He gets mad because you’re suggesting him cuddling his child makes him a paedophile. If you knew him well enough you’d know that he’s just a Dad doing Dad stuff.
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Oof… my husband is currently sleeping next to my 5 year old the exact way you described. Guess I need me a new man who’s not a good daddy.
Question, if It was a mom snuggling her 5 year old in a sports bra and shorts, would it be this big of an issue???
No???
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Why are you making a big deal out of nothing? There’s nothing wrong with wearing his underwear to sleep in. He’s not naked.
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Pack your things and Leave Today. You are insinuating that he’s being perverted. Just for thinking that way you are creating a uncomfortable environment not only for him but for the child. People run around beaches and Walmart with less clothing. United States is the only country that vilifies the human body, from being to Fat or To skinny, to sleeping in an innocent manner with children. Everyone has the right to an opinion that doesn’t mean your opinion is the right one.
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It’s not weird. Our kids used to climb into bed with us. My husband sleeps in boxers. There’s nothing bad going on. I would be mad at you too.
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I mean would you rather him not be involved with his child? YOURE sexualizing him sleeping beside his daughter. Would it be different if he had shorts on? It’s his child. If he chooses to sleep next to her in boxer SHORTS, then he chooses too. The ONLY one making this weird is YOU.
next thing you’ll be complaining about is he walks around topless infront of his daughter.
Unless you have a reason to be accusing him of being sexual to his child, id keep my opinions to myself.
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Oh lord … Who wants to stay with a disgusting man… Why would you even have to write this and why are you paying for a man that’s nasty
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As long as she is in night clothes and he has boxers on, I think it’s lovely. You are the problem here.
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I would get out of that arrangement.
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Let him cuddle with his kid while he still can. My God, just mind your own business🤦♀️
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I sleep naked with my daughter. My husband sleeps in his underwear. When my daughter is not feeling well me and her still do skin to skin except me and her are completely naked. Ur making something very sexual for someone so young. They don’t understand sex at this age. She wants comfort from her daddy.
Jesus christ he’s her father ur the one the perverted mind I know things like that do happen to children but if I thought that my fella was like that me or the child wudent be anywhere near him I wudent blame him shouting at you your basically calling him a child molester
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If something is off you would know in your heart. otherwise it’s just him loving her like a Dad.
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I’d tell you to leave too. You’re taking something innocent and implying it’s not. You are creating an awkward situation for him and everyone else in the home by being unnecessary.
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Show him the door// he is disrespectful to you— don’t allow it— ever!!
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What the FU*K IS ACTUALLY WRONG WITH YOU? Sexualizing something so innocent. Jealous ? Sounds like he doesn’t need you.
He has probably slept like that with her since a baby and sees nothing wrong with it.
He probably gets angry because you make him feel like you think he is attracted to his child and that insults him.
Has he acted inappropriately that you know of or is it just he sleeps in his boxers.
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You’re projecting your trauma onto him and his children. Id be mad as well. There isn’t anything wrong with what he’s doing and you probably should get some therapy for whatever issues trigger that response in you.
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As he should! I’m on his side maybe you should leave 
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Yeah girl your just being weird
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Mine sleeps in boxers with our daughter I’ve never thought it weird
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Just from what you said there is nothing wrong with this at all. Just because he is a father doesn’t mean that he can’t cuddle with his child, or that him sleeping in boxers is somehow wrong. You are projecting and sexualizing something that isn’t sexual.
Children can cuddle with Both mother and father.
If it bothers you that much, with an hint of jealousy leave. I would be pissed as well if a person I was with started accusing me of being a pedophile simply because I cuddles with my children.
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My husband sleeps next to our daughter shes 6 almost 7 in his boxers i mean why sexualize something like being a loving father. Totally normal
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You sound like your jealous of the daughter the issue is what’s going in your head not how the dad is with his child
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I sleep in my underwear and a tank top, is that a problem? If not, it’s not weird to him either. No reason to sexualize it
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“when I ask that I feel weird” you’re a child.
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Sounds more like your issue then his
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You’re the one who’s making it weird. 100%. He needs to leave your ass and find someone who isn’t so dramatic and problem causing. My ex husband did the same thing when our daughter was young, it’s innocent and we all shared a bed.
Stop Sexualizing dads cuddling with their kids🙄
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Maybe you should go. I wouldn’t want anybody making an innocent situation into anything weird like that either. 
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It’s his child, stop being weird about it. It’s perfectly normal.
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You feel this way because it’s not your child. One of the problems with divorce and living with a girlfriend or boyfriend, basically a stranger to the child. There’s jealousy and so many new emotions.
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Really wtf is wrong with u that’s his child seems like ur the one with sick thoughts
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I think the is the dumbest post ever. Stop sexualizing a 5 year sleeping with her dad. All dads sleep in boxers. And if by dad is where she feels safe then as long as she’s dresssed it’s fine.
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I would tell you to not come back. You are implying he is being inappropriate! Wtf??
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Um… sis it’s your house. Remind him of that and like if he hasn’t shown any other reason that he is sexual with kids. It’s probably innocent. And if he has angry outbursts maybe yall need counseling. And remind him that that’s your house not his… js
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Dude your weird for that making you uncomfy lol. Me, my daughter, and my fiancé (her dad) all sleep in just our undies besides me and her have on a tshirt too. But it’s totally normal.
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I get where hes coming from because you’re making a non problematic situation into a pretty actually very very serious problem, And it sounds like you’re accusing him without saying it, In my opinion it’s perfectly harmless it’s his child and that’s how he sleeps, and the direction You are mistaking it for is not OK if you keep carrying on about it I guarantee it’ll be the demise of your relationship,…
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You’re sexualizing the situation. 
My husband sleeps in his underwear & our 4 year old daughter is always coming to sleep with us in the middle of the night. Nothing weird about it.
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You’ve only been dating 1 year, he has a daughter 5 years. A parent should cosleep or cuddle to comfort children. It’s not sexual if you were a parent you would know that. You are the one making it out to be that way. If you had that feeling that something was off then maybe, but this seems completely normal for a loving parent child relationship. Parents cuddle their kids it’s how to show them safety, loving and comfort. Stop sexualizing everything.
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You sound like you’ve had a problem in your past not this dad cuddling his daughter. Not everyone is sick and twisted. Sorry I don’t find anything wrong with it!
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Grow up bitch… mate. LEAVE THIS IDIOT woman now… so its ok for Alicia silverstones 11 year old to sleep with mummy but heaven help it if a father sleeps with his daughter… women that think like this are lower than the gutter they came out of.
Would you feel weird if it were a mom and her son?
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Parents have been sleeping next to their children for centuries in far less clothing than this. As a SA survivor I understand things may be a red flag other people typically wouldn’t pick up on, but the situation you described should not be one of them. Unless you are leaving out gaps of information I think you need to ask yourself why you feel this way. Your SO’s reaction is justified.
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Girl bye. You’re sexualizing shit that doesn’t need to be. I’d be asking you to leave too!
Go by your gut feeling. If you don’t like it, he should respect your feelings. It could become more, I’ve seen it happen. Sad situation. Is the mother around?? Ask her why they are not together. Act before it drives you out of your mind.
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Regardless of the situation, leave.
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I sleep in my underwear and a t shirt with my 9 year old son… it’s your kids and they’re not seeing anything inappropriate they’re just cuddling with their parents now if he was naked that would be another story or if he slept fully clothed except for when his daughter was there or something but I’m betting he sleeps in his boxers every night
…… that’s all
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It’s time for a new boyfriend. Try to find somebody who will love and respect you. This is about the yelling and disrespectful behavior… NOT about his sleeping arrangements. If he actually loved you, he would listen to you and value your opinions.
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I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the boyfriend. Maybe look at why you think it’s weird???
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This is so stupid. Lol the op is sexualizing this situation. That’s the gross part.
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Not weird at all. You are making it weird.
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My daughters dad cuddles up to his daughters in his boxers when they come in for morning cuddles he has baths with them aswell it’s called being a dad nit weired at all
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Oh no… a dad cuddling his child and her sleeping in the same bed! Something must wrong call the authorities!!
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Boxers are pretty much the same thing as shorts. Why are you sexualizing it? That’s his child. And it seems like you all only have issues when his kids come by…are you jealous of him spending time with his children?
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You’re the one sexualizing the situation. It’s just a dad sleeping with his daughter.
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It’s YOUR house. Stop walking on eggshells and leave him. I hate women that allow men to treat them like crap. YOU allow it, then dnt complain. It does seem weird though, stop whining and throw him out; dnt find excuses.
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So do you not bring children to the beach? Is swimming shorts / a speedo not appropriate either?
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Is it weird for moms to be in underwear and bed share? Not really- soooo why is this different 
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My son sleeps with me and my hubby sometimes. I sleep in just panties (no bra) and hubby sleeps in his briefs. Did the same with my daughter. Not weird at all. Soemtimes you feel different about things before you have kids of your own. You may think things are weird now but when you have kids of your own, privacy and such goes out the window.
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The problem is, some mothers have turned it into something wrong to fight in court. A child can be ask questions in different ways to give different answers. Don’t give the ammo to anyone. For everyone, spend the waking hours together but sleep in the grownup bed
I mean, you basically called him a pedophile. I’d be pissed too. I think it’s weird you think it’s weird.
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Because your the issue. Stop sexualizing a parent sleeping with there child. Would it be different if it was his son? Ffs People like this are the problem.
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Absolutely nothing wrong with sleeping with his five year old daughter. Now if he took his boxers off, you MIGHT have something to complain about. Quit looking for trouble where none exists.
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I’d probably feel some type of way too. My dad NEVER walked around in just boxers in front of me when I was a girl let alone cuddle me in bed in his boxers…personally I don’t like that idea.
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It’s his daughter… you are gross, your the one sexualising it… if I were him I’d be pissed too
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Get worried if he’s naked - boxers / pj shorts are the same thing
I had social services tell me it was ok for my ex to sleep starkers with my daughter … turns out I was right - totally not acceptable
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Stop sexualizing it it’s his daughter ffs. Are u jelly he don’t cuddle u in his boxers.
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I don’t really see anything wrong with it they are just short it’s not like he is sleeping naked next to her. The ridiculous thing is is if this was a woman sleeping in a nightgown next to her son nobody would bat an eye. It’s no different than if he was wearing gym shorts or something
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My husband will not sleep in boxers with our daughters. Not to mention sometimes men get woodys for no reason in the middle of the night so some pj pants or shorts wouldn’t hurt him. He should be glad that you care enough for his daughter to say something. The fact that he gets that angry says red flag to me!
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What should you do? Mind your business 
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Tell him to control his temper and talk like a mature person. It’s making you uncomfortable and he should acknowldge it. “Just a boxer” meaning No shirt on? I wouldn’t feel comfortable either esp I am not the mom. Tell him to put a shirt on coz kids remembers. And girrlll, take a video just in case he denies you lyin.
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My son sleeps with me and I usually wear shorts and a sports bra, I see nothing wrong with it. I once had someone message me calling me a pedo because I put up a picture of my son giving me a kiss… people are weird
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Also . If this is the thing you are complaining about to him, I can’t say I blame him for being mad and telling you to be quiet about it.
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It’s his daughter fks…… think he should be worried about you tbh, are you jealous?
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Stop sexualizing it. That is his daughter. If you see nothing that’s actually sexual happening….then hush and stop making the dad feel bad for loving his daughter.
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Sounds like a ""YOU PROBLEM !! he takes his angers out on u but ur the one giving out him sleeping beside his 5 year old daughter 
sounds like jealousy on ur behalf , he sounds like a good father to be putting his children first
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You are making it weird.
The problem is yours not theirs.
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You may need to seek counciling for your childhood issues.
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Stop sexualizing children good grief
that parent group (with Cath Hakanson)
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Omg !theese people on here agreeing with you its stupid . He’s not doing aanything wrong .I think your jealous of their relationship n this is your way of causing trouble for him
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When the child starts thinking it’s weird is when he should stop. That said, we all know about morning wood🙄
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Are you seeing signs of something going on at other times? If not, it’s just you. There’s nothing wrong with it.
Has something happened to you that is making this uncomfortable for you? If so you need to voice that to your bf, but understand he is not at fault and shouldn’t have to change, but rather you get some therapy and he support so yall can work through this.
If that’s not the case and this is just you, he has every right to get upset. You are making a negative environment in his household with his kids. If you feel that way, that’s ok. You are free to your opinion but perhaps you should go find someone who has no children to be with.
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She is 5, his being in boxers is not cool. My opinion.
Cuddling his child is fine.
Just observe and go from there, as she gets older.
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Man this is normal for parents get over it
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Sounds like you are making it weird.
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I hope he runs far away from the likes of you
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You basically just accused him of being a weirdo with his daughter. I would tell you to leave too. You’re the weirdo for sexualizing a dad sleeping with his child. I sleep in just a t-shirt and underwear and my girls sleep with me
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I’m sorry u feel wierd love 
go w ur gut I guess but it’s wierd that it bothers u a bit lol
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My father Never walked around in his boxers in front of his children ! If any of us climbed in bed to watch TV or talk there was mom and dad ( no boxes) and when we were going to sleep we went to our own beds. How does the mother of the child feel about it?
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She’s asking for advice not for everyone to come and condemn her for saying something!!! Jeez!!
You should say what bothers you even if there’s nothing wrong that’s what a communication is for he shouldn’t be getting upset… maybe a sit down between the both of you when kids aren’t there. It could very well be nothing but it’ll give you more peace of mind.
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Are you concerned for or jealous of his child?? Pretty serious accusations for a guy who you say cuddles with his daughter all night… there is nothing inappropriate otherwise going on, correct?
Do you engage his kids when they come? Or are you looking for reasons to get upset with them? are you exhibiting jealousy so he doesn’t want you to say anything around them because your trying to sabotage his healthy relationship with his daughter?
My suggestion is you get into therapy asap…
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You’re the one being weird.
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I would find the door.!!
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What’s to be offended about? This seems like normal behavior to me.
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Maybe this isn’t the relationship for you. Cut your losses now because his kids will always come first as they should
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CPS would not agree with the sleeping arrangement, wonder what the ex would say… Why not avoid an awkward situation, the daughter can cuddle with Dad on the couch, clothed and sleep in her own bed!
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You’re the one making it weird, it’s people like you who create a problem that doesn’t exist.
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If you get upset over him telling you to leave a house you are paying for also, stop paying for it. Honestly I wouldn’t suggest dating him if you find his way of parenting uncomfortable. I would say that if he isn’t taking your concern seriously without an outburst you should find someone else.
If you are ACTUALLY jealous (how some of these people are assuming) then date someone without kids.
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