2 months is not nearly enough time to know someone and bring a child into this world. A fantasy is nice to think about but use your head and be realistic.
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Hold off on having a child at least until you are married. It would actually be even better to hold off on having a child until you have reached your dreams. Once a child comes it changes everything including your relationship.
You answer every one of your own questions already. You know the answer . Iâm not going be the one telling what u want to hear.
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Yes you need to be realistic!!! #1 you have only been together 2 months #2 you say in your first couple of sentences â I really LIKE him â. You should love each other before you bring a child into the world. #3 REALLY!! No birth control , using plan b Get your life together establish a career and then think about settling down with someone you love and then think about bringing a child into the world!!!
Speaking from experience here. All the long hours in med school you will not have time to have a baby. You are so young. Have a plan for your future. Get your education first. You will have the income to afford raising children when your ready. Set them up for their college. Never ever let a man get in your head and give you empty promises that will never be kept. I dont care how much he tells you. I made a point to have my degree before any man or a child. You will count your blessings when you do. That I PROMISE you.
Wait when the right time happens it will happen follow your dream of becoming a Dr first once you have a baby it will be harder for you to study and support yourself and baby follow your dream if he loves you he will wait also get married first
2 months and talking of having a baby? Are you serious?!?! You may have the book smarts to become a doctor but youâre lacking in common sense.
My advice to you would be number one ⌠use protection until the two of you get to know one another really well. You do not want to get pregnant at this time in your reality. It would be very difficult and abortion would be out of the question. From your written words, he seems like a great find, but he also is young and kind of overly idealistic ⌠common sense is the key! Hang in there with him, but use protection until you guys are âengagedâ and are serious about becoming parents. I wish you both the best.
Just watch his reaction if and when you tell him no, no more unprotected sex, you have a dream to fulfill⌠That will tell you everything you need to know about him.
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I think you should wait to have a baby you two havent know each other long .the baby can wait for a while
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If he really loves you, he should support you to finish school! Please never give up on your career goals!
You both seem too immature to even get married much less bring an innocent child into your clueless life. He cannot guarantee how heâll react to any situation in the future no more than you can. You know there will be days you wonât see your bed much less a child and a boyfriend/husband while in medical school. Someone will feel neglected. Itâs not fair to a child, your guy nor you. If you want to be in medical school in the many years coming up, you better buy those condoms AND birth control pills. He may put pin holes in the condoms so you better be on birth control.
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Yes.Take first things first.Being a wife & mother was the toughest job I ever did & I had a husband that always pitched in after work & on weekends .Being in Med school is challenging & who takes care of the baby when you are unavailable & your partner is working.? Think this out!
You need to protect things change when a kid comes and men change to are you married if he wonât marry you first then he well leave
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Two months is not enough time to really know who a person is. If you get pregnant right away and he turns out to not be who you think he is then it will be harder for you. Donât get pregnant just because you think you love him.
I really hope this guy is as great as he puts on but Iâm getting a feeling he is looking for a way to control you. Itâs way too early to even be thinking about having a child with him. You need to go to school and complete your education first. If he is as great as he wants you to believe he will wait.
I met someone once that seemed to be my soul mate too. I was pregnant after 4 months. Seemed sweet until I realized they were all red flags and he was an abusive narcissist. Donât do it. Protect yourself. Youâll be sorry if you donât.
Girl that is a Trap. There is something Wrong with this Guy. If You have a Baby with this guy You will be tied to him for Life. RUN RUN RUN
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You dont know him or his aunt in 2 months, not nearly enough to be willing to make life altering decisions. And for him to be trying to get you pregnant without discussing that with you is a problem.
My thoughts, continue following your dream to become a doctor, babies can wait, imagine how unbelievablely proud of yourself you are going to be!!! And how much more you will be able to then give your baby and relationship. 
Education first; children second. You have plenty of time to have children. Focus on yourself and creating a solid, independent future. Then no matter what happens you can provide for your child. If this man truly loves you he will encourage you to be the âbest youâ and support your dreams. You do not need a child with him at this early point in your life. Personally, and I do not know him, but I think he is trying to sandbag you, keep you down, and limit your success.
This group is unreal. Someone must write the fake situations. There canât be this many women who canât have a good decision. Why would anyone want a baby with a man she has known for this length of time, even if she had no dreams? A baby is a forever, a 2 month relationship is a maybe, at best.
Saying that something is FOR EVER ,IS NOT SO ,UR YOUNG ,U WANT TO GO TO MED SCHOOL,HE IS KINDA TELLING U HE WANTS A BABY, U HAVE NOT BEEN WITH HIM LONG ENOUGH TO REALLY KNOW WHAT MAKES HIM TICK, I WOULD TAKE IT REAL SLOW ,GET YOUR MED DEGREE, AND WAIT FOR BABY, HAS HE MENTIONED MARRIAGE YET ,BE VERY CAREFULL ,A CHILD IS VERY HARD TO DEAL WITH, ESPECIALLY ALONG WITH UR MED. SCHOOL ,NOT TRYING TO GIVE U FAULSE HOPES .BUT NOTHING IS NEVER FOREVER, GOD BLESS U ,IN MAKING A MAJOR DECISION
Go to medical school first,than think about a baby, if he really loves you he will wait. And really he should be thinking about your dreams.And you didnât say if this man even has a job. Be careful go to school first.I got married at a very young age and had three children all at young age. I love my kids, but I wish I had stayed in school and finished first.
Get off for school, get a job and other matters about hussy and pregnancy stuffs will definitely come when the time is right
Two months is not long enough to.totally.know someone. A baby involves a lot more time than you realize. Go.to mefical.school first. If he truly loves you, he will wait until.you finish medical school for you to have a baby.
Iâm going to be blunt. 1-youâve known this guy 2months 2-youâre having unprotected sex 3-you want to go to Medical School 4-youâre really considering having a baby with a guy youâve dated 2 months 5- Most important one, honey, youâre not smart enough to go to Medical School!
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My advice is to get your education first , then plan your future . You donât know what tomorrow brings and , if he is the man for you , heâll wait for you . It you have a baby now , itâll be harder on you to go to school and take care of a baby at the same time. He may or may not stick around , but if he doesnât , youâll have a way to support yourself. Your dream job is within your reach , go for it !!!
You know the answer because you are practical . When you get out of medical school if you are still with this wonderful man, get pregnant.
l was married during the time my husband was in med school. He had no time for marriage, fun or me. seriously hard on both of us,we divorced.
Later as a mom in a new marriage, l didnât not want my career in advertising because a baby was 24/7⌠important loving work and tiring.
Some fellow med students were really old (50s). They had had families and careers, so you could wait?
Grow up in this relationship before a family.
Protect yourself both physically and mentally. please.
Um, itâs a new relationship,. Donât be niave!! If he wants to get you pregnant that quickly, you should be seeing huge red flags. Protect yourself first. Once you have a child you canât go back and change that. You more than likely will not go to medical school once a baby is in the picture. Go to medical school first. Be self sufficient. Follow your dreams. Itâs only been two months. If you feel the same after 3 years, get married, have a child. If he loves you, he will wait. A lot can change in a year, including how you feel about each other. You havenât even seen his true colors yet.
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Keep being realistic, not to be negative but youâve heard a lot of break up stories on here thatâs enough to clear the eye and make you think straight. Try a birth control method maybe an IUD that way youâll never be caught of guard till youâre all round ready. XOXO
You donât have time for a baby to raise. Its too early in relationship to consider anything. Fulfill your dream. Everything else will get in the way of that if you let it.
Time for serious talk, and birth control, tell him your goals of medical school, baby and med school is too much, enjoy the relationship, go to school and see how it goes, date for at least a year, he needs to have goals also, If he is serious enough to have a baby, then he needs to work, and marry you firstâŚ
After two months you should still be in the honeymoon stage and not having fights yet I would take this as a red flag be careful!!
Take my advice and run the other way if he is trying to get you pregnant knowing each other only a couple of months.
No no no itâs too soon bab wait at least 2 years and then you know which way you are going
Be totally honest with him and tell him not yet,
The best advice I can give is ask yourself the questions and listen carefully to your own answers because your own intuition is telling you what to do x
You are obviously unsure or you wouldnât be asking and looking after a new baby is so so difficult xxx best wishes x
You have time to have a baby. Wait til you finish school and get into residency where you will actually be making some money. Then you will know where the relationship is really going.
Slow down honey and donât be so quick to get pregnant by someone whom you only known for 2 months. Like him continue to date, hang out and get to know him before starting a family with him
On another note. Donât wait too long to have a baby either if this is what you also really desire. Time is fleeting and regrets last a lifetime once the window to have a child is gone. Been there and done that
Do YOU want a pregnancy and a baby right now? Many things can go wrong and knock you off of your med-school track. You have maybe a 35% chance that all will go well.
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How is it a honey moon stage if yâall ainât married? Slow down. All will fit in. Playing house is not all what it seems to be.
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You need to go to medical school and wait to have a baby.
You guys have seriously been together for 2 monthsâŚa baby is a life long commitment and it doesnt stop when they turn 18. You barely know this man !!! He may say he doesnt want to break up but how does he know that a year from now ??? A baby is A LOT of work especailly if you are working and going to school. Theres a lot of things you need to ask yourselfâŚwho will watch that baby while your working or going to school ? Can you financially take care of it (if he breaks up with u ) things are expensive ! Diapers are 25 a box and they will be in them for at least 2 yrs, if u have to do formula, thats another $44 for 2 cans and they have to be on that for a yr and thats not including clothes, bottles,nipples, pacifiers, crib, crib mattress, dresser, car seat, a base for the carseat, changing pad, sleepers. If i had a baby with a guy i just met, i wouldnt be able to trust him enough to watch my child because you dont know him enough to know how his behavior is towards a baby. I have 2 children that I love more than anything ! But i wish i would have waited a few years so that way my husband and i could have done things we wanted. If i was in your shoes i wouldnt even think about children at that point because that is way to soon
Men can be dream killers. They just have a sweet talking way into a womanâs psyche. If you want a baby during med school with all the complications it brings, then by all means listen to him and donât use BC, but if you want a chance at independenceâŚ. Take the pill, donât tell him, or leave him⌠just be strong. What he says he wants to be and what heâs doing are two different things. What heâs doing now is an indicator of his future behavior.
Weâll, I canât say much about you going to school. BUT me and my fiancĂŠ got pregnant after 3 months of being together and weâre getting married next year will be 3 years in January together. Kids make it super hard to go to school but itâs doable! Especially if thereâs a daycare on campus some have them and itâs super convenient for the parents that are going there maybe look into that before you make final decisions
Slow down on the sex and get to know him better. Do not get pregnant. He may be trying to control you and your destiny. Get your head out of the clouds and pay attention to red flags. Once you start having sex, especially if itâs good, all logic goes out the window. Been there, done that, bought the T shirt, got delivered. Birth control please
There is always a way. I was pregnant in high school, worked a full time job and raised my son. Heâs 10 now and while Iâm not doing medical school, I am in college and working full time and 2 part time jobs. All while having A debilitating disability called Multiple Sclerosis. If you set your mind to it, you can do it
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You really donât know this man⌠it hasnât been long enough to see how he really is! Do not have a baby yet! Go to school and fulfill your goals, then you can think about bringing a new life into your world.
NO NO NO! Need school is very tiring long hours! You will not have time for a baby! Live your life first! There is plenty of time for children!
Heâll no with this guy. You didnât mention if he even has a job. Two months with this guy. No way girl you need to grow up up. He sounds controlling to me. Run as fast as you can!
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A baby isnât the answer have fun enjoy one another first but education first
How serious are you about your medical degree⌠That is your decision maker⌠Use birth control for now until you know what you really want⌠If you donât follow your dream, you could well become bitter. Know what you want and make your decision accordinglyâŚ
Good luck âŚ
Get a ring on your finger, have a nice wedding, finish med school and then have a baby!
I got married at age 20 and had my first child literally 3 days after my 1yr anniversary! It took me almost 5yrs to get a 2yr Associates Degree because I could only go to school part-time and I had to take a semester off because my son had surgery. I have been married to the same man nearly 21yrs, so yes it can be done, but there were years we went through hell.
Please, get your education first. You will never regret it!!
A baby is foreverâŚHe may not stick around. Dream yr dreams but be Realistic.Medical school is difficult ,& expensive without added responsibilities.
Go to school and become a doctor. If you are still together after you finish school then you can start to plan a future together. 2 months is to early to know if you are ready or not.
Why are you even thinking about having a baby with somone youâve known 2 months? Move forward with your education. If this is meant to be, it will. Donât jump the gun because once youâre a single mom, your educational dreams will be harder to obtain or history.
Listen to your âother selfâ. Find a friend that has a young baby and assume the mother role - it sounds like you are trying to make sure you hang on to this boyfriend by having a baby - 3 strong reasons NOT to have one - trapping a boyfriend, immaturity and you want to go to med school. Mature, if the relationship is right it will strength as you go thru what all couples deal with and fulfill your financial/education dreams first⌠At least a large part. Good luck to you.
You have been in a relationship for 2 months and you are willing to believe all this guy says and having nonstop sex . Why in the world would you even consider having unprotected sex? If you have a desire to go to medical school , then do it . But donât even think of having a child . Medical school takes hours of studying. Be smart and use birth control and start thinking of your future as a doctor.
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Go to Med school lots of time for babies and please no unprotected sex you should know better you said yourself you donât really know him!!!
Finish your education and take more time to get to know each other. I would not get pregnant this soon in a relationship.
Do not have a baby you two are to new. Go to school. If itâs meant to be heâll still be there and understand. Iâve seen this to often and usually itâs the female that has to forget her dreams
U have not known this guy long enough and med school is tough! When it gets tougher and it will wait on the baby!! Yâall honeymoon portion of being together has not ended yet ppl will flake on you after 1yr let along months of getting to know one another! Love and take care of urself first before adding another human being to it!!! And if yâall argue sometimes not good be wise!!!
2 months is way too early to tie yourself to a person for life. Take your time. Go after your education first, and if he truly loves you he will support you through that. Have children later.
Youâve not been with him long enough to have a child with him. Get through school first.
Take it slow. You are overwhelming yourself. He may not be what he appears to be. If he wants you he should wait to have sex after you know him. Medical school is hard and with a baby it will be even harder. Do you know his background? If not better check it out.
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Trust is key in a relationship. Manipulation and control around sex: him trying to get you pregnant when you arenât wanting to, is a huge red flag. Take birth control. Wait to have kids because you donât want to resent him or your kids. He sounds controlling and if this is the beginning it could get much worse
If you donât stick to your original plan, you may grow to resent your child and possibly him.
From personal experience, you should be financially set up before bringing a life into this world. Youâve only been together 2 months. Talk about it after a year
You canât possibly want to be a doctor if you are having unprotected sex and taking plan B. You are going to do what you want to do. But you are smart enough to do what is best for your future.
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Medical school first, then baby. You donât sound mature enough to handle both now. Maybe get a pet and see how that works out.
Follow your goals and use protection Medical school is a beast in my opinion it is too early in the relationship to get serious yes the honeymoon phase and you love spending all your time together but when reality kicks in and you start seeing all the flaws its gonna get ugly. He seems like a dreamer and has not fully developed his life goals instead he is mimicking or admiring his brother in law, keep your head straight enjoy the sex etc but stay on track.
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This is a baby you are talking about - not an object you want. Get real and go to medical school if that is what you want to do
Sorry me again
Heâs bullying you how can he say you wonât break up
Please take on board what everyone has said you are young have plenty of time to qualify as a doctor and have children
Iâm half expecting him to say if you donât have a baby he will break up with you I hope he doesnât but respects how you feel
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I agree with Dana wait get to know him better. He sounds a bit controlling wanting to have a baby now.
What exactly are you thinking? TWO MONTHS??? You two know absolutely nothing about each other in that short amount of time. And he wants to have a baby with you and âheâs never felt like this about anyone beforeââŚhoney, give me a break!! Do you have any idea that pretty much every young girl has heard that same exact line time after time? âWe are not breaking up, I promise youâ is another good one, until the next girl comes along. Wake up, get out of this messâŚgo to med school and meet someone that isnât going to just knock you up, walk away and ruin your life. Because that is exactly what this guy will do to you. Then you will never be a doctor, you will never follow your dreams, and youâll be working a job you hate, trying to make enough to raise your child on, most likely alone. The fact that this guy wants to move so fast into having a baby is a huge red flag. If you ever want to have any kind of a prosperous life, get rid of this guy.
Have bothâŚmed school and manâŚjust enjoy the journeyâŚbabies can come later
Donât do it yet! You have lots of time to be a mom! Finish school so u can have a profession. You wonât have to depend on anyone . Itâs good to have a career then a family
2 months?! No ring, but a baby? This sounds either fake or heâs controlling.
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Protect yourself from getting pregnant. Never put your goals on HOLD for another person.
If itâs to BE it will be after you have conquered your dream. If not, it wasnât meant to BE.
Af. If he cares for you the way he says he wants too he will appreciate the life youâll be able to help him provide for the child he wants after you finish school and establish your career or at least get a foot in the door. If he really wanted to be like the brother in law to his sister shouldnât he be marrying you firstđ¤
Another thing to consider is does your boyfriend w
Plan to stay home with the child you have brought into the world while you go to uni?
Listen to all the advice you have been given. Finish medical school because itâs your dream if you lose what you want for yourself you will have a lot of resentment you have time for a baby later and if he really loves you he will stay . You say he talks about the type of man he wants to be thatâs saying he is not sure who he is yet . Use protection he has to know that medical school will get put off if you have a baby now . What does he do ? Talking about how he wants to be means he doesnât know who he is now at 25 there is still a lot of growing up to do and he is not acting mature if after 2 months wants to get you pregnant knowing you are in medical school w/ dreams to fulfill . Medical school and birth control donât let someone youve only known 2 mos make your decisions for you . What about when the honeymoon is over . You have a baby and he gets all the control you know the answer to your own question . Please do for yourself first or you wonât be happy just filled w/ self loathing and regrets . Listen to all the advice . God bless
Give it time. Do more schooling. That first response of yours after you asked him if heâs trying to get you pregnant is the answer.
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Continue achieving your goals. Donât let him sideline your dreams. What is his dream, beside wanting to impregnate you. Get on birth control, he doesnât have to know.
Him admitting to trying to get you pregnant is very concerning to me and should be a major red flag to you. Him also insisting youâll never break up, I get the optimism but it seems a little controlling like it would be his decision only. I think as everyone else is stating, you need to focus on school. Not saying you canât do school with a baby, but letâs be real, itâll be a hell of a lot easier without a baby. You have time. Donât rush it. If you donât know him completely it isnât fair to bring a child into the world that way. If itâs meant to be, he will support you through school, an engagement, marriage, and then a baby. Things happen out of order all of the time and thatâs okay, but if you can have control over it, I would start before itâs too late. Be careful, he seems a little too much so soon- and like I said, he seems like heâs trying to trap you early on girlâŚ. Not being negative, but 100% seems that way.
Naive and irrespinsible. If you continue you WILL not go to medical school. And no one knows what thw future will bring. Stop going along with whatever this lover boy says, grow a set, screw your head on straight, and think about your future. Now is the time to act responsible or do everyone a favor and stay out of the medical field.
No babyâs please or you will crush your own dreams some men looks so genuine loving and caring and promise you the world as soon as you get pregnant or when baby is born they gone.
No girl go finish your studies and forget about babyâs now after you become a doctor you can think about babyâs so please use protection or you will regret big time if he really love you he will wait for you.
I am sorry people on here are questioning your intelligence.
The truth is, anyone can fall for this type of behaviour.
There are a lot of warning signs in what youâve said. Please do some research on domestic abuse / violence.
There are support group and forums that you can join to ask questions.
For a 2 month relationship - itâs seems to much to soon. Keep yourself safe.
The saying âtalk is cheapâ is so true. He can say he wants to treat you right but is he? Have you been together long enough to know for sure.
Please take care of yourself
You are a rational human being. What would you tell a patient⌠or your daughter. You are infatuated with this guy. Get some condoms and go to med school.
Go to school, if the man loves you he will support that decision. Children are a lifetime commitment.
TWO MONTHS!!!? Girl donât get yourself tied to an unknown quantity!! Get to know him for at least a year!
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Take birth control and finish your education. You will always never regret it . Plus you never know what the future holds.
No no no
What an idea;donât have a baby with someone you just metâŚ
Unless you want to have a lot of hardship.
That is WAY to soon to get to know someone. Plus be careful. Spend a day or 2 away from him, donât text or call first either. If he seems agitated RUN. There is abusers who will be nice until you get married or have a baby, then they will turn. They usually propose or ask you to get pregnant within the first couple months of a relationship. Learn the signs. Iâm not saying he is, Iâm just saying be smart about this
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Slow down! Plenty of time for kids!! Enjoy each other while you can! Once a baby comes, you wonât have much time for each other!! Donât become just another statistic! Complete your goals first!!
You would be smart to protect yourself and continue on with your career. You barely know the guy so if you were to get pregnant, he says he wonât leave but nothing is guaranteed and you would then be on your own raising a child and living off of assistance and no career. Once your schooling is done and if you two are still together and your working, it will give you the time to know this guy further and time will tell everything. If he is sincere, heâll still be around and supporting you. Donât be stupid.
Finish your schooling. I see this as a very narcissistic move on his part. Trying to get you pregnant without even telling you!!? Iâd run! 
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Based on what I am reading g you have to be lying!! You obviously have issues as far as maturity goes. I have been in the medical field all my life and know that doctors have to be focused. Take your delusional thoughts to someone who is dumb enough to believe them!!!
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