Calling CPS is really unnecessary.
A bad cold? Explain? Is she not getting taken care of in regards to her cold?
Usually with cold pediatric doctors do not do much Other than suggest things like a humidifier, saline most mist, warm baths, etc
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Take her to the Emergency Room of your local hospital.
Speak to your lawyer
See if you can possibly be granted an emergency hearing. She is a preemie and has already had breathing issues. Calling the cops does nothing. Children and youth canât over step a court order. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING⌠phone calls, text, conversations, cancelled appointment, etc. cover your butt with ALL facts and the court is more likely to listen.
Call cops to do a welness check on her
Call social services. Call police and do a wellness check on her.
Have the police do a wellness check for peace of mind.
Call an ambulance to his house and let EMS Argue with him. (They will at least evaluate her and in most states EMS first responders are mandated reporters meaning they must report to social services if they think there is child abuse and not taking a sick child to the hospital is abuse) BAM! Game set matchâŚu win. No matter what you are ok. Your baby is protected. You did your job as a mom without doing ANYTHING which would jepordize your position in court! Winner!!
Theres more to this. Why do you only have visitation? If he was so bad he wouldnt have her more then you.
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Try leaving the cops and CPS out of the picture unless absolutely necessary cuz it could bite you on the ass! Not sure what symptoms she has that concerns you but whooping cough is going around in my state so you might want to try convincing him to take her if coughing is an issue! Why doesnât he want her to go if she has been sick in the past??
Ask your attorney and not a bunch of strangers
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Send the police over for a wellness check and they will most definitely call an ambulance for her. That is so scary for her and she could definitely be in danger!!
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Personally I would call 911 and give them his address 
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Call the police and have them do a wellness check, tell them your worries, tell them sheâs immune compromised. They will go and access the situation.
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Send police for wellness check
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Take her on your visit. Urgent care, er, regular dr ir whatever you get her into
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Is she running a temp? And is her mucous green⌠Dr canât do anything if itâs just a common cold
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Take her yourself on your next visitation day.
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Call the police. They will do a wellness check and call the correct authorities if needed.
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If you have joint legal custody then you have a say so as well. I would honestly tell him to take her or youre calling the police on him because he knows sheâs sick thats child neglect if she (god forbids) were to possibly die due to being severly sick he can get charged with murder because he knew and didnt do anything about it. The police will make him take her to the doctor/ER.
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You know what you should do if your a good mother. She sick now not later. Police wellness check
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Send the police heâs being irresponsible you canât take chances with your childâs life
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Could you call police and explain whats going on and see if thereâs anyway they can help?
I feel like my daughter* needs to go to the doctor.
Sheâs your daughter tooooooooooo.
Call these cops if you have to.
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I just brought my kiddo in for a cold/pink eye, and they said watching for breathing issues because there has been lots of cases of RSV already. Not to scare ya, but as the other ladies are saying, send police for wellness check! Hope she feels better!
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Not knowing all the legal stuff involved makes it hard to say really.
But, if you are that concerned, I would call the police and see if they can do a wellness check and give them all the background information.
If you are allowed to take her on visitations (away from the father), then it might be good to take her to the doctor yourself. BUT, say you do that and she needs medication, sounds like the father wouldnât give it to her anyway. So, Iâm not really sure what you can do other than report him to the police.
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Call the police for a wellness check. Also get with your lawyer and let them know whatâs going on.
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Either my child is going to the doctor or Iâm going to jail 
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As a respiratory therapist I will tell you he absolutely needs to take her in to the doctor because bronchiolitis is going around really bad right now and you know from past experience how fast it can go downhill. Iâm not saying this to scare you, Iâm saying it because with her preemie history and her history already sheâs going to be far sicker than the average completely healthy baby. So you really need to make sure that he gets her taken care of.
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Unless the visitation is in a supervised facility (such as a supervised visit with DCF/CPS), or otherwise supervised with restrictions, the OP can take the child wherever she damn well pleases. I donât really understand why she couldnât just take the child to urgent care or the pediatrician on her next visit. This would be the most logical thing to do.
Since there is an active court proceeding and the OP doesnât have joint physical custody then there is likely DCF/CPS involvement and/or a guardian ad litem appointed to represent the childâs best interest. Either the social worker or the guardian ad litem can/should be contacted if the OP cannot take the child out of a supervised visit. OP should explain her concerns to them and request their support in encouraging the father to seek medical treatment, and if they cannot intervene directly it will at least be documented that she had concerns.
Presumably the child will need to be brought to the 6 month well-child visit, so if the child is close to turning 6 months perhaps the father is simply waiting to see what happens over the next week or so. Since we donât know what OP considers a horrible cold or what condition the child is actually in, this may or may not be unreasonable.
It is quite unusual for a mother to only have visitation, so it may go without saying that the best way to take care of the babyâs health long term will be correcting whatever issues resulted in the loss of physical custody in the first place.
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Rsv is nothing to play with
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I feel like every time this account posts a âfan questionâ their more outrageous. I call bullshit and whoever is running the account is bullshit out of their ass tbh. Searching shit on google.
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Are you also saying you wonât see the child until then as well? This makes a difference in an answer.
I agree the child needs dr ASAP but if OP doesnât physically have her then I think sheâs asking what her options are. ?? Am I wrong?
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Tell the whole story.
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Send police for wellness check
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I would call DCF on the situation. They will go out in less than 24 hours and investigate.
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For Pete sakes !!! She is your daughter. Take her to the doctor. You donât have to ask for permission if you have joint custody.
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Refusing medical attention is against the law ⌠wonât look good for him
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Call in a welfare check
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RSV virus is running rampantâŚcall 911 if have too and tell the police the situation they should be able to guide you in the direction you may need to go
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This has been posted for 20min
Where is ur update stating u called the police and she is on the way to the hospital via ambulance?
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Can you call his mom? Sounds silly I know but seriously. If she loves her grandbaby she will go up in there an take that baby herself! Also she might be able to make him see the reason for concern moms are good like that. Also you can call 911 for a wellfare check and they can assess the situation and see if she needs medical treatment right then or not
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He said. You said and the truth of why you do not have custody
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Ok. Dad has physical custody. I would say the courts feel he is a fit parent⌠But if you are that worried then call your case worker and ask them to check into it.
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Call your judge or lawyer and tell them whatâs going on and that heâs refusing treatment. They will give you permission to take the baby in
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I think youâd have better luck with contacting your lawyer or something then a Facebook page âŚ
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Go get the child and take to the hospital, smdh⌠RSV virus is serious
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Is Dad caring for this cold? Dad may have already taken her to his Dr. if you have visitation I cannot imagine you know all the aspects of babies life. If you call the police unless you know for a fact that abuse is happening, this will be bad on both of yall. Give Dad a chance and ASK HIM what has he done this far⌠my sons have had pretty serious colds cared for at home because they were too young for any medications or treatments. Just my thoughts.
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Yall are suggesting her to call the police. Just heads up, if they show up and see she needs to go to the dr and dad is refusing to take the child then they child will be removed from his custody as well⌠doesnt mean mom will get her back considering she has court next month. Evidently somethings going on because her father has the child and the mother doesnt. Maybe he is taking care of it and just isnt telling the mother because she only has visitation rights 
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Also @OP, have you called the pediatrician and described the symptoms to the on-call doctor? If they advise the baby doesnât need to be seen then Iâd follow that advice. If they suggest the baby be seen or go to urgent care, then advise the doctor that you will provide this information to the father but he has told you he wonât take the baby in. Any decent pediatrician will note this and if they follow up and the baby hasnât been seen and is not better, theyâll make their own medical neglect report.
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Just save Babys life just 5ake her to dr no one should say any thi.g if u take herâŚbut if u dont they will charge u with child neglectâŚ
Better get that baby checked thatâs the last thing you wouldnât wanna do
Like they call and have them do a welfare check and maybe the cops can tell him take to er if thatâs the case
Itâs rsv seasonâŚIs he slow?
CAll an ambulance for her
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Court. CPS. You have more power than you think. He is hurting the welfare of his own kid. Write a statement and file a report!
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I would take her to the doctor .father should know better
Call your lawyer and see if you can get/file emergency custody until the court date.
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Which of you file you should get her right away until the court date
To everyone questioning why she doesnât have custody⌠right now thats not important. Right now all that matters is the child needs medical care and the mother wants to know how she can get it for her child.
Call police tell them situation and ask for welfare check ALSO call your lawyer and tell them to put it on your file that u have done this.
I hope bub gets to a dr soon. Good luck mumma and ignore these nasty comment. The Facebook warriors love making bad situations feel so much worse then they are.
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Lots of suggestions here to call the police and hardly any to actually consult with the doctor by phone first. Huh.
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How does everyone know that the father hasnât rang a doctor or nurse on call or already been to the doctors and got told that it is a common cold and that there isnât anything to be done? Calling the cops and cps is extremely unfair and far fetched. Iâm sure the father isnât going to deny his baby the doctors if she is really sick!!!
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What child under 5 months is given meds for a cold??? Iâll wait cause Iâve had to blow snot out, warm bath, and a whole lotta other shit to take care of a cold in my Littles when they couldnt be treated SMH.
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Wow all you rude probably not even pass your twenties and has No Compassion, judgmental mothers need to calm the flip down and I hope and pray you donât find yourself in this situation If you have nothing nice to say then SHUT UP and troll on. And as a MIMI of three I would call DFACTS and ask surely you or him has a social worker that you can get in touch with if not I would call the police dept. the baby could have RSV which is deadly for babies. Prayers for you and your child.
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Call ambulance and law enforcement and fire department
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I always take my kids to the doctor just to make sure itâs nothing serious! They are 5 & almost 2! They are usually fine but in some cases have needed antibiotics! I really worry that my son is in school and catches things way to more frequently! If the baby is in daycare or around older kids I would definitely do anything I could to get seen by a doctor! And as others have said RSV is no joke and her being a preemie and health issues she definitely needs to be checked out at least
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I think you call the pediatrician and see what they say. Then go through other means. Calling CPS and the police is extreme. Also taking the baby to the ED when itâs not an emergency is also not the right thing to do. Just saying. No offense if the dad has custodial rights, I have a hard time believing he wonât take a sick baby to the doctor. Just my opinion.
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This is complete insanity. Is this post a joke? Or?? How does a mother not have custody of her 5 month old infant? This page is officially unfollowed⌠Buh bye
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You people do realize a cold can be treated at home right? It is possible. A cold is not an ER trip. Maybe a pediatrician on monday if she isnt better yet situation but not a late night ER trip.
A lot of over dramatic people in here I see.
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I would go to the dads house, tell him Iâm taking the baby to the doctor and tell him he can go with you or stay. Period.
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If you have a caseworker with childrenâs services, call them and make them aware of the situation. Hopefully theyâll come out for a welfare check. If attorneyâs are involved, have your attorney contact his to urge him to get medical attention for the baby. If all else fails, call child protection. Preemies are more likely to get RSV, which is quite serious.
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You can call the police inform them of the situation and they will do a well child visit. If they think she needs to go they will have her brought in
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Ring ur Dr get advice if he feels there is a need for medical intervention it will happen or ring NICU she would have been in there on breathing tube⌠Use your visitation to check her out yourselfâŚ
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For the people saying âitâs just a coldâ, how do YOU know?! Being taken to the docs to get checked shouldnât be that big a deal to dad. Especially considering the babyâs past history!! I say call police, ambulance, and CPS too!!
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I would talk to the dad and see why it is that he doesnât want to take her to the dr. If itâs that he doesnât have time offer to take her yourself or of its money or health insurance offer to pay for it and sign for responsibility of payment! If he simply just doesnât think she needs to go explain to him why your worried about her and Express your concern. Communication goes farther then you might think!
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Um you take that baby to the doctor Anytime you feel like it. Better to be an over cautious mom then a mom to a dead baby PERIOD
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Call the cops and ask them to do a welfare check because your babies super sick and dad refuses to get her checked out.
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If you do actually have joint custody, he will have the child half of time. Make an appointment for the doctor. Getting so tired of the drama on Facebook.
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Idk how you lose custody of a baby unless it was born addicted.
Anyway if the court is finding him the one most responsible to care for her then let him. If itâs serious, Iâm sure he will take her to the dr.
Unless there is trouble breathing or a high fever an er is not needed
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Iâd document and bring this up in court, and ring CPS
Bigger issue is why you donât have custody of your baby
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my daughters most recent âjust a coldâ was croupâŚimmunocompromised child here, too. a cold can be absolutely deadly for these kiddos, especially one who was a preemieâŚso to those if you saying âits just a cold, treat it at homeââŚa big middle finger to yall. dont even care if that sounds rude. this baby could have RSV, influenza, croup, etcâŚyou never know if a cold is just a cold.
I would document, bring it up in court, contact CPS, police, etc etc etc. You bet your butt I would! What he is doing is neglect.
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You go to his house, sit in the driveway, call 911 for an ambulance. They show up, the baby is looked at. Period.
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Call the after hours doctors out to his residence
Welfare check and theyâll call paramedics if needed. If hes also not meeting her medical needs then hes not looking after her.
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Call ex in-laws, express your concerns and ask them to take her to doctor
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Make it seem like his idea to take her. Try and put it in his head some way. I used to do that with my kids dad cause he never listened to me. So I just made everything âhisâ idea.
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Take her to the ER on your visitation.
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And this is why fathers rights movements have become so popular. Sorry had more to say but my son just coughed so I have to call the cops and rush him to the doctors! He is in dire need of care 
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If you really think it is that serious call your local police department and request a welfare check.
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Omg stop judging! She did not post her whole story so you all dont know it! Rude righteous dicks!
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I thought momâs were supposed to support each other. Reading some of these comments and some of these women should be ashamed of themselves. Nobody is the perfect parent, we all make mistakes.
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Well, if it were dire, Iâd call the paramedics to his house (making sure she was there) However, he has the right to refuse the ride, and it could come back on you as a false call, which clearly is not a good idea.
If your relationship with his parents is strong, express your worries to them.
If he canât take her because he doesnât have time at work, see if the in laws can join you to take her (sort of like a supervised visit)
Whatever you have to do, do it (all legally of course) I feel if you keep nicely asserting pressure and awareness, theyâll take her. Praying for your baby!
Call CPS- child protection services in your area. End of story
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Iâd call the police and they will send an ambulance for a health check if itâs serious enough it is considered medical neglect
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You have to let them know the legal situation and her medical history.
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If the concern was that real, you wouldnt be here asking questions and advice.
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Whys he got her in the 1st placeâŚcall cps
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Doesnât joint legal custody give you the right to make medical decisions as well? Call the doctor and explain the situation
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Document it bring it up in court when you go