You only get child support for a parenting plan. But it gives him access to rights of your child which could turn into a custody battle.
And he should pay support. Why should we as taxpayers pay for it. I cant get medical help why should I pay for yours. An your child’s. This just upsets me. We have 6 kids no one paid for but us. No help from any where.
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in indiana you can decline child support, they can’t make you take it against your will. is it really not like that in some other places?
and to all the people who are saying just because she’s on government assistance she should have child support established — maybe the amount he’s able to give isn’t enough to make a difference. maybe he is struggling financially and she doesn’t want to hold him legally accountable until he’s on his feet. maybe she’s afraid that if he’s paying out the ass to make up for 3 years of absence, he won’t be able to financially support their daughter in his household. we don’t know her reasons for going this route but there are plenty of valid ones available and we shouldn’t be giving her unsolicited advice when that’s not even what she asked. 
In pa with the assistance and child support if you tell them he gives you x amount of dollars a month voluntarily then they will not take him for support. He will have to verify with a letter saying he does so and how much he is paying you what they call “voluntary support” otherwise they will take hom for support
They can only go after him for child support once he is on the certificate. You should put them on there, what if something happens to him? You won’t receive any Social Security money for your child. What about inheritance rights? You would have to fight for that as well. A child has a right to support from both parents, illegal right. You would be doing a great disservice to your child by not adding him to the birth certificate and allowing the department of health and human services to establish a reasonable child support order with him that he hast to pay.
yeah that’s it , let the gov. and others support your child.
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In MN they will if you are on welfare or any type of cash assistance. But not if you are on daycare assistance or medical.
Depends on where you live … in Ontario no they won’t… they let you decide… atleast that’s my experience with my ex and our 4 kids and my boyfriend and our 2 sons
Something is definitely weird with this question 
like why wouldn’t you want child support and 2 when you get government assistance you have to give information about the father of child so sounds like some lying going on
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If your on assistance they will make you go for support, I just went thru this last year with my ex. My daughter was only a year and a half at the time but they made me take him for back support as well as child support
I only have my bd pay the minimum for their state insurance, he pays $20 a month because he is in their lives and I don’t believe he should struggle to live.
If it’s just you on the birth certificate and no one else, you can add him😊
If you know who it is he should be financially responsible. Tax payers shouldn’t be. In NY you add him, he has equal rights until there’s a court order with a schedule. If hes more financially stable, he may be a better fit according to the government. Here they will file back support and you wont see a cent until he’s current…and you may owe repayment for fraud you’re committing.
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Not unless you file for it. But not making the child’s father pay and having tax paying citizens pay for your child is a little backwards
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Quit abusing the system
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Wow yeah let’s not hold the deadbeat dad responsible but let the taxpayers take care of your family. This is one of the things wrong with this world.
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Who is they you have to purse that
Yes if you are on assistance they will…without even telling you first! In Kentucky anyways
In NC any type of assistance you receive from the state they go after the other parent for. You can have something at social service where you can agree and notarize to give social services but if it isnt adequate enough they still go after them.
If you have government assistance they will eventually have you put his name down and a DNA done for child support to be set. To the rude lady saying yeah, let the government support your child. Did the lady posting mention anything about not having a job? She may very well have a job but needs a little assistance due to hours being short at work or anything else is possible. I can’t stand how so many people judge without knowing anything about another person!
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If you are on OW - ODSP they will make you.
If u try too get benefits they will open a case and they will take your food stamps away if u do not comply
If you’re on assistance, yes they will.
Yes they will, he doesn’t even have to be on the birth certificate, as long as you know who the father is they will go after him. If he says he’s not the father, they will make him take a DNA test to prove it. I had a friend that just went threw this. They made him pay child support. He had to get a DNA test to prove he was not the father. They took child support of five months. The DNA test came back the child was not his. He didn’t get the money back for the support he paid for the child. I’m not sure about the USA, but in Canada they do.
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My parents never went to court for custody arrangements or child support. My fiance did go to court for custody arrangements with the mother of his first child but they were able to settle it with an advisor before actually taking it to court. If you are able to settle amicably you can do that. He never pursued child support in their arrangement because it wasn’t worth the court time with the income and ability to help she would have. No one made them create a child support arrangement. This is all in Mass if that helps.
If your on cash assistance yes they will go after him. Listen it’s best to have an order in place so down the road when he doesn’t wish to help he has too. My daughters dad is not on her birth certificate bc he choose to not be around when she was born and guess what I have a child support order. We had to do a dna test but he never was added. He also doesn’t help. He did for a short time around 2.5-3 she will be 9 this year and he has not seen her since 4 so protect yourself is the only advice I can give you.
not unless you open case which you should because it is a safe bet to get child support and not his word he would pay and he needs to support his child to maybe its just me but I hate people saying I dont need their help ok but they need to support your kid if you dont want the money for child support then take it and just put it in a bank account for your kid stop giving these men a easy pass
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My sons dad went to prison be fire he was born and the child support office sanctioned me for not letting them try to get a hold of him to see if he was really incarcerated or not and if they could get any child support money out of him which they can’t because he doesn’t have any to give being in prison and I didn’t need them to already tell me something I already knew and he is not on my son‘s birth certificate but when I filed for food stamps and Medicaid I put no fathers name at all. And still got cut off no food stamps my medical got cut off but not my kids. So they are medically covered but no food stamps any more
Hopefully you’re not in the state of Florida because DCF don’t play anymore. In order to get stuff like medicaid and food stamps you’ll have to comply with child support.
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If ur getting state assistance then the father should be responsible for child support, that’s ridiculous if u think it’s okay to continue collecting state assistance without having the father pay for child support!!
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Legally you are not allowed to deny your child support
If he is not on the certificate leave it like that for days when things go sour again as they usually do to avoid you and your child the heart ache
You don’t have to file child support to get soonercare or wic or foodstamps, however if you would like child care or tanf (I believe) you have to cooperate with child support. I used to get foodstamps and soonercare back when my oldest was a baby and she still has soonercare, never had to file child support and he was on her birth certificate. I filed on my own when she was 5 bc they wouldn’t help with daycare if I didn’t and he wouldn’t help with it either. If you’re just wanting foodstamps and soonercare then adding his name won’t matter. If you are wanting childcare they will make you cooperate with child support services to get that assistance. (Also, you only have to show the birth certificate that one time so how would they know if you go add his name later) ? Idk but I do know you can remain on assistance without agreeing to pursue child support. Also add that my case is Oklahoma not sure where you’re from!
I’m from mass and I wasnt trying to take my kids father to court either but unfortunately once i was forced to go on unemployment they went after him. We talked it out and I asked for the least amount possible bc he helps me in other ways too. Hes there is she needs something, always takes her on his weekends sometimes asks for more time. I have no reason to be vindictive toward him either. Hope this helps
All of the laws have changed completely. They don’t do back support anymore. Just to the date of court filing. And if he isn’t on the birth certificate he has had absolutely no legal obligation to support said child. And you can’t just add him because you want to, he would have to sign off
If you add him, you should also go to court to finalize visiting and custody rights. Life us good now, but it might change. Grandchild and his girl wrote out their own visitation and financial rights. Judge thought they had done a good job and approved it. Problems arose when momma didn’t like new boyfriend. Court order saved the day. Now momma is in a new relationship and due with twins in a month. Court order keeps them from fighting and the child is happy all the time.
Actually shouldn’t both parents be contributing to the needs of the children? Everyone may need help but it should be temporary and just that… help😉
That’s just my personal opinion and I know your feelings are about to get hurt. But you need the father of your child to be helping you financially, not the state you were getting assistance from.
Were I am if your on government support they will go after him for child support if hes in birth certificate because it’s yours and dads job to support Child not the state.
In Texas my children’s father was on the birth certificate and when I went to court for custody I asked the judge for NO Child support. I was granted full custody no child support. I was not on government assistance. He would have to hire a lawyer to take me back to court for visitation at which time I would sue for child support.
Ok if your on assistance yes they will go for child support as they should… He should be paying support. Why should all the rest of us pay for his portion of support when he should.
I’m pretty sure you have to say you are filing for child support and also have to exclusively say you are filing for back pay…not experienced in this so take this with a grain of salt but I’m fairly certain you have to authorize and request for any of that
No they will not go after him in the courts , but yes eventually the government will go after him for medical food stamps daycare assistance to recoop their money they are spending on your daughter. If he would pay child support you don’t need to be on assistance is the way they look at it.
If you don’t seek child support they won’t go after him just because he’s on the birth certificate
Even if you don’t want it get it and put it to the side for your daughter when she gets older
Yes if your on assistance and they know you know who the father is they will want you to get child support at least that’s how it is in the st of WV. It could be different in other states.
with being on government support they will make you go after him for child support or they will cut you off. we just went through this with my in laws. the dad isnt on the birth certificate though. He put the roof over their heads and food on their plate since before the kid was born. My mil was on government support and claimed her and dad were just roommates living together for years. the government finally wanted her to get help from the dad which she already was but wouldnt tell the government. because she wouldnt go after him because he was supporting them. the government cut her off and said they will not help her until she admits to s
who the dad is so they can force him to help so they wont have to pay so much.
Idk know the answer to your question, but why add him? I regret adding mine. If he is the the daddy, he still gonna be the daddy if he is not on the birth certificate.
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If your on government assistance in MN they will go after child support because the government does not need to support your child if the father can, that’s what parents are for. Unless you live together and prove they are already supporting them then they wont
Since you are on government assistance, yes they will as they should. Her father should be helping support her not the government.
Not sure who you refer to when you ask will “they” go after child support? You are the one who would have to request child support to be awarded it. And he doesn’t have to be listed on the birth cert for that to happen. A paternity test would be required at this point regardless if he is listed on the birth cert or not.
I live in NC and no, they won’t go after it unless that’s what you want. I also didn’t ask for child support at birth.
Of you are on assistance in Ohio they will require the legal father to pay child support. They will go after him. No matter if you want it or not. Even if all you are getting is Caresource. (health insurance for your kids)
In my state - KS - if the primary parent receives any state assistance that requires payback (cash assistance) then the other parent is required by law to pay it back to the state, and the parent receiving the assistance is required by law to assist in the process by providing any and all information possible about the other parent regardless of what assistance is being applied for, so that the state can initiate child support enforcement. So, in my state, yes - they would want that information to initiate child support enforcement. However, all the parents have to do is go to court to agree on shared custody and eliminating child support. It doesn’t take an attorney to do so. I did this with my first child’s father. The courts were pleased to see two parents in there coming to the same terms.
If you are on government assistance I can’t believe they haven’t made you identify the father by now. Then they would go after him for medical support etc that you are getting from the government. If you add him you will need either a court order naming him as the father or his signed paternity statement and then if he claims paternity the state can always seek reimbursement for any government assist you received. That’s what happened to my ex w his other kids. The mother had to finally name him and do a paternity test.
All you people talking about your tax money paying for her child are acting like if she puts him on child support you won’t be paying taxes anymore!! Doesn’t matter because guess what you will still be paying the same amount of taxes if he’s paying child support or not!! 
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Yes they would, if you or have been on any kind of aid from the state, like food stamps, or a check each month, they will go after him for back payments. Why wouldn’t you want him to pay child support? It takes two to make a baby, and that’s his responsibility too.
If you are on government assistance they will go after him for support. Even on the back child support if you were on government assistance.
They don’t go after them unless you’ve already filed through the courts and have an open case on child support. Courts just don’t hunt people down and collect on every single person 
. At least not in America. If you don’t have the courts involved, you are ok. However, if you ever have to file for state assistance, they will ask about the father and some assistance may be effected, like food stamps. They tend to push the recipient to file child support and deny benefits until you’ve completed requirements.
Most states want a child’s father to support them instead of the government, so yes.
Tread lightly with this, you may end up paying the government back lots of money (if you’re getting food benefits) for cheating the system 
Probably but before they do child support there’s dna 
WHY was he not there before and not on the birth certificate?WHY is he present now??Ask yourself those questions first.
Being that u are getting assistance they will as soon as they know who the father is
I say get your ass off welfare support yourself and him too. Its bs how yall think your entitled and can spred your lefs to do so. And btw i was in a similiar situation but i had tge guts to work harder budget harder and sacrifice crap like cell phone bills nice cars frivoulus spending crap until i could add if. Grow up. Its dhit
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When you get put on government assistance they’ll just make you check the box that says you’ll cooperate with child support but they never really do anything unless you push the manner and actually want it that’s how it is in Mississippi anyways
She doesn’t want him on CS cause he would have to pay back all she getting from the government which he should do. Cause if we have to pay it shouldn’t all of US be on the birth certificate lol just saying!!!
If you put that he pays voluntary child support they won’t go after him for it
That would be her money not yours and government anything is out of my pocket, why should We the people pay?
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adding to a certificate doesn’t automatically cause him to have to pay child support, you have to apply for that.
Speaking from personal experience child support will start the day you open a case they will not go back before then. At least that’s how it is in Michigan
If you’re in government assistance they will go after him anyway. I would wait before I add him to be sure he is stable in your child’s life. My ex husband was never on the birth certificate and it will stay that way because I don’t trust him. He’s in and out of jail and rehab anyway.
If you receive government assistance, in South Carolina, they make you go after child support or they do it. Why should taxpayers have to pay everything for your child? It’s his obligation
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I live in North Carolina and with my daughter on Medicaid when I dropped child support they tried to force the issue I had to explicitly argue with them and tell them I’m not interested. In North Carolina if you are on work first yes they will go for child support definitely
Yes. The state added my son since he was on state healthcare and they also ordered child support. But the father went back to Africa and hasn’t had any type of contact. Since he is out of the country they will not enforce collection and it stops accruing.
They won’t go after back child support though, because it wasn’t court ordered and he wasn’t legally responsible to pay it.
In Kentucky they will go after him if you are on assistance you must have told them you don’t know who the father is. No
Need for the state to pay my granddaughter doesn’t get assistance but when she checked into it they wanted to know the dad so she dropped it rather than lie
In a lot of states, they will go after him for child support. I don’t know your situation, I’m not going to judge.
Here in NY, as long as you have a written “agreement” for him to pay at least 25 a month, even if you are receiving services they will not require a court to amend that agreement, or a collection agency to step in. My ex and I wrote up such an agreement when I left him, but I never asked for the 25 (until he decided to let his new wife stop him from being a part of my daughter’s life… at which time I simply told social services and they got things set up for a court date)
Maybe if he helped more you wouldn’t be on assistance. I raised my six and never cashed a welfare check. Maybe you should be more concerned about that
Yes if your receiving government assistance they will. Because basically they have been footing the bill so it’s time for him to do his part!
u can add him to the certificate at any time there is a form and a fee child support is seperate and wpnt be filed unless u file the paper work
Only if you apply for assistance for cash. If youre getting cash it could look like fraud to them. If the father is there you dont need the cash and if they see that theyll either shut your cash or you have to put him on child support… Food stamps are different. Vut i know women who recieve cash is because the father doesnt help
I don’t know what state you’re in but in south Carolina if you have assistance then you have to put him on child support
U could lose ur child or even go to jail why r u hiding the truth he is not taking responsibility sooner or later he’ll be gone when it’s not free anymore grow up before it’s to late who’s kidding who!
Depends on the state. Here in sc u have to give them permission to do it. They didn’t go after my ex . I told them he is helping w the kids things, and gives me money pays my power bill. They were fine w that.
If you’re on assistance they’ll WANT you to. Some states you can deny the child support and still get assistance, others you would have to do child support to keep the assistance. If you’re not on any assistance then I wouldn’t worry about it
Just tell centrelink you have a private arrangement and what he does and hopefully they will accept that
Why not just ask a lawyer and get right advice
If you get or have ever got government assistance,then the answer would be a yes. If you have never had help through them they don’t care. It’s not anything to do about how we feel…smh
Answer is No. Government assistance won’t go after child support unless you give them the green light. (Illinois)
So he shouldn’t have to pay for his obligation while you are on state assistance?
So if he helps you then you are commiting fraud… You are telling welfare you only have X amount of income coming in not mentioning anything about father. He needs to help financially since he is the father. I mean did you really just ask this question? So us hard workers who pay a shitload of taxes are helping you pay for ur child because you dont want him to pay child support? Wow!!!
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In TN they eill put him on it
So you want tax payers to pay your ex child support?
Im in Alaska my sons father is on his birth certificate and when I filed for public assistance they automatically opened a child support case and went after him. It wasn’t my decision.
Not just from adding him to the birth certificate
He should be supporting his child…
Yes they will first make him have a paterty test
It really just depends on the state you live!
If you receive government support. Yes. They will.