Nope. Unless he’s got a history of cheating and being unfaithful, i don’t see an issue.
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Apparently you don’t trust your husband so why are you married? 
Sometimes people just wanna stay up and carry on
If anything it’s wrong you had to sit inside and nobody invited you out or asked you to join and etc. Just cuz we are mothers doesn’t mean we can’t do shit too.
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I wouldn’t like it , not at all !
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I mean it would make me a little uncomfortable. I don’t think theirs anything wrong with the socializing . I have mixed feelings about this !
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Hell yeah my husband would never do that that is very disrespectful to u
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Sorry, I see it as first step…I’d be on guard, but not say/react yet, just observe future.
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How would he feel if you sat in a hot tub with another man ?
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I wouldn’t be happy.
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I’ve had boyfriends do this and one I trusted the other was a cheater depends on how you feel about your husband.
My husband I would hope knows better 
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This is a ridiculous question, of course it’s not okay! You should think about if you really want to stay married to him for that. It’s very telling.
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If my husband was stuck inside with our toddler for hours on end, I wouldn’t be outside drinking in a hot tub with some dude I just met…that he didn’t know…after everyone else called it a night.
Just saying
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That’s disrespectful on his part!
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Well… ya no. I know my husband wouldn’t. And if the tables were turned, I wouldn’t do that to my husband.
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This is why I do not go to other people’s houses or have a get together because I am the one who gets stuck watching their kids.
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Your husband should have just casually gotten out when it got to where it was just the two of them left. It has nothing to do with is he would cheat or not but EVERYTHING to do with your feelings and simple respect of your marriage. Period.
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Not really appropriate. But you guys didn’t bring anything to entertain the kid? Or a baby gate? You could have went in too.
He should of come inside to sit with the baby and offered you to go in and relax
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Not appropriate. I’m fairly certain that any husband would not want his wife in a hot tub with another man.
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I wouldn’t think it was a big deal if they were just talking, especially if you were there and could have joined them.
To each their own, if he’s a good man he knows his boundaries, if there’s no jealousy, no problem #wifeof31years *trust
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I don’t see a problem with it but I 100% trust my husband . He has no shame in letting a girl know if I would feel uncomfortable about something. Now you not being able to get in is crappy
Not appropriate at all
It is very inappropriate. You should re-evaluate your situation. Talk ,what ever it takes to get your point across. So that you all are on the same page.
He can’t talk to someone? I you should have got in with them if everyone else was out. You’re making yourself seem like a victim but you have the choice to ask him to watch your child. My opinion only.
I think it’s inappropriate to ask this question. Just because they are opposite genders and presumably capable of being attracted to each other doesn’t mean that they are.
why are you unnecessarily sexualizing something? Just because you want to f*** your husband in the hot tub doesn’t mean she does.
are the monogamous ok?
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Your husband should have peaced out knowing your feelings.
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It’s disrespectful and massively inappropriate
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I personally don’t think anything is wrong with that because I trust my husband but if you have insecurities that are uncomfortable with that then your husband should respect that I think
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Think I’d be more pissed at being stuck on my own with the toddler than him being in the hot tub with the woman…if staying 2 nights then you stay in hot tub all night 
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Wow no not ok. He should be helping you with his kid
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What the hell he should of came in that’s showing no respect for you at all
Jesus Christ the lines some people cross and don’t think anything of it🤦♀️
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I mean he could have gotten out and taken over with the toddler so you could go soak and relax
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It would be inappropriate if you were not there. If you had a problem with it, go outside and tell him! You got a mouth right? Lol
I know I would snatch my husband right on out that hot tub and switch places if that was my situation.
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As long as you were there nearby…
I think it’s inappropriate and inconsiderate if you’ve been watching the toddler and haven’t had much time for yourself, let alone help.
How is it a family vacation if you’re the only one tending to the toddler?
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He should have never put himself in that position!!! I would have been very angry.
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Inconsiderate
Throw the whole man away !
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No as long as they keep their hands to themselves. Now if it makes you uncomfortable and you told him as much then he should respect your feelings. If they want to stay up then come in and include you in the conversation.
My own opinion is that I completely trust my husband, however I am also a very jealous woman and he is very aware of this. He’s been extremely cognizant of my fear that I will be hurt and he wouldn’t ever put himself in a position to make me question him. At least, that’s how he has been so far. I’d be on high alert for sure.
F that. Not appropriate at all.
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In this case… sounds ok to me 
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Not inappropriate at all. Think we’re missing context if wife was okay watching the kids while husband was in the hot tub. Or if they were supposed to switch off, etc.
But in the general situation of a married man, being alone in a hot tub with another married woman is inappropriate, no it’s not.
Totally unacceptable
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Um yea thats inappropriate.
I wouldn’t like it but I also know my husband would never do anything like that because he has enough respect for me to not put himself in a situation like that.
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Inconsiderate and inappropriate, he should’ve gotten out with the rest and then allowed you to go out and sit with the woman to relax and have a drink, and had his turn on the “family” vacation to watch the toddler. I would be hurt and pissed at the same time
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Nah. If you have a strong relationship and trust-nothing to worry about. It wouldn’t bother me if my husband did that. I trust him whole heartedly.
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Only if it offends you, your opinion is the only one that really matters in this situation 
As long as you two have trust I would leave it alone
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I don’t know if it’s appropriate or not but he has no respect for you.
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I’d be livid ! When everyone got out , He should have !
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If it hadn’t started out with other family in the hot tub, yes it might be inappropriate. It was just a circumstance that they were sitting in a place where other people were and the other people left. According to your account of this, they weren’t canoodling. If they were sitting at a kitchen table, having a few drinks, would you still be upset?
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No 
I think society makes it seem wrong people can have intimate relationships as friends doesn’t mean. Any cheating is happening 
xx
YOU BET!! That’s a pretty crappy husband! It just isn’t the classy and gentlemanly thing to do.
Basic respect!! It would NOT have happened. I would have gone ballistic.
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Inappropriate?!? Because they were left in a hot tub talking… Why wasnt it inappropriate when everyone was in there? Definitely disrespectful, unacceptable and he should know better!
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I wouldn’t be comfortable with it.
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Inappropriate all the way
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Take this bitch for all he’s worth!!! 
Are you kidding me? A hubby has NO business in a hot tub without his wife.
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I think it’s no big deal. Being a grown adult I trust my husband and he trusts me . I don’t see anything wrong with this.
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I wouldnt be worried about my spouse in that situation but he’s a solid dude 
Dave Anthony
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I’d tell him how you feel. So it never happens again.
Yes And I’d be jealous/insecure too
I think it depends on your relationship. If it bothers you then no. He should have, in my opinion, at some point decided spending time with you and the toddler was also important to him. But has he been overwhelmed lately? Is it possible he just needed a break from reality for a minute? We all do, men are no different.
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I’m just wondering how everyone was cool leaving you out. Like my in laws would come in after a bit and let me have a turn. And you better best believe my husband wouldn’t leave me like that for hours on end. And people wonder why a lot of us don’t feel like going on vacation with our toddlers.
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I mean, I trust my husband so… I wouldn’t care.
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I trust my husband so it wouldn’t be an issue. I’m guessing the wife is inside with his parents and her husband. Kids could have been in bed and they could’ve played board games and brought them in from the hot tub. Or if it really bothered her, she could’ve gone and collected him or join him in the hot tub while the grandparents watched the kids sleeping. So many options to have chosen but arguing or getting hurt feelings over it is also a choice. It’s the one most people choose.
Doesn’t sound like they were keeping it a secret, nor that anything inappropriate happened. Was the wife ok staying inside? Was there a discussion between husband and wife about who would stay with the child, or of switching out? If the wife was uncomfortable with him being in the hot tub and told him, yet he stayed, then that’s a different conversation
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Meh shoulda went out there too after the kids went to bed or made hubby switch so you get a turn… my greater concern would be drinking in the hot tub that would not be wise for your liver 
cook cook cook goes your organs
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I wouldn’t be worried either! He’s solid!
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No. First of all it’s disrespectful to you, second why is it your responsibility to take of your child while you husband has a good time? Third it’s rude for everyone to exclude you. I would be making it very clear it’s your vacation too and you are doing the same things there that you would be home
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There are so many things wrong with this whole equation… I’m not exactly sure where to start… Why was a toddler brought to a cabin with booze and a hot tub as the main entertainment for three couples?
Do the grandparents even have a relationship the grandchild?
Why was the husband completely ignoring his family and responsibilities?
Notice I’m not even concerned about the chick in the hot tub yet. Haven’t even gotten there…
So I’d need more context before I could really say…
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If you were inside the cabin watching them out the window the whole time then you’re the one with the problem you should’ve just been out there and hung out with them and talked and had a good time
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As soon as you said you had to stay inside with the baby and he went out was my “nah” moment.
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It doesn’t matter what we think…if it bothered you, then it was inappropriate. Personally, I would have been bothered by it too. But not everyone is the same.
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Couple things here. Why were you left out the whole time? He should have relieved you. And when everyone got out but them 2, he should have politely excused himself to come check on and relieve you or see if you would have liked to go out there and had company with her. If she leaves when you go out then you know it wasn’t appropriate. My husband would have left as well.
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they do worse to call you suspicious and insecure. put it the other way round what would he think?
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My husband knows it would make me uncomfortable so he wouldn’t if the woman was a stranger.
If it was a woman we knew well because we were friends with the couple, then I wouldn’t care
Not appropriate in any way at all
Well I would come out with my getting in the hot tub clothes on and say honey put the kids to bed I want to get to know this friend
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Not appropriate. People act different when they drink and something could’ve happened.
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I mean, that part isn’t a problem to me but if it is to you then that should be respected and addressed.
What I would have a problem with is being left alone, inside, while everyone else partied. I have toddlers. That doesn’t mean I’m dead.
One of those people should care about you and the baby.
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I would hope my man had enough respect and know better to gtfo of that tub when everyone else did lol its not right but I wouldn’t sweat it too much. Has he ever cheated if he is known for cheating in the past then I would be worried and pissed!!
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I would have taken turns with my husband. If a hot tub is hot enough it’s uncomfortable after about 20 mins anyways. So every half hour say, “My turn! Here’s the baby!” And hopped in 
Then maybe you would’ve became friends with the girl instead, and you could’ve had girl time til after midnight 
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Antoinette Dempsey 
there b killings she b tore out d tub by d skull n he b battered n all
Gosh what religion are you to ask such a question
The question that really needs to be answered is why this is a concern to the Fan.
Is it because the husband has done something that caused trust issues in the marriage or if the Fan has self security issues.
I am with you, It is inappropriate!
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I personally think your feelings are completely valid. Whether it’s an insecurity thing or not doesn’t really matter here because at the end of the day you went to bed feeling uncomfortable with a situation that could have been avoided if he would’ve checked on you and baby at any point and given you that opportunity to let him know you’re not comfortable with that. Give some grace and just let him know how it made you feel & try to do it in a way thats just informing him how you felt vs making him feel completely in the wrong because it does sound innocent enough hun! Good luck 
Not a problem for me, but my hubby would also check on me and stuff too. He never leaves me out, So I think it depends on your relationship. What works for some couples doesn’t work for others.
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Not appropriate. My Husband would have kindly excused himself out of respect for me
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It sounds like a recipe for disaster. Besides, why didnt HE give you a chance to get out and have a nice social time? His behavior was inappropriate in more ways than one.
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They should have all got out? If I see my hubby leaving I’m right behind , weird how she stayed? Weirder how he stayed too just weird and uncomfortable situation but maybe the drinks kicked in…?? Not like in a weird sexual way just a friendly way like did you listen what they talked about ? Maybe they just found something in common?
Also like is the pool far out ? Or like by the house to the point you can hear them?
Sounds to me like friendly drinking?
Sounds like a selfish husband to me !!he should of came inside and seen if you would of like a hot tub break and if not got his ass out of tub and came inside
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he’s having a conversation with another person. assuming he’s respectful of your marriage, it’s normal for people to chat for a while with someone besides their spouse. he didn’t do anything wrong and it’s not inappropriate
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