I have a messy situation I need help working through

Please bear with me as there is some backstory here. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few months now. Our situation is a little weird. He and I have known eachother for a while. We went to school together from 4th grade-9th grade and reconnected on Facebook about 2 years ago. We went on a few dates but stopped seeing each other when both of our parents got sick (his mom had cancer and my father had a few heart attacks on that left him touch and go for a while). When my father started to do better he had already started casually seeing somebody else so we stayed friends and I began to date somebody else. I split up with the guy I was seeing and we reconnected again and went on a few dates as he was no longer seeing the other girl. He wanted a relationship with me and told me he did from the first time we reconnected but I wasn’t interested in jumping into something right away after getting out of a relationship and wanted to take a few months before getting involved in an actual relationship. During a trip to the hospital (I was attacked by a neighbor and was advised to get looked at) I found out I was 8 weeks pregnant. It was not his as I had not slept with him and it was my ex’s. I began to become very hesitant about continuing anything with him because I was pregnant and that made it a messy situation in my eyes. He insisted he wanted to be there for me even though the child is not his (my ex freaked and blocked me on everything when I told him). After a month or so I began to become comfortable with the idea of entering into a relationship because he seemed genuinely okay with the fact I was pregnant, he was always a good friend to me, and I did like him a lot. Shortly after we began dating I had a girl message me on Instagram. She had approached him not realizing he was in a relationship and while he did tell her he was seeing me he still flirted with her and told her how beautiful she was. She asked how his girlfriend would feel about the situation and he said that I would probably “just laugh”. She did not like that he continued to do these things despite admitting he was with somebody so she sought me out and messaged me with screenshots. She apologized for approaching him and she wouldn’t have if she had known he wasn’t single (his Instagram at the time had no indication he wasn’t single) but that she felt like I deserved to know. I confronted him and told him I most certainly was NOT laughing. He apologized profusely and told me he didn’t realize how serious I was about him and us. I told him the fact that I was in a relationship should show him I was serious and he agreed I was right. I told him I needed time to decide if I wanted to stay with him after this and took a week to think it over. I decided on giving it another shot as he did seem genuinely sorry and I told him I wouldn’t tolerate that bs going forward. He seemed to have changed his ways and we were doing really well. Flash forward to tonight. As I’ve gotten more pregnant I’ve began getting more self conscious of my body. I struggled with an eating disorder in the past and gaining weight (even though I know it’s healthy and supposed to happen) has been a HUGE trigger for me. I haven’t relapsed, and for that I’m proud of myself, but I have had a hard time coping with the changes. He and I have sex very regularly too. However something told me this evening to open his phone while he was in the shower after he received a Snapchat from a woman. I’m not the type to go through phones (and I know it was wrong) but I never have had something tell me to do something this strongly before. I swiped they chat (so I could see it but so it wouldn’t mark the message open) and it was innocent. However I noticed he was messaging quite a few women and one was marked as pending meaning the woman he was messaging removed him from Snapchat. Because it was pending when I clicked it I got to see his message and the story he was replying to. He was flirting with the girl. I closed out of the app, put the phone down and walked away. I’m so upset and hurt. On one hand I know I shouldn’t have looked but on the other hand I had a strong gut feeling and listened to it and found something. How do I even approach this. I don’t want to go about it in the wrong way so I haven’t said anything yet, but I don’t even want to be around him at this point. This hurts so badly because I am supposed to be his girlfriend and this is now the second time he’s done this. I also already feel like shit about myself and how this pregnancy is affecting me and I feel like it’s even worse because it isn’t his child. I get a pregnant body isn’t desirable, but he knew going into this relationship I was pregnant and idk. I’m just confused.

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I have a messy situation I need help working through

He probably needs attention

You’re gut is always right, time to move on babe and focus on you and the baby… and pregnant women are sexy, don’t think negative!! You’re beautiful just the way u are!!

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He isn’t faithful. You already have the signs. It will get worse. The more he gets away with, the further he’ll go. The baby is not his so you have no obligation to stay or deal with him at all. Also, I’m proud of you for not doing anything rash because I would lol
Just move on. Start fresh before you have the baby so that you don’t drag it out and have a child attached to him and vice versa and be in the same unhappy situation.

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Boot his butt to the curb. He isn’t going to be worth it in the long run, you can’t be woth somebody you don’t trust. Focus on yourself and becoming a mama :heart:

He doesn’t sound like he can be trusted and you don’t need that kind of stress while you are pregnant, or at all. I would take this time while you are pregnant to be by yourself and focus on the baby and your health without a relationship.

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This is supposed to be the most joyful time of your life - expecting a baby. You do not need this stress. Make a life for your baby and yourself. And when the time is right, you will meet someone who doesn’t need to flirt or seek out other women online. You will be the one for that person.

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You need to leave him.
Hes proven to be unfaithful twice now.

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Most men love preggo women I got hit on most when I was now for him leave cuz he obviously won’t stop

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You already placed your boundaries, now it’s time to stand on them. Leave. He lied and said what he needed to get you off his back, with no actual intent of changing. That sums up what you will be repeating in a vicious cycle if you forgive him yet again. You deserve better !

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Your pregnant your terrorized about being alone can you make money work in a factory any skills well grow up for your baby you can do it he is beyond a jerk and your finding yourself in a terrible position make all good desitions from now on after he gets more people pregnant and leave them you will say thank god I got though and got rid of him he left when he was with the first girl wake up no more babys unless you know all about the guy consintrateon the one you got you think carefully on your decision making don’t be a. Baby mama bea wife to the next guy you got a sweet child coming live for it not a guy

Sorry you are going through this, best if you move on. However, if your not going to make him leave then don’t let him know that you know. It will make you look weak , him sneakier, and of course you need to keep up with his social media.

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The red flags :triangular_flag_on_post: you ignore now will be the reasons you leave him later. You deserve so much better but only you can decide when enough is enough and leave him.

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It doesn’t sound like he is committed to your relationship- say your goodbyes and enjoy your pregnancy!

Congrats!! :heart:

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Would you want the child you’re carrying if it’s a boy to someday treat a woman this way? Would you hope your child should be treated this way if it’s a girl, by the man she one day is with? You need to ask more for yourself. This has nothing to do with you being pregnant, this isn’t your fault. He’s done it before and he will again. You’re with a cheater. Accept people for who they are and when they show you who they are, believe them.
If he isn’t ready to make the commitment now with a baby on the way, he won’t later.
Save yourself the heart ache and an STD that can harm the baby.

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Baby, you can aloof this by yourself. You have to think about your child and bringing them into this situation. Where do you want your child to be going through this? If not then you have your answer.

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1st many men love a pregnant woman’s body. Even if it isn’t their child. There’s even a fetish for it. Lol.
Please don’t let him continue to treat you badly

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He’s the one that’s confused! What makes you think you need him? You can’t trust him. Do you think he would be ok if he went through your phone and found this same type of activity? No, he would not. You need to find yourself a real man and not this joking, silly, immature kid.

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Once Is a mistake twice Is a choice
It’s hard to walk away but in a few months you’ll look back and realise you did the best thing! You’ve got your baby to look forward to! You don’t need this added stress at all! Also don’t put yourself down your body is doing an amazing thing carrying your baby! Good luck with whatever decision you make you’ve got this

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Sorry you’re going through this. I’ve had a couple rough patches too… you’ll be ok!:heart:

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I don’t usually read long storys, I did yours , and by what I read you seem like very inteligent well rounded young woman, with that being said I honestly think you should move on its going to get worse as you can see he didn’t stop after his " sincere apology" move on with your life sweetheart

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Always listen to your gut feelings they tend to be right.

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The child isn’t his, and he’s flirting with M.U.L.T.I.P.L.E. OTHER females, and you don’t seem to have boundaries and standards for what’s acceptable behavior NOW. What exactly besides nostalgic “feels” is keeping you from understanding this will only E.C.A.L.A.T.E. when pregnant “Happy fun time” is off the table late term?? CUT THE FOOL OFF FOR YOUR UNBORN CHILD, IF NOT FOR YOURSELF, Beloved!
:raised_hands:t4: :pray:t4: :raised_hands:t4:

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Once is a mistake twice is a pattern. That is your answer.

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So, him saying to you in the beginning that he didn’t think You were serious about the relationship was projection because it’s really him who isn’t. I have a bad feeling he’s using your pregnancy as a form of manipulation to stay because it put you in a vulnerable spot and alone. If he was truly sorry the first time he wouldn’t have done it again and actively made it a decision, not a mistake. I would not because it’s clear he’s showing you what you’ll get to deal with for the entirety of your relationship(but he will just hide it better.)
If you’re going to contemplate staying, I say keep it to yourself if you want to see if he has any empathy in him. If you approach him about it he will be sorry he got caught, not sorry that he did it. If you wait a while, maybe somehow drop a subtle hint or find something relevant online about how you’re so glad you don’t have to worry about him being in other women’s DMs or flirting and see if he even shows a hint of feeling guilty or tells on himself.

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And here I come.
Where there explicit messages. Pics? Were they meeting up. Was it sexual talk at all?
I mean guys and girls can chit chat.

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Honey. I was in a similar situation (pregnancy and dating) but he never played games. He knew from the beginning that i was his gf. He has never messed around. My son is now 19 months old. He is a wonderful father. Not all men are like that “man” you are talking about. Find you someone who is worth your time.

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Boy Bye!
Get out before it goes any farther. It’s a trap, a mind f#ck game. You’ll be miserable if you stay in this any longer.
Don’t do it to yourself and don’t let anything he says talk you in to it!
You can do this, you were okay before him and you’ll be even better without him!
Promise you girl!

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You don’t deserve to have those types of stress during your pregnancy, it’s not healthy! You are worthy to be loved and desired at any size, and you deserve to live a happy life. Advice, end the relationship before it gets more toxic. If there’s no trust from both ends, there’s nothing. You will be ok! Don’t be afraid to be alone temporarily… soon you’ll have your baby. And you two will make it out OK! I will pray for you Mama!

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Playboys will say anything to maintain a steady sex supply as they seek new thrills.

You deserve better, your own gut is telling you to leave, do it before the baby is born. You don’t need that kinda stress in pregnancy.

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Stay with him…if you want to continue being cheated on…it’s really that simple…

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Nope. Just leave. My ex did similar, but would delete messages and pictures so it seemed more innocent. Then I caught videos and things. Not to mention at 6 months preg on my bday he specifically picked a fight then went and cheated. He arranged to go see her prior to the fight,picked the fight then tried to blame me for him cheating. Leave now, might only get worse.

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So many red flags! Run! Run & don’t look back! & know that your body is beautiful… you are creating another human life. Be proud of your bump & look forward to the love & snuggles to come.

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I think he’s showing you his true colours, you just have to be brave enough to see it.
Nobody needs these worries while pregnant, it’s not healthy for either of you.

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Something tells me there’s more going on, maybe there’s more on his Instagram, Facebook messenger, emails even, you only saw one form of social media tonight. Who’s to say he isn’t cheating physically too? And if he’s not, it’s definitely coming only a matter of time. He’s not taking this boyfriend/soon to be stepdad-dad role very seriously at all. Remember the longer you stay the harder it’s going to be to leave. Don’t tolerate this kind of disrespect.

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When someone shows you who they are BELIEVE THEM!

Not believing will only set your life up for more misery. You’ll be enabling this behavior by going back again and he’ll continue doing it. Don’t sell yourself short, you may be pregnant, but it doesn’t last forever and you definitely don’t need your pregnancy filled with negativity. Be logical not emotional here. Your child will thank you and so will you, down the road. :two_hearts:

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You call his ass out, it does not matter that you looked in his phone. If he was serious about you and the relationship he would not be talking to other women period! I would approach him or walk away because when the baby comes it’s not fair to put them in a tricky situation.

How old was the message though?

Walk away, he isn’t a good mate.

You answered your own question. you gave him another shot and told him you wouldn’t tolerate that bs after the first time. You already know what to do sis.

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I am confused. He has supposedly been cheating - but She is pregnant but the baby isn’t his??? (so she says). How long have you been together?

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Flirting is one thing, lying and gaslighting is another. Even if he has no intention of consummating these online connections, he is unable to be a faithful, attentive and thoughtful partner. Cut your losses & decouple. You can stay friends from a distance after a year of no contact if you want, though I recommend cold turkey cut him off for good. He’s not the faithful, caring fellow you wanted.

What is the current boyfriend getting out of the deal? Free sex? A place to live? Someone to share expenses? Clearly he sees your relationship as much more casual and unimportant than you do. Maybe he’s terrified of being alone & has to jump from one relationship to another with 10 women as backup. You’re just one of the 11. I’m sorry. You deserve better.

Maybe get a kind and responsible housemate to live with you to stave off loneliness and help you out. Perhaps an older person who won be partying and bringing home different men.

Enjoy your pregnancy, accept help from people you can trust, build your “village” of support people to help you and your baby in the meantime, and stay healthy and safe.

Decide how you want to handle things with the baby daddy. Sounds like he doesn’t want any involvement whatsoever, so you may want to think about asking him to relinquish parental rights (check with a lawyer if that’s possible in your state without an adoptive father). Or, if you want to go for child support, which would grant him visitation. I’m guessing he’d blow that off. After a certain amount of no contact with you or the child, it may be considered abandonment and you may be able to terminate his rights so you never have to deal with him.

Concentrate on you and your future child for the next year or two before you even THINK about men. Wait until your hormones calm down and be sure you get screened for post partum depression at regular intervals after the birth. Get counseling to help get you through your feelings about your changing body to keep you on track, and to recover from the breakup.

Congratulations and be aware of the miracles happening inside of you! May your labor and delivery be as short and painless as possible and your child be an angel who rarely cries and quickly learns to sleep through the night. :kissing_heart:

Honestly I’d just say I’ve looked at your phone you scum bag get out. I would not stay in this situation it could make you really emotionally unwel get out now a d focus on you and your baby x

You told him you won’t tolerate the crap so I would leave.

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All the signs are there,you can’t be dealing with a pregnancy and an unfaithful partner at the same time. Please for your sake and the sake of the child you are carrying,reconsider your situation

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My heart is with you! Do what you know you have to. Lots of love and healing your way! :heart::heart:

He might change, in a few years after he hurts you more… or you can believe who he is now and run before the baby gets here and you feel like you might need him(damn hormones)

He wants his cake and to eat it. A stable home for him to go to every day but to still do what he wants with women I’ve seen this too many times. Get rid he will not change

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Just walk away. No explanation to him. Guys are pigs and for the life of me will never understand the need to message other women while in a relationship.

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RUN! This is no way to start a relationship. He has shown over and over he can’t be faithful so leave before it get anymore serious. He did it once, now twice, (probably more) he’ll do it again. They always do.

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Get out before you fall in love with this guy. Right now, all you need to worry about it taking care of yourself and your baby.

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The issue here is that you initially told him you didn’t want something serious and later on changed your mind to accommodate him.

His perception of you is that he’s doing you a favor; especially since baby daddy isn’t in the picture.

If I were you, I would put my energy into my pregnancy.
Men come and go!

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Once a cheater always a cheater…kick him out ASAP

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Leave now before baby is here. You don’t need this stress

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Leave him, he did it again and he will keep doing it

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I don’t really know why you’re in this relationship to be honest. It sounds like you see him as a friend only. So let him go his way, you go yours. Take care

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Do u want a STD on top of being pregnant?!? Cuz it sounds like he is just playing you… Toss him out on his ass!!

Just be on your own for awhile while you go through this big step in life. Without this “man” dragging you down making you question yourself. Of course you are desirable! But he’s not ready to be monogamous and faithful to you. You and the baby don’t need this stress you deserve better!

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:walking_woman::walking_woman::walking_woman::walking_woman::walking_woman:walk away

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If he continues to do the same stuff u told him was clearly not okay he doesnt truly care about the relationship id get out now. Why waste anymore time

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Even is message was innocent why is he messaging girls on a platform that then hides any messages? That alone is suspicious
I would get out whilst you can he’s not committed and it’ll only hurt more later on

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I don’t think your pregnant body has any thing to do with it. He’s just a douchebag who doesn’t deserve to be In you or your babes life. Get rid of him His behavior won’t change and the last thing you need is a break up down the road where it affects your child too.

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He is not the baby daddy and he is disrespecting you, kick him
To the curb

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Count your blessings, he obviously isn’t into it. Do not bring a baby into this.

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Walk away he will continually do this

Always trust your gut it’s never wrong! He is going to keep doing this unless he gets rid of all the social media. Social media ruins relationships. He wants his cake and to eat it too. If I was you I would focus on myself and that growing baby. Stress is not good for you or that baby right now. He isn’t worth the disruption of your peace.

What you do, is let that boy go. Cheating, in any form, is never acceptable, but I can kinda understand in the beginning, how he said he didn’t know it was that serious. Once you made it clear that you were not okay with the flirting and talking to other women, he acknowledged your feelings and then DID IT AGAIN! Most likely this isn’t just the second time. It’s probably been going on since the beginning and it will continue to go on because you allow it! If someone does something to you once, and you forgive them, they do it again and you forgive them, you’re basically giving them the green light and telling them they can do whatever they want as long as they apologize. YOU are in control of your relationship. Besides, you made it very clear to him after the first time that you wouldn’t tolerate that shit, and here you are tolerating it. Tell him to kick rocks!

You guys are better off as friends. Time has repeatably showed you that

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It’s only been a few months. Dump him n move on

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Is this the example of what a man should be that you want to give to your child?

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Does anyone else’s eyes hurt trying to read these longggg post. Or lose your spot and just give up in trying to read till the end? There’s always a way to make a long story short. And I mean that in the most endearing way

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Are you with him because your scared of opening this new chapter by yourself? Because that is understandable… But hear me. You are a badass strong woman. You can do this without a man by your side. Don’t settle for something out of fear.

Good luck mama. :heart:

You have every right to confront him and tell him how you feel. I also think he is probably going to be upset at you "snooping: through his phone bc he got caught… its either going to be your fault and all about the phone or he is going to fill your ears with words… actions speak louder than words and he cant even repsect you behind your back

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If this guy truly loved you he wouldn’t be flirting with other women. Or worse. He is a serial cheater. You will meet other men. Please continue to eat and gain the weight your baby needs you to. Honestly I am more concerned about your eating disorder than your jerk of a man. Every pregnant woman gains weight. We have to, and there is something so beautiful about a woman carrying a life within her. The weight can be lost after. Take care of your baby and lose the loser. Your baby is going to love you the rest of your life. You have issues with loving yourself. Please see a shrink if your eating disorders continue during pregnancy or after the baby. Never listen to this fucked up World that tries to tell us woman must be thin as rails. It is unrealistic. Besides men really do like a gitl with curves. The right man for you though is going love you for who you are as a person. Not how you look, and he won’t message other woman because you are all his eyes can see. Hold out for that man. Men like him do exist. You might have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince.

Doomed from jump street. Question is are you going to allow this person to disrespect you , become your baby’s daddy then end up ditching him down the road for the exact same thing he is doing now ?

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Walk away. Put you and baby first. You don’t even have to say anything. Keep you peace and walk awayyyy. Hugs

Walk away… this behavior is his choice and it will continue… you base your decision on his actions not his words… Your baby needs your focus… it is difficult to give a baby the emotional support they need when dealing with an unfaithful partner … walk away

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Run as fast as you can

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Listen, I’m gonna be tough with you. This all sounds really immature and not ok whatsoever, do not bring a baby into this mess. This sounds so silly. Stop worrying about some guy right now and focus on you and your baby. Coming from a single mom, you will forever regret wasting time on this crap

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You know what to do. Listen to your gut and stop questioning it. Just because you don’t “want” to do something doesn’t mean you shouldn’t.

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He has no intention of being faithful. Ditch him and concentrate on you and the baby.

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  1. To say pregnant bodies aren’t desirable is a mistake. Many people actually are attracted to pregnant women. And my husband was most attracted to me when I was pregnant.
  2. He’s showed you twice now he doesn’t respect you… don’t let him do it a third time.
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Walk away. It will only get worse. If he continues to do it he isn’t sorry. You’re about to have a baby and that baby needs to come first. You don’t need any unnecessary stress. Also little note, a pregnant body absolutely IS desirable. You’re working a miracle. Only a BOY would think it isn’t.

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Definitely leave that toxic situation, worry about your baby first. You will be able to do this without a man. Not worth staying with him because of loneliness. When your baby is born and you hold him/her your heart will be full.

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Only feel bad for going through his phone if you found nothing… lol :woman_shrugging:
He’s done this twice (that you know of) he’ll do it again. Trust me, once they get caught they just find new ways to hide it!! And they ALWAYS try to make you feel guilty for snooping… its never their fault or it is but some excuse!!! You know in your gut what you need to do!!! Trust me from experience, get out now, don’t drag it out. It only gets worse!!!

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Move on it won’t end well sorry

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All the first time did was taught him to be sneakier

I’m surprised he left his phone around you at all.

Also…. Make sure you check the phone again and check the date of the flirting. Make sure of the time stamp. You could bring this up to him and he dumps you over privacy issues and it turns out that it was time stamped BEFORE y’all talked.

Edit: then never look at his phone again. And don’t take this behavior into other relationships. Once this happens… your lack of trust is the relationships end. He had a responsibility to change. As far as you knew, he did. You took him back well aware of what he’s capable of doing. Don’t do that if you haven’t truly forgiven him. As shitty as the whole situation is, now you gotta make sure the time stamp is recent. How stressful while being pregnant too. Single just somehow seems so much less stressful.

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Do not get your innocent baby involved in this mess. Get rid of him asap

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Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.

Leave his ass now. And depending on your situation. I think you need to think about the life you’re bringing this baby into. What kind of life would you want your future daughter/son to have

Don’t confront him just walk away he’s done this once he will keep doing it a leopard doesn’t change there spots

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first of all, you were pregnant what another man’s baby, even if that man wants nothing to do with you, that should have been your main focus, If this guy you have known for yrs, really wanted you, he would be there for you, when the time was right, Obviously he is not ready, You should leave or make him leave, concentrate on you & your baby, And wait awhile after the baby is bigger to go out & have fin, not necessary a full time relationship, just a fun time & when your child is bigger, then maybe a FT relationship that is full of real love & respect

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Definitely walk away. You don’t need that stress in you and your unborn baby’s life. I’d confront him. If he isn’t going to be faithful to you now before the baby is here how do you know he’ll be there for you and the child when he or she is born? Raising a child is very stressful and time consuming. He is already showing weakness. Toss a child in the mix and sadly he will break. Think of only you and the child. That is all that should matter in your life right now. If it brings you sadness or stress kick it to the curb. Stay strong momma, you and your pregnant body are beautiful :heart:

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Y’all doing too much judging telling her to “focus on her baby” when we really don’t have a lot of information. Who’s to say she ISN’T? You can be making your pregnancy a priority and taking care of yourself and your baby and still have other things going on; life doesn’t stop just because you’re pregnant. She was clearly already seeing this man prior to finding out she was pregnant AND she even said she contemplated not continuing things when she discovered she was pregnant. We don’t know how long they were seeing each other prior to her finding out she was pregnant, she even waited some time after finding out she was pregnant, and they’ve clearly had a past and remained on good terms. She did the smart thing and wanted to take things slow because she did get out of a relationship and because entering a relationship while pregnant with somebody else’s baby is a sticky situation, but she shouldn’t be shamed for starting something with somebody when she didn’t even know she was pregnant. If he was there for her when she found out and they were already heading towards a relationship before she found out, there’s no reason they shouldn’t have pursued a relationship. Pregnant or not she has the right to be happy even if it’s not with the father of her child. Again she can be doing right by her baby without cutting off the rest of her life and it doesn’t seem like she’s with him because she’s scared to be alone or wants him to play stepdad. She seems to be with him because she genuinely cares about HIM, pregnant or not. Stop trying to shame her, it’s disgusting and makes y’all look like bitches.

Now I personally would call him out on it. He’s not respecting you doing what he’s doing. Perhaps he is afraid of a baby on the way especially one that isn’t his. But he knew what he was getting into when he entered a relationship with you so that’s no excuse. Either way you need to sit with him and talk about this so y’all know how to proceed next whether y’all stay together or split up.

I think you should trust your intuition and listen to it. It’s screaming at you, and you’ve already seen once before what he’s done behind your back, now you’ve seen it again, so it’s pretty clear that he’s not as committed as he says or pretends to be, and I don’t see that getting any better or changing except for him to only continue to get worse and do it more, and be more sneaky about it, so I would just tell him this isn’t working for you and end it and be done, and focus on yourself and your pregnancy. If he’s entertaining all this when he’s got you, what’s he doing when you’re not around or with him, and who’s to say it hasn’t been physical which can and will put you and baby at increased risk of STD’s STI’s. No m*n is worth all that plus a broken heart, and especially when you have a baby you’ll need to be focusing your energy on, so might as well end it for your peace of mind and safety. The longer you stay, the harder it gets to leave and move on. So sorry, mama. Trust and believe in yourself and you will be fine! Oh and congratulations and good luck on the new little!

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My advice is get out of the relationship, he’s pretty much already cheating on you, you deserve better, also soon a child in the mix

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Oh mama. Im so sorry you’re going through this. That’s awful. But please, don’t let the actions of a man impact how you feel about yourself, your body, or your baby. I know how hard that is to do though. Trust me. But just try. Fuck men man. For sure, leave him. Fuck that shit. Focus on you…and being healthy and happy for you and your baby. Its about you and your baby now. Thats where your focus should be. Embrace your body. This is a beautiful experience. Change your perspective. As much as you can. Ive had three children. Sometimes, I miss it. The feeling of having them in me. They feel what you feel. So embrace this part of your life and move on. He clearly isnt the one and you and your baby dont deserve a person like that. God bless you. :heart:

Cut your losses. Always listen to your gut!

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Just leave. He isn’t going to stop.

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