I would want proof of DNA. If blood maybe she is learning how to drive. And wants to be in the same job. But as I read this my gut was telling me he is not her uncle. It’s more like you caught him in a lie and cheating on you and now is trying to manipulate you and making you out to be the bad person. Change the locked on the door. And start living your life for you and the child/ children. File for child support and spousal support. You will be much happier in the long run. Never stay with someone that doesn’t lift you up and make you feel like you are his queen. And never stay with someone for the sake of the children. If momma isn’t happy they won’t be happy. And don’t feel bad for letting go, it’s a lesson in what you don’t need in your life.
Sounds like she’s a side
Sounds like his “niece” is getting banged by your husband. He’s weird and so is she.
Sounds like you are being played.
Maam do you have a divorce attorney yet? Or are you going the shovel,land 
route?
Girl. That ain’t his niece. Seriously?
Are you sure it’s really his niece something seems weird here and his reactions to how you respond I think something is going on with them
It’s either not his niece… or I really really hope it’s not his niece. And as fucked up as that part is, you guys have a whole lot of other problems that I think may take precedence.
I don’t mean for this to offend you, I feel like maybe he’s manipulated you in the past to give things up that you might not have wanted to and because you did that you have the same expectation. Forgive me if I’m wrong. Nobody can make you do anything and you can’t make somebody do something. It is a big red flag and I think he has lied to you saying it is his niece but actually he’s dating a girl right in front of your face.
This whole story is f@$&ing weird. I don’t believe for a second it’s his niece. Especially for him to be treating you this way over your concerns. Take your things and leave his dumb ass.
That’s not his niece
She’s not blood ? If she’s blood you would think … idk lol
Clearly none of y’all have watched “A Wife’s Nightmare” (2014) on prime video 
That does not sound normal to me. He should be spending his time off with your family meaning you& y’all’s son… that whole story is very weird to me…there is something going on behind closed doors that he is trying to cover up
What sibling of his had a daughter? Call that sibling or track them down on FB or something to figure out if its truly his niece. Or is it his mistress?
You have a right to be upset this is weird once in awhile sure but from the sounds of it that is too much time together for them. And if he cares so much about family time he should be there for you and the kids. Keep an eye on him this just gives me incest feels from him.
r you really that Naïve
At this point the way he treats you says a lot in itself regardless of the niece thing or not he shouldn’t be speaking to you in a manner to intentionally hurt your feelings or shutting you out of any room. He could easily explain his personal perspective. why would he even call you a Nazi?
Wow you are gullible
Ummmm sounds like a good dr phill episode …lmao omg…mixed vibes here…but ur gut telling u something…ive always learned to go w it♡
Aint no relative at all. That old trick he is using . girl tell him either it u n ur child or her bc that his side bitch
That is not his niece. Girl you know the answer to your question. Get your ducks in a row and file for divorce.
I’m sorry but that is not his niece. No Uncle wants to do all that 24 seven with his niece. 
Nobody spends that much time with their niece… Esp staying in the same hotel together, every wknd being together… Ect…
HAHAHAHA if that’s really his niece… “Incest” a game a whole family can play. 
what’s a matter with you 
If it’s so shitty and he left then let him stay gone.
I personally am 32 and my blood nephew is 19. We hang out a lot alone. We ride bikes, skateboard, go fishing and go to arcades. My sister treats him bad so I see him like my child. He deserves to know there are kind ppl out there.
-She may jus be doing it bc she is having a good time since he was going to bars and all that before she came along. & yes as sick as it sounds He may see her as attractive. We don’t know him other than what you’re telling us.
This is the father of your children and your husband but at the end of the day he’s still jus a person- I get you’re trying to read your bible and all that but a dog will roam regardless you just gotta decide if you’re going to allow yourself to continue to be abused like that. Idk if you work or not but there are plenty of work from home jobs. I’m not seeing him wanting to be with you tho- honestly. He sounds narcissistic and manipulative. And I know she seems young and “fun” but don’t let that make you seem insecure. Love yourself! Bc at the end of the day it’s your body and spirit that are keeping you going! No one will take care you of the way you can. Life happens fast girl. Enjoy it and start making a life for yourself.
How bored are you ? 
Start thinking him for it in Jesus mighty name
Whaaat… girl run. That is not his niece.
This is incredibly abusive.
Sharing everything with his niece is so wrong! You can feel it in your bones he’s banging her so please don’t fall for his lies and leave! It’s going to be much worse plus him ignoring you and your babies is the worst thing a father/husband could do 
whole situation sounds insane to me
She’s not his niece. Come on girl, why would you fall for that?
That’s just not sitting right with me. Trust your gut. If it were me, I’d be packing his shtuff and changing the locks before he got back.
Is that really his niece? If it is then he may need help. He may have fantasies about her. Sounds weird. Or she’s lying and saying she’s his niece but they’re together. It just sounds fishy to me. Trust your gut instinct . Document everything. You just had a baby. Niece or not Niece. You come first with that baby and other kids.
I don’t think it’s in an issue if he just met her and wants to know her but it does seem like alot of time out together doing what couples do that being said you also can not be breaking doors down in your home with your kids in the house watching and hearing that all fact is if you don’t trust him with his niece then you dont trust him at all if your gut tells you he is a predator then leave him no more fights with those babies around
Are you serious? That’s not his niece. Sounds like that’s his side chick.
Why is the niece just now showing up? I’m thinking she’s not his niece.
Why is he just now meeting his niece for the first time in January??? And she’s in her 20s! I don’t think that’s his niece because if it really was why would he get so upset like he did?

This relationship sounds extremely toxic and controlling from both sides. Sounds like you both have some issues and trauma you need to work on and tbh sounds like you need to work through these separately.
He has no right to treat you this way, and you do not want your children to grow up treating woman either, time to focus on you and your children, For the people laughing at a lot posts why are you in group that member ask advice
When he left, did he go to said Nieces house?
If you are hitting that much of nerve it could be a few things. All of which screams toxic and narcissistic.
If this really is his family that he’s just meeting I can definitely understand wanting to get to know them but he should definitely not be walking all over your feelings, he should be talking to you to find a compromise that you’re both comfortable with. Your feelings and needs matter and if he’s not willing to talk through this then he is telling you your feelings don’t matter and he doesn’t value making you feel secure in your relationship.
My other thoughts is a crappy one but I’ve seen this stuff before.
Is this really his niece? Could this be someone just trying to scam him for money? Or even worse someone not related to him that he’s actually seeing? 
Hun not respecting you coupled with what you have said sounds like he could already have feelings for someone else so he’s trying to keep you just happy enough to stay and him be able to do what he wants.
I know you say your a Christian, but please think of yourself and set healthy boundaries and even when it’s hard be willing to back them up or consider leaving. He’s already verbally abusing you and trying to manipulate you to make you think you’re crazy. It only escalates from here when they’re not willing to do counseling and open to changing for the better, and let’s face it we all know narcissistic people don’t change they just move onto the next victim to love bomb.
I stopped reading, she isnt his niece and if she is… Weird alert! Just saying…
The NFL doesn’t have enough flags to throw on either side of this issue.
How is she his niece exactly. Sounds like more than that
I get that you are religious but you need marriage counseling. God can’t help your marriage. It will take working diligently with a therapist. If he wants to spend time with his 20-something niece, fine, BUT no over night trips. He is abusing you emotionally. You need a break from your kids 24/7. He needs to give a whole more to the relationship.
That’s not his neice
I truly believe God closes doors for us because He knows the conversation on the other side.
We often keep picking up what is not meant for us until it stings hard enough to make us put it down for good. This stings for a reason.
Girl, that don’t sound like no niece, she must be adopted, huh?
Okay long lost niece… that doesn’t sound right. On the flip side on my dads side of the family I have 6 uncles and 1 aunt. I am extremely close to all of my uncles. We have a super close bond and I was raised around them from the day I was born. They’re all like extra fathers to me but with the fact that I can also hang out and do whatever. We all talk all the time and we go out to bars etc. Super close knit family here. So I would get it if she had been raised around your husband and they had that bond. The thing that doesn’t sit right is that she’s a “long lost niece”.
It would serve you right if he did hate you
Doesn’t sound like she’s really his niece. Call cheaters and see if they can investigate lol
Trust your gut. If he’s really mad at you and locked you out in your room. He’s guilty.
Are you sure it’s his niece? If it is, maybe isnt any of the things you are letting get to you. However, I do understand as a young mother, you are probably feeling a little trapped. Maybe, if you could have some get away time too, to destress, maybe a new perspective could be reasoned.
What in the backwoods bum fuck shit did I just read 
Idk why everyone on here is saying it’s weird… she’s being controlling really getting jealous over family? My husband tried that shit with me and I told him to kick rocks. Family is family stop trying to keep him from his family family comes before anyone even a spouse
You don’t leave the house?
They would share a hotel room?
He takes her out drinking?
He’s mad instead of understanding when you express concern?
He was ALREADY gone, he just finally said it out loud, because you weren’t picking up on all the evidence he was handing you
I wonder if she is really a niece.
Sounds like it’s not actually his neice, sound s more like his side chick
Love how must here jump on the incest thing, if they weren’t related she would know.
Also love how most just skimmed over her violent controlling tendencies to side with her.
It’s his family what’s the big deal
Yeah I don’t think that’s his niece. I’ve never seen a man invested in getting to know a niece or nephew especially meeting them for the first time in their 20s
Is it actually his niece?
Girly that’s either not his niece or he’s into some keep it in the family stuff…….
He wants to spend a week with his 20 year old niece…he locks you out of the bedroom, you go off and try to break the door down? Sounds like there’s a lot more to this story than we know. I feel sorry for the kids in that not house!
Have you spoke the the sibling that is supposed a parent to this niece? Because honestly she sounds like a mistress to me. I think you should get a divorce and move on it life. This guy doesn’t deserve you or your kids.
Hold up… Are you 100% sure it’s a niece? Think about that. How many men (no less MARRIED men) want to share a hotel room with a “niece” they’ve only known for 4 weeks? I’m sorry, Sis. My “hoe-dar” is going off and I get the feeling he’s banging a side piece. I could be wrong but he sure does get pissed & defensive about it when you express your feelings. Now at the drop of a dime he wants to dissolve the family unit? There’s a little something off about all of this.
That’s only 3 months of knowing someone… and he’s throwing away his whole life? Hi Red, have you met Flag…
My girlfriend would kill me if I talk like that
Definitely not niece if showing up all the time and going to work with him. Don’t you have connections with his family to find out if she really is a niece? It doesn’t sound right at all I belive more of a side chick if he’s acting that way. Nobody hangs out with “family” like that and gets hotel room staying in same room after just supposedly meeting…WAKE UP the rest of us can see it!!
Just because it seem a like ur not getting the answer from got that u want! doesn’t mean he isn’t giving u the answer u don’t want! maybe god knows more than what ur wanting to accept and that the best thing for u and the kids is to leave. not being mean just letting u see it from a different perspective!
I would have a “family reunion” since she’s his niece. We’ll see if she brings makes her related to him. Something ain’t right.
lmfao… yeah, ok… his long lost niece… sure, we’ll go with that 
I get the feeling that ain’t no niece. Better start rethinking that marriage. If he’s getting aggressive and avoiding you… its pretty much a done deal.
Lmao. You are pretty gullible if you think that’s his niece. Smh.
Is she a “niece” or an actual niece?
Are you sure that’s his biological niece? Even still, there’s plenty of cases where people meet their long lost family members and end up sleeping with them. Sad but very much possible and that’s the vibes I’m getting. It’s definitely something not right with that situation relative or not. Men tend to act out more and act extra over the most simple things when they are up to no good. Gives them to reason to wanna leave so sudden to go do whatever. I’d definitely look into that if I were you so you can actually have proof of the infidelity if you decide to divorce. Don’t sell yourself short honey. Play it cool, get what you need & do what you need to do
Why doesn’t this “niece” have a job?
Sounds like lots of gaslighting going on!
He’s super defensive, it sounds like! This “niece” isn’t his niece! I’d need to see some blood work, DNA, some 23 and me stuff…ummmm NO!!! This is some back woods, banjo strumming, moonshine sipping *ish. You don’t need this. I’ve been in your shoes! All I can say is , put those said shoes on, and RUUUUUNNNNNN!!!
There is 100% something off about this situation.
I bet that’s not his niece at all.
That’s not his niece ma’am.
That’s his sugar baby aka the side chick.
What?? He shuts you out of the bedroom when you daughters are sick and baby crying?? Nope! He will be doing you and the kids a favor to leave.
Look y’all I’m all for family but i would NEVER share a room with my adult nephews especially a trip alone on the road and i RAISED them he JUST MET this girl
He’s cheating & that’s his girlfriend.
This “niece” is in her late 20s. Not a child. What close the 30 year old woman wants to go on the road with her uncle she just met? I guess it could happen but it sounds pretty unlikely. And his reaction to you questioning him about it is a huge red flag.
I know everyone is saying that’s not his niece, so do you know for sure she is his niece I’m assuming that you do know if she’s family or not. You said that she is a sweetheart and I’m wondering to him if your coming across as saying there’s an improper relationship going on between them because that’s the way it’s coming across to me as I’m reading what you posted. I think it’s ok for him to spend time with a family member, you have to ask yourself are you getting ideas in your head about them or is there something going on. He shouldn’t be treating you badly or going out every weekend if you’ve just had a baby, he sounds selfish to me, you have other children in the house and I can tell you yelling and screaming breaking down doors is not a good thing to do in front of them. Do you have another place to go so you can take a breath and think about things or if the house is both of yours ask him to leave for a little while since you have children to take care of. I don’t understand him taking her along on a work trip if she was younger and they had another family member maybe.
I am so so so sorry and don’t mean to sound forward or disrespectful but, you just described an affair almost. But, with his niece. Who he just met
“Niece” as in The movie Pretty Woman niece or is it his actual blood niece??
What in the actual hell🙄
I’m thinking the same as most on here I don’t think that’s his niece?!?!
So you know this is his niece for a fact? I mean seems odd to me that a married man with kids is so attached to a niece he never knew. Which of his siblings does this niece belong to and why wasn’t he allowed to be involved then for so many years? Sorry but kinda sketchy to me. And if it is actually his niece that relationship still just seems to be a little much to me
Thats not his niece lol
Girl. THAT. IS. PROBABLY. NOT. his. niece as he claims 
Is it really his niece tho? Do you know the sister or brother? Is it really his sister or brothers child?? Not like “he’s like my brother” or “she’s like my sister” kid. So that makes her a “niece” now if it really is his niece then I don’t see the problem, but if it isn’t then it is for sure a red flag.
Not your family, not your place. it’s his niece.
Can any other family members vouch that is indeed a neice???
I hate to say that but she’s probably not his niece.
I don’t care who it is, that is completely inappropriate behavior and also non caring in any way.