I don’t have kids but I already decided that if one day this happens they will be put in therapy so they can talk about it and make sure that it’s what they want. That’s to young to decide.
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Take her (him) shopping, pick out some boy-ish outfits they like. Pick out a hairstyle they like. Its good they felt comfortable enough to come to you & speak to you about it. Start slow, it may be a phase. Hair grows back & clothes can be changed too. Just be their safe space.
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Absolutely NO! She’s too young to make that kind of decision and personally, I believe there is something seriously wrong with a parent that would even consider it.
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I’d start researching and doing whatever I needed to to support her and help her transition so she was comfortable 
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Please don’t hate me but this is such a fad with kids these days, truly being transgender is so much more rare then it is being portrayed these days…
kids are so impressionable
I would be loving and supportive but gah damn I am so over this agenda being pushed on our kids
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Sorry. I’m not in. God made Adam and eve. I know ALOT goes in on the kids decision. I find it hard that they can know it all at this age. Just can’t go with encouraging it. I know I will get ALOT of backlash but these are only my options and if u hate at me then that’s the same as hating on what I believe in my heart the bible says. Yep. Let them be transsexual. Let them be drunks. Let them do whatever to let them find themselves. I’m sure God has had to evolve from his first ideas but I believe he made a man and a woman to procreate. I know for sure 2 ducks won’t make a baby and 2 vaginas won’t make a baby. Do u think God screwed up. Nope. Humans have
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I would sit down and speak to them/him and ask how long he has been feeling like this, maybe decide between you a time line of events to come so like change of pronouns, new style of clothing, new hair cut etc. Leave a few weeks between them to see how they feel at each step and give them my full support. I can only hope, should either of my children feel this way, they would trust me enough to discuss and for me to help.
Good luck
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Definitely don’t discount their feelings, it’s a very disheartening thing you realize your parents won’t support you for being you(not saying that that’s what’s happening here), definitely see a professional, I highly doubt they’ll put kiddo on anything or try to change anything just yet… but therapy can always help!
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I would first find out if she actually feels like she is a male and in the wrong body or just feels she should be a boy because she’s attracted to girls instead of boys because they are two very different things! If she truly feels male then you need to find some mamas who have been through it and figure out the best way to support your child without harming her until she’s old enough to truly make those kinds of decisions. Good luck mama.
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They are not too young to know how they feel. Please take it seriously, respect their pronouns, and support them while they navigate this.
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We started with a haircut but we waited 3 weeks to make sure he was 100% certain. We made an appointment with the pediatrician to set up counseling to help support him outside of the family. To us it wasn’t a surprise when he was 5 he used to have complete meltdowns because he wasn’t a boy and didn’t want to be a girl at all.
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My daughter recently identified as a son, I fully support his decision, he’s 10. At this age what does it matter what his clothes or style is? He’s happy, he’s healthy, he’s finding himself. I support him 100% and will be there every step of the way. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with him whatsoever and I will not tolerate any negativity towards my son or me.
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Start with listening to or reading the book Raising Ryland. Listening to your child is the most affirming thing you can do for them. At 12 they are old enough to know how they feel. How wonderful that they have the relationship with you to tell this. Pronouns are so important in affirming their feeling. PLEASE listen children who can live as their authentic selves have a much reduced risk of suicide.
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Definitely don’t enable the behavior. Tactics and YouTube Influencers are brainwashing the socially awkward kids into this type of thinking. It’s predatory abuse of minors.
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Talk to her and find out why she feels that way. There could be very valid reasons she hasn’t had chance to even think through and talking through it with a loving trusted accepting parent may help very much.
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Instead of “she” can we please use they/them because although they’re biologically a “she” they feel as if they are male and are more comfortable as a male. We shouldn’t use their “dead” gender
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Let him/them/her do it. I knew by 11 that I was gender fluid. Didn’t know what it was called but I knew I wasn’t fully a girl but also didn’t want to fully be a boy either. I’m happy my mom let me do what I wanted to do in order to figure it out 
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I would take her to a therapist who specializes in this subject.
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I feel you need to let her express it, and be who she wants. Don’t you dare try and make her hide it away. Be supportive 100%. That is what you do, and how you handle it.
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I have no advice. Asking for suggestions like this is 100% where I would start. I am just here to say that I love the support in this group and all the responses I’ve read so far are so encouraging. Your child will need all the support through this so definitely have them speak to a therapist that specializes in this sort of thing. Best of luck. Kudos on being an amazing parent snd raising a kid that is comfortable enough to confide in you with this huge thing.
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There is plenty of evidence that knowing at this age happens. And do some research. Ask how you can help.
Find creditable resources and people to talk to for BOTH you and them.
This is going to be a hard road that will be apart of you and them for their entire life. They need support, the more you can give the better
Good luck.
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My daughter has been telling me since she was 6. But she didn’t want to be called he, just dress and “act like a boy” so I bought her some clothes and let her get her hair cut and now she’s 9.5 and is whatever she feels like that day.
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You. Be. You. Honey. I loved you before I knew your gender and I’ll love you after you establish your gender.
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You need to SUPPORT it… she may change her mind in a week too and you also need to support it… but don’t just assume they are too young because trust me if she (he)genuinely feels that way and you tell her she needs to wait a few years it will be extremely damaging to your relationship
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I would ask what she likes about the thought of being a boy. I wanted to be a boy when I was younger to. That’s normal. I wanted to wrestle, play football, etc. Child is 12. Maybe the child just likes boy activities. I’m a 33 year old female heavy equipment mechanic/ operator. “Man trade”. But I’m feminine, a mom, straight, etc. I would listen, listen, and listen. I would not push anything or go overboard. Kids are seeing so much shit on social media. Support whatever they want but the child is 12. Maybe the child gets along better with boys. I always did
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What a great thing that they feel safe telling you! 1- counseling for you child and y’all 2- hair cut and clothing change!
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I would tell them that God made them a girl or a boy for a reason. Teach them to love who they are!
I would tell my kids to go to the bathroom, look in your pants, if there’s a penis, you’re a boy. If there’s a vagina, you’re a girl. Simple.
Embrace it! and it doesn’t make any sense to “be born in the wrong body” like where did your body go before it literally developed in the womb?? Is it like that TV show switched at birth? Lol Sounds very silly to me…
if y’alls kids don’t know their identity, I’d pray for them asap and don’t stop… because the devil wants to take away our identity. 
Your kids need therapy but not for “support”, but for diagnosis of these mental issues.
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Maybe do some exploring with hair, clothes, activities. Sometimes kids know thats how they truly feel inside and sometimes its about something else…maybe being picked on or not getting to play something because shes a girl, periods, etc. Shes still young. I would not dismiss her feelings because its awesome she came to you now! I personally feel its young to change her whole identity or for hormones and surgeries. Thats extreme for that young of an age when there is so much physical and mental development that she hasn’t reached yet.
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I have a daughter who is now my son. At first I thought it was just a stage. But turns out he is so much happier now that we all except him and he gets to live how it makes him happy. And to me it doesn’t matter I love my child for who he is.
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Support her( which it sounds lije u are a bit) buy her the boy stuff let her feel herself out if its truely what she wants. It took a lot for her to tell you… but if she wants a full change stick by what u said give it some time before that final choice. Good luck mom hope u 2 find a happy middle.
Be the kid’s mom. Love them, support them, talk with them.
That being said, there’s a huge difference between “wants to be” and “feels like”. The child should talk to a psychiatrist that specializes in gender reassignment surgery. They are good at determining if it should truly be considered as an option for the person in question (as opposed to confusion or some other underlying emotional/mental condition).
I told my kid when she was that age that she can do what she wants when she is 18 as far as altering her body or getting hormone therapy. Over the years she has become lesbian, transgender for 3 years , and now she is 16 and supposedly she is bisexual and dresses more like a girl now after being a boy. Let them explore to find out who they want to be but don’t force it. I knew she was young when she first told me which is why I told her she can do surgery or hormone therapy when she turns 18.
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I would let her know it is okay to feel that way but she might change her mind later. That she should do her research and deep contemplation with a therapist (not to transition). I would let her wear jeans and shorts instead of dresses and shirts. I was a tomboy at this age and did everything boys did. I am now 
identifying as a female (married and 7 kiddos). I would ask her why she feels that way and find a happy medium
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I would just be like okay what can we do to make you feel more comfortable right now? And see what she’s wanting to change like does she want to dress differently, be called a different name or referred to as he/him or just seeing what she needs in the moment to feel accepted and supported and more like her true self. I’d just let her know she is free to explore this feeling and that you support her in any way she wants to express herself or represent herself 
and she can just go at her own pace
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Go to therapy, let her/him talk it through if it is so it is easy enough to postpone hormones until a later date. Way easier and less traumatic than surgery.
You ask her what makes her feel that way and why she feels like this, it might be a phase, she might think boys get it easier or it might be because she feels in the wrong body, until you ask in a completely calm manner without giving her any ideas or persuasive thoughts you won’t know what she’s really feeling let it come from her heart
I would treat it as a phase right now, if she wants to wear boy clothes and have short hair let her, it’s not permanent, I would absolutely not start hormonal replacements or anything that she could regret at an older age. She is too young to make a life altering decision like that
I read another Mom has this issue. She explained that her daughter had developed quicker than the other girls in her grade and was being teased and I think groped by her peers and that is what prompted her daughter saying she wanted to be a boy.
I know you’re just starting out but I would suggest counseling to see what the real issue is before jumping right into hormone therapy/surgeries.
Love & support is all your child needs. And a good therapist to help figure out exactly how long/why your child is feeling the need for change and what they want to do. And the therapist will not only be helpful for the child but for parents as well.
I agree with most people.
But I would do together therapy and single therapy.
I would ask my kid what they expect from me?.
How can I support you?.
And I would be very available whilst giving them heaps of room.
I love this! Supporting your child and loving them no matter what. I say let it ride for a while. See how they feel in a couple of years. Like a few others have suggested, let them change their hair/clothes, anything to explore who they are.
I think kids are really confused right now by the constant pushing of the LGBTQ, non binary, pan sexual… it’s too much. My daughter thought she may like girls also when she was about 10. We had a conversation and she was confused because as woman we know we look at woman and compare and find them attractively put together and it doesn’t mean we want to make out with them. Once I explained, she felt so much better and realized it was normal. I told her I loved her either way, even if she found she was attracted to girls. It didn’t matter to me, but I wanted her to be comfortable and free to make that decision. She is 13 now and boy crazy. It’s like a huge trend to be anything but straight. My 12 and 13 yr old went to camp last week and they all went around saying what they were and only 2 straight girls. To me, that should not be the topic right now- anything sexual. If we didn’t glamorize and force it down people throat, it wouldn’t be like this. This is of course my opinion and we are giving our kids just another reason to be confused about what or who they should be.
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I felt that way when I was young but glad I never was able 2 do it!! Kids should NOT b able 2 chose that what so ever! They can definitely change their mind!!
Just be supportive, the last thing your child needs is to be judged by the one person that is supposed to love them unconditionally. You would love you child just the same if your child was born a boy, so it shouldn’t change a thing.
Maybe set up an appointment for her to talk to a therapist that specializes in this sort of thing so they can help guide her.
If it was me, instead telling her to wait I would maybe start with asking why she feels she needs to be a boy. Is she just more of a tomboy and not wanting to wear typical girl attire nor interested in girly things or does it go deeper then that.
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If it were me, my 9 yo daughter said that at 12? I would listen and ask what I could do to help them figure it out. No need for surgery talk or you’re too young comments, nobody stops straight kids who have classroom crushes and asks them are you sure you’re straight though???
Be there. Listen. Accommodate. Whether it’s a phase or reality these kids are PEOPLE and they know who they are inside or at least are trying to figure it out for themselves.
This comment section is super transphobic 
and yall wonder why they commit suicide at such high rates. Let him be a him if he changes his mind later okay. Look into therapist who will help him make sense of himself. You cant start hormone therapy till your 16 anyways.
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Best thing you can do is have your childs back no matter who they decide to be. I am doing my best to remember and respect my childs wishes to be called by a different name and gender. I also have seen, from my kids friends perspective,the damage it will do to the relationship if you do not respect them ; they feel alienated, unloved, not accepted, confused, and from what i seen; may begin to hate and lie to this kind of parent)
I also know it’s easier said then done for some parents because they can feel like their “losing” a child in a way but just remind her how much you love her and NO MATTER what she chooses in life as long as it doesn’t hurt her or put her in danger you will fully support her. This is a really hard time for kids she needs her moms support Regardless Who she identifies as. 
12 is definitely old enough to be able to say I don’t feel like I’m the right gender. Let them explore themself throw out the clothes let them pick it out. Change the hair go from there give them that “year” to decide after they’ve had the chance to try
Let them have a say …choices are important .Brad and Angelina daughter seems to have outgrown this . Some do some can’t it’s a very confusing era and time for our children , trust, faith ,hope , love support
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Mine asked me if it was ok to be bi?! I said Bi-Polar?!?! I already knew that 
My response would be, when you’re older and a surgery could be performed have at her. Support/ love and understanding. Lotsa time inbetween for her to think about it as well. #parentingain’teasy
I would ask … why? … I know that as a woman I perceived men as having less responsibility and an easier life… I’ve literally said that “I wish I was a man”… not because I literally want to be one but because being a woman seems more difficult.
You handled it the proper way!!! My kids have had many friends thru high school just the past couple years who said that. Now that they are out of school they changed their minds. Let her decide as the years go by. So awesome that you are supporting her and helping her make smart choices. I would definitely keep talking her to wait, her hormones are all crazy right now.
I think honestly that is to big of a decision for a 12 year old to make. Their are kids that regret taking hormone pills when they where young and now they are detransitioning because they don’t classify as that gender anymore. If they are serious they need to go about it other ways that aren’t permanent. If they still want to do it after EXTENSIVE research and thought then I guess you support them.
I have a friend with a 12 year old who has told her that they are a boy. He’s chosen his boys name and will be called that from now on. I think the fact that he’s told you says a lot about your relationship. Keep being a great mum and support him as best you can. I think we’re living in a much more progressive society hence why children are speaking out about who they feel they are. There are so many suffering in silence and I can see why judging by so many of these judgy/ dismissive comments
I’ve thought a lot about how I’d handle this, when my daughter is older. I’d let her know that I love her, and respect her decision. I’ll gladly refer to her, however she wants me to, but a lot of mental, and chemical changes happen during puberty and the teenage years. I’d let her know that if she still wants to do the change when she’s no longer a teenager, then I’ll help with the expenses. I want to make sure she’s sure of what she wants, and if she still wants it after so many years, then I know it wasn’t a fad or for attention
mine was 5 asking me about all the genders and why she didnt feel right 6 years later…bet your boot she feels the same.shes come to me that she doesnt like boys at all
I except her and let her be her
Support your child above all. You would’ve loved them whether they were a boy or girl in the womb, keep that same energy. Let him cut his hair, dress how he wants, use the proper pronouns, and if he changes his name use that and don’t deadname him. Most of all, though, love him hard. Trans people are discriminated against enough, they need their parents to love them even more. Trans people commit suïcide often, because they don’t feel understood, accepted and loved. You are the difference between a lifetime of miserable conformity and a lifetime of happy non-conformity.
Support her and help guide her.m.m since she came to you chances are she may have known for many years and love her no matter what … shes going to need you by her side to help her navigate through this process… good luck and I hope everything goes well for you all… stay positive !!!
I think you handled it perfectly. Life is very confusing at 12. How are you suppose to know anything about your sexuality when you have no life experience under your belt. Being supportive and open to all dialogue with your child is the best thing you can do. Making sure your child feels safe and supported in her decisions and helping her along her road of discovery
my daughter wanted to be a boy when she was younger. We laugh about it now. She is now 50+. My brother played with dolls when he was little. He wanted to play with my sister and I. That is normal I think.
I personally would pray over her and rebuke the spirit of confusion. Treat her with respect and love and patience as this is a make or break situation for your bond with her. Go to war in your secret place with God over this. And don’t stop. I feel strongly that you shouldn’t condemn or shame her but gently try to guide her
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I knew I wasn’t a girl by age 5, I just came out as non binary right before turning 24. Up until now I had such deep rooted hate for myself. I hated how I felt in my body, I struggled with being suicidal since 8 because of it. Once I came out, I have never been as comfortable with myself, liked myself. If this is how they feel, let them be who they truly are. Let him be happy. Start by just letting him choose clothes he’s comfortable in, and using his correct pronouns. And just take it from there
I would say the same, but stand by them in their decisions. My niece feels the same at 14. My sister told her she is to wait until she’s an adult to make that decision. It really could be a phase.
I would tell them they can be whatever and who ever they want
Show her drag queens and let her know there’s a whole community of people that care and feel the same way as well
I’d say I fully support you let’s read up on it together talk to a few people ( professional and others that have changed gender ) . Go with the whole clothes and hair thing just say if you are serious we are doing this properly with no need to rush as at 12 your hormones are up the wall . This is something new that we can see through together and I want you to know im so proud but also honoured that you came to me and told me x
I think you’re advice is accurate I guess the only thing I would do differently is ask her why. Ask for specifics. I believe I’ve thought or said that myself and it was only because I believe men have an easier life then women. It doesn’t mean I wanted to change my gender just thought life would be easier that’s all.
My children didn’t do this, but my 10 yo niece is convinced she’s lesbian. Her mom is basically trying to do/say the same thing. Give it a few more years to know if that’s how she truly feels or if it’s a phase. We live in a very rural, cliquey area, so she doesn’t want her daughter saying one thing one minute (year) and changing her mind the next. My SIL has nothing against it if my niece truly is lesbian.
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I agree, however i would be asking if she would like to go shopping for some “boy” clothes. And if she wants a hair cut etc. its a big decision but that doesnt mean she cant decide to make some changes.
At that age, let them try on any identity in a safe space. Offer the boy clothes, use their preferred pronouns and even name. Tell them just because they feel this way now doesnt mean they are locked into any choices, many times it takes practice and time to figure out exactly where we fall on the binary, and how we want to express that.
they don’t “want” to be a boy. they feel it.
be supportive, let them figure it out and be with them every step of the way. don’t drag it out, and don’t rush it. make sure they know you will love them and treat them the same no matter what gender they are.
All I can say is sit back and support them in every way possible. 12 isn’t too young to make that kind of decision. The worst thing u can do is tell them to wait to be themself. Let them explore, express and feel comfortable in their own skin. And if they change their mind, so be it. Kudos to u for being such a supportive mom 
For starters don’t talk to him like you know what he feels better than he does - ask him what he wants to do - new clothes? New name? New hair cut? A binder? These are all things that he can do safely that aren’t permanent and you can offer to support him
Firstly, how wonderful your 12yo felt confident enough that they could come to you and say that!! You should feel extremely proud that you have that relationship with your child 
Personally, I would support them and thank them for coming to you, and that you’ll be there however they choose to live their life.
Id also mention that this is a conversation that you have never had to have before. So for that reason it’s important that you both speak to a counsellor, both together and separately, to help you both.
If she wants to change her clothes, hair, etc that’s fine but I wouldn’t do anything medical or hormones, I think she needs to be an adult to fully decide if that’s the right choice, She’ll have her whole teen years to find herself if that’s who she truly is
I have a friend whose child actually started to transition when they were in their mid teens. They had the “top surgery”, and were saving money for the bottom. After living as the opposite sex for several years, they changed their mind, and now they are living as their original gender.
I would personally tell the child to wait until they are 18 or 19 before making any life changing decisions.
Have her talk to a counselor, she is too young, her brain is still developing! This might just be a fave, often when children get to make adult decisions, it is regretted! Good luck!
Since my daughter was 3 she’s told me she was a boy in her past life and she’s supposed to be a boy. She’s now ten. A lot more mature than most 10 yr olds I know. Always referred to herself as “he him Mr boy and the name Leo” She recently told me she wants to dress more like her brothers. I said okay no more unicorns and mermaids and she said thank you. It’s her job to find herself it’s my job as a mother to support and teach my children to the best of my ability to be responsible stand up for themselves and love themselves. Assure and comfort my child because she feels different from girls her age. So for me atleast … I won’t stand in the way of who my child feels she is ! She has my unconditional support but I want her to go about the right way of doing things. It’s my job to make sure she knows exactly what her heart feels when she expresses herself to me and others.
Tell them to be comfortable in thier feelings but also give themselves time to really figure it out i feel like with all the exposure these kids face today it leaves alot of room for confusion, they are young still it can easily be a phase but let them walk thru it for themselves just support them. I would not advise any type of gender altercation or hormone altering at this age, they can wait till they are adults if they still feel the same
Could be just talk but if she is serious the last thing you wanna do is make her feel like she cant talk to you. Its hard enough to come out or be open about things like that but if its something she feels in her soul then she is gonna need 100 percent of your support. I knew when i was 5 years old I liked girls when you knlw you know. Same difference make her feel supported and heard. Let her lead. Im not saying go out and buy all boy clothes and change her name tomorrow. Let her do what she needs to to feel happy and you support her. It may jusy be a phase it may not but be there for her regardless
I would ask her when she realized that’s what she felt and tell her before doing anything drastic you can take her to go shopping for some new clothes and possibly to the barber shop if that’s something she wanted to feel more comfortable in her own skin. They say a child knows way before the age of 12 so I wouldn’t make her wait a few years but for anything medically I would until she is 18
you’d be surprised how young people are when they discover these types of things out about themselves. I agree with a lot of people saying to let her explore. let her be who she wants to be and show it. 
I would her people in hell want ice water… and that if she truly feels that way, tell me why? And then I would tell her unfortunately she was born a girl and that if “boy” things, clothes ect. Suit her likes and wants better… there’s no reason she can’t do or have those things… if she’s attracted to other girls, that’s fine… still not dating till you’re older… but absolutely I would let her know, that this is the body she was born into and this is the body she will die in… at the end of the day, we don’t mess with nature like that, it isn’t healthy… she has the God given right to be happy and healthy and needs to find a way to come to terms with that. She can be who ever she wants, but she can not be a gmo and I would certainly help her process that.
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My children can make that decision when they’re adults. If she wants to wear clothes that are more “masculine”, cut her hair a certain way, be called another name, etc … that’s fine! Anything having to do with hormone therapy or physical alterations would have to wait. That’s not a decision you can just 100% come back from should you decide in the future it’s not what you want. It can really mess up their bodies. I honestly wouldn’t even trust a teenager with a decision that huge.
I’d make my child feel heard and wouldn’t shame them, but I’d also voice my concerns in a loving way.
There are some serious regret stories out there and I’d never be able to forgive myself if my child ended up regretting their decision and was physically damaged due to their transition.
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Hell no. Every child going through puberty has awkward feelings. The prefrontal cortex controls your rational logical thinking skills. It isn’t fully developed until late 20’s. I was picked on and made fun of as a child and I often thought it would be easier if I were a boy. Alas that was just a thought. I love being a woman. I’m so glad the mainstream social media outlets didn’t exist to prey upon my insecurities and brainwash me into believing I was trans.
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My 15yo came to me when they were 12, saying they were a transboy. They did explore and have since identified as nonbinary. It’s NOT A FAD, I truly believe kids today are just more aware of how fluid and non restrictive gender needs to be.
In hindsight I wish I had known about puberty blockers or would have talked more to doctors about options because now they have quite alot of gender dysphoria related to periods and breasts but there doesn’t seem like much we can do about it without surgery, binders are not enough anymore.
You may think waiting until they are older seems reasonable, but the transition is much harder after puberty than it is before puberty.
Anything that doesn’t require changing permanently I will allow before 18, maybe certain hormones I would need to speak with a doctor.
Most importantly is to be supportive! Talk, really listen and ask questions you have and make sure they know you will love them unconditionally and accept them as they are. Be prepared for others trash talk, chastising and often retaliation. Your child needs to be prepared as well. Not all family members will want them around which is extremely difficult. Also find a qualified therapist to help guide you both
Just make sure she knows that you accept her no matter what she is, and educate her on the matter, it’s one of those things that’s not really a decision she has to make, more of a self reflection she has to make. As long as you make sure she understands everything you’re doing your job.
Make him feel comfortable, at that age we are already a mess mentally, trying to figure out who we are. The fact that he felt like he could come to you means you’re doing something right as a parent in my opinion
I have actually had this conversation with my children. To be clear, none have come out as transgendered. What I would do is support their decision. I would allow them to live their lives as their preferred gender. I would allow and support the hair, breast binder, name change, clothing choice. But I 100% would NOT allow hormonal replacement. I would take them to what ever mental health support system they needed to get through it. I would also hold their hand and be sitting in the seat next to them on their 18th birthday when they had their gender reassignment consultation, if they still felt they wanted that intervention. I wouldn’t sign for my son to join the military at 17.5 yrs old even though I knew he was headed to a military career. I wouldn’t sign for tattoos before the 18th birthday. I am not signing for any of my children to alter their bodies. But my kids know they are lived and accepted by me. People don’t have to approve of how you love your kids. As long as they are healthy and cared for.
Are you jumping the gun? I usedto say that shit because i legit knew men get treated better ESPECIALLY in latino homes. Thats all that was. I was a little tomboy with a unibrow lol
It meant nothing lol just talk to her . … communication damn it lol
Help her with clothing and start calling him him. Let him explore it and tell him when he is 18 is when he can legally get the sex change if he still wants it. Get him a haircut and let him know just how much trust he has for u by telling u. Be proud that your child has a voice and feels that they can tell you anything. I guarantee it was the hardest thing in the world to tell u
Let kids be kids hun. Support your child. Let them be who they feel they are, love them unconditionally. Yes they may change their mind…… and if they do they will know you will support them through that too. Even if you end up getting hormones/blockers…. That’s a really big process with a lot of hoops to jump through and a lot of psych appointments to go through…… nothing is permanent until you get to surgical options and they have to be an adult for that anyways - at that point it’s out of your hands anyways. It’s a big thing and you will go through a lot of emotions…. You will grieve the child you had but you get to meet a new amazing person who is just as special. Please contact me if you want to chat or I can send you to some support groups for parents. You got this muma. Remember it’s not our job as a parent to tell them who they are. Our job is to listen, love and support them in finding out- then champion the hell out of them …… and this takes strength and bravery!
No, shecan dress like se wants but no transitioning til she is able to do it on her own. So many people who transition young have regretted it and want to transition back.
I would love them no matter what. We have preconceived notions and we project them onto our children.
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You are doing everything right I feel …I always hope younger ones take there time to figure out these things it does change over years …good luck either way
I have a question I’m hoping this thread can help give me more insight into… my question comes from love and the want to understand, nothing judgmental. 
Why are the pronouns •they/them• used? In my mind “they” and “them” is plural, like more than one person. Is that the reason? More than one gender- born one, identifies as another? (I may have just answered this for myself…) Thank you for any information.