Run lady he’s up to no good
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Me and woman can be just friends. My husbands best friend is a female and they talk all day and sometimes during the night. It’s just a friendship. If you don’t trust him, leave him. Trust is one of the main components in a relationship so without it, you don’t have a stable relationship to stand on.
They deleted it so there was something to hide. Run
Not everyone who has locked phone is hiding stuff me and my partner both lock our phones but we also know the passwords . but the fact he deleted everything after you found out is suspicious he’s hiding stuff and doesn’t want you to see if it was innocent talking he wouldn’t delete it
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If you’re in a relationship and he feels the need to lock his phone then theres already a problem. But if hes deleting things then hes definitely doing something wrong. Leave.
Been there done that… Needless to say I was left 27 weeks pregnant after 5 years of marriage, 4 days after he left me they were together…
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Deleted everything? Nah girl, tell him bye and move on.
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Hon, you are being played. That is emotional cheating. It will progress to the physical part sooner or later. I think I would show him the door.
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If you have to ask, you already know the answer.
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They prolly didn’t delete it, Snapchat deletes after so long. That said I’ve always said “ Snapchat is a place for a cheater to cheat. Though I do believe people can be just friends with a different gender.
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Why is this even a question lol 
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Talking to them is fine.
But it’s the deleting things that gives Red Flags Mean Run energy.
Girl… You know better.
Anything that is being done behind your back is wrong! I don’t care who they are talking to. But I don’t see anything wrong at all with talking to the opposite sex ALL NIGHT if it’s out in the open and your spouse has never been unfaithful before! If a cheater does it though? It’s not looking good for you!
IF they love and respect you they won’t be doin that…NO it is not OK…
Tell him to make a group chat where you can see it all or stop talking to them in private. That’s an ultimatum but a healthy one. If he has a problem choosing you or her, let him choose her and move on boo.
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NO nothing good happens after dark that’s how emotional affairs start!
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Girl, I’d message her and say I know what you’ve been doing with my husband if you want him you can have him see what she says back 
Guys only delete messages to hide something
That’s something to end a marriage over if he continues cause if he’s deleting stuff he’s cheating period.
I agree with the other people Group chat, cut off or bust
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Snapchat is for cheaters.
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Sorry, but you have a problem. What he’s doing is wrong.
Absolutely not! He’s knows he’s wrong or he wouldn’t hide it and wouldn’t delete it after he knew you knew about it…
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Go with your Gut! You already know the answer!
That’s suspicious because they deleted everything after you found out to be honest.
If they had nothing to hide, nothing would be deleted 
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What if this is her and not him some of you all putting down him when it said your spouse but either way it’s wrong.
Comeon girl he is cheating aff trust ur gut and leave his ass on Snapchat all night forget him
It would bring up questions, but then he deleted them? Definitely a 
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Oh no… they are CHEATING cheating. That’s all there is to it. No explanation would ever have me believe otherwise.
Girl, guilty! I went thru the same shit. My husband who always has his phone on him left it unattended and I scooped it up and seen messages between him and another female. He of course said they’re just friends and blah blah blah. It’s inappropriate point blank period! And now he deletes everything so um yea guilty!!!
100 lieing n doing some thing shameful or he woulda never erased it or gotten pissed!
Hell NO HE IS NOT IN BED WTH YOU AND GIVING ATTENTION TO OTHER WOMEN ! DELETING MESSAGES = CHEATING WHOEVER IS LAUGHING THIS IS NOT FUNNY
Hmmmmm locked phone ummm partners shouldn’t have a locked phone for 1 an 2 they up to something not casual
Your significant other is cheating.
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Not cool at all.
The attention is there, they are a trigger, there is a crush, and other interests, even though your partner doesn’t want to admit it. There is a relationship building up. I hope all works out and your partner puts on the breaks. All the best to you.
It was fine, until you said he deleted everything afterwards. That’s a red flag. Idc about talking to the opposite sex as long as it’s on friendship terms. Nothing disrespectful to me and our relationship.
No it’s not okay. You try doing the exact same thing and see how he reacts. 
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If he has to hide it from you then you know as well as he does that it is wrong. How would he feel if you were doing the same thing?
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Hell mother@#$%^%$ NO
That it incredibly disrespectful and very selfish. Run 
Over my fead body. No way
If it’s a question you are asking them I would say no
Um no. My hubby has talked to female friends he’s met along the way (work/college) but he never lies about it or hides it. If they’re hiding, they’re cheating.
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If its innocent hell yes that’s okay! But the red flags are showing! Locked phone, didn’t tell you about it, up all night talking he is hiding something!!!
Um why would he need to do that ? Heck no it’s not ok.
No. Sorry, but its no 100%.
I’d delete him out of my life!
Run. That’s a big red flag I had the same thing happen to me. Just run
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No. Not cool. At all.
Honestly if he can’t share his conversations on his own accord and is actively deleting things. That’s shady. Even if it’s platonic and nothing is actually happening which is doubtful with all the hush hideaways. As a couple my husband and I have friends we share and some that are more his than mine and vice versa but we still don’t delete conversations. Only if said conversation was something personal in my friends life that they don’t want shared…(even then I may be sharing with my husband on threat of death if he makes a peep about it)
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Had they not deleted, and had their phone locked i wouldnt have a problem with it. My husband and i share our lock codes and we use eachothers phones. I dont care if he has friends of the opposite sex cus i have friends of the opposite sex but if he deleted it id have an issue
Not good at all…don’t be played☹️
Hell Naw. If it’s being deleted then he’s doing something wrong. He’s emotionally cheating, if not more than that. Meeting other ladies that he shares interest with and feeling attraction towards them.
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I work with mainly men, I have a few that I will talk to outside of work. However, I NEVER hide the conversation and, out of respect if my man isn’t home I screenshot the conversation. He doesn’t ask me to I just do it. I also don’t talk to them hours at a time maybe 3 or 4 messages, 1 time a week. I never delete messages and I def don’t snap chat them. I always tell him. With that being said, he actually does the same thing. An ex messaged him he had a conversation and then he sent me the conversation (I was working). We never hide anything from each other. Sounds to me like you need to have a long talk with this guy. And then make a decision from there. There’s huge red flags. Him deleting messages and talking to her all night.
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HELL NO!!!
There is NO REASON your spouse should be talking to the opposite sex at all much less all hours of the night!! Girl, Listen to your instincts & gut…What is it telling you? He’s cheating!!
No. Short answer. You already know.
All I can say is if the conversations are being deleted then something must be stop. My husband and myself talk to people of the opposite gender on Facebook all the time. Especially me. I’m talking to all my friends from high school. I have an ex boyfriend that we’re still friends with and I talk to him all the time. I used to be best friends with my husband’s first wife before she died and so is my husband. He would go to her house and fix things for her she would pick him up in her car and everything. But see my husband and I trust each other that way. Without trust you have nothing okay. You might as well not have a relationship if you cannot trust one another. But if he’s secretly deleting everything then I would say something must be up. But that’s called assuming you know you’re now assuming things. And then everybody comes on Facebook and tells her story and then they have five million people assuming something. Which is not good for your relationship either. Because then you’re going to bring up everybody and what they said on Facebook and that’s not going to go good and I know that from experience. Open communication is what a relationship pretty much with stands on so I would say first thing is you guys need complete open communication and talk this out. I mean my husband and I can be friends with ex wives and ex-boyfriends go to their house talk to them they come to our house we share dinner with them you know we talked to them on social media whatever. But our marriage works that way you know and I talked to all my high school friends on Facebook and things like that but again my husband trust me and I trust him
That’s gonna be a no from me.
Throw that BOY in the trash and get you MAN
Taking yes, Snapchat no. Having friends if the opposite gender is perfectly fine. But Snapchat deletes things and that’s not ok. It makes it seem like they are hiding something.
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It is good for them to have friends of the opposite gender. But not good if they delete everything.
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If they deleted everything then they’re probably hiding something. My husband has a female friend from college and they talk every day all day but he has nothing to hide. Same with me, a guy I’ve been friends with since elementary school, we text everyday all day as long as boundaries are understood
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If they deleted after you found out, it’s because they know they shouldn’t be having the types of conversations they’re having and don’t want you to read all of it. They have your replacement picked out already, fyi.
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Communication with anyone isn’t an issue in my opinion. Hiding that communication is a massive red flag and a deal breaker
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In this situation it sounds like he is hiding something. I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with people in relationships having friends of the opposite sex but it can be tricky. I feel like a lot of factors come into play with that type of situation. But from the little you said of your situation it does seem like he’s hiding something.
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The deleting is highly suspicious. And while it’s not crazy to have friends of the opposite gender, and it shouldn’t be an automatic “they’re cheating” just b/c they are speaking to someone of that gender, if they are hiding it and you feel uncomfortable about it, discuss it with them and ask them to stop. If they don’t, then that’s a different issue entirely. You should have boundaries and be upfront with him about them.
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I talk to guys i game with
But ive never deleted messages that would mean im trying to hide things
Sorry, but thats just not okay at all
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No if it was innocent chatting why not telling you and why lock the phone ,I’d have to nip it in the bud and try to stop it but you have to do what is right for you once the trust is broken it’s hard to get back . God Bless you and your difficult decisions
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I don’t think I would feel comfortable about that, even if it was someone of the same sex. The issue is, they didn’t tell you and then worse, deleted everything - too much to hide
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No that is not ok.
If you partner had any respect for you they would not do it.
Emotional cheating is still as bad as physical cheating.
Confront your partner and tell him it’s them or you.
He can’t have both.
Don’t stand for that sort of shit.
My partner did this to me when he was drunk.
I gave him the ultimatum.
He stopped drinking and stop the chatting to women.
You have the control.
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he better snap chat the emergency room!! anonymous you must of bumped your head !! Hell No its not ok!!! shady my ass!! I don’t care who she is !!! dump his aas!!
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If they’re deleting everything then they are definitely hiding something. Otherwise why not be straight out and honest with you? You need to sit down and have a conversation calmly and rationally. Good Luck 
Say goodbye now, been there got the t-shirt & my self esteem and confidence battered, if they have to keep it secret or suddenly delete everything what was there that he/she Didn’t want you to see???
Maybe it was a private conversation and the partner in question did not want to Insult their friend by displaying personal information. When are people gonna realize the most common reason people cheat is because they were accused of cheating (doesn’t make it right). The fact of the matter is if you have not asked your partner you probably should have waited to do that before asking FB
Not all night he should have some respect for you. Does he talk to other friends all night. If it’s platonic then why delete it. Ask him if you did it would he be upset? There should be no double standards in this situation
It’s okay to have friends, but you don’t need to talk to them all hours of the night and then hide conversations once it’s been discovered. He’s hiding things, which is a big no no. Probably means he was saying things or doing things he shouldn’t have
Ummm probably not. I think anytime we get that feeling in our gut that makes us want to snoop, that feeling is usually there for a reason. Meaning if you don’t trust your SO there’s probably a good reason for it (barring existing insecurity/ trust issues you might have)
You found your proof. At this point since you’re asking us our opinions only means you just need reassurance. He will only insist that shes only a cool friend. You want to believe him because you love him. Since you didn’t read the conversation you will be convinced that theyre only a friend. In the back of your mind since he deleted it something’s just not right.
Since you already asked him about it you probably question him as well as he told you his side.
You’re still confused. Thats why you’re asking us to verify and get other sides.
Ive seen opinions of males on here. One says harmless flirting.
So my opinion is let him know that it hurt your feelings.
If he continues to be secretive then you must leave. If he understand like the one guy did then he understand and isnt doing it again.
This is his chance to straight up change his ways or he will lose you.
Good luck!!!
No. In my opinion id be pissed. Not okay. I know some women gonna come on here and say something about them being able to have friends and what not. But idgaf that is not okay. If i dont know her hell to the no… she better be on a group chat too fuck that. Not okay with me
There’s no issue talking to the opposite sex all night unless however they lock their phones, have never told you about it, and the fact that he deleted it all. If he didn’t feel guilty and it was all innocent why would he delete it? You need to do some serious soul searching for yourself.
I feel like friend or not you shouldn’t be talking to them all day or night every darn day… If they are having a hard time with something, maybe and that’s a hard maybe but at least I’d understand it better otherwise they are getting the time you should be getting from your significant other… The main thing that has me like noway is the fact that he’s deleting the messages though… Why delete if there is nothing to hide? Good luck!
When In doubt reverse it. Would it be okay for you to text/talk or snap all night with someone of the opposite sex? No. It’s inappropriate and wrong on every level.
Maybe an exchange of a joke but all night? Come on.
What if they dont delete it cause they dont think you can get in thier phone and thier talking to multiple men but act like its nothing but the convo has you feeling some type of way.
Nope. If it’s something you can’t talk to your SO about, then you shouldn’t be doing it. Getting caught and deleting the conversation is allllll kinds of red flags.
It depends. It’s entirely possible that this person does share an interest and the convo is purely about that. Of course the alternative is possible.
So the question is, how emotionally intelligent are you? Can you fairly say you don’t have an issue with insecurity and that this is innocent, or are you generally reasonable and something is not right, are your instincts telling you something… Or are your trust issues messing with your judgement.
That’s not ok. Also, ANYTHING that he won’t do in front of me is cheating. If he had to delete messages or hide things from you… All that is cheating in my book. Because he obviously is doing something he knows he shouldn’t. It’s just plain wrong.
He deleted it all. He had something to hide. My husband never answer social media in the middle of the night. He only has Instagram and snap but still
It’s time to get a new man. I bet he wouldn’t be happy if you did the same thing.
I personally would say that your husband is having an affair. Maybe not physical yet but will be soon enough. An emotional social affair . He needs to be turning to you to talk about all things you have interests in , not outside the marriage.
I have always believed that lusting after someone is cheating. You don’t have to have physical sex to be a cheater. Your man has something to hide. I wouldn’t stay with a man that did me like your man is. Don’t continue to waste your life. Move on and eventually find you a good man.
The short version of this question is super misleading. It’s not that he’s talking to someone of the opposite sex, it’s that he never mentioned it, deleted everything, and is giving her way more attention than you because she’s “cool”.
I wish when women found out there is a significant other they would tell the other women what’s going on. Who wants a cheat and lier?!
2 BIG red flags… 1. he keeps his phone locked 2. he deletes everything… he is most definitely hiding something. Bye boy!
It was all fine until the last part of this,they hid it and deleted it for a reason,plain and simple
No it’s not ok. It’s obviously a secret for that person or he wouldn’t be doing it at night. And then to delete everything once you found out proves it
Absolutely NOT!!! Seek marriage counseling immediately before it becomes more than talking. He could be having an emotional affair
If you can’t smell how bad this stinks you need a new nose! “Transparency is the gift lovers give each other and hide from the world”! Someone’s hiding things from you!
If he’s deleting stuff than there’s your answer, he’s clearly hiding something. I mean snapchats go away after a certain time so that wouldn’t be his doing but anything else would be. As long as there’s no flirting or sexual activity or sexual photos being involved than I think it’s totally okay. But deleting everything is very suspicious!
Whats the I.Q of this fan lol…
If you cant figure out that somethings wrong by the end of the question you have rocks in your head.
key points:
They didnt tell you about that person, which is ok but connect it with the fact that you found out about it, then they deleted everything…how obvious do you need it to be, jeesus!
If you you gotta hide it you shouldn’t do it. Pretty solid rule.
I would say depends on what they were talking about and it’s probably nothing, but he deleted everything? That’s suspicious AF
That’s a no no for me, he’s doing something behind your back and you know it, you better confront him about this. I think he’s cheating on you!!!
It’s ok for my spouse to talk to whoever the heck he wants to talk to.
If you don’t have trust you don’t have a relationship. If you can’t be open and honest you don’t have a relationship.
Deleting things means he can be hiding something but that doesn’t automatically mean he’s cheating. He could be planning something he doesn’t want you to know about. Somethings are private. We don’t have to know everything our partners say or do.