Once you see your baby all that pain and discomfort somewhat melts away. You will be ok. Nothing in life worth it is painless.
I had literally the best pregnancy and delivery. I was induced and almost went natural but my mom suggested I just get the epidural, “why go through that?”. So I did. Water broke at 8am and epi at 11. Little beautiful blue eyed boy was born at 2:10. I had an episiotomy because little one had a big head lol. 10/10 I would do it again 100 times over. I kept the ice pack and numbing stuff on constantly so I honestly felt nothing when I delivered or healed up. I recommend doing it that way! It’s going to be the most magical day of your life, just breathe mama. 
I’m a first time mom and have a 4yr old boy. I was just as terrified as you are about giving birth. But it’s really not as bad as you think. I was also scared that during the birth and all that pushing, I worried that something traumatic would happen. I just wasn’t a person with high tolerance for pain. Lol
But I had a smooth pregnancy and delivery. My water never broke though until I got to the hospital because I was trying to time my contractions just right. But as soon as I got settled in, and when my contractions came closer together. And wholy shit did that suck. I was giving an epidural. That needle is the only scary thing! I hate needles. And it was my Doc who had to break my water, but by this time I was good and numb. I didn’t feel a damn thing after that. I was also always worried that the numbness would fade during the birth, but never did.
My son did tear me up good, but I was glad to have felt nothing.
The recovery from giving birth also sucks, at least for me it did and I felt that my V eventually went back to normal…
You’re going to be fine. Try to set yourself for a beautiful experience. I had my 3 girls naturally. Leave it in God’s hands.
It’s not silly. I had my 1 and only at 30 and up to that point I never wanted kids for the sheer fact of giving birth. I was terrified of the pain…but the pain is worth it and 5 min after giving birth the pain is gone. I didn’t get an epidural or anything I went all natural and I would do it again if had to. Just do what you feel is right for you. Remember everyone is diff. I was worried about the tearing and not going back to normal and you should be fine. As long as you have a good dr walking you thru it there is nothing to worry about.
I have two kids. My son is 8 yo and my daughter is 3 yo. My son was breech so I had to have a C-section and I was terrified. I cried like a baby when I found out I had to be cut. The only thing I didn’t like was the pain of healing and I couldn’t carry anything heavy (ex. my baby while he was in his car seat etc.) for a while afterwards. With my daughter I was able to try a natural birth. Contractions suck but as soon as she was out all that pain was forgotten. Just remember to breathe through contractions. It really helps. If you have a C-section make sure you have a good support team to help you for the first couple weeks after. I am currently pregnant with my 3rd child. (Due Dec 24) And I honestly can’t wait to meet him. When you look at your baby for the first time it makes everything worth it. Your lady part will go back to normal! If you are too worried you can do kegels to help it along afterwards lol. Congratulations & good luck Momma!
I felt anxiety like that too even on my 3rd pregnancy
I had a home birth which isn’t for everyone, but it was a great experience and I would do it again if I were to have another child. My number 1 advice is no matter how you plan to do your birth, is that I recommend you get a midwife who encourages intervention-free labor. They know when interventions are absolutely necessary and midwives have so many amazing tricks that most doctors, to my knowledge, don’t use or implement in their practices. I also recommend reading some of books by Ina May Gaskin, one is called Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth, it helped me out a ton.
I did the Hypnobabies Hypnobirthing program, but I have ADHD and I found out that traditional hypnosis does not work for me, but for everyone else, it could be very helpful to get you through the labor process and it was a good labor prep course.
You got this!!
Honey what you are doing is normal. No birth is ever the same. I had 3 and it was a trip every time. But joyous. Work on being relaxed. It will make it a lot easier. Think of after the baby is born not befo
Girl everything will work out! No matter how far ahead you plan… If you get to stick with your plan or not it will work out!
This momma wanted a natural home birth… Got changed to an enduced hospital birth because he just wasn’t willing to come out… After 13 hours and an epidural(hallelujah, since my contractions wouldn’t hold back or dim down in between due to being induced) I ended up having an emergency cesarean… And low and behold my little chubby nearly 4,5 kg son is turning 11 next month… Just go with what feels good for you… At least for now make that your plan… And if it changes due to anything going diff then normal… go with the flow… Everything will be OK!
Had three kids natural birth… my advice is take the epidural and enjoy the experience.
See a therapist. This isn’t something strangers on social media can help you fix.
I just did it for the first time and felt exactly like you…it will hurt after but you will get better everyday.
I was so terrified… it worried me every single day leading up to the birth
I ended up not being able to get the epidural and it was not too bad, you will feel so proud of yourself once it is over! 
One thing I wish I knew was to not tense your jaw in contractions (use low tonned vocals) as your cervix is all connected, so if your jaw tensed during a contraction, your cervix will be too…
Educate yourself, your body already knows what to do 
Hey hun, it’s absolutely natural to feel like you do. I was exactly the same! I had my son naturally with just gas and air. I chose a water birth and would 100% recommend it to anyone who has the option. Honestly I could tell you all sorts of good/bad stuff but everyone’s experience is different. What I can say is it is true when they say you don’t remember the pain afterwards (for me at least its true). It’s totally worth it! Wishing you the best of luck and congratulations! Xx
I was 32 with my first child who is now 37 and amazing. Slow down, take a deep breath it’s going to be wonderful! God Bless
I was the same way to the point I would make myself physically sick. I would suggest either natural birth with epidural or c section. Just keep in mind, at the end of it you will have a beautiful baby out of it. And its all worth it in the end. Congrats momma!
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I tore during both of my deliveries (the first was semi medicated the second completely natural). It hurts pretty bad(it’s mainly a burning feeling), but it’s something that you can get through I promise! Women’s bodies are amazing, and usually instincts kick in to help the process along. Good luck to you mama!
I’ve had different types of births. Whatever you choose you should prepare yourself mentally (like a marathon). You can’t just show up the day of the race if you haven’t prepared. There are lots of books/resources you can be using right now.
Also, trust and listen to the professionals. Tell them what you want but know things may change and you may need to be flexible. There are other drugs aside from epidural that take the edge off the pain. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Oh don’t worry dear mother to be, look at all the billions of mothers and how many repeated their experience. They wouldn’t have done it if it wasn’t bearable and definitely worth it. Focus on getting ready for your new little one and if possible take birthing lessons. Stay away from all negativity, eat well, exercise and enjoy this precious, miraculous, beautiful time of motherhood.
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If you can have a C-section, do it. I would rather recover from that than another vaginal birth.
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It’s amazing what us women can endure and our strength is nothing but amazing. We can never predict what our labour could be or should be when it arrives. I can only give you my fortunate side of labour. Very quick births no epidural and had 4 beautiful daughters. The anxiety soon disappears and your body goes into a adrenaline that you can’t describe. Body bounced back really well in all areas, you just need to follow best health advice & best self education.
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Best advice I can give is trust your body, you were built to do this and trust the medical professionals guiding your baby into this world. Leading up to your labour try things like hypnobirthing and maybe talk to a psychologist about your anxieties. The calmer and more relaxed you are the better for you and bubs. I have had 2 natural births and trust me you forget the pain! That’s why women have multiple children it’s the most amazing thing you’ll ever do! Good luck x
Your body for the most part knows what to do. Your v will go back everyones does. I’ve had two both natural. I was 18 when I gave birth to my oldest and was terrified… It wasn’t so bad, yea i had an epidural with my first but the pain after wasn’t horrible
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Had the same problem but now I have two kids. You’ll be forced to come to terms with it. Just do your pelvic floor exercises so you dont need surgery after. Get an epidural and you’ll be fine.
I was 16 when I gave birth didn’t know what to expect as it wasn’t talked about back then 1970 and i coped well and went on to have another 2. Good luck with it and hope all is well.
I had my first child at 30. I got all the way to 9 and ended up with a c-section…I was fine with it…everything turn out ok…the next two where also c-section…I was fine…my second had to be a c-section he was 11lb 7oz…the third was 8 Lb. We planned to do c-section had my tubes tied…
It took me 10yrs to have my first…Everything worked out…I do have faith and know God was with me…Will say a prayer that all will be well with you and your baby…
With today’s technology I am pretty sure you will be fine. Women are built for this. I had an episiotomy because doctors thought it was better than tearing. If I can do it……lol
When you start to labour all your fear will be replaced with adrenaline. I had a natural birth with my first the baby, coming out is not the most painful the contractions sick… my second I went through the epidural an started pushing right away where they didn’t actually give me the medicine (I had to take epidural because of eclampisa) and honestly if you do not have contractions for a long time I would try natural. Do lots of keegles to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles during your pregnancy and after to help your V go back to normal.
I was 21 when I had my first child. 
Natural childbirth. No classes, only read books. No internet. Showing my age right now. Anyway, I did it. Afterwards, I had the most natural high ever. Yes, it’s scary. If you have a low pain tolerance, then speak with your doctor ahead of time. My twenty year old daughter is four weeks from delivery of her first baby. Because of COVID-19 it wasn’t till this last month that they allowed me to accompany her. I think that it is important to have someone you trust that has knowledge of giving birth with you if possible.I wish you all the joy and love for you and the precious gift of a baby. Try to look at it as the reward is worth all of it!
I feel you. I could only think the worse… the what if’s. My biggest fear was ripping. The horror stories people told me scared me half to death. But all that worsting was for nothing. Everything was fine, I luckily didn’t tear, and it wasn’t has horrible as I thought it was. Mind you that’s my experience. Good luck momma.
I got an epidural after thinking I wanted to go the natural route due to pressure from family. I have no idea why some people are so against the idea of pain medication - it’s amazing. With my second one, I planned for the epidural from the start. It’s soooooo much easier with the meds.
Granted, my first baby was a whopping 11lbs 2oz so it wasn’t exactly a “normal” experience. But I had an 11 pound baby after 9 hours of labor, and then a 9 pound baby after 3 hours with the second (it was an induction). The recovery with my first was brutal (probably should have gotten a caesarean due to his size), but my second one was so easy.
You will be great! Giving birth is a natural thing. It is ok to be a little scared but when you have that beautiful baby it will be worth everything you go through
I was 34 when I had my last and had no problems. Praying for you to have an awesome delivery.
I listed to a lot of women’s experiences , was scared too , and when I gave birth it was nothing compared to what I dread it would be …Millions of woman give birth every day with no problems …Please quit worrying and enjoy your pregnancy…
Yep, your 1st time is very scary and it hurts, until it doesn’t anymore! Immediately after the delivery of my 1st , they laid her across my chest. She stopped screaming once she was placed on me. I fell in love with that face to the point that no pain was felt anymore in my mind! It is a wild and great experience!! Hang in there, you will be fine with doctor and nurses there. I never regretted 1 second of any of it! And, I did again too!
I had planned a regular child birth with epidural with my first but ended up an emergency c-section with general anesthesia which was a terrible experience. I woke up in recovery without my husband or baby and they wouldn’t let me see them until my vitals returned to normal and I lost it, so my blood pressure was through the roof and I didn’t see my husband and son until hours later after my doctor finally agreed to let them transfer Me back to the maternity ward… my second child though I had a planned c-section and although I was scared to be awake during surgery it was so so much better. We went to the hospital at our scheduled time and 30 minutes after my scheduled surgery I was holding my baby skin to skin and being wheeled to recovery! … I just gave birth to my third which was going to be another scheduled c-section but she failed her NST and the a Biophysical ultrasound that’s tested her reactivity was low so they took her out early. … so I don’t have any good advice other than make a birth plan but don’t fully expect it to actually happen that way. The only plan should really be to give birth to a healthy baby!
For every grunt, sting and pain only you can claim to be that child’s mother. God chose you. Pain is the the reality in life. Some have pain and some just push until something happens!!
Get more professional information. Ask a midwife or gynecologist about your concerns. Every birth is unique. But don’t let your anxiety take over. Pregnancy is not easy. But you got this. Just think of the blessed gift you receive for your efforts. Life
Your Dr should decide if c-Section is best-If OK then get the epidural -no need to go through add’l pain in this modern time. Its normal to worry & be apprehensive, its a first for you. I just kept saying if it was so tough…ladies wouldn’t repeat it w/more kids. Good luck. (Yes your body changes but first hold that angel, & the rest will be OK)
I had two c sections. Went in with my bags and 30min later I has a baby. Not fun but I would liken it to the dentist! It’s the easiest route but be very careful after and rest loads
I’m sorry but thefirst child is always the hardest…after that the rest will jus be popping out like nothing…U will be fine promise!!! I know I can’t handle it…I told them to tie me up already…I don’t wanna go through this again…now I only have 1 child…wish I could have many more…U will be fine!!!
Learn how to breath!!!
Good luck!!!
I am a mom of 4, walk as much as you can during pregnancy, that will help keep the muscles supply. Stay hydrated, it is very important during contractions. Learn the breathing techniques it really does help. Have a coach that cares but is not pushy. Go to the child birth classes.
Its not good for your baby, for you to project what might or might not happen. Get some professional help to help you relax. 
Women are built to have babies. Relax. Take care of yourself mentally and physically, ignore all the horror stories, listen to the professionals and get good medical supervision of your pregnancy. Avoid meds if you can because everything comes with a price. I had 2 mostly drug free deliveries and I was up and about, clear headed and ready to go within about an hour. The pain can be intense, but it’s mostly just muscular cramping if you think about it. So long as all is well with mom and babe, it’s not anything to be worried about. If anything is out of whack, then that’s another story and when the professionals step in. Good luck…you’ll be fine!
Ask yourself if worrying is going to change anything. Is the stress on you and your precious child worth it? Practice being calm, happy, serene. Anticipate holding your baby in your arms. Pure bliss. 
Theres no 2 birthing experience the same, STAY FOCUSED on what ur gonna gain from the pain and dont let your nerves stop you from this experience.Remember NO PAIN NO GAIN. Holding the bundle of joy and loving it for the rest of your life is worth a few hours of painGood luck
When you breast feed your uterus will contract back to it’s original size, also it helps you to loose weight!!! The nurses and doctors will help u thru it just remember God doesn’t give you more than you can handle!! You can do this, just keep telling yourself that try to stay positive, may God bless you thruout your pregnancy and delivery☺️
Either way you’re going to have to have your baby. You need to accept that nothing is guaranteed when it comes to childbirth and make peace with that. If you have a plan then make sure you know that it isn’t set in stone and things can change, just be prepared to go with the flow. If you go in anxious and scared it can make things worse. It all happens like a blur and when you’re in it, you just do it. Don’t be a hero, if you need pain relief just take it.
What I can say is that I tore with both of my babies and I didn’t feel it through the pushing, then I was so preoccupied with them once they arrived that I barely even noticed them stitching me up, only for them numbing me and warning me that they were doing it.
I will also assure you that once your little bundle is the your arms, its like it all never happened… you literally do not care about anything else in the entire universe.
Good luck, you can do it 
Natural childbirth no epidural here.
My best friend told me and it’s true….like one woman said in this feed….let your body do what it does…it’s built for the job. And whatever pain you do feel will be forgotten once that baby is in your arms.
Your body knows what to do….all your job is. Take care of it….walk don’t be lazy it helps with the birthing process eat healthy…and be happy.
Unless medically necessary it’s so much better for the baby to have a v birth. Plus a c section drains you and is very painful.
Highly recommend epidural, personally I found it did take the edge of but was uncomfortable from pressure of contractions/pushing. Reference tearing doctors tend to intervene before it gets to that point. I delivered my son via forceps and had to have a episiotomy. All back to normal after a couple of months of healing.
Best to discuss all options with your midwife to find what feels right for you. Best of luck !
I’ll just say I worried about this my whole pregnancy just end up needing an emergency c lol there is no plan
I know the feeling. I’ll be giving birth for the first time in October, and I’ve always been anxious about it as my mother almost died the first time she gave birth, and her second time (with me) she says was excruciating because she let the nurses talk her out of an epidural.
The way I’ve been thinking about it, though, is that once I have my baby boy in my arms, everything leading up to that moment in my life will have been worth it. The second I became pregnant, I realized he was my purpose. I was born to bring him into the world, and so whatever I have to do to make sure that happens successfully, I’ll do it. Until then, I’m just going to have faith that things will work out, the epidural will do what it’s supposed to, and that my doctors will know what to do whatever the situation ends up being.
It took me 10 years to get pregnant.
I’m only going to say one thing about the pain. Well, two.
- It was well worth it.
- If you had to experience it for the
rest of your life I could understand
your fear.
Everything’s gonna be alright. I was 33 when I gave birth. She’s 29 now.
Relax. Try to de stress. Get the epidural. Totally worth it. I have done natural labor, spinal, and epidural. Epidural gives you a chance to relax and rest fairly pain free during labor. Natural hurts like hell and leaves you way exhausted so when baby arrives you are too tired to appreciate and embrace it. Spinal gave me a severe headache for 2 weeks. Done this 7 times now and in nov will be my 8 th one. The more you worry up til due date the higher the chances of having issues. Speak it into being, keep confident your labor will go smoothly. Stressing yourself out about things you do not even know will actually even have a chance of happening is just hurting you and your baby. Relax momma you can do this!!!
When you go into labor you are will be excited and scare all in one yes it is painful but once you deliver your baby its all over you forget about all the pain you will be fine we are built for this
In a hospital with trained professional who have access to medication should you need. MORE importantly, once they lay your baby on your chest and you look at that face the pain magically disappears because you know it was all worth it.
Hire a doula. Studies show that women who have a doula typically tend to have shorter labors and faster deliveries. Educate yourself by attending childbirth classes. Have a birth plan but be flexible knowing it may have to change. After giving birth to my first child 49 years ago I felt completely empowered and in awe of what my body was able to do. Talk about a natural high. . .Many years after that I became a certified labor and delivery doula. One of the best decisions I ever made.
You’ve got a few months, relax that’s a long time to be putting yourself thru all that stress. Let things go as they will, your getting the cart before the horse. Content yourself with something unrelated till the time come. This will be an experience you will be so happy with. Day by day. Best of everything to you.
You are already having panick attacks just thinking about it .I don’t like pain and needles to but I gotten euperderma shot each time natural does hurt .each person is different. Don’t do it natural because of your panic attack.
I figured it out with my third child. Squeeze your partners hand as hard as possible and find a focal point. Mine was the clock on the wall. Focusing on squeezing and the clock made labor easier
I went thur it 7 including a set of twins. Put it in Gods hands And just remember if it was that bad women wouldn’t have more than one
I took a Birthing from Within childbirth class. Have had 3 water births. If you feel lead to a natural, unmedicated birth, it’s beautiful to experience. There’s a book called Birthing From Within, too. Helps you prepare and overcome fears. Whatever you choose, blessings and congratulations.
I had my first when I was 30 1/2 through IVF. He was 9lb 3oz… I did it all naturally, which I’d recommend to anyone who is able. Yes, contractions suck, but once you start pushing it’s just a lot of pressure. I had no external tearing, but did have two stitches internally. I’m so grateful I didn’t tear externally… I contribute that to taking primrose oil tablets (starting at 37wks, 2 by mouth and 2 vaginally every day, until birth). Either way… I promise it goes back to normal lol. Goodluck.
Sweetheart we are built for this !
It’s the unknown we fear .
I felt the same as you are feeling but I had awesome family and friends .
Just relax breath all will be good !
You got this !
Congratulations mama
You need to look into breathing to control your pain and anxiety
It helped me tremendously!!
And you got plenty of time to help yourself learn
It’s ok to be terrified
And tbh it’s early and toward the 3rd trimester you will be so done with being pregnant that you will just want it out
I think all expectant mothers have these fears, I know I did. Right now just do what you can to ensure your baby is healthy. Rest, take your vitamins, get your home ready. When the time comes to deliver, let the doctor and nurses do their job. They’ll be making you as comfortable as possible and will help alleviate any worries. Just follow their directions. Yes, there will be some pain, but in the end it’s so worth it!!
Once you have your baby you will forget about the pain and blood and it won’t be traumatic it will be the best experience of your life… I had an epidural with my son we was vaginally delivered almost a c section. But it was a success… if possible try an epidural and vaginal birth because that takes less time to heal and yes you will go back to normal once you heal which should be the 6-8 weeks after you should be ok… I promise you. All the panic and worry will be gone once they lay her on you that very moment you will cry and fall in love all over again
Girl congratulations!
Honestly u can go in there with a plan and it can always change.
My advice is if ur nervous about pain get that epidural. U won’t feel shit.
And I personally would always try to avoid
c-sections the recovery time for that is longer. I had to have one and it was a long time before I was back to “normal” that scar gave me trouble. And it was so hard to care for a baby and recover from that.
Look around, everyone you see was born. We are all frightened of the unknown. You are entitled to pain meds. You do not have to choose “natural” childbirth. This is not a competition. Discuss your fears with your doctor or midwife. I have had two children, one by C-section one I elected to have a saddle block , I was awake, but felt no pain. Never forget you are in charge of your birthing plan unless something unexpected happens. If you don’t make your wishes known, don’t expect to get what you want. There are no mindreaders in real life.
Listen to your body. Feel confident in a birth plan and have a plan B and C that you and everyone else knows as well. Get an epidural as soon as you want girl. I wanted one when I got to 4 centimeters. listen to yourself. Our bodies are made to handle this.
I’m 36 and had my first baby in April. I had an epidural and it made delivery a breeze! My labor went great until I tore in 3 places… internally and outside. They stitched me up and I almost needed a blood transfusion… mind you I was pretty oblivious to this when it was going on because 1) I couldn’t feel anything bc of the epidural and 2) I was focused on my baby. If your scared… get the epidural. I was terrified of that and it went so smooth after… even with tearing it took me longer to heal…. But when you have your son/daughter in your arms you honestly would go through anything for them. Just relax. You look back and it all seems like a blur… enjoy your final weeks being pregnant! And congrats!
Had all my children natural. Had no Labor pains. Went from home to hospital delivery room. Did have labor pains with one. But not bad. Just relax and remember you doctor is there to take care of you.
Read and learn more about your options. Experiences from others. Less of the unknown, you will have an Idea of what happens and to expect.
You got this!! Your body is so busy bringing this Gift in the world- sit back - relax and enjoy this time. 
Honestly a lot of what we worry about can’t be determined until labor starts progressing. I had a plan of going natural, no epidural of I could help it aaaaaaaand I ended up having a c section due to lack of progression and her heart rate. Just know you’re well taken care of in the hospital and no matter how the baby gets delivered as long as everyone’s healthy that’s ok!!! Child birth is rough but you’re tough and can get through it!
Not sure it will help but I told my daughter she has 2 children 7 and 4 months and I just told her to expect the worst pain ever and it won’t be that bad and she honestly said mom I don’t remember any of the pain I just remember their beautiful faces…
Truth is it all goes back to normal… Once you hold your baby all of that pain goes away… Seriously, think of it this way… Why would women have more than one child if child birth was that bad… Why would women put themselves through that time and time again if the pay off wasn’t worth it… Every woman feels this way their first time. I tore with my first and I have hip damage to this day. Do I care? No, cause it was worth it!!
Was induced with my son, his heart rate dropped and ended up being an emergency c-section. Had an elective c-section with my daughter. I’m 20 wks pregnant currently and will have a third c-section. I am also terrified of all of those things that go with natural birth and is a big nope for me. I mean who wants to pee themselves when they laugh? 
stitch me up skinner than I was doc hahaha the recovery time is longer but I had no problems afterwards. Was even refusing pain meds with my son and I have not got a high pain tolerance at all. Do what feels right for u. If it scares the shit outta u then don’t put urself thru that. Good luck with it all!
For me. I had 3 c sections not by choice but had i had the choice that would be it.
OMG watching my 2 daughter s go through. what they did to give birth. I just couldn’t take it. They both said it is so worth it at the end and you forget the pain. And the pain is gone whereas with a c section you still have the pain afterwards. Still my choice would always be c section. Watching my girls was torture for me.
But to them it was ok i guess. One had 5 children the other had 3
To each his own.
And I’m sorry . i don’t mean to make your anxiety worse.
My choice would still be c section at the very least epidural
Book in a c-section. My first birth was so traumatic that it resulted in a c-section anyway. So the second time around I went into complete panic at the thought of giving birth, once I booked the c-section I completely relaxed and enjoyed the pregnancy. That also being said, a c-section isn’t the easy way out, the recovery is a lot worse than natural birth, while there is no pain as such, it’s a major surgery.
With my last child, I felt like he was too big for me to deliver. My doctor assured me he was about the same size as my first. 8 pounds 4 ounces. He was 10-14. I tore. I was miserable for 10 years. Finally it was figured out that I had a rectocele and enterocele. I’ve had two Surgeries on that. It has caused me much misery. And no. Things were never the same there. I never had more children that I wanted because I was too miserable. Now, that child was killed in an accident at 23. I feel I have lost my motherhood. So, be proactive. Know your OB. Let her know your concerns. If your baby is of good size to deliver, go for it. If not, or if things aren’t going well, opt for a cesarean. My advice.
I feel you girl! I was the exact same! But then when I became pregnant, my thoughts changed for some reason… until I became dilated tbh I just tried not to panic or think about the pain. I got an epidural and I’m so glad I did! Everyones birth is different so it could go totally different to mine but I’d be lying if I didn’t say it was the worst pain of my life! At the start my problem was more trying to stay awake, because even though you think your not doing much, you get exhausted! And your bodies going through so much.
The epidural worked really well for the most part. I could only feel tightening for the contractions until we figured out I had a blockage from the epidural in my cervix and felt the whole thing. I did the worse thing you could do and panicked so my contractions stopped and my babies head was half out. But once I pushed the head out, the rest was a breeze/relief.
Definitely reccomend an epidural and then just try ride it out and TRY stay as calm as you can. Just remember, once she is out, she’s out and you get to forget about everything for a second and its just you and your girl the feeling when you hold her is something you can not describe its all worth it just for that beautiful unconditional love feeling
EPIDURAL…your more at ease and so is the birth the baby is ok as well in my experience…had 3 with one…trust me that pain is maddening…this helps and to focus when u push …on something specific
As someone who had a vaginal, then a csection, then a VBAC, do vaginal if you can. The recovery is so much easier. Csection moms are my heroes because that sh*t is hard. My csection was a surrogate pregnancy and I cannot imagine what it would have been like having to take care of a newborn in the state I was in after my csection.
It’s so normal to be scared. I’m terrified every time.
Also, epidural is life. I didn’t get one with my first vaginal, but did with my VBAC and it’s a game changer. Wish I would have gotten it earlier into labour. It’s AMAZING!
I had a hypo (pain killer) with my first one and that birth was more painful than the next two. I refused all drugs or help and just relaxed and had two pretty easy births. The more you relax and go with the pains the easier and faster it will go. Of course you must do what is best for you. Blessings sent for an easy delivery and a healthy, happy baby.
Its totally ok to be scared. Don’t let anyone make you afraid to be scared. I literally was in a panick towards the end of my first, second and as soon as I found out I was pregnant with my 3rd and knew what was coming. 
I’m pro-epidural, I had 1 with a failed epi, one without (not by choice!) and one with. The one with was my last, and by far the most relaxed delivery. It was only 4 hours but it was very comfortable at the end, and pushing was a breeze. Also, some women think its amazing and empowering. I’m not that type of women. I was miserable every second with my 1st and and 2nd, and only cried relief that it was over, not that my kids were here 
It’s completely normal to feel this way , every person does
Usually birth plans don’t follow through the way you plan
You’ll be fine and you won’t be in your head as much as you think , you’ll be too focused on the whole labour and delivery there won’t be very much room for anxiety
There will be pain , discomfort and a bit of humiliation from no privacy and there will be changes in your body some that will go away and some that won’t. All that being said the moment you hear the baby cry and set eyes on its face nothing else will matter all will be forgiven. Just think about all the women who have had multiple babies do you think if it was that horrible they would keep doing it? Lol 
I have 5 kids all grown and let me tell you giving birth is the easy part. Sending Love and lots of good thoughts. 
Reality is you’ll probably tear. I did and had to have 3 stitches. I tried to do a natural birth but the pain was so bad I got an epidural and I am glad I did. And the nurses and anyone else who is there during the delivery will help keep you at ease. All I was thinking was how excited my beautiful baby boy will be. And the wave of relief after you have your baby, like everyone else who has said don’t fight your body, it’s true
Dont read or listen to other describe horror stories. Talk with your Dr. I have 4 children, each delivery was different. Labor is the part to have medication, delivery is over in an instant. Enjoying your husband later will be better😊
Child birth is different for everyone. It can be painful for a little bit or a longer. I had 4 births all natural no meds. I was terrified, my mom had passed away 1 year before my 1st child. All the things your worried about,I thought also. My first was born Breech and had the cord wrapped around his neck. On the 15th of this month he turned 33. His oldest daughter turned 11 on the 16th. The moment I saw him, the pain of childbirth disappeared. The moment I held him any pain I had was worth it. You are strong, its ok to be scared it normal. You will be amazing as a mother and your child will be the luckiest kid because you want to be a parent.
I had a c- section, natural birth and then I was induced. I remember how painful it was but it was just a moment in time with a beautiful end. Practice relaxation techniques, slow deep breathing. You cannot feel anxious when your breathing is slowed down Close your eyes and see yourself in a place that makes you happy and keep breathing slowly. You will relax. Sending love and hugs for you and your baby. You can do this.
Ive already had one baby (vaginally with an epidural) pregnant with baby #2 now and I’m still a little nervous about that part lol. With my son it was pretty easy once I got the epidural I slept till it was time to push then I didn’t feel much when he came out. Every baby is different though as is every birth. This time around I may need a C-section which is a bit scary to me. I’m worried about recovery. I think it’s totally normal to be scared but ultimately one way or another that baby has gotta come out and you’ll surprise yourself with how much strength you have and what your body is capable of. Women are strong creatures. Once that baby is on your chest you’ll forget everything leading up to that moment and you’ll marvel at the life you created. It’s beautiful.
Do not listen to all the story’s, of what can happen, your doctor will advise you the best method of delivery. It hurts, but look at the prize at the end, a beautiful baby. Ok is the one pain you forget as soon as you see your baby. If labor and delivery were so horrible, do you think all these people would have more then one child? Good Luck to you and wishes for a great delivery and a happy healthy baby and momma.
Plans don’t always have the ability to work. Sometimes emergencies or blessings happen that change them. I was only in labor for less than two hours. I was not driving and my fiance was at work half an hour away My hospital was half an hour in the other direction. By the time we got to the hospital, there was no time to do anything but push. I didn’t even have the for the IV, which is honestly what I was terrified of (as a kid my best friend told me that hurt her terribly and I’ve never had to go to the hospital. Childhood fears 
). Anyway try to listen to your body, not what “everyone” says childbirth is like. I honestly don’t remember much of the pain. I remember feeling a great release of pressure and then just breathing and holding my daughter and crying. Your body will heal and you and your baby will grow stronger together 
Please make sure you tell your dotors these feelings. He needs to know your fears BEFORE you go into labor
Get a Doula who will help you throughout pregnancy and delivery. Most first time moms are fearful. That’s ok! Education about birth, relaxation technique, support from a loved one will make you much better. Ask the doctor about doulas and childbirth educators. Also make a birthing plan for yourself and doctor .
If it was all that bad people wouldn’t do it over and over again. You totally forget the pain and look at the child you two made and it all goes away. Relax and enjoy
If you keep
Worrying about giving birth you might make yourself have a lot earlier birth.everyone is different