Yes, this is abuse. He’s getting all worked up over a computer screen getting bumped into; then there is something wrong with him and the relationship you both have should no longer continue. He’s immature seeing as he is getting all worked up.
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Seriously? You had a problem over that…?
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You should be spoken to as equal, not less than. However, if this is the only instance, I wouldn’t consider that abusive. It was probably instinctive.
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What did you want him to do. Kiss your ass or whatever bumped his computer.
Hmm what? He what now? And he is still your boyfriend? Lmao girl……boot him. And it’s not because he got frustrated, it’s because he escalated and then threatened to yell at you when you told him he shouldn’t speak to you like that, that’s a huge red flag. Nah.
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I cannot believe these comments. Young lady that is a red flag. If you are not comfortable with how he is talking to you and he replied with no care about your feelings. Red flags are for a reason… Run honey.
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You should definitely get pregnant and have a baby with him. He will surely change and be more considerate of your feelings if you bring a baby into the mix 
(this is a follow up joke to the comical post)
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If he only yelled Bro and you took offense to that? That wasn’t something out of line
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Is this a fucking joke, cuz if not you may be the problem 
. This is far from abuse. You sound real fun to be around
My parents use to say this shit to me when I would say the same thing to them lol and I do the same to my kids when the day I’m yelling at them and I’m not…
you are not his child to be scolding like that 
that’s how I take it, like he’s correcting your childish remark. I’d bring it up to him and let him know how you feel tell him you’re not a child and you wont tolerate the disrespect. See how he responds and reacts to your feelings (validation) if it’s negatively RUN…he’s a narc
I would yell bro too if someone ran into something expensive of mine. It’s a normal reaction to panic for a second over the thought of something expensive possibly being broken.
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How old are you guys?
I’m unsure why people are putting you down… some people are more sensitive than others. Once you’ve nursed your feelings, talk to him and let him know you’re too sensitive to be yelled At. There is nothing wrong with that. That is your boundary and it is valid. A lot of women are like that. I’m the opposite. Me and my husband call each other dumbasses a lot. That’s why it takes a while to find your match. The right one, which might be him, will understand that, apologize and be more sensitive next time. Express that it hurt your feelings and stressed you out.
People are mean. Ignore the rude comments
I tell ‘man’ or ‘dude’ to my husband 24/7 and I don’t abuse him… you women just look for anything to be abuse
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Let’s not make a mountain out of a mole hill.
That’s not abuse, it was knee jerk reaction to him thinking something would be broken.
The thing he said about yelling is a red flag, but if the rest of your relationship is fine - I’d address it DIRECTLY and move on
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Time to say goodbye.
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Not cool. Sounds like a jerk. Run far. 
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Don’t put up with it.
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Good heavens are these real?
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Ok. Real world advice. Thesis length but I hope it helps. Been married 40 years. In relationships there will be yelling. Anyone that says there isn’t is lying to themselves and you. People are not perfect. When people that love each other get mad they yell, fuss, fight, apologize and move on. Verbal abuse is something completely different. The conversation you had with your partner has repeated itself a thousand times in my 40 years of marriage. Goes like this….I or my husband is grouchy. We do something (accidentally) that irritates the other and out pops a loud sharp comment. In my husband’s case it’s may be a mumble. He knows it drives me nuts!That’s followed by the exact same scenario you experienced. THAT is not verbal abuse. That’s life when 2 imperfect people are living together. Committed relationships are never perfect. If you expect perfection from your partner you’re setting yourself up to fail in every relationship. My suggestion is to calmly talk to your boyfriend. Tell him it bothered you but don’t put him on the defensive. You’ll get nowhere. Discuss it rationally with no drama. If he’s unwilling to discuss it with you and ignores your hurt feelings then you’ll have to decide how you want to proceed. Verbal abuse is emotional abuse. The abuser uses words/ behavior to manipulate, shame and control someone. Verbal abuse is about power. Their goal is to make the abused person feel weak and worthless. Sounds like your boyfriend just had a weak moment and didn’t think before he spoke. Others have said it’s a “red flag.” Unless he’s got a previously established a pattern of angry aggressive outbursts this is NOT a red flag. We all have moments of weakness and say things we shouldn’t. NO ONE is perfect. He hurt your feelings. An apology is in order. If you love him forgive him, let it go and move on. I was 20 when I got married. My sometimes
b!tchy tongue and my husband’s temper (NOT abusive) caused problems. He was an army officer and they called him LT Firecracker because he went off all the time. 
My mouth and his temper caused trouble. Learning to think carefully before we spoke was one of the most important things my husband and I did for each other. Harsh words can be hurtful and harmful. You can’t take them back. That was one of the most valuable lessons I’ve ever learned.
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Yes. If your partner speaks to you sideways, they’re probably not the one for you. It’s probably even worse during an actual argument.
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I feel sorry for your man
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I think it’s a red flag for him. You are already seeking to find fault without speaking to him or even trying to work it out. Not sure if have own trauma you working through or just very sensitive to tone and everything but definitely feel you are looking for something specific.
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Y’all read way too far into things lol
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My husband said no to me once… is this abuse too?
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He was online with porn or girlfriend. No other excuse to get that peeved about computer. You interuppted him 
I’m always sideways….and I’m a yeller…my husband just mostly ignores it or puts me in my place. It is what it is.
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I fell a little yelling is good at lest their is communication
We all have our moments.
Bro…pick your battles you have a mouth say something put those big girl panties on and deal with it
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Ohh geeze I’m definitely abusive then …do t get between me and my resident evil… I’ll turn into your personal nemesis 
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Talk to him about how that makes you feel and see how he responds. If he acknowledges how he made you feel and states he will handle himself differently next time, move on. If he ignores your feelings then you have a problem.
You answered your own question with your first statement. GAME OVER!!!
Girl stop. If you want to break up with him just break up with him. Lol
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No, it’s not. Just because you got your feelings hurt doesn’t mean it’s abuse. If he’s screaming at you and cussing you out and belittling you, THAT’S abuse. I suggest you grow a thicker skin or you will have a very unhappy life & relationships.
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It is impresive how many people yell abuse poor guys really that is the real abuse 
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What is it with relationships these days? Not every minute of every day are you going to get along but talking about things and working it out. Wanting the relationship to last. Instead of finding faults.
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Stand up for yourself lol
People get angry and yell. I mean let’s not make light of people who are actually verbally abused. Because this ain’t it
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As if you’ve never exclaimed anything before. You obviously are a robot, who speaks in monotone and can only deal in octaves you use. GTFOH
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This is not abuse . Lol sorry but as someone who has been in a cdv situation this is far from it. Ask yourself Do u fear for ur life? Actually terrified that he will physically lay hands or hurt u? If not then no. Honestly he was probably on only fans or something like it and u scared him. Lol
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I mean I definitely don’t think it’s abuse but regardless of whether it is or isn’t if you don’t like something that he’s doing or saying to you then you have to tell him that you don’t like what he’s doing or saying to you… grown up relationships are about communicating and expressing when something makes you feel bad or unhappy or whatever the case may be. If I left mine or he left me every time we yelled we wouldn’t have made past the first month for sure it’s definitely not abuse unless your scared and he doesn’t stop doi g whatever is scaring you like punching walls… calling you names. Etc. if you have to ask is this abuse then it’s probably not
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Yes It’s a start of verbal abuse
Leave if you can or give him a benefit of doubt that he was just mad about it almost falling but be careful cuz if their verbal chances are they can be physically abusive too
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You think you have problems?
Other women would have landed on floor…
Is this even a genuine post
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I don’t think it’s anything. If I’m playing a game and someone walked in front of me or knocked something I’d probably go hey! instead of bro.
It’s not abuse but it’s also unacceptable. Bet my bf would regret talking to me like that. Put ur foot down now and let him know it won’t be tolerated, otherwise he will think it’s ok and continue. If u let him know it crossed ur boundaries and he still does it then he’s not respecting u and u need to rethink things.
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Red Flags are waving
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I mean accident or not I’m sure he was bothered by you bumping into his shit. Lmao. These posts are getting ridiculous yall all need therapy looking for issues
I would have bumped it again… boyyyy, don’t play with me… I play back 
The thing is, if this was something of yours, how would you have reacted? So many women saying oh red flag, or yes it’s abuse, but how many times has a woman talked that way to a man, then not like the same treatment. Some woman don’t even notice it when they do this.
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I’ve been abused. This ain’t abuse. Talk it out like an adult. Maybe he had a bad day…
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I think you’re thinking too much into this one. People have their own way of dealing with stuff and reacting as well. Ida been like hey wtf! This is def not classified as verbal abuse. When he said “you want me to I will” was saying don’t be a snowflake.
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No it’s neither it’s a reaction.
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Your mad over that reaction 
I probably would have had the same or a similar reaction
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Ummmm I’ll trade you my ex husband for just a day… he would have put me through a wall… is this abuse not exactly but you also don’t need to put up with it. When he’s settled down let him know that it upsets you because he might not even notice his tone but you did and it was an accident his first response should have been are you ok??
No one needs to talk to another person like that. I would tell him how it made you feel and ask him not to do it again. If he does it again despite your request it kind of tells you that he doesn’t honor your feelings.
Very intimidating.
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I think you have bigger issues going on with yourself if your boyfriend yelling bro is causing you immense feelings
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Then break up with him if hes crossed your boundaries.
It’s not even close to abuse, he reacted strongly but then so are you. No he didn’t need to respond back to you like he did but if you think this is abuse then you really can’t handle conflict at all. If you just talk to him he may apologize but if you can’t handle this reaction then you may want to stay single for now.
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I think the missed point is she brought up to him that she didn’t like him yelling at her when it was an accident. He could have apologized for yelling and ask her to be more careful. Instead he threatened to show her what yelling is. So yes…this is abuse. This is the very beginning and what most people miss and explain away until suddenly they are laying in the floor bleeding because they didn’t add enough seasoning to dinner while cooking. SMH…no wonder so many people keep ending up in potions where they are asking themselves…where did it go wrong? How did I end up here in this horrible mess I now have to fight to escape? Well…like how I ended up in a highly abusive relationship…I overlooked toxic crap like that and told myself real abuse is worse. Nah…that’s just the beginning. It doesn’t start full force screaming and yelling and hitting…it starts with comments like…oh…you think that was bad…no…but I’ll show you what’s it like to get something bad.
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You got mad and reacted. He got mad and reacted.
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Allie Boyes-MacDonald
You sound emotionally stunted if you’re over 18
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If my boyfriend acted this way I would just assume he was having a bad day and simply snapped at me out of reflex. I think everyone can be guilty of that every now and then without realizing it. Talk it out. If this is a frequently repeated thing then maybe I’d be asking some hard questions.
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Just grab a cast iron pan & forewarn him how dangerous it would be to him to ever talk to you like that again
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It’s disrespectful but not abuse. 
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Broooooooooooooo you are overreacting
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Definitely verbal abuse. If it’s the first time he’s said something you may be able to set that boundary with a conversation. But if after that he disrespect your opinion or keeps doing it. I’d say leave. IF it is abuse it will get worse. But we can’t judge that by one interaction. I’d Definitely talk to him first
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no not abuse anyone can have a bad day and react in a bad way - you can either put it down as a one off or leave
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That’s a Red Flag!!! Better get out now, IT WILL GET BAD!!!
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Yeah he needs to work on his anger and communication skills.
To everyone saying he just yelled bro!! Are y’all missing the part where he threatened her that that’s not yelling but he could show her??? That’s about for sure
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Nip that in the butt early. Demand respect girl…
really? you bump my electronics im gonna “bro- watch out” your a$$ also… jfc are people really this sensitive? omg you are overreacting BIG time… get over it
Major decision to make. Is this repeated behaviors or new? Repeated? Think it through whether you want a relationship with this man, or is it time to walk away? You don’t deserve to be talked to like that.
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You went over the top when all he yelled was “bro”. He went over the top after that. It’s definitely a red flag that you both need to work on how you respond to each other.
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Grow up,he just reacted bro .He did not call you any names
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You both sound like immature children. Both get upset too easily. Understand…computers are expensive. Also understand…Bro is something male teens normally say to other teens to get their attention. If he had called you an ugly name,i can see why would be upset and that would be a red flag,but him just saying Bro in a loud voice to get your attention about watching where you are going so he doesnt have to shell out hundreds for a new PC…No. He didnt do anything wrong and has a right to be upset. I’d react like that to and jump up and exclaim something to if someone bumped my PS4.
He shouldn’t have said he would yell at you but it does sound like he reacted to the computer being moved while he was mid gaming and than you felt uncomfortable or triggered by his reaction.
Now telling you if you want me to yell at you I will was wrong of him he should have realized he triggered you with his obviously loud reaction to you bumping the screen and acknowledged your feelings and apologized and or said I didn’t realize I yelled and left it alone communication is key to a good relationship and needs constant work because not everyone communicates the same way or in a healthy way
If yelling bro is going to get to you then you are not ready for real fights. You took it overboard by going to the defensive instead of apologizing for bumping his stuff. Of course he’s going to get defensive if you started it. You both need to work on communicating or you’re in for a rude awakening whe a real disagreement happens.
Him calling you bro isn’t the issue; his response to you expressing your feelings is. It starts with “if you want me to yell at you I can yell at you” and then it turns into “you made me hit you”…this may be a one off thing and we’re all speculating but if it bothered you that much he should care
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Yes please I loved to be yelled at and disrespect Ed! Would you like me to. CHeat on you I can if you want. Asshat!
Your boundaries matter. I can’t stand it when my boyfriend starts to call me bro. I’ve told him many times I am not your bro and guess what it’s been a really long time since he’s talk to me like that or called me that. But neither of us are allowed to yell at each other
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Yelling bro isn’t an issue because we all raise our voices like that when we’re not expecting that type of interaction.
Treating you like a child afterwards? That’s an issue.
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Until he said “i didn’t yell at you, but if you want me to yell at you, I can yell at you” I figured it was just a knee jerk reaction but him saying that took it to . Unacceptable
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Sounds like a mean BULLY. If they get away with it once, they treat you like that your whole life if you marry.
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My mind says whip his asssssss but the renewed christian me says “Let’s work together to figure out where that came from” 
This one really has me weak
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Sounds like he’s still a little boy.
Rule 1. Don’t date boys who address others as “bro”.
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It sounds like he reacted, you reacted to his reaction and it snowballed. Unless there’s more that you’re not sharing, I don’t hear “verbal abuse” and his only threat was to yell.
I’m not sure how old you are but I’m guessing you’re young. I’m not sure how you grew up. Were you sheltered and never “yelled at” or reprimanded loudly? Maybe you’re not accustomed to “loud conflict”. Or did you grow up in a household filled with yelling and fighting? Maybe you’re afraid of repeating a cycle.
Not every overreaction is abuse. Nor is every instance of yelling. Humans are fallible and sometimes we yell. Sometimes we overreact. Sometimes we bump into our boyfriend’s computer screen and sometimes he reacts without thinking.
If you want to have a successful relationship (with him or someone else) you should try to learn how to “set a tone”. He overreacted and you responded in kind. Instead of letting it snowball, you have the ability to stop it- at least on your end. And definitely not by overthinking it later. Whether he actually “yelled”, raised his voice or took on a certain “tone” doesn’t matter. It affected you. And you reacted in a way that elevated the conflict (not passing judgment- it’s just what happened). You can’t control his reaction but you can control yours. Before responding in kind, take a breath and CALMLY say something to diffuse or refuse to engage. In the example you gave it could have been “maybe you didn’t yell’ but the way you reacted was a little over the top. I’m not sure you meant it that way, but that’s how I heard it. I’m sorry I bumped your screen but it was an accident. Can we just let this go”?
By looking for something that isn’t there or dwelling on an overreaction, you are setting yourself up for a whole lot of unnecessary anger and anxiety.
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If you want I can
Red Flag.
especially for something so minor and petty as bumping the screen
Ehh, if all he said is bro it feels like an overreaction on your part to me. Neither one of you handled it well.
you didn’t apologize either so that probably didn’t help.
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Omg so many people saying " if you knocked my screen when I was playing, bla bla,"
Key word ACCIDENTLY., SHE ACCIDENTLY knocked it and that’s how he reacts!!!. He seriously need to grow up and you are not his BRO , you are his gf. I’d be running .
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If you want to be yelled at, stay. If you want peace of mind, leave.
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We don’t do yelling In our home. I’ve only ever had to tell my partner “I don’t like when you… XYZ” ONCE and ONLY once. His response “I’m sorry, it wont happen again” and he’s been a man of his word. We talk about everything. No matter how small we think it may be. Even if others think she’s over reacting. If it bothers her, it bothers her! She should communicate this to her partner.
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Idk what it is about the fan posts on this page…but no one seems to know how to spell EX BOYFRIEND.
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Petty ass people on BOTH sides.
You nocked something he spent good money on. A raised volume “bro” is literally nothing.
Then when you accused him of over reacting, he shows you what over reacting actually looks like…
Then because you are now in the wrong TWICE you go to the internet and complain that he’s maybe abusive…… petty.
Petty on BOTH sides.
This often happens when the people involved are really children still.
If you are THIS upset with how you are being treated then it seems you already know the answer. YOU decide what you deserve. You know your relationship better than anybody else… is this the start of more abusive behavior or did he react in a way that humans do from time to time? Strangers on the internet cannot answer that for you.
Best of luck! <3
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