Educated them, be honest and chill!
Educate and protection
Go get her birth control
Put her on birth control
Iād cry 
how sadā¦ way too young!!!
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Talk to them; listen and never make them feel alone; let them open up to you
Educate your child!!
I lost my virginity at 13. I was depressed and going through things my parents never knew of because I didnāt feel comfortable going to them. I wish someone would have told me not to at that age nicely and with education rather than someone yelling at me not to, if that makes sense. Just please educate her on everything. Sex, birth control and that itās not 100% effective, same with condoms, all the emotions that come with both having sex already and taking birth control, and talk about STDās and getting checked regularly. I never even knew STD checks were a thing until after I had a kid and started working in healthcare because no one educated me on anything. Just love her, and out yourself in her shoes. You got this!
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My daughters turned 10 today and I am planning on having an honest conversation with them about this subject in the near future.
I want them to feel
Comfortable coming to me to have these conversations because no one talked to me about these things and I experimented on my own and lost my virginity at 14.
My grandparents raised me and that wasnāt talked about in our home.
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Umā¦ I always tried to talk to my daughter like an adult. She asked me where do babies come from when she was 3. I explained. No gruesome details but I didnāt go, stork brought you, we found you in the cabbage or something like that. I had a conversation about condoms with her when she was about 9, 10. She saw them in shop and asked what is it. Depending on what the relationship is like you can go out, have a walk/talk, kids open up much easier if they feel relaxed.
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I was 13 and my mother talked with me about if I was safe and if I had any questions and if he made me feel comfortable. She also made sure I was the one that wanted to do it and not that I felt pressured (my boyfriend at the time was 15). After that I felt like I could go to her with things and it helped a lot! Donāt make her feel guilty for it because, chances are, she already does.
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I lost mine at 13 and was pregnant by 15 n a mom at 16 soooo I definitely advise birth control and be open for the conversations w your kiddo. My mom knew and didnāt care and became a grandma soooo just be prepared for whatever may happen
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My daughter is almost 2 and this just makes me 
saving this for all of the wonderful advice! 
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I was 13. My parents tried to stop me from seeing every boyfriend I had when they found out we were having sex until I was 18 and moved out. It never worked out well. Talk about it, be there for your child, donāt judge, make sure it was consensual and if they plan on continuing then get them in with an ob (assuming your child is a girl?)
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Stay calm!! Talk TO baby girl, not AT her. Show her nothing but love and understanding. Ask her how sheās feelings. Donāt offer any unsolicited advice at this time, itās a vulnerable period. Give it a few days, and always talk from an educating perspective and not a parenting or belittling one. Good luck! Scary times.
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Do the responsible parent thing, and be responsible for your child when they arenāt being responsible for themselves. Take her to a doc, have her explain all the different information on sex and birth control, and get her prepared for birth control options. You might not be able to force her to stop having sex, but you can help her be more responsible about it
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My little sister sheās 17 will be 18 next month lost hers last summer she still hasnāt told our parents because of how my stepmother was about me. She told me a week later so I had the talk with her and explained she is getting older this wonāt be her first time or last but she needs to get birth control because she doesnāt want kids and never has and I would take her to get tested and a pap so no one would find out. A few months later she told my parents she wanted on birth control because sheās always had bad periods I was proud of her she has autism and sometimes wonāt speek up for herself she graduates in a few weeks and I am glad she felt comfortable enough to come to me. I had my son at 20 and will be 22 in a few weeks and pregnant again I had a c section and my aunt also had issues with pregnancy like I do so she was worried about going through what I went through knowing sheās not ready. So talking and just being supportive at this age will be better for you and your child you donāt want your kids to act like me and my siblings because our parents acted out of anger with everything. Itās time to just be a supporter but also be a parent
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Just talk openly and be honest about what could come of it, being safe, caring for a partner and their privacy and body etc Privacy between one another. You canāt stop it 
. I was 14 and looking back im like woahhh, but it was the right person, my best friend at the time. 13 is very young, but all you can do is educate and hope they do the rest
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My first question would be how old was the person they had sexual withā¦ Iāve been hearing a lot about young boys having sex with older women. Even though boys have fantasies of older women itās still considered being molested . A lot of ny friends lost their virginity at a young age. I was 17ā¦
Educate him or herā¦ let them know your there for them and try to establish that open line of communication. I thinks itās important to make sex a comfortable subject to talk about so your able to help them be safe. The only thing shaming them will do (I feel) is cause them to hide it. Let them know you donāt agree but donāt be crazy or weird if that makes sense. Best of luck mom!
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Please talk to her and dont yell or judge. I wish I had gone a different route with my daughter. Explain to her that with it though comes alot of responsibilityā¦and talk about birth controlā¦all kindsā¦male and femaleā¦
And also please let her know that just because she done it once or twice doesnāt mean,she has to keep on doing it if she doesnāt want toā¦and no always means no.
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Well, if itās a boy, talk to him about being safe and ready for these types of things. If itās a girl, do the same thing and also make a birth control appointment. My 15 year old daughter is getting the nexplanon implant next week. I would rather do this than her end up raising a baby while growing up herself.
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Talk to her see how she doing and feeling about it talk about safe sex and pertection , be thear for her donāt try push it and are get mad unless thatās how you deal itās your kid but try be thear for her
Talk about being safe and provide what they need. No need to make a huge thing out if it. Just let them know your always a willing ear if they need your help
Knowledge is power and a key to safety. If shes adult enough to me the choice to have it she adult enough to hear and learn about it, also making sure shes comfortable.
I was 14,my mom was too (didnāt know it at the time)
My parents were very strict. The problem is we cant spank or discipline our kids anymore. If more of that happened less tweenage sex would go on. I really feared my parents and knew better. Plus i respected their rules. I was 18 before i even kissed a boy
Just drum home safe sex. I was the same age, but went to my mum and asked to go on a contraceptive. We discussed being ready etcā¦my first love was a few years older. Young adults just need guidance to proceed in the deed respectively and responsibly. Well done mama for asking for help big hugs your baby is one step closer to growing up.
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Buy a morning after pill fast and then a chastity belt for when she leaves the house and plant endangered plants on the grave of the young fella 
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I have an infant you can borrow for a little while. Best birth control I know of.
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Donāt get mad at them.
Talk to them. Educate. Let them know what could happen, and how they can protect themselves.
This is the perfect time to let them know they can go to you for anything, and not be afraid.
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Educate her/him instead of punishment. They will do it weather you like it or not so just make sure he/she does it safely, knows the risks of pregnancy, STDs and infections as well as consentā¦
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Let me just say from experience please donāt whole religion on it like donāt tell them that is wrong until marriage my mom told me that and I I was so afraid to talk to anybody about me having sex with someone at 18 i thought i would go to hell and i was a horrible person
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First off, sheās entirely too young to be engaging in sexual activities, and my mom wouldāve whooped my ass and his to. Secondly, she needs to be taught everything about STDāS and getting pregnant and that itās not something that should be taken lightly. Sounds to me like she needs more guidance and support. Iām not downing the parents, this can happen to anyone, but she definitely needs to know about the consequences of her actions and she needs to be punished and made to remember and understand that this is wrong and she is no way capable of taking care of herself or a child because she is a child herself. The stuff that these poor kids are subjected to in this world today is scary and she needs to know that sheās better than this. My prayers are with her and her parents.
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Just talk to her about it , and go get the birth control implant in her are , if itās a boy give him the same talk and tell him how to protect his self.goodlucke
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If itās a girl get her on birth control if its boy get him condoms cause trust me they are gonna have sex regardless of what you say or do so atleast you can teach them to be safe about it.
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Thatās too young. She should be enjoying her childhood stillā¦ or he idkā¦ but for sure have a serious talk if that was my child Iād woop that ass lmao nahh but be there for them because they have no idea what the hell theyre doing . They might be following their friends or something . Idk but thatās not right.
When I had sex the first time it had nothing to do with my parent it was my choice. I also told my mom and was put on birth control and got condoms Donāt get me wrong this was no attempt by my mother any means to give me permission to have sex because I was not given that it was my mom being an adult and telling me if I wanted to act like an adult I need to take adult steps and take care of myself like an adult. She was in no way ok with it but to her that was response and to create an open dialogue about it
Definitely birth control and let her know that youāre not telling her itās ok to have sex but you want her to be safe
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Keep calm and have a honest conversation with her. I intend to have a conversation about it all with my daughter eventually(she is 2) but I want to stress that it is a normal thing and that it is not something to be ashamed of. But you must be safe and also not being a hoe.
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I think sex makes ākidsā feel like theyāre grown and theyāre definitely not grown at 13.
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If a girl get her on birth control ASAP or if a boy buy him condoms. Either way teach them about safe sex. Buy one of those dolls that acts like a real baby that you have to take care of. The crying alone should make them think twice.
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Well a 13 year old is too young to be able to analyse the consequences. If they are doing it they are doing it for fun mostly. A womanās body is not well prepared for sex until 15. If perfomed before, the kid can end up hurting, both physically and emotionally. From a young age the only thing our mother put in our head is that it is important to carefully select a partner. Not everyone is gonna respect your body and you should be aware of that. She told us only to have sex when you feel like you can trust him. And that somehow worked! The feeling of self respect is important to put into a childās mind at a younger age. Sex isnāt the issue.where, how,with whom is, safety is. The world isnāt the same anymore that we lived in 30 years ago.
Communication. Trying to be stern, but not angry. Try to understand what made them think that they were ready for sex. Make sure they understand the repercussions of having sex (baby, STDās, reputation, etc).
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You have the safe sex talk. Provide condoms or birth control. Dont shame them or make them feel bad for it.
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When is a good age to educate kids on sex periods and all the rest
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Im sorry but if i found out my daughter was having sex at that age i wouldnāt act like it was ok lol we talk bout sex but im not letting her hang out with that boy along againā¦ you think her ass isnāt gonna go have sex again?? She is 13!! Her ass canāt even drive a car and she think she can go sleep with whoever
I lost mine at 13 my stepmother was crazy when she found out and put me in a behavioral facility for acting out. It didnāt help because then I really started acting out. I would sit he or she down and have a talk about safe sex and how having sex this young isnāt okay and you arenāt happy about this but itās time to start thinking about condoms and birth control if your child is a girl she needs to go get a pap in the next few months because now she is active also getting STDs checked as well would be the next step. As a mother you need to get her father on the same page and you guys need to get ahold of the other childās parents so they know whatās going on and can have the talk just remember to not get angry because acting out of anger will have your child act out and not listen
At 13 you are well aware what youāre doing you know about sex and sexual things (unless, of course, itās forced etc) but if itās with someone in their school/boyfriend/girlfriend/ etc just supporting her and explaining what she/he needs to do to be careful will allow her\him to come to you with much more throughout life xx
Donāt make her feel ashamed of herself. Sheās already done it all you can do is make sure understands what sex can lead to and how to be safe about it if she continues.
Honestly think about birth control and having a talk about sex, condoms, everything elseā¦honestly if your child is a female get her a toy, she can experiment with that while learning everything about sex, stds, and all of that plus that most guys and boys only just want sex and sometimes its really not safe, then 9 times outta 10 she probably wouldnt wanna be with anyone an have sex, hell let ger pick the toy. I wish my mom did that with me because then I would know exactly how guys were instead of having them try trapping me, and end up having 3 kids, and be stuck into very toxic relationships.
Stay calm, have an open and honest conversation with her but most of all be willing to listen. If you react badly she will shut herself down and she will not open up to you. Take her to a dr, discuss birth control, safe sex, etc you got this
Educate them. Make them feel comfortable about coming to you and talking to you about anything and everything. The info they will get from their peers will be incorrect and they are not going to have their best interest at heart. I have a 15-yr old and I have always had an open ear policy, he can tell me whatever he needs to get off his chest or ask me about anything he is curious about. I donāt punish him and I made that clear to him up front so he wouldnāt be scared to tell me the ābadā stuff too. Itās not the same as being their friend by having open communication, it gives them a safe place to come to as their world, body, and life changes around them. Absolutely educate on the importance of safety and that pregnancy isnāt the only thing to be scared of when engaging in a sexual relationship. You got this momma, I know itās a scary path for you too, but youāve made it through scarier situations than this for sure.
Educate them on safe sĆ©x! Donāt be mad and throw a fit or ananything because theyād stop telling you things with the reaction
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Donāt get mad sure be upset but thatās a way to push them away. Just be straight forward and talk to them like you would an adult about sexual things. Take them to docs and get them checked out. Then take them out to eat. And let them know your there for them
Talk openly . Talk about the consequences of unprotected sex and Maybe look into a contraceptive. Talk about STDās and STIās . My mom showed my sister pictures of STD AND STIās and she was completely grossed out and refuses to even kiss boy
I got pregnant at 14 so if she gonna have sex just talk to her about protection and get her on birth control thatās all u can do
You educate them. Nothing else you can do, because children will never stop. Theyād do anything to sneak out to get what they want.
Everyone talking about birth control and condoms for a 13 year old are forgetting that sex can take an emotional toll on the two young people involved. What a world.
My daughters are 6 and 2 following for adviceā¤
Following to read through later. My daughter is 11 and all advice and recommendations needed
Also whyās everyone automatically assume itās a girl
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Get birth control immediately because Iām not raising anymore kids
I had sex at 14 itās bound to happen just keep a plan b in the house just in case lmao
Just donāt go nutZ backk in the day parents sold there daughters to highest bidders at 13
Talk calmly, openly, honestly and lovingly. Let her know the consequences of the choice she is makingā¦ Answer her questions. Good luck!!!
Teach them how to protect themselves and the importance of safe sex
Whatever you do, DONT BE ANGRY AND DO NOT PUNISH THEM FOR IT. Theres nothing wrong with being curious or enjoying sex. Itās a biological urge we all experience during those pivotal pubescent years, some of us earlier than others and more than care to admit it. I was maybe 9 when I discovered masturbation? Kids are gonna have sex, all we can do is educate them to make the right decisions. Sex doesnt equal love either. That creates the illusion that the first person they have sex with means they must be in love if they felt they should have sex! Wrong!! Teach em that as long as itās safe sex, being in love isnt required.
Educate them fully on sex and everything that goes with it. Give them some condoms or give them the option of birth control. Stress that condoms must be used every time to prevent pregnancy.
And yeah thatās it
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Try not to kill her 
no but talk about protection and STDās.
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EDUCATE !!! Make sure they feel comfortable coming to you to talk about this stuff. If you punish them, they are still going to do it, and then possibly get pregnant/ get someone pregnant.
Donāt make it so theyāre scared to tell you stuff.
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Well make sure theyāre having safe sex.
Nothingā¦ happens all the timeā¦ obviously you didnt loom after her for it to happen anyway
from experience , I didnāt lose my virginity til I was 18 because my sister lost her at 13 and pregnant by 15. then ran away leaving her son with my mom. I was forced to be āmomā at 13 to him. my mother believed that was the best birth control, I believe if you push safe sex and birth control, basically say, if you donāt listen to anything I say today, fine but take your birth control (condoms/pills/shots) seriously or the consequences will force you to listen to small child telling you what to do and when to sleep/eat/have a life. you can express your disappointment but just that say Iām disappointed. and move on to more important factors. also explain doctor visits and take him/her. I donāt know if your child is a boy or girl but the responsibility doesnāt just fall on the girls. boys need just as much responsibility as girls.
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Iād ask if she plans on doing again, and talk about birth control
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I have so many questions. How olds the other person , how long dating protected unprotected? ??? So many questions
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Take her for an sti check, pregnancy test and put her on birth control, like yesterday
Talk to them! Make sure theyāre doing things safely.
Donāt get mad, talk about safety, and buy her condoms.
Put them on birth control.
Properly teach her safety and protection. She will do it regardless if you want honesty. You need to show her how to be responsible in doing it though. Sheās a teen some experience it sooner than others. Itās normal. Just responsibly is the best the best thing to teach her. You donāt want her out here sneaking around all the time not being smart and responsible about being sexually active now. It is hard for any parent to hear of thier baby becoming that so young, but it happened and we as parents have to show them to be responsible with those choices.
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Pay more attention, be more involved, and talk to your kids.
educate on safe sex, contraception and CONCENT also donāt punish her otherwise she will feel like she will never be able to open up to you xx
Get her birth control and have an open discussion about sex.
Talk to her. Do not punish her but do not encourage. Give her a safe outlet.
Be approachable and start birth control asap
Talk to them about stds and protecting themselves. Or ground them and beat them and make them want to do it more 
Take her to family planning and have a talk with her about it allā¦ Whats done is done. You can only support them from here on out. All the best 
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I would talk to them about what is going on and how to do it safely. Be that person they can talk to about it
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Deff donāt shame them but talk about why they felt they needed to take that leap so young.talk about protection from pregnancy and stds as well. Buy condoms and a trip to a gyno or planned parenthood. My daughter loves planned parenthood.shes 25 and still goes and has been going since she started having sex at 15.answer questions and deff donāt try to forbid it. My 1st time I was 15 and I remember being scared.
Talk to them about safe sex because if they did it once they will do it again. You can be mad and not prepare them and they could end up pregnant or with a disease, or you can be mad and teach them to protect themselves. Tell them why they should wait but be realistic and help protect their future.
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Try to be understanding, because being crazy might push the teen to act out more. Explain sex is natural, but itās an adult thing you do with someone you love. Show ALL THE STDS IN THE MFKEN WORLD scare them but nicely. Like look things happen but hereās the Consequences. And then hand them a baby doll that cries for a week
Talk to them about masterbation, birth control, what to do if a condom breaks, and having a trusted adult even if itās not you.
Teach em about safe sex. Keep condoms in their drawer. You canāt stop em now but you can show them how to be responsible and about STDs
Love her, respect her, talk to her at the same level that she comes to you at.
Control your kids make her stay home make her go get the depo shot be your parent. your kid not a friend
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I would suggest not asking strangers on Facebook what to do.
Talk to her and sex educate her then beat her assā:rofl: nah Iām just playin seriously just sit her down and talk to her n take her to doctor n talk to doctor n u three come up with protection and let her know she can talk to u about anything just donāt freak out that will make her not want to talk to u
Teach herā¦educate her
Teach her absenience
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I love all of these comments about communication & teaching
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