Her husband felt it was OK to leave her behind.
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I wouldnât care. I trust my husband
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My husband wouldnât do that. Not because I think it would be wrong but because he wouldnât place himself in a situation where Iâd feel even hint of insecurity or worry.
Not just by my own worries but he would never give that lady power to say anything that could cause drama or insecurity either for us in future.
I trust my husband 100% because he makes choices like that and does not risk ever making me feel or giving power to others to make me feel insecure or negative.
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I think itâs all circumstantial. Depends on a lot of things. If it was truly harmless then no but if they were flirting or talking about things they shouldnât then yes. Me personally I would have put my kid to sleep and then climbed right in lol Iâm sure your toddler wasnât up till past midnight lol
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Iâm not equating how a man being alone with a woman automatically means lines will be crossed? If your husband is loyal and has integrity, even if sheâs the one that crossed the line, you have nothing to worry about. As long as they were appropriate and respected their relationshipsâŚI see nothing wrong with it.
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As long as you trust your husband, then there shouldnât be no problem.
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Just get rid of him now or start collecting pineapple 
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Very very inappropriate and I would be pissed I he had and smarts he would have e come in and said her u go now and enjoy your self and I will watch the little one he is not much of a man
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i Came Straight To The Comments To See all The insecure Women Who Think Their Husbands Shouldnât Talk To other Women 
This Has NOTHiNG To Do With Her Husband Chatting With a Lady in a Hot Tub, & Everything To Do With Women Not Being able To Handle Their insecurities So They Make Their Husbands out To Be Pigs.
You Either Trust Your Man, or You Donât. & if You Donât, Why You With Him? if You DO, Then Quit Trippin.
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This would be a major issue for me. Iâd have aired that bitch out on the spot. Just sayinâ
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The husband should not have stayed in the tub with another woman alone, he should have gotten out and took care of his child and told his wife to enjoy her some free time and relax with that other women in the hot tub, period !!! I would not have allowed my husband to be inconsiderate like that to me while I had to take care of our child by myself !!! Disrespect takes many forms !!
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I would hit the roof lol
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No, I donât think it was inappropriate. The question is do you feel it was inappropriate, your feeling should matter to your husband.
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If you feel like he did nothing wrong, then why are you here asking if it was OK?
Either, you already know he did something wrong, Either before, or this time, and you donât trust him, or you donât trust yourself if the roles were reversed and he was inside with your child, and your had been out there.
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If only talking no probs
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First off no, youâre not supposed to drink in a hot tub in general. So itâs irresponsible and stupid. You can lose consciousness and drown.
Second, it depends on the boundaries in each relationship.
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Nope! Ditch him! If he wasnât interested, he wouldnât have stayed in there x
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Yes very inappropriate.
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Nope! Not proper! Should have got out when the others did!
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I donât see anything wrong with this. Itâs not like they got in alone to start with. Why should either one have to rush out of they arenât ready to be done? It sounds innocent enough. You should have joined them after your parents got out.
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In this specific case, no. Not at all. I would have put baby to bed and hung out also.
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I will never understand this my husband and I to this day have opposite sex friends with nothing sexual behind it. I am not close to some of these friends some I am. Either way I trust my husband. And âya but do you trust other womenâ um yes and no bit thatâs besides the point lol. You either trust him or u donât we have been together 25 years (I am 40) neither of us have ever cheated and if I said âyou arenât allowed be alone with other womenâ in a social setting then umm⌠that is controlling OR flat out bo trust ⌠either way its a recipe for a crappy related
HOWEVER IF ITS SOMETHING you both agreed on as 8 you both feel I your marriage itâs not appropriate then there is no issue thatâs how you roll and thatâs healthy too!
I feel itâs based on the relationship. In my relationship it wouldnât matter. He could stay up or I could stay up. Thereâs very strong trust there and we both know what would happen if that trust was broken. .
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Yes I wouldnât appreciate it
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Definitely inappropriate and I would lose my shit.
So very inappropriate
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Should he have gotten out? Probably. Was it horrible? No.
He was just having a conversation & drinking (btw, you shouldnât drink in a hot tub) he didnât do anything wrong with her, just talking. Calm down, he was just having a conversation. Would it have been any different if they were sitting on lawn chairs outside by a fireplace? Have some faith in your husband.
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Totally inappropriate
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Trust or not, itâs inappropriate to your spouse and disrespectful to linger around THAT long. My husband would have come in to see if the baby had gone to bed and gotten me out there rather than stay out chit chatting that late.
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I wouldâve been highly pissed and they both wouldâve known it!!!
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Wrong wrong wrong no way
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Iâm actually surprised how many people are saying that itâs inappropriate 
Two people drinking in a hot tub and having a good time doesnât mean they are up to anything nefarious or would ever cross a line.
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Put that sheâs a woman aside⌠he should not leave you with a toddler while he has fun right outside⌠ESPECIALLY with another woman.
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No sounds innocent to me
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I wouldnât even allow this lol
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My husband said this behavior is totally inappropriate for a married man. I didnât think it was that big a deal. My husband then said, âif you were stuck in the house, taking care of our baby, I would NEVER sit outside or anywhere else with any other woman talking, drinking, or doing anything else. If I have time to sit and talk to someone, I want that someone to be you.â
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Shouldâve gotten out when everyone else did 
drinking leads to things 
either way something definitely happened that will probably continue later on 
beat his ass about it today 
I would want my man to miss me - and be happy baby is down - and visit with me - like this is vacation - correct ???
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Only thing hes done wrong is he bvr got out to look after your child so you could go in lol
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You literally said they did NOTHING but drink and talk so what is the issue?
Do you not trust your husband?
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You either trust him, or you donât. Thereâs zero disrespect in any man sitting in water with any woman. Itâs all fear, and control society teaches people.
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Oh, they were doing something
Itâs not appropriate for my husband, you need to decide if itâs appropriate for yours.
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I feel he put himself in a compromising position, thankfully nothing happened. I feel it is totally inappropriate and disrespectful.
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If you have to ask the question, then itâs probably not ok in your marriage. You just have to let him know. Every marriage has boundaries. Yâall set those. Nobody on fb can tell you whether your marriage boundaries were crossed. But you feeling this way seems like they were 
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Do you trust your husband or not⌠is the real question.
For me yes itâs okay
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Also, I just lety husband read this, he said, ( I wouldnât want you to do that.) Enough said.
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Depending on how old your child is surely you could have spent some time outside and checked on the child from time to time. Assuming you were not in the wilds somewhere and the people you were with were not all drunk.
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It might start out innocent but if theyâre that interested in each other to find so much to talk about for so long, then it may not remain innocent. And this behavior could lead to him wanting to do it more often with others. Not healthy. I wouldnât want to be married to someone who wouldnât want to come in with me and our baby.
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I think you should just find the skimpiest bikini you can find and go in the hot tub alone with the man and she how your husband feels about that. Guarantee he gonna throw a fit but itâs okay for him.
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Knowing the story, you sound insecure and left out because you chose to stay in the cabin.
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Not it were my husband because I trust him but I donât know your man.
Drink to much who knows what will happen.
This sounds like a major jealousy issue
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I mean, it depends on you. If your not okay with it, your not okay with it. We all have our boundaries ⌠And what works for you, may not work for someone else. Itâs not a one size fits all kinda deal. If you donât like it, say something. Donât make it into a big argument.
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Your husband was with another woman in a hot tub âtalkingâ about life or whatever? LOL yeah-no. I wouldnât tolerate that. Thatâs a no go.
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I wouldnât approve lol
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I also would have went and snatched his ass out after a certain amount of time too
If he wasnât doing anything but talking I donât see the problem. If you have an issue bring it up to him.
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How would he feel if the roles were reversed. Thereâs your answer.
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It comes down to whether or not you trust your husband. It may be totally harmless, being in a hot tub is not a sexual thing necessarily. Iâd be more annoyed that on a family holiday youâd speant hours looking after your kid on your own
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First of all, that sounds like something my EX would do. My current hubby would have either gotten out, or figured out some way to include me. The ex would run off all the time with his friends and leave me with HIS kids, because my son was also there. That and if I didnât watch them and his friends kids, who was? I constantly felt left out. So Iâd say itâs totally inappropriate.
Personally I wouldnât have that either lol. Iâm the same Iâd have to stay in with my baby too but and alright fair enough if my partner was out for an hour or whatever talking thatâs fine but to be out there talking till after midnight while youâre inside with your child is taking the piss imo, what was the womanâs husband doing while she was out with yours ? x
I would trust my husband but not another woman. Nope nope
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Why not, He was talking not making out with Her. It probably Wasnt planned and just happened. Insecurities can really mess with relationships unfortunately.
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He shouldnât put himself in a position to even make u wonder
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Not at all.
I let my girlfriend/future wife, go and ride her motorcycle with an ex-boyfriend, alone, for hours.
If she is going to cheat, there is nothing I can do about it. I trust that she wont, I give her the benefit of the doubt. I trust her.
Just as my girlfriend is going to let me go and eat lunch with an ex-girlfriend of mine and her sister.
Trust in a relationship is key to that relationships survival. Understand, if he cheats, there is nothing you can do about it. Just as you can do the same.
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HELL NOOOOOOO!!!
NEVER
Im pretty open and all that but yeah! NO LOL
Was it that fact a hot tub was involved or that he was talking to someone else late into the night? Why did you not go out and talk once kid went to bed?
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Ok would hope for an invite
No way I wouldnât be to happy. It goes both ways. Would he be ok with you drinking and talking in a hot tub after everyone else got out
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Would trust my husband but not another woman. Get yo ass up out of there hubby
My husband wouldnât have went to the hot tub without me and vice versa 
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Hellllll nahhhhh Iâd be pissed
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Very inappropriate⌠I would have packed up my baby and left his ass there sitting in the hot tub.
It sounds like many people are making assumptions and making it about insecurity, jealousy, and trust issuesâŚ
Maybe 
the issues are really more about respect, decency, and partnership�
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It is inappropriate. Do I think your husband automatically had bad intent ,no. Men are oblivious to how shitty women can be. So I think itâs not that you necessarily donât trust your husband but maybe you just donât trust her.
Helllllll no!!! Tf???
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Honestly thatâs all up to you and your own boundaries. Some women would be okay with it, some women wouldnât be okay with it.
I personally would NOT be okay with it, but Iâm also very aware that Iâm extremely insecure in a relationship due to past shit in previous relationships. So Iâm not the best to give advice, but I know itâs all up to your own personal boundaries.
Yes. Why didnât you go and get him out? I would have.
Geez! Youâre Reading too much into it. If I were you, Iâd pass him the toddler as I got in.
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They werenât doing anything but talking. And everyone knew they were there. So whatâs the fuss
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As long there social distancing in the hot tub 1.5 metres apart ⌠Each too their own 
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Jeeeeeezzz way too much. People need to talk to other people.
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Assumptions or not if you were uncomfortable you should have said something right then. Future suggestion. At this point you just need to express to your husband how you felt and that next time you rather him not be alone in a hot tub with another person (youâre uncomfortable with).
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Its not like they got alone in together, doesnât seem like a big deal to me but if it bothered you, you should say something.
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If you are asking then you know the answer
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Somewhat in appropriate
Youâre probably so concerned because your husband sounds like an inconsiderate a**hole. Iâm trying to figure out why he didnât watch the baby so you could enjoy yourself a little too. If itâs bothering you, say something.
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ah . . . ya. esp when youâre inside with the toddler!! that shit donât fly in my house!!
If it makes you uncomfortable than it is inappropriate. This will anger some but we have well defined boundaries in my marriage. Drinking and hot tubbing with another woman would most definitely cross those boundaries especially if I waz inside caring for a child.
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Well if your inside with your child, he should be inside with YOU.
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This is why men get stabbed
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Ok I get someone having to keep an eye on a toddler I have 2 kids of my own, but Iâm assuming that your kid was sleeping by midnight if not before so I donât see why you couldnât have went and jumped in with your husband and whoever else was in there. Or if it was earlier let him enjoy himself a bit and then ask him to keep an eye on your guys kiddo so you could get in also
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Yes it is especially knowing his wife probably wouldnât approve
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That all depends on you and your gut feelings. Never go against you gut young one.
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Absolutely inappropriate
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Nope I would be furious
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Do you trust him? If so, itâs not an issue.
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If it makes you uncomfortable than itâs unacceptable.
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