Kick him to the curb
Heās cheating. Leave him
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He could be cheating never know
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Far outā¦ what a horribly sad relationship 
I feel for you. Why donāt you turn it the other wayā¦ tell him he has to stay home with the kids cause you have to go hang with your mates till midnight. Everyday. Hes a dad now aNd needs to grow up and provide time and money ( job ) for his children. If you have to BEG him to come home, it might be time to move on. Sorry chick ,
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Absolutely not! Being at home is tough! He needs to respect you. Just because hes on unemployment doesnt give him the right to be gone all dayā¦ it takes two to make a kid and it takes 2 to raise kids. Im sorry your going threw this! And please dont listen to all these damn nasty comments!
But I also think you need to just move on all together. Let him do what he wants. Worry about yourself and your kids.
You have to see that itās over. Itās been over from the sounds of it.
Yeah itās wrong demand he answer your texts and put him on a curfew.
Thatās usually how you tell the whole damn thing is wrong.
Honestly, I think its his pride. He probably feels like shit and some men just donāt know how to express it well. Was he ignoring you and leaving before he was unemployed? If not, then think about it. Give him some room for a little bit sometimes us women can be a little inconsiderate and not know it. If it continues after that, then you need to speak up about it. Just give him time.
I think it might be over honestly
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I work while my boyfriend isnt right now, and once in a while he isnt home when I get home, but 90% of the time he makes it his mission to be home when I get home from work and pick up the kids. He knows I dont like it he knows that there should be no reason for him not to be if he is not working he has had all day to do whatever he wants. And he agrees. If your not happy then change that, it will only get worse.
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Change the locks while hes gone and dont let him back in!
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The inevitable sounds like itās going to happen sooner than later
Put his ass to the curb. He needs to grow up and he never going to do it. There is nothing wrong with you it is his problem. He probably has a girlfriend. You already are raising the kids by yourself . Pat yourself on the back and help him pack. Someone is going to come along and fall in love with you and your kids and will sweep you off your feet. Good luck
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Get rid of that jerk.
I think he sounds like a pathetic excuse for a man. Heās not providing for his family in any way; financially or emotionally. Change the locks and tell him not to bother coming back if he thinks he can use your home as a halfway house. What do you actually get out of this arrangement? You shouldnāt have to plead with someone to care about their family.
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No way I would have to ask a man to be with me or his kids. Pack his bags sis.
Itās him not you heās a father of three kids and he needs to be there doing his job as a dad
You donāt just get the playhouse when he feels like it
How long has this been going on? If he wasnāt like this prior to going on unemployment, depending on who he is as a person/his work ethic, he could be falling in to deep depression and having a midlife crisis. The first few months of being a stay at home literally nearly killed me, because I was raised that the men work hard and support the family. I felt useless and a failure of a man (even though Iām being mr mom as a milspouse overseas) It nearly killed my wife and Iās marriage because she felt the same way a lot of you ladies do about it. Or, he could just be a scumbag and cheating. Itās hard to really give good advice without intricate details. Iād have a heart to heart with him, explaining how youāre feeling through all of this, bite the bullet and ask him what he wants the outcome of all of this to be, and explain that you canāt stick around feeling like a doormat. If itās a mental issue, you can try to support him through it and get him help (assuming he wants to improve himself) If he doesnāt see how dire the situation is, itās time to focus on whatās best for you and your kids.
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Huge red flags. He isnāt respecting you or helping you with the kids. Staying out doing Lord knows what. I would sit his ass down and talk with him. These behaviors only get worse. People will treat you the way you allow them to. He helped make those kids he needs to get on the ball.
How was he before? Has he held jobs before? Idk
Just leave.he donāt seem like he wants to be a father or husband.id tell him u can either be here to help me with our kids or u can get the hell out . He dont work there is no excuse not to be there to help you
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Divorce him now before it gets worse.
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What the hell is he doing from 700 am till after midnight if heās not working Iād be done if was me u have everything right to want him to be home helping with the kids especially if heās been gone all day he wants the best if both worlds and thatās not fair to u
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Sounds more like u have a another kid to look after rather than a partner! Get rid, he has no respect for you or your kids clearly, like he feels trapped, well let the **** go!!
You deserve better. You are worth it.
You donāt have a husband you have a roommate
Yeah 100% get rid of him.
Time to get outta there!
As a mother of 3 kids myself, I would never put up with that. You and your kids deserve better than someone who cant even bother to be present in the house, especially if thereās no good reason to be goneā¦
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I am sorry for your children.Not you because you are a strong woman i think.After reading your post you seem to already know what to do.Keep loving your husband even if your marriage is awful at this time.He is the daddy of your children.He is the one missing a lot not you mom.Maybe he will grow up and become the man you once loved?
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I would be like take ya shit next time you leave and stay gone
Wake up divorce him!
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He has no respect for you as a wife or mother. He knows that he can run all over you and you will allow it. Put your foot down. Put his shit out by the curb and tell him to go stay somewhere else, where he would rather be anyways.
Your children see how you are treated and will think itās normal to treat you and others that way.
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Sounds like a loser!
The rid of him ASAP
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Truth. If heās unemployed and gone all of the time he doesnāt want to be there anyways. Youāre better off without him
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Youve said it yourself he doesnt want to be there till him come get your studd and then move on you got this you already got them kids 90% of the time alone it sounds like so move on . if he isnt working a full time job that keeps him away then there is zero excuse for him to not be there being a fatherā¦
If heās not working right now he should be focusing on his job as father and husband. Being out of work doesnāt mean he gets to skip out on his responsibilities to his family. This is not acceptable.
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Divorce that moron and find a real man not a pos.
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When does he spend time with the kids? Just go off on his ASS and stop being so worried about his feelings. Worry about YOUR FEELINGS AND YOUR CHILDREN GET RID OF HIM!!!
Um ya get out now. Heās obviously unhappy which is making u unhappy. Unemployed and not at home with family? Huge red flag Heās cheating. Not coming home till midnight after being gone all day? Look at the signsā¦ only things open right now at that hour are gad stations and legsā¦ just saying
Just a couple of questionsā¦
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Where the hell does he need to be at 9pm if he doesnāt have a job?
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Why is he not out looking for a job?
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You HAVE EVERY DAMN RIGHT TO TELL HIM TO BE HOME!!!
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Youāre not crazy!!!
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Your husband sounds like a inconsiderate asshole, who needs to be left. You didnāt have kids by yourself and you shouldnāt have to raise them by yourself!
You got yourself a man child thereā¦
My ex did this to me even pregnant with his baby. Was having bad braxton Hicks just come back from the hospital it was mental torture he was out til 3am. Its not worth the heartache for you or the kids chick xx
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Itās going to go out every now and again but youāre not here built in babysitter
Thatās a little suspicious 
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Get rid, if hes gone that long then honestly you know you can manage well without him there as you do it already. Heās not working so what exactly is he doing all day and not answering calls or texts? What if an emergency happened and you needed to get hold of him? Theres something going on but best advice I can give is kick him out and divorce him. Imagine it this way, what would you say if one of your children came to you asking that same question because theyāre going through the same thing? Sometimes itās easier to find the right answer just thinking about it a little differently.
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Hell no your not wrong stay strong momma
Wouldnāt be my husband anymore.
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Dump him as fast as you can. Sounds like you have another mouth to feed extra laundry and wear on your nerves.
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Um no. Hes a fucking loser. Unemployed and yet he cant even help with his kids? Nah hed be out.
get rid of him-thatās not cool
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This is super sketchy. It honestly sounds like he has another woman. 
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His ass should be out looking for a job. Sorry OP but it definitely sounds suspicious. Not the type of relationship I would want and sounds like not the one you want either so you have some serious thinking to do. Your basically a single mom right now anyways so not much would change if you kicked him to the curb.
Donāt let anyone manipulate you into thinking YOUR the problem, when clearly its him
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Sounds like a roommate. Move on
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kick him to the curb, heās just dragging her down. Useless POS. I was married to a man like that for 10 years. Its hard to imagine the long term effect that has on your kids, when you stay in a one sided relationship. I divorced him, my ex never did bother with the kids again once he lost his control over me. I remarried, my new husband eventually adopted the kids. He has been, for me and for them, the best decision I ever made, and we are great grandparents now. The kids still thank me for walking away. Your kids will too.
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Why are you still with him!!! He should be home helping with HIS kids
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U deserve a best friend who wants to be ur best friendā¦I spent many years trying, crying, begging, wondering, blaming myselfā¦ guess what though? He wasnāt any type of friend to me, was out doing drugs, doing dope whores, whe.n was around only yelled at me for whatever floated boat at time. He could go anywhere whenever but if I went to store for anything I was a whoreā¦not saying yours is anything like my ex but let me tell u how amazing and light and renewed I felt when I finally got him out of my life. We can only love and suffer so long before we die. My babies r happier and relaxed when I am. U can do anything u want sister dont forget ure a warriorā¦ much love to u
Heās definitely cheating.
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Iād hide my husbandās keys if he tried some shit like that. Lol but seriously youāre not wrong for being upset or wanting him home at a certain time. My husband works and comes home and when he isnāt working heās here with me and the kids. Going out once in a while is fine but every day? Nah.
Honestly you deserve better. Youāre basically a single mom at the moment, will it be much more different if you leave him? He doesnāt get to treat you or your children that way and I think itās disgusting he thinks he can! Get rid!
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Sounds like heās cheating or he just doesnāt want to be around anymore. LEAVE!!! forget about you just for a moment and think of your CHILDREN! I could only imagine the abandonment they feel or will eventually feel with a father that is there yet not there! No way in HELL would I let me kids be subjected to their father being absent in their life while HE LIVES WITH THEM!
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Get away. Fast. NOW. Trust me no matter how hard it is. You are gonna end up ill.
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Unless my husband was out looking for jobs, Id expect him to be home. And even looking for jobs 8-12 is enough for everyday.
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Tell him not to come home at all. That guy is not a husband or a father. He is a man child. Donāt expect him to change because he wonāt. You need to take action and kick his ass to the curb unless you want him to be the example that your kids follow.
If we was cheating he would probably have a job. Unless heās a little bitch looking for someone to take ācareā of him. 
Then again loser dudes are a dime a dozen.
If you are living like a single mom, might as well BE a single mom. Thatās what I told myselfā¦āif I have to do this all by myself, I might as well be by myself.ā
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That is not controlling ! He should not want to be out all day and night especially since he has no job and does nothing anyway and leave you sitting there with kids .
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I wouldnāt tolerate that personallyā¦ Sounds like heās got another woman or multiple women on the sideā¦ If youāre living like a single parent already, why not go ahead and make it official? Sounds like your place is just a place to lay his head at night and nothing else.
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Youāre married heās not. Let that marinate for a bit and then get along with your life.
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He is getting the best of both worlds. Get someone worth you
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Seems like he donāt wanna take responsibility , canāt force a dad to be a dad plus he should know What to do since you Guys have 3 now,
You a beautiful women Kick him out or Communicate with him and ask why He acting this way? Why he donāt wanna Help And if he act mad & walks away Then theirs your answer.
You should start leaving him with the kids all day by himself. You need some āmeā time too. Maybe then heāll wake the f*@k up and start appreciating you more. You literally teach people how to treat you. If he doesnāt comply leave his sorry butt!
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Tell him sayonara fucker. Your basically a single mom anyways and heās not contributing so drop his ass and save yourself the heartache
Who pays the bills if he,s u implode, and you sit home all day.
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Why would you want to be with someone that would rather be anywhere else than home with you and the kids? Yeah he should be able to see his friends or family sometimes as long as you know where he is/what heās doing but so should you. Does he ever offer to let you go off and get away? Iām guessing no. I see no reason to stay with him.
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You shouldnāt need to ask your husband to come home at a decent timeā¦ husbandās go to work,come home,shower and eat and spend their last hour before bed aging and talking with his familyā¦ yea they go do this or that with a friend from time to time ā¦ but if you wanna be out all hours of the day and night not answering to anyone then marriage really isnāt for you ā¦ I donāt expect anything of my husband ā¦ but I donāt have toā¦ he does what he wantsā¦ that just happens to be going to work and coming home to hang out
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Ask the other woman .Iām sure she will be happy to tell you.and how do yāall support 3 kids and 2 adults if eighter of you work.
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You shouldnāt have to ask a grown ass man to answer the phone or be home a certain time. If he had any respect for you the post would of never been made. Sounds like he is tired of the family life or trying to start a new family. I would tell him how you feel especially not answering the phone what if itās an emergency with one of your kids. If the situation has been like this for a while maybe get some counseling I would understand if he was working but to leave you home all day with the kids everyday sounds like you need to give some ultimatums.
Start going out yourselfā¦he can watch the kids
Hunny its time for a divorce and child/
Spouse support.
Yeah whats he doing that he isnt home at a respectable time?
Why donāt you just kick him out completely. Are u so despared?
Girl you arent married youāre single. N hes got another woman if not a few. Period
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Thatās not controlling! Its respect and he clearly doesnāt show any signs of it. DIVORCE him and move on sounds like you are doing it by yourself anyway. He really sounds like he is not into family life.
As a male I say sail away ASAP!!!
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Keep a Diary every day, of the times he leaves, take photos, and the times he returns, more photos, record some of the conversations asking him to be home at 6 or so, for dinner with you and the children, and his reply, and saying he doesnt want to ve with ye. That will all be evidence of disrespect and not being a proper husband or father, an abdication of his responsibilities to you and the children. Then go get yoyr Divorce organised. Stay in your family home. You are just being used and abused. His life is as a single man, elsewhere. He is nit a stroppy teenager. You are not his mother. Get a real man, get a life, good luck.
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Yeah, I would have to say be done with it. If he cannot find it in his busy schedule (sarcastic) to be home at a decent timeā¦then I donāt know what to say. Many men are out there working so hard to provide for the ones they love and find whatever time they can to be with the ones they care about. Everyone needs time to themselves, yes, but this seems to be a habit or lifestyle from the way you describe it, but something doesnāt add up.
Say what you need to say and set the expectation, you are not asking for the moon. And please re evaluate your situationā¦it sounds like there are some deep issues. Be honest to yourself and himā¦and ask for the same.
People have their ups and downs, but it seems like the foundation of your relationship is suffering and unless it is inspected and repaired, the house will fall.
Wowā¦ it amazes me that ur even asking for advice on this 
get urself a man that actually wants to be ur partner who wants to spend time with u and helpā¦ the guy ur with now sounds like a useless tool 
First you said husband then you said significant other, which one? If heās your husband you need to go get legally separated, throw him out, start collecting child support and spousal support and live your life. You have a disrespectful teenager living under your roof and three kids. He has an entire life somewhere else that you clearly arenāt a part of or aware of. You need to get someone to care for those kids and investigate. He pays bills? You and your children donāt deserve any of that. Cut your losses, maintain the home alone and get full custody of your children. Shit YOU ARE A SINGLE MOM there is nothing to save there or explain.
I once collaborated with a husband to create a weekly calendar to hang on the wall, color-coded, with the times he promised to be home and spend with me.
I divorced him soon after. He couldnāt follow it, despite the promises. My advice is not to wait around for a man who doesnāt want to be there.
How do you all pay bills?? I would want more for myself and children. Get yourself a job and respect yourself.
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Montre lui la porte .de toute faƧon tu es seule pour tāoccuper de tes enfants
He doesnāt want to be there? Let him go then. Pack his shit and leave it outside with some divorce papers
What you have is a man-child.
Tell him your expectations assertively and give him 3 weeks. If he hasnāt tried to meet them, he doesnāt want to, because if he wanted to, he would. After a year of begging, I had to do this and when I left, I left with peace. 3 years later, I still donāt regret it, but he does. Men donāt know what they have until itās gone. Know your worth!!
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Dont keep a man who doesnāt want to be kept. You are a strong mama already doing it on your own. You got this and already proved that. Change can be scary but donāt let it keep you holding on to dead weight. Only you can make the changes that you need to. Keep your head up mama, weāre all rooting for you 
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I canāt believe you even have to ask him to come home, thatās a complete lack of respect from him towards you and the marriage.
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Give him the space he is asking for. Have his bags on the porch with a note to go live with his parents since heās acting like a child.
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Nope, not crazy! Sounds like he has no interest in being a husband or father. If he canāt find 2 minutes to reply back to a text message asking where he is, he doesnāt want you sis. He wants the luxuries you provide! A clean house, meals, his laundry done, etc. He views you as his maid and nothing else. Time to get. REAL. with him about how itās gonna be or he can leave for GOOD 
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