Does he know? Don’t tell him!!
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Yeah girl you shouldn’t even tell him it’s his. Let your husband father that baby.
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I’m sorry girl but he has every right. He may have to pay for a paternity test in court but once it’s established that he’s the biological dad he will be given his rights. Now that’s all if he fights for his rights…you can maintain that you aren’t sure which is the father but once the baby is born he can pursue a relationship with the child.
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Depends on ur state. Some the husband is the legal father unless he signs papers saying he isn’t the child’s father. Went thru it myself when i was pregnant in Illinois. Since i was married when i 1st got pregnant (he was in jail and i was getting a divorce) he was legally the father unless he signed papers saying he wasn’t.
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I think the best thing you can do is call a law office. A lot will give you free advice. You’ll need to remain anonymous.
This is a very messy situation… Seems like your husband is a really good dude.
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Girl, get a protection order on his ass. For you and the kid.
It is what it is at this point … husband is going to be legal father until the real dad takes you to court with DNA 
if he does … hopefully for your sake he does not and will leave you guys alone … hope your husband is ready to be baby’s “daddy” as well because you won’t be able to receive any support from the real father for this baby if he doesn’t claim it. But I am sure you have thought about all of these scenarios and how they could go. you made the bed 
you’re going to have to lay in it, however that may end up being …
Most states, your husband has all rights to that child from birth. Not sure how bio dad works when you are married though.
The other guy can ask for a DNA test to be court ordered.
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Get an abortion🤷🏻 its HIS kid too…
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I believe legally the child is your husbands
If hes crazy why did you go to him? No bashing just saying people act out when they’re caught in a love triangle and lies… if he showed up at the hospital what did you tell him. Just because hes upset with you doesnt make him a bad father and he should know and your child definitely deserves the right for him to be in his life if hes a good father. Dont leave any room for resentment. If you want your husband on the birth certificate speak to a lawyer or something since that could be a legal matter since he knows it’s not biologically his child. If he wants to be your childs father and you’re 100 percent sure without a doubt that the bio father isnt fit then have hubs adopt the baby
He is the father you retard!!! He has rights, they don’t go away cuz you a hoe.
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I feel bad for your husband. He should walk away while he has the chance. That’s not love.
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Sleep in the trashy bed you made 
Thats not your husbands kid, yes this stranger you opened your married legs for has rights to his own child. Call him crazy but at least he wasnt married.
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Lol @ everyone saying, “just put your husband on the birth certificate, no one needs to know”. Like really? Sure, no one needs to know…except for the 1, 478, 695+ members of this group…and anyone else on Facebook who happens to come across this…smh…y’all are just… 
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Yes he has 50% rights.
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Yes he will have rights. He is the biological father not your husband. This is a no brainer.
So I believe your husband signs the birth certificate because you guys are married but a paternity test can be done at the request of the biological father to determine paternity. If it’s determined he is the father, he will have rights. If he’s that insane I suggest getting a restraining order against him for the things he has done. It’ll show later on when baby is born how he behaves and might have some bearing on what he’ll get in terms of visitation (supervised visits). It might not stop him from doing these things, but if he violates it, he goes to jail. I’m sorry you are in this situation and that you know and understand you made a mistake. I’m glad that your husband has chosen to remain by your side despite the situation.
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I would contact a lawyer and get the facts. Everyone’s case are different and have different results. Another thing to think about is skeletons don’t stay in the closet. Children get curious when there order and with genealogy the way it is, And DNA. They go looking into the past. My Aunt was married another man raised my cousin it came out when she was 17 as family members new the truth as well. The trust between her and her mother is gone and they haven’t talked since she was 20. That’s 20 years now.
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Legally the child is your husband’s. He’d have to go to court and do a paternity test and all that jazz to prove the child is his. Since you are married the child by default will be your husband’s. Trust me just went through this.
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I’m so disappointed in the amount of woman that are ok with lying about something so important! This is why she should t of cheated & this entire mess could of been avoided . I feel sorry for her husband smh he deserves better
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Yes he does have rights. It is his child an you chose him. If he requests a DNA they will give him rights. Hats off to your hubby.
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You cheating on your husband is one thing but purposely keeping the father out his baby’s life is disgusting.
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Unless he’s on the birth certificate or petitions the court for a paternity test (that he will pay for) that proves he is the father, he has no rights. As far as anyone at the hospital knows, that baby is your husband’s and he will be on the birth certificate.
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Also I want to say I am proud of you for talking to your husband and forgiveness is an amazing thing. My husband cheated on me and for the longest thought another woman was having his baby the forgiveness came easy but the trust came hard. Needless to say the child was not his and we’ve since moved past it.
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He has rights obviously only way is to pretend its your husbands baby
If he knows it’s his yes he has rights. It varies from state to state. Ask him how he wants to be involved. It wouldn’t hurt to seek out an attorney.
On South Dakota and Minnesota the husband is presumed the dad. Unless a third party petition is files
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No, get a restraining order now. Have a police paper trail of everything he does wrong so that if he tryes to have anything to do with baby latter, you have proof that hes a dangerous to you and your baby.
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Of course the father had rights! 
Yea… Its his baby he has all the rights a dad would get.
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Yes technically. He can request paternity. I am still married even though I’ve estranged from my husband for over a decade. I had three kids with someone else. I had to have the father fill out a paper for each child stating he was the father and my Husband filled out denial of paternity. But we could have just had paternity done. I felt it was easier to just go this route though.
All he has to do is file with the courts. He has rights to his child and unless the court finds him unsafe you have no say.
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Under normal circumstances, I would say it would end up going to a magisterial judge who would make the ultimate decision. HOWEVER, if you are able to prove his obsessive and psychotic behavior and a judge deems him dangerous to both you and the child, he can be ordered to stay away from you and your child. I would highly recommend contacting a lawyer to build a case for you and your husband. If your husband is willing to stand with you in raising this child and he’s a good man, it makes no sense for a judge to force this child to interact with such a man.
If you haven’t already, you really need to do some soul searching on this. Not just the fact that you cheated on your husband but that of all the temptations and possibilities, you chose someone this unstable as your affair. Your husband’s forgiven you. God has forgiven you, so there’s no reason to not forgive yourself, but you also need to look into yourself and figure out what the fuck part of you put you under than man, even for a single night. Destroy that part of you and cleanse yourself of such a weakness. Be the mother that your child and the wife your husband needs. Prepare yourself to tell your child somewhat that you are a mistake in a very weak moment and you slept with a man who didn’t deserve you and they were conceived. Let them know that he was dangerous to you and to them and that your husband is 100x better of a man and loves him/her more than that jerk ever could. You’re absolutely right that this was a horrible mistake. That doesn’t mean it’s over.
In TN they make you put your husbands name on the bc even if you know and tell them it’s not his. You have to go to court and all that good stuff later on. I was in my divorce for almost 2 years, we separated then he never would sign documents, it took forever to get everything done. So I was worried about getting pregnant by my bf who now is my husband, because my lawyer told me no matter if we’ve been apart for years if we are still legally married I had to put my ex on bc then after the divorce my bf would have to go to the court and ask for a paternity test and then they can put him on it.
Technically no because you 2 aren’t married in the state of ALABAMA if you aren’t married to the man who got you pregnant he has NO legal rights to see that baby or anything unless he lushes it hard
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He has every right to the child, it’s his, however you need all the proof you can get that hes psycho so you can get a restraining order, I wouldn’t want anything to happen to you and most of all the innocent baby. Best of luck.
Don’t deny your child the right to know it’s own father, I’m sorry you’ve found yourself in this predicament but that’s pretty bloody low to do that to any kid regardless of its conception.
How is this even right that youre asking if someone else can claim his baby pretty much. Face what you do. It’s not that babies fault you fucked around. That guy should have a chance to parent!! Ashame on you.
Yes he has rights. He can request a paternity test and visitation.
What’s done in the dark and kept in the dark tends to come out as Hellfire. I would talk to an attorney. Hiding the paternity from the biological father could have very serious and catastrophic repercussions for you and the child. You said he’s psychotic, exactly how do you anticipate him reacting if he finds out later he’s been lied too about being this child’s father? Talk to a lawyer!
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The amount of women that are okay with lying smfh. The world we live in today.
Hell yeah the REAL father has rights, and if he wants he can get visitation rights. I really hope he does too. Lying about your child’s father is never okay. Smfh
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Lol “no rude comments”…
Cool so we just supoort cheating wives then? Lol
Play with fire and you get burnt…
Bur youre selfish as all kinds of fuck for wanting to not tell the real dad. Women like you are the problem.
Mute me igaf… But this woman is trifling
Actions have consequences and taking responsibility and accountability for your actions is called being an adult. While just hearing your side of the story, you’re going to have to take it one day at a time. You’re going to have to get a lawyer and go to court to prove your case. Just make sure you have evidence of what you’re accusing, otherwise it won’t help. That’s if you want to do it the right way. Not judging, just saying maybe this is the lesson that you’re supposed to learn? That when you stray, you never know what you stray to and that the grass is NOT as green as you thought. Anyway, good luck… sounds like you need it
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I don’t think she asked this to be hated on, or to be taunted my some grown adults. I think this unfortunately is a very real situation and that’s okay because NONE of you know where they stood in their marriage and what was going on during all of that. She asked for some help. That’s it.
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Whyy th would you sleep with him if he’s like that???
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Get restraining order , do t put his name on birth certificate
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Does he know? If you didn’t tell him he will not bother you.
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If he wants rights he has rights. Why did you tell him if you didn’t want him to be apart of the baby’s life? That’s a very contradicting thing to do IMO🤷♀️
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In state of florida if yur married then yur husband will b seen as father tje bio dad legally has no rights been thru thys shit my ex husband had to off hys rights not being tha bio dad n dad n bio dad had to take a paternity test
He doesn’t have any right. Your married. Your husband is legally the father. Get a restraining order
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In Texas the husband will be the assumed father. The other guy will have to take you to court. Get a restraining order, move… something. My ex (we’re still married) is the assumed father of my last child and they would not let my current boyfriend sign the birth certificate because of this. Even though we had been separated for a while and my last child is obviously mixed.
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If your husband signs the papers, no the guy doesn’t have rights unless there is a test. Because your technically married, he’s the father regardless. My oldest sons dad is fighting cps because his wife (they have been separated for 8 years almost 9 now) had two kids and got them taken away, and wants her hubby to get them, he’s 100% not the dad but it doesn’t matter. We’re in WA, she’s in Florida.
This is a one sided story for sure. Just because she says he’s psychotic we don’t know that only from what she said. For one she was messing around with him and who goes to know maybe he called it off and she became the psycho one. If he is the father, he should have every right to see his child. She made the mistake of sleeping with him and cheating on her husband, so sorry to burst your bubble, but you shouldn’t be able to make that decision if he sees HIS baby or not. If he signs over rights, then more power to you and your husband. I don’t think it’s fair to not even give this guy a chance to be a father just because it’s making her life inconvenient. It wasn’t inconvenient when she was sleeping with him
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He can go to court and force a paternity test, if it’s his, he will have rights and pay child support, in Tennessee
He didn’t forgive you, you’re playing it off like it’s his. This won’t end well… best of luck
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He does have rights but your husband is the legal father since you are married…babies father is the biological father.
You have a mess legally on your hands.
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Laura Chapman these comments 
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Yes what wrong with to ask that question
If your husband gives the baby his name the baby is considered a baby of the marriage
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Ummm…in Texas it doesnt matter who u are married to.
All that matters is WHO SIGNS THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE.
Now even if your husband decides to raise the baby and signs the birth certificate and stuff, that guy could still hire a lawyer and force you to submit to a DNA test and prove that the child is his.
Once thats done, HIS name will go on the birth certificate and he WILL have rights.
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As far as the birth certificate you can put your husband’s name on it. As far as the real father goes he does have rights but you can get court order keeping him away if hes crazy.
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Girl are you serious? Of course he has rights to his child. Smdh.
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Just don’t put his name on the birth certificate
He doesn’t legally have rights yet. All he would have to do is go to local child support and file for testing to get done. Once that all comes back then yes he will be on the birth certificate and have his rights.
These people told me he’s not to deny the child the “right to know his real father” do not know what they are talking about! The lifelong damage that is done by a psychotic parent is horrific. Never mind the danger of child be in. If he doesn’t know your pregnant be quiet and get away. Because you’re married your husband’s name well automatically be on the birth certificate. If the other man does suspect this is his child he will have to fight for custody rights, get a good lawyer because you’re going to need it.
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And all you bitches commenting don’t tell him?? Y’all some shady ass mfs for real
Pretty sure in every state the husband is stated as the father but he can request a dna test if he finds out
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After knowing what kind of person he is, you choose to sleep with him anyway
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Dad will have ALL rights he’s the FATHER !!! Next time don’t cheat wtf.!!
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Please, please be careful. We had a case near me a few years ago where the wife cheated and got pregnant, but decided to stay with her husband and not have the baby. The other man asked to meet up with her to “talk”. He pulled out a can of gasoline and set her on fire. He doesn’t sound very stable, document everything he does and says and do not let you or your child be alone with him. Supervised visitation if need be.
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Why did you tell him
And oh god yes he has rights
And lord your screwed
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Well its his baby too so yea. He has rights. Unless you never tell him then he will never know. But thats a shitty thing to do to someone. He may not want to be involved anyway but its his choice not yours.
Dont tell the guy ur lucky ur married son that helps and just put ur husband on the daddy just remember if the baby ever finds outs that child can turn on u I have against my mom
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Umm married or not if you get pregnant and your husband isn’t the father that doesn’t not mean the father just doesn’t have a say. Sure you an your husband can act like it never happened or live an forget but at the end of the day your husband is not the father the man you cheated with is an he has more rights to that child then your husband does because ITS HIS BABY weather you like it or not or how your husband feels. Those are the dice you rolled.
Instead of bashing her, come from a place of love and offer her some insight. I promise you no one can judge her as harsh as she’s judging herself. Mistakes happen. Shit happens. You learn this as you get older and you realize nothing is black and white. Do I think she should be honest with everyone involved , of course. But who am I to judge anyone? I will be praying for you. 
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It’s amazing how many people lack any sort of sympathy. Y’all gotta have the emotional intelligence of a squash.
Paternity has to be established before he can lay claim to any rights. The safety of you and your family relies on him not being around, so it may be safest to lie unless he knows the baby is not your husband’s. If you haven’t already, start saving up evidence of what he’s doing and file a protective order.
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In ny. Your husband is the legal father automatically
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Even if you’re married he will have rights to the child
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He has every right to that baby. Just because your married means nothing! Your husband didn’t make that baby! You have to prove in a court of law that he is unfit before you can even think about taking his rights
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Wow just wow! First off all we know is what’s stated above. Secondly The child shouldn’t be kept from it’s biological father and family if they want to be involved. That’s making the child and others pay for YOUR mistake. So what if he’s psychotic, he may have developed feelings for you because you may have led him on to believe it was something more. Love can and does drive people crazy. Then again he may not have feelings and just be upset because you are with your husband now and he’s worried that his relationship with his child is at jeopardy now. I’d go crazy too if someone wanted to keep me away from my children. So what if you haven’t threatened him most people would only assume that would be the case. Either way the child shouldn’t have to pay for your decision to be unfaithful.
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He is the rightful father of the baby and has every right to be apart of the babies life.
Why would you tell the guy you cheated with that you got pregnant with hissss kid if you didn’t want him to be involved? Girl you sound like you’re the one who needs the help
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He’s the dad. He will have rights regardless if you cheated or not. Doesn’t change the fact he’s the dad!
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If you are married then no the babies bio father doesn’t have rights. By law your husband is the presumed father. However, the bio father CAN petition for a dna test and get it to where your husband has to disestablish paternity so that bio dad can establish paternity and get rights. I would also hope that you would be honest with the bio father. I would absolutely not put any father on that childs birth certificate. I cannot believe some of the comments on here. This is something serious and needs to be handled in court. My brother went through something very similar.
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In some states if your married and got pregnant from someone else your husband is considered the father
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Don’t tell him or anyone and have husband sign birth certificate
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Your husband will be the presumed father u lesss you get a DNA test done and take it to court
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If you told him he can fight for rights…otherwise it goes to your husband
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In court, the husband will be seen as the “presumed father” since you’re married and the baby can have his last name. Unless this “psychotic” guy you slept with comes after you thinking it’s his baby, I wouldn’t even tell Him
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RESTRAINING ORDER! I was going to stay he has all rights but after reading the entire statement. REPORT HIM! NEOWWWWW
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So many judgmental people on here! She’s asking for advice and some of you out there have been so rude and mean. My advice to this woman is that, yes, the biological father will have some rights, but now it’s up to you to take legal action if you feel like this man is going to hurt you or your child. Get some legal advice and see what your options are in your state.
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Legally if the child is born during the marriage your husband is legally the father but if bio dad takes you to court you cant stop from getting rights. And I’d act a damn fool if I was a male and got someone pregnant and they wanted to act like I wasn’t the father. That will make anyone crazy. I’m not happy with the guy I got pregnant by but it’s called the best interest of the child.
Your husband will be the “presumed father” since your married but the guy if he knows your pregnant can get a court ordered dna test so that he can claim rights to his child I’m thinking he’s acting crazy because your trying to keep his child from him because you want you and your husband to raise it as your own I’ll act crazy too the child is human and deserve the right to know it’s biological father put your big girl Panties on and own your mistake babies are human lives not play toys who lives you play with
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Let’s talk about how life really works, yes the FATHER of your child has a right to see his baby and be in its life it is his CHILD also if he was such a psycho why would you sleep with him I feel like that’s some mad up bull shit.
Why is everyone saying if you’re going to cheat use BC how about just saying hey i don’t want to be in this relationship with the person your in one with and then end it and then go do anything you want. When you cheat you make another person sit there wondering what they did to make you do that.
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In AL if your married and have a baby with someone else (even if you’re in the meddle of a divorce) then legally the baby is your husband’s.
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If he is That Nuts and Your Husband Has Already Forgiven You, Why Let Him Know?? And When The Child is Old enough to Understand, Ypu Explain to Her/Him, She/He is Not a Mistake, But You Made a Mistake With Someone Else. The Rest is Yours to Explain More
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Knowing what kind of a man he is, I would never tell him I was pregnant and certainly never tell him it could possibly be his child. Good luck girl, sounds like you are gonna need it ! That and a good attorney
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