I honestly wouldn’t mind but I trust the person I’m with. 
my husband knows better
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While I don’t see an issue with conversating with another adult over drinks etc etc
I Do see a problem leaving you to fend for the child/children the whole freaking time. You need breaks too, you need adult interaction too, I feel his actions selfish but I wouldn’t describe it as inappropriate.
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Absolutely not ok…there would be hell to pay
If you are asking this question then yes it is!
Her husband should have gotten out of the hot tub when the wife got out. Yes, it is inappropriate.
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Would it have been appropriate for you to stay w her husband. Even after staying in the whole time with the baby?
Girl my husband would be nothing but a memory if he pulled some shit like that while I watched our baby, especially on vacation
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Amazing how the opinions could change if that were your mate. I find often times it is ok for them to do this ,but when you do it,they go ballistic. If you are a couple ACT accordingly and the way you want to be treated.
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Insecure, very sad state to live in.
Build that trust up! Or move along. 
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If it bothered that bad you should have said something then. No point in bitching about it now.
I would have put myself and the baby in the car and left his ass there.
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I’d be more pissed that he’s left you inside alone with your child, rather than coming in after a few hours and telling you to go and enjoy yourself.
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Not unless he wants to knocked upside his dumb head helll no it’s not appropriate….
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No trust No point 
Unless they were both naked I can’t see a problem? Maybe you should have asked him to watch the child while you got in with her for abit 
x
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It’s easy to say just trust him or move on but when that’s your man and you care it’s hard to do…I’ll admit I’ve got a jealous bone.
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Idc who you are absolutely not ok
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If you trust your husband, there shouldn’t be an issue. I would have been mad everyone else was in the hot tub but me and the husband didn’t offer to watch the kid so I could enjoy myself
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Who cares? Is it inappropriate for him to sit somewhere else and speak to her having a drink? What makes it inappropriate? The fact that they are in a hot tub? They are in bathing suits? Grow up. If you trust your partner it shouldn’t matter where he’s speaking to someone of the opposite sex. If all they are doing is having a conversation and a drink then it shouldn’t matter
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I don’t see any problem other than the fact that mama didn’t get any time to socialize. Your husband should have given you time to relax too. I don’t get why mom always has to be “on mommy duty” whenever wherever. I trust my husband and know that if it were him in that situation that nothing would happen other than socializing. However, if I was stuck inside with my kids while he was getting to kick back and relax, that would be my main issue.
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Not unless you’re insecure or have a reason to not trust your man and if you don’t trust him there is no point being together. It’s not like she waited for everyone else to get out and she got in or like he did that.
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Of course it is inappropriate, shame on him.
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Why did you have to stay inside with your toddler? The entire time… 
His daddy was right there. That’s where your questions should start, darlin.
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are the monogamous ok?
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Not ok if that was my husband he’d be in alot of trouble
I wouldn’t allow it. But you could have say near them? What was the reason you had to stay inside ?
Naw…I would have gone out there and sat on the side with my LO in my lap…jealous…
maybe…but, why can’t I be out there too with my feet in the water and enjoying the conv…
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Of course…nothing wrong with this.
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Oh no girl! Just cause his your husband he is still a person who seeks conversation and there is all that is. Now if you think there’s something more then your alarms went off for a reason. Asses your relationship, learn lo read the signs.
Please remember we are all humans, just cause we are married it doesn’t mean we can’t talk to anyone else, hot tub or not, midnight or 2 pm, doesn’t matter really. A good conversation is just that.
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I won’t say “I wouldn’t let him, or allow it” more like my man would never do that to me. It’s called respect.
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Well, you’re asking so obviously it’s not OK to you, what we think doesn’t matter. Stop seeking approval and set your boundaries. If you’re uncomfortable, tell him, otherwise just cry yourself to sleep and make him breakfast in the morning.
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I’d be more upset that I was still stuck on Mom duty while he continued to relax. Let me out. I wanna make friends too!!
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I wonder if it will be the other way around, will he be okay?
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Wondering where her husband went? And why no one offered to help you with baby? So rude.
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I would have put baby to bed an joined them
Probably nothing to worry about but yeah I’d let him know you didn’t.like it.
Fuck NO, paybacks are a MotherFucker Girl😘
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Nope, I would have walked my happy ass right out there and told him to get his ass inside. Lol there’s no reason you should have been with yalls daughter the entire time while he’s out lolly gagging around and socializing Especially with another woman. Lol
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I wouldn’t have thought twice about it. I also trust my husband. Its not like he lied about it. Sounds like you guys we’re on vacation and he just wasn’t ready to get out of a hot tub that you knew he was in. If it makes you uncomfortable then go outside and say something
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It obviously bothers you and that’s all that matters. Just remember your husband probably didn’t realize it was wrong so just let him know in your eyes, it’s teetering on a boundary and it’s best not to put yourself in those situations.
I think also, has your husband ever given you a reason not to trust?
If not, than have that convo and let him know.
But if he should know better and you’ve had this convo before… then yea, I wild be upset.
I would have gone and broke that shit up !!!
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I’d be mad he left me with the kids all night period while he enjoyed himself. He should of came and checked on you and the kids and asked you if you’d like some time in the tub.
Some people have boundaries on what makes them feel uncomfortable in a relationship. If he’d be ok with you chatting it up with a man in the hot tub then let it go, but if he would have a problem then maybe that’s how you guys feel and what he did wasn’t alright then. Some people are completely comfortable sharing their partner others are not even comfortable having lasting conversations.
Thats on your relationship, but as a parent and partner he dropped the ball leaving you all night with toddlers.
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Nope. If you trust your spouse then you TRUST YOUR SPOUSE…
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Absolutely not appropriate. One you’re stuck with kid duty, no way. My husband would never do that to me. And two he should not be alone with another woman. Why did her husband leave her with another man? Seems super weird and some people have open relationships and are super gross.
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I trust my boyfriend but let me tell you I would have dunked his head right under that water! He should be with you and your child love not sniffing round some other woman xx
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No - not if they were just talking.
He should have gotten out. No it’s not okay.
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I don’t see anything wrong with it other than disrespect as a father. If he left u with the child the whole day, then that’s wrong in its self. U deserve to have fun also with time away from your child. He showed no compassion or consideration of you.
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Dressed or undressed ?
Once might be okay. Big question do you trust him
I mean… Do you trust him? Do you have a reason not to trust him?
If you have to ask then you already felt disrespected mommy duty don’t stop but he should’ve made sure you were alrite help you put the baby to sleep so everyone can have a good time not just him
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Nope. This was rude on their part to leave you out. And your husband should have his butt kicked, how inconsiderate. Let’s turn the tables here and see how he would feel!!
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It’s inappropriate because why tf is he staying up all night in a hot tub with another woman when his WIFE & CHILD are inside yea absolutely not I woulda made a whole scene
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Where are the boundaries? This is not dorm life.
Yes. If there is trust, why not? Married for over 30 years and we both have friends of the opposite sex that we spend time with! Lots of times either he or I are up late around a fire with members of the opposite sex and not each other. Never had a concern.
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Absolutely, just talking or not very inappropriate, if the tables were turned I’m sure hubby would resent you & another male “talking” in the hot tub after everyone has gotten out.
I think you should go in a hot tub with another man and see his reaction
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Personally, I’d be annoyed if my husband didn’t come and check in to see if I was ok with our child but that’s the only reason.
The problem is he didnt see how it could of affected you. Had he cared he wouldnt have stayed alone with her. Yall could of put the babies to bed and be in the hot tube together
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Depends.
Are these things you have communicated and agreed was okay.
If you feel its not okay! And iys not communicated that this is okay. Then its definitely not.
Uh no? Insecure much
Why didn’t You go join them in the hot tub
Hell to the no! I’d have been out there calling his ass to get in the house where he belongs not socializing with other women
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It was a very rude thing towards you. He should’ve gone in to be with you and your child. Or someone should have watched your child so you could join them.
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Not at all… trust is trust.
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If you feel like it crossed a line then it crossed a line. My question though is if you were just inside with your toddler why didn’t you go out there when the toddler went to sleep or the grandparents came in and join them or at least say something to your husband? The other woman wouldn’t have bothered me as much seeing as her boyfriend was there and myself but I would of been bothered if I spent all day of our vacation chasing our toddler while my SO chilled in a hot tub we would of traded off at some point.
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Talking alone is not inappropriate. That being said, being in the jacuzzi for many hours isn’t healthy lol I think it’s supposed to be 20-30 minutes tops lol.
If they were talking outside of the jacuzzi, lol the only thing I think is weird is that he wouldn’t come check in on you during all that time. Like hey honey just having a few drinks and chatting still, do you want me to come in, or is that good I hang a while later etc.
If it’s your vacation together, it’s a little inconsiderate (not inappropriate but inconsiderate).
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Yep! I would’ve drug his ass out, but that’s just me lol
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not at all they werent doing anything only talking. if you can’t do that its terrible… It’s like sitting in bar and someone comes up and sits next to you and starts talking no problem there either.
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Phyllis Lawless no not right bet he not like u doing with another man
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I don’t know. Go get into a hot tub with another man all evening and chit chat your heart 
out to him and see if he has a problem with it.
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The only thing I’d be upset about is if he didn’t come see if I wanted help with our child. I trust my husband. 
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Honestly this sounds like you have some personal issues to work out which is fine we all get insecure in life, we are human. Or has he done things in the past that maybe you aren’t over with yet? If so then I’d talk to him and maybe a couple counselor. Many people put up a lot for the sake of the kids. If there is negative history tho then no he shouldn’t. And you keep mentioning age? Age must be a problem with you so I’d bring up that to whoever you want to talk to, whether friend or whatever. It’s might be a low key thing you might not be aware of.
I personally wouldn’t get upset, nor would my bubs be upset if the situation was reversed.
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If in a group no. Alone? Absolutely.
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Absolutely not appropriate. U should have checked him and her
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I wouldn’t have an issue with it because I know my husband would get out with me so if she tried anything I would expect him to dunk her ass 
Uh yeah! Id definitely nip that in the butt. He should have more respect for you!
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It’s his parents friends. I’d stay to visit with my parents friends. My sisters friends. Any family friends.
My husband wouldn’t even do that he would chill in the hot tub for a bit and came back inside to help me with our kid’s
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I would have been some type of way. But my husband know better tf
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Sounds like ur just insecure really . People talk sometimes people just hit it off I mean we’re human. If he’s not doing anything with her just chatting I don’t see a problem n why didn’t u join after the toddler was sleep I would of
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Not if you trust your husband. I mean they were all in it at one time.
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I don’t think that on its own is bad. But I do think it is an issue that he knew you were by yourself with the kids and didn’t think to take turns with the children to let you go relax in the hot tub too. That thoughtlessness to me is the real issue.
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Yes very inappropriate
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He should know better! If he keeps this up give him to her! You don’t need this loser!
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I think you’re insecure …did he ever give you reason or was a past relationship the cause…
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I think the fact you left alone in the house all night to care for your children is the first problem.
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I wouldn’t have liked it
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If they did nothing but talk i don’t see an issue. Its not like they snuck off to be together.
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I truly wouldn’t care if it was husband, but that’s because it’s him, if I was in my previous relationship I would have lost it, but to me it depends on the person
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He shouldve gotten up n got in when the others did or he shouldve invited u to join if baby was asleep. N YOU should speak up about what bothers u n interfer in scenes that don’t appeal to you, like that of ur husband n a woman u dnt know in hottub. i myself n most women wouldn’t have liked that scene. I wouldv went in even if baby was up, in fact i would’ve brought towel to hubby n baby n said its your turn n got in the tub say “Wazzup”
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He can talk to whoever he wants to male or female. If you are that uncomfortable in your relationship then you need to work on yourself. Would you be more comfortable if he were alone with a man? He can be friends with whoever he wants and he would be really stupid to do anything inappropriate when you are watching 2 feet away
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I would be more concerned if you were expected to be the only one tending to the kid while he lives his best life. That is what I would be pissed about. I really don’t find the hot tub situation itself inappropriate and I probably wouldn’t care.
The main problem here is the fact that you had to stay with the kid while he got to drink and have fun. Nope. If it were my husband, he would’ve stayed in the house with me to care for our kids. F*ck all that other bs!
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I would be upset if my boyfriend did that
No not really, the only problem I see in this situation is that you were left alone to care for the child and he didn’t come in and help/take turns
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Very inappropriate! He should either have been with you inside helping with your child or him letting you have some time in the hot tub and him staying with the toddler. I bet if it was the other way around he would not have liked it!
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I’m sure it was innocent. Maybe the alcohol tainted his judgement, however, a true gentleman would have gotten out of the tub.
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The real issue to me is the fact you were left inside alone to care for the kids. It’s 50 /50 so having fun works both ways!!
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It seems everyone but, a few, agree the problem you going in to tend to the lil one. And he didn’t go in with you.
But, now you have figure out, do you see anything inappropriate about him staying in the hot tub without you.
His behavior was inappropriate. He ditched his responsibility as a parent and left it all to you.
Ask yourself what he would of done if you would of done the same.
In a partnership you do not do what you would not want your partner doing.
Alcohol is no excuse for unacceptable behavior
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