Am I in the wrong here? I went to clean out my husbands car and detail it for his birthday…while i was cleaning it out i found a trash bag full of coffee cups in it…the name on the cups was “lady bug espresso”…so it gave me another idea, for his birthday as a gift i would go get him a gift card to this place since he seems to love it so much…so i go there after cleaning out his car for his birthday and am waiting in line…get up to order and its literally a TOPLESS girl in a thing…no bikini top…just stickers over her nipples…and i was like wtf? what kind of coffee place allows stuff like this!!! so i call my husband and blow up and i was like how could you possibly come to this place literally every day multiple times a day to get coffee knowing you have a wife at home who is taking care of your kids?! he told me i was over reacting but some of the cups literally had a heart on them…meaning he prob knows these girls and jokes with them all the time…I am heartbroken over this! Am i overreacting like he thinks i am?
I understand that your upset with him, and that is completely laget. However, that dosen’t mean that there’s anything wrong with the Coffee shop. You may not approve of it, or your husband’s choice to vist this one, but no one made him go to that coffee shop.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I found out my husband gets coffee daily from topless women: Advice?
I’d be flipping tables
Uhhhh no that’s not ok
They’re just boobs
Personally, wouldn’t care but my husband also wouldn’t hide it if he was actually just getting coffee.
Also, just remember that this is on your husband, not the innocent girls who are just working to pay their bills.
I would be mad he didn’t take me w him .
I would probably be mad too especially with we hearts and things on them grrr
He’s a jerk. How would he like you getting coffee from a junk-exposing dude?
Not overreacting. You should walk around topless. Go to the store and family eventos topless and then see if he “over reacts”
Throw him to the curb.
Yeah that’s pretty strange. More strange for the girls that find this OK to work there lol. Same women who will later breastfeed and be mad people sexualize￼ boobs.
We had a bikini hut in Fairbanks but it didn’t last long. That wouldn’t bother me as much as a topless one though. ￼￼
The things people get mad over. LMAO
Ask him if he’d be ok with you getting coffee from naked men with only the head of their d!cks covered with a sticker
Where is this coffee shop
He’s a idiot just like the dudes that hang at strip clubs…they aren’t interested in him, just looking for the dollars!
Oh I would have handled this so much differently. I’d have kept my mouth shut and the next time I was riding with him, I would have said I needed a coffee & suggested this place.
This is awesome. I wish I could get my coffee from a
Topless woman every morning.
I say that with very slight sarcasm.
Get over yourself and serve your man coffee without your attitude and your boobs out. Hell
Be much happier.
I would be hurt & mad too
Yeah, he would have some explaining to do.
I would be wearing his balls as earrings
Id be pissed too, not gonna lie.
Next time he goes go with him
I would be so annoyed angry and hurt you poor thing!
I like going to hooters so I can’t really relate
I mean he’s hiding it for a reason and that would make me upset. But personally, it’s a coffee business. He’s not the only 1 who goes there. And if it’s just for coffee🤷♀️
I wouldnt be upset except that He didnt invite me. I love a beautiful body to, its an artist thing.
Lol honestly, I accidentally took my teen son to the coffee shop (same name). I just told him not to look. The lady was super nice and we had a nice conversation. IMO it’s OK. They don’t get to touch the women, no photos etc. It’s just coffee
What’s the name of said coffee shop?
It wouldn’t have bothered me . I would have gotten the gift card and shocked him that way, just so he knows I know. But I also got my husband mirrored sunglasses for our vacation so I didn’t have to see him looking at other women on the beach cause we all know they are gonna look that’s normal.
I would be mad he tried to keep it secret. Not that he’s getting coffee from girls trying to make a living who aren’t afraid to be topless. But I’ve breastfed 3 kids so boobs don’t bother me lol. I’d say it’s probably likely these girls aren’t interested in your man, they probably get hit on all day and it’s probably annoying.
Just grow up and stop over reacting
No. I’d be livid. You could get coffee anywhere. And he has tits at home.
Topless coffee that’s a new one wonder how many times they’ve burnt their boobs lol
So why don’t you go get yourself some coffee every day and see just how his ass be acting with them ladies. I’d be freaking out but that’s cause of past experiences with my late husband. Titties are titties who cares, but it’s the audacity and interaction that’s obviously going on I’d be mad about. Emotional affairs can be just the same. Just saying.
They don’t want your husband lol.
Girlfriend… wake up sooner and put stickers on too and give him his topless coffee
Put some whip cream ,some sprinkles
Well, since I know those are just baristas, I’d only be mad at my husband if I found out he was being creepy or disrespectful to them. None of those girls want your husband, just his tips.
Some of these comments not everyone is the same, honesty I would be upset too just because he’s hiding it behind you’re back and he could of just talked to you about it first. Honesty, if my husband would talk to me first I would go with him but him just going behind youre back about it would make me upset!!
I would be upset that he didn’t invite me but other than that he’s just getting coffee
That kind of thing didn’t bother me.
Its just coffee with a view… Its harmless
It wouldn’t be so bad if he had told you about it, but since he kept it a “secret” I’d be upset & start to wonder what else he isn’t telling you. I’d be super petty and get him a ladybug necklace and tell him to give it to that bitch So sorry this happened hope you find the right path
Is this a group of immature little girls or grown women? Y’all are some petty ass girls for real.
I would be mad and upset also. It’s disrespectful and as far as I am concerned if he really loves you he would not be doing that kind of stuff behind your back
Name of shop please and thank you
I wouldn’t be too upset but I’d sure know it would be ok to now go to one of those Magic Mike events that’s go on tour. He looks you look.
They’re just boobs. I wouldn’t care.
It wouldn’t bother me. Tiddies are tiddies. As long as he’s coming home to me, who cares?
Id be pissed. Same thing as cheating imo, my husband wouldn’t be okay with other men seeing me that way so he doesnt need to see other women that way…
Maybe it’s good coffee lol
The whole thing is pretty disgusting
Ummm I’d be mad I wasn’t invited
If you are secure in your relationship and yourself who cares. If mine wanted to I’d take him. You wouldn’t be mad if she had a shirt on it’s not like he’s roughing her or sucking on your boobs good lord.
Wait wait wait a min… do these places exist with bottomless men
I may or may not be asking for a friend
Literally just boobs and coffee. I do not see a problem. But if you do, that’s on you and your dude. Go with him, maybe they have the best coffee ever. I guess I’m not threatened by women, even if they are naked.
First of all- is the coffee any good?
If the coffee is terrible it’s about the boobies
Seriously those girls are trying to make a living…….who cares……you can see boobs almost any where
What’s the location? Just wondering
Your reading in to it too much. To him they are just some titties and what man doesn’t love boobs? And the heart is probably something the girls do as a flirty thing for the job cuz I bet you they get tips too. Sometimes we have to step outside our box and think like they would. He loves you and the kids… let him have some titty coffee. I’m sure there are places you could go to see some sexy men while getting a drink or a bite to eat… just my thoughts. I know how self conscious we can be as women who are mothers and wives and don’t always recognize ourselves in the mirror.
There’s a saying that says: “It doesn’t matter where he gets his appetite as long as he comes home to eat” if you know what I mean.
If it helps at all, these girls don’t give a shit about him and are usually only flirty so they get good tips
It’s odd that he would hide something like this and then say you’re overreacting.
Withholding information such as this, knowing you wouldn’t be okay with it is disrespectful to you and your marriage.
I doubt he would appreciate you doing this.
It’s no different than going to a bar with naked women.
You are over reacting
Calm down. It’s just a coffee.
I didn’t know such places existed. What was it called?
I wouldn’t react that way but your feelings aren’t invalid. Personally I find nothing wrong with it, unless he was acting on something via text or hooking up
Me personally. I love the woman body … I like BOOBAS . Where’s this place ? I wanna go get coffee . Couple of them . Man I wish we had one of those here !
You are not overreacting.
See, here’s the thing…if the tables were turned and this was you, he’d definitely be pissed. If he’s been doing this for a long period of time and neglected to tell you about it, you have every right to be hurt.
In my marriage…we include each other in the shenanigans we get into🤣
Also, where is this coffee place…asking for a friend
Edit: it’s in WA!!! We need someone FL
Yeah nah, it’s a no for me
Remember it the Coffee you think!
I would be pissed off juss sayin…tell him go to Starbucks like the rest of the world lol
What’s the location? You know, just so I know the area to avoid
You’re overreacting and this is exactly why he didn’t tell you about it.
He was hiding it for a reason. If he’s hiding this, what else is he hiding??? I would have went off! Probably been done with him period! Seems like all men want their cake and eat it too!! Well, not happening in my kitchen I can promise you that!!!
Get a job there for a few days, he’ll quit & you can use your tip money for “me time”
I would be upset bc that’s such a unique place and my husband didn’t tell me about it. I would ask what his barrier was in telling you about this coffee spot and ask how he would feel if you went to a coffee shop where men sell coffee with nothing but a sticker covering their pee hole.
I wouldn’t be disgusted or heartbroken just mad he didn’t tell me. More or less if he says you’re overreacting why didn’t he mention it before?
Yea no I don’t think topless is not okay at all, my gf would murder me if I was going to a place like that.
Coffee and boobies, two of my favorite things
That’s a no from me. I don’t think you’re overreacting whatsoever. If he’s been hiding it, there’s a reason. Which I’m sure the reason is because he doesn’t want you to know where he gets his coffee from. In turn shows he knows you wouldn’t like it or feel comfortable with it.
And pops to them because I would HATE to accidentally spill coffee down my vagina
A job is a job…they aren’t trying to steal your husband, they’re trying to make a living…
Yes. You are overreacting. They make good coffee (that’s why I’ve gone there before). They just want to earn a living and get tips, not your man lol. I think they put hearts on the cups for everyone, they did on mine too last time I went to one.
There’s one of these in Seattle. I follow one of the girls online. They don’t touch the client’s and if the coffee is good then it’s good. I dunno what to tell you about your insecurities… get better boobs or learn how to make coffee?
He’s hiding it because he knows his wife would blow up at him.
I’d be like laughing and telling him, “I don’t care where you get your appetite, baby, as long as you eat at home”
And my husband does “eat at home”.
He knows he is a lucky man.
Not me running to Google lady bug expresso
Im sure those chicks have men at home and are only making money the way they know how , I’d be more mad about the excessive spending
Honestly it depends. Is he going out of his way for the coffee or is it on his route to/from work or similar? If it’s out of the way I’d be upset because gas is expensive af but if it’s just like any other coffee shop I wouldn’t care .
How’s the coffee though? if it’s shitty then be mad
For your birthday get yourself a day of pampering and have him watch the kids.
I’d be overly pissed lol he’s a jerk
The coffee must be on point I would be more upset at the fact he went without me I would love enjoy a good cup of coffee every now and then
WA state I bet. “Bikini Baristas” were a big thing when I lived there.
I honestly would be upset. And I feel like he knows it’s not right and that’s why he hasn’t told you about his coffee shop. Maybe just tell him how you feel and ask him to find another shop where staff is fully clothed. Start from there.
Where is this place? Definitely on my bucket list now!! Coffee and boobs what a way to wake up ehh my love Mike Manning
If he likes a show that much show him a magic trick and disappear
Men are always thinking with the wrong head. I don’t know why they have to indulge in stuff like that when they have a woman at home. I don’t get the porno mags and movies… it just doesn’t make any sense. They’re supposed to be human beings, not animals trying to spread their DNA as far as possible. I was married several times. Most of them cheated. I’m single now at 65. I have no desire to meet another man. I have my dog and my kids and grandkids. That’s good enough for me. Men just don’t make any sense.
Some men could care less about your feelings. I am so sorry for you.
Girl it’s better than him going to a strip club.