So here’s my anonymous question … I’m 35, I’m not naive to the fact that men love porn. They love watching YouTube, tik tok, videos, etc with naked chicks. It’s normal for them. So I don’t ever go through my husband’s phone but we were sitting on the couch together tonight and we started talking about a tik tok video he wanted to show me. So he got it up on his phone and we watched the funny tik tok video. Well I started flipping up to see more funny tok toks and instead 80% of the videos on his home/meant for u page are women breastfeeding their kids. Like nonstop. They are not doing it in a beautiful motherly way. It’s done in a trashy way. Tits floppin around and clearly putting a show on for the audience. I was like woah dude what is up with this? He said that they just randomly pop on there. I said that TikTok has a certain algorithm amand that these videos just don’t randomly pop up 80% of the time. I could see if it was one out of 10 but it was none stop videos like this. clearly this is something he searches or watches and rewatches for this many to pop up on his homepage. He got defensive and grabbed the phone and said "look, I don’t follow any of these people I don’t like any of the videos. Breast feeding videos are a trend right now so they pop up on all mens tik toks. " However I have learned from researching and from my own Tik tok they don’t have to follow Certain topics for them to pop up… You just have to search for these videos and rewatch them and stuff like that what makes me mad is the fact that he won’t be honest with me about it. Why lie about it? We are currently Working on him being more honest because he lies about stupid stuff in the past. For example hiding the fact that he vapes. Why not just be an adult and tell me? Sure I won’t be happy that he started smoking again but at least I can respect him and trust him. My question is…what would you believe? Am I wrong to think hes lying? Also…wtf? I can understand why a man gets turned on by a mom who is lactating but when there’s a nursing child in the mix I just find that shit sick AF. Thoughts? Advice? Thanks
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I think my husband searches for breastfeeding videos on Tiktok
Definitely weird and I think he’s definitely lying
Click on his liked videos. I’m pretty sure that’s how they pick what to show on the FYP.
I get so many recommendations on my FY of things I can’t stand/ don’t like so I wouldn’t think much of it.
That’s weird. Like someone else said check his liked videos.
Check his liked videos…
There is nothing wrong with a breastfeeding mother. BUT… if he has an obsession with a woman nursing, he may have a problem.
That’s very weird girl. I would look more into that…
Ewww dirty pervert sexualising breastfeeding. I’d be very disturbed their were kids in the videos and it wasn’t women feeding men. That’s different
That’s a weird one!!! I know a guy that is into armpit porn 
men are weird.
Well, I’ve been on TikTok for years and have never seen a breastfeeding video so maybe that answers your question. 
He may be ashamed and embarrassed so is in the denial stage… Admitting to a porn addiction kept me from getting a full recovery 
that I desperately needed and have achieved over 90 days porn free… It is embarrassing especially when in the addiction. Lots of guys loose everything to it and he may be in fear of losing you… Look up #celebraterecovery and see if they have 1 near you. They are world 
wide
Dude go on his phone get on his TikTok app and click the heart button it will show his liked videos go through them then you will find out
Super weird . I don’t trust it at all.
14 years later and my husband still lies about anything and everything. If you hate being lied to and you feel brave enough to leave, you should. Pointless lies means they will lie about ANYTHING!!!
I havent seen one breast feeding video on tiktok
I’d like to know why you think all men like porn and all men watch it? And as far as the content on his tik tok he absolutely is searching or watching that type of video. I’ve never seen a breast feeding video like that .
I think it’s an embarrassment thing I just brush it off when it comes to videos or things with men. I don’t think to much into it at all.
Sounds like U have trust issues and may need couples therapy to work them out. The breastfeeding videos have just irritated an underlying problem.
Deal with it now or it will continue to repeat itself with different things.
Ok I don’t watch porn at all!!! And those breast feeding breast feeding videos constantly show up for me as well!!!
Grow up and stop looking for something where there’s nothing
Hubby clearly has a fetish. Don’t understand all the hate for fetishes.
Sorry but he’s definitely lying, and he’s definitely sick n twisted too.
Listen to your intuition.
Sometimes when you watch a video the app starts sending you related videos about it or into the same topic .
As some people already told you , you should check his likes .
For me that is weird and yells child porn / pedophilia ( if he is really into watching that )
Making him feel insecure or bad about his kinks or fetishes is wrong to me. Is it kinda fucking weird? To you sure but not to him. It took my partner 5 years to open up about his fetishes that he’d never told anyone and I embraced it and we do it in the bedroom now because that’s what he likes. That being said, he probably lied because he’s embarrassed, but that doesn’t excuse him lying
That’s sick if he really watching them just to get off … hope u don’t have young children around him because with him watching stuff like that I would be worried …
As a mom who breast fed, personally there is no “trashy” way to breastfeed. We don’t think of our breasts in a sexual manner, they are food meant for our babies. They’re simply not to be sexualized, it is for our child. I don’t know a single mother who breastfed or is breastfeeding that just puts their breasts out there for “attention” again that’s not the purpose, we don’t think of our breasts in an inappropriate manner. Respectfully If you’re sexualizing breastfeeding, you’re the weirdo. Whether that be you or your husband or anyone else.
Well there is such thing as a breastfeeding kink, so there’s that
I don’t search for hot men videos on tik tok, but they show up. Same with pregnancy ones. I watch mainly art videos
Breast feed him! He clearly digs it! (No judgement)
He is lying and what kind of sick f*ck gets off on videos with children in them if that was my husband he would be single real quick
Sounds like he has a fetish. And if he lies all the time about things you will get mad at he’s probably lying to you to avoid conflict. You may not want him smoking but as an adult he has that choice. It’s easier for him to lie than to have you mad.
I’m still stuck on trashy… There is NO trashy way to feed a tiny human. But I’d say he’s probably got a fetish for it
I don’t think any man will openly honest about that type of stuff. My husband’s tik tok is nothing but big titty women and claims he doesn’t search for it but literally every video is of a women with big titties and I’m like no wonder why you stay on tik tok day in and day out. He gonna end up having carpal tunnel or trigger finger from hitting that like button so much and has gained over 200 followers just from liking people’s videos. I don’t know why men lie about the most stupid non sense stuff but to them maybe they feel judged for being who they are idk it does offend me in certain aspects because I feel I’m not what he likes and is into but at the same time he is with me and no one else and not out screwing around so that’s a plus in my book.
Have u tried checking his Google or YouTube history? I’m am the stalking queen. If there’s dirt, I will find it!
I had to Google this because I was like, this has to be a troll, right? Like, 1. What kind of gross mother would make that TikTok, and, 2. There’s no way that TikTok would allow that type of nudity. Let’s get this straight, breastfeeding is a magical and beautiful thing and people absolutely shouldn’t be shaming anyone simply feeding their child, but the videos OP is talking about sound far different than women simply feeding their babies, and apparently it’s an actual thing where women are creating adult content for different streaming services using their babies in very inappropriate ways to get views. I didn’t watch any of the videos because that kind of thing is far too unsettling for me, but Reddit has a lot of users who have seen them and their descriptions are hard enough to read and make it clear that child abuse is going on in these. Your husband obviously has a very real and scary problem if he’s searching out that type of content. Also, TikTok and other streaming platforms should absolutely do something about this “trend” as well as CPS. Sexualizing children in any way is horrendous behavior, and sexualizing breastfeeding is horrible on the added level of taking something women have been fighting to normalize for so long and turning it into something disturbing and abusive which will only add to the already present stigma of mothers breastfeeding in public when their children are hungry.
He’s lying, I’ve seen those videos pop up on mine and they seem very sexual. I only seen one or two. The fact all his videos are that, he’s rewatching them.
Thing is you don’t respect him nor his right to privacy, it’s his body if he wants to smoke a vape and it’s not in front of the children or you and has no effect on you as a family then why the heck would he need to run it past you like a child.? Everyone has there own thing when it comes to how they do " stuff" outside of the relationship or when they need “alone time” why would you even try and embarrass him like that an make it into something more than it is.? Fair enough if it was past that I would 100%/have an issue but sounds to me like the poor chap can’t put a foot right and you are constantly trying to mother him into submission of control back off and give him his personal space.
I think you should talk to a couples therapist and not take everyone on Facebooks advice because you are going to get a million different opinions from people who are NOT professionals and that could result in making matters worse.
So I just read my boyfriend this and he said breast feeding videos do pop up outta no where sometimes. He’s honest with me about what he watches he’s got a thing for big booty girls so when I get on his fb or tik tok that’s mostly what I see. But he did say it’s weird how they pop up outta no where on his tik tok sometimes. But I would be worried if there was a lot of them on there. Why tf are girls making videos like that anyways? The whole situation is weird. I would start getting on his phone more for sure.
Porn is not good. We are s***** human beings but porn is addictive and harmful. It can ruin a marriage, and takes the quality of life away.
It could be totally innocent my whole for you page is full of pregnancy videos that I’ve never searched for
He’s wanking to it. He needs to stop lying
if he is watching you breast feed and getting off on it, or wanting to feed himself, there would be a certain level of wtf, otherwise, I’d just leave it, maybe he looked up something about breast feeding because men don’t really know about it and this is what is popping up… I would for sure not be concerned unless what I said first had happened or if it does… make sense? My husband used to look up EVERYTHING, and the stuff that would pop up was crazzzy… but not his fault, social media has a way of doing things that are beyond f’d up.
If you’re not okay with him doing this how are you okay with him looking at naked women in other areas of the internet? Because I bet his porn search history is wayyy worse if his tik tok is a little sus. The algorithm probably supplies more of those videos for him because he probably has a bad habit of stopping on them to check out their boobs because men are animals and sometimes they don’t care if there is a child in the way, they’re trying to catch a nip slip. It’s gross but that’s how a lot of guys are.
Lol the amount of thirst traps on my FYP today alone has been ridiculous. I haven’t liked anything similar or searched anything to warrant being on that side of TikTok. Not saying he’s being honest or hasn’t liked/searched anything, but if it’s showing up on mine randomly I’m not the only one.
Go on the app and hit search and it will show vids he has searched for. You can also hit the heart to see what he’s liked.
Ain’t no breast feeding videos come up on mine. Only stuff that comes up frequently it who I follow or things I like to watch 
I don’t search anything and I have all kind of things pop up.
I wouldn’t do anything . Non of it is worth your effort . He probable is just embarrassed .
No one told you to start scrollin 
you just found a kick he has that he hasn’t told you.
Trust ur gut instinct… u know him.
I don’t search breast feeding videos or like them and I have seen 75% of my videos were breastfeeding videos a few weeks ago. Like non stop over and over. That or people pumping and pouring the milk in bottles etc.
My husband has been having videos like that on his fyp as well. I’m currently pregnant and plan on breast feeding, therefore have been talking to him about it. Our phones 100% listen to everything so if either of you have talked about breast feeding, it makes sense.
Leave it alone. It’s not worth the energy u r putting into it. Do you and let him do him🙌🏽
I have to believe if he had this big secret fetish he wouldn’t blatantly show you it.
Id cut your guy some slack here
I dunno I search Spiderman and baby Yoda videos if my kids are sat with me but they don’t tend to pop up on my feed really
why did u scroll.the man shower u 1 video and boom u have trust issues. I have so much stuff on my TikTok that I ain’t trying to watch. So it is possible they just pop up:woman_shrugging:t5:
A trend right.now? I’ve heard everything now…we live in a sick sick world said Nana
Kinda creepy but could be worse? 
That part all breast feeding videos pop up on men’s screen!!! Now he thinks women are stupid to believe a lie like that you have to search it bfr it will REPEADLY one after another pop up lke that…
You sound like his mother
I am an elderly woman who is only attracted to men sexually. I have never searched for a same sex relationship, but they pop up often in my notifications. I just delete them and move on. However, if you really want to, there are ways to check search histories. Be careful and be sure whether you want to face the consequences of your curiosity before you do something like that; it could destroy any trust between you two.
whats the big deal here…seriously…try to flip the script in your mind. what if you were him and you shared a breast feeding mom with him as you? Its not like you found women hes been chatting with, or videos of him another person of either gender. same as porn, big deal. its fantasy, its voyeurism, its taboo. he “chose” to “share it” with YOU and you embarrassed and humiliated him, like most wives do. thats where his anger and closed off behavior will come from. now he will most likely start hiding things from you because he feels ashamed. I personally would just “leave it alone”. if you continue on the path you are on things in your relationship will change and you won’t be able to repair it.
Maybe flop your boobie out and let him have a go to see what all the fuss is about 
Why would he chill with you on his phone if he had something to hide ?
You do not have to search it at all I have this honestly creepy lady that comes up on mine and dances like her life depended on it I think you are over reacting
It is sick af…just imagine what you DON’T know about sis!!!
Vaping isn’t smoking btw lol
Um… no. My husband and I both have tiktok and these do not pop up on either of our fyp. A man getting turned on by a baby breastfeeding is predatory and weird af in my opinion.
Ummm if he has a history of lying and lied over vapes etc, still lying over things like tik tock- you might wanna ask yourself “why am I desperate to stay with him”. In order for it to pop up you would need to search for it. Repeated videos are there because they all have it in common. The lies and trust issues say this relationship is toxic
If a guy is getting defensive over something like that, they are usually hiding something.
I honestly see why he lied by reading these comments. I have dated or dealt with men who think that lactating is sexy. I have things pop up on my tik tok all the time that i didn’t search for and if he wasn’t following them i think that proves something. I’ve found some men lie when they aren’t given safe spaces to be honest about who they are. Imagine someone jumping down your throat or judging decisions you make would you be ready to be open and honest with them. That honesty comes more naturally when you can have open judge free communication.
Does he have mom issues? Childhood issues can pop up in weird ways as adults.
breastfeeding is always done in a motherly way. Men are the only ones who sexualize women feeding their babies.
Take his tiktok and search cars, conspiracy theories, business, travel etc. And like a few videos on each to redirect his fyp. as obvious as it is sometimes they dont get that it really is them that is allowing this content by clicking the profile to see more videos, liking or watching a love video
Tracy Carter this one is a wild ride
I’ve had a TikTok for awhile now & not one of this type of content have ever shown up on my fyp
He’s got a mommy kink he’s afraid to share with you. Make him feel safe
If he hasn’t liked anything else but liked only 1 breastfeeding video, he could very well be telling the truth. Algorithm goes by what he likes or has viewed in full. Just sayin. New accs will have whatever tiktok recommends until he starts liking other shit. But in saying that, if he has been deceitful in the past, I’d trust ya gut.
If he’s following just 1 woman that breastfeeds, he will get a ton of those videos. He might not actually be searching for it
I’m breastfeeding and I’ll tell you this, if a guy I’m with starts fetishizing over that, I’m leaving. My husband knows how special this time is for both me and my daughter and understands how sensitive I am about it. I don’t see how ANYONE could see breastfeeding as anything else but nurturing. It’s weird to think some men are turned on by women literally feeding their babies…makes me cringe. 
The more you try to stop someone from doing something or catch them doing it the more they will do it. Just chill and don’t look at his tik tok anymore. It goes both ways. Start watching things you like too!
I think he should break up with you, you sound like a head fuck
You don’t understand til tok
Sounds like he hides things from you bc you seem judgemental
First, you sound like you have trust issues. Second, you can check his search history on TikTok. Third, why do you care so much if he is enjoying a breastfeeding video on TikTok. Fourth, maybe he has a kink for this and doesn’t feel comfortable sharing that with you because you’re going to bite his head of with your judgement. Seems pretty harmless.
No, it is NOT normal for a guy to do any of the things you listed…
Guys I don’t think it’s the issue of him
Watching these videos it’s the fact he’s lying about it , and other stuff .if he lies about that what else is he lying about ? Think you and him need to av a serious chat .
It’s so weird to me how more women don’t find this disturbing and gross. Op’s situation aside when your posting content with your baby in it for random men online with a kink is that child exploitation? Smells too much like it for me. I’d be so weirded out. There is content on porn sites specifically out there for people with mommy kinks that doesn’t have kids in the videos… this is just too much 
Have u tried squirting breast milk on him? Hahaha im lactating af so it is what it is…
I fallow another of mom content on Facebook and if I’m not careful with how I interact with it I up with some pretty weird shit on my for you page, I’ve noticed tictoc gotten bad if you either watch one video or just set your phone down with tictoc playing it will fuck up the algorithm and its a bitch to fix
Of you can’t trust him to tell you the truth about minor things, why think he would be honest about bigger things??? That’s the question.
You’re exactly right he’s had to rewatch the videos for them to come up in his for you page. He doesn’t necessarily have to like them either. But I think it’s weird also and I would definitely get mad and he is definitely lying. If he is going to lie about vaping (which is still smoking I saw a comment where it said it wasn’t but it is the exact same concept so who cares.) then this would definitely be a reason for him to lie in his book. I don’t think you’re tripping you got every right to feel the way you do.
I ended up on lesbian TikTok unintentionally. I am not complaining either. I know if you watch one video all the way through you get a ton more! I am so mixed about this. Boobs have been sexualized for eons despite what they are intended for. So when folks complain about public breastfeeding I am always like boobs were intended to feed babies not for sexual arousal but it’s hard to get anyone to see past that if that’s there stance. If a dude likes to watch a breastfeeding Mom, I blame society! I think this deserves a conversation to understand not to shame. If someone looks at my FYP they might think I want to be a serial killer with all the true crime stuff.
I mean, I had a bf who liked for me to spray him with my breast milk. It’s not uncommon.
And like a lot of people have said, if he likes just one of those videos, a bunch more will pop up.
This was alot to unpack Don’t you have fantasies and desires? Lmao some of yall ladies need to chill and learn that it’s harmless fantasies these men are looking at. Now if he’s out trying to meet them…well then you worry And let’s talk about how TT actually works…
Why does everyone wanna be the “cool” girlfriend/wife and say your significant other wanting to watch other people naked is “normal”. Ill be so glad when this misconception is done away with. You’re allowed to have specific boundaries per each individual relationship without it being tRuSt iSsUeS. But also you even are allowed to have insecurities as well. Not all men watch porn and stare at other women Stop spreading this old fashioned bs and practically bullying/shaming women into dealing with things they aren’t comfortable with. Besides this factor. I’d be more bothered by porn than nursing moms lol. If he acted like that about it and you’re bothered by it and he won’t discuss it in a safe way for you and instead you’re here asking us…well that’s toxic.
Lol, honestly what is wrong with 90% of the commenters? She said she doesn’t MIND LACTATION VIDEOS. It’s the fact that children are involved and women are putting on a show with their kids 
I find that pretty nasty. Like pumping, boobs, lactating, etc. I don’t think she/they has a problem with that. It’s that kids are involved. Honestly people, read thoroughly or just don’t comment at all 