A lot of kids go through this phase as they see it as a “trend” for most, it passes. It’s not “wanting” to be another gender, its truly feeling that you ARE another gender. Big difference! I would just give it time.
Did you ever stop and ask her why? Just because she said she wants to be a boy doesn’t mean shes trans or gay…IJS how about really talking to her and seeing WHY she wants to be a boy.
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Well my daughter is 12 and shes says shes attracted to girls to… [bi] I said whatever floats your boat 
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I’d do the same. Be cool and tell her when shes grown she can make that decision and just support how you can. It’s like a cool thing at that age so just roll with it and see how she decides later.
Our 12 year old daughter feels as though she should be male. I dont understand but i will support her decision. We would not pay for medication or surgery. If at 18 she still feels the same she can do whatever she wants
I’d personally start researching as much as I could. Take her to a reputable lgbtq friendly therapist. Make sure they understand everything they can about gender, sexuality etc. I’d also be very willing to let my child dress how they chose and use any gender they prefer in the meantime. Let them be who they feel they need to be.
I’d also make sure to ask, do they want to be a boy, or do they feel like they are a boy? Could be a big difference.
Let them explore. Support them and if it seems like its not a trial period of her thoughts and she expresses more on how she really likes it then see a sycoligist
I think it’s fantastic that she feels comfortable enough to come to you and talk to you about it 
Perhaps let her do some things that she considers “boyish” hair cut, clothes - things like that.
They’re not over the top but it may be enough to make her feel more comfortable and supported in how she feels and what she’s going through.
I can imagine it would be hard for you but Atleast that way, she feels heard.
Small allowances will give her the opportunity to see if it’s really what she wants
Start with allowing them to change how they dress. Maybe even a different name. I believe as their parent you still have e a right to name them but consider their feelings. Start using their preferred pronouns. These are all easily changed if in fact after they explore this side that are not identifying as male. But if they do in fact identify as male you are taking great strides to help them be their authentic self. Their are lots of groups for parents of children in the LGBTQ+ community and they are a wealth of information. I myself am a proud mom of a lesbian and “other mother” to a non binary bisexual so welcome to the club mama bear.
Therapy is the best for them to see if it’s a phase or if they really wanna be a boy and that’s how they feel
If HE has decided he is a boy then that’s great! If he later changes his mind then that’s fine too. Its his body, his choice.
Anything other than a loving, accepting response is unacceptable. Send him to me! I’ll love him for who he is.
Let them explore their identity 
take them to get some boy clothes and etc. Support them no matter what. In the long haul, they may decide that’s not who they are, which is totally normal and totally okay. If they want a haircut, take them to a shop and look at the boys haircut books, reminder to say something nice like “hey, I think this one would look good on you” hair grows back. If they decide they would rather wear girls clothes instead, so be it. It’s just clothes. Just be there for them 
I think allow them to explore maybe go somewhere they can get a binder so it’ll be done safely use the name/pronouns they now want but tell them more permanent things like surgery and hormone treatment need to be at an older age
I would just tell her to be who makes her happy. It may be a phase she out grows, or it may be who she really wants to be. Both are ok. Just be supportive and make sure she knows your love is unconditional
My 14 yr old came out and told me he likes boys and all you can do is love and support them you can’t change who your children are you can only love them support them and be there for them the best you can
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My child is transgender, born female but does not identify as such. They are 17, and first told me about 4 years ago.
Love your child unconditionally. Your child’s age range has the highest for suicide attempts with teens/kids that feel the same way.
You don’t have to approve, but offer them a safe space.
Tell he ok…ztart a list why… feelings and all… never to young kids need to understand why or what makes them feel that way… as a parent you need help on how to help a kid understand what they’re feeling
⟟ had ⏃ friend who had this exact thing happen so they cut the child’s hair and started calling them Mo. after ⏃ year or so said child said they appreciated everyone for being so supportive in her experience but that she didn’t actually feel that at all. Your child is young and this is absolutely the perfect time for them to experiment and find their true selves. It may be that they’ve always felt this way and are just now brave enough to do anything about it. Or it could be just something they’re curious about and wanting to try it out … either way they’re at the perfect age to do so with few consequences. And just as an FYI trans youth that are supported and gendered/ called their name of choice are significantly less likely to commit suicide than their counterparts and that’s at 50% suicide rate … just something to keep in mind.
Your child knows who they are and doesn’t need a few years. If I were in your shoes I would stand behind my child to be whomever they want to be. They are the ones who feel trapped inside their bodies as it is, they are scared because look at how society acts and treats them. You should be their biggest fan. You’d be surprised how many kids know at 5 and sometimes younger that they wanna be the opposite sex, let them.explore what they are feeling what’s it gonna hurt. You love your child unconditionally. Trying to stop them from being who they are will cause problems in the long run.
Clothes, haircut, name, etc should be up to the kiddo. Even if they change their mind later, letting them figure it out is really important.
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They say they are born the way they feel ! So good luck , just lots of talking & supporting them is all I can think off . Very hard question
I would try to understand WHY she feels like she has to be a boy. I would let her know that no matter what she likes or FEELS inside, that it is COMPLETELY fine, I guess I would try to get her to accept WHATEVER feelings she’s HAVING, but to accept that fact that she IS a girl, & being a girl doesn’t mean she has to do or be anybody but who she is…Idk… I’m not the " tell u how to live" type parent, I have 5 & I simply am here for them regardless of how I personally FEEL… Because I understand that they are too travel their OWN journeys, who am I to alter their choices for it? 
More than likely that child has thought about it for much longer than the parent can imagine. It’s sad people have to live in conditions that dictate the need for secrecy from their own parents. A parent should be a safe place to go.
At 12 years I feel like they know. Is she asking you to acknowledge her new gender or does she actually want to transition? I’d see how she feels you can best support her in this transition (whether truly physical or emotionally at this time). I’d also seek out therapist and doctors willing to work with kids her age to walk through the process with you. I’m really glad that you are seeking advice instead of automatically shutting her down
I’d support her to an extent as in have her talk to a therapist and me to actually make sure it is what she wants but I would not support any life altering changes at the moment. I’d want her to wait tell she was a few more years older to decide on anything like that. Dressing as a boy or what not would be okay though for the time being.
It’s a great answer! Her body is changing! Tell her to wait and if she still feels like this in a few yrs…then it’s ok
I work in Adolescent Medicine at a children’s clinic. I would try to find one close to you. They work with gender dysphoria and are wonderful! Some of our kids have gone for years before making the decision to start their transition.
Some of them don’t see girls until they start their period though.
Or find a counselor near you that deals with gender dysphoria specifically.
I’ve noticed with pubescent teen girls, they have a girl crush. Perhaps their best friend or a pretty girl they admire, at that age they assume they are gay. Being an ear is the best method, they will definitely find out.
Support and respect their gender identity - if she chooses to officially make the change, personally, I would have her wait until 18 and legally able to make her own choices.
If a young child boy or girl says they love the opposite sex we don’t question it . They know love ??? With ouT having had /straight/ sex … But when some say their gay / trans we question if they know their self … What you got to say …they haven’t had gay sex , or straight sex / but their wrong on what they feel? Being gay or bi is more than just the sexuality !
Have them “live” as the opposite gender until they are 18 - and are adults to have surgeries etc.
Some kids go thru stages like this and others it’s actually an issue that continues. I would just stay open minded keep communication open and see how or if it progresses into something. Personally i would support my child no matter what.
My daughter is transgender. Born male now female…She came out at 14… they know what’s right for them much younger then you think. She got a referral from her pediatrician to a endocrinologist and started the process … she is still taking hormone blockers but not estrogen as that is working for her… just support your child and love them… pronouns are important… its not easy and u will fight a lot of battles for them… but its worth every second to see your child happy in their own skin…
Naw I think that’s pretty much the right advice. I’d probably let her “soft transition”. Go by a boy’s name, cut her hair, use male pronouns, ect. But tell her that you don’t think she should make the body altering decisions until she’s at least 16. I am a very masculine woman and so never “fit” into my body or identified with other women until I was well into high school. Because of this I spent a lot of middle school thinking I was trans. Children tend to see things in black and white. So if they are not girly they (like me) probably came to the conclusion that they should have been born a boy. But I grew and learned women can be into whatever they want and can be more masculine and still be a woman. It’s a scale. You’re little one will find her truth. Just be supportive and open about everything.
Your child is what she is. Whatever she decides let her be happy, just support her my grandchild has said she is gay since she was 11 i totally support her
Ask her what she would like to go by and use the name she picked and the pronouns and try it out. Explain to her that jo matter what u love her and she will always be your child whatever gender they choose
I agree with you for sure, but you could also look into counseling now if she’s insistent, as that is technically a form of body dysmorphia and a counselor could help her sort out her feelings and deal with them. The suicide rate in the trans community is quite high, pre or post transition, so whether or not she still feels the same way in a few years or not it wouldn’t hurt to offer her to talk to someone now while she is feeling that way. Good mental health is important 
good luck mama!
My child is around the same age, 11 turning 12 and has discussed feeling and being non binary. Wanting to change their name. I encouraged them to explore it more, use proper words, pronouns, etc. they are already in counseling and shared it with the counselor to discuss and provide insight. They are also open with me about talking about whether they like boys or girls. Right now, they like both. All of that is fine with me. Always has been, always will be. We shop, pick out clothes that allow for self expression, with some rules about keeping things covered and appropriate. I’ve allowed hair cuts, dye. The name change is not permanent, but is used by those who know them. And any one new, is introduced as such.
Just be their safe place, create the best environment and open communication so they’ll always be able and willing to come to you. Support and love always.
Does she want to be a boy or foes she feel like she is a boy? The best, and only way, this should be handled (imo, of course) is to just wrap your child up in love and support their choices and encourage their individualism. My daughter has been telling me since she could talk that she wants to be a girl daddy and have a wife. Shes 7 and I have known this for 4 years now. We talk about things like “when Im old enough to have a girlfriend” etc. I didn’t encourage or prompt, she came up with this all on her own. I just love her. I dont care if she likes men, women, or anything else. Idc if she decides shes a boy. I will then have a son I love. Love your kid without stipulations or ultimatums. That’s what makes good, well rounded, children.
I’d buy my daughter some boy clothes and call her by whatever name and use male pronouns but I wouldn’t do any physical changes past a hair cut for awhile. Kids feel how they feel deeply but sometimes those feelings change. So nothing serious until she’s older and more sure.
I wanted to be a Werewolf. Then a alien. And a vampire. Kinda glad no one. It passed. But glad there was no way my parent could help me turn into any of those. …let wear whatever clothes.haircut.whatwver else But let them be 18 and to do any changes. Then it be their decision totally and when they hit 40/50 they cant blame u for letting them change… I’m still getting grief I let my 16yro get a small tattoo. And why didnt I stop her and she nearly 30 now and have listen at that ever time we talk
Support them and tell them that whatever they decide you will be there for them. And it doesn’t have to be a permanent design right now but that you are ok with it and will love them no matter what. Maybe let them pick out some boy clothes and stuff to see how they feel
I knew I was trans when I was 10. I’m 20 & still trans. Your son, should be allowed to be who he is. Let him explore. Love him all the same.
I agree with Mom. Let her find herself. 12 is so young. No hormones or anything. She may change her mind. I have a Trans nephew, he’s been on hormones now a year, he’s 21, definitely better to wait.
I would ask her why. It may be a number of things. I would talk her through everything. Remember, that surgery was not always available. That means children and adults had to I’ve as they were. At that age, people tend to question the body.
When I was 12, I had really bad period cramps. When I learned boys didn’t go through it, I wanted to exchange lives too lol. Find out the reason, you may be able to solve it without doing anything else.
Not telling you not to support her, but sometimes support doesn’t mean jumping to conclusions and making fast decisions about her identity. Let her guide you. Ask her what she wants. There is still so much about the world she does not know.
I would ask a lot of questions as to what they meant. When I was younger at one point I wanted to be a boy b/c boys had less drama etc. so it wasn’t the same as feeling like I should have been born a boy. Only the child knows how he or she feels. Explore and figure out what is going on.
On a side note, I’m a huge believer in therapy. I think everyone should have a therapist. Someone they can touch base with on big issues in our lives or just daily stress. Therapy doesn’t have to just be about mental illness or trauma. It can also just be about unbiased support.
I went through the same phase as a young child until I was about 14. I was a major tom boy. I grew up with 5 brothers no sisters, and 10 cousins that were all boys. So I think I was that way because that’s all I was around, however some of my first experiments with in serial ways was with girls. I’m married today with a wonderful husband, but if I wasn’t I would say it would be possible for me to like or love either sex. . I say its great you and your daughter talk about things, so I would tell her give her body sometime to get fully grown before she makes a decision, and I would tell her she can love and fall in love with whoever she wants and she can do whatever makes her happy when she gets a bit older. 
I remember being 5 or 6 and questioning if I was a boy or girl. Questioning because that’s when you really start to realize the difference between boys and girls anatomy etc. I’m a girl, I’ve always been a girl and I continue to be a female, not a male. That’s just my own personal experience. 12 is much older than 5, so I would say just communicate as much as possible about her feelings regarding this
I would support them through whatever makes them happy, and whatever they decide, leave it up to them. If they think that they can’t get your love and support through this time, they will never be open and honest with you again, and it could lead to depression, anxiety, and potentially suicide at its worst. Give them unconditional love, and they will always know that they can count on you for that love and support, and they will never truly feel like they are completely lost and alone.
“what kind of boy stuff do you want?” Get them said items they want that would make them comfortable. If they want their hair cut, do it. Masculine clothing? Do it. Binder? Do it. Let them understand that their body is still young and needs time to grow before adding hormones and chemicals to the developing brain.
Since that’s a permanent decision I would definitely tell her that if that’s what she wants to do you will support her but that she needs to wait till she’s older if she’s going to physically make any changes that would be permanent
Maybe have a male you trust talk to her…have a reality check. Not discouraging just this is the way it is when boys grow into men type of thing.
I think your answer was just right. Kids change their mind constantly. Hang in there.
I’m my opinion a child doesn’t know what he/she wants. You should consider therapy & find out more about this.
My 3 yr old son keeps telling me he’s a girl, or wants to be a princess, ballerina, etc. I always tell my kids you can be whatever they want to be and do whatever they want to do. He wants to rock the sparkles, then so be it. Let her become her own person momma.
My daughter is 11 and recently told me she thinks she is homosexual. I just told her she might thinks girls are pretty but that doesn’t mean anything right now. She is young and may change her mind several times. I hate that our kids think they have to grow up so fast. I told her she would have my support either way but to give it a few more years.
Id support her, but slowly help her transition, but there will be no surgeries until they are at least 16. Even while being 12, he can still be very knowledgeable, and able to make big decisions
I’d let them run with it for now. A permanent sex change surgery or taking hormones may be a little much on their body at this age (I honestly don’t know, you’d have to research that) but as far as haircuts/ outfits/ preferred name and stuff like that, I’d just be supportive while they navigate their feelings.
As a mom I handled it badly when my son came out, much less started cross dressing. It is hard. I learned he isn’t mine to judge but to love. Ours was coming from a religious prospective, and that made it really hard. But in the end, it also provided the answer. So I will give you what I learned:
You don’t get to choose.
You get to teach, and love, and not judge.
I thought because of his choice he would not go with us into the eternities.
A wonderful religion teacher taught me: we don’t don’t know His judgement. We know His great love. Are taught of it. So we have to trust in it, and reflect it.
I don’t know what perspective you’re coming from so all I can tell you is:
Choose love. You don’t have to endorse. But it will be whether you accept it or not.
So just love and let it run its course.
I would like to point out bc ive witnessed in my own kiddos. 2e have mostly girls and they get so many clothes handed down my son wants the same attention and to be awed at when dressed up so we took him and got some handsome clothes and hes super about it I think sometimes one gender gets so much that the other feels left out so not always but something to think about too.
Love. Listen. Support. Find out root influence, if possible. Pray. Listen some more. Hormones, likes, dislikes change as they/we mature. Definitely no medical intervention.
My granddaughter is going thru the same thing. Just love them, no matter what!
I think at 12 she has a good idea of who she wants to be
Support her to become he and let it happen naturally at their own pace only they can decide if its not for them.
Let them talk about it and how they feel xx
Ride it out with him. Ask lots of questions. Find a trans friendly therapist. Support groups for both you and him.
I would tell them “okay, sure!” And then take them to shop for clothes if they wanted and let them test the waters 
they might try it for a month or two and then change their mind or really find herself… or himself… or themselves! Whatever pronoun…
When both of my daughters went through that during that age, I just let them do whatever they wanted and eventually they grew out of it
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Some kids are very much led by fads. And not what they actually want. So she needs to experience life before she can say what she even wants. Sorry
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Be supportive- don’t tell her it’s wrong. You will make her close off and not open up to other things and she is almost a teenager. Be open with the conversation.
Let her dress like a boy? But nothing else until she is a bit older.
Like the only concerning part about all of this is the medical aspect. Ya gotta make sure you got the right doc for the transition and it is all done properly.
Let them do what they want to do. Changing their pronouns, clothes, etc doesn’t hurt anyone but could save them, if this is who they truly are. Tell them okay, and that you support them, and when they tell you they want to be called a boy/girl, they/them, etc… respect it. They can always change their mind but they can’t forget not having support from their parent(s). Let them wear what they want, etc… let them explore who they are. I also believe therapy can help guide them into their true feelings and help them decide if this is truly what they want from life. I would get therapy started ASAP and tell your kiddo that you’re doing therapy because you love them and want them to have an extra support system to help guide them, not because you want to “fix” them. Remind them over and over that you love and support them unconditionally.
At the point of them wanting to take hormones or change their body, talk to their pediatrician with them and go from there. Professionals can help you both navigate where to go from that point forward.
There’s no way it would ever happen and my house!!
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I’m going through almost the exact same thing with our 12 year old if you want to message. They requested they/them/he. So far it’s been a few name changes, a haircut and a whole new style. Just stay open and love them. <3
“While I understand you want to be a boy, and will support you in this decision, I also would like to ensure this is what you really want. This is a commitment. So I’d like to make a deal. If in 3 years or so if you still feel the same way then we can revisit the thought of transitioning to a boy and I will support you in any way I can!”
Prayer. Because I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life at 21 much less change genders at 12 yo.
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You are right mama- how uncomfortable are the tween years… get through puberty have a psyche evaluation- many kids throw that around these days to get attention- bottoms line don’t rush it but respect her
I think that young, they’re still trying to find themselves. I know body dismorphia is common among those who suffered trauma as a child. Did this happen? Maybe seek therapy, if not to be sure theres nothing underlying, just to have someone to talk to that has helped other kids. Be supportive while they figure out who they are but I wouldn’t allow any big changes. Hairstyles and clothes are cool. Maybe a new nickname.
Just thinking out loud. Maybe they should get to adulthood.
In this day and time children are bombarded with so many differing opinions. 12 is too young to decide the rest of her life. Just listen and communicate. Offer her a way to think about her future.
Let her live her life and explore and love her if she decides something different in the future. Girl to boy back to girl to WHATEVER. Just be happy baby
Always listen to what they tell you. At that age they need your support regardless
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Might get some flake here, but bare with me. I would suggest finding a good counselor/therapist to help your child decide if this is really the path meant for them.
I say this because my own daughter is in therapy for mental health issues, and her psychiatrist and I went down a rabbit hole of a conversation recently about trans individuals and mental health. He told me that studies are now finding that a large number of people on the Autism Spectrum are beginning to make up a large majority of the trans community. In fact, being Autistic actually increases the likelihood of an individual being trans moreso than someone without Autism. He wasn’t arguing that trans isn’t real or that it’s a mental illness. Quite the contrary. He explained to me that with many phenotypes of Autism, people will find a “clique” or an aspect of life that they really resonate with, and will become the embodiment of. They feel like they have found their “place”, or their “purpose”, so to speak.
I’m not calling your child Autistic. I’m not saying all trans are Autistic. Please don’t misunderstand my comment. However, I would definitely recommend a professional to help your child in this predicament. I’m not an expert in sexuality, nor mental health, which is why I always bring up my concerns to my daughter’s psychiatrist and mental health team. Because sometimes we don’t have a good answer and we need guidance from professionals.
My daughter is 11 and she’s always cut her hair super short (boy style) she also loves to wear boys shorts and over sized T-shirt’s she’s into anime so the good ones are usually boys, she doesn’t want to be a boy but she does like to dress as one. I’ve caught hell for allowing her to express herself the way she wants to but I will always defend her choices as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone. My family wants me to force girl stuff and long hair on her but that would lead her into isolation and depression so I support her 100%
Why do you assume they need another few years to know for sure, but cisgender kids can know their whole lives? That’s pretty hypocritical.
That’s extremely terrifying to admit to your parent that who people see you as doesn’t match up with who you truly are. That’s amazing they were honest. You’d do better by meeting them where they are, helping their gender dysphoria, asking what pronouns, name, clothing, etc they want.
Do not pull any of this “you may change your mind!” narrative with your kid. That is outright stating you are not fully supporting them. Think it, don’t say it. Affirm who they are discovering who they are.
By all means, find an LGBTQIA trained and friendly therapist who can help professional navigate everything they’re feeling
Talk to other trans adults maybe… they all knew they were trans as children. If they still feel this way in a few months get them started on testosterone. The sooner the better, for their own mental and physical well being.
I wanted to be a boy every day until I 9 …then only 50/50 until I was 12. 13 made me realize I wanted to be a girl.but being a woman was hard. But being a good man is hard. In my opinion talking and talking and talking… oh and listening and listening and listening is the only answer.
Let him dress and present as a boy, address other things as he gets older. Just be supportive and be there.
Speaking from experience, tell her that you understand how she feels. Accept her as she is and if she prefers to go by “he”, that is ok. Let her know that you will stand by her/him but making that decision is a big step. You can support her and she will eventually figure out exactly what is best for her/him. Taking that final step should take time and maybe decide it’s not the best choice. At this time support, love, and be there for her/him. She/he will be better able to understand herself better with a supportive parent.
My son wanted to be a woman. I listened and when he was done I told him that was a big decision but to give it time and if he still felt that way in the next few years and if he was happy I would be by his side every step of the way. He came out to me as gay. At a very young age and somehow I always knew it but I never said anything. I wanted him to tell me. Eventually he did. I’m his only supportive parent. I was blessed with him and I felt I had to do whatever I had to to make sure he always felt loved and cared for. He later decided he is ok with just being gay. He’s of age now but he is happy and confident in himself and that is all I ever wanted for him.
I would tell her when her body is done changing we can revisit this, however until then she’s free to dress and or style her hair however she is most comfortable
Anytime I see questions like these Im directly taken to being bedside to a pt that failed suicide. I held the pt hand and eventually the pt was crying on my shoulder. The pt was upset by surviving. The pt no longer wanted life because mother, father, and siblings alienated the person from family. The person would rather die without family bc sexuality wasn’t a choice. The pt lived but I think of that person often. Hopefully the person found peace in the world. It was my first SI attempt by a young adult in the LGBTQIA2S+. I hold a piece of that person with me every time I encounter someone in the community. A smile, a short conversation, “I like your shirt” or any positive affirmation that I can give. I don’t know what that person has faced all day.
As a parent I would welcome LGBTQIA2S+ over burying my child.
Let her be what she’ll be. Ask her what makes her want to be a boy, approach it like you’re curious and that she can be open with you. I’m a firm believer that children are born they way they’re born. They don’t just “decide” to be a certain sex due to peer pressure or trends or to get attention. Did you ever notice signs as a child that she was interested in boy toys, dressing like a boy etc?
There’s a difference between wanting to be a boy because you want to dress like one and play sports then actually having male parts and live the rest of you life as a man. I wanted to be a boy growing up because I only had brothers but I’m happily married and have 7 kids and I dress as girly as I want on some days and basketball shorts and t-shirts on other days. Just because they say at age 12 they want to be a boy it doesn’t mean they want to literally become a man. They’re going through puberty and probably hate the changes their bodies ate going through getting menstruation and I know dam well that’s one of the reasons I would say I wanted to be a boy. It wasn’t that deep and I’m glad I never told my mom, imagine if she would of took me serious???
You must be one of the greatest.moms for you child to trust you with their secrets. Just be there for your child. Be accepting. This is the start of your child coming to you when most wont tell their parents anything
Our 12 yr old is nonbinary. They came out in April. There are no life long considerations to make. At that age, it is more about how they dress/wear their hair. Hormone blockers to delay puberty are also an option if they haven’t gone through it already. I wish our kid had known before bc we would have taken that route.
Tell her when She is grown and feels the same then it’s her Decision
I believe there’s Male and female. I also know that our children are our life line. And because our children are our heart, there is evil that goes after the most precious gems we hold center of our life…and that is our children. And I believe evil strikes in many forms, hence- by manipulating our children’s subconscious and conscious thoughts through this decision and confusion. So, it is so critical in this time that parents Armour up bec this is so disturbing that this is becoming a trend? Parents need to fight back and take back their children. It will be challenging, tiring, exhausting, and all of the above. But children need to stay their biological genders and be taught through the fight of parents.
That’s so young to make such a big life altering decision like that.
Does she want to be a boy or more tomboy style? You can still be a girl and like to get dirty and like “boy” stuff.
I am 44 and want to be a man… not sure how or where to start
I would give her support and let puberty work it’s course
Your child is going to find themselves at some point growing up or another. My toddler likes to pretend she is a boy often. My oldest daughter likes to pretend she is different animals. I play along. I don’t change how I love them or treat them. And I think at the end of the day, that’s what’s most important and what your child will remember and what will effect them. How you made them feel. So just say okay and make sure they know that doesn’t change anything, you love them just the same and move on and carry on and treat them no differently. If this is just a phase as some might say, then so be it, and if it’s legit and becomes their identity then so be it. At the end, they are always still your child and you’re still their parent and your relationship is what you make it
My 11 year old daughter came out to me as bisexual. At that age I think they know what they like/don’t like. Be supportive take him shopping and buy clothes that make him feel comfortable.
Clothes and hair to accommodate, anything else they can do independently when they’re an adult.