In your care, it’s your decision.
In his care, it’s his decision.
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I feel like this has more to do with the gf more than anything. Your child is comforting herself with her father, as YOU taught her to do by sleeping next to her all this time, don’t take that comfort away from her now because of your own selfish reasons.
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Wow, people are already being harsh with you and that sucks. If the roles were reversed and it was you having your boyfriend in bed with you and your daughter many would actually mind and question your integrity as a mother. You are not overreacting. If I were you, I’d have a conversation with her dad. Maybe both of you can come up with a simple solution. For her safety, etc- you may have to be open to him getting a toddler or daybed in the room with them (I’d still count it as cosleeping). I’d be uncomfortable if it were my daughter, only because I actually went through something similar as a child. Always trust your maternal instincts.
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Personally, your child is used to co sleeping. Is the GF supposed to sleep on the floor? I’m sure your child won’t sleep by herself
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If you have a new boyfriend would you let him sleep in the bed? Or would you tell your daughter it’s time for her to sleep in her own bed? Don’t say you wouldn’t let him in the bed eventually because that wouldn’t be much of a relationship and he would probably get tired of it. Maybe y’all BOTH break the co sleeping.
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You taught her to co sleep… But now want her on own when there only? So she cam cry all night while with him? What if he tells you he doesn’t want you to?
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What’s good for you is good for her father if you don’t want her to Co-sleeping with him then you don’t co-sleep with her
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If she’s use to co-sleeping then I think the Father is doing what the child is comfortable with. Unfortunately what the Father does on his time you can’t control. If there’s no danger to the child then it should be fine. You may not be comfortable with it but, it’s not about you.
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I think she should be able to do that…just as you want her to sleep with you, she should be able to sleep with her daddy. It’s no different. You can’t just “set a boundary” for her father when he has just as much of a right to do things as you. Would you want him to set a boundary with you? She clearly cares enough about your daughter to be sleeping in the same bed. The more people that love your child, the better…
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Personally if she always co-sleeps I’d want her to do the same when with dad. I don’t see anything wrong with it but if you do that’s enough. Maybe ask dad if she can just sleep with him.
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The step mom can take the couch or spare room on days the child is there… Y’all saying the “floor” like stop acting slow an being extra.
When u are asleep you don’t know if your being molested or anything… Then what if they start having sex the child is in the bed 
an it isnt hers…
Sleep is a vulnerable state to be in with a person In general.
Its not her step mom because they aren’t married… Its a NEW girlfriend.
That’s gross.
I’d want that to change as well.
Sleeping with the father is OK if its alone.
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In my opinion, it all depends on what you are worried about. Are you worried because it’s a new girlfriend? Or are you worried because you don’t know her and something might happen? If you’re worried because something might happen ask yourself do you trust your ex enough to make a good judgment when it comes to women or do you trust his judgment around your child and who he has around her? If you trust his judgment, I think you might be overreacting a little, but if you feel he does not have good judgment, then yes you are entitled to be worried. Again this is just my opinion.
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It sounds like your being selfish. I don’t see anything wrong with it unless they were doing dirty things with her in the bed but I’d like to think they are better than that.
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Keep an open line of communication with your daughter in case she wants to talk. Otherwise, mind your own household because what happens at his house is their business unless she brings it to you. He has parental right too and doesn’t have to get anything approved by you.
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You don’t mention her age. I’m not fond of co-sleeping beyond a Sunday nap. Definitely not with an ex, and a stranger.
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How old is this child? That should be the real question. If the child is a baby or toddler I would feel one way about it and if the child is like 4 or older I would say it’s time for her to have her own bed when he has her. Depends on the respect that he has for his daughter as well. What kind of activity goes on there and the kind of enviroment that child is in. Lots to think about.
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If you’re co-sleeping with her then he’s going to as well because that’ss what the child is used to. Gf there or not. As long as it’s a safe environment than that’s all you should be concerned about. I’d want my kids to have a good relationship with the gf of their father if we split up and I want her to be treated as her own as well.
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I’d do what’s best for my child, she is used to co-sleeping and as long as she is happy with it. I’d be glad to have a stepmom that was supportive and shared the same parenting values 
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You have no plans on changing that but you want to change it when she goes to her dads…. If she treats your daughter right with love and respect there shouldn’t be a problem! I think you’re just jealous which is normal she’s your daughter but don’t change something that feels right for her
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Gotta pick your battles…I hope youve met her…researched her and feel safe with her . If so than let your daughter continue to sleep however she wants
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I agree it wired
Like she’s new and I wouldn’t be ok with it either
I dated a guy who cosleep with his son when he had him and if it was nights I stayed over we agreed I slept on another bed
He had bunk beds so they slept on the bottom I slept on top
On a normal night with out his son we slept in his room
I was fine with it.
Talk with him and let him know how you feel. It’s his choice in the end since it’s his home but ask him how he would feel if you did the same
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If it was a little girl co sleeping with the mom and stepdad it would be outrage. Just throwing out the double standard here
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I co slept with my children for almost 4 and 5 years. (they will be 4 and 5 in 3 months max). Sometimes they end up in bed with me and my man. Granted their sperm donor isn’t around and hasn’t been in 3 years. But still. You can’t control what he does and if she co sleeps with you and you don’t plan on changing that. You can’t force him too either. My man is so amazing with my kids and he cuddles them all the time. You can’t control anything he does anymore.
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How old is she? Depending on age, it might be time for both parents to teach her to sleep by herself. But I personally think that is selfish of you to want to continue to co-sleep with her and not want her father. Don’t let your jealousy or bad feelings towards the father’s significant other hurt your daughter.
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I’m a stepmom, my husbands youngest daughter would get scared at storms and it’d be on their weekend with us so she’d run down to our room and crawl in bed. This was before we were married it began because she always knew she could do it with mommy and daddy. I’ve now been married to my husband for 10 years almost, we don’t call them “my” they are OUR daughters as a whole. We even spend blended family Christmas and holidays and birthdays all together, my husbands ex wife is also remarried. But that initial bond we (their mom and I had great connection from the start) formed has led us to this beautiful family all together. So if the GF is gonna be around and is willing to love yours and his daughter, let it be. Because you want to make sure they always know they’re loved in all places they spend time. 
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So it’s ok for you to co-sleep with her but not her father? I think you sound jealous. If you wish to stop for her benefit then maybe he would as well, but expecting him to stop when you clearly have no intentions of doing so is rediculas and petty.
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When I first met my late husband his ex hated that his daughter crawled into bed with us but she felt comfortable and loved. I held her tight and those were the best nights. I know it’s hard but she’s just being extra loved. Try remembering that
Has your child ever made a complain about it? Have you ever asked your daughter how she sees and feels about it? If she feels safe and loved by them then what’s the problem? If you had a new bf and slept with you and your daughter would that be okay but not with your ex? Idk. Maybe sit down with your daughter and ask her about this first. Do you trust your ex husband’s judgment about his new gf? If so and you haven’t met her maybe you’re too biased to judge. At the end of the day she sleeps next to her dad, who has the same right as you. I mean, your daughter’s comfort is above everything at this point.
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I kind of feel it though. Lmaoo I wouldn’t want my baby cuddled up with some girl. It would make me uncomfortable simply because I don’t know her. Maybe get to know her if she’s more than just his little gf? Idk
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When i was dating my husband we co slept with my step son from age 2 until 4ish. Every weekend. Was his mom a fan of it? Probably not. But he was also used to co sleeping at her house and had no plans to change that and we weren’t going to force him to sleep alone and scream and cry because that wasn’t an option. Mind you I have co slept with all 4 of my own kids as well. So it wasn’t a huge deal and I had a great bond with my step son from day 1
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Bottom line is whether u like it or not… unless you have proof or can prove the child is in danger… he can parent however he wants.
Don’t forget… she is also his child as well.
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Seems like you just don’t want him with the GF. You expect him to keep “the needs you” want to control the relationship he’s in. You’re saying you co sleep with your child when your child is I’m guessing too old to be in bed with you anyway. You are putting an expectation on that child and the father. Honestly if your child is too big to be in bed with the father and his girlfriend than the child shouldn’t be in your bed either. Because you’re obvious solution is the father and daughter share the bed while the GF sleeps on the couch or something. That’s NOT right. Plus your expecting them to pay extra for another room when they obviously care enough about your child to take them on vacation and the child probably feels safer sleeping with her dad in places they are traveling.
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Try switching your thinking, be grateful your baby is loved and cared for as you would while she isn’t with you. It’s so hard to share with someone you don’t know, especially when feelings are probably still hurt but your baby is lucky enough to have two homes she feels loved in. That’s pretty special.
Whatever makes her happy. U can’t change his parenting time to fit what u want it to look like.
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I would be so happy that the gf loves my daughter enough to disrupt her new relationship. So blessed!
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It’s not mentioned how old your child is. I’ve never understood co sleeping unless the child wakes up during a storm or nightmare. Every night just doesn’t sound healthy for the child. She must learn boundaries at a young age.
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Continue to allow co sleeping with her dad and ask the dad the nights he has his daughter either ask the GF to sleep in another bed or make alternative arrangements that night if they don’t live together. Out of respect! X
Unless the child is uncomfortable or unhappy the why interfere. Sounds like they both love the child ( yr x and he’s GF) so let them be. I’m one for if the kids are safe and happy then so should the parents be.
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Let it go…be happy your ex has a woman that includes your daughter:) your kids no who mommy is…
Thatll never change…and yes I raised a step son AND I was upset when this was happening with my first son lol so i know how you feel:)
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I can totally see where you’re coming from, this is your child and she’s sharing a bed with someone you don’t really know but unfortunately I don’t think there’s really anything you can do. He’s her dad too and you just have to trust his decision. Again I totally get where you’re coming from and I know I’d feel the same way and wouldn’t want to accept the advice I’m giving you here.
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First you need to figure out why you don’t like it …
Are you jealous, hurt,
Or are you concerned for her safety
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This is a personal decision. I made a boundary. I was uncomfortable with my daughter sleeping between them. My ex husband agreed to put her back to sleep in her bed if she woke up in the night.
You do not need to feel guilt or shame for having boundaries for your child. Hang in there momma.
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How old is she? I cosleep so no-judgemnet on that piece but cosleeping with younger kids is only safe in specific situations. I would definitely worry about her safety if she is young. Do they drink alcohol ever or do anything else that could impair their ability to wake up? I would make it a safety issue but unfortunately you would need to work on an alternate way for her to sleep, which may involve having to sleep train if she is little……
I think you need to sit down with her father and ask him if he’s ok with your boyfriend sleeping in bed with your child and you. I would guarantee the first time if happened, he would flip out. It depends how long they’ve been together. If it’s been a couple weeks, this would absolutely not be happening. The nights he has his child, the girlfriend sleeps in another room or doesn’t stay at all. If they had been together a year++ lived together, my child was comfortable and loved by his girlfriend… it would be a whole different situation.
My thoughts are that woman could be her step mom someday. You should look at it as the new gf should become your friend so you can all co parent the best as a team for the child. She could be an evil witch and mean to your child and only be about her bf but it seems to me she is accepting your child and loving her just as much as yall do. That’s just my opinion.
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So your kid is use to cosleeping but for some reason you want to change everything they know about where they sleep cause you wanna be a petty Betty over the new gal. Got it.
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I totally get why you feel upset because another woman is involved. If it was just him I don’t think you would care but to think that your daughter is snuggling up to another lady is what upsets you.The issue is you can’t tell him he can’t have other people around BOTH of your daughter unless there is a good reason.Thats like if you were to get a man and he said he didn’t want you to come sleep because your man is in the bed would you stop?I doubt it…It’s not bout you it’s about your daughter feeling loved and safe.As long as she token care of and treated good and feeling loved and safe then you need to move past it and realize you both will find other partners and it’s not right to constantly find a problem every time either of you get jealous.Its going to happen and there’s nothing you can do unless abuse or neglect is going on.Please appreciate people who love your child and treat her good…
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I’d be pretty proud of her dad to allow his daughter to sleep with him and his gf instead of making her sleep alone in another room so that they could have privacy. That’s awesome of him tbh
I’m sorry. It sounds like jealousy to me. Plain and simple. Do you know how lucky you are that your boyfriend has a girlfriendthat actually seems to adore his child? You are pissed because the GF is not you.
At least the girlfriend is ok with his daughter sleeping in the same bed with them. I gotta agree with everyone else… just take a breath and move on. It’s about your daughter.
If they were married that’s one thing but not a girlfriend. That’s weird. I wonder if he would feel the same if you had his daughter sleeping with some random dude??? Always follow your instincts…always!
Why is it ok for one parent and not the other. As long as they aren’t having sex with the baby in the bed why should she be forced to suffer just because he has a new gf. Ive been and both ends of this and if you trust him to make good decisions in reguards to your daughter then why should it matter.
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I’m on the other end of this. I set up boundaries early on in regards to things like this someday coming up. I didn’t want to be laying in the same bed as my SD, I felt like it was crossing a line. I didn’t think it was right. I’ve always thought in my head, “ If this was my little girl would I be okay with it?” I wouldn’t be. But it’s a personal thing and every situation is different. To each their own.
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If u have no plans on changing your already set co-sleeping style why would u ask her father create a separate space?! Instead of worrying about how the situation makes YOU feel, focus on how ur child is feeling. U are both her parents and u can’t set rules in his home! YOUR NOT TOGETHER ANYMORE. He is her father and has the right to his own way of doing things and to make YOU comfortable isn’t his job. His job is his child. Gf or not!
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If your kid is used to cosleeping then it’s not fair to the kid to not allow that with their other parent if they’re comfortable with it. You’re just jealous.
Well I think that if you’re co sleeping and she has always done that then unless Ur going to change at your place as well U can’t expect them to change, it would be way more stressful on the child than the current situation. As long as they arent doing anything while she is in the bed with them (but that is a whole other issue) plus how old is the child that also needs to be considered. I’m sure if I had a new partner and he co slept with his child I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable sleeping in the same bed as them I would probably respect their time together and not stay the night when he has his children but all couples are different.
You don’t really have a say where she sleeps when with dad. I get it but sounds like you know your child needs to sleep that way because that’s how you raised her. To late to just decide you wana change it up for him. I think these are the kind of conversations needed when you break up because it’s to late for you to make bed time a struggle for him now because your uncomfortable. If it’s a stable gf hes with I think u might have to get over it or both of you need to start her sleeping on her own every night to. Maybe she’s old enough to just start sleeping on her own since there are gf/boyfriends involved now, cause in reality its gota happen some day anyways so if you want him to stop you need to as well
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Before my daughter when her father would get his son he would sleep with us. He was use to sleeping in a bed with his mother and wouldn’t sleep on his own. So when he came to our house he slept with us. I wasn’t going to shove him into a bed of his own and make his scream and cry all night. He was with daddy on daddy’s time. It was my house and my bed. You can’t control what a father does with their child when your no longer with him. I mean he can easily tell u he will stop and not and you wouldn’t know the difference.
Now if they don’t live together I do believe in the whole girlfriends/ boyfriends shouldn’t spend the night when you have your child. So that’s a whole other thing.
Does your man sleep on the couch? Assuming he doesn’t. So it’s not ok for you to cosleep with your daughter if you have a man in your bed 
What he does on his time with HIS child is not your business honestly. You seem bitter. I’m certain he would never let anything harm YALLS child just like you wouldn’t.
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Well. Don’t you trust your childs father? Do you think he has a poor judgement? Do you think that the child’s dad is blind to what causes harm to your child?
If the answers are no, I think you know what you need to do. Try putting it the other way around. If you had a new bf and your baby daddy forced you to find another sleeping situation cause he don’t like the fact that the partner you trust and love are sleeping in the same bed, how would that make you feel? Would that seem reasonable to you? Or would you be like me and it would feel horrible that he didn’t trust you?
I don’t think you are doing this because the child I feel you are doing this out of jealousy which I get it I’m a jealous person as well but wouldn’t you want another woman to love your child as their own? Be happy your child had more people in her life who love her
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If he “isn’t allowed” then neither should you 
She’s his child just as much as yours and you need to understand that 
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So while I see both sides and how you must feel… you have to consider the fact that she’s comfortable with co sleeping with her father. Im.not down playing how you feel because it’s very valid but I think you have to push your feelings aside for the comfort of your child. If you don’t want that co sleeping to take place then your going to need to start to break it at your home first and talk to dad so he understand that you are trying to get her into her own bed.
So it.s okay for her to co sleep with you but not her dad??? You are making bedtime so much harder for him if she co sleeps with you it is what she is used to. If your not comfortable with it stop co sleeping with her at your place also.
If your doing it then she’s gonna do it with them as well it’s her routine. As long as she’s happy and well looked after I don’t think you should have a problem
Why is it okay for you to co sleep with her but not her dad?
As a step mom that has co slept with my step daughter and husband I see nothing wrong with it. But we also don’t see anything wrong with our daughter co sleeping with mom and step dad either.
If it’s not making her uncomfortable or if there’s no inappropriate things going on, let your daughter be comfortable while with dad
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Coming from a stepmom of 14 years and who loves that boy more than anything in this world.
Sometimes we must be willing to step outside our own comfort zones to make sure our children are okay. We lived in a 7 bedroom Victorian house from 1889 when he was 3-5 years old and he sleep in his toddler bed right next to us, with another bed in his room and beanbag bed in his toy room. It was where my baby was most comfortable, and he still has issues when being in a new place. Please think of your child’s POV and be thankful that woman is willing to love your daughter that much. 
I hope this helps 
Is it the fact that it is the girlfriend that upsets you?
If your child is comfortable enough to sleep with her father and his new partner then it should be acceptable.
Is this your problem with a new girlfriend? And your child’s acceptance of that person in her life?
She will never take your place, and she will never be you.
If you don’t want her to co-sleep with them stop the whole co-sleeping process all together is my idea so it’s not so confusing to your daughter.
But honestly, I would talk to your child’s father about it maybe and find the best solution for your child, maybe no co-sleeping at all is the best solution so your not feeling overwhelmed about it.
If you’re going to try and have her sleep on her own at her father’s, you’re going to have to work on her sleeping on her own with you as well. Otherwise it’s not going to work and will only cause more issues in the end. Let him know you’re uncomfortable with it and go from there but don’t just try and force the poor girl into her own bed when she’s with him while she’s still allowed to sleep with you.
Sounds like u have jealousy issues be happy she treats your child with such love she could be the type to not allow it and make her be alone
I’d be grateful another person feels comfortable enough to share their bed with a child they did not have… honestly, that babe only knows co sleeping. My only concern is babes the safety while sleeping in a bed with someone who’s never done it. Co sleeping more dangerous than a baby sleeping with a blanket in a crib full of stuffed animals! Anywho, to each their own, just as long as she feels safe and comfortable in her new environment…
Cosleeping is the best way to bond. Unless it’s a safety concern like a small bed . Or his girlfriend has given you a reason to be suspicious of her
Then just let them be.
Let your baby feel safe and cared for away from home .
Its a girlfriend … Not a wife or long time partner that he has been with … I would not be comfortable with it an would ask it to not be done… Or she can’t stay the night.
How old is she? I has the "safe touches/body autonomy talk w my kids at 2 and then pretty regularly since. Perhaps just knowing that it’s a healthy situ and the child is happy w it will help your anxiety?
How long have they been together?! Have you met her yet?! I was in a situation like this one time with my ex he had a son 17 months old when we got together he co slept with him out of respect until his son was used to me and I met his mother I would sleep on the couch when he came over on the weekends may I add I didn’t have children of my own at that point in time I just felt it was the right thing to do we did that for about 2 1/2-3 months and then I would sleep with them now that I am a mother of four girls if I was ever to be in this situation I would hope that my ex would respect enough to not just jump right into having our child sleeping next to another woman so no I don’t think your wrong for feeling this way and I would definitely gently bring it up to him good luck mamma
As long as she is not mistreating your child, and she loves and take care of her and RESPECTS her, that’s all that should matter… If she has always co slept , dad’s just keeping on with it since I said u don’t plan on changing that. Shes fine mama
Co parenting is a partnership. You have a right to voice relevant concerns that involve the actual wellbeing of a child. If your ex is serious about this girl and she treats your right your personal dislikes regarding her are something you have to work through yourself. If your child is comfortable co sleeping with her dad like she is you then I don’t see the problem. It wouldn’t be fair for you to force your personal issues and your child be upset from it wondering why she can no longer sleep with her dad. I could understand if you were trying to break her from co sleeping and approached the dad to do the same thing…but this isn’t the case. You and your ex created a human being together…trust me. Unless your child is being harmed let them make their own decisions regarding the opposite parent or the one who gets the resentment will be you.
I’ve had the same situation and my daughters biological father isn’t present but for one night along time ago my daughter slept in the middle of them and I was upset. Her kids don’t sleep with them so why would my daughter who just met this broad (it’s been 4 years since her biological father and his gf saw my daughter) in the middle of them ? Well my husband and I do not co sleep with either but we talked about how nonparent adults should sleep separately either the child sleeps by themselves (creating they’re own boundaries, preferences, and whats best for your child and yourself as a mother) personally I haven’t co slept since my 8 year old was about 9months and that was only when she was sick or jsut needed extra cuddles ! But you should definitely talk with dad so he is aware what your concerns or needs are when it comes to babygirl
Unless you have your child telling you that inappropriate behaviour is happening, or you have a creepy vibe and a bad criminal record check, then it seems more petty than anything else. If you and your husband or boyfriend were in bed, and your child crawled in, would you kick the other half out or send your child to their own room to save face with your ex because he might think that it’s inappropriate for your new man to be in a bed with you and your his child? 
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I would never allow another women to sleep with my child unless they had been together years, same for me of course. I just don’t trust new people instantly and you never really know what people are like especially if you’re not there or asleep!
I don’t think you’re wrong at all. But I doubt he will listen to your request
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How old is she that she has always co-slept? I doubt any woman wants your child sleeping with her & her man, and is going along because it’s what comforts your child. So to say when she’s there I want you to enforce rules I can’t even enforce. And depending on the age, uh maybe you should be. I get kids going through things and needing mom, after divorce & even kids, who have slept alone, prior, will now… for a little while. But, to say a child never… 
For someone to be salty like this and do but not expect the other parent to be allowed is just jealousy. If your child is happy and safe then shouldn’t be a big issue. It’s an issue within the person who is making it a problem
This really sounds like jealousy. You mentioned they take her on trips together which is completely irrelevant to the co-sleeping. Next how old is y’all daughter? How long have y’all been separated? 4th you say y’all are separated. It seems to me that you haven’t let go of the relationship yet. You’re concerned more about your daughter sleeping in the same bed as your ex and his new woman but not concerned about your daughter going out of town with this woman.
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I mean at some point I’m assuming you’ll have a new man, do you plan on cutting off all cosleeping when you do? I 10000% understand the feeling of a new woman coming into her life, I’ve struggled with that for 4 years since my divorce, even though I’m remarried, i think it will always be a hard pill to swallow. However, you can’t be hypocritical. If you don’t want him to do something, you also cannot do it. I think it would be more traumatic on her to suddenly stop when she’s with her dad but then do it when she’s with you. She needs consistency.
My question would be… when your kid is with you personally. How are the sleeping arrangements between you & your child.
You only give 1 side to a story.
Find the common denominator.
He’s the father, if he’s never given you a reason to doubt his ability to care for his child (assuming he hasn’t if he has her overnights) then you need to leave it alone. If the child is happy, safe and comfortable with the situation, it’s none of your business what happens on his parenting time.
Do you have a new partner and do you co sleep? if you do get a new partner will you co sleep? Would you respect your children’s father to say you can’t have your partner in the bed with the child
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I don’t think it’s a control issue or a jealousy issue. I can see where she’s coming from. When I was with my ex (way before we had a daughter) and before he got a new bed for his oldest, they slept in the bed together and I did not when I stayed the night. She and I had just met and getting used to each other so I didn’t want to make her uncomfortable or cross boundaries with anyone. She occasionally would get in bed with me after he left for work later on. Of course that was just me and how I felt about it. Others will be different in the subject, so do what YOU FEEL IS BEST. I would want the same for my daughter. After they knew one another but not all the time. Plus my daughter wouldn’t sleep with anyone without knowing them. If your daughter is uncomfortable with it then I would address it to your ex and get something worked out. Maybe the new GF can sleep in another room some nights, or daughter sleep in the same room but in her own bed, or move her to her room after falling asleep. There’s always a solution!
It’s her dad and there’s absolutely nothing wrong… Your problem is with your ex husband gf you have to accept that she’s part of ur daughters life now and as long the father is dating her this is some of the changes you will have to deal with… You just said you’ll usedy to do it together unfortunately you’ll are separated and life is going on for your ex husband. Put ur jealousy aside.
Your daughter is used to cosleeping…why make it harder on her… cant imagine being all safe and warm at moms but at dads it’s cold and lonely
I feel like the situation is only a problem because it makes you feel uncomfortable. So therefore there should be no “rule” set forth, its really impossible to control anyways. I could understand if the problem was a safety issue, but if you cosleep then thats obviously not the case. Sounds like you want to just cause an uproar and slight inconvenience.
If the child is happy and unharmed I don’t see the problem my daughter has her own space at her dads but still crawls in the bed with her dad and girlfriend sometimes
I mean if co sleeping is all she’s ever done the father probably tried to put her in her own bed a time or two and it didn’t work and co sleeping is the only thing she’s comfortable with so that’s what works for her. I understand not wanting her co sleeping with another women in the bed, but fact of the matter is it’s probably the only way bby girl sleeps and this women is okay with it instead of being a biatchy gf and saying she’s got to sleep in another room, she’s adapted and is letting her because she wants her comfortable too. That’s actually very nice of her and I’d be happy your child is in a house where both adults only want what’s absolutely best for her and what makes her happiest and most comfortable
How will you be approaching the matter when you find a partner and take trips etc?
If there is no safe guarding concerns then I dont see a huge issue. The child is surrounded with love. Appreciate it
So are you saying you co sleep with your daughter but dont want him too
My divorce decree states that no one from the opposite sex can stay past 10pm unless they are married - the girlfriend needs to sleep elsewhere while your child is there, not the child.
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If that’s what she’s used to with you, and she’s happy and comfortable with that, I don’t think you can make two sets of rules of what’s good with one parent is not ok with the other. It’s confusing and painful for your child, and she’s the one who will be hurt and punished by this. Discuss the ground rules you both agree to about intimacy etc with her around. Unless of course you think she’s being harmed or mistreated, which is a different matter entirely, and in which case she should not be around them at all.
Kinda surprised at all the mamas okay with their kid sleeping in bed with a stranger. Cause that’s what it sounds like this gf is. She sounds new to the pic etc.
If be mad. I’d make a deal about it cause I’m paranoid of what can happen to my children. Its why we are here. To protect them.
Do you trust her father? If you do then you should trust that he won’t allow anything to happen to your daughter while she’s there. So what the gf is sleeping in the same bed with him & your daughter, again if you trust the father then you would trust he wouldn’t allow someone around her if he thought they would harm her in someway.
If your daughter only knows co-sleeping then why put stress on your daughter while she’s visiting with her father? I think it’s doing more harm than good for her. Or do you want the father & gf to be stressed out when they’re trying to get her to sleep alone? Do you know how stressful that is? I done that with 2 kids, it’s hard! If you want her to sleep alone then do it at your house first, then tell the father to do it. But if you’re not doing it then why put all the stress on him to do it? It’s crazy!
HELLLLLLL to the NOOOO! Women are sexual predators too. And men are men 
most will never care for their kids as we will and honestly, he ain’t giving up getting laid. Big no from me.