Yes you’re being dumb and you know it. If you’re going to medical school you know the end result of unprotected sex. You know the possibility of the relationship not working. You know how hard you worked to get into the course. And that if the relationship lasts you have plenty of time in the future. He’s wanting what his brother in law has and getting clucky. That’s probably very cute right now. It won’t be so cute if the relationship falls apart and you have to drop out of your course as it’s too hard with a baby. Wait.
Wtf are you doing. You are 27 not 15. You should be old enough to know how stupid this is. Are you being dumb? Yes. You’re having unprotected sex…. If you’re trying to go to medical school then you know you’ll be pregnant soon. He’s a boyfriend of 2 months NOT a husband. Geez, I hope my daughters are never this dumb.
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Why not go to med school first become a doctor and a be a doctor for a couple of years and then have a kid with him if he is saying he won’t leave you what’s the difference between now and waiting a while to have a kid?be smart about this. Also he is clearly insecure about who he is because why does he need to be like his brother in law instead of just being able to be who he is?
Too soon, finish school. Have you talked about relationship expectations, such as his career, your career, will one of you stay home and raise the child, finances, debt, mortgages, religious beliefs, child rearing, (your style versus his), in laws, friends, family. I know its alot but y’all are going to be parenting a child and these things need to be discussed and agreed upon BEFORE you get pregnant. It a life long responsibility and should be taken very seriously.
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Honey, if you’re turning to the internet to help you decide whether to create a life or not, & you’re a premed student only using the occasional plan b “only when he finishes in you”, you need to get on some regular birth control & learn more about life before creating life yourself. Best of luck to you though. Hope you figure it out.
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Yes you’re a complete moron ! Clearly you are not mature enough if you have to ask should you have a baby with a man you’ve been dating 2 months cause you want to go to medical school 
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No, you fucking moron! Please don’t procreate!
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Just the way this is written… You answered your own question… Who thinks about having kids after 2 months of being together? 2 months isn’t a long time. Yall can hate each other in 2 more months and a baby changes EVERYTHING.
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Follow your dreams girl,you have only known this guy For two months wait till you have Known him two years at least, even then there was no guarantees
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Yes! You are being dumb! You both sound really young and immature and definitely not ready to be parents. I also think that there’s a huge chance that this guy is going to turn out to be abusive and a deadbeat and guess who gets left holding the baby?
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Get yourself on the birth control hunnie,and get were you want to be in life first don’t throw your medical training away .he sounds to me that he wants you pregnant !you need to ask yourself why ?? It sounds to me like very controlling …
Get were you want to be first live your life Get your dream job if he really wants to be with you he will indrestand .Good luck xx
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I have dreams of going to medical school, should I have a baby with my boyfriend?
Are you out of your mind. Go to med school and get established
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Personally I would be together longer before having a baby. A baby changes EVERYTHING. I say that my ex and I should have had more us time before having a kid. We were together two years before we had our son. But having YOU time is so important before having a child.
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2 months is not very long to know someone. I would definitely wait on getting pregnant and focus on your schooling.
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Don’t do it. You’ve been dating for two months. Go to school and handle yo business!
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Go to med school. If he loves you and wants to be that man he will wait. 2 months is fucking crazy to throw your life away on a whim that this man is true to his word… 2 months also seems like a really short time to be trying to get a woman pregnant. I don’t just see red flags, I see red TARPS. run
Sometimes I seriously wonder if these post are troll post. I just can’t
You have known him for 2 months… seriously!!!
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Coming from someone who had kids before college. I say finish school first! Some people do make it happen with kids but it’s very difficult. I can only imagine kids and med school must be very hard.
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Please do not even consider getting pregnant with someone you barely know. It’s one thing if its an accidental pregnancy, but another to “plan” such a lifelong commitment. Go to school, get established. Youll be glad you did.
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You’ve known him for 2 months. Way too soon . Go to school…
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You can wait to get pregnant. Finish school, yours and your baby’s future will be better for it, I promise! 
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I’m not reading all of that. Medical school is not even an issue right now. It’s the fact you have only been together 2 months. That is the reason you should not have a baby yet.
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You don’t even know someone you’ve been with for 8 weeks! Don’t let him get you pregnant. USE PROTECTION or better yet leave.
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Ditto as mentioned above. I had a baby and then went to college… and then had another while in college. It’s hard!!! And I do mean HARDDDD! handle your business first! Get established. 27 isn’t old at all! You have plenty of time! If you’re that serious, get engaged or something… not a baby!
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Do not get pregnant with a man you’re with for 2 months. He’s coming on strong which can be awesome but could be a red flag. Do your schooling first. Quit playing with fire girl!
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School first. U are still young. And way too soon in a 2 month relationship.
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NEVER EVER compromise your dreams for a new relationship. You’re young, and have many years of fertility left. Give your relationship, and career goals at least another year. Personally I’d wait until I finally completed being a doctor, and work at a hospital and everything. Then you can make damn sure you’ll have it all. Right now though with the way the world is there’s no promises that you’ll be able to finish your career goals while having a baby. It’s very hard, and you shouldn’t add that pressure if you don’t have to. Finish up your career, get to know each other more, make sure it is something you want to last.
If he’s pushing you to get pregnant and not taking your doubts and concerns seriously, y’all are not on the same page. I’d be taking the pill or something if you aren’t ready to cool this “relationship”. 2 months? Just, wow.
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…trying to get you pregnant without having a conversation and agreement first is a flaming red flag with a marching band behind it.
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Get married first. Having a baby with someone is a huge commitment and you should be sure their in it for the long hall.
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Ma’am, calm the hell down. You’re being ridiculous. If you let this man trap you into a pregnancy you might as well kiss any dreams of medical school goodbye. It’s called the “Honeymoon phase” for a reason. You’re fast on you way to a baby, a possible breakup, and a ton of regrets. At least date the dude for a year before you let him knock you up.
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Hanging out every single day in a brand new relationship is one of like 37 red flags in this post.
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Two months? With your dream career in front of you. If he cares he’ ll be there for you when the time is right
2 months is not long enough to have a baby together or truly know someone. That’s my opinion. Things you need to cover before jumping into Parenthood with someone like how would they want to parent ect. I would say that getting through med school would be way easier without a child…focus on getting your self established in your career.
Absolutely not. And the simple fact he knew he was trying to get you pregnant and it wasn’t a conversation with you before hand so it’s a mutual thing is an ENORMOUS red flag! Concentrate and dedicate yourself to school if he sticks around while you get your nursing degree especially without the baby then he was telling the truth. However, if he keep trying to control you in any way shape or form leave him now!!!
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Secure YOUR bag💰THEN think about babies
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It’s fine to be In the beginning love stage enjoy it but don’t throw your dreams out the window . Be the dr first , then wife then mom . Don’t put the cart before the horse !
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Don’t have a baby right now, do school first, it’s way harder to do it with a child. You guys can always have a baby in a few years when your done school and have your schooling to fall on. You guys are young and this is new, and you can not possibly know him well enough to start a family with, spend a few years to get your schooling done and to know him and build towards your future.
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Go to med school …oh my gosh …do not do this …you have plenty of time to be a mother .
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Yes, you are being dumb. lol If you want to be a doctor then you need to get thru that FIRST. If you have a baby now you might as well kiss those dreams goodbye. Get on some kind of birth control asap.
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Wait…med school is going to be tough…get through school first…don’t rush into anything…do you first…plenty of time for babies and such later
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I would call that PROMOTION
Hell no. PLEASE don’t do this. Go to medical school and follow your dreams. I promise you that there will be time for babies later. For all you know he could be psycho and leave you as a single mom and student as you stated. I would get on birth control and if he’s not happy with that choice then huge red flag. Wait and see how the relationship works, 2 months isn’t long enough to know if either of you are ready to parent together. Good luck!
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Men do not show their true colors & intentions within 2 months. Absolutely not 
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Sadly u sounds dumb for not being on birth control. U should finish college and be in your relationship longer the 2 months before planing a kid together.
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Do not have a baby with him yet. Finish school. You will not want to have an infant while in school and especially when you go into residency. That will be stressful enough.
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Do what makes you happy
When do you plan on going to medical school? I don’t know much about what it takes to be a doctor but I do know you’ll be broke, working shitty hours. Can he financially and emotionally support all three of you through those years?
Never mind you’ve only known the guy TWO MONTHS. Jeez. YES!! You’re being dumb.
go to medical school. This, to me, is a no brainer. If he’s dying for a baby have him put a ring on it during your last year of medical school, and then have a baby. Make sure he’s financially stable and educated as well—you don’t need the baggage of a whole man
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Good way to destroy your future medical career. You will never finish school. Two months? Grow up. Thank God medical school and residency takes so long because if your this naive and gulable now, your not mature enough to commit to a career in medicine.
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If he’s anything worthwhile, he’ll be supportive of your dreams. But, it’s up to you as much as him to be mature and methodical about your responsibility to do well in med school. It’s rigorous and he’ll have to take the brunt of the responsibilities in raising your child which may not equal out to enough income to get you through med school and get your kid the necessities.
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Yeah no. Finish your med school first then kids. And with a guy you’ve only known 2 months? No ma’am. You think you know this guy but you don’t. Slow down. You’ve got the rest of your life to do all these things
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It’s not all on him. You know he doesn’t use protection nor does he pull out. You’ve only been dating him for two months… go to school first then have a baby… but if you are worried in anyway then use protection because going to nursing school with a baby will be hard.
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And, get on birth control. NOW. Depo he won’t even know about. It’s invisible
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Go to med school. So hard to get into. Hold off on getting pregnant2 months not enough time to know person.
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I wouldn’t do it honestly. Is not even about the two months anymore, it could be 5 years together but if you want school then finish school first and then have a baby. Medical school isn’t easy . If u get preg now and u get a baby in 9 months I promise u there will be times u will forget about medical school.
Kids are not easy to raise .
I’m not gonna even mention the time u have together because I guess and hope u already know is it way too early to think about a kid with someone u just met .
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Go to school then have a family you deserve it. If he loves you he’ll understand
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You can always freeze your eggs to have kids later. You are jumping the gun on a relationship and especially marriage and kids if you’ve only known him 2 months. Really get to know him, his friends and family first. Three years is good to learn all or most of the bad stuff. You’re still in the honeymoon part when you can do no wrong (and yet you’re already arguing).
Go to med school first. It’s a long slog & so is raising kids. Tough to do both at the same time. Settle your career first.
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Oh Jesus… you’ve been with this man for two months, and basically trying for a baby? Unless your goal is to be a single mother, please get on birth control. Do you really want to give up your dream and everything you’ve worked for to struggle for the next 18 years? If you seriously want to finish med school, you truly need to re evaluate your life and relationship.
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I think you already know the right answer. I hope you follow that gut instinct. From experience, I have regretted not listening to that many times. 
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I am not the best for amazing advice. But I had a baby ALONE! My ex said he couldn’t wait to be a dad. And that he waited a family with me and that our life would be amazing! I got pregnant and he said it’s not mine I drink to much red bull to produce a baby🤦🏼♀️I had a beautiful baby girl and he well hells bells if I know were he is. Red bull gave that bitch wings! Some men do say stuff just to seem amazing and reality they just playing!
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Girl if you don’t get on some birth control and finish medical school. 
You have been in this relationship for 2 damn months so y’all are really still getting to know each other. You’re about to f**k your future up for a guy that you JUST met. Focus on your future. If he’s really serious about you, he will be there for the long haul.
First off y’all got into a relationship 2 month ago? If so then why would you even think of bringing a child into this world with a man you barely know?
I went to school for something in the medical field while I was pregnant & graduated once our daughter was here. Its tough. Especially being pregnant your emotions are all over the place.
USE PROTECTION & DONT BE STUPID. This will basically end in 1 you dropping out of med school & 2 a single mom.
It took me knowing my now husband over a year before we even discussed having kids & trying. Our daughter didnt happen until we were together 3 years. Weve been together almost 6 years now. A child & relationship take COMMITMENT.
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Coming from someone in med school- I can’t imagine having a baby and trying to do med school. You’ve got plenty of time babe!!
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Giiiiiiiirl…get your education. If the man cares the way he says he does, he would’ve had the baby conversation WITH you before trying to T R A P you.
My son’s dad said all the good things & then got very insecure whilst I went to school. I never got my degree, HOWEVER I got myself into the field I wanted to work in since I was 6 yrs old…& My son’s dad is doing his own thing, I am a single mom but I have a partner who is a very good man to me & my boys.
I 100% believe you when you say you’re sure you’ll be together a long time because you probably will and I’m excited for you! But please try to make him understand that you need to finish school first so you can for sure make a living to support and take care of your baby. I WISH I finished school before I had a baby, trying to do both wrecked me and I regretted it.
I think if you have to ask, you already know the answer. I can tell you I got pregnant within the first few months of a new relationship and we broke up and got back together. Over and over and over again… For 10 years. Now we are married but separated and Im a single Mom to 4 kids. I LOVE my kids but gave up Nursing school for my family. Now Im unemployed, 35, and uneducated.
Don’t do it. Just wait. Baby isn’t going anywhere
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There is no reason to rush having a baby. You have SO much time. Focus on med school and have a baby later or you might regret not pursuing your dreams. If he is the right man he would not try to trap you. He would date you and support your goals and propose. I hope you can see the big picture and get everything you want in the long run. 
I got to the two month part … 
My vote is medical school
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Jesus Christ. Sounds like he has major control issues. He’s admitted to trying to get you pregnant while knowing you want to go to med school. A baby is the perfect way to tie you to him for life. Take it slow. If he really wants to be with you, he’ll wait until you’re done with school to want a child with you. Finish med school first, hon. Set yourself up with a career.
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Honestly, you sound 16 by this post:woozy_face:
Do not have a baby with someone that you’ve barely been with 2months:woman_facepalming:t3:
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Nope. Go to school. Travel the world. Have your dream career. Do everything fun you wanna do. In fact, never have kids lol
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Wait! If it’s meant to be, you will still have plenty of time to have a baby.
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Yes, yes to that last question. 
Go to medical school, work until you get some experience under your belt and get married and have a baby. Promise you won’t regret it. Sounds like he thinks a baby will keep you around, but you’d be doing this for your family. Don’t struggle through life like most of us women have. Please go to school.
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If this helps, I had an amazing GPA while graduating highschool. I actually had way more credits than I needed, And I took special college courses for cardiology. I graduated early, planned to go straight into college for my dream to become a cardiologist. I started dating someone, got pregnant 3 months in. Never went to college and never chased that dream again. Med school is not ideal for women with small children, it takes focus, dedication and it is extremely time consuming. So is Parenthood. I chose my son because I knew I wouldn’t have had the time or energy to give both. I hope this helps
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You just got together I’d wait. You never know what could happen, finish school, move in together, get married, then have a baby
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If he really cared he would be pushing an education and not unprotected sex…
Yes. Yes you are. It’s been 8 weeks and you barely know him, it’s only infatuation that’s making you think this way. Use protection.
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Sounds like my sperm donor. I got pregnant after us being together for 4 months (I was on bc too), then he became extremely abusive to the point he tried to kill me. I left when our child was 6 months old and that was the last time he saw him. He’s almost 5 now. Don’t rush it. Go to school and get yourself set up. You’ll see his true colors later on, not 2 months in. If he’s a good, genuine guy, he won’t go anywhere and you’ll have plenty of time for a baby.
Wait until you have completed school and can support a child on your own. Because I’d things ever go south that’s what you’re looking at in the future. I hope all goes well for you.
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No don’t he’s rushing you. It happened to me and after that phase your in Right now he started beating me.
Yes you sound dumb
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Go to school!!! I repeat. GO TO SCHOOL!!!
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Has to be a joke post
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A child is a big deal! You both are still very young and there is plenty of time for that in your future. Get to know each other! Give your relationship time to grow and build a strong foundation. Going to school… for ANYTHING… let alone medical school can be enough to put unimaginable stress and pressure on a relationship… even without adding a baby to the mix. And vice versa… having a baby will also completely change the dynamic of any relationship. My personal thoughts, this is entirely too soon. I’m not saying you have to necessarily wait until school is completed to move forward with your family, but most definitely you both need to give this relationship time and see how it is after you are in school and how it will stand the test of that pressure. What are his plans as far a career? Has he already established himself enough to support you through this journey? What is the rush for a baby? I’m urging you, not only from personal experience but aslo having witnessed even the strongest relationships/marraiges fall apart from the pressure of schooling… whether kids were involved or not… and at much more mature ages and significant time together …to really reconsider this. This is impulsive and can truly change the entire trajectory of your entire future.
Holy hell if I could shake you I would…you don’t have a baby with someone after 2 months. You don’t let someone you’ve known for 2 months out of the 324 months you’ve been on this earth deter you from your life goals and ambitions. You don’t go to med school while being a mom. If you have a baby now, it’ll likely never happen or won’t happen til much later down the road. Both of you are in some fantasy world. Snap out of it
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This is ridiculous! You’re not protecting yourself and you’ve been in this relationship for two months?
You are premed, and that alone is your answer. I am a mother of three and am having a hard time working and taking care of them while I go back to school.
You are the only person you can rely on. Period. The moment you get pregnant or have the baby and he changes his mind… Guess who it falls on?
You need to think this over and until you make a well thought out decision with a plan, you need to protect yourself.
The answer to your last question is yes.
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Oh grow up …you’ve been with him 2 months! Go ahead get knocked up and either before or right after having the baby you’ll be raising the kid yourself. Why ask such a stupid question. If you can’t answer it how are you gonna make life and death decisions as a doctor.
2 months and he’s already trying to get you prego? No protection? To me this is a no brainer. Birth control is so easy to get now a days than it was when I needed it. Get on some kind of birth control and FINISH SCHOOL! You really don’t know someone fully until you’ve been together about 3 years. True colors and actions will surface by then.
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Live your dreams you will regret it if you don’t a you will become unhappy with life in the future
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Birth control and wait. Accomplish your dreams first. The man and kids will come later.
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Plan b was not made just so you could have unprotected sex. And you wanna be a doctor? You do not sound very smart to me. Geez. Some people and their ignorant posts.
In one word: yes. You haven’t been together long enough to know each other very well yet let alone make babies together. Slow down! You’re both still young. Get on birth control and finish school.
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To answer your last question, yes, yes you are
2 months? Heck no! Follow your dreams first!!
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It’s too early and you don’t want to have a baby with someone you don’t really know … you need to finish Med school first
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