Cut your losses and leave u don’t need someone like that if he has any feelings he would want to work it out
You shouldn’t want to live your life with a lying cheater. Let him go and move on. Your babies are the most important people right now in your life and you don’t need to waste your time or energy dealing with a man that doesn’t want to fight for his family. You will be so much happier and maybe one day a man will come along that will reciprocate everything you give to him. You deserve it.
He wanted this life till he found someone else.
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Sending hugs .and prayers .
Cheating and gas lighting
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Hugs. I’m not sure. Probably since the trust isn’t there. I’m not sure why you need his passwords. You should end it on a respectful note for the kids. He didn’t want to try that’s not your fault.
Give it time. No direct confrontation. But prepare for the he future anyway possible
You def. Need to get a divorce ! I am so so sorry that everything has come to this and you are now heart broken .
I know you love him but you wouldn’t be being fair to you or your children if you decided to somehow stay in the marriage . You deserve to be loved the way that you love him!
I know that this is very hard for you but you have to get through this . Hopefully your heart will heal quicker than you can imagine!
I pray that everything gets better for you.
Everything happens for a reason and even though you have no clue why & you may never truly know , please trust God and Jesus because they know what is best for you, they know the way … hold on because things can & will get better!
I’m sorry you are going through this! Any man who is willing to walk away and give everything up is weak and pathetic! Social media has ruined many relationships. 
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Consult with multiple lawyers in your area, (If they talk to you, he can’t hire them), and get a counselor for yourself. He’s showing you that you don’t want to waste any more of your life with him.
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Let him go …you and your kids will be so miserable if you hang on …the fact that he dragged it on and now you have real little ones is not funny …I hope you take him to the cleaners …not funny when men get you having babies and then ditch …I sorry this is happening to you …you definitely deserve better than him 
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If you have to fight for Love, it’s not worth having. I thought I was lucky as a wife, found out men are not monogamous by nature… The majority are flipping CHEATERS. After 42 years he is no longer on a pedestal😒
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Sounds like he met someone.
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If you try to make it work you will just be miserable and feel even more unloved. Love yourself and let him go. He has someone else. Let him make his huge mistake.
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Let him go. He’s not worth fighting for. Think of yourself and your children now.
Sounds like he has not only made a decision, but has found someone else. You need to figure out what is best for you and your kids, obviously he isn’t. Get a lawyer first! Document everything you can. Phone calls, every thing.
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Children change the dynamics of a relationship. Your attention and energy now has to go towards the children and not to him. Men who aren’t all in about having children, participating in their growth, development, and daily needs, will have low-key resentment of the time you now spend with them instead of with him. People change over time and if his change has him seeing himself as a single person, grant him his wish. Don’t fight for something where you are the only one doing the work.
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Let him go. Secrets and lies are not worth keeping a relationship around . And don’t stay for the kids… you are better of single… if he can’t respect you enough to be opened, honest and trustworthy don’t waste your time.
I cant stand liars, or people who play games, once I get a feeling I’m being lied to or they want to play games and not be honest and loyal, I back off and keep them at arms distance. Then I just give up. If they aren’t in my corner then I don’t want them around.
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Let him go. I pray for you! It isn’t easy.
He’s definitely got a woman, she probably thinks he’s divorced ! When he gets tired of her, or she him, he will come crawling back to you,usually within a year! Please get yourself a good attorney and move on with your life,you are worth more than his second choice! There will come a time when you will not feel any kind of love for him. Prayers for you and your babies!!
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Sounds like he is cheating, and when you got him, he opted out of the relationship. Using it as an excuse. And he doesn’t want you to have proof he’s cheating for alimony, that’s why he changed his passwords.
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He’s got a side piece and she’s clogging his mind girl… anyone that willing to drop something so meaningful has someone in their other ear. I’m so sorry he said all that, I can’t imagine how painful it must have been. Try to talk to him again, and let him know that you hear what he’s saying but YOU DO still love him and you want to work through whatever this is he’s going through. If he continues to be combative then take a break I’d say… see what happens once he’s actually without you. If he comes back to you, he’s yours and always will be… if not, then it is what it is unfortunately. Men’s minds are easily manipulated by women and unfortunately it does happen… especially in long term relationships sometimes… I’m only giving advice based on what I’d do, do what’s best for you. Best of luck love. xx
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hes cheating 100 and caught up in it
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Here is your answer right underneath your post on my timeline
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So he now uses new passwords on new social media accounts, and he has your childs picture as the profile picture? smells fishy and unacceptable, face facts, protect your kids
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I hate to think this but I think he’s got a gal on the side already. Get a lawyer and make sure you will be taken care of financially.
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You caught him. You can’t fight when he made it clear he doesn’t want to fix this. Get him for child and spousal support and do you girl!
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Lady. He has a girlfriend
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Don’t stay for the kids. Get out as soon as possible.
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He’s seeing someone it’s more then what he’s just saying. Find out the truth and then figure out what you really want to do.
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First thing is do you want it to work
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You can’t force someone to stay. He’d have to go though wouldn’t be sleeping in my bed/ house period. Be grateful the trash is taking itself out
Let him go. He probably has someone else and girl you deserve better.
Child and spousal support! Get proof of his obvious side piece for court! And remember, she will lose him how she got him.
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Child and spousal support first up. This man is going to realise that although he may want to step out of his and your life that you’ve made together he still has responsibilities for another 17 years if your youngest is 1 year old.
I would never try to win someone back or fight for them especially if they’ve told me flat out they are not happy and don’t want to continue, that is not love. 
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Let him go after you see a lawyer and take him for enough for you and your children can live comfortably!!
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Dog has a girlfriend
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Let him go " in fact pack his stuff & through it out " he is cheating " & all wrapped up in someone else, & no longer wants his happy family " got the head light on full beam & thinks he has found something better " he will soon find out the grass is not greener on the other side so give him the boot 
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Lawyer up, protect your self and your kids!
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Whatever you do, don’t chase after and beg him to see the light. He’s got to do that all on his own. Time to focus on yourself and what you want and your needs. I’d start with having a good hard and long cry, then straighten myself out, and then I’d make an appointment for a full and complete makeover and I mean go all out and go all in on yourself. Consider it an investment in yourself. It will help you with your broken heart and your self esteem. Start exercising and building yourself up. Look for a job or a better job, and worry about yourself and your children’s needs only. Don’t cook, clean, or do any laundry for him anymore. Let him take care of himself, and you also make sure to leave the kids with him when he comes home too. Let him get the full experience of being a parent and especially without your help and you being there to help with anything. That means book a massage, go for a mini vacation, or whatever you need to do to get some “you” time. He’ll notice the changes, and he’ll either continue with his decision or will soon realize and regret his decision, and hopefully by then you’ll be in a better place mentally and emotionally, and you’ll know more about what’s best for you at that point, and it’s likely not going to be with him. Read this, and then read it again. It’s a fact. But hopefully by then you’ll know the full story and will be in a much better and healthier place. I’d suggest counseling for myself, especially since he’s already decided he’s not going to even try. Do it for you.
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Tell him to kick rocks! What a dick!
Its going to be a hard one but let him go and move one you wil move to better things in life and he will look and wish it was him in that better place with you he wil have regrets and you wont
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well if he wants to go make sure u break him take everything then maybe he will change his mind if not you cant help him
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You better chanel frozen real quick!
Let him go, focus on yourself and your kids and lawyer up quick…save every text you will need them 
sorry but if he’s not happy it’ll never work and you deserve better. Hugs momma I’ve been there and everything happens for a reason
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I would say he is seeing someone and since you have brought it up he can now tell you it’s over and his is disinterested. Best thing to do is to pack his stuff and let him go. He has already checked out. Make sure he takes responsibility for his children and start to work on you! You’ve got this and you’re stronger than you’ll ever know.
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Let him go he got a side piece
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If you love someone set them free if they come back than it was meant to be
He hasn’t been happy for 2+ years .time has long past to fight .and to be honest if he is just now saying something means he didn’t want to work on it
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No point fighting for something he doesn’t want… sorry, Girl 
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I pretty sure he’s done hun move on you deserve better.
he’s cheatin…get a good lawyer <3 sorry you will get over tthe pain he causes you but you’ll have to deal with the pain he causes your kids for another 20 years 
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Let that man go. Sounds like he has found a new interest already and seems quite determined to push you away.
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Cant fight to save a marriage that no longer exists. Hes already gone. Fight for YOU and your babies.
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Hun don’t fight for him! Wall away, get your own career and take everything from him, his clearly having an affair. Trust you gut instinct, act as if you don’t care , move out with the kids with out him knowing get Centrelink parenting payment and show him what his missing out on.
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Get a lawyer, put his stuff in a storage unit and don’t look back! Get child support, spousal support, car, house all of it and do it with a smile! Do not beg this guy, do not let him see you breaking, keep your head high and know that you’ve got this!! Good luck to you 
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You’d be the only one fighting. It sucks but don’t let him waste any more of your time. You can’t make him stay.
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Iif u r sure he truly loves u, fight for ur marriage, u have 3 kids with him u know, get him back if he loves u…
This happened to me. Planned pregnancy, I was so happy the entire relationship. Randomly one day he just up and decided he didn’t want anymore and “hadn’t been happy for awhile” never brought it up. Didn’t want to work on anything, nothing. Turns out he left me for his coworker
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He’s cheating on you get a lawyer save every text record every conversation protect yourself
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Time to get a good lawyer and make sure he lives up to his responsibilities. You deserve better. I’m sure he thinks the grass is greener. Will be awhile before he learns it’s not. By that time I’m sure you will find another love.
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Chances are he’s met someone else, so I’d walk out of that marriage while keeping things amicable for the children and don’t look back.
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See an atty, he needs 2 help support kids etc. Make sure he doesn’t clean out shared bank accts or hide assets. gl!
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I’m sure he is already seeing someone else.
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Know you’re worth and walk away for u and your kids. Seems to be a pattern that they realize the grass isn’t greener but by then, you’ll have moved on!
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Let him go, he clearly doesn’t think it’s worth a fight… move on girl cause he already did!
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He’s seeing someone else
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you’re mad he ended things like that over the phone but you asked him…
Also, if there’s no room for marriage counseling, do what you can & leave his ass.
Time to go !!! U got this!! Sending my love it’s gonna be hard especially when only one person wants out and it’s not u😢get a plan together ASAP
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Let him go he has someone else for the past 2 years. Learn to love yourself more than someone else. He doesn’t deserve you
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I’m thinking if he doesn’t even wanna work it out at all then he has someone else lined up or already with them, sorry mamma think your option is divorce, don’t let him make you feel low, saying he’s just stupid for staying with you, he was just having easy ride till he found something better. He’s already checked out so take care of yourself and your children you got this 
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Hes cheating. Its not worth fighting for. Hes telling you nothing will change his mind. Let him go now while u still have some dignity left. Unfortunately life doesnt generally go the way you plan. No matter how much you love someone you cant make them love you back
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Let him go if he comes back his yours if he doesn’t come back make fantastic life for u and your kids and make him so jealous it won’t be easy but give it a good try
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He’s got someone already or has eyes on someone already 
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The more you fight for this marriage, the more he’d resent you and be bitter towards you. IF IT WERE ME, I’d let him go because I deserve a whole lot better than that. If you do decide that you are letting him go, make sure you get a darn good lawyer and MAKE him pay child support
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There is someone else. When a happy men suddenly turns cold, it means there is someone else in the picture. If he’s rushing to end a relationship quickly and bluntly it’s because he’s eager to move on with someone else.
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When things get tough, men get weak. Been there. It’s pathetic! 100% sadly I hate to tell you, he’s talking/ seeing someone else. But he is. Go with your gut! Grass isn’t always greener on the other side and one day when he realizes that, Maybe it will be too late for him to fix it. Just hearing your husband say that to you is heartbreaking. Don’t let it keep breaking mama, boss up, breathe, and you do you and your kids. The more you try the further he’s Gona go in the other direction. It’s when you don’t care, they change their tune
Positive vibes for you! 
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Give him exactly what he wants.
See a lawyer, like now, get everything ready. File for full custody and child support. Retain the home. Get in therapy for you.
Be ready for him to come running back when he realizes what he’s done. Do NOT, I repeat, DO NOT take his sorry behind back unless he’s doing marriage counseling and on his own for at least a year.
He’ll have to answer to the children one day. That’ll be super fun for him.
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He’s felt this and been making his excuses to not work on it this long AND string you along. I am sorry
He already with someone else leave him
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Fight for your marriage. Read Laura Doyle books and listen to her podcasts 
He’s got a girlfriend. Run.
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Let him go you’ll be happier in the long run.
Let him go. By sounds of it he has someone else
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There’s definitely someone else in his life.
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Start doing and bring you he’s probably missing the chase and even if he walks then you’ll have something that’s yours (your sanity and a life outside him)
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Let him go, he’s done and ready to move on. Hold your head up and be there for your kids. Let him file for divorce and be sure he pays you child support.
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Run. It’s obviously over. He sounds like he doesn’t take your feelings into consideration. Have yourself a good scream and cry and then go and make an amazing life for you and your children. Don’t waste any energy thinking of what was and could have been, because children will feel that sadness and anger in you (using my own divorce to go by). Put all of your energy into you and your children. Don’t forget you in this. Time heals all wounds is an old cliche, but in my experience accurate. A few years after my divorce I met my current husband and we have been together and happy for 15 years. I’m sending lots of luck, love and prayers your way.
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He has already checked out mentally and emotionally and no amount of effort, words or actions will change that. He has made his decision, now it’s time for you to begin processing the changes that will occur and letting him go. Whether he has another person is here nor there, he has voiced what he is doing. You can not control another’s actions or choices, you can only control your reaction and where you go from there. I recommend seeking therapy for yourself to help you cope with a sudden change and to ensure you don’t blame yourself. Have a good support network and let it all out. Good luck xx
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Nah his attitude makes me think he thinks can get someone better (not saying ur not awesome!) But he seems like he wants to experience other people for him to be hiding. He will realize the grass ain’t greener…
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There’s a side chick. Plain and simple.
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His already checked out, time for you to start processing that things have changed
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This is tough. Just ask him how he would like to go about co parenting the babies and leave yours and his relationship out of it. He will be blown away like damn she don’t want me. It will help you get over it. It sounds like he does have someone on the side and he is actually doing you a favor you don’t have to catch anything. He is done.
by his comments it does not look like it. think if your ids before you make a dcission
Sounds like he’s already made up his mind! You can’t force the man to stay.
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Let him go, sounds like his already found someone and made up his mind. But very nasty of him to do it that way…
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Seems he has moved on probably seeing someone else or talking to them
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Sounds like he’s already gone Unfortunately in life, not everything works out. Take some time for you and learn your new life for the good for you and those beautiful children.
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I would say there’s already someone else. Wether he has already physically cheated or not, there is someone else. I’m really sorry you’re going through this, having your family ripped apart is gut wrenching. Biggest hugs and lots of strength and love coming your way hun x
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Make sure you get at least 80 percent custody. Get a good lawyer . Open up your own checking accounts and transfer your half of the assets immediately. Do not tell him you are filing, let him be served first. Act like everything is normal. Take half of all the assets, pensions, savings, cash on hand, checking, equity in house, etc. get copies of all important docs, make sure you have all passwords for all important accounts, get a safe and lock everything up, keep a journal detailing everything.
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