DONT DO IT. GO TO MEDICAl SCHOOL FIRST.
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Itās concerning that he was trying to get you pregnant before even discussing it with you
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Slow down and really make sure you are both a good fit for each other. I would also go to the ob and ask about proper birth control. Plan B becomes less effective each time you use it. I would hate for you to become pregnant before your ready.
My grandparents were 15 and 17. Less then 6 months together they were married and pregnant. They unfortunately lost their first child and had my mom exactly a year later. They were together for over 36 years before he unfortunately away. It can happen and donāt let anyone tell you differently. It takes two so if you wanna finish your education do it. Get on birth control. If not let it happen.
Yeah you need to be smart and wait, get an iud. Two months is waaaay too fast 
Only 2 months dating?! Hell no and the fact he is pushing for it is a little weird. I would get on bcā¦use condoms as wellā¦and go to school.
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It sounds like he wants you to be housewife in the kitchen when you know deep down your dreams matter girl! Do not let love blind you! I get its about sacrifice but please donāt let him make you sacrifice something that matters alot to youā¦ that isnāt right. Even if he says he will be there for youā¦ you need to think about being on your ownā¦ you are not married and anything can happenā¦ if you are thinking about the possibilities think about ALL possibilities. Youāre not being selfish by following a goal of yours you set before you were in a relationship and even in one now donāt lose track! You got this and for the sake of yourself get on birth control so you can protect your bodyā¦ bring up protection and see what he says. Either way if he loves you and wants to be a good man he will take what you say and respect that especially on waiting on a child. Thatās a HUGE decisionā¦
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Girl wait. Simple as that.
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I stopped reading after weāve been together for 2 months and we have arguments at times. Shouldnāt be having any type of problems so early in a relationship, run!
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well, you should marry and not just shack up before considering having a baby, what happened to peoples morals? Keep on, all we will have are illegitimate children everywhere. Try req
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Runā¦
Simple.
Sounds like he wants to trap you, take yr dreams away and have you to himself, he sounds very controlling and well creepy 
Not normal
Protect yourself woman
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You need to know each other before you give up your dreams. He could be a narcissistic jerk. Please look at the big picture
Just go to school. Donāt be worried about a baby until your done school.
For wanting to be a doctor, this is a dumb idea. Like, I wouldnāt trust a man wanting a baby two months into it anyway
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Get yourself on birth control, go to school set yourself up for success, does he have a job? Plan a future save, buy a house then have a baby when youāre financially ready
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Please be careful. I get that he is a good guy and says he will support you, but your relationship is still very new.
Perhaps consider the coil xxx
Yes youāre ābeing dumb!!!ā
Reminds me of a Lifetime movie.
The guy became really controlling and eventually killed her.
He was over jealous and controlling.
It was also based on a true story.
Be carefulā¦
2 months?? Girl slow downā¦ Iām 33 with 3 kids and wish I woulda waited some. At least finish school first
Girlā¦ DO. NOT. DO. THIS. TO. YOUR. FUTURE. SELF!!!
Give yourself time to get to know the man, continue your education- never rush anything. FIRST rule of āthe gameā
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Yeah i got told that twice that we would never break up by two different guys and now Iām a single mom to 2 kids with 2 different dadsā¦ Iād wait until you have been with him longer and you have your education that your working hard for. Dont get me wrong you can still go to school and have a child but it is challenging! Hope the best for you!
Wow! Someone that is smart enough to be a pre-med student with aspirations of being a doctor should know the right answer, GGGGEEEEEE!
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Is this really a serious post? It is hard to believe you would even consider what he is saying. This is how controlling people stop you from achieving your goals. Notice he didnāt mention marriage.
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Really? Go to med. school plenty of time for babies. Youāll struggle less and be better prepared when the time comes for that.
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Wait, get though school first. If he loves you a baby can wait, school and a baby donāt mix it will slow you down or even stop your plans of becoming a doctor, do not have unprotected sex, live your dream first, if itās true love he will support your decision. You are young enough to have a baby later. Please wait, praying for you to use your head and not get lost in the moment. True love waits!
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Just how do you plan on supporting this baby with no education. Babies are expensive. Daycare is expensive. Planning on putting all the financial responsibility on the boyfriend of two months? Grow up , get your head out of the clouds of romance and thinkā¦
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Donāt get pregnant, and finish your plans for medical school. You have time, and things may not work out, but donāt make the mistake of having a baby and if the relationship fizzles, you are the one who will be left with a child. Get your education first.
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You are young take care of your career first You always want to know that you can take care of yourself. He could be as good as gone. It is very hard on you and the child to be a single parent
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No babyā¦continue on with your plan with med school. Children bring lots of joy but God forbid you have a special needs child or multiple births. Then what? Plus with getting pregnant makes your hormones go crazy & changes your physical image. Is he loving you from the inside out or just the outside in? You really need to grow up & dont bring a child into this world until your READY to give that child unconditional love! You have to sacrifice alot for children & you will when your READY to have a child.
I think you just answered your own question when you said, āI like him very much.ā If you are seriously considering having a child with someone you ālikeā , you need to think again!
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Yes you are. Medical school is a huge commitment. A relationship is a huge commitment. A baby is a life changer. Finish med school and have your relationship and use birth control until you can give your child all your time and money
Please use protection. U r both young. If he loves u , he can wait for a baby. Your body, your choice. Dont blow it. U canāt go back once u have a baby. Think with your brain not your heart!
Itās called puppy love, protect yourself, to be honest your playing Drs n nurses, you both appear to be in your early teens? Finish your education n get some experience, all relationships are exciting at the beginning, neither of you should be parents yet! Enjoy and be safe
He isnāt even respecting her by trying to get her pregnant without her consent. She had to ask him if he is trying to get her pregnant and he said yes. I wouldnāt even trust him with keeping on his birth control. If I were her, I would leave him immediately and not come back.
No baby! Get your degree first. Let love bloomā¦get married have a baby. Remember the two of you are not the only people affected by your decision
That baby is too! You have to be able to support a child on your own.
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Start first by protecting yourself from getting pregnant!! You are still unsure of what you even want or need for your life. Finish your education so you are more mature and self reliant!
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Yes ho to medical school if thatās your dream. Donāt rush having a baby if youāre not ready. They have their own timing. School is hard work and being a parent, working and school is very hard. If youāre ready for that go for it
I always tell my kids. Its work first or your career, home purchase next then children. How else are you going to take care of children. If youāre not pregnant now get the birth control pill. Follow your dreams. If he loves you heāll stick around to see and help you follow your dreams. Why does he want to bring children into your relationship so soon when you just met. If heās having doubts already, what makes you so sure heāll stick around when you go months into your pregnancy with so many changes that follow? I donāt know girl, express to him about your wanting to use bc first until your dreams are fulfilled and see what his response is? Remember it cost for diapers, formula and babysitter while youāre in medical school. So be precise in what you want to do. Picture yourself successful in your career and then everything else follows. Good Luck!
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You are in the euphoria stage of āfalling in loveā and that is no condition in which to make permanent decisions about your future.Your ability to see straight and make well thought out decisions is impaired by a sunshine haze over everything right now. Allow at least one but better two years for your objectivity to return! It may be hard to fight the swamping emotions but itās a less dangerous choice, as anyone who has experienced that wonderful insanity can attest.
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Go get on birth control and continue with school. I went to college with a baby and It was only for a 4 year degree and it was near impossible to work, go to college and raise a child. Continue with your relationship and have fun but wait on a family for now. Youāre young, you do not need to rush into this.
If the two of you donāt work out, you will be a single mom, still WISHING to go to medical school. Too much to do on your own.
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You asked if you are being dumb - yes. You are not being realistic or practical about a 2 month relationship, introducing a baby and medical school. Also, comparing selves to his sister & her fiance who donāt appear to have childrenā¦
You have plenty of time to have babies! Get the education you have dreamed of first. If you and your boyfriend are still together after this tough and costly journey, then you can decide how to proceed with the rest of your life.
He should have had the baby conversation BEFORE he started trying to get you pregnant. Big red flag for me. You need time to get to know each other. It could be that he is going to be very controlling. I would definitely wait. And always use protection!!
Donāt put the horse before the cart, concentrate on your dreams of being a doctor, if the two of you are meant to be together then it will happen. You should be very careful new relationships always seem like he or she may very well be the one and when the newness wears off it doesnāt seem so much. Only time will tell you. Time is on your side
Whatās the rush. If he wants to spend the rest of his life with you why not wait? What does he do for a living? Is it enough to support you and a family? What was his family upbringing? Kind of seems life his soon to be brother is a idealism of a missing father. I would think that yāall should get to know each other before having a baby. Not to say this is always a given but every new relationship is good the 1st 6months then comes the hiccups.
DITTO Jane! Sounds like a āpipeā dream, medical school. This gal sounds like a big dummy to me. Just saying. LT
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If he respected you and wanted you to be happy, he would wear protection and help you achieve your Dreams of being a doctor! You need to get on birth control ASAP!! Your relationship is young and you need more time to get to know each other, a baby will not solidify your Relationship!!! For yourself and your dreams get on birth control ASAP!!!
MED School FIRST. I think 2 months of being with someone is way too soon to have a baby . If you are worried about age, I had my first and 33 and my second at 39. get that MD!
It would be smart hold off on a baby. Im not saying you couldnāt have a family and go to school but kids do make it harder. Plus yall need more time of being together of just by yourselves. I would definitely wait on a baby. Being a mommy is the greatest i love it so much i have a 1 year old and another on the way but we didnt have a baby until we both were ready. Just think about if your ready and what you want before having a family.
First what happened to the 90 day challenge waiting to have sex for 90 days that way you can get to know someone in 90 days second you donāt even know him like that he may be a good guy but you need to know with out a doubt slow down
What heās trying to do is trap you. Use condoms go on the pill and focus on med school. You should have a child when you finish med school and get married. Donāt let him ruin your life by getting you pregnant before you are ready.
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U wanna be a doctor? Geesh, blessings in the medical community is needed. In a 2 month relationship and having unprotected sex and thinking about having a baby. Girl, THINK!
If you need to ask the you are not ready to get pregnant, nor are you assured he will be there for you either, plan A as abstinence or plan P protection
Be realistic, and also spend some time apartā¦ you cannot see as clearly with all the dopamine flooding your system from being together daily. Take it slow, focus on your goalsā¦ if itās real, itāll be able to wait/prioritize your achievements over starting a family.
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Medical school first. Focus on what you want to do. If he is the right guy he would support your idea and help you go for it. But it sounds more like he is trying to turn your head donāt get pregnant. Bad move on that. Go with your dream complete your medical school firstā¦ And have safe sex right nowā¦ He is not the guy for youā¦ Walk away from himā¦
Late night hours studying, late night baby crying, late nights of being on call as a dr., tending to your family husband and baby. Sounds like a narcissist when I was reading the post. Not judging, just think about you first. Let God pick your husband, once your unequally yoked, you have to honor that. Think long, pray hard for Godās answer
You are not being dumb. You are being a female being led by her heart. Stop! You need to talk to him and tell him Not Now. You have no idea what the future is. He could get in an accident and be gone in a minute, leaving you a single mom. If you want medical school as much as you say, you wonāt let anything stand in your wayā¦not a bad rhymeā¦lol. If he really cares about you as much as he says, he will wait. You have lots of time to be parents.
Use your headā¦ words are cheap! He is getting his needs metā¦ when you get pregnantā¦ you will be stuckā¦ and he will find someone else to get his needs metā¦ smooth talkerā¦ I hope you walk away!
Protect yourself from j
him & a baby. He talks s good fame but is not backing it up. You know a baby will take away your dreams of becoming a doctor. DONāT let a man youāve know for 2 months do that!! Babies can come later
Tbh I thought a teenaged girl wrote this, until I saw your ageā¦Its been 2 months, so that is clearly not enough time to get to know someones character fully. Youāre both still in the honeymoon phase. If youāre not sure if you should start a family, you probably shouldnāt. Ask yourself, am I willing to put my dreams on hold in order to raise a child with, basically a stranger? Am I thinking through my future plans, or am I just throwing caution to the wind? Do you know his values, and does he know yours? Would he be financially capable of caring for the 3 of you, should that time ever occur? These are questions that need to be addressed for your own peace of mind. Good luck!
It is a big red flag if your boyfriend is trying to get you pregnant while disregarding your dreams of going to medical school.
You are not dumb! You both are young! Plenty of time for a blossoming relationship, marriage and family. Stick to you plans of med school. If he loves you he will wait.
No way!! You can have the baby after school is done. If he loves you, he will stick around. Get married, enjoy eating and getting to know one another while you finish school. I had my daughter after I finished my school and looking back if was a great decision that I donāt regret.
Itās been TWO months!!! Slow ur role, use birth control & think about what you REALLY want in life. Donāt give up your dreams for a relationship that hasnāt even truly gotten started! The relationship should fit into your plans not the other way around. And this baby ideaā¦youāve got to be joking!!!
I would finish with my schooling before even think about having a baby . N ya been together for just 2 months . I wait at least a year to see how far ya go with each other then thinking about having a baby .
a career in medicine will last a lifetimeā¦relationships often times donāt. making your own money will give you freedom in life
My thoughts are different than most. You are 27, in your prime baby years. How long does med school take and then residency? Youāll be mid-30s by the time you complete school and get a stressful job? If you want a baby and can support one now, try to have the baby. Thereās plenty of time for school. There isnāt plenty of time for your body to produce a healthy baby. I waited until my life was perfect for a baby, my early 30ās. My body was not able to conceive or carry a baby. I tried everything, I tried I v f multiple times. I ended up adopting my children. Have a baby while you can. Would be good if your boyfriend would commit to marriage first.
Take your time donāt rush into babies if he is mister right do it continue school and enjoy the ride. But wait for babies
To to med school, and u hardly know this guy. Be smart and study first ba itās later,life is hard with babies and he may not stick around. Study hard
School first! I started school when my son was 1 and just now finished and heās 15. Being a mom and a wife while trying to work and go to school was exhausting and takes you forever!
Go to school and get a foundation for yourself first.
He wants a babyā¦that will give him control over your life and the babyās. He keeps saying he wants to treat you xyz ā¦ he should be doing that already, convincing people he wants to is not doing. Does his job or business make enough to support a med student and a baby ? Sounds to me like a dreamer, not a doer ā¦ do not hang your future and your dreams here.
Major red flags.
Youāve only known the guy for 2 months. Youāre risking getting stdās, and he tried to get you pregnant without speaking to you about itā¦
This is a stranger essentially. There is not a chance in hell you know each other well enough. Major bad vibes coming from this guy.
If the two of you are meant to be, you will meant to be after you finish medical school as well.
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Heās laying it on pretty thick!! Yāall are moving way to fast!! He just seems like heās moving way to death in a very new relationship!! Your medical school plans will be affected if you do get pregnant!!
Get on the pill girl! You donāt know him enough to even consider a baby! Get your education first so you have something to fall back on it the relationship doesnāt work.
Maybe have the relationship last as long as a pregnancy does and see if youāre still together. Then, finish school first and get married. Then have a baby.
I would go on birth control right away and wait until you are 100% ready for a baby. You are both still young and your relationship is still so new. Iām not saying that it may not work out, but babies put strain in relationships regardless of how strong they are and you would be having school and work on top of raising a family.
Go to school, you can do both later if things work out. There is still time for children.
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Start using protection and do not have a child now. You have not known the man that long not long enough to have a child and it will definitely probably demolish your thoughts of going to school. You donāt say what kind of a job this man has and how much heās willing to help you financially I still would not have the child
Think wisely about this! I have a loved one who thought the same way, after the birth he changed and became extremely controlling. A few years later they divorce because of how toxic things had become. Since that time she and her child have been placed in a continuous cycle of mental abuse and control, the damage to their health due to the stress of it all has affected them greatly. Continue to be realistic!!!
You need to finish your first dream,medical school and a baby needs so much attention. If you are meant to be he can wait until you finish!
That you even have to ask is ridiculous.Seems you are sitting on your brain instead of using it. Get real ,medical school?? If you have to ask this question to a group of strangers,your thought processes are way off.
Finish medical school first, stop rushing in having a baby only knowing the guy for 2 months. Does this guy have a job, is he financially capable of taking care of you and a baby, does he have a home, get to know his family to ask questions about his character and his behavior around people. Girl wrote a lot of whatās going on with her life but not 1 word of how this guy is going to support her, thatās a red flag!!
He will tell you what you want to hear to get you in bed. Having a baby is not what you need. Think with your brain not your body parts.
NO! Medical school or not, you do not know this man well enough to have a child with him.
The fact that you have to ask makes me question your rational thinking. With that in mind, you may want to rethink how successful you might be in a profession that requires a medical degree.
- school
- longer relationship than 2 months, more like 2 years
3)marriage - buy a home
- start family - if he is still around
Use your head not your heart.
He could be gone in 6 months time. Is he controlling - run!
Be wise, not silly!
I am 80, have seen and done a lot. Married someone who was crazy about me, got carried away. He was desperate to have kids. We had two, got divorced. Met the man of my life - still together and in love after 37 years.
Babies are hard work and need lots of attention! My philosophy is you can do one thing and be amazing (school) you can do 2 things and do well (school & relationship). Doing 3 things means something suffers. Think about it!
My dear girlā¦Of course you can very likely sabotage your dream of going to medical school, if you continue having unprotected sex with this man you just barely know. I suggest you both discuss seriously with each otherā¦what is most important to you bothā¦ Personally. Iām from the āold schoolā and believe āFirst, comes love, then, comes marriageā¦then comesā¦with a baby carriageā. If, you really love each other and do decide to marry and have a legitimate childā¦you can still go to medical school (day care for baby) A responsible, sincere man would have no reasonā¦not to be a husbandā¦before being a father. I truly wish you the bestā¦
Donāt give up your dreams of going to school you can have a baby later if he sticks through medical school with you then heās the right one but donāt let anybody stop you from your dreams they either die or they leave and if they donāt youāve got one in 1 million
Slow down and get smartā¦ do you want a dream to come true or make a frivolous move with someone you barely know. You need to grow up! YOU thinking of having a baby with this person shows you have a long ways to go with your ability to think sensible ā¦ you are not doerā¦
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I met my partner 31 years ago moved in together within two weeks and have never regretted my decision. When you know, you know
Protect yourself - babies later- when you have your life together! He doesnāt get you pregnant - you do!
No - No - No. Go to med school. You will not have time to spend with a baby while in med school. If you hardly know this guy, arenāt you concerned about STDās?
Youāre being dumb. Keep your eyes on your goal of finishing school. Youāre relationship is too young too new. Be smart. If heās still there after you graduate and get your career going then you can consider marriage then a family. Wake up.
Hard to believe this could be a ārealā person! Of course you should not have a baby with someone you just met! Thatās a no brainer! If you truly want to be a Doctor, you are going to need all of your focus to be on that! Itās super hard to get into med school. Having a baby is going to totally derail your dreams and this guy you have only known for two monthsā¦well he could take off and then where would you be?
Girl get on the pill and continue to work towards your goals.You donāt know him that well and if he love you he will stick around until tour done your schooling.
If he loved you, he would not be trying to sabotage your future. You barely know him. Whatās the rush? And why focus on trying to have a baby when he hasnāt even married you? Babies are a commitment for the mom in this situation. You speak of your goals for your career. What are his goals besides getting you pregnant? How is he preparing himself to support a family?
Get on birth control and hold off on children until after medical school. A year from now, you will likely have an entirely different view of your relationship.
Go to medical school and fo!low your dreams you can always have a baby in the future. Financially you will be in a better position aswell.
Donāt be stupid! Two months is just a moment in time. If he truly loves you the way you think, he will still love you when youāre a doctor. And what kind of medical student doesnāt use birth control?!? Use your brain! Will you do more good for the world as an unwed mother or as a doctor? Get birth control NOW.
If heās actively trying to get you pregnant without your consent, thatās proof positive that he does not love you. Heās in love with the idea of loving you, having a family with you, but lacks the maturity, confidence and moral fortitude to consider anyone but himself in the equation. You can do better and your future children deserve better.