I heard something about love language and how each person shows love in different ways and likes to express their love in different ways.maybe explaining that to him or even making it fun and finding that test and both of you taking it.
I’m so sorry. It’s so hard these days. If they only knew that the smallest gesture is magnified by the heart. When my son buys me a drink from Dutch Bro’s and sends me a text to look in the fridge. It puts a huge smile on my face and heart. I hope they get an awakening.
I would express how you feel what you’d like to happen exactly to your husband and do it more than once
Boys learn by example. You deserve to be appreciated. Make time for you…no husband, no kids, no meals, no cleaning. Does he have a mom? Ask her to step in and tag you out!
That’s not right. I get pink roses every year for my birthday and mother’s day from my son. I never ask, he just does it cause he loves me.
My husband didn’t even wish me a happy mother’s day. Not a word. I feel you
You have every right to feel the way you do.
We are tight on money right now so my husband cooked for me and the kids and the boys play in there room why he cooked and I got to sit on the couch and watch what I wanted why it was quiet it is the little things I would be sad if they did nothing at all to show me I’m appreciated the older boy did get me flowers to plant from school with money from is piggy back and of course they made me cards to he should teach them to appreciate you and say thank you for the things you do my husband tell them to say thank you to me for dinner and all the things I do for them I hope he steps up for you talk to him and tell him how you feel good luck
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No you’re not overreacting! I lived that life for 22 years! Every holiday it killed me a little inside! I will never allow someone to treat me insignificantly again! EVER!
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Don’t feel bad , I have 3 sons and they are all grown up ! Mother’s Day all my sons but 1 did something for me ! The whole day came and gone sad part about it is even his kids are not being taught to honor me , my birthday was a few months ago and the same thing happened ! At this point I have no expectations !
Love is not only told it is also shown. “Just because gifts” and special occasions means the world to be thought of! You are not overreacting. Yes you should give to him and them as well but it should be equal. Have you told your husband how you feel?
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There is a reason you feel and NEVER TRY TO DENY HOW YOU FEEL. You need to spell this out for him 1 more time with details and if he still fails in this department then you need to acknowledge the lack of appreciation. Maybe time to no longer be a stay at home mom? They don’t appreciate it - just throwing that out there
Self care is also important! Do for you as well!
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I wouldn’t get him anything for Father’s Day either if I was you ! 14 years he out of order for that !
Teach your boys different and go out with girlfriends on mother’s day. Treat yourself and recharge your inner batteries. Kids follow what they learn for the most part
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Have you communicated your issues with your husband… He is not a mind reader. The kids could of said something to his dad about mothers day. Open your mouth and communicate
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It’s time to buy for yourself its called shopping day 
I would have my children make something or tell their whatever is you needed or expected to dad so it doesn’t happen again
Leave the kids with him and take yourself out 
You have allowed this to happen. Instead of venting to Facebook you should talk to your husband about how this makes you feel. You have been married for almost 14 years so that’s 4 holidays a year that you have allowed him to think that not buying you a gift is okay. Maybe you are picky and he doesn’t know what to get you🤷♀️ try telling him you’d like a day off a spa day or for him to cook you dinner is not always about a gift.
You have every right to feel some type of way… 14yrs is a long time to feel like you being taken for granted!!! What’s the age of the boys??? As for your husband just STOP… STOP DOING EVERYTHING FOR THEM AND TREAT YOURSELF IF THEY WON’T
Nope its a 2 way street! Theres no I in team…keep your head up mama do things to make you happy.
Nope you’re not over reacting! I’m 72 & a divorced grandma & I know how you feel!
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Oh I can totally relate my husband of thirty years,just recently in the last 2 years he will now get my a gift and a card for my birthday and mind you I give him gifts and card for every special occasion, someone said you don’t need gifts and cards that totally bullshit even if it was just an appreciation
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Treat yourself babe and thank him for NOTHING. LITERALLY! I’m petty like that though. I know the feeling and I’d be upset too! If your boys are young*, it was hubby’s responsibility to ensure they bought you a gift, made you a card, something!!
Hugs to you! 
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I don’t get either from my Man he just doesn’t do it I’m ok with that though
I know how u feel. My husband always does this to me. But if I forget his occasions he would be upset.
You’re not overreacting. Have you let your feelings be known? That’s the important thing. You have to communicate how you feel. If you have communicated this you might need to move on from all those boys.
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Take his credit card go have a spa day, nails, pedi, and massage then a new hairdo. Lunch at your favorite restaurant, a margarita or two. Then go buy yourself some new clothes new shoes and a new purse. Then go home and Thank him for the wonderful day you had. You might want to throw in a hug and a kiss too.
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You are entitled to vent away.
Maybe his love language is different than yours! Maybe your love language is gift… take the survey with your hubs, see what you are! Maybe you guys are speaking the same love language and need to adjust
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I think a person should show some kind of appreciation on holidays especially when you think of them. My husband used to…now he only thinks of himself. Been married 20 years together 22. I know how you feel its sad…I would get hurt and upset but now I just started buying my own gifts… I just say mothers day is coming up and I would like…whatever and go buy it. Usually something Im gonna use for the family anyway. This year I got a gas grill for example. A card is nice or flowers but i dont expect it anymore… and its rare. At least my boys are grown and think of me. When you have small children you should take them and let them pick out gifts for their parents. Some guys need a reminder for everything because they’re oblivious. Treat yourself hun…you deserve something nice 
I’d stop doing anything for Father’s Day and gift yourself on Mother’s Day
Girl!! Same!! I work and I do absolutely everything for my family!! My husband sucks at all of this!! We lost our daughter in July of 2020! She was sick, she had lupus and it took her from us!! Now she was always the one to remind her dad but nothing! My birthday passed and nothing! I feel like I don’t mean anything to him really and if not for our daughter… I guess I just miss my kid and needed him to step up and show me that I was the best nom I could be!! 
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I’m very sorry that has happened to you. It’s important to feel love and appreciated with extra’s, and not just having a roof over your head. It’s hard, but stop doing for them. Take care of you and buy something special for yourself. Good luck
I know the feeling my husband stopped buying me things years ago. But I’ve never not gotten him something on special occasions. Doesn’t even have to b store bought it just lets us know we mean something.
Dump him like a hot rock.
Not over reacting at all…u deserve to be recognized…
Is this not a nail group? Just wondering because i already belong to a lot of mom/vent/ whatever this is groups
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That’s so sad sorry sweetie no one should feel that way when she does everything
Not overreacting at all… I felt this… I am a mom of four and I stay home and make sure everything is done… but I never get anything to feel special or appreciated!
Mine won’t even tell me happy mother’s day because we didn’t have any kids together. So I quit going to his daughter’s house for Father’s day. That didn’t go well when they found out why I wasn’t there anymore.
No you’re not. I feel the same way. My “gift” from hubby was Dunkin’ Donuts coffee and a chicken sandwich I had to go get myself. Although my 5 yr old brought home a plant and card from school. I’ve told my hubby that I know what I’m going to do for Father’s Day and when I mentioned how much I’d need he just brought up he wants more for a new bed and mattress for Mother’s Day because that’s what he wants to get us.
My boyfriend posted happy mother day at 10pm after he saw me text my sister. You aren’t alone 
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I love my man I do but he sucks at holidays… I’ve gone all out for all of them for his… My birthday I got a happy birthday on my Facebook wall from it… didnt even say it to my face. In fact wished someone else a happy late birthday right in front of me…I was heated cuz I went all out for his birthday. Got him stuff let the kids get him stuff…tried to throw him a good party… so I’ve decided this year he gets what he gives. I know what he expects but untill he shows me effort it’s a nope. I’ll still let the kids do sometyhing for him but that’s all
You have every right to feel unappreciated when hubby is effortless
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My husband and son are almost the same way. I have to hint at special occasions and be lucky if I get anything. My husband will not go to big box stores and my son works at a grocery store so I usually get something from there from my son. I have said numerous times, no chocolate and I always get in some form. My husband says he didn’t have time or that I mentioned it to much. I get both of them something for every occasion. But I love them both dearly.
I love you strong momma your kids will thank you best later
Buy your own self something
Do something for you . I do.
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I dont feel you are overreacting. Id be byond uoset
My ex used to tell me your not my mom and his family always had a big cookout for Mother’s Day. One year I decided not to contribute any food or drinks(wasn’t for my mom and I wasn’t throwing myself a cookout) and he received nothing for Father’s Day. From then on his gifts depended on my gift.
I say stop buying for him, doesn’t sound like your apprecated or that he cares one way or anther
Yes u have every right to feel the way u feel. HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!
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You are NOT overreacting - Father’s Day is fastly approaching so DO NOT GET HIM NOTHING!!!
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ABSOLUTELY
DEFINITELY
You have a right
However,
have you shared all of this with your husband on how you are feeling
IF NOT
You really need to
It’s in the best
for you, your husband, and
the best
Interest of your family
Hang in there and communicate your feelings to your husband
It honestly doesn’t matter what anyone of us think or feel or would do or wouldn’t do it’s all on you
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Give what you receive & watch what happens. The shoe is on the other foot. Let them know how you feel, unappreciated. I believe in tough love. Don’t continue to suffer in silence because it will only build up inside & you don’t want that to happen. And yes, treat yourself to something you’ve wanted. You are worth it.
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Wow! Just wow! He is obviously too busy or that is just him! I hope he isn’t that neglectful! If he is I’m thinking you need to talk to him and communicate your feelings. Some men are clueless! Hoping that’s him. I’d start with a chat after that have expectations and voice them! Teach him how to treat you! Pretty important. You are late to do so but i pray he loves you and the kids enough to make a change for the betterment of his family!
You deserve to have a special Mother’s Day as well as all the other holidays, gifts, etc. With that being said, you also allowed this behavior from your family to continue over the years and apparently accepted it. You literally trained them how to treat you. I would have never accepted to be ignored on special occasions. It’s not so much the gifts, it’s the love, respect and appreciation you deserve. Retrain them before it’s too late.
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No Hun you are not overreacting at all. I am a stay-at-home mom too and this year I had to remind my daughter that it was Mother’s Day and still all I got was meh I had to yell at everyone to get ready to go to the restaurant and still didn’t make it. I ended up at a restaurant I don’t like that my husband knows I don’t like and got nothing from my kids. I feel the same way you do. We all need to feel special every once in a while. Just know I am giving you hugs right now.
Don’t buy him anything
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Been there done that 
I used to tell my boys make me a card out of construction paper or whatever homemade cards are the best and thoughtful!!! Treat yourself for sure!!! 
hang in there!!
Sorry to hear this. And they should know. But, maybe you should tell them how you feel. And if nothing comes of it, after you’ve expressed yourself, then honestly sometimes giving someone a taste of their own medicine is the only way they “get it”.
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I kind of feel like all these holidays are so commercialized. If he loves you and takes care of you, you are appreciated. I think being a mom is hard almost every day, it’s easy to feel unappreciated. That said, tell him how you feel. Tell him an occasional love note etc would be appreciated. If you need material things, you should get them for you.
Go on a vacation for a week and let them figure out out 
. I bet you’ll be appreciated when you return. Also, don’t take the kids to get him shit on Father’s day. Sometimes you have to put the shoe on the other foot. 
You’re not overreacting you are the mother of his children that is something very special I’m sorry the kids didn’t think of you on Mother’s Day men have a tendency to do that it’s not acceptable but it’s a matter of how you’re raised
If i dont get something i buy myself something but my husband and son are the same i have to ask what they are getting me
He must have somebody on the side. Unless he is a Jehovas wittness
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I know how you feel and also my kids didn’t tell me happy mothers day was just like a normal weekend.
No and dont buy him anything
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I think we all here agree and can relate to a woman’s feelings
My husband was the same way. He didn’t think about it til he was older and more mellow. His father was the same way. I just accepted it. I did get gifts from the kids for him. Attempt not to get him gifts one year and see if he or the kids notice.
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Do yu honestly think its not you working if yur a stay at home mother??? Seriously??, I think they all are ungrateful, as for yur husband, shame on him!! You asked … he can bring home all the $ in the world, he should kno better, its the thought that counts, and even a small jester would make a world of difference!!..
If you have to remind, suggest, or comment to him or any of yur 4 children that speaks to what you mean to them and see you as their mother n wife.good luck girl, sorry you feel invisible to the ones you should shine for() from one mother to Another mother!
Communicate that your feelings are hurt. That’s what I did. It’s just him and I, kids are grown, 2nd marriage. I went out my way to choose really special Christmas gifts that I thought would please him and make him feel special. He felt like crap because he didn’t get me anything. That was the last time that happened. He now remembers every special occasion and even Mother’s Day though I’m not his mother. It worked out. Maybe your hubby doesn’t realize your feelings are hurt.
Happy mothers day u have the right to feel that way tell him to step up
Im sorry thats really sad like a card or anything wouldve been ok … id stop cooking and cleaning for a few days and let everyone fend for themselves or maybe they are playing a mean little trick on you i couldnt imagine sons forgetting about their mom on mothers day! Now husbands yes they just dont think about stuff like that
Something I have learned, tho they may love us, their love isn’t our love.
This year The only reason he remembered my birthday is because he took the day off
It hurts, but the way he is capable of loving isn’t the same as the way I do
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Don’t feel bad. My ex off 28yrs was the same way. He never thought about me only him self. He wouldn’t even say Happy Birthday to me on the day off my birthday, but when his birthday came up, he would ask if i forgot his birthday n I would ask him if he remember mine. I never receive not even a card no gifts for any occasions.
Does he give you his credit card? Why wait for mother’s day? Take a day of every month or every time you need it. Go to the spa. Buy stuff on Amazon. Buy yourself a pair of shoes. Pamper yourself. And just say thank you dear for my new boots and a kiss. That’s what I do.
I thought I was writing this…cuz same
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My BF was raised poor. Oldest child out of 8. They never got presents for their birthdays only a homemade cake. At Christmas their mom would go to the Goodwill and buy games that were missing pieces so it really couldn’t be played. We have been together for 16 years. He gets me a dozen red roses for Valentine’s Day and usually a mushy card. We stopped many years ago in buying each other gifts at Christmas. If we want something we buy it. Happy Mother’s Day😊.
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You deserve so much!!! You are the glue to the family!!! You have to say something to them especially your husband…there is no excuse honestly!!! This Father’s day I honestly give him exactly what I was given for mothers day!!! Happy mothers day beautiful!!! Treat yourself to something amazing you deserve it:black_heart:
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HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY !!!You stated your husband is a hard worker and your a stay at home mom to all boys…YOU are not overreacting, You might be a stay at home mom but that its self is a huge job…your a fulltime mom, a homemaker, a teacher for your boys …the list could go on and your husband is very inconsiderate and wrong in so many ways…he is the male role model for your boys and by your husbands actions toward you as the woman of the home his wife the mother of his children reflects on how those boys will be men someday and will treat the women in their lifes…he is showing them how to treat women
Well, being there and feel you, just buy your self what you want, in the other hand
Talk to your family,
Me as a child when I had get presents for my mom it results in disappointment
She said she doesn’t like it or it’s make the comment that it’s too cheap or whatever, one Mother’s Day I got her an apple whatch (she doesn’t know how to use but she saw me on FaceTime with one so she wanted one )
I got her a 2nd version she didn’t want it she ask me to return it. She wanted the newest version I sold the one I got her first all this happened by mail since she lived in PA and I’m in FL
I sold it I put more money together to get her the newest version (3) back then
She came to FL and ask her husband to get her a solar watch because her husband got one it’s being 3 years and she hasn’t wear the watch I got her once
Last. Christmas I got her a handmade bracelet with 18k Charms because she saw me wearing something similar, I got her the bracelet with. A lot of effort since they aren’t cheap. And she said she didn’t like it and that make it sound like I over paid and that it’s cheap
But she will wear something similar in fantasy.
So it makes me feel that everything I get her isn’t good enough this are just 2 samples of a 3 decades of presents that aren’t good enough for her but if my cousin get her something that’s good that’s perfect
So this year I opted to give her a gift card (I did this in the past ) I got her a gift card from a store that she often shops at.
Well it took her about 5 months to use the damn card because she said she couldn’t find anything she likes. The list goes on and on
Bottom line its, I don’t feel like giving her anything because nothing it’s good enough, once I gave her a picture of her grandkids thinking she will like it
Well apparently she didn’t, she ask me how much it was. And kind of ignore the present
Her husband put it on the wall and that’s why they have it hanging on the wall.
So my mom can say she feels unappreciated it because I don’t give her what she thinks
She deserves but. Honestly nothing it’s good enough for her.
So I don’t feel like giving her anything just gift cards from Stores she always go to
And I know she doesn’t like it either but that’s that.
Yes you sure do.That is taking you for granted. The kids could make you a card give them paper and tell them to make you a card . And for him tell them to do the same and let him see just the card save your money
Definitely talk to him. I’ve been told, they can’t guess what’s in your mind.
I know how you feel. I have to hint when its special days and all as well. I never get anything it doesn’t have to be material things he still doesn’t. U have rights to feel the way you do.
You not overreacting find a way to communicate how you feel…
Ha! I could have wrote this… but now the boys are adults, but Kendra never will be, and my husband thinks nothing if it. But this year I’m doing nothing for Father’s Day. Not a thing.
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Oh My Goodness No. You Deserve a Metal 4 kids. You need to Step up to the Plate and ask for what you Deserve. Can You Go to Your Mom’s Cousin or Sister for a Week. You Go. And I Tell You When You come back they Better be A Bucket of Roses waiting for you. If Not Stay at your mom’s for 2 Weeks. That will straighten him up .REAL QUICK.Your an Awesome Mom. And Don’t Forget That.
My husband has never been a gift buyer/giver…he’s clueless, really 
…I also said way back in the beginning, “NEVER question ANY bag I carry in with me on ANY day of the year …I’ve been spoiling myself for years 
…he will give me cards and flowers 
And he will do any 
do list…detailing my car, plant trees and garden beds for me…it’s nice and I appreciate it all and I him with all my
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My first husband never bought me gifts. There were times I was hurt. When I announced I wanted a Divorce, guess what? I got a present. Had no meaning. Could of cared less. My second husband showered me with gifts and flowers and a lot of times for no reason. I really think it is the way there mind works. Don’t have a clue.
I was feeling some type of way because my husband didn’t greet me or anything on Mother’s Day. I had just given birth almost two weeks ago…while texting I had sent him a response saying “I guess it is his (baby’s) first Mother’s Day present to me” and he responded with a greeting and said he forgot it was Mother’s Day. Maybe he wasn’t thinkin about it, or too busy to even think of it? Remind him.
No, you’re not overreacting at all! You should feel appreciated. It sounds like you are very giving and generous. It would be nice if he unexpectedly gave you a gift from his heart whenever.
Well…I understand the way you feel. I don’t know all of your situation but I have a wonderful husband won I met in high school we’ve been together 40 yrs and finally he has begun to remember on his own. Early on I realized he was perfectly willing to cooperate but I had to find casual ways to bring up events on the horizon. His Mother’s birthday, Father’s Day even his own birthday:joy:. So I don’t take offense that I have to jog his memory and oftentimes I get to tell him what I want or what he got me 
. I think it’s the day to day loving and caring that really counts. 
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He’s an adult. He doesn’t need to be reminded. If he wanted to he would. His actions speak volumes. You deserve better
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Exactly the same for me. Normally my husband gets me a card at the very least or a flower,special breakfast or dinner(either made or go out) but this yr? I got a happy mothers day from my kiddo once(she couldn’t even be bothered to make me a card or anything) and my hubby never even told me happy mothers day. They treated it like it was any other day. I still cleaned,did what I normally do but they did absoleutly NOTHING for me. I cried all day Sunday and they barely batted an eye. So no my dear you are NOT overreacting. I thought i was too but thats not the case. The fact is its our one day to be appreciated and feel special for ALL the shit we do and when our loved ones dont acknowledge that it hurts deep.
Girl, no you’re not over reacting! You’re right it’s not the material things or the money it’s the thought. I have been there and it doesn’t always get easier.
He probably has a different love language than you. He works and provides for his family but doesn’t buy gifts doesn’t mean he doesn’t love and value you. Does he fix things when broken? Does he fill up your gas tank? Does he change the oil in the vehicles? Those are all ways he shows he loves you.
Talk to him.
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Buy your own gifts…I have… I’ll celebrate me and appreciate myself
I’d have filed for divorce a long time ago. Being taken for granted like that. You do réalise how your husband treats you is how your children will treat their wives right? Poor them. Hopefully they have the common sense to leave.