Well first of all nice to meet you I just wanted you to know do not feel bad because I feel like that sometimes too and no you’re not reacting some type of way guys will always be guys and your kids I understand how they are because I have a 13-year-old myself and sometimes it’s hard may be in a mother a wife to stay home mother who likes to keep the house clean and my son loves to have all his toys thrown all around the house especially in the living room and he knows I get mad when I see them on the floor and sometimes he likes to eat and leave his trash on the floor to as well and he knows I get mad about it when I see it
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This is a big message for you happy Be late happy Mother’s Day
Same exact thing here. It is very hurtful.
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Thoughtless lazy poor excuse for a husband shame on him and he’s teaching his kids to be just like him
You have every right to feel the way you feel. I think you should tell him and your boys how you feel. Great teaching moment
Time for a mom strike!
I don’t know you, but happy belated Mother’s Day. You deserve better. And everyone has a mother, that’s EVERYONE, Should pay respect to her every day. I miss my mom every day and am thankful for everything she ever did. 
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Sadly I also have 4 teenagers and I got a happy mothers day out of 1 of them. None of them offered to cook or anything remotely helpful and my husband spent the day drunk or asleep. You get used to it and realize its just another day.
You have the right honey! My husband is the same way, when confronted he said he just doesn’t think about it! Well, so now I just don’t think about him either. BS!! It’s very inconsiderate of them
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Absolutely you aren’t over reacting ! It takes not a lot of time to be thoughtful and get a bouquet of flowers or a box of chocolates! Even a gift certificate! It’s not considerate and it is hurtful. Let him know this bothers you! Certainly raising 4 boys deserves the world but a nice token of sentiment isn’t hard to do! HUGS 
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I know what it feels like to not be celebrated but that’s because I’ve been single for ten years! 
. But nah seriously, it must be in his D.N.A to not think of things like that. Some people are like that but I know it sucks. But if he’s good to you and you love him, you might want to plan a little something for ‘both’ of you together. So you’re enjoying yourself and he’s enjoying it with you. Even if you ask him for the money to rent a nice room with a jacuzzi on mother’s day and spend a special night with your hard working, providing man. It doesn’t even have to be something that big. But have a good time at his expense even once a year. But try not to take it personally and work on how you’re processing those unappreciated feelings as long as you know he really does appreciate you. He just might not have it in him to even plan small things. But I’m not saying your feelings are invalid because I know how you feel. Even with a man, I’ve never been celebrated but just find a small way to look at the situation differently. And he might be the type of person who shows his love by working hard and providing.
Happy late Mother’s Day!!you have every right to feel the way you feel and You deserve better Beautiful
My husband and i have been together for almost 13 years. He doesn’t buy me a Mother’s day gift, tell me Happy Mother’s Day or even take my to brunch, he says because im not his mother.
Its the little things that counts. Marriage is give and take. U dont sound one bit materialistic to me. All you want is to feel appreciated and loved by your husband snd kids. Any woman would. A relationship works best when both parties take into consideration each others feelings, and when its one sided and you talk to your partner and he sees fit to ignore your feelings and continue with his normal ways then that leaves you unhappy, feeling unppreciated and him being a total idiot! You deserve better and u deserve to feel loved and you deserve to be pampered!
Your not over reacting at all.
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Because it’s not about the gift. It’s about the acknowledgment, it’s about the appreciation and it about the recognition. Sure, as moms and wife’s we do what we do out of love not to get something in exchange (and let’s be real, how often does that really happen anyway) but it’s human to want to be told or shown how much we are loved and appreciated. Especially on a day meant to be all about us moms. I think you should call him out. Maybe he doesn’t think you care if you receive (which is bold of him to assume) but communication is key hun. Happy Mother’s Day 
I feel you, I’m in the same boat! 
Maybe his love language isn’t gifts. Maybe it’s providing for you or doing things for you. I totally see where you’re coming from!
Happy late mother’s day hun, I’m in the same boat and my boys are 30, 28 and 23 so they know better. Not a word from any of em… grrrrr
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U have wveey right to feel some type a way… Maybe he needs ro know how it feels to b " forgotten " on a holiday
I am in the same boat but my hubby does more to show he loves and cares for. He does the vehicle maintenance and yard maintenance with my help on both. I love working on cars with him and he knows it so he always invites me to help. Same with the yard work. This year for the first time instead of getting something for the house which I really dont mind cause it’s always something I need to be able to provide for my family he is getting me my mother ring. He was going to surprise me but he didn’t want to get the wrong ring or the wrong size so he is sending me to the store so I get what I want. Just talk to them tell them how you feel.
I ordered flowers for myself. Two bouquets…Told hubby I love flowers! Next day he comes home with a gorgeous vase of roses and lillie’s…All are in my bedroom…They make me smile…moral of my story? Be your happiness… Don’t leave it to others…treat yourself
Same… what’s worse is he sent me shopping for His mom, who he not only got a gift but he also went to visit on Mother’s Day. I got a happy Mother’s Day when he was leaving the house. When he arrived back at home at 4:30 pm he then asked what I would like for Mother’s Day. It’s been many years since he has done anything for me for any holiday
You have every right to feel that way this sounds like something I wrote myself.
My dad was the same way to my mom
stop getting him stuff.
I don’t normally comment but I’m going to because I didn’t see anything similar first of all happy mother’s Day everyday.
Second of all take your happiness in your own hands.
I take my children to the store and I show them several things I want… they choose what gift they want from them… They choose the gift bag and or ribbons or whatever they want to present the gift to me. I give them my credit card and look away as the purchase is being made…
When home, they dress up their presents and wait to present them to me on the very special day.
We talk about gift giving and the importance of making someone feel special/considered and why it’s important to celebrate moms… and why it’s important for my son’s to not forget the very special days of the women in their lives because they may be providing outside the home, but she is providing inside the home and they come together and provide a a safe place for each and their children to be.
I teach my daughters the same.
When they were younger and didn’t know how to cook Cold cereal was best and when they learned how to cook I would let them know what breakfast I wanted…
No guess work.
I take my children to buy gifts for their father as well.
He no longer gets gifts from me.
Treat people the way you want to be treated. His behavior spoke loud and clear.
But I’m teaching my children lifelong lessons to strengthen their marriages so they get him gifts for Father’s Day, birthday and Christmas.
He now goes out of his way to be better on some occasions takes the children to get gifts for me or helps them make something for me.
No I still do not give him gifts. 
I took control of my happiness I always get what I want I never have to return it it’s beautiful 
My husband says I’m not HIS mother so why should he buy me anything. Well you know what, your not my Dad so 
… It’s been like that for a few years now.
What did hurt is my older kids didn’t even bother 
I didnt get a happy mothers day either from my guy. He once told me I’m not his mother so why. We have no children. I just think it’s done out of love fo someone, it’s not about presents it’s just being acknowledged especially for u women out there breaking your neck to raise a family. Its considerate. It also teaches your kids love in different ways
Same here.
But my husbands gives me his check so im guessing he expects for me to buy my own gift w his money
Your husband is slacking
My husband is pretty good about this. Not at cards though and I love cards. We have 2 boys, grown now and taught them from early age that you get the mamma something for every holiday. Even if it’s homemade or from the dollar tree.
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My husband was like that for years. We divorced and got back together. My oldest son will be 9 this year and this is the FIRST year I have EVER gotten a Mother’s Day gift or card. We do so much and receive so little. How hard is it to remember a card or some chocolate and flowers…especially when everyone around you has it in their hand? No maam, you need to say something or it will continue. And since you’re raising boys it needs to be said otherwise they will do the same things to their wives. Please, tell your husband how you feel.
My husband doesn’t give me gifts but ha shows his love in many different ways. But I hear you, a gift would be appreciated.
I feel your pain as I in the past received NOTHING. I stopped doing for my kids are now they know how it feels. I finally am appreciated and given gifts, hugs and told I’m loved. Try it!!!
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Stop doing it for them. No fathers day if no mothers day. Take that money and treat yourself.
My husband is the same way so i just buy me stuff since I know my tastes. No returns works out.
Happy Belated Mothers Day I’m sorry your boys under-appreciates you and doesn’t show how much you mean to them. I think you should talk to your SO about it, because if this drags on, it’s going to build up and become resentment.
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You are not overreacting.
You have the right i am a mother of a son who barely ever gets me anything but this mothers day he got me a plant i was shocked and it made me fèel better . But now three weeks will pass before he calls me that makes me mad
So sorry my husband is the same makes me crazy!! I always make him feel special on those special days!! Men like this was not raised right because I have 7 brothers and all of them are very thoughtful because they saw how our parents treated each other. My parents always gave each other attention and was very thoughtful even not on special occasion! A just because gift or flowers etc… I wished I had that myself!
It isn’t about material things, you’re right, but if gifts are your love language and the thought of them thinking of you and wanting to feel appreciated is what you need, then any thoughtful gift would have sufficed. Sorry you’re feeling that way.
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I would go buy myself something really nice and tell him tou bought it for yourself for Mother’s Day and grandma or someone should be talking to those boys
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The story of my life too. You are a wonderful lady and mom
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But yourself something extravagant and when they ask about it kindly and convincingly thank them for their mothers day gift.
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I feel your hurt!! I have a husband just like you!!
I’m sorry happy Mother’s Day I was once in the same situation it definitely build resentment after so long of me being the only one doing stuff
I feel you mine don’t do anything either! They say the words but not much else. Happy Mother’s Day
You MORE than have that right!!! I also didn’t get anything and yes, it hurts!! 
I buy my own gifts wrap them up. Then open them he front of husband and kids and say thank you for thinking of me. Priceless!
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Happy Mother’s Day to you and never forget your special. Piece of advice do the same to him…
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Diana Berenice Steinmeier
Know the feeling with husband’s been married going on 33 years. And for my kids they are pretty good
I completely understand you. I had to remind my bf too at times and I don’t like that bc it’s like do u not know or I mean I’m giving you hints to get me something lol but I usually end up telling me to buy me a gift or I’ll pick it out something u been wanting and I tell him he needs to give it to me for whatever occasion came up lol but I know what u mean the surprise counts the most and him being thoughtful enough to remember or know to get you something
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I know how you feel but keep it up! You’re an amazing mom and a good person who cares of the wellbeing of others. Do something you like , take care of yourself, buy something you like. Sometimes we need to take care of ourself because if not no one will do it. 
I didn’t get anything materialistically speaking… would have loved a hand drawn card, or letter, but I did get breakfast in bed… It’s the little things like that, that mean so much
He Is slacking badly… been there done that… never again
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I feel you darlin. My EX never got me anything either. In fact for Christmas he would ask me if I wanted lights on the house that year and I would say yes. He would in turn say Merry Christmas, call the guy and tell them to put them up and pay them while you’re at it. Did you notice I said EX…
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No, you aren’t over reacting at all. I have 3 sons and neither called, sent a card, nor one measly flower! Breaks your heart to feel that unappreciated 
I cried when I saw my son post HMD to his stepmother, mother in law and wife but, I gave birth to him, raised him alone, (all3) and no recognition at all! I just don’t understand how a child can do this to their mother! I sacrificed everything fir all 3!
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I have never understood why folks who have never gotten something from some one expects it … why did you marry him? You got a million reasons outside of this … write them down and review them. When he stops doing all that stuff listed you got a problem … until then, remind all of them in advance if you need a gift on a certain day. You clearly said if you give notice your need is met … so give notice !!!
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You are overwhelmed & have not taken the responsibility that your children.learn from BOTH you and your spouse
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Obviously your love language is gifts. Www.lovelanguage.com
And obviously your spouses nor your boys are.
You must have a real conversation about your needs …teach them …encourage them…through love and real conversation.
Fully accept your part in teaching your boys NOT to cherish YOUR live language …
Ask them.to do better…
THEN… go on strike if they don’t improve .
This whole year give back… birthdays fathers day anniversary … let them go by nothing special not even a mention of it. Let them reap what they sow and see how they handle it… don’t give in no matter what
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I feel your pain same here
But I’m a act like I’m broke on Father’s Day because this the 2nd yr
Not overreacting!!! Omg!!! You deserve to be celebrated!!! You are their lifeline, advocate, support, ass wiper, taxi, fix it person, working mom, pillar!!! You have them LIFE!!!
Sit them down and let them know that this is not OK. Let them know in a respectful, kind way what your expectations are. I don’t care if your husband is the breadwinner, it is his responsibility to take those kids out in buy you something special, and get you flowers, do dishes, coffee in bed, take out the trash, wash your car!!! That’s HIS JOB!!! No excuses! Stand up for yourself and say your truth.
I did just THAT this mothers day. My son gave me toast and some flowers. My daughter did NOTHING!!! And Monday afternoon I respectfully but firmly told them how I felt.
They needed to know that as a mom I have feelings too, hopes, and the need for words of affirmation. Speak up. And if they forget again, make plans for yourself and your girlfriends.
Happy Mothers Day. Be kind to yourself. You deserve it and more.
(all this said with love)
I went through years of this. Now I just tell them what I want for Mother’s Day my birthday and Christmas. If that doesn’t give my kids the hint, I can’t help them after that.
Same here mom of 6 I have never been given a gift or day for me it hurts for real a home made card just make 1 thing for me
Happy belated Mother’s day. You have every right to feel that way
I was married for 30 years my husband and he never remembered to get me anything for any of those occasions either so I don’t know if it’s just we picked the wrong man or what
I feel you… I never got anything either… because I aint his mother that is his excuse
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As a mom of three teenage boys, yes, I get the same… Dad covered for them… does he really think I don’t know the handwriting on the envelope? Lol
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You have the right to go have an open. Honest. Conversation with your husband of 14 years explain how you’re feeling and go from there if he still won’t come around the just stop trying so hard take care of your kids and do the minimum everywhere else he’ll see all the stuff you do
You deserve to feel special. Some men don’t know how to put in the effort, or don’t want to.
My boyfriend was like that. Still is in a way. Instead of gifts we go on a picnic, a swim at the beach, go to a museum, stuff that doesn’t cost much. We have been together for almost 7 years. We make it work by going on an adventure every once in awhile. Maybe see if your husband is up to doing something on a day off. Even if it’s a family outing if you can’t get a sitter.
A happy be-lated mothers day to you…now when its their bday dont even bother…if they ask…say well did i get anything for my bday or mothers day? See what they think now 
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I was in that situation when I was married. I got the, “you’re not my mother.” That came from the ex. So I decided to buy my own present and I made dinner just for me, took myself to the movies. When he asked me to shop for his mother, I bought the card and said you do the shopping SHE is your mother. Then I took my mom and I out to dinner. My daughter always got my gift not so big but it is the thought.
How ungrateful of your family not to remember mother’s day. No excuse.
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Happy belated Mother’s Day girl. You are one strong women. Your one amazing mother and wife. I got a child on the hospital this year. Been going through a roughly situation in life with them Lil ones. They have made me feel like the worst mother this year. I feel like my family of close to 17 year is falling apart. I never give up even though they put me through all this situation I will still love them no matter what.
Get rid of him. Nobody’s fault but yours. Your stupid for keeping a looser. Nobody on Facebook is going to get you a gift.
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I just lost my mom in October. My son who always takes care of me and his step dad said mom we are going to do something. The only reason I got up that day was for him, his girlfriend and her kids. They all made sure to come see me. I also had family and friends call or text. Your husband has no excuse! He should’ve made sure kids had something planned. Happy Mother’s Day!
God loves you, appreciate you and cares for you but you have to do your part too, Rewards come from God, I know I was in same situation as you until I decided to get divorced and then God sent me a Great man.
But it’s up to you here in this earth.
You deserve better! I’d go on strike, take some you time.
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I usually work on the hallmark holidays 
Happy kids? Good mom
Well first off have you talked to them about it yes they should know but there also not mind readers I’d be hurt as well but speak up
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I don’t understand this post. If he has never done it… He is never going to do it? Why do women build such high expectations of men? What do you actually want from them? I’ve been married 5 years and let me tell you… If I don’t buy it myself. If I don’t ask. I don’t get. So for me that’s the way it is. My husband supports us. Works 2 jobs. I don’t bother him with house work. I don’t expect him to all of a sudden change. Stop having expectations and you won’t get hurt. Do it for yourself! And once you start making yourself happy all your sadness will go away. Stop relying on your partner to make you happy. Your with him for a reason. Remember that reason. Accept who he is. And life will be less complicated. That’s my opinion.
Kids who are old enough to do so should at least send a card to their mum/grandmother. A note of appreciation is all that they want.
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I’d go on strike. Eff that.
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My husband and kids suck too! I feel ya.
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Stop doing everything let them do their own things dear.Cook and clean when you feel like it then they will see you ain’t nobody’s maid.Take time for yourself and chill out better still get a hobby or part time job
You deserve to be acknowledge by your husband. Your children need to learn about sharing and giving. Your husband is selfish and shows no respect for you. He is teaching the children that you are not important and loved. Wrong way to teach your children. You have feelings, heart and yes it hurts.
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I am praying you open your eyes and give your husband a swift kick and get rid of him
Find someone who truly loves and respects you. Your children and you need some counseling and move on.
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Oh they don’t respect you honey. Stop doing stay at home mom stuff. Don’t cook don’t clean don’t do shit. And damn sure don’t buy shit for Father’s Day.
I know the feeling I didn’t get anything either
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Girl start appreciating yourself then. Go shopping get ur hair did. Get ur nails done… Get that card ur husband works so hard for and appreciate to spend that cash baby. U deserve it
I’ll get hurt too I mean this was my first Mother’s Day and I wish we did something but we didn’t so yes I get it … planning on doing the same for him on Father’s Day knowing I wish I could do more
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And stop doing extra for him. See how he likes it. If he don’t notice… Hes cheating or his life is so damn busy that possibly u need to find a hobby too…
I didn’t get anything either and it’s my first Mother’s Day … instead my husband slept all day till about 2-3pm and I tended to the child as I always do not to mention I cooked dinner and dessert and cleaned it all up as well and put the kid to sleep no change no difference no special big deal for me but the way I see it is if that’s how Mother’s Day is being celebrated then that’s exactly how Father’s Day will be handled … #sorrynotsosorry
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For the women whose husbands didn’t get you a gift, when those holidays come up go out and buy your own gift and then you show your husband what he bought you!
I feel you! My husband and i finally finished the up stairs of our house and moved our bedroom up there a couple weeks ago. I had mentioned to him that i wanted to get some hair dye and do my hair for myself make me feel a little better about my looks if u know what i mean! Mother’s Day rolls around and he went out of his way to get something for my mother and by the end of the night I’m irritated all i ask for was hair dye and we couldn’t even do that so i asked him and he said we finished the upstairs that’s a good enough gift for Mother’s Day!
No, they should have either got you something or did things for you for a day to show appreciation for what you do. It’s not overreacting to ask so little of people you love.
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