Arielle Mauriello maybe someomes got advice we havent thought of
Constantly asking is putting pressure on her (and you) space out the toilet attempts a bit further. Don’t yell etc because my dad did that to my brother who was bed wetting still at 10, it just made it worse. I second the favourite character on her underwear comment as well, rewards and heaps of praise when she does go.
My only suggestion would be don’t ask- just take
You are so not alone. I’m going through the exact same thing with my 3-year-old daughter.
Girlllll im having the same issue i have 2 3 yr old and a 4 yr old who no matter what i try will not go to the potty! They been at step 1 the whole time. Just pee. Wont go unless i say. Idk its frustrating
I don’t have girls but I have 4 boys. My older 2 I kept trying every 2-3months for a couple weeks on and off but they never wanted to and finally when they both turned 4 they did it out of no where right before preschool started, no overnight accidents, my oldest never has had an accident except when he’s sick, my second has them every so often cause he holds it because he’s scared of water for some reason. My 3rd just turned 3 and he watched his brothers and only wears a pull up for bed or long car rides. My 4th isn’t starting yet cause he’s only going to be 1 next week.
I had 4 boys, they are grown now but when they were little they loved different charters like supperman, so I bought them underwear with them upon they were so proud of the underwear, they broke them self .
Constantly asking is stressing her out, try putting her on the potty 30 minutes after she eats.
Naked, or dress without undies. Mine had accidents in underwear, but never while naked.
Honestly she may not be ready. You are, but she may not be.
She’s just not ready. It will just click one day. as a mum of 5 kids 3 being girls, my youngest girl has just turned 4 and she literally clicked 3 months before her 4th birthday. Stop stressing keep taking her to the toilet every half hour, any more than that you’re just creating stress/ anxiety around the toilet.
Sweetie- yes many many of Mommas have pulled their hair on this problem. Potty training is often way harder on the parent. She just may not be ready - but if you are Try this- every 15- 20 minutes put her on. Eventually through observation (
) after a couple days you’ll find out her schedule-or close to it. Note time she eats and possibly how long her lil’ body takes to processes. First thing in morning too. You’re a good Momma - you got this.
Two word. Potty watch!! You can set the timer on it for 30 mins, 60 or 90. When it goes off it lights up and plays music. Both my kids loved it and it’s ultimately got us all to stay consistent in them sitting and going. make a potty chart and each time she successfully goes potty on the potty, let her put a sticker in one of the squares. Once she reaches however many you see fit give her a prize. For my kiddos I did every 10 successful potty trips you get a candy of your choice. Every 50, we went to the store to pick a small toy. Celebrate big with her every time!
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Some kiddos care, some don’t.
Have u thought of a potty watch … they sell them on Amazon… its basically a timer they wear qnd when the watch goes off its time to go potty… my daughter was potty trained withing like 2 weeks
My daughter is 4 and still has accidents she will do really well at going potty on the potty for a while and then she goes back to peeing herself so no your not alone
Keep it positive. In my daycare I stuck a laminated piece of paper next to the potty and I would give them 2 choices of what to draw with dry erase marker on the paper. Keep them up there all day so they can see their progress. NEVER erase them if they go in their pants. Hence keeping it only positive. Set a timer to tell her it’s time to go potty so she can’t tell you no. It’s “oh the timer went off, time to go potty!” Also buy training pants. Not pull ups or diapers. They are absorbent enough to not make a puddle on the floor but they feel the wetness.
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I thought I was failing too but literally right before she turned 4 it just “clicked” and we haven’t looked back 
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as soon as I noticed she had to go I would legit straddle her on toilet until she would go.
I wish I had advice for you. I have two little boys and the first was easy but the second was hard. I go my first son to go potty (both) on a potty seat (the one on the ground because height was an issue with him on the big toilet) by bribing him with candy. Sounds horrible lol but it darn sure worked! My second son is autistic so he took a LOT longer being potty trained at like 5 almost 6.
Best of luck momma!
I had this issue with my boy. It just clicks one day I swear! With my daughter she would be around the house without undies and just sit when she thought she had to go. Treat her like a big girl and show her your excited when she goes. But she sounds like she’s not ready. Just try again later. Who cares what other people say. What matters is your daughter not feeling like she fails because she’s not she will just take time.
good luck!!!
Just consistancy. Also don’t listen to what everyone thinks or says. Their opinion doesn’t matter.
Too many questions
Time how often she goes on her own Make a chart then only ask during her bodies schedule. Pooping will take more time. Book time, and switch rewards Skittles are a good choice. Or a choice bag
I don’t know when mine started bringing diapers when they were 12 months old I started potty training and all mine were potty trained before they were two
I haaaaate potty training. My eldest was almost 5 when he finally got it down. My second just turned 5 today and he’s still in pullups, he just refuses to sit on the toilet. I would take the pullups away but he doesn’t care, he will still pee and poop in his underwear and continue to play and walk around making my house a disgusting mess without telling me until I discover it on my own, so that’s a huge NOPE. I have a 1 year old and a 6 month old girls to go through this with next. So I don’t have any advice for you, just solidarity, and you may be in this game a lot longer than you’re eating or expecting 
My mom told me that I was 5 when I finally started going regularly in the toilet. She was worried they weren’t going to let me into kindergarten, but I started using the toilet RIGHT before school started 
I overly stressed it with my eldest, it was an agonizing few years with lots of fighting and tears from both me and him, so with my second I’m not pressuring him too much about it. I’ll remind him to go, but I’m not stressing it again.
Mine was the same way and one day I forgot to put a pull up on her before bed and she woke up dry and just started using the potty, I’m pretty sure she played me lol
I went pee at same time I let her hear me and then said did you hear it yeah mommy now you do it that’s game I played
We are heard cote potty training day 2… I have found she is better without underpants on… when she has any sort of lower coverage she will start to pee and realize it and then ask to go to the bathroom
Put her on the potty multiple times a day. Don’t just wait for her cue . You need to “train” her to use it…then obviously give a lot of praise when the deed is done… just read your post about sitting her there 3 hrs…nooo…do
. it every hour or so. If u sit for 5 to 10 minutes then move on. But keep doing it. The more she uses it the more u praise her . Tell her repeatedly how big girls use the potty !!!
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As a mom of 6 kids that I potty trained all at the age of 2 and younger set a timer for every 15-30 mins and go sit on the potty for a few mins each time, I Had my kiddos all completely potty trained in 3 months we also naked trained
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You should be taking her about every 45 minutes. She doesn’t have to go every time just sit 5 minutes and then try again in 45 minutes. It will awhile for her to be able to sense that she has to go and tell you ahead of time
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I just let my girls be naked. I was also a full time stay at home mom.There is no way I could do that now.
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We waited til mine was ready. She was also 3. She was showing a lot of signs so one day her dad put her on potty and she’s honestly been doing great every since. Has she has a few accidents ? Yes. It’s been a few months so it’s normal. And it doesn’t happen every day. Once every few weeks if that. She’s in pull ups still at night and for the most part wakes up dry. Goal is by end of summer to be out of pull ups completely.
I put underwear on my daughter and she was so excited she didnt want to ruin them. She had one accident and has been completely potty trained ever since.
We just barely got my 4 year old daughter potty trained not to long ago we rewarded her with treats when she went potty on the potty and if she didn’t she got in trouble same with my two oldest both boys and now we’re getting ready to start potty training my 2 year old hes not showing any signs of being ready for that though
We rewarded my daughter when she went. At the time Hatchimals were a big thing and she loved them so everytime she would pee she got a Hatchimal. Once she pooped on the big potty she got a bigger toy of her choice. Once she pooped on the big toilet it was smooth sailing from there, she was potty trained.
My son on the other hand is a different story 
My SIL potty trained my daughter (working mommy here) with a chart on her refrigerator for stickers! She was so happy to show me when she would get one! Also at home she got treats for every time she used the potty. I would not force it upon her because it could become a trigger for the future. When you go bring her in there and let her sit on her potty sit while you sit on yours. Also, we sang the potty song.
When my daughter showed signs I took her and let her pick out her own pack of panties. I told her if she peed in then we would have to throw them away. She peed in one pair and we threw them away. She was upset for about five mins and never had another accident 
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Potty pops/stickers or m&m’s! So many for pee and more for poop. Also, i put my oldest in panties and a tshirt, so it would be easier for her to get them down to go. She learned very quickly and was fully potty trained by age 2. Maybe try the potty watch on Amazon and potty books/movies too.
Unfortunately you have to wait until she is fully ready or it’s not going to work and just stress you both out. Believe me I have made that mistake. Be prepared with lots and lots of underwear. Put her in underwear and take her to the potty about every 30 min in the begining and have her sit down and try. Then gradually start putting more time in between making her sit down and try. Also keep asking her every once n a while if she has to go potty because kids won’t want to stop what they are doing to go especially since your daughter is still very young. Be patient it will be hard especially because she is still young. I trained all mine when they were 3 it was still hard but they were a little bit older so they understood more. Use a reward system like mini lollipops or a sticker system. I made a sticker board for my kids and every time they went pee they got to put one sticker on the board and two for poop.
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Take her every hour, if she pees my ore often take her every half hour to try. Don’t wait for her to tell you because she doesn’t know how to connect the two yet, your training her to go to the potty. Also if she doesn’t get it after a while just stop for a couple of weeks. And wait until she’s ready. There is no time limit or age that a child has to be Potty trained by, and if they aren’t ready, it’s not going to happen.
I’ve read that if kids aren’t showing signs of being ready to potty train it’ll take longer for them to become ready if not forced to start to early but start when they aren’t actually ready. Look up online signs of being ready for potty training, and then start with rewards. So a treat when she goes pee and when she goes poop
Get a bag of hersheys kisses, when she goes potty give her one.
I take mine (both) when I go, every time, and then also every half hour or so. Sit for maybe 10 minutes max then come back and try again in half hour. She doesn’t need to go each sit, she needs to get in the habit of sitting first. She’s not yet understanding what it means completely.
I also went right to panties with my oldest once we got the habit of sitting, pull ups I feel are counter productive but they do work for other kids it was just my personal choice
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My 1st daughter I had her fully potty trained during the day (not at night) at age 2.5 years old. I put a timer on my phone for 20-30 minutes, I sat her on the potty every 20-30 minutes and used mini doughnuts as a good job type treat for when she went on the potty. And half doughnuts when she atleast tried to go potty. 99% of the time she didn’t have a diaper on… yes sometimes it was messy and had alot to clean up. I started her off naked. Then worked in to undies. At night was tricky… but Then I just kept on it for 9 months while I was pregnant with our 2nd daughter. By the end she was fully potty trained day and night. Bcz diapers are expensive. Our 2nd daughter is catching on alot faster than our 1st bcz of seeing her sister do it all the time. I am currently potty training her now to, she is 2 years old and 3 months old, she only goes on the potty when she has no diaper on. Still pees in undies and doesn’t take her diaper off togo to the potty. It’s a slow process. She’ll get there mama keep up the good work your doing great!
I left my daughter completely naked for 2 weeks, went to the potty ALL the time, like every 30 minutes. We played tea pots, colored, babies, nail painting whatever would make her sit on the potty. I made it comfortable with a seat that fit her bottom and a stool. Took 3 weeks to have it down, it’s been a couple months and now she is doing great (still accidents occasionally) but with my 2 1/2 year old it took time and patience 
also I WORSHIPED her when she would go. I would say all kinds of nice things about her to her and say I’m proud and she loved that!
I started early with one of mine… even though he wasn’t ready… just to get him used to it… I sing pee pee in the potty
I take him after he drank something eventually i just told him to pee on daddy’s tires and it was easier to train when he got older.
For now I get her used to it and take her after she drank something and she will let you know when she’s ready once she catches on…
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I have tryed everything my daughter just turned 4 and I been trying for 2 years to potty train her out of 8 kids she is the hardest and stubborn. I think I’m going to try the potty watch it’s last thing I can think of.
With my daughter I took her to the potty every 30 minutes. If she peed she got one m&m if she 
she got 2 m&m. She got the hang of peeing in the potty in a few days. was a different story that took a few weeks. She was completely potty trained at 21 months.
Every hour and if she doesn’t go she doesn’t go but take her back every 15 minutes. But don’t scold her if she has an accident. Also nighttime training is more difficult then daytime training so I do suggest getting a plastic mattress protector
I just put my kids on a consistent schedule. They get up they’d get out of their diaper an sit on the potty for 2minutes. If they went then they got a treat be it a handful of m&m’s or a sticker. If they didn’t go I just said you did good we’ll try again in a little bit. An I just would put them on every half hour until I got a good idea of when they would need to go or showed signs of having to go. Pee is the easiest one. It’s number #2 that’s harder to predict. Eventually you do get it an can figure out when they need to go. Really consistency and praise in moderation when they do go and also praise for them making the attempt to go even if they don’t is important. It helps them get to realize that it’s a good thing and it can be fun but also doesn’t get them to rely on only doing it for a reward. The pint is for them to do it so they don’t sit in the yuck anymore an gets them to understand it’s more comfortable to go in the potty. I have 6 girls. I wish you luck bc my oldest was 3 an a half when she was potty trained. Yep I got he to finally be good at it exactly one week before my surgery to have her little sister. Bedtime is harder for some bc they don’t wake up enough to know they have to go but once you get the day figured out then you can work on night. No liquids after a certain time before bed an no drinks in bed. After a bit you can tell when the best cut off time is an by making them go before bed helps reduce the potential for accidents.
Every kid will be different. But just take her over to it after meals/drinks or any time you notice the wee dance and fidgeting lol she knows what it’s for now so let her go as many times as she likes until it becomes common practice to actually use it. Patience is key.
Do every 30 minutes for short sitting spurts, engage her with a book to keep her seated 
get special books for her during potty time that she ONLY gets at potty time. I have 6 sons one daughter who is 9 and a daughter on the way next month. My girl learned to potty faster and easier than my boys to be honest. Stay consistent. Buy her cute undies that has a character she likes on them (then if she potties in them throw them out, eventually she’ll want to keep them so she will try very hard not to potty in them.) Also watch for signs
Not just a verbal of having to potty (fidgeting, holding self, squatting…)
Dont ask her or wait for he to tell you ,you just say ok let’s go potty abt every 30 min or so . Then just go in and go . I always went on the potty also . Just be happy and stay on top of it and before you know it bam shes a big girl .
Take her with you when you go. She needs to understand what it is. Then, explain, she gets excited mommy when she goes.
Are you putting those pull-ups on her?
If so, I suggest not using those in the daytime.
Let her or boys as well wear big kid underwear.
That is a huge huge help and game changer alot of times.
Good luck I’ve always had boys, but this has also helped many friends with girls I’ve suggested it to.
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My daughter used her new potty about three times, then decided that she wanted to use the big toilet like mommy. So we went shopping and bought a ring that goes under the ring on the big toilet so she wouldn’t fall in. She loved it. She was around 2.5 years old.
Potty watch /Amazon
Book & fun panties you pick together /lots of encouragement & praise !!
Always let her wear her big girl undies explain to her she needs to wee wee in her potty when she has those on , eventually she will get the hang of it
I got this book on amazon and i read it and had my daughter potty trained in 3 days!
My method for both my boys and my girl was to make it a big deal day of and take away all diapers… I give it a couple days and see how they are doing. If they are distressed about it, I put diapers back on them and try again in a few months.
My method for both my boys and my girl was to make it a big deal day of and take away all diapers… I give it a couple days and see how they are doing. If they are distressed about it, I put diapers back on them and try again in a few months.
I bought fancy panties, she needed to be potty trained to wear them.
I bought my daughter underwear, got rid of all diapers one box of pull-ups for car rides and just let her run around naked half the time and took her to show her the potty atleast every half hour. It didn’t take too long.
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I sat it in front of the TV and let her run round naked til she got the feeling of when she’s gota go down.
The little potty didn’t work with my girl. I got the seat that goes on big potty. I let her pick out her own panties at store and she wore those during the day. We set a timer for every 30 min and sat on the potty. When she went we made a big deal and got a reward. We did m&ms. Took 3 days but finally she got the peeing down pat. Pooping is still a challenge I just pay extra attention to her around lunch. Which is normally when she goes. First day we had 0 accidents we went out for ice cream. 2nd day with 0 accidents we went and picked out a toy. We are currently on day 5 no accidents
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I did the run around naked on 4 out of my 5 girls sat a timer for every 5-10 min n they sat for 5-10 min and kept it going until she got it
I used m&ms with my daughter. she took me potty every 2 minutes I had to encourage her to wait a little lol.
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It’s going to take several days. Keep her with you in the kitchen or other room without carpet. Keep her something to drink with you. Let her wear training pants instead of a diaper or pull up. Let her sit on the potty every hour or couple of hours. If she has an accident in the training pants, she’ll know right away and won’t like it. If she does, say “Oops potty!” And have her sit on the potty while you exchange the wet pants for dry ones and wash her up. She’ll soon catch on. The poop takes a little longer, but it works basically the same way.
My first girl I offered her big girl panties when she went on the potty all the time and that was it for her. My second is three now she really did better in daycare learning. At home she’s just to comfortable and has a baby sister in diapers. I tried everything with her. At day care I think it was a peer thing. All the kids did so she did. At home I would sit her on the toilet and she wouldn’t go then 10 min later pee on the kitchen floor (we were trying training panties). We tried offering big girl panties, frequent potty time, stickers, high fives helped some but not consistently. She started making it to the potty 1/3 times. Finally I realized cause of something she said she just wanted me to change her diaper like I do for little sister. She’s caught in a I wanna be like big sister but I want doted on like little sister stage. This may sound mean but I litterally told her she was a big girl and she would be changing her own diapers. And she started immediately going to the potty consistently. She’s still learning to read her body so there are a few accidents where she just doesn’t quite make it to the potty. I just try to ask her a lot if I know she hasn’t gone. Not sure if any of this is helpful but really I think each kid is different. So you gotta keep look for their thing. My first was 4. Which also made a difference. In daycare they have to start training at 2 and by 3 they have to be potty trained. Which she did great there just struggled at home. Which they told me was normal cause of the peer thing and comfort of home.
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Turn her atlround have her color seat with washable marker… have her watch you pee. You get a peace of candy when you pp and wash ur hands 
Peice** thanks auto correct lol
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I’m going through the same thing with my daughter. She loves to sit on the potty. But I can’t yet even get her to go potty on it. I’ve tried rewarding with money, stickers, treats. But nothing is working lol
Try a seat on the big toilet. Get some little prizes for when she pees and a bigger prize for poops its just constant repetition and encouraging. Put her in panties she won’t like the feeling of getting her undies wet compared to a diaper or pull up. A few times of peeing her pants will have her going potty in no time. I would still do at least a pull up at night just in case.
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It’s gonna be random. Today she might go once. Tomorrow not at all. The next day maybe she will go 3 times. It’s all progress though. You have to encourage it… ask her frequently and set up a reward system to encourage her.
When I was potty training my girls, I let them pick their potty chair, and their big girl undies. Then they sat, naked on the potty, in the living room, watching their favorite shows. They would pee without even realizing it, be shocked and then we would dance and clap and have a little party. They liked it, so I kept doing it.
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We always rewarded with m&ms and a good job song. If they had an accident talk about how gucky it is and that they want to be a big girl. Then once they get it down a couple times give her big girl panties and make the biggest deal about it ever. Tell her how proud you are and that you really want her to keep her big girl panties pretty. If she has an accident in them tell her it’s ok accidents happen. Then do it all over again
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Keep giving her liquids, if she has accidents reassure it it’s okay and next time we go pee on the potty. Use the toilet when she does as well, make it seem like you wanna go too. Count to 20 and sing the ABCs or a song. They won’t want to sit on for more than 2-3mins and that’s okay too. Don’t force it, they will hate it. My son is almost 3 and this was our 3rd time trying from taking breaks and we dealt with accidents, not wanting to go, tantrums and he’s finally getting it now and loves it. I personally didn’t do a reward each time, just made a big deal about it.
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In my experience, it’s easier to potty train girls vs boys. I made a potty chart with stickers and a prize box for my kids. Worked like a charm. So, use pull ups during the day and every 2 hours at least suggest she sits on the potty. If she goes, she gets to put a sticker on her chart. Once she gets 5 or so stickers, then she gets to pick a prize out of the prize box. I filled mine with candy and tiny toys from the dollar store. The reward system gives them that instant gratification for doing what they’re suppose to do and also gives them the added goal to work towards so they can pick a prize once they reach it.
Give her time. Don’t create anxiety by hovering.
As a former daycare teacher that has helped potty train many kids, it’s not much different teaching boys or girls to potty. Take them once an hour to try. If they go, make a huge deal with lots of praise. If they don’t go, try again every 15 minutes till they do go.
It took my daughter a little longer when sitting on potty to pee at first she’s 3 and has been trained for a few months now we got tired of pull ups so we just took them one day and put her in underwear
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It took until sometime after my child turned 3 to potty train her and at first we just kept putting her on the potty even in front of the TV so that she’d sit on it for a while to possibly potty and sometimes dada would play with her on the potty. After a while she was going potty constantly but only to pee. To get her to poop we had to stop allowing her to use pull ups during the day and now she pees and poops in her potty. And now we keep it in her bathroom. And for whatever reason she always asks permission to go potty when I tell her that she only has to ask when she starts school
According to doctors you can’t push it it’s something that will come naturally my daughter wasn’t potty trained till she was almost 4 years old I did try and try she didn’t want no part of it one day she just went on her own been doing it every since she is 8 now but I would say let her go to store get what panties she wants and rewards everytime she goes all kids are different you got this mama…
Wait. She’s only 18 months. My doc said that’s the absolute earliest to try.
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If she’s not ready, then don’t push it. Wait until she’s showing signs of readiness. otherwise it’ll be pointless.
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Rewards are great. 18 months great age to start and girls are easier than boys!!
No undies, put her in a long shirt no diaper no underwear ask her if she has to go potty often. If she pees on the floor have her help you clean it up. Don’t start this tho till she shows signs of interest in going potty on a potty chair tho. You can actually regress a child if you start to early. We also let her color on the back of the toilet with dry erase markers.
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I made a sticker chart for my daughter. Everyday she made it without an accident she could put a sticker on the calendar, after 5 days of being accident free she got to go to the store and get a doll. However she was 2 and a half.
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18 months is still super young… we tried at 18 and my daughter wasn’t ready. She’s gonna be 2 in a month and I’m gonna start trying again and hope she’s not still scared of the potty.
When I worked in a day care we always said don’t use pull ups just buy plenty of underwear. They don’t like walking around in wet underwear. They do have padded underwear if you are worried about it leaking all over. Just have lots of changes of clothes ready. It rarely took more than two weeks. But you have to patient and not scold if they wet their pants just reward when they don’t. A reward can be simple as great job. I’m proud of you. Don’t ever make them walk around in the wet pants change as soon as they go
Make it a big deal when she does her business stay with her as much as possible and use a potty chair that fits on toilet that how I did it reith my daughter eighteen months and potty trained oh and not a lot of liquid before bed time and I started letting her sleep in a regular bed so she could wake me if she had to go in the middle of the night good luck
Just wait… my youngest is almost 2 and I have no intentions on starting with her any time soon… I’ve potty trained 2 kids already and after my last one, I’m not doing that again. My son potty trained sooo easily…he was fully potty trained before he could talk. Even at night. My daughter who was talking sentences at 18 months, was not. She wasn’t fully trained til she was almost 4 and I started her the same age as him and the exact same way as him. I pushed her too hard before she was ready and it backfired on me. So I’m not doing that with my youngest. She can let me know when she’s ready and if that’s not til she’s 3 or so then so be it. But I refuse to stress myself trying to potty train another kid lol. There’s no rush, my advice is to just wait. She’s still a baby.
My daughters doctor said not to start until she doesn’t pee through the night. She’s 20 months now
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The 3 day potty training method. We started when she was 2 and a half as was aware when she peed or pooed
I take my 20m old in there with me. 9x/10 she’s willing to sit on the potty. Even if she’s still in her diaper, encourage it!
My girl actually learned from other children. My babysitters child was a month older than mine and was potty training and my daughter showed intrest so we just did it and she did well i think they were closer to 24months. We did not use pullups as they wick the moisture from the skin and keep things comfortable. We used training undies or just regular undies. Also when she went potty she got an M&M.
I trained my 18 month old daughter and my 3 year old boy together. We had an instant reward after a sticker for #1 and #2 3 stickers… when you get 5 stickers we had a prize box they can choose a prize a match box car, gummies, little like Polly pockets ECT. It worked for my kids. But this was a long time ago.
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When she’s ready she’ll let you know
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