I mean ur getting paid for it right I mean y be upset
No they are paying you to do a job. It donât matter who is home or not
Are you upset or is he? If you feel uncomfortable then okay donât do it. But I honestly donât see a problem with it. They still need a babysitter but if it makes you uncomfortable then thatâs fine donât do it.
Overreacting you are still being paid. What if he had a work from home job would you not babysit? Sounds like he is insecure
Dad has a âcommitmentâ. They specifically made sure they had a sitter. I do not feel as though you are able to decide when and if they want/need one.
I feel like if heâs mad about it then he doesnât understand those events. He canât just put it down or press pause.
DependsâŠare you getting paid for babysitting? If not then yes but if you are then no.
If youâre getting paid it shouldnât matter whoâs home.
Are they paying you? If so, him being home has nothing to do with the job you get paid to do.
Is there a reason he doesnât trust you to go babysit? Like isnât that part of the job. It sounds like heâs going to be busy working from home so whatâs the problem? Clearly his wife has no problem with it. Sounds like he doesnât trust you to meâŠ.
Youâre getting paidâŠis it really worth messing up a paying gig? You had already intended on being there. There have been a couple times where Iâve paid my babysitter to come over for a couple hours so I could do some heavy duty cleaning or working in my âofficeâ (our grown up only livingroom) and need someone responsible to be all there for my kids.
Wow. Trust issue 
literally all over the entire post
Youâre getting paid regardless which makes it your job to make sure those kids are being taken care of does it really matter as long as your getting paid parents need time off too
Your being paid to baby sit Iâm going to assume heâs going to be home but not be home at the same time. They still need your service I dnt think your friend is out of line I kinda think you are and Iâd probably look for a more reliable sitter without so many trust issues. I mean sure your fiancĂ© has the right to feel however he wants but being so annoyed that he doesnât want you working around your friends husband is kinda weird 
sounds like someone has trust issues.
Surely youâre not actually upset.
You are paid to provide a service, that service doesnât come with conditions like âonly whilst workingâ - you provide the service when they need their kids taken care of.
Donât lose a job and potentially a friend over this. Truly ridiculous.
Never mix business with friends or family.
Youâre getting paid for the job and thatâs what the job requires??? Yes people pay for those events to watch from home so if youâre not a gamer you do not have any understanding of it. Now if she said her husband was going to be home all day but was doing nothing and not spending time with the kids then Iâd have a problem with it.
But she is paying you for a job and it would have been the same if he would have paid for an event and went somewhere else all day it just happens to be paid to watch off the TV or a computer. So yes youâre overreacting. Now if you were not getting paid for it and expect it to just come do that then weâd be talking a different story and a different answer.
I think youâre overreacting. 
You were hired to do a job. Doesnât matter when it is, itâs still the job you were hired for. You wouldnât tell your boss at any other job that you canât work because they are there. 
This didnât come off to me as a trust issue, but more that this dad is lacking 
choosing a video game and paying for a sitter over time with his kid. Iâd be annoyed too.
It seems like heâs actually jealous that you will be at the home with another man all day long and this is a tactic to drive a wedge between you and your friend and also take away your job and financial independence. It sounds like you agreed to it and didnât have a problem with working that day until your fiancĂ©e convinced you that it was a problem. You should be upset with him and not your friend.
why would you say no to a paying job? Like if it were free maybe that would be weird.
Doesnât matter if mom is grocery shopping or working or getting her nails done. Same with dad and video games. Dads need time too. Help out and get paid to hang out with awesome kids while mom and dad need a recharge!
I clean houses for ppl who are fully capable of cleaning their own housesâŠThey pay me so that they donât have tooâŠPlus, theyâre always homeâŠlol
Yes, yes, yes, you and your boyfriend are totally overreacting!
I canât go into work and just decide when and what Iâm working⊠âoh thereâs enough of us here today, Iâm just gonna give myself the day offâ
Youâre being paid for a JOB⊠Professionalism is important
âIs my fiancĂ©e right to be upset?â I think thatâs the bigger problem. You stated that your fiancĂ©e is upset several times, while you are âslightly irritated.â Sorry not sorry. I have big issues with men determining things for women. But no. If youâre going to be paid then I donât see a problem with it. Unless the bigger issue is simply that your fiancĂ©e doesnât like that a man will be there.
First your getting paid, secondly it doesnât sounds like your actually baby sitting that day sounds like you are being a ride share. In example taking kids to school then taking her to an appointment. Some people randomly have to work from home or some do it all the time but that doesnt mean they can take care of the kiddos.
Does he make you feel uncomfortable? If thatâs the case, then yes. You shouldnât be watching the kids with him there.
But if that were the case you probably shouldnât be working there anyway.
You need to sit down with your friend and her husband and set clear boundries about what you are looking for in your job.
Sounds like you might be with the wrong man.
Please think about what you are willing to put up with and WHY! Be honest with yourself. Iâm sure that you are perfectly capable of putting the father of these kids in his place if he gets out of line. Believe it or not, every man you might run into in a days time does not want to jump your bones. Why your BF thinks this, I donât knowâŠ
And why you would put up with that is because you donât know your own worth.
Firstly I wouldnât be marrying someone that doesnât trust me and tells me I canât work a certain job because of their trust issues thatâs for sure and secondly your being paid to do a service and you accepted said service so regardless if her hubbies home or not your job still requires you. You need to step back and think about the way your thinking because if you listen to your partner youâll end up in a controlling untrusting marriage and loose a good friend all the same
So if you worked at McDonaldâs, would your fiance tell you that you couldnât go to work? Itâs your job⊠you are getting paid for it. 
Iâd be mad too if her hubs took off work for a damn video game and they still require you to be there. Iâd tell them no.
Yea way over reacting lol
If your getting paid then you should be there. Your fiancĂ©e sounds like a moron, run donât walk.
Itâs just your manâs insecurities ma. Understandable because thatâs how some guys think but thatâs where you get to be the teaching adult on handling trust situations. Maybe take the kids to the park after the Dr appt and highlight that to your man. Theyâre so childish sometimes. He just doesnât want you around another dude all day, especially all cozy in a house with kids (family like). Youâll learn to just keep your head above that in the years to come and how to best handle his emotions. And you think women are bad. Ahhhh the fun of marriage lol
Overreacted bc you still get the same amount of money!!!
As a wife of a gamer and mother of 4, if you are being paid stfu and take care of those kids. My husband âtriesâ to watch the kids but really my kids terrorize the house and do some potentially dangerous shit. My 3 year old is non verbal and an escape artist/monkey/ninja. I would much rather someone be there when my husband is face first in his game. It also sounds like a tournament which means he canât always just drop what he is doing or wait 15-30 minutes to settle the kids before starting the next game. So she has perfectly valid reasons for expecting you to still be at work. Your fiance not liking it honestly just sounds like a way to feel justified and finding an out.
I have 3 sons that are gamers. Thereâs no way that you can pause the event or simply just work around some of these events,thus him taking the day off work. If you were simply doing it as a favor I could understand but itâs a paid job and he actually wonât be available to do it. I get it that this is a leisure activity, however either way youâll likely end up taking the child. If you refuse he might as well go to work. This is a big time serious event for the gamer if heâs gone all this length to be apart of it. Donât over think it. If it becomes a reoccurring thing then it can be an issue but let dad enjoy his 1 day event. Which I do not agree speaks to his parenting as someone said above because Iâve paid for baby sitters spend a day with âthe girlsâ.
Never marry a control freak.
Lol I donât even know how to respond to this
I have a different opinion than most. First, if you are getting paid by your friend for babysitting, and they need you on a usual work day, then yes you should go. If you are doing it as a favor and NOT getting paid, then I donât think I would like it either. But if itâs your job and the are not deducting from your pay you are obligated that day!
Why do you care?? As long as youâre getting paid!
If theyâre paying you the same amount it shouldnât matter.
IT sounds like itâs your significant other that has the issue not âwe/usâ But youre taking his control and giving it power by siding with him over you WORKING. sounds controlling and problematic.
You get paid to babysit, regardless if theyâre at work or not. If heâs doing a gaming event, he will be preoccupied and wonât be able to care for the kids, thatâs where the babysitter comes in.
I donât feel like this is a professional relationship lol Because if it was you wouldnât care the circumstances and would just watch the child when youâre hired to do so
Itâs all about trust. If you donât trust one another before you marry, what will your lives be like afterwards? Youâre going for the kids, not to babysit her husband!
Why be upset? Either agree to do it or donât. What does it matter if someone is home? They still need a babysitter⊠
Yeah, good luck with that marriage. If heâs interfering now, what happens when you have a job working for a company? What happens when he doesnât think you should go to work because nice looking men work there? Or he just wants you home with him? Itâs really NOT his business. 
Do yourself a favor and spare yourself divorce money lol. He doesnât trust you around your friendâs husband? Super yikes. Heâs going to be gaming all day. He canât watch the kids.
Honestly sounds like he has an issue with it and you need to go along with it to keep him happy.
If you are getting paid to be there that day, than itâs your job. If youâre there as a favor than yes itâs an issue IF you, yourself prefer not to
Lol wtf, donât they pay you? And itâs your friend, why wouldnât you want to take her to an appointment? Also, her husband is doing something he likes, why does it matter what they are doing if they pay you and thatâs the routine? Your man is also a child btw.
I agree with what everyone else is saying and Iâll also add that I wouldnât say donât marry this man but Iâd definitely make that a long engagement bc phew the control and lack of trust 
couldnât be me 
Overreacting. If youâre getting paid, wtf difference does it matter who is home or not. Itâs the same if you cleaned someoneâs house. Lots of people are home while the cleaner is there cleaning.
If youâre still getting paid for helping them, then yes youâre overreacting. People get babysitters when they canât watch their kids themselves. It shouldnât matter what they are doing. Now on the other side, I do think they could of planned this day better.
If you donât like making money just say that 
good grief, this is honestly such a nonissue⊠I really try not to comment unless itâs constructive but COME ON 
You have every right to be upset if you guys didnât agree on u sitting on days they would be at home. How your future husband feels about it is your business. If you were going to tell your friend, hey this bothered me, then you should say it as so and leave his name off of it. I feel like the way this is written is possibly you were venting to him, he sided with you, and then you went and said we instead of me to your friend. If you had no intentions of sitting for them on days they could technically watch their own kids, then I would just say, from here on out I wonât be coming on days either or you have off and leave it at that. Donât create drama and donât bend bc its a friend. Stick to how you want to operate and if she isnât okay with it she could replace you, but at least you wonât feel upset or used. Seriously next time leave your manâs name out of it and just say what it is you are thinking, it will help tons.
As long as youâre getting paid, I donât think itâs a big deal. Thereâs just so many other things to worry about. This seems silly.
Itâs a job. You donât have to agree to do it. Nonsense to be upset about it.
Completely overreacting
Iâm confused as to why youâd be upset? Obviously youâre both overreacting but Iâm guessing itâs because youâre both young. I have 5 boys. Video game events are normal around here. When they are playing in an event, the house could be on fire, I could be laying at the bottom of the stairs with a broken leg, the dog could pee on their leg and they wouldnât know wtf is going on. Rest assured heâs not inviting you over because he wants to watch you shake your ass while you make TikTokâs. You need to learn to be around people that will pay other people to do things they donât want to do, itâs called a job. What happens when you get a boss that works in the same building as you; is your fiancĂ© going to be upset then because someone else is in the building?? ⊠Iâm trying to decide if this post is satire, because if itâs not-you both have a lot to learn.
Over reacting and I wouldnât let you watch my kids anymore because now Iâm questioning why you canât watch the kids in front of them. Also he will be in a closed room doing his game so he wonât be able to watch the kids. Itâs pretty simple
Heâs taking part in an online event⊠Heâs not going to be able to watch the kids at the same time, let alone seduce you if that is the issue?
If this is your job then neither of you have a right to be upset at the reason you have to be at work.
If my boss asked me to come I to work because she has an appointment but then she decided to cancel the appointment and just chill at home, I still have to go to work. because thatâs my job, regardless of the reason behind it.
Your husband is also controlling AF if he needs to know the reason why you have to be at work and then thinks he gets a say in whether the reason youâre there is good enough or not.
This whole thing is so weird.
Why cant the dad take his kid? Or watch the kid if hes going to be home?
Sorry but if the father is going to be there then he should look after his child. Looking after your child is more important than a gaming event. I wouldnât do it
Itâs a job. Do you want paid to watch their child while they do other things or do you want to go home?
If your getting paid then it doesnât matter. Now if they are taking advantage of you thatâs a different problem. But if itâs your JOB then you should just do your job as usual.
If itâs paid work then youâre overreacting. Itâs their choice what they spend their money on. I was a nanny for years and I have been there what they stayed home and cleaned it they slept or watched tv, I think one time the dad went golfing. Itâs their money to spend. My rate didnât change. Itâs a job.
Umm, itâs your job, you are being paid. It doesnât matter if he will be home or not. Also, your fiance is just upset that a dude will be there so it sounds like he is either controlling, jealous, doesnât trust youâŠthatâs a huge red flag.
- You donât have to do anything you donât want to.
- If youâre getting paid what makes the difference if theyâre there or not.
- Is your fiancĂ© thinking youâre going to do something you shouldnât be done? Trust issues?
- Itâs money.
No I donât think you are overreacting. If a parent is home to sit around playing video games all day long then yes they can watch their own kid for sure, BUT, if you are getting paid then maybe take them to the park or something
It would be different if he was doing something with actual importance like home maintenance or whatever. It would definitely irritate the holy fk outta me having the parent in the house just playing stupid games, like wowđ€Š
Look, when they fire you for this, can I have this job? It sounds pretty good to me!
If she pays youâŠthen no. If you do it for free then you can be upset. My opinion.
I would just treat it as if he wonât be home. I donât really see an issue here but I might also be missing something
If youâre being payed, over reacting. Its your job. If unpaid, not over reacting
What??? This makes no sense. Why does it matter if he will be home?? Sheâs paying you to watch her kid for a reason because the hubby is obviously going to be busy.
Heads up for your controlling and untrusting husband . RUN 
red flag
I use to be a nanny. Sometimes the dad was home and I still went to work. It was my job. You are overreacting for sure. Hes going to be home so what⊠continue doing what they pay you to do.
Heâs married youâre engaged. What does your man think youâre gonna mess with hers?
I work from home and sometimes my husband has a random day off that he just wants to relax and play video games. I still have our nanny come during the day as I work and my husband definitely deserves a relaxation day here and there.
If you are getting paid I wouldnât be upset about it, now if you arenât getting paid I can see where you would be upset.
I work from home and sometimes my husband has a random day off that he just wants to relax and play video games. I still have our nanny come during the day as I work and my husband definitely deserves a relaxation day here and there.
If you are getting paid I wouldnât be upset about it, now if you arenât getting paid I can see where you would be upset.
If youâre getting paid M-F to watch their children, (even if heâs home) then you canât be upset. I get that you may want a day off but if that was the agreement- I donât see why you guys are overreacting.
We have this argument with my mil too. If my husband takes a day off and she finds out- she automatically wants him to watch our girls and have the day off. But if he takes the day off itâs usually because heâs sick or has other adult duties to tend too.
Overreacting âŠwhy is ur fiance so insecure n jealous? Is this gonna be ur future ??
If it is a job then yeah youâre overreacting. Theyâre paying you to watch the kids. Them being there is neither here nor there. If you want the day off just say that.
He is overreacting. Itâs your job and you make money to survive. 
Who cares as long as they are paying you . I have paid a babysitter to watch my kids while I slept because I was exhausted, so what as long as i was paying a fair amount.
1 no one is twisting your nipple making you do this you can say no.
2. They are paying so who cares if they are home or not.
3. Itâs no different than a live in nanny.
4. Who is having the issue here you or him?
5. Itâs a job and itâs money so
Donât let your fiance mess up your money bag. What you going to do quit every job because your man is in his feelings? Come on 
it out.
Iâd be more upset that your fiancee is a control freak. You donât want to be married to one trust me! Was married to one for 4yrs. I wasnât even allowed to go to the pool in our complex without him there. Absolutely horrifying to live every day!! Run while you still can
Ummm you have lost me
Just because theyâre home doesnât mean they still donât need child care. If theyâre paying you, go.
Um noâŠtreat the husband at home as not being thereâŠyou were asked to watch the kidsâŠso do it
Itâs a job your being paid for I would assume so why are you upset that they expect you to still work. In all honesty your man sounds like hes worried and controlling and you sound as if you want the day off.
I also have this issue. If I am being paid I dont care if he is home on his day off. They have their own way .
Iâm sorry, if you were going to be there babysitting anyway, whatâs the problem?
Youâre getting payed arenât you?
Is your husband jealous or something?
If your the babysitter why u taking Mommy to the Drâs can she not drive or are u the nanny/housemaid lol
Money is moneeyyyyy. Idk what the issue is. WAH parents tend to still have a sitter. So its kind of the same. If anything, have the kids go to your house instead?