Inappropiate behaviour x
Relax what is yours is yours
I wouldnt be pleased.
I would have flipped !
Itâs. Not. Respect
That is for you to decide.
He should have said no.
Extremely inappropriate.
Well I wouldnât like it
Yes absolutely wrong
Definitely inappropriate
Tackie for your husband.
If they are trustworthy and faithful
YES. he should have left.
Disrespectful. Period.
Definitely inappropriate
If u have to ask then u already know.
Absolutely innoproprate
Disrespectful and inappropriate
I would say we are DONE!!!
Absolutely INAPPROPRIATE
Very much inappropriate.
Personally wouldnât bother me.
Totally inappropriate
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Totally Inappropriate.
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Absolutely inappropriate
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Out of respect for his wife he should have went in and went to bed. After all it was well after midnight. So momma was watching the clock. I would have had a conniption fix on him after we got home
Oh you just asked a hot question, with out a doubt he should have excused himself and left her there. When he decided it was ok to stay knowing you were inside tending to heâs son he lost all respect for you and if you donât put him in his place and he admits it was wrong he will continue doing stuff like that.
It doesnât matter if the wife trusts her husband. Out of respect for his wife, the husband should set boundaries for himself so there is no opportunities for miss conception in his actions or leaving himself open for temptation!
Yes inappropriate but also your husband should of got out to look after the toddler and let you have some time in the hot tub why should you miss out on adult time
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I agree with what Kristen Lynn Barnes saidâŚ
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Instead of thinking about u he thinking with his other brain , he should of got out and taken care of the child and u sit in the hot tub!! See how long she would of stayed ? I bet not long!
When they came in I would have said " oh good, now me and her husband can go have some time sitting in the hot tub while you watch the little oneâŚ" lol
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I think it was very disrespectful to you and your child.
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Much ado about nothing. 
You Should have went and climbed into her husbandâs bed and talked 
See if it would have bothered her!
I donât think so, as long as they have clothes on. Unless there are other issues in your relationship to begin with.
I think it depends on the relationship. Some people wouldnât care but personally Iâd let him know that it isnât right to be out there with another woman for one, and for two it isnât right to leave me with the baby alone
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I donât think itâs inappropriate as much as it is upsetting to the wife. Why would he prefer to be outside with another woman instead of his wife? I would do a sit down and talk with him.
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Yes. I wouldnât be comfortable with that. Just like I know my husband wouldnât be comfortable if the rolls were reversed.
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Whether itâs inappropriate or not, why would he want to stay out there with another woman all night instead of going to his wife and kid? Some men are really so selfish.
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I say itâs inappropriate but every one has different views on things. I wouldnât like it if my man did that to me and he wouldnât like it if the roles were reversed. I just wouldnât feel comfortable in general if it were me anyways. Knowing the man I love is inside with our kid and thatâs where I want to be.
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Why would it be inappropriate? Youâre all couples and it wasnât exactly hidden. If you knew you would be chasing the kiddo and he would be chilling with his family then him in the hot tub with a tipple wasnât really news. So what if the person he was chatting to was female. For all we know, they were talking football! I trust my DH and vice versa. This question might be more, is there trust in your relationship?
If the issue is more with you being excluded, then let him know that. Men are really bad at the psychic/ESP thing that we woman generally do pick up on
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Why are you left to handle the child alone? Did you get to hang out with the other adults at all? That would be very weird. Parwnting is a partnership.
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I mean, if the roles were reversed he probably wouldnât be comfortable with that. Also, was her husband comfortable with it?
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Maybe if it was someone we knew better I would be more comfortable but I would be uncomfortable with that. Maybe 15 min or something wouldnât be a big deal but staying out till late at night, I would feel insecure.
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As a woman who went thru things like this throughout my entire first marriage, I have so much sympathy for you!! I know exactly what it feels like to go places and be left alone with our son every time we visited any in-laws (we did not get along, they were always very rude and hateful to me). I actually enjoyed when I finally had my son so I at least wasnât alone. But I was still miserable and lonely. We are now divorced (6+ years) and my now husband would never disrespect me that way. Iâm so sorry you are going thru this, but I think the only thing to do is talk to him and explain how it made you feel. Prayers!
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Absolutely not okay. He should have gotten out with everyone else. The fact that heâs even out there when you two are inside is a problem also.
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Thatâs weird, would not fly with me. Also why didnât the grandparents offer to keep an eye on baby so u could join? Seems fkd up all the way around.
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Absolutely inappropriate. I asked my man and he had the same answer. It makes YOU uncomfortable, therefore inappropriate.
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It all depends, if you trust him and maybe she is just talking to him cause he is a good listener, down side⌠maybe she likes him. It all depends, see if there is a new number on the phone lol
Me personally no. I would expect my husband to get out when the other man did.
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I think itâs inappropriate for him to assume he can do what he likes and you will be happy to take care of the kids, what if you wanted to get in the tub and have a wine to relax
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All Iâm going to say is youâre only hearing one side of the storyâŚI would like to hear his side. She may give him crap about everything and anything and he just wanted time away from her. He may have just really been trying to relax on vacation and didnât feel the need to get out just because she was in there, because heâs a good husband and never would do anything anyway. Yâall are making assumptions just because itâs two people of the opposite sex. Lots of people can hang out without things being sexual or being made to feel guilty about it. Iâm guessing sheâs good looking too, so if she wasnât, and maybe overweight in the wifeâs eyes, then would the wife have still had a problem? There are just too many variables that we donât know about to really judge the situation.
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In my relationship, I wouldnât mind it. Iâve already stayed up til 5 am with my guy friends just drinking and talking. He gets rides at work from girls he works with and whatnot. I trust him but if thatâs something you arenât comfortable with I would definitely just talk to him and maybe try to have Him see it from your perspective
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I wouldnât like it⌠and itâs not horrific but it doesnât feel right. The bigger issueâŚhe doesnât feel like its inappropriate while you take care of the kidsâŚhe kicks itâŚand wasnt just an extra hr itâs was for hours/late. ⌠I donât think its a wise choice. But I also think you two should get on the same page. After toddler went to sleep I would be out there talking about itâs time for bed.
Sounds like he wanted to feel like âhe still got itâ at your sacrifice.
I donât really see what the big deal is. You think heâs going to cheat when youâre in the house? Sounds a bit insecure to me.
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Well if you lay the hammer down on this then you have to be okay with not talking to any male friends. Itâs fine to speak up but then you have to follow the same law you put down. Personally, Iâve been with the father of my children for the last 10 years if he decided 1 day that he was unhappy and wanted to seek attention from a femaleâŚIâd want him to go and see if heâs missing something in his life. Idk Iâd rather have a man dedicated to me and my boys but I donât ever want him staying for MY happiness because he deserves it just as much as me and sometimes people grow apart
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Why was your husband chilling with another woman and not u and your child 
Highly inappropriate and ridiculous
You should have definately made a fuss about it since he seemed too preoccupied to notice his wrongdoing
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Iâd be annoyed that I was stuck inside with the toddler while he got to socialize and have a few drinks with other adults. The woman doesnât bother me.
When the kid was in bed why didnât you join them (the whole group, I mean)? I would!
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If hes knows your uncomfortable with those kind of situations then he should have gotten out with everyone else and respected you because your his partner and why would a partner want to make the other partner feel uneasy. Being in a serious relationship and or being married, both partners need to respect each other in every situation otherwise itâs disrespectful and hurtful and why would anyone want their partner to feel bad or sad or nervous. Its not right. BUT if he doest KNOW that it makes you uncomfortable then theres not enough communication going on and or he doesnât respect you.
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Why did everyone just leave you & your baby alone inside while they had fun ⌠Iâd be extremely offended by that too.
Why didnât he want to go be with you & your child but stay in a hot tub with an unknown woman to talk and drink well into the night⌠Iâd be pissed.
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Well first off my husband wouldnât have stayed alone with another woman. But if he did I trust him enough to know itâs just a conversation with another adult an nothing more.
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It depends on the situation and relationship of the couples! First it is definitely inappropriate if either of the other spouseâs are made to feel uncomfortable by the situation!!
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Everyone who says no, itâs not appropriate: switch the woman out for another dude. Still say itâs inappropriate? If the answer is no then the fact is you donât trust your husband to be alone with another woman and thatâs a much bigger issue.
If the answer is yes because you think itâs unfair that youâre stuck in the house while heâs out having fun then that is totally fair (also my viewpoint) but donât fling shade towards a woman who didnât actually do anything wrong.
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Me personally I wouldnât care because my husband and I really do not have trust issues. However, it seems like it bothered you. What exactly bothered you? Is it an addressable issue. Can you guys take through it? Maybe he was enjoying a conversation that he doesnât get from you. Not that your less but just a good laugh. Sometimes I like having laughs with random people and then go back to my day to day. I like small highlights. Maybe he liked talking to a new person. Weâre they cuddled up and touching. Not everything is cheating or a betrayal. He was also 8n clear site of you. However I wasnât there and may not know all the details.
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I wouldnât be happy no when everyone else got out and went to bed he should of got out too x
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SooooâŚ. They werenât doing anything but hanging out and shooting the shit? So what was it that triggered the insecurity and possessiveness, the fact that theyâre in a hot tub, or the fact that sheâs a woman?
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Depends on if they truly were only drinking and talking. I think itâs fine if it was truly innocent.
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As a married man, even I wouldnât be comfortable with something like that. If it was a longtime lady friend, maybe. When itâs that late Iâm spending time with my wife.
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I think itâs inappropriate that you couldnât be out with them, they could make it work somehow so you all as a family could join in the hot tub/outdoors festivities, and yes itâs inappropriate they stayed in the hot tub together AND that they stayed up passed midnight together.
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My husband would not be doing that purely out of respect.
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I donât know if itâs inappropriate or not, but I know I wouldnât like that if it was a man or woman, I would expect my husband to be with me and our toddler
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If they donât really know each other I would say itâs inappropriate. But if they grew up together have been friends and has respected you and your relationship. I donât see a problem as long as they were on opposite sides of the hot tub as well.
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Depends on your relationship and trust. Everyone holds different standards but i also have very high trust in my husband.
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So my take may be a little different, from the facts Iâve read. First off, I think she may have been upset with the fact that she had to stay in the house with the toddler and wasnât able to join in on the good time. That set the tone for her mood. Then when everyone got out except the friend and husband it escalated because as moms we all need that time to tag out, so Iâm guessing she was hoping he would come in, tag team and let her get in the hot tub and drink for a bit but instead he stayed out, his parents didnât offer to watch the baby and she didnât ask, maybe because she didnât feel comfortable or whatever the reason may be, and therefore her frustration escalated and she transferred it to him being inappropriate drinking in the hot tub with her. I donât see a problem with it if they are friends, sitting on opposite sides, nothing weird is happening, etc so I feel some transference of aggression at the WHOLE situation was happening. I feel for mama, I think if she got to unwind and relax without having to watch the toddler her mindset would be completely different.
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If you feel some type of way about it, you better go over there and let him know. If that was you in a hot tub alone drinking with another man, would he be ok with it? Hell nooooooo
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Yes, even though nothing happened, it caused you to doubt him it is wrong.
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Yes but also depends on what kind of relationship they have have they known each other since childhood etc? Have they dated is he trustworthy is she? Too many variables but as a general rule Iâd say itâs not a good idea and can lead to trouble
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My husband would have never done that out of respect for me.
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If she can be in the tub with another man, and the husband does not mind then, what is ok for him is ok for her, thatâs great, Otherwise she can make scene.
Yeah. Definitely not. Lol his ass is going to be with me and his child at midnight.
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since it started out with them all in the hot tub I think it was ok. Now had they gone together and just themselves different story. If you canât trust your man with other woman , your life will be miserable. All up to you
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I am just wondering why you allowed your husband to stay outside in the hot tub with the other woman. If you did not think it was an issue at the time then why ask about it now.
Definitely not, why couldnât he get out when everyone else did and go in to talk to you or help with his toddler? Definitely dog house moment
If you donât trust him then itâs not appropriate and he being your husband HE should know that.
I on the other hand would not mind at all but i know my husband wouldnât even disrespect me in that way ever.
No, they can talk when everybodyâs together if everybody goes out except the lady heâs gotta go too he doesnât have any business talking to no woman alone.
Too bad he didnât think and go ask you to trade places with him. Maybe you would have appreciated the time in the tub to relax after watching the little one. Just discuss it with him instead of asking us about the appropriateness of it.
Yes, but you should trust your husband enough to know that he wouldnât do anything, he loves you and his toddler and wouldnât do anything to jeopardize that
Also if everyone else got out and went back inside, that could have been your opening to ask if they could keep an eye and ear out for your toddler so that you could spend some time in the hot tubâŚ. With your husband. Rather than focusing more on the fact that your husband is still in the hot tub, hanging out with someone.
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Ehhh if you trust him, it shouldnât be a problem. Our spouses are their own people and it should be ok for them to have fun and connect with other people as long as there is no infidelity or betrayal involved. Although you should let him know that next time you want to have fun and he can watch the toddler.
If you are insecure about that you might have other issues that need to be addressed in counseling.
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I am usually pretty relaxed about things like this, but this one would absolutely infuriate me - especially given the fact that you stayed with your (and his!) kid insideâŚ
Only a selfish person would do that. Very inappropriate for both parties involved
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I think itâs not right. He should have gotten out and helped his wife with their child!! He totally disregarded his wife
Not only inappropriate but disrespectful. He didnt consider your feelings. That was the worse thing.
It doesnât matter what we think. It only matters what you and your husband think. Itâs something to discuss with him for sure. Thereâs no special standards for whatâs okay in relationships. Each couple has to define their own boundaries
If I trust my husband, I wouldnât have a problem with it. And in that situation even more so. Not that big of a deal to me.
No but I think you resentful because you were stuck taking care of toddler while he was enjoying himself
Itâs not necessarily âinappropriateâ but if thatâs a boundary you have you should let him know. I also would not be comfortable with it. Tell him how you feel and no sugar coating amd hopefully he will respect your feelings