Why make a big deal? Its natural for a child to be curious in a younger child and watch the baby get changed, or fed or bathed ect. It doesnt mean there is any concern of anything there. Maybe he just wanta to help. Maybe hes just curious in the babys care.
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Is there a problem with the mechanics of the door that keep it from closing? Try it.
If it closes properly, do that same thing with the door while you are changing your kids. Youād be surprised how hard it is, for anyone, to stare at your child through a closed door.
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Always follow your gut. Yes he may be curious but you never know. Close the door.
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Donāt leave your daughters alone with him. Keep the door closed and locked when you are changing, bathing, or dressing your daughters. I just wouldnāt trust the situation! Children are most likely to be abused by older relatives of the opposite sex (look at the statistics). Just be careful!
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Heās probably just curious cause itās a baby. Maybe have him help you or talk to him. Donāt be freaked out heās a kid and learning about life as well and thatās part of his life
can it be that his parents told them to keep an eye on their things or something and he is making sure you arenāt snooping around their stuff.? Thereās people that donāt trust and like to have their kids to keep an eye on things.
Something wrong with people today!! He is a child!! And a baby??? This SHOULD NOT even be a question!!! You need to get therepy for what ever happened to you before you scar your child!!! These are innocent children itās the adults on this page I question
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Donāt be accusatory to this child. That is what he is, a child. You had touchy cousins but that doesnāt mean this child is the same way. Being accusatory could scar this child for life and Iām sure you donāt want to do that.
Talk to him. Ask him if you can help him. Ask him if he wants to help you. Maybe he hasnāt had the opportunity to help change diapers or undies and heās waiting for you to ask for his help.
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Heās 10ā¦ heās curious. Doesnāt mean anything at all. For all you know, he could have been looking at her in disgust.
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Wow!!! How dare you!!! Maybe you should talk to that child instead accusing a child of āwatchingā! How do u think kids learn? They watch? Kids that age barely know what their privates are and u accuse this one of something Ike this!!! Shame on you!!!
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Maintain your childrenās privacy at all times
Grandpaās, Uncles & nephews shouldnāt be in the room when you are changing your children.
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No body really knows what this kid is thinking about. He is ten and now a days kids watches all kind of things on Television. I just be careful specially when your changing your girl, do it in private or close the door. Not gonna hurt to be cautious.
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Maybe he just likes watching you be a mother, maybe he wonders if he wore diapers ā¦ talk to the child ā¦
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Does he watch when you change your other daughter also? If so it is probably just curiosity. Talk with his parents and work together for a reasonable solution that satisfies both parties involved.
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Youāre projecting your experience with your cousins. Ask him to help you while changing them and explain the process.
He probably just wants to help or is curious. Thereās nothing wrong with him helping in appropriate ways.
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A lot of kids do this I donāt see anything wrong with it maybe heās curious. Heās 10 years old not 20
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Ask him what heās looking at?
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Soā¦heās probably just interested in what is happening. Standing in the doorway is nothing to be worried about. If you make a big deal out of it, it will become an even bigger deal.
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Stop bashing she is a young mother her children are 2 and 1 obviously she isnt smear campaigning the boy just asking others who have more experience with older kids for advice good lord ease up!!! I would say he is curious just keep observing and set boundaries there isnt anything wrong with that I personally come from a huge family 27 nieces and nephews and 4 children of my own boundries are necessary for children
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Ask him if he helped change his younger siblings? Maybe he just wants to help.
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I think itās inappropriate and would put a stop to it immediately.
Did you say all kids are sleeping in family room ? Your daughters probably need to sleep with you
I would shut the door. Could be completely innocent but I wouldnāt take a chance
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I would not automatically make the situation more awkward you never really know what the kid is thinking. Next time you see him make conversation about it and see how he responds. Start with something light/neutral. Kind of just to acknowledge you know he is there and watching
Example: man I canāt wait until she is potty trained.
See what he says in response. If he responds with some level of shame in being caught then I would allow myself to be concerned. If he engages in a normal conversation and shows no signs of inappropriate thought process then maybe itās something else. If it was a 10 year old girl we would probably include her in the caregiving activity. And that may be it. He may just want to help with the baby or something.
You never know with kids sometimes they have curiosities that arenāt creepy but come off as creepy because they donāt express their questions or their interest in something that could be totally innocent
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Donāt make a big deal out of it, or it will become a big deal.
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So what? Talk to this kid. See what hes doing. Find out why hes watching. Dont assume just because he is male. TALK. Use your words and let him use his. Nothig is wrong with being proactive but DONT assume. Talk to the kid and see what he says.
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Shut the door behind you.
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I juist donāt understand why you would pose this question to strangers on social media.
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Just close the door!
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Stay In touch with ur gut !
I was 7 ish when I was raped n abused by my cousin & he wasnt that much older than 10 yrs old neither !
so all u people on the attack of her & saying heās only a kidā¦
Look at John venabells n robert Thompson who tourtered n killed James bulger THEY WERE KIDSā¦ & 10 YEARS OLD!
Iām not sayig go into panic moad Iām not saying get carried away it could just b he doesnāt realise his staring is innopropriate but he should b learnt it
U could b his teacher saying simple things like letās shut this door for our privercy while we go potty we change we bathe etc
Always go with ur gut instinct but on the same page remember that boy could just av no idea of privercy n boundaries try teaching n see if he starts to understand this after a heās high school age in another year x
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Just donāt leave her alone around him Iām sorry but I would not trust him
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Maybe he is just curious.
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Just have a conversation with him about privacy
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Keep your eyes and ears open.
Go with your gut. Donāt ever leave him with them unattended. 
Talk to your husband about it and then sit down with him his mom and dad and talk to him about it.
Following your gut is the best thing to do.
I wouldnāt make a big deal out of it, close the door
Seeing as how kids are talking about and even having sex at 11, I would have a very open talk with him about the differences in boys and girls, and explain why āgawkingā is inappropriate. Of course, at least let his parents know that he was curious and it is time for some talks.
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Close the door lol simple
Michelle cope! You are the problem with our society. You canāt just allow me to have an opinion. You have to be a cyber bully and call people nasty names. What a nice example of class you are.
close the door, say excuse us to the boy and maintain privacy
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I think you have a problem staying with ā in lawsā and why are all of yāall staying there? Heās probably curious, heās 10. Shut the door!
Really? Maybe he wants to help? Everyone looking into such innocent shit in small kids is disgusting
Sounds as if he is just curious.
If it was a girl, would it bother you? All of my boys were curious and wanted to help in taking care of their baby brothers. Itās a natural instinct human beings have, and to act like heās a pervert is disgusting. Next time you see him, maybe say āhey bud, whatās up? Would you like to help?ā Instead of immediately assuming that because heās a boy, heās going to harm your kids. Someone abused me for years, but I didnāt turn around and condemn everyone male for someone elseās actions.
Ehh a 10 year old should know to respect the privacy of a little girl.
My sonās have never been around my niece without her clothes on, they know that sheās a little girl and she deserves privacy when sheās being changed or changing.
I think itās important to teach them that while they are young?
I think itās weird that youāre uncomfortable with it but are still allowing it to happen.
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Honestly, itās not about whether the motive is clean, but your (and your daughterās) comfort level. If youāre not ok with it, then address it. You can be nice and just say hey I would like to change her in private pleaseā¦I donāt know but Iām upfront when it comes to my kids! And personally big on privacy, I donāt change my kids diapers in front of anyone. It is their body and they donāt have the capacity to choose at that age. I believe the principle of consent should start early. Everyone is different but it comes down to your comfort! donāt feel bad for not wanting anyone watching!! they shouldnāt be imo.
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I think you should ask him if heās curious and would like to help or learn how to change a diaper! 
At that age most kids tend to want to help and ābabysitā kids.
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Sorry about ppl being rude but I think it was good advice to just close the door all of the time that way youāre not singling him out .He will realize in a short time that the door will be closed and will stop following. Problem solved. It will also keep peace in the family since you wonāt be confronting a child whose mom may feel she needs to come to his defense. Especially since this is not your house.
I would be concerned in that situation also. Most likely curiosity but I would keep the door shut and remind him that youād like privacy.
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I agree with other comments and to tell him that everyone needs privacy when changing. I would also close the door when youāre changing her if he tries to follow you again.
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My 2 are almost 8 years apart. My my youngest (a girl) was born my oldest (a boy) was so excited to help with taking care of her. Until he saw me change her diaper and he was in shock. He said he never thought about her not having a peepee. And at first he would kind of stand back and try bot to look but at the same time would look until I just flat out asked him why he felt uncomfortable and he said he wanted ti be a good big brother and help change her but he didnāt want to have to get close to her private parts. So I just had a talk with him that first off, no one expected him to change a diaper lol and then just explained the difference between girl and boy parts in more detail and kept it very fact driven. By the end of that talk it was no big deal to him, he said he was just too embarrassed to ask. Heās almost 10 now and my daughter almost 2 and sheās gotten into that throwing off the diaper to go streaking stage while we are working on potty training and my son always turns away and says āaddi go cover your private parts people canāt see that!ā but itās jot a weird thing. Maybe he just has questions but doesnāt wsnt to ask them. Maybe you should just flat out ask him why he is watching. It might not be anything creepy, on the other hand it could and it might help if he knows that you see what heās doing
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Odds are heās just curious. Kids are curious for all sorts of reasons, generally not nefarious ones. Just be honest with him, tell him youāre uncomfortable with him watching you change her if you are, because those are her private bits and itās just like when he goes to the bathroom. He was three the last time he had a baby sibling he probably hasnāt been given the chance to see what caring for a baby/toddler is like and may even just be curious about potty training/diapers.
Why not just simply ask? Is it so awkward that you couldnāt have a conversation with him? And nothing major, just a quick āHey buddy, I see youāre curious or interested in the diaper changing process. Do you have any questions that I can help with?ā It may open up a discussion into what his thought process is and clear things up. Or even if you want privacy, then say that. Iām probably the only one who finds it strange how society finds comfort and solace in first asking complete strangers about matters that you can clear up by simply just talking it out with the people who are involved. At the very least, spark the conversation so that even if heās having deviant thoughts then heāll realize very well that youāve noticed him and youāre watching TOO! 
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Iād rule it down to being curious and maybe possibly wanting to be there just in case you need help.
Maybe discuss with parents about how everyone needs privacy when getting changed and what they do in their household regarding privacy.
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I change my kids in front of who ever is in the room when they need changed. Why make it seem weird instead of normalizing at??? Baby go to the bathroom just like every body else. The body is a natural thing. He probably just wants to help. At that age kids want to feel and be helpful every chance they get. Maybe ask if he could get you a diaper and the wipes and to throw out the dirty diaper when youāre done, if you REALLY think heās trying something weird close the door but I highly doubt that is the case.
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You could gently tell him that everyone needs privacy when theyāre getting cleaned up so please give your daughter privacy.
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Heās 10. Just ask him what heās doing. Kids at that age are usually pretty good at telling you whatās going on in their head if you ask.
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Iād be very cautious around him or anyone for that matter. I wouldnāt mention anything to any other adults yet, except your husband. (Right now) You have EVERY RIGHT!!! To be concerned & Cautious this is YOUR CHILD & as a mother you have a responsibility to protect your child. If you see him again doing this, Iād speak up & ask him why are you watching me change her? His response would give you indication if heās on some funny business or just bring nosey. I canāt believe some of these responses on here lol
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Ask him if he wants to change the diaper. Maybe he wants to help but is afraid to ask you. Boys need to change diapers & babysit too so that would give him experience. Being a boy you donāt get many chances to experience how to change diapers or stuff that deals with babies.
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I wouldnt rule anything out. Ever. Not when it comes to my child or any child. It could be NOTHING then again, you donāt want to pass judgement either way. I would address it and ask him why he does that and then ask him not to because it makes you feel uncomfortable and your daughter deserves privacy. How will kids learn if we donāt communicate with them properly? That may plant a seed in his brainā¦ and the earlier he learns to respect the bodies of women/girls the better! My daughter had no siblings until she was five. She never knew boys hadā¦ wellā¦ ya know. When my husband and I got together he has a son, and the first time she realized he didnāt have a vagina, she was a little taken back lol. She just ignores it now or goes in another room if he is being changed.
I know you mentioned this isnāt new to him though?
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Heās probably just curiousā¦i would think too much into it. Maybe talk to him about it.
I always go with my gut. If it feels weird then dont allow it. We were blessed with instincts for a reason.
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Invite him in the room and ask if he wants to help? Teach instead of judge. I see nothing wrong with a little boys curiosity.
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If your not comfortable tell him go ahead amd play and you guys will be back close the door and thatās it eveyone has a way about going about thingās do what makes you comfortable
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No reason for people to be rude she was just asking for advice geez did yall see at top of message where she said she had two girls 1 and 2 so obviously she hadnāt had to experience kids being curious yet her girls are still young wow itās sad people cant even ask for advice anymore without people being straight assholes to the people wanting to learn how to deal with situationsā¦enough said
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Your over reacting. My 8 year old niece always watches me change my son. Your making it out to be a bigger deal than it has to be. If you want privacy thatās what doors are for. .close it
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Reiterate privacy and hold to your gut feelings. Age 8 is now the national average a child is exposed to pornography. So protect and educate donāt hush hush itā¦
Idk. As bad as this may sound my kids are rarely changed in a private setting. (At least around family) we all change babies on the living room floor, bedroom floors or whatever with other kids and other adults around. Just the way we are. We dont put everything on hold or stop to get up and change the kids. At 2 years old my littles sister was trying to help change my then 1 year old daughter. They watch me change my son and occasionally ask to help. I donāt really see it a creepy. Maybe heās curious. Or would like to help. Or like someone else said maybe hes protective of your little one
My boyfriendās nephew has watched before, but when asked about it he said he just wanted to know how to change a diaper. š¤·
I think you should talk to him and ask why before you jump off into dark scenarios.
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I honestly think heās trying to get the courage to speak to you about something or wants to ask you a personal question. I think your making a big deal out of nothing. I think heās bored.
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I donāt think itās a big deal. Heās probably just curious and doesnāt need shamed for it
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I had a son when my 1st son was 12 I actually had him learn how to change his brother dress him and feed him and my daughters when they had there kids they knew exactly what to do and they werenāt afraid of having a baby to take care of ask him if he wants to learn how to take care of a baby?
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He prob just wants to help. Heās a child. Put him to work. Maybe he will be the best babysitter ever. The best father ever. Donāt judge a child. Because now we are all judging you
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Go with your mama gut instinct. God gave mamas that instinct for a reason and you are the only protection for your baby. If YOU are uncomfortable (despite the rude comments on here) YOU make the decision whatās best for YOUR baby. Kids are not ALWAYS innocent(donāt assume he isnāt though until you talk to him). I would ask him next time why he does that. If he just wants to help or just watch. If itās just to watch yeah thatās weird. Iāve started kicking my son out and other boys when I change my daughter because you should start teaching at a certain age that people bodies are private. It scares me that half the moms on here think itās ok to be curious about other peopleās bodies. It might be normal but that doesnāt mean you should encourage it at all. There is a time and place and itās normal for a boy to start wondering about girls or vice versa but you should have a talk to him about it(his parents).
If YOU are uncomfortable with it then definitely close the door
Maybe heās just curious? If he plays with her appropriately and never tries to touch her inappropriately, maybe teach him how to change diapers, heās still young and learning tooā¦ or, tell him since sheās a girl, she needs privacy but unless āweirdā things have happened, it shouldnāt be a big deal. I remember watching my aunt change my male cousin, I was just curious and wanted to help. Allowing him to help couldnāt hurt, one day he may have kids of his own.
Honestly Iām the same way with my oldest(step daughter) when Iām changing my sonās diaper as I just donāt feel comfortable with her being right there call me weird but thatās how I feel. I have my personal reasoning behind it that doesnt need explanation 
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Maybe just curious? If you donāt like it, close the door. If they arenāt property educated on normal body parts and how to respect other peopleās body parts then he wouldnāt know.
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Explain what privacy is and that you need it. But donāt put so much thought into it. Kids wonder. He is at that age where he is going to notice that parts are different
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Talk about it to him. See how he responds or feels before you jump to conclusions. Maybe itās your own insecurities creeping up.
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I think maybe he was curious? And whenever I would change my kids i would go into the room and close the door behind me for privacy because I always thought it was just weird in general.
Just shut the door and donāt let him in. We all shut the door to the bathroom, right?
I would say itās curiosity. If you donāt like it, ask him to go do something else. Or shut the door.
I would be curious and concerned too, Iām always in a panic when i hear that my 20 month old were with a boy.I donāt trust any man with my child
, I would ask him if he wants something or whatās up, does he need something
Can you shut the door when you change her so that he cant? Or talk to him and tell him diaper changes are private times just like going potty and shutting the door
I would shut the door when changing them.
Uhhh hes a kid? Hes curious? Wtf
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Close the door? For real?! Lol or simply say āhey buddy. We need privacy.ā But closing the door would do wondersā¦ closed doors equalā¦privacy. 
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At that age they know there is a difference in bodies and are probably just curious. We tell are kids ever persons body is different and that its normal right? to assume heās some kind of pervert when he is respecting your space as you change her is really fucked up and says what kind of person you are. Heās still a child, not some 17 year old peaking down her diaper behind closed doors.
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Just tell himā¦could you step out please and shut the door so I can change her quick?.. hell listen
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Lol I think your overreacting. Just tell him your uncomfortable. Itās probably innocent curiosity or wanting to be helpful lol
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Try asking the kid. My goodness.
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Say something! It is your child and your job is to protect them!
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I donāt feel like itās a big deal, u might be over reacting a little 
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Iād just say, she doesnt watch you while you go to the bathroom soā¦ can you go play please
I feel like this is normal for most kiddos. Scientificallyā¦ 
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What?? Heās probably curious about changing babies 