I think it’s only weird if you make it. Both my husband and I sleep in underwear and will lay with our kids and nobody has ever brought up the fact that it’s weird or inappropriate. She’s 5, not 15
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That completly normal . There is nothing wrong sleeping in boxers with your child no matter the age 
This is what’s wrong with society we complain men don’t step up and be a dad when they do we complain they are predators.
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If he’s not being inappropriate then what’s the issue? That’s his child…
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Most men sleep in boxers period and I don’t blame him for being pissed u basically are accusing him of some shit he isn’t doing this is a you problem not him
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It’s definitely not weird for him as a father…it’s kinda weird that you would think that.
I can see why he gets upset when you say something like that.
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Why are you sexualizing something totally normal and natural? Why is it making you uncomfortable? You need to figure that out and work on yourself. He sounds like a good dad. He’s sleeping with his 5 year old daughter which is obviously a comfort to her. All my kids at one point or another have slept in bed with my husband and I . There have been times where little to no clothing was on. A father sleeping with his daughter in boxers is normal. Because I’m sure you wouldn’t complain about a mother sleeping with her child? There’s no difference. Let them be. Work on yourself and figure out why it bothers you.
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I mean is strange that moms sleep with their kids to you as well? If my kids need me I’m there and same with my husband……
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It’s you who has the problem with him sleeping in his boxers with his daughter- 5 years old no less.
My granddaughter,who is now 20 yearss old , always slept with her dad well into her teens. Always cuddling in the couch. If anyone said anything negative to her she would really tell them off.
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I never slept in my mom or dad’s bedroom. But I used to sleep with my grandpa when I was at their house. And pretty much alot. He slept in his boxers. He never ever did anything. If he acts the way he does with you maybe you should have him leave since your paying the house. Besides do you know if he’s paying child support. Because if he’s not then he ISN’T PAYING ANYTHING. Time for him to leave.
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My 6 year old shares a bed with my husband and I, he sleeps in his boxers 
You are sexualizing the 5 year old. Not cool.
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I don’t know I could see how it would give you pause however if it was a Mom sleeping in her underwear with her five-year-old son I don’t feel like it would be a thing
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Man up or get out one of the other 
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Surely not… 
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what’s the problem here??
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It sounds weird from the outside but once you’re the parent and it’s your child it’s completely different… I’d be more concerned with him taking his anger out on you and you needing to be quiet about it rather than having an adult conversation
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Wtf!! There’s something wrong with YOU not him. Thats his daughter. Aint nothing wrong with it. I would also tell you to get the fuck out. Your the one who makes it weird. Get over yourself is all I can say!!! Hell I would leave your ass too for trying to make it seem weird. Aint no different than when a woman sleeps in her underwear.
So what that his daughter
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Not everyone is a perv
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You must not have kids…why are you turning a relationship between a parent and child into something sexualized…
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I love that his daughter and their relationship is a priority to him. Sounds like a great dad. You may want to find someone more suitable for you though…sounds like you two aren’t on the same page at all.
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Why do adults sexualize everything?
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I mean… if you truly get a weird vibe about it, your instincts may be picking up on something…or it may be nothing. BUT…if he takes his outbursts out on you then those are red flags for abuse and it gets worse! Get out now!
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Leave. Save him a few years of his life. Hopefully he finds somebody who isn’t a psycho.
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You obviously don’t have any kids of your own, and it shows. It’s not weird, but you making it into something, is definitely weird. He’s right to tell you to leave, if that’s your sick and non maternal mentality. Find a guy with no kids, you sound jealous
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My daughter sleeps in the bed with us, I sleep in a tank top and panties and my husband (her dad) sleeps in his boxers. Nothing wrong about it. He’s getting mad because you are accusing him without actually accusing him of hurting his daughter. Shame on you.
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in my opinion that is wrong
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I would personally prefer for you to sit in silence than to complain too, if I were him. If my bf or gf started weird, - sexualizing bs I would also think they were sketchy and tell them they were the one making things weird and they should just go somewhere for a few days. 
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I disagree. Jammies or shorts are appropriate. Boxers have holes. Women, would you sleep in holey underwear with children in bed? My hubs did not wear boxer around kids. He wore clothing. period.
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Yes get. Scared. Talk to that child 
I myself. I spent 15 years with my husband Was married to my husband and father of my children but he had another child before our marriage. That he done the same with … I later found out. He had been molested his. Other child she kept a secret of this. Scared to tell. For many years…and then our children. After we married and had children … be very concerned
If it’s your house and you uncomfortable then he needs to leave
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The sleeping situation is not even the issue. If you have to sit in silence or get angry outbursts directed at you, walk away from him. Sweet sister, walk away.
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I dont see an issue here.
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You absolutely do not need to sit in silence.
No one gets to do that to you. Choose your words effectively.
If this doesn’t feel right to you, it doesn’t feel right. Period.
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You’re sexualizing a daughter and her father. That’s weird.
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This gives me anxiety…
I never understood why the adults didn’t save me from this. Please protect your child.
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I don’t blame him stop projecting your trauma on him and his child. His best bet is to leave you where you stand.
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I’d kick someone out too if they implied anything sexual to anything I do with my kids. Tbh you’re lucky he hasn’t left you yet lmao. As a single mom I wouldn’t deal with any level of someone I’m dating trying to tell me how to parent. Unless he’s abusive his parenting is none of your business.
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Why are you sexualizing this? I’d be upset as well cuz it’s as if you are implying that he’s being inappropriate with his daughter! She’s 5 years old you’ve been with him a year I’m sure he’s probably slept this way 4 years prior to you coming along with the sexualizing of an innocent act. Should he be fully clothing and sleep at the foot of the bed for you to be okay and get out your head
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The only red flag here is you. Stop sexualizing his relationship with his daughter you weirdo
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He should never take his anger out on you, however he is covered. I don’t see an issue
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I don’t feel any type of way about that, it’s normal.
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I don’t think anything is wrong with boxers but him yelling at you shows no respect. I would not stay. Sounds like he has some deep issues. You need to talk in order to make it work.
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It’s only weird if you make it weird , I slept with my dad ( he slept in his boxers ) an we cuddled till I was I think 10-11 when I thought I was too old n cool for him …. Your sexualizing his child an relationship with his child , of course he would be upset 
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He’s getting offended becoz you are saying about his own is his child.
What’s the difference between a mother and a father …
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The only thing I can tell thats wrong here is the jealousy you have against this man’s children.
bf, if you’re listening, this is not the one
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I think I see both perspectives. I’m sorry people have been so cruel in comments.
I would look at the fact that he’s dismissing your feelings and from your comments doesn’t sound like he’s explained that it’s normal. He sounds defensive. And it sounds like he’s controlling you with emotions if you can’t speak or say anything…
I would look at the relationship and how he’s treating you and his child/children (in general aside from the bed stuff).
Personally I feel you should be able to voice your concerns or feelings and try to talk through them with him openly.
He might say my dad did it with me. Or like it’s not different to the mum sleeping in undies with the child. I’m not a cosleeper and I always where pjs in bed… so I’m not sure how I feel about it… but for many it is normal to sleep barely clothed… and cosleep… feel free to pm me to chat.
He maybe got angry as he felt accused of something by you saying something… but maybe you need to try approach it in a different way… so he doesn’t feel accused…
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You should leave. No father wants to hear that kind of crap about him and his daughter.
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Get out if he treats you like that when you try to talk to him. But on the sleeping issue that’s just how alot of parents are. I’m glad he does wear boxers because some go comando
What? I think you need help for thinking this way.
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I see both sides of the situation, but just sleeping in some shorts and a shirt could help if he would do that
Not everyone is raised the same or thinks the same if it’s something you don’t agree with then fine but if it’s his kids and they all are ok with it then let it be…. Communication is key…not sure if you have kids but because you ask a question or feel differently about something shouldn’t lead to being kicked out or make you feel you can ask questions …
It’s his child. If women do it it’s no problem. They are parents too
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It’s only weird because you’re making it weird 
and you rly can’t be upset that he’s telling you to get out if you’re going to sexualize his relationship with his child.
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I’d tell you to leave too ! Your the one making him feel uncomfortable trying to excuse him of something sexual like dang that’s his baby!
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If I’m only seeing my daughter (kids) on the weekends (poor guy probably only get every other weekend) and my girlfriend fights with me about how im parenting my kids after only being together a year? I would blow up at you too. Sorry sweetie but you need to go talk to someone if you think this is wrong
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So should I put a bra on everytime my child sleeps with me? 
should I put underwear on under my shorts too? Sorry, But if you don’t have kids and apparently haven’t been around a lot of kids then girly I think you need to see a therapist to talk about some childhood trauma that you never have. It’s not weird whatsoever. I’d go tf off on you too. Paying bills or not YOU don’t get to say how he parents unless he’s physically hurting that child in anyway. Might need to rethink your relationship with someone with kids if walking around in boxers or sleeping in boxers is bad lol is it only weird because he’s a dad? Not a mother? Because sometimes my kids come into my room late at nights after everyone is asleep and I’m in a t shirt and panties if that! That’s MY space. I birthed both my kids butt ass naked! I held the babies to by bare chest, breastfed? I really don’t get why you’re saying it’s uncomfortable for you
The boxer thing is normal. The way he speaks to you is not.
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I sleep in a tshirt and underwear (that cover a lot less then mens boxers) most nights. Is it weird that my 8 year old still crawls into bed and cuddles up with me during the night half the time? Don’t make something innocent into something dirty. I’d get angry with you too and wouldn’t wanna be with someone who’s mind goes to the gutter bc a little girl wants to cuddle up at night with her father. She doesn’t live with you guys so it’s probably a comfort thing for her at the very least. You probably should stay silent on this issue.
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You are jealous of the relationship between dad and his daughter. You need to seek counseling and move out. I guarantee that if he had been wearing pajama bottoms and a pajama top you would still be posting in here about this. Go find a man without children.
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But swimming suits are for public use, imo children need not see adults in underwear,bras etc
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so if he wore other kinds of shorts only that would somehow make it better? let the man sleep in what he’s comfortable in and stop sexualizing a completely innocent act such as sleeping.
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Do you have kids? I would assume not and honestly you’re turning this into something sexualized between a parent and his child when it shouldn’t be. Unless you see other inappropriate things going on then there’s no issues with the situation.
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Boxers or shorts he is covered and why does everyone have to sexualize everything… My three boys slept in bed with me when I slept in sports bra and underwear… they see more when a parent wears a bathing suit. Please change your way of thinking.
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It’s fine at five, six, seven years old.
I’d get mad too if someone was trying to make crazy allegations about sleeping in underwear.
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I say stop! This is exactly what’s wrong with this country. Cancel culture at its finest. Stop trying to think that if it offends you, it must be wrong. No, the fact that people find something to bitch about it every scenario these days is ridiculous! He is a father, doing what parents have done since the beginning of time. Stop, just stop!
Where are you during this? Aren’t you sleeping in the same bed as well?
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I find it weird ur sexualised it it’s his child not weird at all unless u make it 
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with dad sleeping with his 5 year old in his boxers.
I also do not think there is anything wrong with you for asking other people’s opinion. Obviously you do not have children of your own yet… and maybe your own father wasn’t affectionate with you as a child.
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I literally slept in the same bed as my father until I was 12 because we didn’t have the money to move to a bigger apartment. He wore his boxers and I want my pajamas and nothing ever uncouth happened. It is very nice for me especially when I was younger and I would have horrible nightmares. Stop being weird
The only weird thing about it is you . Let a girl cuddle her damn dad. They are only young for such a short time and soon she will be older and won’t get that anymore.
His outbursts sound like he’s annoyed with your behavior. The whole " I can’t say nothing " yeah cuz it’s his child… tf
Your issue, not his. No problem here, id get upset too if i were him
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Yea you don’t have a kid do you? Lol
My daughter sleep with us every night
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The sleeping issue isn’t the problem, the fact you can’t ask a question is a problem.
I know plenty of kids who climb in bed with their parents and mom is nothing more than a night shirt, no underwear. Dad is in boxers. Does that mean they sexualize their child?
If you think he’s doing something, open your mouth. But if your only issue is you don’t like he sleeps in boxers with his child, whom it appears he rarely sees… Why?
I think YOU have issues. Jealous imo. Absolutely normal behaviour of a loving father and 5 year old daughter
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I’d kick you out too. To suggest he’s being inappropriate with his daughter is sick and makes you sound jealous. Find a man with no kids, leave this guy and his family alone
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I used to sleep next to my dad when I was little if I had an accident or a nightmare. I know all people are different but my dad was never weird, just snuggled with me and made me warm because we lived in Maine with no heat upstairs so when I would come downstairs with an issue I always had very cold feet and he would always warm me up.
I see how frustrating it is that you have a concern and he ignores it but from his view your sexualizing something that won’t last forever, they grow up and move on and those memories are all we have sometimes. Core memories for me bro.
I think you need to move on. Heal from whatever trauma has you so worried. Sounds like you to aren’t on the same page. Good luck
If he were naked I’d be concerned.
My daughter is 4 and only sleeps in underwear. I sleep in panties and a cami and she is a barnacle and snuggled up against me all night.
My husband is in shorts and a tank top next to her.
Why are you making this sexual. Bed sharing and cosleeping is biologically normal.
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My husband sleeps in basketball shorts and no shirt and our 2 yr old daughter sleeps in bed with us. What is the issue?
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I mean it’s his kid. I would be mad too. It’s not your job to judge him especially if he’s being a dad. That little girl is just a baby. She doesn’t sexualize the way her dad is dressed like you are. Let it go.
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When our daughter sleeps in our bed ( 1 Night on a weekend as a sleep over) my husband always sleeps with his shorts on. Time to talk her mom about it. Definitely a no no. If he’s telling you to get out of your house he needs to get out.
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Well, that’s his daughter. His child comes first. I’d tell you to move out too.
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Why make it awkward? It’s his kid! I think it’s strange you find it weird honestly 
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It’s not weird. He still has clothes on it’s his child an many adults co-sleep with their kids. An he may be feeling guilty for not being with her all the time so he is co-sleeping with her to keep an maintain a strong healthy relationship with her. You’re making things weird an making him feel like he is doing something wrong when in fact he isn’t. Maybe you shouldn’t be dating someone with kids bc you clearly don’t have any kids to understand parenting let alone parenting when you’re not with the other parent.
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I mean no one says anything when a mother takes a bath with their 5 year old sons 
so why would it be a problem for a father to sleep in the bed with his daughter in his underwear?..
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I agree with op. He could just as easily sleep in basketball shorts. Unless you’re madly in love with this guy plan your exit strategy. I am very particular about how dads touch their daughters bc my dad ALWAYS touched our shoulders, hugged us to the side once we got boobs etc. Being held in the utmost respect by my dad has shown me that i do not like to see a dad with his hand around a daughters waist, on her hip etc. Dads are the ones to show their daughters what is and is not appropriate. Touch their upper back or shoulders or their arms. That’s it.
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If you come from a family where no love was shown, or missed out on closeness and affection then this would be considered weird
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It’s weird if you make it weird. It’s so sad to me that a dad can’t be loving and doting on his daughter without people sexualizing it… him snuggling up to his daughter. He has boxers on. He isn’t naked. How is it any different that him hugging her in a swim suit, or taking his shirt off on a hot day and playing in shorts? I don’t blame him for getting offended. I would too. I thank god that my daughter has such a loving affectionate dad. Something we didn’t have… I can’t imagine him snuggling up to our baby girl and me getting upset about that or sexualizing it. Gross. I guarantee this wouldn’t even be a post if it was a mom and her child. Sad.
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You made this post anonymously because you know that you’re wrong and you are disgusting:nauseated_face:
WTF is wrong with you??
You don’t have to sit in silence, you could pack your stuff and leave because that’s what’s gonna end up happening here. seriously, you are toxic, why are you with a man that you think could possibly do what you’re thinking? Pack your stuff and leave. Stop wasting his time and your time. 
You clearly are jealous of his daughter 
Why do you guys live together? You’ve only been dating for a year and clearly you have no clue what it’s like to be a parent. 
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You wouldn’t be having this same issue if it was the mom sleeping in her undies next to her kid. Better make sure you NEVER sleep in your undies around your children. The fact that you even question him, means you don’t trust him. So why are you even with him? He needs to do him and his daughter a favor and lose you.
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You need to ask yourself why YOU have issues because it sounds like he’s just being a loving dad.
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You said more about his reaction then you did about them sleeping. That’s your bigger issue.
I sleep in my sports bra and shorts . It’s not weird til you make it that way. Those little things are like human heaters.
the whole relationship sounds awful, i wouldn’t be happy with the way he is treating you. i would be leaving because of that.
me and my son bedshare. most nights i sleep in a t-shirt and thongs/nickers. last night it was nickers and a crop top because it’s so warm.
I’d be mad if you accused me of such a disgusting thing w my child too. You’re trying to make him out to be the bad guy here when you’re pretty much saying he’s being inappropriate w his daughter. How do you want him to react…?
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He probably has “outburst” when his kids come by, because you’re telling him how to parent HIS children. That’s not your job.
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You must not have children. You sound jealous.
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I see your problem but r u making more