I really don’t see that as bullying. Those kids didn’t know your child and shouldn’t feel obligated to play with your child. Sorry that happened. This world can be cruel. Give your daughter copeing skills, so she can stand up for herself. She will be better off for it.
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Coming from another prospective…my kids truly value family time and my 10 year old daughter is a magnet for other little girls that want to play with her. She is so so kind, and lets them of course, but she truly wants to spend time with just family, and especially not more little kids. Our neighborhood is full of little kids and sometimes we go out to spend time alone and so this type of situation would be so stressful to my daughter. Just another prospective. We, as adults, sometimes have a jaded view of situations from our own childhoods, and so we see what we fear (not being accepted for who we are). Parenting is so tough, but it sounds like she’s got a great mom 
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I don’t see that as bullying. I think it’s ok for the other kids to not want to play with anyone else. I think it’s important for kids to vocalize that they don’t want to play and for kids to understand that it’s ok when they’re told that by others.
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That’s not bullying. That’s not wanting to play with her. Definitely need to start with teaching her the difference. Don’t make a victim out of her at 6 years old when it’s really just a part of growing up and learning boundaries.
Also implying to her that they’re bad people or kids (“it’s their loss”) because she didn’t get what she wants is not a healthy habit to start developing. Nobody lost, it just wasn’t a good fit. No one is bad or less than because of that.
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That doesn’t sound like bullying. They just didn’t want to play with her. This is a huge thing in growing up, I think the best thing is to just let the kids learn how to deal with things on their own so that when they grow up they will know how to deal. We can’t fix every problem
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That’s not bullying and I think you’re being a touch over-protective. Better to teach your daughter resilience. That not everyone will like her and that’s OK. Just as she can’t be expected to like everyone she meets. Yes, the grandfather may have been inviting too many kids to join in and that’s on him, if the kids didn’t want that, but he was trying to be nice. 
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That is not bullying. In fact it sounds like the kids were quite reasonable in their response? They weren’t mean, didn’t make fun of her, didn’t say cruel things. Just didn’t feel like having another stranger in their space… which is a valid feeling for a child to have.
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Teach your child that sometimes people won’t want to be their friend or play with them and that that is okay!
It’s upsetting sure, but I wouldn’t go as far as saying it’s bullying.
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I’m really defensive about my 6 year old daughters feelings too. However I’ve been trying to not be a “helicopter mom” for the exact reason your husband pointed out. In that situation I would have told her we’re getting ready to leave to get ice cream anyways so it’s ok. I feel like if you don’t make a big deal about something, your kids likely won’t either. Now if she was acting upset or told you she was upset, I would just explain that those girls seemed to have had a long day and maybe they haven’t seen each other in awhile and were trying to spend quality time together. Validate her feelings though and then distract her. “It’s ok to be upset but don’t let it ruin your day. Let’s go get some ice cream. What kind were you thinking about getting?” Etc
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This wasn’t bullying. And as much as you want to protect your child you’re doing her a disservice by not letting her figure out things for herself. Not everyone will want to play with your child or like her and she won’t like everyone or want to play with them. And that’s ok.
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See this annoys me. Why should kids be expected to share if they don’t want to. Yes sharing nice and all that but they are entitled to their feelings, just like adults. If we don’t want to do anything, we don’t so why should kids be expected to, and then be called bullies even tho they don’t sound like they bullied your daughter in the slightest
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Seriously… she wasn’t bullied! Maybe teach your child to have a voice considering you just opted in where you were thinking kids have prior knowledge
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I’m so blown away by so many people saying that those other girls shouldn’t have to play with your daughter. I feel like that is what is wrong with a lot of children today, “those girls shouldn’t have to be forced to play with your daughter” do what!?! It’s another child that wants to play! If I were the other girls parent/grandparent I would ask them how that would make them feel if someone rejected them if they didn’t have anybody/any toys to play with. I really don’t understand why we don’t teach our children to welcome other children. Now if the “new friend” is destructive or snatching things out of their hands, okay I get it. But if everything is going smoothly, just be kind. It’s not hard! Learn to share.
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This is tough because I get incredibly defensive of my kids, especially my 8 year old for some reason. If I see kids being mean to them or not wanting to play with them, I immediately want to go all mama bear and tell those kids it’s their loss anyway 
but I don’t because my kids do need to learn that not everyone in the entire world is automatically entitled to be their friend or be nice to them. Some people just suck! And it’s their loss, not yours, don’t ever let things like that bother you.
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While I understand wanting to protect your child, this was not bullying. You need to use this teachable moment as that not everyone wants to be her friend and some people know how to be nice about it and others not so nice.
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I agree with the dad. The child needs to learn things on her own…mom won’t always be there to “save” her…or sugar coat life for her.
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You took away the best lesson in life"!!
The lesson was acceptance. My experience is within my own children. If my son doesn’t want to play with our daughter He doesn’t have to. If my daughter wants to be solo and don’t want to engage, She doesn’t have to.
A beautiful teachable moment. ( Not everyone is going to want you there, That’s okay they don’t have to, Neither do you. You don’t have to always play with people enjoy your own company ).
Those Girls weren’t being bullies, They were expressing their boundaries.
For mom"! ---- I agree with dad. As a parent we want to save our children from anything and everyone foriegn or domestic That’s just how were built.
Teach her how to stand alone, if she wants Company she can have someone, If she doesn’t want them there, she doesn’t have to
God bless yall so much. — My youngest is special needs, Trying to influence her is my priority
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I don’t think this is bullying. I also teach my kid that not everyone will like you and that is OKAY! I tell them we will find friends who do like us but I don’t let either child feel like their feelings are invalid. Maybe it’s a little harsh I teach her that but she’s so friendly and loves everyone and we’ve had a few heartfelt moments that have led to that discussion. If a kid doesn’t want to play with mine I just tell mine that it’s okay we’ll just go find some new friends 
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It doesn’t sound like those kids were bullying or even being mean. They had a right to not want a stranger to come and touch their things. There is nothing wrong with your daughter ASKING if she can play with them but she and you need to respect if the kids say no. It sounds like the grandpa was trying to be nice but also not giving his grandkids the opportunity to say no. And it sounds like this would’ve been the perfect opportunity to teach your own daughter how to respect other people’s boundaries and decisions.
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My daughter has gotten bullied because she’s “weird” when she’s talked to me about it I told her how special she is and that she’ll find someone who will be “weird” with her but others who tell her to stop being herself were not true friends and one day she’ll get there
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You should never approach kids to confront them. You probably made the girls feel extremely uncomfortable about setting boundaries. I would never allow a parent to confront my kids
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I don’t think I would consider this being bullied. Those particular kids just wanted to play alone and not with the whole beach. Teach her just to ask first if she can play and see what the other kids say.
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The other children set boundaries. This was not bullying.
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My 5 year old often prefers individual play time. I don’t see this as bullying. At times he’ll ask others to play, and at other times he’ll want to be left alone. I think teaching your daughter to give other’s space when they want it isn’t a bad thing. I wouldn’t make those girls out to be bad. Simply explain that it has nothing to do with them not liking her, there will be times when she will want her own space. You don’t want her to feel guilty expressing that she needs that space.
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I don’t think the other little girls were bullying her. They may have just not wanted to play with someone they don’t know. Some kids are shy even if it appears otherwise. They have a very valid reason for not wanting to play with anyone new. They were already “ new-visitor-ed” out. I think it’s important to teach kids that they can say no if they don’t want to play. I’m sorry your daughters feelings got hurt. It’s nice that you did something gods for her on her own too
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My 14 yr old is learning this hard lesson as we just bought a home a little under a year ago. Both my 14 and 16 yr old kids are cyber schooled. She’s learned that the neighborhood teens can be quite toxic and love drama. She’s made friends where she goes skating every Friday. There’s been many tears and bullying. She has anxiety disorder and being new makes her an easy target especially by someone she called her best friend who lives next door. It’s important we teach our kids that not everyone will like them. I don’t get that from what you have written though. It seems that maybe Grandpa invited a lot of different kids to come play and they just wanted some quiet time to play alone. It actually sounds like they worded things very kindly and did let her play for a bit. While she may learn to depend on you at this age, it will also begin to embarrass her as she gets older for you to intervene and ask the girls questions. At that age kids don’t sensor things and often don’t mean harm behind what they are saying. You may have taken it a bit more personally than your daughter did. While teaching her that not all will like her, she will also one day not like someone or want to play alone. It’s good to teach her also how to handle that in a polite and kind way.
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Need to explain to her the truth. NOT EVERYONE is going to like her and that is OKAY. Hard lesson but its needed esp these days when they go to school
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My little is 5 and its a tough lesson sometimes. I honestly think these are good situations to have to experience tho even at that age… but I agree with your husband some… in the future maybe just see if she runs back to you… Of course we dont want their feelings hurt… but the best thing we can do is to teach them not to take things personal… that sometimes people just need a break from others and want their space… that life isnt always peachy and everyone isnt your friend and thats ok! It seems rash… but it also will help build independence and self confidence.
Also… definitely get sand toys… game changer playing at the beach…
Have you ever heard of the visible child approach? It’s all about respecting our children in the ways we parent and handle situations, I highly recommend the fb group! It has these scenarios and you get real answers from professionals almost immediately!
I wouldn’t talk to the girls next time either no point. If they were friends of your group yes but random people no
Not worth it
Just do something fun with her after it happens so it takes her mind off of it . And bring sand toys to a beach next time
I have this worry for my son in the future. He is 3 and a half and mostly non verbal except for his own little language. I have no advice but I share in your concern. 
I also wouldn’t call it bullying just rude but normal
This was not being bullied. This was ONE incident with strangers.
Grandpa overstepped. He didn’t ask permission and just assumed that his granddaughters should welcome any stranger he throws at them.
Not to seem harsh but what makes your daughter so privileged? Why does everyone have to like her? Why does everyone have to allow her to play?
You went over and confronted children one behalf of your daughter over “why don’t you go play with those girls over there?” 
This was not a situation that you or your child needed to stand up to anyone.
That is a time that you and your child need to learn to respect others boundaries. No means no.
Everyone doesn’t have to like everyone. They respectfully declined and presented another possible solution.
Strangers are not at the beach eagerly waiting for you or your child to grace them with your presence.
If you started doing something fun with her then other kids would join in. Red light green light, don’t let the waves catch you, picking up shells and rocks to make art in the sand, I spy with my little eye, picking up trash to save the wildlife, or google something!
The dollar tree or 5 below has sand toys. Throw some in your beach bag for next time.
It’s ok for girls to say no, it’s ok being told no, and it’s ok to accept no. This is not anyway bullying.
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They did not bully your daughter. They voiced that they did not want to play with your daughter, they did not name call her or anything. Not everyone is going to click and be best buds. I think the girls were great in voicing their wants and needs.
If anything, I feel like you were bullying the girls asking 6+ year olds why they didn’t want to play with your daughter.
It’s great that you did show your daughter love, however it was no one’s loss.
It would be great if kids came with parenting manuals. Lord knows I need one with my kiddos. Lol
Finish them! Lol… Take no prisoners for bullies… If you notice the micro or big aggressions and your child hasn’t found their voice yet… You role model how to respond. So she learns and then remove her from the situation. Good job mom.
I tell my kids you don’t want to play with the mean kids anyways and remind them that I want them to continue to be the nice fun loving kids I know and love. My oldest is 10 and was bullied a lot she’s big for her age. Honestly I told her to stand up for herself and when the mean girls picked on her to defend herself. She’s doing amazing now and is no longer picked on. She is friends with a lot of the special needs kids and goes out of her way to be kind and defend others from those same mean girls
It’s not bullying however is not totally nice situation either.
It’s ok for others not to want to be around another.
It’s like an adult and work we all have the one person we rather not deal with.
The kids could have been just overwhelmed by all the kids playing with them by the times yall came around.
Teach your child that voiceing an opinion is OK speaking up for yourself and saying No is OK. And acceptable.
Teach your child understand and other views so it makes her think more…
I did that with my Now 12 yr old. It has saved him a few times over.
Gotta look at it outside of your normal bubble their might not be other things behind the scenes that might not be your first thought… it’s
This isn’t bullying. At all.
They maybe just didn’t want to play. Maybe too many kids came over to play. I also don’t think May have necessarily not “liked” her, just some alone time to play to themselves. Kids nor adults have to like every person that they come in contact with
I think you did good but do let her know that not everyone will be nice like her. Some can be mean for different reasons and let her know the limit on it like name calling or anything physical to get an adult involved rn shes at an age where she needs to know she would have support if needed but if you jump without her coming for help in the future it is possible that itd cause more issues but rn is best to teach that you are there for her but you can’t force someone to play when they don’t want to
It technically isn’t bullying but I KNOW it breaks your heart to see them feel like they are being rejected and worry if maybe it happened in the future and the kids not as nice to them. I would have done the same thing and just explained to your daughter that they were just wanting alone time bc had been playing with so many that day and didn’t mean they didn’t like her. Tell her not to feel that way bc I know it can hurt but they didn’t even mean too! Ands that anyone that in the future in different situation don’t wanna be get friends it’s there lose and know how many friends she will make if she keeps being nice while always still standing up for herself And others. (That may be alot but had to discuss this with my niece before) When though kids didn’t maybe intend to be mean it didn’t change that your daughter may have felt she wasn’t good enough or they didn’t like her… I feel you momma! Sending hugs…
Fyi this def don’t mean she will be bullied especially if u tt her always
This isn’t really bullying. No it doesn’t feel great. But its part of life. Not every one has to play with them. And they need to learn that unfortunately.
I totally get it momma. My son is almost 4 and has already experienced this. When my son was 2 he fell and broke his tooth, it turned into an infection in his gums, he had to have several front teeth removed. We went to the park and these kids weren’t letting my son play with them. They said “we aren’t playing with you, cavities are dirty!” And ran off. They were a couple of years older than my son, he didn’t know what they were talking about, so he just went to find something to do on his own, but I know it’s going to break my heart when he comes to me and says he’s upset over a situation like that.
All we can do is try to prepare them. Let your child know that they are wonderful and fun, just like you did, but also let her know that not everyone has learned the same love and kindness she has, and that some children will have different boundaries because not all mommies and daddies teach their children the same way. Some mommies and daddies don’t want their children playing with strangers because not all strangers are safe.
The hardest part of parenting is watching them get older and starting to let them get comfortable handling their own situations. Good luck momma
Not everyone is going to like her and that’s ok! Best thing you can do is to let her feel her own intuition on when to step away from a situation. I would have asked her how that made her feel and then told her they did t want her there playing. I woulda left that for the grandad to deal with 
and then went and got ice cream.
I had my son learn martial arts. Not just to be able to defend himself but to boost his confidence as well. He is aware that he is only to use what he learns for defense or to defend those who can’t.
I don’t think that was so much bullying as just those kids wanting their own space. Sometimes kids don’t want to play with my daughter too so I just play with her instead until a kid comes along that does. Lol
What incident? You packed her up and left. This wasn’t bullying, you are being a helicopter mom. Leave children alone and your daughter would of been just fine. You can’t fix everything and there was no problem. You should have sat back and watched what your daughter did next . Would she have went and played by herself? Another kid could have come and played with her? You will never know. But this is just a simple life happening
I dont think kids being honest about not wanting to play is bullying. No one has to be friends with anyone. Teach your daughter not to invest in people like that and to go where she is wanted instead.
Everyone is not going to like everyone. It is what it is. And some people don’t like a lot of people around them. Teach your child that.
This isn’t an issue of her standing up for herself. From your story, this isn’t a case of bullying. This was children not wanting to play with your child, and they’re under no obligation to do so. Also, there’s going to be a lot of rejection in every life. Getting your children used to it and not taking simple things like this personally is an excellent life lesson.
That being said, what you said was perfectly fine. Y’all were getting ready to leave, and so continuing to play wasn’t an option anyhow.
Yeah I think you went too far by asking them, if I were one of those little girls it would’ve made me want to play even less with your daughter, she’s at an age where she should start speaking up for herself, I always tell my daughter “at the first sign that someone shows you that they don’t want to play with you, you leave, you deserve to be treated correctly and with respect, and not everyone has been taught how to do that, but it doesn’t mean you have to stand for it” fortunately other girls always want to play with her, she’s a chatty little one, so other kids find her fun to be around 
, but she’s also learned not to take BS from anyone 
, when she was younger and didn’t know how to speak for herself I would simply remove her from the situation, my daughter is 7.
I be ready to fight kids too momma. Screw that i intervene all the time.
kids will be kids ,go buy her sand toys and quit being so Karem!
It is part if lofe they HAVE to learn to deal with. If it gets really to a bad point then def JUMP in buy just like us as adults kids also have the right to say who they do and do not want to be around. I think mainly at that age like between 6.5 and 8 its a bigher maturity difference them anything. 8 in yr olds now are at an awckward spot lol. However rejection is a big part of character building to. So try not to intervene, only if really need be
I think they were rude. My kids always made others feel accepted and wanted.
How about bring sand toys to the beach so your little has something to do.
First of all, you need to always intervene. In the future, please be selective about who your child is exposed to during outings. Second, you also need to teach your child to grace people with a peace sign and dip out. This is classic bullying. Bullying is not just saying something mean. It is also pushing for isolation as well. Mean girls are raised young and they continue that behavior well into adulthood. These children are not being raised to discuss boundaries. Because it is all in the way you say something as well. I got the movie Clueless ‘the slackers and burnouts hangout over there’ vibe from this one…They are being raised to be this nasty. Let them see her dust. If someone told a child to move away, I am telling a child to respect the move away. I also would advise her not inviting the move away girls to anything and steering clear of this personality type going forward. This is the lesson you need to teach your child. The thing you are worried about as a parent is looking to the future and hoping your child won’t get bullied by mean girls. Stop hoping and put your child in self defense. The only things that repel bullies is confidence, a cuss out, and butt whipping if necessary. Take it from someone who has been popular their entire life who never followed anyone and didn’t bully anyone either. I resisted this vibe my entire life. In this scenario, the grandparent should have said something as well. I am an ex Kindergarten, First, and Second grade teacher. I used to see this mess each day. At one point, it was so bad that we had to separate the children into 5 different classrooms to protect children from other children we knew were being raised to be mean girl bullies. You don’t want your child associated with this behavior at all. Children who are bullies have no friends. They only have minions. Teach your child to be independent. Teach your child what real friends are… Teach your child that the worse thing you could be is a mean girl or a minion. Hope this helps…
That’s just a part of life, our feelings get hurt…
You gotta let her handle situations… shell learn
Not wanting to include someone unfortunately while it may not seem kind it definitely isn’t bullying. not every situation will be an opportunity to include someone and you can teach your child what to do when those moments arise.
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I’m of the mind that my kids don’t have to play with your kids if they don’t want to, and I wouldn’t consider it bullying. If I’m working on something and someone I don’t know comes and tries to “help” I wouldn’t like it very much. It’s the same for my kids. Kids need to learn not everyone wants to be your friend or play with you and thats ok.
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Sadly, that happens among kids of any age and background.
You need to let her know how to deal with kids who have no manners and kids who will be mean. Give her advice, based on stories and situations.
Tell her about ways to respond, not react, but prepare her so she has some ideas about how to respond. Also, get her into some martial arts and self defense because some kids are raised to be ruthless add ignorant.
Mean girl situations are going to be continuous in life, but we can help our kids manage by preparing them for the lessons ahead of time.
So many kids are rough, mean, obnoxious and sarcastic.
Teach her good manners, but also, how to stand her ground. The limits and boundaries of what to expect and tolerate.
Keep teaching her her worth, and she will be able to walk away without taking so much to heart.
I don’t see that as bullying either, however We felt our then 7 year old was not assertive enough and was kind of a doormat so we enrolled him in jujistu, which is defensive, he isn’t aggressive at all but it did help him build some confidence in himself, and he really blossomed socially since, he’s 9 now
This is why I teach my kids that you are your own best friend 
… learn to play by yourself… I think if she had those toys she would of played by herself… I teach mine tht not everyone is for you … . If they don’t want to play then find something else or someone else to play with . Ask hey can I play with you first .
How was this bullying
Girl. This ones hard because I’m the same way. Kids were mean to my daughter at the park. She’s been in the play area structure first but these older kids like 7-8 (mine is 3) came around a d started pushing I front of her and I was so scared she’d fall. We ended up leaving and she was so sad and crying. I was sh*t talking the parents the whole way past because they couldn’t be bothered to watch their kids and I was about to go full hulk hogan on their asses … kids and adults alike
I feel your pain and have no advice because my first instinct is to put a little brat in their place 
More attentiveness will prevent these situations. Don’t let your child socialize with strangers, particularly without your presence and guidance.
My daughter a couple years ago (she was about 6) we were at a playground abd there was a couple girls (one about her age another about a year older) were being mean to her. Ditching her saying mean comments
My daughter is deaf, and didn’t understand what the girls were saying and doing was being mean to her
I walked over to my daughter and told her loud and clear those little girls are being mean to you, she asked why i told her idk…
Then i turned to the little girls ans pointed out that im sure they wouldn’t like what they done done to them.
And that when it does happen I hope they remeber what they had done to mine.
Their momma/guardian came over and asked them what I said.
I continued to push my daughter in the merry go round.
Mom looks over at me and i was prepared for her to say something (bullies learn to be bullies at home) momma didn’t say sh!t.
It’s definately a balancing act between defending them and letting them figure life out
It’s a life lesson. Your daughter is not going to make friends with every random stranger she passes by in life. Not everyone is going to want to be her friend. She is not going to want to be everyone’s friend. In a world of participation trophies and having to invite everyone in the class to a party, kids and parents have gone soft. Your daughter will be fine
It was one time. Chill lol kids are jerks
Bullying would be them picking on her, hitting, kicking, and insulting her. They DONT HAVE TO INCLUDE YOUR KID.
AND BY TEACHING HER THE WAY YOU ARE, YOURE SETTING HER UP TO FAIL IN FRIENDSHIPS.
It wasn’t “their loss” she is not a damn victim.
And honestly, you need to read the actual definition of bullying. Seems like you almost tried to “bully” the kids into accepting her.
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Unfortunately it’s a part of life. Next time just leave the situation. Don’t intervene unless it gets ugly.
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My daughter is 19 & I sure don’t miss this. It’s heartbreaking & you really don’t know when to intervene or let them handle but every time I wanted to cuss the girls AND their parents out. I did a couple of times. lol I’m sorry that you both are going thru this.
I teach my kids no everyone is nice and not everyone has to be friends
Sadly it’s how life is so better to teach them young to no take it personal that someone’s a asshole for no reason
They weren’t bullying her. It sounds like Grandpa was making them play with a crowd throughout the day, and maybe they were overwhelmed. So they set a boundary.
Just because a child does not want to play with yours, does NOT equal bullying. They just don’t want to play with your daughter. It usually isn’t personal. Part of the issue with these last couple generations is the whole forcing our kids to “play” with everyone and the “participation” awards. It keeps regular, important life lessons from being learned.
She need to know and understand that not everyone is her friend and NO ONE IS REQUIRED TO PLAY WITH HER OR BE HER FRIEND. That’s life. We have to stop making these kids soft and trying to live for them. Let her live, and stop thinking that other kids HAVE to play with or include your child. They don’t if they don’t want to.
I don’t really think that counted as bullying. Kids are brutally honest and can be selfish. Apparently they didn’t want anyone in on their project, it wasn’t her in particular.
I think that this is a beautiful teaching moment. You have to tell her that she is amazing. And she will be too much for some people but to not ever let it bother her and to be kind anyways, because as long as she loves herself and has the love she is constantly around that the right people will always go toward her light.
It’s really hard to step back & let them handle their own battles. At 6 I don’t think what you did was the wrong thing. You asked a question & just got her to come with you. My daughter was bullied in 4th grade. I would tell her things to do to try to deter the bullying, but otherwise tried to stay out of it. Until she started saying she hated school & didn’t want to go. At that point it had been over a month so I reached out to the teacher for help. Things got better for a short time then the bs started again. I messaged the teacher again & told her if I have to come to the school & talk to those little jerks it wasn’t going to be done kindly. It took more than half the school year to get those little witches to finally leave my kid alone. She’s a sweet, shy kid & an easy target. She’s 14 now & says that she’s glad I let her try to handle it on her own before intervening.
She can’t stand up for herself if you’re there to do it for her. Life is tough but we al made it through and so will she.
Also this is not bullying. Telling your husband to step back because you “have beef with an 8 year old” is bullying behavior.
Teach her to stand up for herself. I remember I was bullied in preschool and my uncle had enough of me coming home with bruises. He taught me how to make a fist. The next day, he went to pinch me and I hit him. He switched schools.
Teach your kids about disappointments life. Not everyone will or has to like her. And thats okay. She wasn’t being bullied the kids just didn’t want to play with anymore extra kids. That’s not bullying. Kids are allowed to tell other kids ‘no I don’t want to play with you’
One of the toughest lessons to learn as a parent is sometimes you can not “make it ok”
Part of life for children is learning to handle these situations themselves
Also, try not to project your sense of rejection on to your child
Try not to use food as a reward or replacement
Try to stay out of non threatening situations in order to help her build her own confidence 
I would lose it on the little punks then kick their tunnel in lol
Martial arts training. She’ll gain confidence and skills.
Bullying is a lot different
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Honestly, kids are jerks. And words hurt, but I’m sure throughout her life she is going to have a lot more said to her. Protect her from the hate for sure, but she needs experiences like these so that when the true bullying starts, she’s used to a bit of rejection. We can’t stop what happens to our children when they are away from us. You sound like a great mom and I’m sure if you make her feel comfortable to do so, when (and if) something happens she will come talk to you about it.
I don’t see that as bullying more of a situation where the other kids just wanted it to be just them. Sounds like they were overwhelmed because the grandfather kept inviting kids over. I blame him. He should of asked those kids before inviting other kids over and the situation never would of happened. But most people don’t think about that when it comes to kids and try to force other kids on them. They are just kids and still learning how to express themselves. I would of done the same with redirecting and explained that in life you’re not gonna always be included and not everybody is going to want to be your friend. I have one kid who has social anxiety and doesn’t want to interact, one who needs a warm up period first so by the time he’s ready they think he’s mean and doesn’t want to play with him and one that is a social butterfly and although she understands not everybody is like her it still hurts her feelings. So I understand it from all sides.
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Do not intervene. That is not bullying, it is kids saying they need some space.
Maybe you could have helped your daughter start her own tunnel or digging project.
Also, if your daughter had no sand toys then you need to get her some. Shovels and things get broken in the sand and my kids never had to share them ( my rules) so theirs weren’t broken by someone else.
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They weren’t bullying her. I also would be cautious in that situation to say it’s their loss, or that they had anything to lose by not wanting to hang out with her. That kind of makes it seem like the other kids were in the wrong for not wanting to play with her. When they were not. Its okay for kids to want space from other kids. It’s okay for them to not want to play with other kids. I would have just explained that some times people need space from others, or time for themselves, and that’s okay! No reason to worry, or dwell if others don’t want to play with you because it’s normal and valid. That will help her set boundaries of who she wants to play with on the future too.
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I don’t see this situation as bullying. YOU should have brought things for her to do, play with her! The other kids just said they need some space in their own way. FYI: not everyone is going to like your kid.
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"You can be the nicest, most caring, genuine person. And someone somewhere is still going to have a problem with you. Not everyone is going to like you, and thats okay. Because you are loved and likes by so many other people. Your worth is not based on how others feel about you. At the end of the day, you just focus on liking yourself, and the right people will come into your life for you. " my second grade teacher gave us this talk. And it really changed things. As a kid who just wants to play, it can really hurt your feelings when someone doesn’t want to. You dont understand it. But it was a reality check, and it put things into better perspective for us. You dont have to be rude, but you can decide who you want to hang out with.
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Why force others to play with her. They played a bit and the other kids said no more…
That wasn’t bullying if they just didn’t want her playing with them. The grandfather probably crossed the line by inviting her over but definitely don’t run to her aide every time time either. Just explain the situation like this one and move on. She has to learn to handle things as on her own as she gets older. My parents did it for me and it was embarrassing. I never learned as a kid how to stick up for myself until high school, when I didn’t have a choice. When it was real bullying.
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This sounds normal to me and not like bullying. They just wanted to play alone. Do you like everyone you meet? Do you want to share your stuff with people “just because”? We place high expectations on children that are unreasonable.
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Really that’s far from bullying. I think you are just sensitive about your daughter and don’t want her to be hurt . I get that but make into a learning experience and not everyone is your friend.
the term bullying is used too casually.They simply did not want to play with her or anyone else.Buy her some sand toys.Perhaps another child who needs a friend will see her and want to play.
That’s is a hard one for sure. But they do need to learn how to deal with there self. As it will come up again in there life. Let them come to you for comfort if need, while you hide your broken heart and not let it show. Hardest job in the world is being a parent
I personally wouldn’t classify that as bullying. My son is a social butterfly and wants to play with MOST kids, but not all. He’s had instances where he’s wanted to play solo and times where other kids want to play solo. If someone tells him they are done or don’t want to play, I just encourage him that they just want some time to themselves or the group they are with. It doesn’t reflect on him, his value or anything concerning him, but everyone has the right to say no. Respect that decision and find something else to do.
Although, If they have a problem with your child, that’s ok too, not everyone has to be friends. As long as they aren’t mean about it, the world will keep spinning and it’s a new skill set to teach your daughter.
First, I feel for you mama! It always hurts our hearts when things don’t go just right for our kiddos. It’s completely natural! I once read an article on the difference between unkindness and bullying. Bullying is a repetitive action, unkindness is not. Unkindness certainly can turn into bullying, but I wouldn’t consider this bullying at this time. I also think it’s incredibly important for children to be able to voice their wants and needs. Perhaps the girl should have said it in a kinder way such as “we would like to play alone please” but she is absolutely 100% okay to say she wants to be with her friends. My daughter has autism, and we coach her to say when she wants time alone to do what she’s doing, even if another kid comes round. I would recommend to encourage your daughter to remember everyone has a choice including her and it’s okay and incredibly respectful to listen to that choice. It may not always be ones we like, but just because kids want to play alone doesn’t mean they don’t like her. Encourage her to see the value in herself (which I’m sure you already do), when we raise confident kids we get confident adults. You’re doing just fine mama and I’m sure she’s going to grow into an incredible young lady.