Maybe is time for you to find your happiness. He’s not meant for you. He’s waiting for you to make the move! Good luck. You deserve better 
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You sure waited a long time to see if he loved you, even thought the passing of your dad would make your husband love you, or show that he loved you,that’s just silly, do you really not know what to do? Or are you just looking for entertainment because I do find this entertaining and I’m not trying to sound mean but come on lady.
It’s obvious you need to move on and never look back.
Girl what the hell you waiting for to leave him? There is no reason for you to even ask. He DONT LOVE YOU! Leave his ass
Hire a PI to get the goods on him. Then go straight to a good divorce lawyer.
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Your right, it sounds like he doesn’t like you. If you listen to yourself it sounds like you don’t much like him either. What are you still there?
The “ah-ha it’s time to leave moment” should have been when you felt the need to send a message to a social media group to ask for advice. File for divorce. Pack up and leave. You’ll be much happier once you do. Sometimes staying is much worse than leaving.
Leave his ass. It doesn’t get any better. He doesn’t have to do anything outside work…all the girls are there.
I felt the same way about my ex. So I left him
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Leave himmm ASAPPPP. No one deserves a relationship like that if he cheated once he’s still doing it. Just bc he’s not out doing stuff doesn’t mean he’s not doing stuff at work with the flirty coworkers and if you don’t trust that, get out of that relationship! Major red flags all over.
Leave him! No way would I put up with his shit! He doesn’t love you. Sad but true.
He doesn’t love you sweetie it’s time to pack it in
Chuck him in the sea and start again with someone new
Divorce him and find someone that knows your worth. Bastard.
I’d leave him so fast his head would spin!
I’d start making an exit plan
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Kick him to the curb!!! He is using you!!!
Leave him …eff that guy…and hopefully this is the whole story…
Girl I never say this but leave him now. he is emotionally abusing you and cheating isn’t just physical it flirty conversations he cheated in the past… he’s a cheater forever he literally thinks that just because he got you pregnant that he is somehow obligated to care for you and his kids but love we live in a different time where there are more women going to school than men where we have rights get that child support and bounce just like how he be doing you with your emotions and I highly doubt he hasn’t cheated yet you let him treat you like crap and somehow you know he’s not cheating ??? Or is he just real good at hiding it? Get him where is hurts take his kids and you go live happily by yourself and when love is ready to find you again it will because I feel like he deserves to suffer for those 10 years he put you through… the kids will know who the better parent is. You are probably so weak and emotionally broken right now to even care about yourself and your well being but picture him serving you with divorce papers and on top of that he has a new victim with a perky bum who is trying to help your ex husband deem you a unfit mother… get on top of your game now because it could happen then your world will be even more shattered than now because he will be with your babies and this new girlfriend of his and how much you wanna bet he will be treating her better than you… men can be straight up pigs he sounds like a hog plz grow a pair and leave now go to your mom or someone you trust and do not look back no matter how “sorry” and crying he is he will even try to make this about him by blaming you don’t listen block him and cry it out but then move on
There are no words for this. You don’t need advice. You need walking boots
I see his face…all over the curb.
Quietly, get your self in order financially. Get your own place organised and leave.
Just cheat at this fuckin point🤦🏾♀️ u knew 12 years ago he didn’t want u…u looked over the flags. Move on & fuck him
No, you are not over thinking this or wrong in expecting some love and compassion, care and respect from him. That’s literally what the marriage vows expect from marriage itself! If he can’t be there for you emotionally or physically, then he needs to go. You are not his servant, slave and housekeeper. You are more. You are a human being who deserves what she wants and needs out of life. In my humble opinion, you only get one life and it shouldn’t be wasted on a selfish douche bag who doesn’t love and appreciate you. You can do so much better. Get rid of him. Also…do you want your kids growing up thinking that’s how marriage should be? Cold and loveless?
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Why are you with him? It’s obvious he doesn’t love you, is cheating, and is a liar. Screenshot and keep those texts he’s sending as evidence of adultery in your divorce proceedings.
Ma’am…I think you know already and you want validation. He’s toxic af!!! He sounds absolutely terrible. A whole damn day to grieve your father:fu:t5:
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You deserve so much better.
Time to throw that man in the trash.
u needt o dump this clown
Leave- you only live once 
Wasting your life …time flies
Excuse me but he’s a fuck boi he enjoys the best you made and wants more. Kick his ass to the curb divorce him and show your children that love isn’t suppose to work like that. He’s been cheating on you since day 1 and feels an obligation and that’s it. Boot em
I’m single An I’m looking for a lady to be my partner to travel and cuddle inbox me 
He doesn’t love her.
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Free yourself fom him. your kids will understand eventually. You need love yourself more
Yeahhhh…. Get a divorce
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Girl leave that man!!!
Im so sorry. I do not think he loves you
Rebecca Benton Care to weigh in on this ungrateful drop kick of a husband
Leave him. Like yesterday.
So glad i am single and celibate
You deserve better!!
No. This is a trash person. In the bin.
He is to immature he is a Nararccist only thinks of him.
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Leave him your wasting your life
Hire an attorney. Life is too short.
Make that exit plan ASAP.
You are wasting time with him. Trust in the Lord and you shall reap the rewards of the life you deserve…
He has no heart.
If you can make it, you’d be happier without this total jackass.
Prayers for you.
You deserve better.
kick him out he doesn.t love you
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He’s cheating sis. Run
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Divorce his lying ass
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This man is a total puke. You deserve so much better!
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Ma’am get out! Get those babies and go live the life that you DESERVE!!!
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Read what you wrote you answered your own question
You deserve better than this.
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Why the HELL have you stayed with him???!! Either you are leaving stuff out or you are extremely stupid
He sounds miserable and should leave asap.
Leave him he doesn’t love you
Obvious naman…tsk enebeyen
Just blow him, make him a sandwich and dont talk so much. Watch how quick that attitude changes.
ACTIONS >>>>>> WORDS
Don’t settle for less love than you deserve.
Get a lover and enjoy your life
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Yikes…that sounds awful…
Leave…you’re already living alone & more doors would open without him in the way of the life yiu deserve.
Your whole write up sounds like the sad 12 years that it has been, but definitely running deeper with you who has been experiencing it.
So sorry about all of that, and so sorry about the loss of your father. We don’t heal from the loss of our loved ones, it just never goes away. And that was not good at all especially that it came from your spouse.
My advice is that you should get yourself ready to be able to live life without him. Get your thoughts together, closest friends, your kids, your family to help you stay emotionally strong. If you decide to do move on, ensure that you are in a position to be able to take care of the children and yourself.
Leave him! You need to find true love!
That’s all sad but if u truly feel he doesn’t love then leave don’t stay because u have children together that will only make u even less happy u need to do what’s best for you and your children
For me, emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating.
I’ve told my husband I would rather he saw a prostitute than have an affair. To me… sex is an urge, it’s primitive, but to prolong an emotional connection with someone outside of our marriage… that means we are done.
YOU KNEW THE TRUTH BEFORE YOU EVEN WROTE THIS !!!..
You know, you’ve always knew but proceeded to have 10 years and more children with him…
STOP VICTIMIZING YOURSELF and your children…GET OUT NOW… grieve the loss of your Dad and your marriage then pick yourself up and go on and BE HAPPY…REAL HAPPY…
This is the classic example of denial, making excuses, self sabotage…YOU ARE STRONGER THANK YOU THINK BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY…YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN DESERVE MORE.
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Run like the wind darling. RUN!!! You deserve someone who loves, respects and supports you one hundred percent!! Don’t waste anymore of your precious life and energy on this oxygen thief
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Leave… he will never stop. You will always be wondering what he’s doing.
WOW, I COULD’VE WRITTEN THIS MYSELF!!! every detail of it!!! But…even tho I, too, didn’t see any texts proving cheating, after 10yrs of marriage I learned that it was because the cheating was happening at work and after work. I thought he was still at work sadly. Also, I always wondered why when he would come home he would sit in our driveway for 5 min. Ended up that he was deleting the dating apps before coming inside and then he would reinstall them the next day at work. The way he lacked affection with me and he would blame it on not being a romantic person made me believe he had no game, therefore could never possibly cheat. I was wrong. Its been 5 years since then, he has a new job and he knows I have a GPS tracker on his phone and an app that sends me everything he does on his phone immediately. Yet…last month after 5 years of what I thought were better years…I get an alert that he’s on snapchat asking an old coworker for a bj. He thought because snapchat deletes messages then I wouldn’t be able to see it…smh. My advice to you is leave him unless you want to babysit his every move for the rest of your life. Therapy might help but when the marriage hits a rough patch they will go back out. I remember years ago he admitted cheating is like a drug. The rush of excitement and fun is not easy to overcome. I hope I serve as a cautionary tale and I warn you that your heart and mind will never be at ease always wondering what he’s doing and if he’s using a secret phone to continue his ways.
Awe I’m sorry sweetheart I’ve been here and it doesn’t change mine come home and kiss me with the same lips he at someone eles with an not think nothing of it.
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You have your answer already leave. You both would be happier if you left.
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All these woman on here saying to just leave obviously they are not married… its harder to leave a marriage with a house and kids and all. It takes a lot of time to just leave your spouse. My advice… yes I dont believe he loves you anymore and it kind of sounds like he has thrown in the towel a long time ago. He may be only staying because of the kids, but his heart isnt with you. I’m sorry that your going through that.
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Sounds like you might be right and he possibly only married and stayed with you for the kids. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I can only imagine how hurt you must be. However I wouldn’t waste anymore time with him. It doesn’t sound like there is even a relationship anymore. Life is too short to be unhappy. As hard as it is, I would start planing your leave or hit. Maybe a separation might put things into perspective for him. If not then the next step should be divorce. Hope everything works out for you.
This is not a marriage , it’s a house share . He may be at work but there are plenty of opportunities to cheat - i’ve seen it . He’s biding his time till the kids are old enough and he can leave without feeling guilty about them . YOU deserve more NOW !! It’s time to call it a draw . Ask him to move out and watch the relief come on his face even if his mouth is saying different things . He may even surprise you and just go . It’s not important how he deals with it . What is important is that you take your life back and start LIVING !! Once you start living for you , you’ll be surprised how easy it will be .
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Neither of you appear to be happy and maybe he is there to do the right thing because of the pregnancy. I would make time to have a chat without the kids there, without the emotion and let him know that if the only reason he is staying is to do the right thing then maybe it’s time to work out how and when the marriage ending becomes a reality.
Leave. You already know this. It’s not worth another second.
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Leave if you have a gut feeling, he dont love you and he dont deserve your love,
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Life’s too short it’s time to go your separate ways 
Be happy and love yourself.
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If that’s not the type of man you want your sons to be or for your daughters to be with, then you already know what you need to do. Doesn’t sound like he’s going to become the husband you want or need in year 13, stop allowing him to waste your time. Best of luck.
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Follow ur feelings an ur heart thay will NEAVER LET you down:purple_heart:
kia kaha:cupid:
If he hasn’t changed in the 12 years you know him do you really think he will. How long will you allow yourself to be hurt,you have the power to make yourself happy but yet you’re not doing anything about it. Sometimes in life you reach a point where you have to say enough is enough and I’m going to do what’s best for me and you being the best version of you is definitely going to be beneficial to your children.
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Life is way too short to have a partner blatantly oversee you and your feelings. He is incredibly narcissistic, carrying on with other females, let alone coworkers. Your children deserve to see a happy mother. Most humans become a product of their environment growing up, unless the individual wants the change and enlightenment. My drive would be to try to be the best role model for my children, while showing them what and what not to tolerate.
Good luck, sweetie.
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Divorce. Immediately. He thinks he is in prison because you got pregnant the first time. He’s just there so he doesn’t have to pay child support. You’ve tried 12 years…it’s not gonna work
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Although he may not be having intimate relations with these women, he is still cheating. Last I heard oral sex is sex. What he is doing is emotional cheating. He has no respect for you
you also need to think of your children, would you want them to marry a man/woman that would treat them as your husband treats you? Remember they are watching and living this life with you and this is what they are learning that they will end up deserving from their future spouse.
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Throw the whole man away
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Your just a roommate someone he’s use to , sorry but he knows that you’re not going anywhere so he can do what ever he wants. He can have his cake and eat it too
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When someone shows you how they feel about you….believe them.
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Time to love yourself.
Do what you need to do to take care of you and your children. So sorry you are going through this. It’s heartbreaking.
You know what you need to do.
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Hard one. Try counseling? Or I would separate
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FATHER God Please bless her she deserves happiness and love
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Don’t waste anymore time with this dude…you deserve better than that…dont be a comfortable routine for him…in my opinion he dont love you…if he did, he would be doing these things for you not every other female in his life…an he may not be cheating on you sexually…but what he is doing, isn’t fair to you…especially for him to say you’ve had your day to grieve now get over it…an then to be so supportive to someone else in the same situation…ive been in a similar situation where he paid no attention to me no matter what I did…I was asking him to talk to me, just be honest…but he would choose to go talk to others that were around…which I asked him not too…because thats usually how shit starts n its no one else’s buissnes what goes on in a relationship between two people. If there’s a issue it should be discussed between the people in the relationship…but while I was busy tryin to figure out why he was acting this way n doing everything I could to make him happy…while I was miserable n didn’t even recognize myself…my confidence was totally gone…I felt a shell of the person I once was…deep down I knew there was something wrong…I just didn’t want to believe it…i wanted to believe all the lies he told me…that he loved me n blah, blah, blah…but anyway, life is far to short to waste on people like that. There is someone out there will love you the way you deserve…you already know the truth…
The flags are waving…you just have to believe it…
This is very sad to read. You need to move on.
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Yeah I stopped at his lame ass excuse for texting other women. Hes trash. Throw him to the curb.
I’m sorry but I think you know the answer already you deserve better
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Why are u even writing this pack ur shit and leave!!!
I’m sorry he’s doing this. You deserve better. He reminds me of my ex, who I’ve never regretted leaving, even with the financial hardships it’s involved.
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