I believe if you put this baby up for adoption you will be less likely to get the other two back. Having this baby and excelling at life is what’s going to get your other kids back. Good luck! 
PS- You’d be surprised how well kids turn out who have been raised with nothing. What they need is loving, dedicated, and caring parents, food, and a roof over their head.
Please stop reproducing. It’s not fair to these children
I had my first at 19 my second at 21 after my first I matured alot an I have both if my kids with me age has nothing to do with it but maturity an your past does I think adoption is best until you have your life together
Gift that baby to your parents and get yourself checked in to some treatment place. That baby deserves its siblings and it’s grandies, whom of which are already stepping up where you have failed. Get your tubes tied. This is so upsetting
All of these grown ass woman in this comment section are so so so unbelievably gross.
I could never post here asking for advice from bored, judgmental housewives.
I was pregnant at 16. I’m.now 32. I have 2 kids. It was soooo hard and people pressured me to try and give them up but I ignored those toxic people, worked my ass off and raised my kids. I did get pregnant 2 more times but they both passed. (same BD for all my kids).
It was SO fucking difficult but you have to reach out for professional support. Do what you feel is right in your heart. Get your shit together, start even saving like $20 a month if you can. Prove to everyone that YOU CAN DO THIS!!! You are stronger than you realize.
PLEASE speak to a counselor about all of this before making any decisions. They will be able to help you immensely 
i think you already know what you need to do you’re just not ready to admit it. Give that baby up for adoption to give her a good life. if your parents say something tell them they are already taking care of two and you didn’t want to strap them with another child to support. Some sort of birth control would be a wonderful thing for you
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Some of these comments are fucking disgusting. Yall should be ashamed of yourselves. This woman needs advice and all I’m hearing is shut up, it’s your fault, stop spreading your legs. Jesus I’d hate to be some of yalls children if they ever came into this situation because you bet your ass they wouldn’t be coming to you for help they’d be right here on the Internet because of no support system. Way to miss the point “ladies”.
Sending you love. Hard decision. But week an open adoption where you are also like family as well as your children.
Get in church.
No mother would want to leave her sick child, or continue making life when the ones she’s already been blessed with are not in her care.
God can fix any situation or anything. I even feel like there’s Christian homes that help you get on your feet and raise the baby???
Look into it dear. You are not a shitty person, you are lost. Anyone judging you right now is throwing stones when they themselves are not sinless.
May God bless you on your journey.
Honestly your parents can’t withhold visitation if you put the new baby up for adoption HOWEVER I would ask my parents to take the new baby so the siblings can grow up together AND you can still be part of their lives
As for all the “Use birth control” comments…birth control isn’t always effective, 5 of my 6 kids were conceived on different forms of bc as as well as 2 miscarriages
The baby will be better off with an approved couple from a reputable adoption agency. I did when i was a teenager. I didnt want to vut parents made me more or less. Now as i am a grandmother ive looked back every day and i know i made the best decision. As hard as it is.
You need therapy type help to start. Stay on the path to better yourself and show them you are busting ass for your kids.
Lord child. It might feel impossible now. You are young and you have time to pull yourself together and get your kids back. It can get better one thing at a time. Tell your parents about the new baby. Be prepared they will not be happy. It gives you the chance to keep your kids together. Keep trying keep proving your are serious and prove it. You are way too young to give up.
Stop having kids that you cannot take care of. It’s not your parents responsibility to take care of your children. They didn’t teach you to lay on your back and you do that well. Give that child up for adoption for a chance at a better life than you can give her. Get on some birth control!!!
You can get legal aid attorney to help you, free of charge.
Give the baby to your mom so she can grow with her siblings. One day when you get your life back and straighten out you can get them back. If your parents are willing to take her why would you give her to a stranger 
I believe you need a social worker that can help put your life on track. She would also give all options available with hopefully unbiased opinion and possibly grants and programs that can help you keep your baby or adoption if you really wish to but the decision is yours. It’s a big decision and it’s maturity to have you consider all options. Best of luck and hope you have someone to talk to and give you some emotional support.
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Damn some of you are just down right rude and hateful! Sweet girl as a mother who had my first as a teen we all make mistakes. No mother is perfect and no one’s timing of getting pregnant is perfect regardless of how some of these women want to talk. First and foremost put everyone else’s opinion out of your head. Do what you think is best for yourself and the new baby. Second keep fighting for your kids. Look into legal aid, find an attorney that excepts payments, get a second job after you have this baby. Whatever you have to do just keep fighting. As far as your parents, they seem real shady. If you keep this baby please don’t let them go to your parents house, don’t let them baby sit. You clearly can’t trust them. But please know while things seem awful now you will get through this and you will rise above it. Life is hard. Being a young parent is hard but not impossible. I have 3 kids in my early 30s ranging from 15-6. I’m raising them on my own. I’ve struggled and things haven’t always been easy but those are my babies. We aren’t rich. We live pay check to pay check. But we have all we need and our home is full of love. I say that because money doesn’t make you a good parent. Loving your kids more than life itself does. Putting their needs first does. And giving them a happy healthy home. All the good vibes coming your way Momma! Follow your heart and fight. You can make it through this.
Just know you probably won’t get money from adoption
Adoption. I was Blessed by an unselfish momma who wanted better for baby. We have stayed in contact 
This woman came here and bared her shame and her hurt, for advice. Not to be ridiculed or called names.
Life will get better, I promise, it will.
I suggest being honest with your parents, and then after you have everyone involved, decide on what will happen with your unborn. I know you feel like you’ve already lost so much, but this time in your life will set the standard for your future. Work with honesty, let nothing that comes from your mouth not be from your heart. Don’t hold it all inside because you are scared of what might happen. You decide- and then you stick with it.
You are a good person and you love all of your babies! Not everyone gets a great start with their kids but time heals- you can start over any time you want to.
First of all, I suggest that you stop getting pregnant until you have your life together. I believe you should give this child up for adoption; it’s a win, win, win. You win because you don’t have one more mouth to feed while you struggle to get your other children back. You said yourself that the adoption option would help you get them back more quickly. You might grow to resent this baby for the added stress and tribulations if you keep it. The baby wins because it might bless a couple who, perhaps, is unable to conceive but desperately wants a family. Folks have to pass rigorous standards in order to adopt, so there is great certainty this child will end up just fine. The adopting parent(s) wins because they finally get the baby they’ve so wanted. My parents divorced when I was around a year old. My birth father gave up all rights to my sister and me after the divorce. I’m sure he had his reasons. My mother remarried and my real father adopted us when I was about three. I say my real father because he is the one who loved and raised me. I never had any desire to locate my birth father. Why would I? I had a real father who never thought twice about taking on the responsibility of raising me. Do yourself, your baby, and some lucky family a favor and give this baby up for adoption. There is no shame in wanting a better life for you, this baby, and your other children. Adoption seems like the best path to get you all there.
There are many things you can do I was a foster mom for years . Where do you live? I will be praying for you but if you ever need a friend you can message me
Thank you for your helpful comments. I was on verge of suicide last night, woke up to fight more this morning. Yes that is actually what happened. A cold, my parents hated my views, they didn’t raise. I met my bio father when I was 16 and step mother who is 8yrs older than me.
My father lies a lot. He has my whole life. I should have known better and listened to my grandma when she said not to let my baby go see that man. He is angry over my mother taking me from him. And me turning out like my mother. My mother is dead now, what a surprise right? I’m stressed pulling my hair out. When my mom died and My father took my oldest girl. I found drugs, pills. I loved xanax it nummbed me. I stopped talking to my parents unless it was for visits. But they stopped my visits when they found out about my use, I never came to see my kid high. But I smelled like weed so they tested me I was 20 at the time. They sent me to rehab and promised My daughter back. I graduated rehab and never went bavk to the pills other than ONE relapse in 3 years… yeah I still smoke pot, but my parents don’t mind the weed. They told I’d never get my kids bavk if I was STRIPPING for money… I had to dance to be able to get a home and car for my girls which is exactly what I did. I had to quit dancing because My father WANTED to see me struggle in a Cafe. With 400$ a month child support, 650 rent 250 car insurance app 3 utility’s, no food stamps… list goes on, I have my 15yr old boy cousin living with me the past 2 years… it’s pure crazy over here. I foster animals and I have had steady work since I was 16 years old, I’ve never gone longer than 3 weeks with no work. I used to be a CNA but once I was depressed after they took my other kid I hated my life and left CNA and got charges now I can’t go bavk for 3 years till my charges are dropped. My father told me that that no one wants me here, that I can bring a stripper pole to Thanksgiving and they’ll throw pennies at me for half time entertainment… he is a perverted guy always taking about sex so me and Mt kids dad can’t stand being near him. For all of those saying there is more to the story, you’re right. There is more. More on my dad’s side. More on me fighting everyday for years sober and working trying to pull life together in thus economy!!! I can’t afford lawyers. Maybe it’s the pregnancy driving me insane??? I’ve never battled hurting thus hard before, it makes me vomit with the stress instead of morning sickness. I have everything thus baby could possibly need, I watch parenting videos each day and earn baby bucks to buy baby stuff from a nice baby shop, it’s all nice baby stuff too… my kids dad makes me fucking hate him some days even tho he tries man he really does. 
want to say screw this I’m out, but it’s my oldest who knows me and I don’t want to hurt her. They took my other baby when she was 5 months old she will be 2 next March. Haven’t seen her since, only have 5 photos from them to me… and I only get those when I pay for them and send some type of money. They don’t ask for the payment and I don’t say that’s what it’s for, but anytime I send money. I get an old ohoto of each girl I didn’t Have before… it’s messed up, I hate my self so much, my life would be great if I could afford a lawyer to look at my screemshots I’ve saved over years. I have a house and job a car and my kids dad and pets that love me, why should I want to kill my selfright? ? Ugh. I’m confused, my parents said to me other night “we were just telling you a week ago how we might give you a chance now your talking about killing yourself”? Then asked for more child support.
Coming for a person that was adopted, yes I was that child, I really struggled growing up knowing that I wasn’t wanted and I still struggle now I’m 50, one day your child will find you and sadly your child will never completely understand why they weren’t good enough for they parents that birthed them, they will carry alot of resent and will go through life quite angry and upset, giving a child up for adoption is a massive trauma that they will have to deal with for the rest of there life’s, I went on to have 6 children all raised by myself, you can never take away a child’s love for its mother as the love is true and pure, well if ur lucky enough to stay with ur parents, you say ur parents are God awful because they have ur children maybe you should be thanking them for taking care of ur children when u couldn’t xx
I can not believe all these women with a total disregard for others feelings. I pray that none of you a**holes end up in a similar situation or that your children don’t because clearly kicking someone while they’re down is how yall roll. You should be ashamed of yourselves!
As for the mama looking for advice. You do what you feel is best for your and your babies. You have the power to change the outcome of your life. You’re to young to give up mama!
Jesus christ are you a POS. stop thinking about yourself and for the love of god stop spreading your legs! If you cant even afford to live do not put that bs on a freaking baby! Jail and my BD cant take care of a child. Real cute! You dont deserve to see your other kids! You have a lot of growing up to do!
First you have to pull yourself together, girl!!! Find that will!!
Speaking from someone who was a single mom for 2 years an done it all on my own, do what you think is best. Fight for your kids, keep working hard, show them you’re interested in moving up at your job, if you want to keep this baby, keep her. If you feel like you can’t raise her, give her to a couple who has tried for years and are unable to conceive. I wish you the best !!!
Go see a therapist. (I’m not trying to be rude.) But a therapist would be able to help u make the best decision. And they can give u options and even help find options for u. All states have a program where u can go talk to a therapist on a sliding scale (so could be free.) And they can help u cope with whatever decision you make. They can help you find out all answers you need to make your decision. Please don’t make a hasty decision before you go and talk to someone with a professional degree in things like this.
I really am disheartened that a person giving birth to another child did not think about this prior to laying in bed with someone. I was one of the unfortunate ones who could not have kids. Do you really think it’s ok to give your kids away like they are just property?
My question would be are ur parents good parents to your girls? And is part of ur reason to do adoption is to show ur parents u have control? U need to make sure ur doing adoption for the right reason. I have bio children and adopted children, there’s alot of really good ppl that can’t have children. So whatever u decided I think will be fine. Just don’t lie to ur self on why u are doing it. Good luck. It will work out the way its supposed too. Please stop stressing its not good for the baby u are carrying
I’m so sorry you have a lot going on I wish my baby lived I lost her at 25 weeks I’m going to pray for you I hope things do get better
Do what you feel is best
One of your parents are willing to have her know where the other two kids are that would be amazing
Oh good grief…contraception doesn’t always work. I know a woman who her and her husband have two kids conceived while she was on contraception. 1 out of 200 women will even get pregnant after tubal ligation. Of course it raises your chances of those being ectopic too. Don’t just assume and condemn. She also mentioned that while doing what she needed to to straighten out her life from past mistakes, her parents took the second child. Get off your high horse. We all make mistakes and deserve a chance to make right and do better without people judging us for our pasts and assuming we are still that person along with treating us like we are still that person. That is toxic AF and usually comes from people not being able to forgive themselves either for their own mistakes. Probably from having toxic AF people in their lives that did the same to them as well. It sounds like that’s her parents problem as well. I had to fight to get away from my mom who is like that and her problem was I did not conform to who SHE wanted me to be. I’m not a gold digging prissy pants. I’m helping my exs little brother through some similar crap this lady is going through which had ended with him being a horrible alcoholic. He is drying out and getting his life straightened to get his kids back from his mom. He had made mistakes and no matter what he was doing to fix it and do better, everyone in the family wanted to treat him like he was still the same person making those same mistakes. So, he turned to alcohol. See how toxic that crap can be and how it can destroy someone over and over no matter how hard they try to do better and be better? Sit down and shut your judgemental mouths and fix your own wounds and problems instead of bleeding all over everyone else. For the OP…please, seek therapy. There is a lot you need to work through and heal from and learn how to set boundaries and combat the toxic bs. It will help you to do everything you need to do to get your kids back, live a happier and more confident life, help you give a healthy life and beginning to your kids lives and it will most importantly get you to a place where you will know what to do where this baby is concerned and you will feel better about which ever choice you make.
I think adoption is a good idea. And also they didn’t just get emergency custody and then permanent custody “for no reason”. You must learn to take some accountability for your mistakes and make continuous steps forward before you can be deemed worth of being reunited with those kids. If you just got picked up for a warrant with the 2nd that is still pretty recent of issues— hell, even 3 years ago is still pretty recent and relevant. Get on the right path and keep on it. See the kids when you can and in a few years when you can prove more longterm stability, fight for custody back legally.
Oh Dear Lord in heaven bless this lady and her children. I don’t have any advice as you need to make your decision on what is in your heart. I will say adoption is a beautiful thing but keep your child if that’s what God put on your heart.
As a Grandma that had to take temporary custody a couple of times it’s hard. My kids and grandkids are all home with their parents now and doing so well. I did my job as a Grandma to make sure they didn’t have to have therapy because of their childhood. We are all on a good basis thank the Lord. I didn’t want to raise my grandkids. Some people have too, some people want to. All I have for you is pray over it and whatever decision you make will be the right one. GOD BLESS YOU ALL!
What an irresponsible person, you can remove your uterus or ligate it, so you don’t bring more children to suffer, sorry for your parents, holy God, he prefers not to see his son anymore giving him up for adoption to the parents having custody, what a shame.
I wanna know who told you you could get help paying your fines and getting a lawyer if you put your baby up for adoption. That’s ridiculous. If you want the baby, keep her. You already said you have everything for her… you have a car and a home. Plus, there’s a lot of resources out there to help you get your other kids back. If you’re parents are spiteful, they could also use the adoption against you. You say you don’t want to watch your other children grow up from the sidelines. But, you don’t mind doing it with this new one?
She says she has a place to live and is able to take care of the baby. I say do that and work on getting custody of your other 2 back. It doesn’t sound like it would be hard.
Adoption is a beautiful gift for a family who can not have children of their own. My mom gave a baby up for adoption before I was born, she found us years later, but my mom was able to give her a life she could not provide at the time she was born, by allowing her to be adopted by a family who gave her a beautiful life. She is my sister, we are in contact, she harbors no ill will towards my mom, she loves her, and her adopted mom and my mom speak now and her adopted mom thanks my mom profusely for the beautiful daughter she otherwise would not have had!
Im praying for you.
If you know you can provide for this new baby do it.
Its hard. I was a single mom of 2 in my early 20s.
It sounds like you might need therapy. Id do whatever to help myself. Nothing wrong with keeping your child. It’s hard but it can be done. Just gotta keep working hard and fight everyday to make a better life for yourself and your child. Don’t let anything get in the way of your new life. Maybe even look into sobriety. Id say keep your child …just change your life around and work the steps and get healing .
Sending prayers for u all No advice because it’s not my life or my children. Follow what God tells you in your heart. Pray for answers.
First thing why the hell aren’t you on birth control. Poor kids. Thank God for your parents.
If you’re considering giving the baby up for adoption - maybe see if your parents want this baby as well. Just so all three could grow together rather than apart and then maybe you will be able to get yourself together and have all three with you in a healthy and happy thriving environment.
Give it to me 
I can’t have anymore. Because my tubes are tied.
There are plenty of people who will take the baby
Don’t hate yourself. You are older and wiser this go around! Make amends with your parents they sound like they’re willing to help you they’re just doing some tough love for the sake of your kids.
I’ll be happy to welcome your baby into my family. My daughter would love to have a little sister. I’m so sorry things aren’t going well for you and I hope God changes your life for the better 
I’m not here to judge, like the rest of these a-holes on here. I placed 2 of my kids up for adoption a few years ago. It was in their BEST interest. You need to do what is BEST for your baby.
You’ve been through some trauma. You lost 2 kids. Not through death but you still grieve what could be. You need to find a counselor to talk this through with. Someone who can help you make decisions for this new baby. Don’t rely on a bunch of strangers to tell you what you should do with very little info.
If check if there’s any legal assistance programs near you. You may be able to get a lawyer to get your baby back.
If you keep baby or get your girls back & have to put them in someone else’s care temporarily put it in writing that it’s temporary, when you’ll be back for them etc. Put all expectations in writing. Both parties sign it in front of witnesses. Keep track of all contact or attempts to contact your kids. That could help in court. It’s not foolproof though.
Coming from somebody who is in the system as a child it’s not always fun and games for the children. Children are not always adopted into loving families some are in foster care and group homes which are not the best situations you have to consider that before you put your baby up for adoption some of the families are literally only in it for the money they will beat neglect and starve your child as well if you do put the baby up for adoption you need to make sure that the family is going to adopt the baby the moment it’s born and not let it sit somewhere waiting to get adopted 
Get on birth control. Please. It’s really really hard to care for a child. I was a young mom and had an AMAZING support system that I would not have been able to survive without, and even then life was so hard. My “baby” is 14 now, but please focus on making better choices from here on out. Courts take children when it makes sense to. You’re doing something wrong. Work on bettering yourself and your relationships with the people around you will get better. You may lose some people but they were probably no good for you. Focus on being the best version of yourself for this new princess and hopefully you can get the other two back.
Try to Keep her with everything you have In you!!!
Then fight like hell to get your other babies back in a few years when you prove yourself!
I’m scared you’d totally regret it and have an even emptier heart!
Kids need their parents. You have a home that would be over her head and you CAN get some Assistance to help out why you get more together. That’s what it’s there for.
She’ll want you, her mommy and daddy.
I’ve seen interviews from children adopted out that later met their parents and younger siblings that were kept. She said she’d rather not have all the “things” and have just been with her whole family. Parents put her up for adoption to give her a better life but she said she only wanted the necessities and her parents and to be with her siblings. Met them to late in life but is trying to make up for lost time.
After basic needs, children NEED/WANT time and love, not material things.
But, if you’re NOT in the best place (which only you honestly know) as far as care and you’re not mentally and physically available for this baby and her safety then be honest and do what’s best for her; but not just because of money. Yes, adoption is. A beautiful gift to another family and I’d that’s what you truly need then you have to do what you feel. Just make SURE!
If you’re in doubt, remember you can MAKE it work. Most babies aren’t planned and people MAKE it work.
Best of luck and soul search before making a decision!
The hardest thing to do is usually the right thing I’m adopted and I’m so glad my mother made that choice she didn’t have what it took to be a mother she gave me to someone who would love me and who could take care of me
Don’t put your baby up for adoption!
As rough as it may be, this is ur baby. As sad as u may be, u have a chance at happiness. There’s a solution to this crazy life u had and it’s coming in 3 months… ur baby. Bonding and family. Love for a baby is a special gift.
U may feel this gift is coming at the wrong time?! It’s actually couldn’t be more perfect. Take one step at a time.
I understand where ur coming from…ex stole my kids and has cost so-much money to get them back. I had another baby at that time and then my ex family tried to steal that child-another court case to get him back. I won. and then my first ex ended up stealing my first two kids again! putting them against me and my hubby! It’s tons of money in attorney fees. That I just don’t have right now…still paying for the first time.
U keep thinking u want to retract and solve past problems first before u enjoy ur life now…That’s not how it works… U have to live in the moment.
You won’t be better off without this baby Becuz u will feel guilty for giving her away (more grieving) just Becuz…U need money.
The solution is…things take time to fix. Yes u miss the other ones but u need money and attorney to get them back. Solution is u can still get ur joy back. Sound odd, but u have to join the land of the living-live in present (grieving will end or u have to make a choice to accept what happened and live in moment to survive and thrive. The way to heal is to do more self care and run into ur future ( not dwell on things u can’t change)
Get info from modest means to hire an attorney and they only charge according to ur income. That you can afford it. U may have to get a better paying job to afford life. Ur boyfriend may have to pick up a part time job. U may have to be on govt assistance a lot longer than u wanted to but it’s not the end of the world. Churches help with supplies for food. There are food banks and resources . It may not be ideal to ask for help but u can be humble for a while and u will get on ur feet.
One step at a time. Don’t give up ur baby-for money. When ur mental health is not doing good and u will make it worse. Becuz u r a mother and going to be one again! U r just afraid of loving her Becuz u miss the others so much! You will not forget the other kids. U have enough love for all ur kids. U will keep fighting for them but u will have a life to live and get to be parents.
Right now it’s the time to restore the bond with ur boyfriend Becuz grieving too much causes distance. It’s time to embrace ur lil family and solve problems one at a time. This is part of maturity-life isn’t easy or perfect. U just throw in the towel when it get hard.
Honestly it will make you court case look bad if u put ur new baby up for adoption and try to get back the other two. When you didn’t have to.
I may be the only one to say “ don’t give up ur baby” but I’m telling u this from someone who has experienced lots of grieving from loss. U don’t heal grieving by more loss. I too expecting a baby when not planned right after loss and at first I felt like I wasn’t going to be able to focus on the present-but after the rage of hormones I felt less sad and I could embrace this joy of being a mommy again. Baby has restored our relationship from all the loss and we r excited now. Gods gift.
Also U should speak to ur dr. About all ur depression… hormones have a funny way of getting in the way of happiness. U may be experiencing pre pardum depression. It’s obvious it’s from all the loss and due to pregnancy hormones being out of wack. Need some help to restore ur hormones to feel normal again. After u have baby u can restore ur hormones with natural herbs “ balance hormones “ u can get on Amazon.
Make sure ur taking a pre natal (B12 and vitamin D -safe while pregnant and restores serotonin happy chemical in brain and helps with anxiety)
When ur not pregnant anymore u can take St. John’s wort and ashwaganda. These help with mood and it’s all natural. Takes the edge off so ur not miserable.
Saving Our Sisters (S.O.S.) can help
Y’all she came here for support. She might have been on birth control. I know plenty of people with “birth control babies”.
Mama do what you need to do. If you want your kids back and can take care of them find a lawyer that will help you at low or no cost (I don’t know the correct term but they do exist) get governor assistants if you need it. No shame in needing help. But also know there is no shame in giving up a baby for a better life for them. Prayers for you as you make this hard decision.
All I can say is do what you think is best for you… I have had a baby in my care because mom and dad are not capable of caring for the child the baby was 16 days old… I’m the only mom he knows… I love this child as my own I would die for the child. In my eye and in his . I’m his mom…he is very spoiled and very loved by all my family… tge parents do see him. But he really doesn’t understand yet… as long as you can love and give your child a roof and food that’s all they really need from there parents… but the child , must come first all the time!!!your wants are no more it’s all about them… I have given up alot. I don’t go our anymore as I don’t believe in babysitters. It was my choose so I spend my days and night with the child walks, parks , playing with children . And just cuddle time watching the learning TV. I wish you all the luck and I’ll pray for you and your little one too be God bless
Birth control is free why would she hav another child obviously needs help
Regardless of what YOU chose to do it is not for others to say or to judge. Ask yourself a serious question, did you ask for advice already knowing what you want to hear (most of us do)? Most of us know deep inside what we want to do and are really just asking for validation. Let your heart and gut lead you, not the money (it is not everything and never lasts), if you feel that adoption is the best choice I am sure there are many great homes for your baby. Either way I’ll pray for you and pray He makes the choice and the path clear for you.
If you want to reach out to me feel free. I chose adoption for one of my kids & honestly don’t regret it- I too had everything for the baby however circumstances weren’t great.
Your baby wants YOU, not strangers with money. No number of material things can replace mother and father. I was adopted at birth by good people, but I would give anything for someone to have supported my mother to keep and parent me.
Please reach out to Saving Our Sisters and join the FB group Adoption: Facing Realities. There’s also the Family Preservation Project. They can help you with resources, information, and tangible support to keep from losing your baby unnecessarily.
Legal aid. Get in contact with them and see what can be done about older 2. If you want to keep baby, maybe they can help with that too.
Do what’s best for you mama. Even if it’s not what everyone else wants of you. Keep your baby girl or give her up it’s your choice. You get to choose this time.
Keep her, she will save you! I’ve been there.
Let me be honest stop opening your legs
If you choose adoption you can do an open or closed open will allow you in his/her life closed won’t you have to do what is best for your baby and adoption doesn’t mean you are a bad parent but I 20 years be ready for them to come asking why
Try and keep her the system is so broken that baby may end up in a very abusive home please try and keep your baby and whatever you do don’t let your parents have access to the baby and in most states there is free legal aid check into that. Get on WIC try to get food stamps get as much help as you can you will not be a bad person a bad mother for getting the help that you need.
Girl keep your baby and keep busting your butt to pay off fines and get your life together. You have to prove you are fit to get those kids back, you are a mama and you can do it! There is always public assistance for a lawyer(I don’t know where you are but where I’m from there is) so take what assistance you can get for now until you get on your feet. Show your awful parents you are serious and can do it. Don’t tell them anything you have planned. Talk to someone and get the ball rolling on whatever you need to do. Good luck mama!
Stop putting yourself down over past experiences… your not broken. Your baby doesn’t know any of that. All they want is your love and care. Take this as a chance to shoe everyone your more then capable of raising your child and show the courts what a wonderful parent you can be to your children and that you are not the same as you once were. Fear is a liar and the worse one of them all.
I’ll be praying for you.
Id rather my baby be with their siblings than in an adopted home. Thinking about what it would do to you to watch them with your parents is probably miniscule compared to how id think id feel knowing I gave it up to a stranger. However, there are so many family’s who can’t birth their own kids and a baby would be truly life changing for them. Id say fight. Get my kids, all of them but until you face that none of us can pretend to know what you’re going through
Don’t give your baby away, you will live with regret fir the rest of your life. Pray everytime you think of your baby, GOD WILL HELP YOU ALWAYS
I think you being responsible and consistently caring for this child might help you establish that you’re a capable parent in the eyes of the courts and make it easier to gain back custody of your other two kids. 
But it will also be a lot more work and expense and of course that will effect your ability to manage 2 kids and a newborn. You need to decide if you’re ready to put the kids first and do anything for them. If you’re ready to do that than I think you have your answer.
This is so sad to hear , sending positive vibes your way and wishing you all the best. Putting a baby up for adoption is a very selfless move , you are giving that child a chance at a life that you can’t at the moment and you shouldn’t be shamed for it.
So you don’t have much money a baby and a child doesn’t care that you don’t have money all they want is a parent unconditional love. I don’t know where you live but where I do you can get state help, a monthly check, food stamps, wic, heat assistance, rent assistance and while you are collecting financial aid the will get you set up for schooling and then you get financial aid to help pay for transportation and child care so you can better yourself. No child wants to be poor but also long as you love your child money is just material things love goes on forever. Financial difficulties can come to an end but love does not
I say do whats best for you! If you are thinking about adoption though youll have to choose if an open or closed would be best. Also an option would be to sign over custody to a relative till you get on your feet. My sister is a lawyer in florida in her 30s beautiful home who would love to adopt if you consider.
Keep you baby and get on birth control.
Prayers sweetie I hope everything works out for you
I’m anti abortion I don’t believe init
Considering your kid needed a Dr and you went to a concert instead… probably in their best interest to be with your parents. They are probably “awful” to you because of your lack of respect for your body, your selfish mindset to keep getting pregnant knowing you can’t provide, and the fact you are looking at adoption as a way to make money to get your kids back into a shitty lifestyle they dont deserve. Look into birth control, fix yourself, and do better.
You should keep her honestly you will get your other kids regaurdless when the time is right 
Adoption Is your best option. There are many options. Start looking now. Contact reputable agencies now. Many offer pre-natal care. You Don’t need another child right now. Be responsible and try to care for yourself, then you can reach out to the children you already have.
I considered putting my newest yo for adoption. I had a family picked and everything because everyone told me she would be better off with someone who had lots of money. But when the day came I decided to keep her. I just couldn’t bare to see my kids separated and I didn’t fully trust that she would be taken care of. Keep your baby. Keeping your baby and not allowing your parents to have it will help you be able to get your other kids back especially since they got taken for crappy reasons.
Adoption can be a good option if you aren’t prepared to care for a baby. It’s a very unselfish move and a great gift to someone. Do your research and find some agencies that let you choose the adoptive couple
If you’re responsible enough to have kids you should be to raise and care for them and make them a priority. So much of this sounds unreal but only she knows the real truth of why her kids were taken away. Maybe it is best to give her up cuz clearly she won’t be in a good home. So sad 
you need physcologial help.
I always say you play you pay a child is a gift from god he only lends them to us and can take them back when he wants so please after you decide what to do about this new child tie your tubes safer and can be untied if you meet a good responsible husband that can support you all and love you all . I personally would never give a child away id find a way
I’d love to adopt your baby. You have to do what feels what is right for your baby and yourself. Best of luck to you.
Last year I attended a Gala for our local Women’s center. There were women there just like you that told their stories and how the Women’s Center was able to help them keep their children and overcome their struggles. It’s an amazing service that goes above and beyond supporting singles and couples during and after pregnancy. There are resources out there for support and many options. Firstly, you need to forgive yourself and no one else. You need to do what you believe is best in your heart. No amount of money can replace a mama’s love. Giving your baby up is telling their story about you and holding you to who you use to be. Have your baby and do the best that you can, get a good therapist because you need one. Losing children regardless of the reason and family betrayal is a type of trauma and that’s a lot of healing to recover from. This gives you an opportunity to show that you are a better and adequate enough parent to raise your other children, and a professional to back it up. You can also petition the courts for a family reunification plan, that usually involves children services. (They’re not all about taking children away). Whatever you do, you need to ignore those voices saying you’re not good enough or that have you feeling guilty for the past and doubting yourself because they’re not yours and you can’t change what happened then. Pick yourself up and keep looking forward.
It is a really hard decision and very self less to want to provide your baby a better life. My only suggestion would be maybe seek counselling for yourself to help your mind figure yourself out. 
Unless you are one hundred percent able to take care of this new baby, you owe it to this baby you are carrying to give it up to your parents. At least the baby will be raised with her siblings and apparently your parents would want her. Maybe then you should try to get your life together. Be careful not to get pregnant again. Take responsibility for yourself. There is more to this story than you’re telling in my opinion. Maybe when you are able to provide a stable, secure, healthy environment for all your children you could prove that to the courts and your parents, you could set a path to get them back
If you want to keep your baby then do that. Times will be hard temporarily. Seek out local charities in your area. And having government assistance for medical or otherwise is okay. This will be temporary as well I can tell by your determination to succeed on your own. But you need mental health care as well as OB. Praying for you.
Adoption would be great. Please don’t have another kid for your parents to take care of, they’ve done their time.
First, I’d start with counseling or something for your depression. I would get as much information as you could for adoption and weigh the pros and cons of everything. Adoption is a very brave and selfless thing to do. It takes a lot of strength and love to do it.
However, if you truly feel you are capable of taking care of her and you have yourself in a good place, then perhaps you can start with that. Prove you can take care of children, by taking care of her and use that to your advantage to continue work on getting your other 2 back. Whatever your decisions are, I wish you and your children the best of luck.
You can always message me and I’d be glad to give you advice and more 
keep your head up