HSV ( Herpes ) is so common that they don’t test you for it . You hate to ask . Only way you know you have it is by bloodwork or you have an active outbreak … 1in 4 people have it
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I didn’t want to say what the others are saying but yes! It happened to me! My husband then accused me of cheating and giving it to him! Not the case it was him sleeping with every skirt he saw!
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Have the test run again. They could have messed up
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Your husband was cheating ma’am.
Sometimes those tests can b wrong, get it done again !
Get retested and go from there.
Hopefully you’ll be negative.
If not, well…only one way to catch a std.
And if it wasn’t you, it was him.
I’m curious what woman problems you were having that caused you to go to Dr in the first place?
Wondering if it was PID, pelvic inflammatory disease.
You never want to believe your woman cheated but they will
Don’t ask people on Facebook Sk a doctor who has studies this.
You may be faithful but it comes from somewhere
Depends what it is. HPV can lay dormant for years before you test positive and then 6 months later it can disappear again.
Are you happy? Then it doesn’t matter who had it. Be very careful before you make a change
STI’s can lay dormant for a long time.
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My doctor told me of a confusing case. A man had Aids. An upstanding man in the community. Active in his church. Married & the father of 5. He swore up & down he had no idea how he got it. On his death bed he confessed that he’d picked up prostitutes in that sleazy area of town.
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From the toilet seat.
Someone is in denial and full of it…
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Get a second test did test over was
Negative
He or you can be faithful but depends on how much he sleeps around you sleep with them to. 
Herpes can show up later. As well as HPV and Chlymidia to name a few.
Can’t you also pick it up at a public bathroom or am mistaken? Correct me if I am wrong BC that’s what I thought! Believe your husband right now! If he is being unfaithful it will come out eventually!
My now ex husband had his affair at work. Came home every night like nothing was wrong 
He cheated plain and simple. Sorry girl.
I got BV after having sex for the first time with someone else after 8 years with my ex husband. I thought my new bf gave me something because I knew nothing about it. Turns out new husband just threw my ph off after my vagina being so used to my ex for so long. Still happens sometimes if we don’t have sex for a bit.
I’ve only had 3 partners in my life. After I got with my husband I had an outbreak of hpv. It was to soon to have gotten it from him. My doctor said I could have gotten it from someone I had heavy petting with as a teenager and due to some recent stress it just broke out then. You can have chlamydia and never know it until you can’t get pregnant. Sometimes syphilis has no symptoms until you lose your mind. So it may not be recent. Not enough information here.
If that specific probable STD is herpes, you may have shingles. I don’t know if you had physical evidence of a lesion or not, but if you showed no symptoms and you have had chicken pox or Bells Palsy, there may be a connection. Two thirds of the world has herpes in different forms. Many doctors don’t feel it is an issue to even notify you of. Some people have herpes without lesions present. They have shingles without the rash( a mild case) they may just present with itching and fatigue. No, I am not a doctor.( Herpes comes in different forms. We minimize the categories by just thinking of it as either oral cold sores or an STD. However, it is not that simple).
Oh boy…your significant other is stepping out…
If its hpv , that can lie dormant for years, doesn’t mean anyone is cheating, if not hpv then i dont know hun. Good luck 
Some of these comments are just so ridiculous I can’t believe people don’t have a basic understanding of sexually transmitted diseases
Are u THAT STUPID. You don’t just happen to get one out of the blue.
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What did your Dr say to these questions??
You sound like a ass. Did you really have to come on Fb and ask this Question? It’s obvious you are living in a fantasy or bubble. He cheated get over it.
Somebody been doing the nasty with a dirty pole or a dirty pool just nasty.
Baths. Bacteria migrated.
Has he been tested yet?
Some STDs can remain dormant and you not even know until symptoms appear
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Perhaps a false positive??
I would say ask the doctor that did the test. The only way i know to get a std is from sexual intercourse. I’ve never heard of getting one by sitting on toilet or any other way.
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agrees with Victoria!
If you know to be faithful, then quit being so naive!
STDs can lay dormant in men for a long time so it is possible for him to have had it before you.
Sounds like cheating, but some std can lay dormant for years
Your husband is a lyer
Clymedia is an std that can be gotten off a toilet or sharing a bathing suit etc.
Ok so one of you is lying. Its either him or you.
If you are faithful then your husband cheated!
Maybe you had it a long time ago
You only get stds from sex. Herpes can lie dormant or no symptoms. But other stds do not. Either you believe him or not. Gotta make a choice.
…the test could have been wronng
He could be cheating at work.
If it’s bacterial vaginitis, it can be from using fragrance products so try Fragrance Free Aveeno body wash and if it comes back, your husband may have to use it as well.
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Cover your stump before you hump 
Why are you broadcasting this?
Contrary to popular beliefs you can get STDs from a hot tub … I was told by a gynecologist that if a public hot tub isnt cleaned on a schedule or if you rent a cabin and they haven’t bothered to clean or change the water between guests it is possible to catch an std from it …
Take off the blinders
Get a second test done
Hsv I did not mean you cheated. Many of us are exposed to Hsv 1 as children or young adults. Cold sores are HSV 1 kissing sharing. Lies dormant. Oral sex with a partner with a cold sore or pending cold sore can transfer the virus to the genitals. Just having hsv1 in blood work just means you were exposed at some time. Auntie Sue could have kissed you as a baby and was shedding the virus. Don’t go crazy and don’t throw out the baby with the bath water
He cheated, i know you think he didn’t but if you’re positive you didn’t cheat …
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Some STDs can be dormant for years. Maybe talk this over with your doc but if your husband did not question your loyalty… He must know something you don’t.
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Workd at OB/GYN office… Some STDs can lay dormant in your body like HPV, herpes. Gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia etc can not without serious side effects. Like herpes. You can have been exposed, not have an outbreak-then you pass it to your partner ad they my have a full blown case. Partners can be tested to see if one has dormant disease or not.
Umm. Simple.
Retest.
Then?
If you are telling the truth?
He’s lying!
Get out?
Walking backwards through the front door!
This post brings to surface how ignorant folks are about STD’s.
Some STD’s can lie dormant, like herpes, and aids, but some diseases will hide without symptoms for a while, like chlamydia.
*changes in PH will cause yeast infections and Bacterial vaginosis.
STD’s are caught by direct contact.
Seems some Folks seem to prefer to live in denial and or ignorance. Not saying you, but judging by the comments on this thread.
Speaking from the point of a lab tech. Y’all could have had it before, but even folks that are madly in love have been known to have affairs.
How did he react? All you can do now is let it go, or maybe try some counseling. Sadly, some long untreated STD’s can cause fertility issues.
Std’s don’t come out of no where or shared restrooms.
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Girl he cheated get real it didn’t just jump in your hooha
Well… The guy at my job bangs the controller in the bathroom no need to leave …
the toilet seat at work
Sounds like he cheated but depends on the STD
One of you are a very good damn liar or the bunny rabbit gave it to you
Hot tub, heated private pools.
You could’ve had it before you got with him. Some STDs can lay dormant for years
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Depends on what it is
Some take years to show up.
What did your doctor say? It’s called an STD, because it’s a sexually transmitted disease. I believe sex is the only way it’s transmitted. Ask your doctor if that’s true?
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Depends on the STD. Some, like trich, can be caught from public surfaces. Some can be dormant for years without symptoms and only get found if testing is done, like syphilis or herpes. Others are generally passed from partner to partner through sexual contact of some sort. And there are a few, like hepatitis and HIV, that are contracted through bodily fluids, which could be from sex or could be from blood, mucus, urine, or stool. If either of you work in the medical field, exposure could have happened through your work instead of somebody being naughty. Retest after treatment in 3-6 months and if it is positive again, someone is stepping out.
A lot of you obviously have trust issues. There are different way stds can be caught…especially from a public restroom…and symptoms don’t always appear…those of you who say he cheated and don’t even know him should be ashamed of yourselves for trying to get her to doubt her husband.
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Maybe you’re just dirty, wash yourself
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You can get some STDs (including HPV, HSV1 and 2) from oral sex. And as others have said, it can be dormant. Most people don’t even know they have herpes, I have a friend whose only outbreak was her first, and if she had not gone to be tested while she was symptomatic she never would have known. Also you can get genital herpes from oral sex with someone who has an active or shedding cold sore, it’s the exact same virus as genital herpes. So if either of you ever had a cold sore (VERY commonly passed between young children) you have the herpes virus in your system and could shed it to the other partner or their genitals if you give or receive oral sex.
I had a positive std test during my 3rd pregnancy. I questioned my husband and we had an interesting conversation of both of us insisting we had been faithful. I called my doctor and asked for a second test and that one (and a subsequent one to verify) came back negative.
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It could easily be from a previous relationship if neither of you were STD tested before the marriage you would have no way of knowing that he had some dormant condition.
Unless you were both virgins at marriage it’s probably just something that happened before the marriage. STDs can linger for decades.
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Some stds can remain dormant until a flair up…maybe one of you had one from the past…do your reasearch…
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They can go unresolved for years because we don’t always show symptoms. If he says he didn’t cheat and you believe him and you know you didn’t cheat then just chock it up and let it go. Obvi you love him and he loves you. So why destroy a relationship based on a bunch of what if’s- especially if it’s treatable.
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It could take years for it to come out. My dr just told me a story that an 80 year old woman, who hadn’t had sex for years, tested positive for it.
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To those who keep saying they weren’t virgins when they met etc etc she said they been together at least 5 years. So that argument is invalid 
There are quite a few different STDs. Which can be transmitted other ways including using a contaminated towel. Only three STIs are transmitted exclusively sexually: gonorrhea, syphilis, and genital warts
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You can get a STD from vaginal, anal, or oral sex. You can also be infected with trichomoniasis through contact with damp or moist objects such as towels, wet clothing, or toilet seats, although it is more commonly spread by sexual contact.
What Are STDs? STDs are sexually transmitted diseases. This means they are most often – but not exclusively – spread by sexual intercourse. HIV, chlamydia, genital herpes, genital warts, gonorrhea, some forms of hepatitis, syphilis, and trichomoniasis are STDs.
Hope it helps u understand, get well soon:)
It depends on the STD. Some take time to show up.
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Don’t believe everything your told. My Dr ran the same test, during a routine womans visit. They contacted me a few days later stating I had an STD. Personally ,there was no way possible. After all this and me confronting my husband, the company the labs were sent to to be tested / analyzed mis diagnosed. Due to their negligence, they offered me a sum of money to not take this complaint any further.
In my experience monogamous people rarely test between relationships and definitely not during. Without knowing what the infection is it’s not easy to say what would have happened. Some find a nerve to hide on until your immunity is low, some don’t give symptoms for years. Some can cause a lot of damage before you know about it.
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You can catch an STD just by sitting on a dirty toilet that someone with an STD sat on…like from restaurant bathrooms or rest stop bathrooms…STDs spread easily and stay live on surfaces for extended period of time
there’s only 1 way to catch it kid… either you did, or he did…
STDs in women and men can lay dormant. Men often don’t show symptoms. So if neither were tested prior to marriage…you both could have had one.
If it’s HSV 1/ Herpes 1(cold sores) it’s not a big deal. They call this an std because it can spread to genitalia if you have oral sex, when one is on your or his mouth. But it will still pick up even if you solely get them on the mouth because it shows in blood. So many people get these yet it’s considered an STD
Are you flipping kidding? You really don’t get it? Oh I’m sure it was from a public toilet seat.
Could be from a toilet seat or something like that
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Then your significant other is a cheater!
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Need to know what STD It was. You or your partner could have a chlamydia infection prior to your meeting.
I guess you’re being delusional because you sure didn’t get it from the toilet seat! 
Hubby is a cheater.
Your in denial Sis.Snap out of it.He cheated, Now deal with him please.
Some std’s can stay “hidden.” HSV1 or HSV2…could go your whole life without symptoms and never know. HPV, same thing. Now I know you could also get very sick very fast from and std too but its possible. Consider that some could be spread other ways. Did you have a blood test that showed HSV? Have you shared a drink with someone?
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Go get tested together and remove ALL doubts
Stds can remain dormant for a WHILE before anything happens, thats for both parties. Likely one of u had it first a while ago and its just now showing up in some form .
It could gave been dormant
Could’ve been dormant for years in one of you 
or if you didn’t cheat, he did