It will not matter in 10 yrs. 60 dollars will not break you but why get married if you cant come up with that?
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Do it ur self donât ask for anything be proud u did it on ur own
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I think they are being very cheap. They should Google the average cost of a wedding these days, theyâd probably be shocked. That being said, if they donât want to help, its their choice. I think for me, it would be one of those things I could forgive, but not necessarily forget. Congratulations on your marriage!
How much money did the parents shell out for the commitment ceremony? If nothing then, thatâs pretty shitty of the parents. But if they already helped with a ceremony then I wouldnât blame them
Traditionally, the parents of the bride are supposed to pay for the wedding. However, if the two of you are paying for everything else, itâs only an additional $60. Just pay it yourselves and avoid the drama. Or, be petty and exclude both sides from everything. If they wanna come as guests and not the parents of the bride/groom, just have them there as guests. Donât include them in the planing or give them any real role in the wedding. Even better, take the money that you two were going to spend on the wedding and fly to Vegas. Get married there, just the two of yâall and enjoy a few days together after. No one but you two. Iâve never understood the point of a wedding. Itâs about the marriage, not the wedding.
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I would gladly help my kids but in truth itâs 2021 and parents arenât obligated.
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Forget it I wouldnât ask their sorry asses for nothing
Sixty dollars isnât worth having a family problems over. Pay for your own cake.
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then dont invite themâŚ30 bucks is not asking much , and if they are making a big fuss about it in a negative way then ask yourself are they being supportive or a pain
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Its not a big deal. You asked and expected a yes, but got the no.
End of
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Oh wow! Iâm stunned How most of you think the parents are in the wrong! NO! They are not. They donât have to pay for anything. These are grown Up PEOPLE who want to get married so you pay for it yourself. This must be something american cuz here in Holland we pay for out own Wedding etc. Parents are not the ones who have to help with things like this.
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Donât have a wedding if you canât afford it.
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You already had the ceremony party? Just get eloped
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Buy it yourself you arenât marrying your mum or dad.
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Donât invite them since theyâre being horrible to you both.
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Save that money for a honeymoon or a trip! Elope and be done with it girl!
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My husband paid for everything.
Ya its a big deal!! Stop taking.
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Well maybe make a statement donât worry about a gift helping pay for the cake will be a gift.
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However hubby and I paid for everything.
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You get to ask for help, no harm in asking but they get to say no if they want to.
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Why are you trying to throw a wedding that you really canât afford?
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I feel like thereâs more to this story. Maybe youâve taken enough. Maybe you should consider that they may feel like youâve been a taker not a giver and are done with you both.
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I would have it but exclude the cheap skates.
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For $60? Just pay yourselves
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Go and elope have fun by yourselves, they donât seem to interested
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Likely more to this storyâŚif you werenât ready to commit to marriage prior why even bother with a âcommitment ceremonyâ?? $60 for a cake??? Go to Costco buy a slab cake and pay for it yourselfâŚbe an adult!!!
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If you canât afford to get married, donât get married. Never expect anything from anyone for your wants.
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Go get married in Jamaica and donât invite them lol
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Fuck them than lol thatâs some bullshit if u ask me. They too broke to put 30 toward a cake they will eatâŚlol how rude I think.
if u donât have 60 dollars to buy a cakeâŚyou donât need to do a wedding
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If you canât afford a cake for your guests, then maybe there wonât be dessert. Or you can do like I did for my friend and make it yourself. Itâs a cake.
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Why would anyone need help with 60 dollars?? Just pay for it yourself. Unless people offer donât ask!!
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Out of all the things you for got to pay for was the cake, 
Owell make ya own go to pack n save buy 4 sponges some cream afew lollies to decorate and bang theres ya cake Lmao cost ya about $30 
Why is everyone so negative about this? I dont think asking for thirty dollars is asking to much of either side. If they dont want to do that then cut down the size of the cake. You dont need a big fancy cake.
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Why do you expect people to help paying for anything after shacking up for 6 years.to everyone your already together
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Parents are not SUPPOSED to pay for anything. They do but they donât have to. Word of advice. The wedding is just one big party. The marriage is where you need to succeed. Do what you can comfortably afford.
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First, what the heck is a commitment ceremony?! Thatâs an actual thing that cost money and shit?!
Second⌠if you canât afford $60 for a cake⌠I think you can skip the whole wedding.
Third⌠no one is obligated to pay for your party. Itâs what you want to do, you pay for it.
From experienceâŚjust do it yourselves. My mom and dad or none of family but a cousin were at my wedding and me and husband paid for it ourselves. My dad sent $300 3 days AFTER the wedding and went fishing instead of walking me down the aisleâŚ
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If you have been together for 6 years and canât afford a cake, you have more serious problems. Forget the big wedding. Itâs a joke.
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And yesâŚAmerican tradition is brideâs parents pay for wedding and husbandâs pays for honeymoon, but most dont follow that anymore. I dont see why not. Id be happy to give my kids money to get marriedâŚthe first time anywayâŚLol. Any other marriages they pony up or go to courthouseâŚ
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Check out Samâs they have beautiful wedding cakes
This is a joke right? Seriously!
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Sorry, both sets of parents sound cheap af. Thatâs pretty petty of them.
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A commitment ceremony?, That ceremony WAS your wedding date. Canât be getting cake and gifts a second time.
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Tell them to pay for the cake as a gift⌠not bring an actual gift?!
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SorryâŚ.no one owes you anything.
You had one ceremony. Married or not. I personally think itâs foolish to waste money on a wedding when you already had a ceremony. Go to Vegas.
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Itâs a cake,Betty crocker aisle 8,5th row up,1.69,next section over,2 more shelves up,24 different flavors of frosting, buck thirty five.knowing how to correctly read the recipe, priceless and drama free
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You should have committed tovsaving for a wedding cakeâŚthis has to be a joke
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When my wife and I got married we paid for everything ourselves and helped make the food for the reception.
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Well I mean, youâre only asking for an extra $60, try to find somewhere where you can save that money:)
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Save your money and go to Vegas
Just get a cheap cake from Samâs or cotsco or go to Vegas or Tennessee do a chapel by yourself and honeymoon while there just forget people and do it for love
If they wanted to pay for any part of your wedding they would of had a saving account for your wedding. Some parents does it for college fund.
They shouldnât have to help pay for anything unless they want to.
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If you have a family member that bakes ask them to make it AS THEIR GIFT (do NOT expect anything other than that) My cousin is an amazing baker and she was always the designated cake personal for big events lol. What she would do for weddings is make a small cake for the bride and groom to cut and then sheet cakes to cut and serve to guests. Itâs more cost effective and just way easier
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Just go to Vegas and leave all their asses out
U already had a ceremony (commitment) work harder for the extra $60 yourselves, itâs only 30 from each side. Save the fuss and leave both sets of parents alone.
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Ummm itâs your wedding. So you should pay for it. Just buy a cheap chocolate mud cake if you donât want to spend the money. 
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I donât believe in paying big for a weddingâŚ. Get a box cake and frosting. Nothing wrong with that. You and your soon to be husband shouldnât be stressing over that⌠remember why you two are getting married.
I wouldnât let a cake, food or anyone ruin my wedding day!
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Honestly I know the parents arenât obligated to pay for some of the wedding but they should WANT TOO. They should want to contribute to the most important day of your life. And your actually only asking for $30 each towards your entire wedding for your cake!!! Its really sad that they are being like this. Iâd actually just get a cake myself so that I didnât have to deal with the stress of the them about the cake and not have them at the wedding either as obviously they are not the nicest and most loving people. Enjoy your day and move on, donât let them spoil it. At least you can say you did everything on your own. Congratulations 
and I hope you have a great wedding day filled with love and many HAPPY people around you
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I think this is more about being upset that no one wants to help. Youâre not asking much. If they have it they should want to help. If theyâre worried about a gift let that be their gift?
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Donât make a big drama for $60. Go to your nearest samâs club and you can get a full sheet for like $40 and they decorate nicely. You can also do cupcakes. We had lots of help but nobody is obligated.
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No! Your party your cost. Go to a courthouse if you canât afford a cake!
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Buy some pretty white cupcakes and put them on a pretty lace covered tray!
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Ouch , they should help if they can afford too, IMO
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If you canât afford the cake and people are not able to contribute then go with a cheaper option
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I decided we are going to get hitched in Vegas! And after party at home with close family and friends⌠gonna be " bring a dish not a gift!" 
On invites!
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I may not be the best person to comment on this having no parents myself but hereâs my 2 cents worth. Two very key words in her question ASKING and HELP both are a choice for the receiver ie the parents not an obligation they have the right to choose yes or no. You may not like their choice but thatâs their prerogative. In saying that I have 3 kids and if that were my kids they wouldnât have had to ask I would have said what can I help with to support you and your family. So idk. Hope you guys have a magical day full of laughter love and create beautiful memories.
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Maybe fund a cheaper cake
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Smaller cake or sheet cake with a topper thatâs cute or pretty. My grand daughter did her cake and my daughters cake
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Donât you know anybody who bakes ??? I had a neighbor make mine for $50 ( plus ingredients)⌠ask your friends.
If it was my children I damn sure would, regardless if they already had a ceremony. Iâd help anyway I could. Thatâd be my babies special day. As a mother, if I could, they wouldnât have to pay for anything⌠if they wonât do it, try to cut in another area of your wedding to make it happen. Everyone deserves a beautiful wedding cake.
Youâve spent hundreds of dollars but now crying about $60. Quit crying and buy the dang cake
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I would not let them pay one dime . I would go to Walmart if I had to and buy what I could afford . They sound very inconsiderate . Who wants help from misery ?!
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There is a lady on YouTube that turns cheap sheet cakes from places like Walmart and Kroger into gorgeous wedding cakes. You should look her up and see if you can do your own wedding cake for like $20.
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OMG I bought my sons 300 dollars least they can do
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Just pay for it yourself 
My husband and I paid for our wedding completely aloneâŚ
I mean I understand being hurt but no ones obligated to pay for a wedding or help
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I had my parents buy my wedding cake as a wedding present but my cake was $500. We paid for everything ourselves and Iâm glad because we did it our way. We asked for cards no gifts since we just bought a house a month before they wedding and have been living together for 6 years prior so we didnât need anything. If your parents donât offer to help out then I suggest just buying the cake yourselves. REMEMBER itâs your day no one elseâs
Iâm glad I donât have family like the OP or a lot of yâall in the comments. Sheesh
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just buy the cake yourself
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I dont think it is but you could also perhaps do some checking around and see if theres someone who can make the one you want the way you want for a better price? Or call in a favor? I havenât been married but i do understand i unfortunately got alot of things for a wedding that didnât happen and couldnt return everything that was bought and it was mostly all my family paying for things and whatnot well my mom happens to be a former cake decorator and her and a friend were going to make my cake
Donât know where you live but we had our wedding cake made at Samâs club. Best cake ever and I think it was around $40 for 2 tiers
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So add up all the money and time your parents put into you and possibly siblings from birth to now. Donât you think if you are old enough to be married, you are old enough to pay your own way?
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First of all, if you canât pay for it yourself donât do it until you can pay. Donât act entitled. I would never ask someone to pay for my shit .
Asking isnât a big deal but you have to be prepared for an answer of no. If you can afford to pay for it yourself, thereâs no reason to cancel, but if you canât, then maybe you should postpone it until you can. The days of expecting family to pay are long gone.
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If itâs must $60 then why bother asking others to pay, get it yourself!
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Just get married at city hall and go on a honeymoon.
How about elope? They dont want to help so you all can enjoy it. Shrugs #vegasbaby
If you canât afford the cake; you domt need to get married.
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$60 they cheap as hell. Thatâs not even that much. Pension is more than that
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Buy your own cake and donât let them have a slice 
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Have your wedding. Be happy. PY for the cake . Donât let cheap people take away from your happy day. They will regret it.
Elope and use that money on a nice honeymoon or Dow payment for a home.
Youâve already had the commitment ceremony so the wedding seems to be more of a legal ceremony. You donât ask for anyone to pay for anything (they either offer ir donât) and in any case youâve already been together for so long so this is your responsibility. The tradition of family paying for the wedding comes from just that⌠Tradition. As in a viriginal, young bride, starting her new life after living with her parents. If you already live together then this cermony is for you not necessarily about the respective families uniting as in traditon. If your family has money and has offered to pay for anything then youâre blessed. Regardless, youâre still going to be family and around each other for special occasions, holidays, and family functions. Figure out a way to cut corners, but a cheaper cake, or make it yourself.
We paid for everything ourselves including the bridal party attire. Our whole wedding and reception total cost $3,000 (including food, cake, photographer, hall, bridal party attire and hair, etc.). Itâs one day! The rest of your lives is what truly matters!
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Your weddingâŚyour expense!!! If any1 wants to helpâŚGreat. If not then thatâs fair enough!! I would NEVER expect any1 to help pay for my wedding! And asking is just plain rude
If you canât afford $60 for your wedding cake is that even your biggest concern here? In my opinion if they donât offer to help you. You shouldnât ask and put them on the spot. They probably didnât feel comfortable with you asking. Reschedule when you can afford it.
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My sister made mine and my husbands wedding cake⌠I didnât really want a cake but my sister surprised us with it as it was only a small wedding with only family which was perfect
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IMO your just sat there expecting that people should be helping toward paying for things for your wedding even if it is just towards the cake but in reality itâs not the 60s anymore. If you want to get married then pay for everything yourselves. Fair enough you asked for help but they have said no and you just come across as self righteous and entitled because you didnât get the answer you wanted so looking for justification that your in the right and itâs the parents been greedy. If your sat wondering if you should be getting married just because they said no to helping with money then neither of you should be marrying at all because it comes across for the wrong reasons. You get married because you love each other and the memories not wether or not people can help with money
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