Who ever wrote this, please pm me. I can help you in a way that money won’t matter. I’ve been in your shoes. But you go to get out! Original writer of this post please please pm me.
Prayer’s 
go to a shelter as soon as you can.
I’m pretty much going though the same thing and iv had enough I’m finding a place as I type this ya I’ll have to cut down on a lot but I won’t have my kids grow up yo be as nasty as him
I know it’s hard… Get in contact with a domestic violence center. Do not water it down or sugarcoat it. He’s abusive, and if you stay your son is going to be as well. First step, contact a center and go from there. Most women don’t leave for those exact reasons, and the abusers know it. The centers can help with these things. Good luck sister 
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First of all mama, I am sooooooo proud of you to reach out for help!!! That’s the first stepping reclaiming your life.
Second, I didn’t see where you are and rules and laws are different everywhere. If you can share a bit more info I feel we might be more helpful.
Third, there are domestic violence shelters and things throughout the world. Since I am not sure where you are, I suggest reaching out to their school counselor for device as they will be glad to help you.
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No such thing as semi abusive… GET OUT IMMEDIATELY
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Shd had left him longtime ago.What are waiting for more abuse.Get out now lady b4 its too late.Gd luck
I’d hate to see what your definition of full blown abusive would be if you think that is “semi” abusive.
You need you go to a shelter. Apply for food stamps, section 8… Staying he will most likely get worse and REALLY hurt you or your children.
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I agree you should call the cops on him, they will put him in jail. Pack that car, get all the money you can and run! Go as far as you can. NEVER go back. Your kids will understand. Maybe look around to find out where to go, let someone know you are coming and will need protection. Find help, and run!!
I packed an overnight bag for the kids and said I was going to take the kids to grandmas for the weekend and never went back. Had all intentions of going to a shelter in another county but ended up going to stay with family until I could get on my feet. Best of luck, any time is a good time to get out of an abusive situation.
I’ve been out since 2013. You can do it! Is it hard? Yes! Is it possible? Yes!
Don’t make him look good when he isn’t, worst is the children picking up the adults behavior; boy will copy father and girls will accept abuse as a way of life. Get out of it while you can. Be positive about it, who starts life easy …who has easy… Best to you
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No such thing as “semi abusive”…it’s straight out abuse if it hurts you mentally or physically.
Run!
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Google your local victim advocate- domestic violence hotline. Let them help you get out. They will get you housing, child care, file protection orders, divorce, everything you need!!! Call now!
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Contact domestic violence shelters, most of them have lawyer, therapist and resources.
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You have to do what’s best for your children, there is a lot of help for single mothers, trust and believe God got you and your children if you leave!! He doesn’t want you in a abusive situation. Don’t let feeling like you can’t do it with out him stop you from leaving. Make a plan look at the pros and not the cons and strategize your exit. Start praying and asking God to remove him and make a way for you!! He will.
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Report him for abuse. He has no right to hurt youand no excuse
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Quit making excuses and leave his abusive ass. Children learn what they live, and there are resources out there for you to utilize.
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get out now be then do you want to talk
I feel you babe. I know the feeling of being stuck. I’m sorry, I hate this for you. Please look for a place to stay, a friend’s, family, or women’s shelter. Apply for government assistance and they can help you with daycare and finding you a job. Been there done that. I’m in an amazing place in my life.
By leaving, you may struggle but it’ll never be more of a struggle then having to deal with constant abuse and let alone having your children witness such abuse and learning from it. Sorry, but I’d rather be homeless. At least their are options. Once your children learn such abuse, it will be very hard for them to come back from that. Choose the love for your babies.
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Don’t listen to the demeaning and mean comments. You’ll get out of it, it just takes the will to finally leave and call it quits. Yes it’s scary to start over on your own if that’s all you’ve ever known. But you’ll do it, you’ll get a job and your kids will be taken care of
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Cut his d!ck off then maybe he’ll stop acting like one
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Why are you asking when you already know the answer?
-He physically hurts you
- the children witness this abuse
-He is verbally abusive to you all.
GET OUT. He needs help.
ASK YOURSELF: Where is this relationship going to be one year down the road ? Five years ?
Where do you think you will be ten years from now ?
The domestic violence is taking it’s toll on the children already
…what are you waiting for?
There is help out there. Spend every spare minute on the phone. Start with crisis centers, Catholic charities.
But tell no one
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What are you waiting for ?
Leave…now.Leave now…Call a shelter …Call a crisis line .They will help you get away .gwt a home and get you settled.For your kids …and yourself LEAVE NOW
Contact the local ymca
My biggest concern once you leave is, will he follow you? If so, you need solid support and backup before you leave, just in case.
Leave. It really is that simple.
Your teaching your son that violence and aggression is acceptable, your teaching your daughters that being abused by a man who says he loves them is okay…
Your teaching your kids that this is normal.
Please leave
Go to a shelter, tell someone!!!
Before it gets even worse.
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If you don’t get out he will end up killing you and you poor kids will grow up and think this is how you treat people with violence!! Exposing this behavior to your kids will make them think its the right way to treat others…get out as soon as you can.
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I would suggest leaving him kick him out of your home speak to the police do anything you have to do to protect yourself and your family it’s hard to find the courage to be able to leave him I know I’ve had to escape abuse before but I’m so much better for leaving
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there’s no semi abuse, abuse is abuse
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Don’t think you can’t leave. You can, and you must. You are more capable than you give yourself credit for. Stash whatever money you can, reach out to services that help you leave and then make a plan. Don’t mention it, don’t threaten it, just go. Teach your children that abuse is not normal and show them what a brave mother they have. Get them in counseling before they turn into abusers themselves in their adult lives. You owe it to them. You owe it to yourself…
Domesticshelters.org please reach out tona shelter in your area. Help is out there you just have to be willing to take it
I know it sounds scary, but leave. Just get out. It will be so much healthier for you all to be away from him, even if you have no money. You will feel secure, and you can’t by that. Do you have any friends who can help you out? Good luck 
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Look into shelters for abused women. Call them up and talk to them. They might be able to help.
It’s very easy for everyone to say “just leave”, but a large part of long term abuse is the conditioning and normalising of the behaviour.
It takes the average victim 7 attempts to leave.
It takes a lot of planning and the fear of him finding out is real.
The first step is a safe place to stay and contacting organisations to assist you
The second thing is not to torment yourself about not doing something sooner and getting down on yourself for not finding it as easy as people are making out.
I wish you the best of luck.
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Leave- don’t worry about finances they will work out but you must leave ASAP
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Your kids come first, if your son is doing that new who knows what he is going to be like when he is an adult and for you other children they are going to let there partners in the future treat them that way, the more you let you husband do this, the less chance you have of getting out of it becuase one day he could go beyong abusing you and killing you, if i was you id leave, leave while you can and be safe it dosent matter if you loose yhe car 
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You need to get out and get out now. Please don’t think you can’t because you can!!
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Get out of abusive relationship
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I have been where you have been. There is no easy way to do it, but you must leave him. Those who haven’t been in an abusive relationship can never understand just how hard it is to leave, especially with kids. But it is for those kids, and yourself as well, that you must make the hard choice to move on. Eventually those kids will think that is acceptable behavior. If you have a son, he may think it is acceptable to treat women that way and may grow up to beat his wife. A daughter(s)? They will grow up thinking it is okay to let man abuse them. As for you, once you get out and spend the time to heal and find yourself again, you will see and feel it was for the best. You will eventually regain self confidence again. There are shelters and even churches that can help you get started or point you in the right direction if family is not an option for help. No matter what, it will never end. No matter how many times he apologizes, he will always do it again at some point. And eventually, he probably will even physically hurt the kids too. Don’t wait until it’s too late. No woman no matter what deserves that treatment or to live walking on eggshells. We have one life. Be happy in that one life, not miserable. It will take a little time, but you can move forward and can be happy again. Have strength for you and your children and leave him. When I left my abusive ex and father of my children (one day when he was working) after yet another one of “those nights”, I packed up what we needed to simply just go. I went to my parents house and began my new life. A new life without him or the abuse. It wasn’t easy by any means. It has been over a decade since I did this. I am now happier than I have EVER been with an amazing man who treats me and my children like gold. I couldn’t imagine where I would be had I not left him. Maybe still in the same miserable place, maybe dead? I don’t know. Don’t take the gamble. Choose you and your kids, and happiness.
Get out now, these sort of men kill!!
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No such thing as semi abusive he is or he isn’t even if it’s once a year it is still
Abuse
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Leave… I have 3 boys that are teens now and when my twins were 3 weeks old it took him one time of throwing a boot over their bassinets at me to finally break free. Being a single mom means struggles are a given. But I didn’t want my son’s growing up in abuse or jail because they protected me from him. My son’s are now 18,14&14 And it’s hard but you absolutely can do it. Good luck
How will you support yourself and 3 kids? Transportation for you and 3 kids? Where are you going to get money for a lawyer? Where will you dump the children when you have court? Why do you have so many children that you can’t support them by yourself?
You can talk to an attorney. Get you and your kids safe then have an attorney file for divorce. You can file for alimony and child support, the house can be sold or you can try to keep it. The most important thing is for you and your kids to be safe and get the counseling you all need.
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Your physical and mental health are more important than money or a car. Your children are already witnessing abuse and will soon believe it’s part of normal family life. It’s not. Your husband deserves to be on his own without a family. Some of the comments give you very good advice on the various organisations that will help you to break this cycle of abuse and get away safely so you can move on to a happier family life. Your children will very soon see what a loving environment is. His physical abuse towards you is not acceptable but it will only get worse if you dont either get him out or leave yourself
Seriously get the hell out !! It’s so traumatic for the kids …
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grew up in a house like that took years to straighten myself out very traumatic for the child get out
Semi-abusive? Either he’s abusive or he’s not.
First of all. I’m really sorry that your going through this. It must be so horrible for you. Secondly, just because he hasn’t hit the kids doesn’t mean he won’t or can’t. The fact that your son is now hurting his sister’s is a trigger I’m itself. You need to get out of there asap. Get back to counselling because this sort of abuse really does affect kids in the long run… the social will help you with a house and funds. Never say never because it can be done. You need to get out of that house now!! Xx
Just to warn you, when you leave they “change” and try to suck u back in.
Get out before you end up dead, also think what it’s doing to your children, it doesn’t matter if you haven’t got a car !! You and your kids will be safe xx good luck
Time to go. And get your children into trauma therapy before it’s to late and they live with unhealthy habits.
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Does that P.O.S. sleep ? Take a ball bat, or better still, a crow bar, crush every bone in both hands, then go 5 rounds on his twig and berries maybe one across hi face for shits and giggles, then pack your shit and SPLIT
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it takes one “badly calculated” hit to permanently cause damage to you physically and mentally, same applies to the kids, get the hell out of there.
You need to get you kids and your self out of that situation as this could get out of control do it now go to the council they should help or the police but get the he’ll out of there .
Ring up women’s aid/ women’s refugees they will guide u on what to do
I left during tax time. Made sure my name was on the account the refund went into and drained it. Then put it in an account with only my name. I was able to go home to my dad and my 4 kids and I stayed for 3 years. I got a van with the funds, took care of my kids for a while, got a job and built a new life.
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What you are describing is not “semi abuse” please get you and your kids to a shelter and get your son counseling.
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Call the National Domestic Violence hotline. They will house you at your local DV shelter and there, the advocates will help you get back on your feet. I know it’s hard and scary but you need to leave while you can. Abuse of any kind has no place in any relationship. Get out now before you or your children get hurt or worse.
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I hear ya there i have had to stay for our child so my child has both parents. For me I couldn’t be away from my child for one more night. All because I worked evenings and dad worked mornings.
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Go to a battered woman’s shelter. Coming from a abusive relationship in the past get out now! You’re kids have all picked up on it and it’s hell trying to change the learned behavior! Leave before it’s to late. They will help you and the kiddos get on you’re feet! Sending prayers 
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Life Crisis- TANF- some states even have programs that provide vehicles for families in need. You can do this!!!
There may be some groups that offer support in your area. A church? Shelter? Does your job have an employee assistance program or does your husband’s? Do you have any friends or family you can stay with? Save every penny you can and start making a plan.
Get out now and don’t look back.
Leave for sure! It will be hard but it will all work itself out! My mom, myself and siblings had to do the same
Look into domestic violence shelters in your area. If it wasn’t for the shelter I went to, I would’ve been stuck and probably would’ve died by my exes hands. Please please leave before it gets worse for you and those babies.
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Leave. Figure it out now, make a plan and leave. I was in a similar situation. I got a full time night job. Worked while the kids slept. It wasn’t easy but it was 100% worth it. The day I finally had the police escort him out was the beginning of the rest of my life. && they don’t change, they don’t get better. He can tell you that all he wants. Get out, do what’s best for yourself and your children. A couple months after I finally got my ex husband out I asked my daughter how she felt about everything and she said the house is so peaceful now. It made me cry that I let it go on for years but happy that it was finally peaceful for her.
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Get the hell out of there you don’t want the kids growing up thinking that how a husband should act. Call a women’s shelter or look into low income housing. And get an order of protection
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So sorry you are going through this. Best I can say is try to gather some evidence, of the damage and the abuse to protect yourself in the future especially where the kids are concerned. Make a plan of a safe escape, you might need trusted friends or family to help you get out. Please be safe about everything you do, but you definitely need to get out
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Go to your parents if u can! There the best ones to go to for help. If you can go to a women’s shelter . You’ll feel stuck for a bit but there is tons of consulling n help out there. Don’t be afraid to reach for help doesn’t look bad on you the guy needs a reality check.
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Please reach out to me via PM, or message our DV awareness page. Justice for Bailey I can try and help you find resources in your area.
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Abuse is abuse!!. There is no “Semi”!!.. Get out before it goes “full” abuse. It is possible. I got out but only after ending up in a medically induced coma and waking up with a timberland footprint on my face!!.
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Call or go to your local police station. They will take you to a women’s shelter which will get you into housing. Your kids will grow up to do the same! They will think it’s ok!! Please get help
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Hear me out- leave. I know it’s easier said than done. But I did it. I walked and it was so scary and hard being a single parent and not knowing what the psycho was going to do (his issue was drugs, when he’d get high I couldn’t walk the way he wanted me to). I promise you, it get better. It hard, you’ll feel like giving up and going back, but don’t. Your babies don’t deserve this- they shouldn’t ever see this, or be a victim. The fact that your 7 y/o is choking his sibling is enough for me to say he needs help already. He’s seen to much. If you don’t, and he doesn’t get help, guess what kind of husband he’ll be? Your daughters will think this is how relationships are suppose to be, that they’re suppose to be abused. I promise you, you’re life will come together. You may struggle, but it will work out in the end. Hugs mama
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Every state has safe havens! Domestic hotlines. Etc. Do your research. They will hell. I’m sorry this is happening to you but you CAN get out! You have to want and believe it. Please leave before his physical angers turns towards the children or you end up on the news.
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No such thing as semi-abusive, sorry. Abuse is abuse and there is no excuse for it. His behaviour is unacceptable and you need to get out of there before he seriously hurts you.
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No ma’am you take out charges and restraining order next time he even thinks about hitting you file for emergency custody and take over the house there are agencies that will help you
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He will never change I had one of those now I’m happy married to a wonderful man and loves my children like his own and we have 4 beautiful grandkids We’ve been together for 29 years . Need to get out as soon as you have a chance
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Please listen to some of these resources. Your son is choking his sisters. Get him out and some therapy. What happens if it gets worse (it won’t get better if you stay in the home), before it gets out of control and he kills someone? Your husband hits you call the cops. Press charges and get a restraining order. Theres also I think its called the aspire? app. If its available to you.
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if counseling helped before why not do it again…?
Find a domestic violence shelter asap.
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Stop making up stories and address it for what it is. I grew up in a abusive home. Your kids need you to protect them. My mom was too afraid to stand up for years. She finally did after I left home at 18. My mom had nothing and no way to support herself either, but she did it. She filed for divorce and followed it through. My father was escorted out of the house by sheriffs a year after the whole process started. It was very difficult for her, but she stuck with it. There are plenty of jobs that pay much better than they did 25 years ago. Where there’s a will, there’s a way. Document the abuse and start a paper trail. With determination and hard work you can overcome this. Believe me, your kids need you to do this
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Leave not worth it
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Whatever it takes get out. Look into shelters, contact your local public assistance for programs for help
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Don’t be embarrassed to tell
Family and friends you have to get the hell out if not for yourself for your children
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depending on what state you live in I can help you get legal forms free of charge and everything done thru court. But given I was in a relationship like that for 5 years hoping for change you have to be certain and ready to move on. Even if you don’t see how you will survive without the income and whatnot, there are programs out there. so I will kindly help you get out of that situation by getting the process started thru the courts. Only thing I want in return is for you to go through with it. is not easy but I survived had to stat from zero and since you are married 9 years now you can also get alimony if you like. anyws I can help anonymously.
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Don’t you have family that Cares that you can to to? GO GET OUT OF THERE.
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Be careful during lockdown mama.
I feel for you and your kids.
I know it seems mean but you have to call the cops! Trespass him from your house, if you’re serious about yours and your kids safety, this is what you have to do and im speaking from experience.
Who cares about the money, your youngest is old enough for you to return to work when you can.
I know it seems scary being a solo mum but I’m a solo mum and I’ve even been a full time working solo mum and made it all work out.
Paying my own rent, own car, own bills, own everything.
It can be done!!
Leave before is too late. You can make a life for you and your kids in due time. First is theirs and yours mental and physical health. Do what’s right for them and you. Leave, don’t wait!!
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Get out as quickly as possible. Pack some things and go straight to a women’s shelter. Don’t give him a chance to find out what you are leaving. When it’s time to collect your things, call the police station and set up a time for an officer to come with her so you are protected while packing your things.
I don’t know where you’re located, but when I was going through this, I went to our County Courthouse and was granted a protection from abuse order. The police went to our home and made him leave so me and my children could stay in our home. Please leave as fast as you can, I know that is easier said than done, but please.
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Get your kiddos some therapy after you get out. They will need it to unlearn all of those habits they’ve witnessed.
GET OUT NOW. Start healing. Seek therapy. There’s no greater gift to your kids than a HAPPY MOM. You can do this. You can.
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Make him leave even if.tou have to put him in jail… file for support and work more hours… I know it’s not all easy but God forbid he moves on from you to the children… and your kids are learning all this even your daughters who are learning what a relationship looks like
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Please leave. Just a few days ago a woman I went to high school with left behind her baby daughter Bc she did not get out in time. Your life depends on it.
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Leave like everyone else is telling you.
This sounds awfully familiar 
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