Ok in all honesty, is it really necessary to call CPS? Like frfr is the baby really in that much danger? Cause this to me sounds a little petty.
Yes contact CPS for a welfare check. They should do visits and kept checking up but you should show them the post of things she says and how the baby looks. Keep that baby safe. Take screen shots of them so you have them in your phone
Geez woman. If youâre that concerned about the wellbeing of an infant. Why are you asking ppl what you should when you shouldâve done something about months ago. How do we as the ppl know what youâre saying is true since youâve had a falling out with them anyway. Besides if youâre that concerned go tell the proper authorities and have them check on the baby themselves so they can determine whether or not the baby is in any sorts of danger. I just hope youâre not saying these things just because youâre being vindictive and jealous. I just hate to see and hear about a baby getting hurt because of idiots
Take all that you have documemted here and contact the proper authorities. Then stop putting it on social media. If what you say is true there could be issues in the future. If something happens to the child do you really want that on your conscience?
You should call CPS or the police even, for a wellness check! I cannot say for sure whether it will go anywhere, but you have valid concerns.
Cyf is where Iâd be calling. Save the innocent child. Obviously the parents need some help with child care classes, parenting classes.
Report them for the babyâs sake. And if nothing happens, at least you tried. Be prepared to have proof though, you said the parents are manipulative and compulsive liars. If your going to do something, prepared to do it all the way.
Animal abuse goes hand in hand with abuse to children. If an infant is not in a carseat I would call CPS. They will check it put and determine if further action needs taken.
Sounds like you just needed to vent. Unfollow them or report it. You donât need our advice. Do what feels right.
Please report them for the safety and wellbeing of the baby
Call CPS and give an Anonymous tip.
Unless you think there is abuse donât call cps you almost never get them out of your life
Where is the grandma. May be she could see if the baby is in danger
If you are concerned please call CPS
Thats sad. But cps aint no dam help
Do you know if baby has been to the doctor?
Have her Mom talk to her.
Mind your on business
Stay out of it. You do you
Iâd be calling cps. If god forbid something happened youâd hate yourself for not doing something. Some parents just donât know safety protocols with babies. The need for someone to advocate for themselves is greater than being the bad guy. Mom or not there are obviously some clear things you just donât do.
You can call CPS but unless thereâs immediate, extreme abuse then most agencies simply wonât do anything. And if there is, she could end up in foster care which may not be a better situation. My best advice is to get back in her life again, as hard as that may be. That way you could assess the situation up close and personal. Sometimes pictures and family gatherings and such only give you the highlight of otherâs lives. Being close to her you can do more to help, if help is needed, and as a bonus you get to be around a cute baby!
Whilst I donât agree on the foods, as you say they themselves are overweight so they may just need re educating on these. Car seat safely is massively important as is the leaving a child unattended with animals. If you canât speak to her and you have serious concerns you need to report it, educating is key.
Leaving a baby alone with dogs is not necessarily a bad thing. It totally depends on the dog and the dynamic of the dog around the baby. Also a baby on a wheeler could go both ways. Iâve seen people just drive around the yard very slowly holding a baby and they absolutely love it and they were not putting the baby in danger at all. Also as long as the baby is in a car seat (which you said it was) and they had the air bag turned off in the truck then Iâm not sure why the pickup truck is a horrible thing. I guess my advice would be to make sure the baby is really in danger before doing something you regret.
If you are that concerned then definitely do call to get the baby checked out and or ask other family members to check. Youâve already said youâve had a falling out with the parentsâŚbut damn you sure seem to know a hell of a lot!! Iâm really in mixed minds here whever this is fully you are 100% concerned for the child (which if some of this is happening then yes most would be) or if thereâs much much more going on and youâre maybe overexagerating a bit , Iâve had fall out with family and they know NOTHING about my family let alone nearly half of what youâve said they have done. So again if you have suspicion or better yet prof get hold of the right people if not, leave them and move on with your life
Ok guys she doesnât have kids but basically if she did she might be what you would call a nervous nelly mom. Basically if something doesnât feel right to you then do what you think is best for the child. None of us are there to actually witness whatâs really going on and if nothing bad is happening to the child then the parents will have nothing to worry about but if something is then the issues will be rectified.
I donât see much wrong other than the skittles (thatâs kinda common sense) and the car seat and dressing appropriately. You can make an anonymous call and they will do a well check. It does sound like they need proper education in some areas
Umm some of theses comments worry me⌠do you realize how little 8months is?? And who care she called the baby an it she obviously doesnât have much experience with kids or she wouldnât have asked for advise but would have just called the authorities. This is at the very least cause for a visit by cps because this is what she is seeing and they are not even friends. God protect that child
Sounds like youâve judged them from the beginning- Call CPS if you want. But also maybe cut yourself out of their life. I wouldnât want someone judging me the way you judge them in my life.
Mum or not. This lady is concerned and didnât know what to do.
U need to call child services. U may need to get other people to ring with there concerns too as u do need a lot of proof or a lot of people with same concerns to contact them before they will even consider opening a case.
In my experience parents who are obese and very overweight put all there health issues and bad eating habits onto there kids and the kids end up just like the parents. And itâs so sad. Unfortunately this is the way of the world these days.
Good luck
As an aunt if I saw my niece or nephew be treated that way Iâd be extremely concerned as well and as a mother Iâm even more careful about my baby and sheâs 2âŚsimple visits to the pediatrician would be more than enough for them to know itâs not healthy to feed your baby junk food all the time they need the nutrition from fruits and vegetables to grow properly or they can have long term effects that can get difficult to manage and if itâs below freezing and they arenât dressing their baby for the weather that is child endangerment and neglectful behavior and someone should call cps because that baby is not protected. Bad terms or not youâre doing the right thing for the child and you shouldnât feel guilty for standing up for that baby.
I would call for a health check and show them all the pictures with posts but I would be willing to take on the kid with a no contact order til the parents had some classes. A child without a carseat is agents the law and is considered abuse in some states itâs also considered abuse if the child can not get proper nutrition depending on the state.
I would call CPS. Not specifically for the unhealthy foods, but the fact that she should not be eating things like that at such a young age (the skittles are especially concerning as a choking hazard) not being properly secured in a vehicle, and not being dressed warm for cold weather. I would feel horrible if something happened to the baby and I didnât do anything to try to prevent it.
My best advice is, if you do not agree with their style of parenting just voice your concerns to them and leave it be. Honestly their isnât much you can do if theyre not physically hurting or neglecting herâŚ(yes some choices youve given are frowned up) theyre not breaking any laws until then. While some of their life style seems to bother you there isnt much you can do. Cps isnt going to do much unless there is multiple calls of neglect or abuse. .just try to stay your distance if it bothers you that much(i know it sucks) but just observe the well being of the child and maybe voice your concerns and opinions to someone who is closer with the parents that might be able to nicely give them adviceâŚdo other memebers feel the same way you do? Maybe try to get together and help them rather than bashing.
Since this is their first child they may just be winging it and dont know certain things. But they might just raise her how they want and thatâs up to them⌠i know you obviously just care about the child or you wouldnt be asking. So good luck to you and your family. Just try to be peaceful and know the childs safety is first priority.
Further moreâŚtheir weight has absolutely nothing to do with them as people so lets not start off with that.
Honestly sounds most likely like life and parenting choices that arenât your business even if you donât agree with them âŚif baby isnât in immediate danger or being abused thatâs thatâŚand for the new moms saying Iâd never do this or that âŚI was once you and all I have to say is never say never
My baby had nothing but breastmilk for the first 7 months, but she weighed 22 pounds. All babies are different, and things are not always what they seem. I was accused of giving my baby all kinds of things. The reality was I had super rich breast milk. An occasional cookie is not great, but it certainly isnât going to harm the child. I think you are letting your dislike of the woman taint your judgment. No one is a perfect parent because everyone parents differently. What you find acceptable might not be for me. However it could still be perfectly safe. Call CPS if you must, but they will find out or have a good idea who called. Expect to be cut from their lives. You could avoid all the drama by leaving their life. I have to think at some point this baby has doctor visits. If anything was wrong, the doctor would report it.
Listen I had my kids eating and trying all kinds of things at 6 months old and they were okay. though I did portion things. I didnt give them tons of sugar and I donât give them full meals of solid food.i stuck to baby foods until 10-11months.the food isnât concerning honestly,as long as they have teeth and can chew it they can have, but limits should be made . Now the being out in the cold thing is conserning and the man not wanting to hold his child is strange. Iâd give cps a call.
I feel bad for whoever wrote this in. Iâd rather someone be a little nosey and concerned rather than not caring at all. If you feel the child is in danger then make a call thatâs really the only thing you can do. If it truly is nothing then theyâll dismiss it but you can at least have a peace of mind about it.
Honestly if you have concerns, make a call to CPS. They can educate them if nothing else. I have had to step in when I felt some children were in danger. Yes they were taken, and it was a serious situation.
Wondering why she called the baby an âitâ
Honestly I think it sounds like you dislike the parents. But if you are concerned you should call CPS. Not look to Facebook to validate your opinions.
As a new mom with a five month old⌠I personally would never do any of that with my baby.
1 - that is a crazy amount of sugar for someone so little.
2 - make up can ruin a babyâs skin, cause break outs, rashes, infections, etc.
3 - rear facing car seat at all times. Until about 2! Even if they are just going up the hill! Without a car seat and just a hand is not safe.
4 - baby needs to be dressed appropriately for the day. If itâs cold out. Dress accordingly and donât take pictures outside in cute outfits if the arenât weather appropriate.
5 - the baby should never be left unattended, unless they are strapped in or in a safe baby friendly environment. While on the floor they could crawl anywhere and hurt themselves⌠and the dog wouldnât be able to help.
I would anonymously call CPS and get them looked at
your guys comments are kind of useless. there is somebody here trying to reach out to all the moms out there for advice! sheâs worried a less than 8 month old baby is in danger. she donât need your stupidity of answers. grow up! when it comes to worrying about a child, donât ever tell somebody to mind there own business. because ignoring the signs of bad behavior toward children/babies are sometimes death. sooo. with that being saidâŚplease donât ignore. all Iâm saying is talk to the mother first, see where she stands on your opinions about her parenting. if that doesnât work and things get worse I say yes to the professional help.
So first of all, Their weight is none of your business. Second of all You are not the parent. Third If they were doing something to seriously injure the child then yes report it. Not to Facebook.
I honestly have mixed feelings about this.
BUT
Itâs a little difficult to say when ur not in the same position or understand ur feelings! But Personally speaking if it felt like my heart couldnât take it anymore by staying silent, then thereâs no questions asked I would speak up and try to do the right thing, not for myself or for that family member BUT for that child. The child is the only thing u should be thinking about. If u feel like not saying anything is going to cause more harm than speaking up and saying something ? then fuck wut anyone else feels do wut u gotta do for that child! Iâm seriously hoping for a better outcome than cps taking the child and causing more damage than good, but hopefully the parents can become aware of nutritional guides and other things they may be lacking knowledge inâŚ? Good luck make sure to pray on it too!
While the food choice is a concern unless you know for a fact the only thing she gets is ice cream and candy and nothing else along with no well baby checks it has nothing to do with the rest⌠not proper carseat safety however is and in some states if violated to many times they can make parents attend classes or take the kids away of violated to many times ⌠blankets also a little bit of a concern if they are large enough the baby could die so you could say something about that ⌠animals and children should never be left completely alone together until the child is big enough to defend or get away incase there would be an attack⌠you can call CPS if you want to or be nice about it and talk to her about the actual safety concerns you cant do much about supposedly poor nutrition ⌠i donât take pictures of my kid eating green beans loll but I have plenty of her destroying a cake or licking the bowl when the ice cream is gone that doesnât mean she gets it 8 times a day tho
This isnt a concern to put on facebook. But anyone who knows first hand if the baby is in danger had an obligation to report it. But please dont make a complaint unless you feel the baby is in danger
I donât mean to seem rude or come off âeating you up and spitting you outâ but you obviously are not a mom⌠both my kids tried things when young. We have a dog that they are often alone with as I have ZERO concern with him around them. Moms do shower and need to be away from their kids sometimes- Iâm not going to cage my kids and dog so theyâre separate if they are safe. If you have an animal you donât trust around your children, maybe itâs time to rethink the whole scenario. If she wants to take her child in an off road vehicle she is certainly allowed, itâs HER kid. My children have been in our side by side under safe circumstances. It is also legal in most places for a child to be in the front seat of a single cab vehicle. I even have photos of my sons sitting on our snowmobiles and mud trucks, etc., is someone gonna call child services on me too for taking a picture? Guess what, my baby sleeps with a blanket too- he wants to, wonât sleep without it. And so what, dad sucks and doesnât helpâŚ? That sounds like also not your business. So what are we reporting to dcyf? That someone elseâs parenting style doesnât align with what YOU think parenting should be and youâre not even a mom? Come back once you enter motherhood and let us know how youâd feel if someone called on you for this stuff. Let her mother HER child and you worry about you.
If youâre so concerned for this childâs health and safety and there is evidence of abuse or neglect then you should report it to CPS instead of looking to people on Facebook to validate you and agree with you with absolutely no proof.
Wow, super poor food choices. Everyone parents differently. It seems like youâre more annoyed and looking to expose dirt than an actual concern for the baby. If you really believe the child is being abused then put in a call. I would secondly check your motives. Are you annoyed at them for not sharing in your perspective on certain topics? Is it more important for you to be right and to show everyone how disdainful these people are? Has the child ever been beaten or has any medical needs gone without care? Was she left outside in freezing weather? Are the living conditions hazardous? Is there alcohol or drug abuse? Is there parental domestic violence? Sexual abuse? If these are no answers, then itâs most likely that these people are just annoying with sub-par parenting skills.
If she wonât listen to concerns you need to make a phone call. They can help her understand and learn to make better choices.
If you are concerned for a childâs safety and well-being than you need to call child protective services. They will sort out if further action needs to be taken for the safety of the child
Ok. First off. If the baby is a girl, the amounts of sugar she is consuming can cause test infections, utis, diabetes. Boys it can cause utis and diabetes.
The makeup. If itâs adult make up. It has been fda approved. Itâs childâs make up you need to be concerned about as itâs considered costume make up and not regulated.
It is 100% legal to have a car seat in a single cab truck if it has the anchors and the back strap. Itâs not preferred. But it is allowed.
The riding on dirt roads not strapped in is clearly an issue, but if it is on their property itâs legal.
The weather stuff⌠not a good idea for any child.
Leaving alone with dogs⌠I mean, most dogs are good⌠I wouldnât do it, but idk the dogs. Thereâs only 1 dog Iâve ever trusted around my child alone, and itâs a dog I trained (I train a lot of dogs).
A lot of the things you mentioned arenât things you can really do anything about. The vehicle stuff maybe. But not unless you have 100% proof.
I wouldnât get involved personally. I know as a mother, there are things I do Iâm sure others wouldnât agree with. Or would do them selves.
But in all reality, a lot of this stuff isnât âillegalâ minus the vehicle stuff, and even then It would likely be a warning. Then you become the horrible family member who called the cops/cps.
Delete the person, remove them completely.
Definitely donât mind your own business. Wonder how many kids wound up neglected and abused because someone just ignored it. If you are genuinely concerned, call CPS. If theres nothing to be concerned about, there shouldnt be a problem. If so, you may have saved a life.
#1 SAVE THE DOG! #2 Call Child Protective Services . Let them figure out the rest. #3 the only perfect parent is those without children.
I got about a quarter of the way through and stopped reading. I think itâs basically none of your business but if you are GENUINELY concerned please call your local child services, otherwise just leave them alone.
Is this a serious post? Your version of neglect is half of Americans way of life. (Or more) Weather you agree with it or not that baby is not being neglected.
Near naked babies in literal freezing weather, full makeup to sell mlm, hazardous foods for a baby that might have 2 teeth, dangerous driving practices⌠and you guys are all okay with it?
I Have Never Been In A Group Where Momâs Bash Other Moms. Honestly, Itâs Sad!! We Should Learn To Stick Together & Give Advice When Needed. All Of This Negativity Yâall Are Throwing At Each Other Is Crazy.
How do you know so much about their life sounds like your a bit obsessed, plus your not a mother so your just acting on what you think you should and shouldnât do? The baby is obviously being fed not starved, and as for sleeping how would you know what way the baby goes to bed! Sounds a bit messed up2 me
Some of these things you just have to realize that every parents is different. The most concerning is the car seat. If you suspect neglect call the authorities
I feel like you have something against the parents and you are looking to be justified for calling cps.
Definitely make a call- its probably nothing but it never hurts especially if you feel that the baby isnt properly being taken care of! Some of these comments are fucking ridiculous
You sound very opinionated about something that really isnât your business
That would be a call to child services regardless of wether I liked them or not
While I cringed at a lot of that, it doesnât sound like it rises to the level of abuse. Iâd mind my business unless I was asked for my help or opinions.
Yepp agree call Dcf/Cps in the state ur in, tell them whats going on. If you see the baby in real danger step up. Dont be like other people and turn ur back on things like that!!
Iâd mind my businessâŚtbh I think your judging her and your doing it hard because you had a fall outâŚjust being honest
Ummm you sound like a Karen⌠ya sure itâs not a good idea giving the baby chocolate n candy n bad food . But if the baby Is happy n growing going to the dr and all why put your nose . You have a problem just stop looking at Facebook but of course if there was something terribly wrong Iâm sure you you would have called cps right .
Collect as much evidence as possible and call CPS If anything they can help the parents make better choices
You can always make an anonymous report and let CPS decide what to do. That way youâve done your due diligence.
Plus you keep referring to the baby as an it so annoying to me!
So you are pissed off because the parents feed their child what they want? Sounds like you are just a nosy b@#$. IF the childs doctor was worried they would file a complaint. This baby is clearly NOT abused and is loved so let it go⌠if you are worried talk to the parents
You should butt out and stop judging.
If you are THAT concerned call cps. If not myob
Shitty parenting yes, but I donât think this is abuse
Call DSS. You canât do anything else.
Not your monkey not you business. Stay in your own lane.
That poor baby doesnât need to go threw that
Maybe just a wellness check but atleast report them for animal abuse!!
If youâre that concerned ring cps not post it on social media
Id call cps voice your concerns
Call CPS and have them do a wellness check. Send screenshots of everything you have.
Iâd call cps and let them do a well check.
If itâs bad call the proper authorities
Call PCS and let them handle it! Otherwise MYOB!
CPS will investigate, others might report.
You can also call
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Or call the police and they will raise a safeguarding case
Well you said it hun, youâre definitely not a mom lol. Call the authorities for what? Jesus I did most of this shit with my daughter. My daughter tasted frosting within the first week she was born. You sound boredâŚ
Sorry for everyoneâs rude comments. Iâd say if addressing your concerns to the mom doesnât work, you have no other option than to tell CPS. Ppl like the ones commenting are the reason kids like Gabriel Fernandez got abused for so long because ppl are too worried about âlooking like Karenâ or âminding their own business.â If a childâs SAFETY is at stake, by all means, ima go ALL THE WAY KAREN MODE! And save your comments because I donât think the original poster would feel bad if it meant saving this babyâs life.
Feeding a kid junk food is not abuse, and will not get the baby taken away. As a parent, you have the right to feed your kid what you want as long as they are being fed. Sad, but true. Being in a car seat in a single cab truck is 100% legal, was told as much by the sheriffâs department and fire department. I have a single cab truck and a car, depending on who our son is with, depends on what vehicle he is in. Nothing can be done about that. Putting make-up on a baby is again, not abuse. Nothing will be done about it. Unless thereâs proof of them having her underdressed for extended periods of time in cold weather, a picture of her on a truck isnât going to do much in most cases. Is there proof of her being left alone with dogs? Do you have proof of how long? Where the parents were? If not, nothing can be done. If thereâs pictures, obviously someone was with her. Could maybe get a welfare check for the enclosed off-road vehicle issue, but thereâs not much CPS can do about it without proof, and even with proof, Iâm not sure they can do anything about it. As long as the father hasnât harmed other children or her, thereâs nothing they can do about it. Him not wanting to hold her until she was 5+ months is a non-issue and they wonât care. Could maybe get a welfare check for the blankets, but at 8 months thatâs kind of up to the parents discretion. And them being overweight has no bearing.
Posts like this fuck me offâŚ1.you already have a major dislike for these people so it sounds like anything they do that doesnt fit in your lil box of âgood parenting by karenâ will be judged and taken as âabusiveââŚ2.doesnt sound like the kid is being starved (which would fall under âneglectâ) all parents/grandparents/aunts and uncles at some point give a child lil treats/tasters as long as that child is getting decent food on a regular basis wtf does it have to do with u? Not to mention u dont live with these ppl and arent close to them so how tf would u know wtf is going on in the home?..3.as for the vehicle issue you said they had the child strapped into a seat soo tell me where theyve gone wrong yes some common sense should be applied to this area but not everyone has a vehicle where they can pop them in the back most of our generation grew up with far less safety measures in vehicles then we have now (nit picking i think)âŚ4. Tell karen thats coming to you with info to shut her mouth cause it has nothing to do with ya both and lastlyâŚif you have such serious concerns ring the appropriate people, ask questions and put your thoughts in front of them and let them decide instead running to fb âasking for adviceâ knowing damn well your just trying to get the other âkarensâ on the here to agree with you to make yaself feel betterâŚfalse accusations because of being misinformed lead to children and parents having to go through horrible situations that do end up leading to abuse because of fear of being judged instead of reaching out for helpâŚoh and i know there will b a few karens and helicopter mums who will disagreeâŚdnt bother giving me your âpiece of adviceâ cause all im gonna c and hear is a bunch of ppl that need to look in their glass houseâs as to what can b considered abuse in ur own homes
Mind your own business
Mind your own business
Mind your own business
Call CPS anonymously
Call the authorities
Call the proper authorities
If you are that worried then call CPS but I think you are overreacting to a parent raising their child. No parent raises their child the same as another parent.
Do an anonymous report to child services. That babyâs life is in danger.
Iâd do a report to child services if youâre really that concerned, however the fact that you are calling that child an âitâ is annoying