. He died 5 1/2 yrs later at 44.
I’d-separate n request counseling /anger management- behavior type, it’s not a positive living situation not a example you want your kids continuing because they will to some ways ;”( been through with husband verbal emotional mental n 2-3 times slap -hit nope 
his father was extremely negative n abuse ,it does set in kids upbringings an ok thing ;”( get help please !!
I’m a single mom of 3 we left due to the same thing. Your going to need a restraining order.
Get out u can always rebuild ur self again there a lot of help out more then u think
I hit my breaking point and I packed up my entire car of everything I could fit in it took me an hour and a half and I left lived on a Friends couch in a different city for four months Then my mom’s chair, then two weeks at an Airbnb,found a job filed for divorce and found my own apartment.my kids were grown though and I can’t imagine how hard it would’ve been when they were little which is one reason I stayed. He was so violent Even when I was pregnant nobody knew this about him but some family members and me. I knew with my son going to college I would be alone with him and I was scared to be alone with him. He also chronically cheated on me. After my stroke I was done. He never apologized but he did tell me I deserved a good man. Two years later I’m with a good man Who loves God and treats me gently. I forgave my ex after my heart broke for him. He is very insecure and had a violent upbringing. I think he loved me the best way he could He is dating a women he cheated on me with and I honestly wish them the best.
Life is short u only have one I lived afraid myself until I said enough never turned back thank god I have made it
My father was abusive not with my mom but with us, i started picking up his behavior and started being aggressive and violent most of the time, so it’s better to separate kids before it’s too late
Sweet sister, I’ll say that is abusive! It has also shown your son how to be abusive. You need to take your life back. Take your children back and it’s not easy! Hugs, sympathy and prayers
Do not stay, it’s not worth it.
He will end up hurting all of you😢
Leave asap-it gets way worse-theres help somewhere-r just throw it all to the wind and run as fast and as far away as u possibly can-been there done that! Thank goodness my babies were older but same shit gf! It will get worse-the more u allow shit to happen the more hell end up really hurting somebody-that ain’t love!!!
I’m in the same situation. I want to move out so bad but housing/apts have skyrocketed so high.
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Run. You can always make more money. Safety first!
CPS/OCS, will be at your door before you know it. You are putting your children in harms way and allowing the abuse.
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You can rebuild and there is help available. Get out now!
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Girl. Take a lesson from Madea and cook that man some grits and throw it on him. And with the other hand. You swat with a nice balanced skillet. If my fiancée EVER lays a hand on me that way. That’s my plan.
If you need to run go to a shelter
If you want to make a plan then do that . That is how I did it
Found a job
Found a place to rent
Moved items out of our house and into mine a bit at a time .
Only told one person of my plan and asked a lot of people for help after I left .
If you need advice call a shelter they know what to do and what works best
You don’t have to live in a shelter to get help from them
Hugs
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LEAVE. I stayed 20 years with an abusive both with fist and mouth. I had a 9th grade education. 4 children. Back then if you called the police they might come and just say “you’ll try and get along.” He had women. Finally he took off with his whore and I had to make it for us. I did. I remarried a man in 41 years that has not hit me or my children. I hope you will pray and take your children out of this before it does too much damage to them. My prayers are with you.
Are you in the UK? Xx
Yall stay saying GET OUT but not showing her how
Sweet girl is there any family near you
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Leave!! Don’t worry about what you dont have for now there is always help out there it may take a while but you will get there in the end and it will be the best thing you ever did… It’ll be hard mumma but you can do it
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Get out!!! The longer you put up with abuse the more he will abuse you and your kids. Don’t even worry about what or how you can do it, just do it!!!. Please before it’s too late
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Please leave for your kids and yourself. Between child support, work and single Mom assistance there is a way. The relationship is toxic and dangerous, it’s just a matter of time before things escalate and he takes it out on you and/or kids rather than walls and objects. Go to a woman’s shelter with kids they’ll help you thru. Please don’t waste you life on an abuser (verbal or physical) you are worthy and deserving of so much more!!! Do not give him the power to destroy you and your kids! My prayer for you and your children! 
Find a shelter ASAP.If your son is already showing signs of abuse it’s because he’s witnessed too much of it and needs to be retrained. I know you feel stuck but it is doable. Do you guys own the house? If so you can get an order of protection and still stay in it with emergency order. Another thing don’t make excuses for him ever. This also helps him get away with being an asshole and he doesn’t need to take accountability or responsibility for what he has done. Just because he hasn’t touched your kids doesn’t mean he won’t when they are older. My mom thought the same thing and she was wrong! Your son will need counselling to work through what he has witnessed. Once you are out or your husband is gone school counsel or can help or I’m sure there are some organizations in your area that could help. Sorry you are going through this but i think you already know what you need to do. You may have to work more or get child and spousal support from him which honestly you fuking deserve! Do what you need to do to keep you and your children safe. Being in the same house as that man is not safe for any of you. Abusers don’t get better they only do better for a short time then back to the same crap and things could get worse.
Life’s too short , Id rather live on the streets than be abused . talk to friends and or family maybe someone can help you out a bit
I left a man like that. I moved to a new place with nothing but 1 set of bunk beds for my 4 kids. I didn’t have anything. And I mean anything. Not flour, sugar, plates, pans, tv, bed. Nothing. But thankfully, the women I worked with and even the men understood. Soon, I had a place full of stuff. It took some time, but it was better for me and my kids.
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I’m so sorry this is happening. Take your beautiful children and get somewhere safe xxxx
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You and your children would feel so much better if you are able to get out. Not only is this damaging to you, it greatly impacts them. Contact a domestic violence shelter. They will be able to help you and your children. They also have resources to help you as well.
Leave!!! Take your babies and run!!! You might lose your job, you will loose the car, but you will have peace! Go to a shelter! There are tons of resources out there! Sometimes you gotta loose everything To gain everything and be better! My mom and dad used to fight to no avail! My dad called us all whor**s and would get mad and beat my mom until she bled… I remember and I was 6 years old… I used to be so happy when night tome came because it meant no more fighting and that wasn’t even a guarantee… I’m telling you girl run!!! If you’re in Michigan let me know and I will help you the best I can!!! But please don’t stay because of the money… there ARE resources out there for women like you!!!
He will hurt your kids if this continues. Save money. Then get out.
Why haven’t you left for the kids go prayers
Run,Now… it,s not worth it
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I am so sorry that you are going through this! My advice: if you have any friends or family close, or even a days drive away, i would go. With the kids. Take pics of the damage due to his temper. If not, I would look for a womans shelter. Make sure to call the police, and get a restraining order. Tell them that you are not going back. Find a legal aid lawyer. Protect yourself. You can, and WILL get through it if you dont wait too long. <3 thinking of you, mama!
Leave now before something really bad happens there is help for you and places to stay! Break the cycle that your son is headed… good luck and prayers are with you and your children 
Get out now it’s going to get worse look at your son chocking his sisters what more reason do you need go to a shelter.
Leave take the car you drive and get as far away as you can only take what you need everything can be rebuilt I left when my son was 3 and I wish I had done it sooner even at 3 he saw enough to learn take it to the police and file for divorce there are things to help it won’t be easy but do it now before it gets worse
Get rid, put your children and yourself 1st ! Wish you luck xx
You need to leave. Don’t worry about not having a car. There are so many domestic violence shelters for women and programs that help women establish themselves back in the community with jobs transportation counseling support I really highly recommend that you get away get into one of those shelters and start living a new life for those children and get into counseling and and try to tap into those programs that do help women to get away from abusers
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Get out now.You and your kids dont need this.
Get out! Get on waiting lists for income based housing, and check into a shelter if needed(usually if u stay at a shelter, it bumps u up on the waiting list for housing) check with local churches for additional resources.
As you say your son is already behaving in the same way! Get out as soon as for you and your children’s sake please!
Put that’.devil.out as fast U Can
Hard to believe you don’t know what to do… Good Lord…Get the Hell out. There’s always a Battered home to go to. If not get your self to the Welfare Dept. Get a case worker to help you. Get a Reality Check Lady. RUN AND RUN FAST
Pack bags for you and the kids and all go to the nearest hospital. Call an ambulance if you have to get there safely.
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Make him leave, take him to court for alimony and child support u can get legal aid.
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Leave now…get help where ever you can…get your kids in counseling
There are shelters that will help you and your babies hon. Get out and save your family
Stop the abuse! Don’t let them think this is normal!
Sorry about that but apply for help they have organizations for abuse women’s and kids dont have to live liked that
The local domestic abuse center can help you formulate a plan to leave. Once you get out you will be able to know yourself again and not define yourself by your coping mechanisms. There are people waiting to help you. Friends and family and community members. Ask for help. And then plan and you will find a path to leave.
semi abusive??? When you get tired of his sh!t you will make a move that is based on the safety of your children and yourself.
Call the domestic abuse hotline. they should be able to give you plenty of advice( shelter, help with leaving) and for heavens sake when he gets mad call the police, most areas have a special number they can track where you are. your husband don’t have to know…But please leave, you never know when he will loose complete control and hurt you real bad…
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Semi abusive?? No such thing. He is abusive and sadly you are enabling him by staying. Get out however you can as you children already accept their fathers behaviour as normal. Hat do your daughters do when their brother chokes them? WHAT DO YOU DO?.
Get out of there now go to a shelter
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Get out you and your children are being abused… run
Get out now. Your son is copying his father, I’m sure you don’t want your son to be a fully fledged abuser so to save yourself & your children GO NOW !
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Your safety and your children’s safety are top priority. Your husband has other issues that haven’t been dealt with over the years. There’s a reason he resorts to putting holes in things and being verbally abusive. It may stem from what he saw growing up. Any way, let him fix himself, while you protect yourself and the children. Prayers to you. 
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Do you not have a woman’s shelter or transition house where you live? They can help! Get out before he seriously hurts all of you!
Stop making up stories- sorry you’re going thru this. As Someone already stated, seek out organizations that can help. Unfortunately there have been many to get up and get help. I Left by getting a full time job. Once I had that I was able to get a place of my own.
Girl, you need positive thoughts. You know what you need to do. You’ll be ok, and honestly if you get in a tough spot, PM me. Or anyone else who has reached out.
Leave or be dead with a car
You need to get out now. You’re raising another abuser.
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Run and dont look back you will never regret it,for the sake of yourself and children
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Leave now…He is abusive not semi abusive! Look for a woman’s shelter close to you…They will help you and your kids…You don’t deserve to be treated that way nor do your kids 
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Get help and get out. Don’t tell him. Get therapy for yourself and your kids. Don’t let him destroy your family. 
freedom is wonderful believe me:wink:
Run now and fast. Save yourself and your kids. Call domestic abuse lines. Don’t know what country or where you are but 211 can give you a bunch of info
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Leave for your self and kids
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Many place to help you get your life together
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Run fast and do not look back!
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There is absolutely no reason or excuses to stay as long as you leave you you and your children with the clothes on your back everything else can be replaced over time so you have no car you have no clothes you have no money true but you’ve got to look and your children and not only will they repeat what they see both boys and girls are affected understand one thing you still have the choice to leave and leaving assures you and your children safety he may not hit the children now but anyone that is abusive in any way and abuse comes in many forms can turn on you at any moment please take your children and go to the nearest police station if nothing else walk just get out
Please please get help it’s out there !! Your kids will never forgive you if you don’t!! Hugs you can do it.
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The first step is always the hardest. Runaway as far as you can and you know what actions to do once you got out of that situation. if you dont act now you will never will. Keep your children’s safety as your top motivation so you can have the courage and strenght to finally take action.
Get out- before he kills you or hurt one of your children! As a mother, it is your job to do what is right for your children
No such thing as “semi”abusive. ABUSE IS ABUSE!!
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You need to call your family for help to get out.
Leave him. You don’t need a car. Sounds like that’s all he’s good for. Bring your children up to be better humans. You can get help off the government/political people wherever you live no matter how much you earn, especially if you have kids. He sounds like a twat. Don’t make your kids turn into him!!
“SEMI”…abusive ???
No abuse victim is ever at fault…
Yet …they SEE ALLLLLLL THE INITIAL SIGNS & RED 
but they STAY anyways and continue to subject their children to the abuse and screw them up for life.
SO FREAKING WHAT, YOU DON’T HAVE A CAR…RIDE THE BUS and WALK TO WORK …like thousands of other mothers and people do in order to survive. Some women STAY in abusive situations bcz they don’t want to give up allll their “comforts” and material THINGS.
You already KNOW what you should do.
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You need to reach out to local abuse shelters in your area. They are able to get you and your family out and in a safe place. Also reach out to a local church because they may have resources. I know it seems hopeless but you have to get out of this situation. It will NEVER get better. NEVER.
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Call the cops on his ass next time he puts his hands on you. While he’s in jail pack your kids and things pack that car leave and never look back
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Onh my Dear …
That’s not semi abusive. That point blank abuse.
Once you allow the abuse to happen it continues Respect has been lost.
Allowing your children to be in a position to see or hear this and see that it gets overlooked or forgiven only passes the torch down to be a abuser or the abused… There are domestic abuse shelter everywhere
Please for Your sake as well as your childrens leave .
No its not easy at first but once gone you will see what he had been doing , you will feel lighter and your inner and outer smile will return as well as your childrens .
I speak from experience.And im still paying the price for the injury he caused years later , all because i was sure he meant it when he said Im sorry and it wont happen again .I Promise.
Get out of the relationship sister you dont need to be teated like that you dont deserve it also the kids theresplenty help out there all you need is to ask am so sorry for u your parents are such nice people g.et help now
Stop making up stories and tell everyone why there are holes. I’m sorry mama.
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